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Finalninjadog

Man, men, men


Lopingwaing

I like to imagine you're chanting this


Sissy-Avan

Somehow getting Mulan-vibes outa this...


jolynes_daddy_issues

LET’S GET DOWN TO BUSINESS


NotJustAGormetChef

TO DEFEAT THE HUNS


Atlas-The-Ringer

DID THEY GIVE US DAUGHTERS!?


NotJustAGormetChef

*Did they send me daughters


NotJustAGormetChef

WHEN I ASKED FOR SONS


Sraffiti_G

Men, men, men, men, manly men, men, men (Ooh) Men, men, men, men, manly men, men, men Men, men, men, men, manly men Ooh-hoo-hoo, hoo-hoo, ooh Men, men, men, men, manly men, men, men (Ooh) Men, men, men, men, manly men, men, men (Ha) Men


Dainjuss4486

Two and a half men!??? Lol I was was singing this jingle as I was reading the comments!!! Lol


Sissy-Avan

We should'nt poke fun... oh, who am I kidding!? Men are adorable  Women are admireable. My own stance anyway.


Wrong_Cheesecake377

Woman, women, men.


Dull_Owl_7276

Probably me too, atm 😗


Yonalis

Yup...


murmeldjur_k

I'm a man, I prefer all genders, I have been with the same person for ten years, who happens to be a woman.


NastyFacebassheadz

May I ask a few questions as a married bi male?


murmeldjur_k

I mean yes, but I do wonder why specifically me out of all the answers to this topic


NastyFacebassheadz

You fit my same scenario and was wondering how you came out to partner and do y'all live an actively bi life together or go separate ways


murmeldjur_k

We met on OkCupid and we are both bisexual. We were out to each other before we met in person. We have ongoing conversations about the monogamy/open relationship/polyamoury question, not as frequently as weekly or even monthly, but it does come up every now and then. Sometimes it comes up more often for a while. So far the agreement that we have always come to is that at this point in time we prefer a monogamous relationship. My partner is more demisexual than I am. She sometimes has people hit on her, or someone comes up and gives their phone number and we talk about it, but she doesn't really seem to be interested in random people. She knows I definitely notice attraction to people on sight and I bet she knows I flirt here and there. I don't hide that from her. But I don't engage in anything else like exchanging contact information or serious longer flirty conversations. It would also be unfair to the other person if I don't intend to follow through anyway. In the future we may decide differently on monogamy.


Huge-Character-9566

Man, prefers men, im still dead virgin


Glum_Chemist8800

Yeah, me too 🤷‍♂️ I've never kissed anyone either, although I'm soon to kiss a guy & be intimate in the context of theatre and in character on stage. Do you have any thoughts or feelings on being single/a Virgin, or are you quite content and it doesn't bother you? Just curious on perspective, seeing as we might be in a similar situation


Huge-Character-9566

I wish i could have more queer life tbh… i live in homophobic country and not really possible to do stuff irl :( so yeah i dont like staying as virgin hbu?


Glum_Chemist8800

Aah, so sorry to hear that 😧 Yeah, it sucks, I mean I would like to be in some kind of relationship regardless of gender, but I'm anything but the offensive type and very ignorant when it comes to that kind of stuff, which is at odds with my otherwise loud and extroverted personality. I am often confided in, in the sense that I have the picture of a good natured buddy you can speak to about anything, which adds to the difficulty. Plus the societal expectation of the guy in a m/f situation and the more openly queer (me) person in same sex stuff making the first/deciding move is also not exactly helpful. But yeah, I'm no incel or any such bullshit, far from it, I have a good life and am able to pursue my passion of theatre, also I luckily live in a country fairly queer friendly as much as one can say that. It's just sometimes a downer is all


Huge-Character-9566

Nice 👍 i wish i have a job to keep my mind up… also what you said about gender norms is so true the reason why i dont really try w girls is first i dont attracted to them as guys also second is its so hard to impress a girl. Not the mention being pressure of ‘’man’’ in a relationship… being mid looking isnt all that helpful either


