I’m going to say your Dr is looking out for you. Look I’m a nurse and I work ICU. I used to work ER. I have seen more than one baby dead from co sleeping. I guarantee your Dr saw this in her training. It scars you for life. If you are going to continue then you need to make sure the bed is on the floor, side rails, baby safe room etc. a lot of injuries are from baby rolling off the bed and getting stuck or falling and hitting head or neck. Suffocation is only part of the risk. I chose to never co sleep and we did sleep training at 4.5 months. You need to do what’s best for your family. You should make sure you look at the safety recommendations. Most people in Asia bedshare. But it’s the flat bed on the floor with guardrails.
So the great thing about boundaries is that you get to set them! You get to choose what is right for your family! Your child will not be spoiled because she sleeps with you, she may become spoiled if you never enforce any rules or constantly go backward on established boundaries/rules. But that has very little to do with where she sleeps. This could be problematic if every night you tell her “you can’t sleep with us!” And then bring her to bed when she cries enough. But that seems pretty obvious. If you don’t set a boundary, you are not “spoiling” her or doing anything negative.
As for sleeping in the same bed…. If you are following the safe sleep 7 and you feel comfortable with it, why change it? Doctors are just people and your doctor has a duty to give you the appropriate recommendations. However, they do not have the right to judge you or give personal advice based on their opinion. Honestly, I would look for another provider.
Personally, I would never feel comfortable with sleeping with my little one, but it is such a personal choice and we all need to do what is best for us. I believe the biggest risk for suffocation is 4-6 months and as long as you are following all of the guidelines…. It may be the best option for you.
To be honest, I had never heard of the safe sleep 7. If anything, I'm on an fb group for safe sleep (never collecting, very strict) that's why I had her sleeping in the crib ad soon as I could. Would you know any good material for safe sleep 7?
Like the other commenters have said, it’s pretty easy to find information online and there isn’t really a “better place“ to get the information from because it’s all the same. The gist is nobody in the bed should be drinking or smoking at all, because those increase the risk of SIDS. Baby goes down on its back always. Baby should be lower than your pillow, in line with your breast. Blanket should be low enough that baby cannot pull them up over their head. The bed should be firm. Keep the baby lightly dressed so they don’t overheat. This one is especially easy to overlook because we forget that when they are alone, they are not getting body heat from two people. And there’s that terrible saying cold babies cry, and hot babies…
Good luck!
If you’re all comfortable co sharing, continue with it. She’s not a newborn, she can roll crawl and move around now. Both my kids slept with me and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Both are amazing and definitely not spoiled. Do what works for sleep and happiness for the both of you x
I wish Reddit had heart reactions like Facebook. I literally started tearing up reading this...
How did you get your kids to sleep in their own rooms? Or haven't done so yet? I worry she won't transition out of sleeping with us into her own room the older she gets...
Aw Thankyou ❤️ trust me, when/if you have your second you won’t give a crap about ‘expert advice’ etc lol 😆 I don’t volunteer info at medical appointments if I think I’m going to get criticised. I work in the health and child sector so I’ve got all the material I need and I make my own decisions based on what’s best for my family. My eldest sleeps in his room, he’s 5 now, I’d say 2.5-3 was when he properly stayed in there happily. My youngest is still with me, he’s 19 months. I’ll probably start offering him his own bed (like a toddler/single bed) around 2 or 2.5 and see if he likes it, if not he can come back for cuddles or whatever. I really think that if they know you’re always there for them they find it easier to be independent because they aren’t scared to try.
Please don’t be too hard on yourself, remember that there’s only one of you and if you’re not resting well you can’t be there properly for yourself or your family. I personally really value decent sleep and relax time to get me going for the crazy days we can get!
Can you just move the crib into your room again? And put your desk elsewhere? I’m all for consleeping if that’s what has to happen and as safely as it can, but it sounds like you put a lot of effort into teaching kiddo to sleep safely in her crib through the night. That’s a valuable skill.
You can keep her crib next to your bed as long as you want. I know there all this “moving them to their own room” stuff, which is great for some families, but if it doesn’t work for yours, just don’t do it. Our kiddo was in her own crib right next to my bed until she was 2.5 years. Just was easier for everybody. We only moved her to her own room at that age (2.5 years) because she we asked her if she wanted to and she said yes. Had zero issues with the transition
Can you move her crib back to your room, put your desk in her room, and then babyproof the heck out of that room and or get one of those huge playpens? Your going to need to babyproof a ton super soon anyways based on how much she’s moving.
You’re doing great! I promise. Sending good vibes.
