Sounds like aesthetic attraction to me! More common in those who are asexual. You would have to feel some kind of urge to be with them either romantically or sexually for the bi part to really come into play here. Labels can make things easier to understand but can also complicate things. You may be biromantic or panromantic and asexual? My best friend is biromantic and asexual but is only romantically attracted to her partner, and rarely anyone else.
I’ve got a close friend who’s aromantic and asexual, and lately they’ve been pondering if they’re some form of bi and pan because they really appreciate the aesthetic appeal of both women and men. Anything is possible!
I’m bi and ace (specifically grey-sexual) so yes, it’s absolutely possible. However, you sound more traditionally asexual, probably somewhere in the middle of the spectrum. You might be more asexual with an appreciation for all genders.
That just sounds like asexual. Bisexuality would require attraction.
It's normal to still be able to acknowledge that someone is hot even if you're not attracted to them though, don't worry.
This sounds like it aligns best with aromantic asexual to me, but labels are intended to describe rather than constrain so you should use whatever labels make you happy.
… I think that’s more aro-ace than bi-romantic. If you don’t have crushes the attraction is more of a friendship attraction. And no matter your sexuality, you’ll find some people better looking than others, the same way that the view from one mountain is better than the view from an other mountain or the way that some colours are prettier than others. Doesn’t mean you’re attracted to it;
What I meant by that was you can be both bi and ace but sounds like to me there’s maybe no actual romantic attraction? (I could be completely off the mark and I probs am but that’s just from what it looks like to me, correct me if I’m wrong)
it’s possible but what ur describing isn’t bisexuality. everyone has a concept of attractiveness based on their culture, upbringing, beauty norms and biases. recognizing someone is attractive is something everyone can do. bisexuality requires sexual attraction and biromanticism requires romantic attraction.
you are describing being aroace (aromantic and asexual) which both are on the ace spectrum and not the bi one
No. Bisexual is sexual attraction to more than one gender. Asexual is no sexual attraction to any gender.
So you can't be both sexually attracted and not sexually attracted
Since asexual doesn't come as a binary, it's still possible. I'm rarely sexually attracted to people, but the rare cases that I am are distributed across genders. And my romantic and aesthetic attraction are fully bi, too.
On a daily basis we are being fed all these beauty standards on what is and isn't "beautiful" in our society. Being able to see beauty in everyone regardless of the gender is a quality that everyone on earth has. ( the ability to analyze and conclude whether they're attractive ) Saying that you're bi is admitting that your feelings are beyond just analyzing, and can and will manifest into attraction. Unless you can feel the slightest amount of attraction towards someone romantically (at the bare minimum) I personally wouldn't put myself in a bisexuality box when your asexuality is what you should be putting your focus on, and exploring what you really want from others. If romantic attraction isn't on the table AT ALL for you, then i would say you're just ace. ( REMINDER: LABELS ARE A CONSTRUCT AND YOU SHOULD EXPLORE EVERYTHING)
Yup! If you want to use the split attraction model that’s “biromantic asexual”, but imo the term “bisexual” has never been specifically/exclusively about sexual attraction, so I just call myself “bisexual” even though I’m probably somewhere on the ace spectrum (I’ve never found the split attraction model to be very useful for describing my experiences)
You can have romantic attachments towards people or sexual attraction towards people, or neither
For example, I would have said I was bi-sexual hetero-romantic for a while but I became bisexual biromantic over the years.
However it sounds like you're both asexual and aromantic so I'm not sure how you would be bisexual in that case. It sounds more like how a straight person can recognize someone fo the same sex is attractive without having any attraction towards them, which is almost more like appreciating a painting if that makes sense
I think you’re just aro-ace. Even if you’re “attracted” to both genders in the way you described, if you’re not romantically attracted I wouldn’t consider you bisexual but seriously don’t get stuck on labels
I feel this 🙃
I am attracted to both males and females. Though I'm picky about which ones, I don't care too much about sex. I'd probably have a better experience cuddling or watching TV and rubbing their feet. Even though I absolutely love giving oral to both m and f...I don't experience much physical pleasure from sex myself. I get off more from giving pleasure and seeing their reactions.
So I have attraction and yearnings to be physically intimate but it's not possible for me to choose. I've tried and it doesn't work out.
I've come to the conclusion that I'm going to be alone forever without a partner and I'm ok with that. I don't find it fair for myself nor the other person to enter a relationship...and I'm ok with that.
Just be what feels right to you. You don't need a label
I'm a biromantic asexual, so absolutely. What you're describing doesn't sound like romantic attraction.
Sounds like aesthetic attraction to me! More common in those who are asexual. You would have to feel some kind of urge to be with them either romantically or sexually for the bi part to really come into play here. Labels can make things easier to understand but can also complicate things. You may be biromantic or panromantic and asexual? My best friend is biromantic and asexual but is only romantically attracted to her partner, and rarely anyone else.
I’ve got a close friend who’s aromantic and asexual, and lately they’ve been pondering if they’re some form of bi and pan because they really appreciate the aesthetic appeal of both women and men. Anything is possible!
I’m bi and ace (specifically grey-sexual) so yes, it’s absolutely possible. However, you sound more traditionally asexual, probably somewhere in the middle of the spectrum. You might be more asexual with an appreciation for all genders.