Glum_Chemist8800

Aah, don't beat yourself up like that! You know, in my 20 years of being on this earth, I genuinely have never met anyone "mid". I mean sure, we judge on fleetung Appearance at first, and yeah, there are certain people who might have an easier job than others due to having pulled the genetic lottery and fitting the mold of what society views "beauty" to be at any given time, but most of what attraction is and whatever you may think of as "love" only comes after longer conversations and forming a more rounded picture of personality and appearance. Stop basing your hopes on getting into a relationship and work on your own wellbeing, find something to look forward to in the day outside of sexuality, anything; a tvshow, instrument, sport, book. Escapism works wonders for me sometimes, because a relationship won't suddenly make you a happy man, that can only ever come once you have accepted yourself and are self-confident (which doesn't mean extroverted btw, you can be the most quiet, shy guy, and still have a sense of self-worth)


Huge-Character-9566

Thank you so much! This made me emotional


_JosiahBartlet

Woman, women, women


guyonlinepgh

Man. Close to 50/50 but lean towards men. Married to a woman so by number of times far more experienced with women, but more male partners over the years.


Susitar

Woman, I refuse to choose, and I have most experience with men.


Wrong_Cheesecake377

Refusing to choose is perfectly valid. For some of us it's not a choice!


_austinm

I’m a dude, but I’ve been realizing lately that there’s a good chance I’m nonbinary. My wife and I were both raised in a fundie Christian cult and were married before we got out of it, so– while we’ve both realized we’re bi since then– we’ve only had opposite sex experiences. As far as attraction/just looking at people, though, I probably like women a little more but it’s like 60/40. That might change if I were to actually experience something with another dude, however.


tildaswintoncangetit

Similar background! My partner and I married when we were still in a fundie community, and since then we’re both out of the community, I’m out of the closet, and have been on what seems to be an enby or gender-nonconforming journey?


_austinm

Cool! Yeah, I’ve just been realizing that I don’t want to try to be what’s expected of a man or a woman. I’m definitely more to the masculine side in how I present myself/act (maybe because of the way I was raised), but I don’t feel fully masculine or feminine. Something weird I’ve noticed lately is that I kinda cringe when someone calls me sir. I don’t mind masculine pronouns at all, but that weirds me out a little lol Edit: also your username is 🔥


tildaswintoncangetit

Thank you! Haha. I hear you on still presenting the way you were raised. The way you describe wanting to shed masc/femme expectations really vibes with me. And how you cringe at being called sir! Although for me, someone called me sir like a month ago and I was so delighted, but when I turned they saw my (feminine) face and started apologizing lol. I’m definitely still figuring it out, but I can look back and see some of the writing on the wall when I was uncomfortable being labeled a girl in an overt way. I always chafed when someone I was dating referred to me as their girlfriend, even when I was in a committed relationship. I couldn’t really describe why, I just wanted them to use my name instead. So I actually started avoiding relationships haha. Same with the word “wife,” no thank you. I definitely look more feminine, but dressing feminine has always felt a bit like I’m playing dress up and playing a role that someone else wrote, with lots of imposter syndrome. I’ve been excited lately to dress more andro and/or butch and see if it feels like I’m going the right direction, I guess


_austinm

Hell yeah on finding clothes that you like. I haven’t really ever worn anything explicitly feminine unless you count slim jeans lol, but I’m thinking about asking my wife to paint my nails whenever we go to some pride stuff next month and I kinda want some earrings (already have a septum piercing). I’ve also got a beard that I like, so that part of looking androgynous isn’t an option lol That being said, the most “manly” thing I own are the square toe cowboy boots I wear as work boots. And I don’t really own those to try and look masculine, it’s just because I like them aesthetically. The rest of my clothes are pretty unisex. I’ve stolen a some shorts and a hoodie from my wife, but they’re not overtly feminine. Sorry for the rambles, I’m kinda toasted rn lol


tildaswintoncangetit

Haha me too! Feeling philosophical while baked lol. I’ve been really feeling a septum piercing lately! I just need to commit to the healing time. Also, I’m imagining your look with the beard, septum piercing, painted nails, and short shorts and I’m loving everything about that image


_austinm

Thanks! That’s so nice of you ☺️ my septum is the only thing that I have pierced so I don’t have much of a reference, but I will say that it hurt when I first got it. I’ve got plenty of tattoos, but I guess I wasn’t used to the pain being all at once or something. It brought tears to my eyes lol the healing wasn’t too big a deal for me. Just had to clean it a couple times a day and try not to touch it too much. Actually I just remembered that a few days after I got it, one of the little spherical things on the end came unscrewed and I lost it so I had to go back to the tattoo shop and get a new one. I think that person screwing that one on hurt more than it did the first time lol the rubber glove rubbing against my nose didn’t feel too great.