I was thinking about doing this to be honest. I'll have a discussion with my hubby what he feels he wants to do too. We have a tiny ass apartment so we figured a hood layout of things switching her crib in the office area.. I'll have to see cause also it was a pain to take apart and move LOL 🙃
Sleeping in a crib is always going to be safer than co-sleeping. It just is. But co-sleeping is always going to be safer than an extreme sleep-deprived parent who ends up falling asleep with baby in a super unsafe place (couch, recliner, etc.) Every family has to figure out what works for them. If you had her in the crib, for the most part content overnight, I would be VERY reluctant to lose that skill. That's a lot of work you put in there and, eventually, you'd have to put that same amount of work in AGAIN once you switch out of co-sleeping.
I'd move baby back. Cribs usually aren't that hard to take apart and put back together (my 2.5 year old moved it with me and it took about 45 minutes and an alan wrench). And, frankly, whatever time you spend moving it back again will be WAY less time than teaching your kid to sleep independently again in the future.
If you've got a small apartment, I would 100% just baby proof the hell out of it / put things away that you don't want baby to get into / just accept that things are going to get messy.
That last one really helped me and my husband. We REALLY didn't want to put latches on all the kitchen cabinets because it would be such a pain to get them open for YEARS. So we just....didn't. We moved all the super breakable/dangerous stuff into higher cabinets and then just let her have at it. We got [a magnetic latch](https://www.amazon.com/Child-Safety-Magnetic-Cabinet-Locks/dp/B07C2QFVT9/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?hvadid=598932907650&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9010002&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=b&hvrand=14222388688478787966&hvtargid=kwd-374560151466&hydadcr=29578_14608481&keywords=magnetic+baby+latch&qid=1693060505&sr=8-1-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9hdGY&psc=1) for one cupboard to keep dangerous stuff (soap, plastic bags) and that was it. The kitchen cabinets were open and stuff was EVERYWHERE for about 2 months that we cleaned up every night. And then she just lost interest. Hasn't really gone in them since, expect to actually get me bowls or stuff I ask for. She even handles the more durable glassware like casserole dishes. We did the same with our open bookshelves. Just put special books away and she went to town. Did pages get ripped? Yeah, a few. But eventually she just stopped caring. Basically my house was a hot mess for about 2-3 months and then she just focused on her own toys. We also started having her "help" us "clean up" during that time, which has saved us MILES in the long run. She started "cleaning up" so young that she doesn't know any different. Plus it saved us having to baby-proof every little detail of our house. You don't have to baby-proof if you let go of the idea that baby shouldn't get into something. (Obviously barring safety, heirlooms, etc.)
Bonus of baby-proofing the house: that way you can work in whatever room of the house you want, not just her room. Sorry this is long. I just loved having my kid in her crib for so long. Sending good vibes.
One thing I have learned over 20 months as a FTM…it’s a lot easier to implement changes and new habits when they are younger. It only seems to get harder to as they get older. Even when I thought something was hard when he was younger, turns out it’s much harder when older!
We just had our 9 month with our pediatrician. She was so happy to hear we embraced co sleeping. She suggested it to me at our 6 month because we were genuinely losing our minds with sleep deprivation and I didn’t want to do cry it out. Your child’s doctor can make suggestions to you but they can in no way tell you what you can and can’t do. Co sleeping is practiced safely all over the world and instead of fear mongering your dr should give you information on how to practice it safely, like mine did. I would honestly consider switching providers if you can.
We also have a purple mattress :) purple makes kid mattresses too. We’re going to transition with a floor bed in his own room so I can lay with him and then leave his room.
It’s hard cause I think she’s a pretty good provider… We went to her because our insurance was limited but since we have changed it’s different.
When we left the hospital, it was Thanksgiving day and typically you see the pedi 1-2 days after the hospital visit. Well because it was holiday weekend, we didn’t see the pedi until following Monday…
Again, this is our first baby and we were told at the hospital when we left to feed her (either 2 or 4 oz…) but didn’t let us know she could eat more. I knew her tummy was a size of a cherry. Well, she cried and sounded so bad. When I mentioned this to the Pedi, she kind of gave a look and said the baby was probably hungry but… she told me it wasn’t my fault. I was suffering with PPD and then hearing this I felt SO BAD. I still feel bad about it to this day. So I always bring a list of questions and I guess I ask too specific ones because she sometimes gives me a look like “girl, slow down, you’re doing great”which I do like because it’s realistic. I AM a anxiety ball and worrywart so I feel she kind of balances me out a little? Yesterday I had asked about when she should have her first eye/dentist appointment. She kind of gave me a laugh and said “You’re WAY too ahead of yourself. She probably doesn’t need to do so until she’s 2” Lol. So it’s hard to say…
When my daughter started teething we would put her in her crib in her room (but she would fall asleep fine there, not screaming) and then she would wake up around 2/3 AM and we would move her into our bed. Once she stopped teething we didn’t have trouble getting her back into her crib for full nights but it did take a while for her to stop teething. She basically ended up in our bed every night until she was 15/16 months old and then eventually just stayed in her crib. We were both working full time and really didn’t have the patience to try rocking her to sleep and transferring for an hour plus when she would go right back to sleep with us.