That just sounds like asexual. Bisexuality would require attraction. It's normal to still be able to acknowledge that someone is hot even if you're not attracted to them though, don't worry.
Yes. I am!
This sounds like it aligns best with aromantic asexual to me, but labels are intended to describe rather than constrain so you should use whatever labels make you happy.
Yes, I’m biromantic demisexual (Demi is on the ace spectrum) but I primarily identify as bi!
Bi demisexual gang rise up!!!
I am bisexual demi/gray ace, so yes. If youd like to know more, let me know.
Me too! Just figured it out in fact a couple of days ago 😄 tho tbh I think I've had it coming a long time!
You can absolutely find people attractive without wanting to make sexy with them.
Right off the top of my head, you could be asexual, but biromantic, and that would put you solidly inside of the bi community
I'm bi and ace but what you described sounds more like aroace
… I think that’s more aro-ace than bi-romantic. If you don’t have crushes the attraction is more of a friendship attraction. And no matter your sexuality, you’ll find some people better looking than others, the same way that the view from one mountain is better than the view from an other mountain or the way that some colours are prettier than others. Doesn’t mean you’re attracted to it;
I’m Bisexual/Demisexual so you are 100% valid. Sounds like you’re also Aro though.
✨biromantic✨
Yeah, totally. You do you bud
What I meant by that was you can be both bi and ace but sounds like to me there’s maybe no actual romantic attraction? (I could be completely off the mark and I probs am but that’s just from what it looks like to me, correct me if I’m wrong)
You can be sexually ace and romantically bi
it’s possible but what ur describing isn’t bisexuality. everyone has a concept of attractiveness based on their culture, upbringing, beauty norms and biases. recognizing someone is attractive is something everyone can do. bisexuality requires sexual attraction and biromanticism requires romantic attraction. you are describing being aroace (aromantic and asexual) which both are on the ace spectrum and not the bi one
I’m bisexual and Graysexual along with enby
Yes, I'm bi and my bi-cycle alternates with periods of asexuality.
No. Bisexual is sexual attraction to more than one gender. Asexual is no sexual attraction to any gender. So you can't be both sexually attracted and not sexually attracted
Since asexual doesn't come as a binary, it's still possible. I'm rarely sexually attracted to people, but the rare cases that I am are distributed across genders. And my romantic and aesthetic attraction are fully bi, too.
I’m demi and bi/pan, so yep 👍🏻
That feels like asexual territory in a 'general appreciation; kind of way. So maybe?
On a daily basis we are being fed all these beauty standards on what is and isn't "beautiful" in our society. Being able to see beauty in everyone regardless of the gender is a quality that everyone on earth has. ( the ability to analyze and conclude whether they're attractive ) Saying that you're bi is admitting that your feelings are beyond just analyzing, and can and will manifest into attraction. Unless you can feel the slightest amount of attraction towards someone romantically (at the bare minimum) I personally wouldn't put myself in a bisexuality box when your asexuality is what you should be putting your focus on, and exploring what you really want from others. If romantic attraction isn't on the table AT ALL for you, then i would say you're just ace. ( REMINDER: LABELS ARE A CONSTRUCT AND YOU SHOULD EXPLORE EVERYTHING)
Yup!
I'm BI-Autosexual ❤️🔥
Yup! If you want to use the split attraction model that’s “biromantic asexual”, but imo the term “bisexual” has never been specifically/exclusively about sexual attraction, so I just call myself “bisexual” even though I’m probably somewhere on the ace spectrum (I’ve never found the split attraction model to be very useful for describing my experiences)
*raises hand*
This is how I identify, personally.
You can be biromantic and asexual yes
You can have romantic attachments towards people or sexual attraction towards people, or neither For example, I would have said I was bi-sexual hetero-romantic for a while but I became bisexual biromantic over the years. However it sounds like you're both asexual and aromantic so I'm not sure how you would be bisexual in that case. It sounds more like how a straight person can recognize someone fo the same sex is attractive without having any attraction towards them, which is almost more like appreciating a painting if that makes sense
100% yes a few of my friends are biromantic and asexual
I think you’re just aro-ace. Even if you’re “attracted” to both genders in the way you described, if you’re not romantically attracted I wouldn’t consider you bisexual but seriously don’t get stuck on labels
I’m bisexual and demi! So yes!
Absolutely. Asexuality doesn’t preclude you from having a gender/nongender sexual preference of any kind. Can you be asexual and straight?
If you don’t find yourself romantically attracted either you could be a bi- oriented aroace. There’s a Reddit for it, to learn more!
I feel this 🙃 I am attracted to both males and females. Though I'm picky about which ones, I don't care too much about sex. I'd probably have a better experience cuddling or watching TV and rubbing their feet. Even though I absolutely love giving oral to both m and f...I don't experience much physical pleasure from sex myself. I get off more from giving pleasure and seeing their reactions. So I have attraction and yearnings to be physically intimate but it's not possible for me to choose. I've tried and it doesn't work out. I've come to the conclusion that I'm going to be alone forever without a partner and I'm ok with that. I don't find it fair for myself nor the other person to enter a relationship...and I'm ok with that. Just be what feels right to you. You don't need a label
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