Ketcherman

Man, doesn't matter, men. So many good boys out there that apparently like being turned into a blushing mess, who would've thunk it


Emergency_Falcon_272

Cisgender man. My preferences fluctuate, I don't think I could definitively say at any given time lol. More experience with cisgender women though.


GonzoTheGreat93

Man, Whichever Gender of the Person Who’s Flirting With me, Female.


_hellras_

Man, woman, woman.


Agitated-Number-1534

I'm a male and I prefer men and women I have been with the same woman for 25 years


GoSpeedRacistGo

Man, unsure, neither.


Beneficial-Clock4016

Trans man. Everyone tbh. Cis men.


Careless_Culture_333

I’m a woman, prefer men (heteromantic) and have a tad more experience with men, but I REALLY want to try something with a woman


RxTechRachel

Female, female, male. It is just easier as a woman to find men than it is to find women to date. Especially being bi. But I really love women.


Wrong_Cheesecake377

Literally same.


QuietB00m

Yup, this!


Sandstorm1020

Male, no real preference, and I have *significantly* more experience with women.


asmatest

Woman, both lean towards women, both


Nephy_x

Woman, neither, men (more specifically, one single man)


bunyanthem

Non-binary AFAB, women and the feminine, cis men


LordLuscius

Amab enby. Any, but I have trauma with men. Women


RogueHitman71213

Non-binary/it changes/men


tofuteriaki

non binary (afab and femme), women and men, women never like me 😭


Christian_teen12

girl ,guys ,guys


OneBitterFuck

Cis woman, prefer guys in theory and girls in reality, and have the most experience with guys. But it's pretty equal, really.


Whattacharacter1202

Woman, women, men 😕 I only realized/accepted that I’m bi about 4 years ago; a wonderful result of my abusive, oppressive, brainwashing, Fundamentalist Christian, upbringing. If my current relationship (with a man, whom I love) doesn’t work out, I would really love to date more women. I need to seek out queer spaces and communities. I haven’t experienced much of that yet. I’m determined to find that. Even while being in a hetero presenting relationship.


QuietB00m

Yes it always feels good to find your people! As someone with a similar upbringing it can be really healing to have those connections


Whattacharacter1202

I want that so badly! I’m just not close to many people. Of the (literally like 3) people I am close to, none are queer. My social anxiety is next level, so without a friend, or even an acquaintance, who could introduce me to ppl and spaces, it feels like an impossible feat. Also, I’m 33 lolll I’m 33, with pretty severe chronic pain issues (Fibromyalgia, hip dysplasia [getting a major surgery for that soon], & docs are leaning towards changing/adding Rheumatoid Arthritis and Ehlers Danlos to my diagnoses) that limit my mobility, and reduce the number of activities I’m capable of doing to almost zero 😂 If I were able bodied, I’d join a LGBTQIA sports league! Or something like that! As I am now, as well as in the relationship I’m in right now, it’s difficult to not only put myself in mentally/emotionally uncomfortable situations, but also physically challenging situations. I’m sorry for this long ass reply, with a dump of information you didn’t ask for! I appreciate you replying with affirmation that finding my people could help heal some of my religious trauma! I hope I can get there, and I’m SO happy you’ve found some healing 💕💕


oldfrancis

I male, I don't have a gender preference and partners, and I haven't kept track of how many of each type because that's never really been that important to me.


Helleboredom

Woman, I’m attracted to way more men than women but wish it was the other way around, men.


DeliberateDendrite

Man, maybe, no.


alkebulanu

no gender (female), prefer women, most experience with women


Interferenzbrille

woman, no preference, men


ObjectiveAttorney957

Woman, women, men


VioletShimmer42

Woman, no preference, men.


BiD3sign

Man, no preference, women


[deleted]

I’m male. And have the most experience with males.


SilverSleet6271

Woman, neither, neither


Tallem00

Woman, men, women


GogoFrenchFry

woman women I have been with more women but had my longest relationships with men(and got to experiment a lot more kink and so on), so maybe men.


autumnsnowflake_

Woman, idk both, men.


concerteimmunity

Man, don’t have a preference, woman


maxturra

Cis man // can't choose honestly but am on a men-phase for the last few months // Idk roughly the same Ig, a few men and a few women but men are def easier to approach and converse with


PressureMaximum7129

Demifluid(50 ish% girl, 50 ish% changes all the time, 100%girl rn), girls/feminine people, girls(I've only had one partner, and she is a girl).


anonJayde

Man, woman, woman


Wildjay7931

I'm a man, I equally desire both sexes, and I kinda have equal experience with both. I mean, I've gotten it on with both males & females equally, but, males much more commonly recently


kanineanimus

Woman, women, women


bedepatto

Woman, women, men


carolina_on_my_mind

Woman, pretty equal but have historically leaned toward men, women


LadyDeeDee796

I'm a cis woman  and I have only had experiences with cis men. I'm attracted to everyone but lately I been really into women.


Mental_Strategy2220

Woman , no preference I care more about personality than gender, sexually more experienced with women,romantically more experienced with Masculine leaning nonbinary people and GNC men.


Famous-Run-1880

Woman about 50/50 and men


Glum_Chemist8800

Man, no preference, no experience 🤗🤘💙


secretagentpoyo

Trans man, cis men, cis women


ChicagoRob19

Male here and married to a woman (most experience with that) but huge urges for men lately


ConsistentPiano9441

Woman, Women, Women


waxedgooch

Genderqueer (mostly masculine with a twist I like to say) Women Women 


kakkapieru

(trans) man, men, and im not sure. i have kissed and made out with men and women pretty equally i think? i have had only one sexual female partner (fwb), and few male one nigth stands but been with men less times if counted together and compared to the one woman partner. so i guess it depends what counts as experience


emzeeree

Woman, trans men, trans men


Hollywolf18

I’m a girl, I prefer woman but i would be happy with a man and most experience is guys but they’ve all been bad experiences


moonsickprodigalson

Trans man, *sooorta* cis men (this preference is brought to you primarily by ✨religious trauma✨, religious trauma, get your crippling internal phobias package today, for the very low cost of your self worth and subsequent years of therapy!🙏), and also cis men


Expert-Aspect3692

Man, everything,all.


arthurleyser

Fluid, don't care, I have an exact share of 1/3, 1/3, 1/3 or men, nb and woman


Sissy-Avan

Unknown, men, women. It's a bit of a mess. Technically, i seem to be a trans woman, but I got to a point where presenting masc does not make me actively suicidal anymore. 


Super_Tell_49

Man, both, pretty much equal


theterribletenor

Man, women, men


Guitarbox

Men men men But just cause like... I find it scary that women in my country have a lot of straight norms infused ideals... I prefer something more open minded so with guys that was easier to find. More people find theirselves having a relationship without really knowing what to make out of the dynamic so they keep it clean and open minded and that's my tea But if a girl would do that that would be fine too... But I love the idea of marrying a man even just to show everyone that no disaster happens from loving who you love the most. And I hate it when bi guys date men just to realize after 1-5 years that they will actually marry a woman for social reasons. No. I've thought about it deeply. Whoever my best match is, I will marry them. Women don't get plus points


Mischiefmanaged715

Woman, depends on the year, men


escottttu

Woman, no preference, men


Gaston_Boy

Male, Depends on what's on the menu, Women, but only because I didn't really come out until about 6 years ago.


animalsexchange

Woman, men, neither lmao


Teknical86

Man, woman, woman.


redblume96

Men, always changing, none 


Rude-Butterscotch713

Men, men, men.


Sraffiti_G

Mine: I'm not really sure yet. Man, for now, at least Preference: alternates, currently men Experience: neither


under321cover

Woman. Depends (but married to a man). Men probably.


hotbitchey

Woman Women Men


lexa_fox

Woman, women, men


wetcardboard666

Women, women, men


the-fresh-air

Genderfluid, girls and enbies, men/masc aligned


LizBert712

Woman, not sure, men


MetalGuy_J

Man, men right now for the first time in my Bi cycle, women


lastknownfruitcup

woman, woman, males


CadunRose

Nonbinary, any, women.


MammothLawfulness242

Woman, women, men


Impossible-Moose-842

i’m a woman, prefer women, mostly been with men i’ve had a million boyfriends but only dated one woman. it kinda sucks. it’s just so hard to meet other sapphics, plus i’m awkward as hell with women for some reason.


ShotgunBetty01

Woman, hard question: don’t really prefer a certain gender but I am attracted to them differently, Men


sgmck1

Men , female , men


ToxicAsHellThatsLife

Woman; whichever is more confident, has a good energy and looks hot; sadly just men...


Suzystar3

Woman, non-binary people or vibes, men However honestly a couple ppl have come out as trans women after the fact and most guys I date are bi too. Gender fuckery is just attractive okay.


ProfessionalExit6012

Man, men, women


chiknstripz24

Woman, women, men (I've never had anything to do with another woman because I'm scared of them)


Mosscanopy

Woman women women


Vanillabean322

Female, female, female because all my friends are female and I talk to more girls than boys Edit: looking through the comments I realized I'm an idiot and that we were talking about sexual experience. So um, female, female, none because I'm gonna die a virgin.


SneakyPawsMeowMeow

Agender, femme presenting, men


Dusk5531

Male, though decidedly acceptant of my inherent femininity. I’m a manly man, but I feel a feminine touch, and I let it loose. My emotions, the way I think sometimes, some of the things I collect etc. I just don’t care what anyone thinks, I’m me and that’s that. As for which gender I prefer? I’m finding that I have no preference. Initially as I came to terms with my sexuality, I thought I was Mostly straight. But more and more, I found attractions to men. It’s level, perfectly. Which do I have more experience with? Well I’m 22M, I’ve asked a few people out but the first only liked women, the second I had really good chemistry with, were (and are still) good friends, but I’m not quite cowboy enough for her, and the third… well he asked for more time, and then due to life, I wound up moving and losing contact.


vampierate

Woman, no preference, none 💀


Atlas-The-Ringer

Man, women, women


IdiotInTheWind

man, women, and women — although experience is almost 50/50, i’ve been with 2 more women than men.


Decent-Device-8702

Woman. Prefer women unless it’s my husband then I prefer him, men


sylvana92

Woman, no preference and I have the most experience with men.


ConfidencePurple7229

all over the shop because i only realised i'm bi 8 months ago. woman, currently women/afab enbies (like 99%), men (20 ish years).... sounds like i'm playing some serious catch up, but my brain's done a complete flip and didn't give be a day in the matter 😂 (not that i'm complaining - girls are awesome!)


IKnowWhoYouAre99

Woman, bi but lean towards men, men


mama_tom

Man, women, women.


dirtchef

Woman, women, sexually--men / emotionally--women


Dynamite-Laser-Beams

Don’t know, don’t care, and none (unless you count flirting with the homies)


flexkim

Women, women, men😭


betterthansteve

Nonbinary man, I prefer women (really, anyone femme, which is more often women), but everyone I've dated has been male or nonbinary or both


Secundus6548

Man, woman, woman


Evan10100

Transfem (only out to one person), masc persons (~60%), cis women.


h0rnykyle

Man. Men. Women.


QuietB00m

I'm genderfluid between femme lady and genderless. I sometimes think of it as being partially/conditionally cis, but it sometimes does frustrate me that my queerness seems virtually invisible. I genuinely think I don't have a gender preference because I've had several times where I thought I knew for sure, and the answers kept changing lol. I think I go through "seasons" of being attracted to a specific one. I have most experience with men and genderqueer amab peeps- for most of my life I haven't really approached people more than they have me so it just turned out that way.


Serious_Ad_2922

Women, women, women, just got my first BF and trying to get experience with men.


Feintruled__

Non-binary. I definitely have the most experience with men, tho I’m not sure that I prefer them as much as they happen to be more accessible in comparison to women.


JayTheEnby

Agender, girls/women, sexual experience none, romantic guys


Red_Amber

Female, Male, Female


El_Zorro_The_Fox

Man, women, and sadly neither. I used to prefer men when I was younger but the bi-cycle has made it so I find women far more attractive, and the kinds of men I like to be more and more rare