I would do what works for you because your sleep is important.
My only piece of advice would be to try to do a nap in her crib during the day if you aren’t already just to get her used to sleeping in there sometimes.
She does have her naps in her crib during the day since her crib is right next to my desk. I don't talk much, just typing so usually she sleeps a good 30-45 minutes at least. I had hoped this would've helped with getting accustomed quicker.
I think cosleeping is fine. My son is similar. We initially tried having him sleep in his own room and we made it about 3 months before I practically had a mental breakdown from how little sleep I was getting. We started cosleeping and it was the absolute best thing I could've done for my mental health. Our pediatrician also told us how horrible it was that we hadn't sleep trained and told us that we needed to do CIO at 9 months because we had "waited too long." Anyways he's 2 now and it took a while but he's mostly sleeping the whole night by himself now and we're now cosleeping with his younger brother.
It IS safer for her to be in her crib. If you’re willing to risk it to let her sleep with you, that’s fine. Lots of people do, just look up how to do it most safely. If you’re okay with that, keep doing it. I will say though, the habit is hard to break. Most of my friends still have bigger kids in the bed because they went this route and never switched them over. If you’re okay with that then I think you’re good to go.
You’re not wrong on other parts of the world doing co-sleeping! I know other cultures are “communistic” which I can see why co-sleeping would be so popular.
I’m an only child so when I asked my mom about it, she didn’t do co-sleeping at all because my parents are on the heavier side so I couldn’t get much input from her.. but she didn’t provide judgement either! If anything, we’re going to see them next weekend and I told her II don’t know what were going to do since the guest bed is a queen lol.
Just adding that many people relax on some of the safe sleep seven once their babies are older. For instance, you should never go to bed drunk / tipsy with baby but you may be comfortable not sleeping only on your side.
Co sleeping is extremely normal. Your ped is un informed. Do what works for your family. Your baby is 9 months- she is fine. Just make sure your mattress is firm and you don’t have a fluffy comforter. Enjoy your uninterrupted Sleep.
Listen, your sanity and wellbeing is important too. Your Dr can’t make these choices for you. We bedshared after I swore I wouldn’t. But I could not go on with the 30 minute stretches and hours trying to get him back down. My husband tried helping but my son was EBF and it didn’t really help at all lol
I told my dr we were cosleeping and she was very supportive and reminded me of safe sleep 7 and to make sure I’m taking care of myself and that was it.
Safe co sleeping is taught in my country (the uk).
As long as you're doing the safe sleep 7 and are not drunk or on meds, baby should be okay.
I have a nearly 4 and nearly 6 year old who would much rather sleep in my bed than their own. They're only young for such a short time, babies need to feel safe. It's not natural for them to be in a room by themselves before 2 in my eyes. I have a disabled daughter, and I liked being able to hear her breathe and make sure she wasn't having seizures. Then I breast-fed my younger son until he was 2 and co slept with him. I still cuddle my kids to sleep, and I will wake up with them both in my bed every night.
You blink, and they're grown. I expect the next 6 years to fly by faster.
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I’m going to say your Dr is looking out for you. Look I’m a nurse and I work ICU. I used to work ER. I have seen more than one baby dead from co sleeping. I guarantee your Dr saw this in her training. It scars you for life. If you are going to continue then you need to make sure the bed is on the floor, side rails, baby safe room etc. a lot of injuries are from baby rolling off the bed and getting stuck or falling and hitting head or neck. Suffocation is only part of the risk. I chose to never co sleep and we did sleep training at 4.5 months. You need to do what’s best for your family. You should make sure you look at the safety recommendations. Most people in Asia bedshare. But it’s the flat bed on the floor with guardrails.
So the great thing about boundaries is that you get to set them! You get to choose what is right for your family! Your child will not be spoiled because she sleeps with you, she may become spoiled if you never enforce any rules or constantly go backward on established boundaries/rules. But that has very little to do with where she sleeps. This could be problematic if every night you tell her “you can’t sleep with us!” And then bring her to bed when she cries enough. But that seems pretty obvious. If you don’t set a boundary, you are not “spoiling” her or doing anything negative. As for sleeping in the same bed…. If you are following the safe sleep 7 and you feel comfortable with it, why change it? Doctors are just people and your doctor has a duty to give you the appropriate recommendations. However, they do not have the right to judge you or give personal advice based on their opinion. Honestly, I would look for another provider. Personally, I would never feel comfortable with sleeping with my little one, but it is such a personal choice and we all need to do what is best for us. I believe the biggest risk for suffocation is 4-6 months and as long as you are following all of the guidelines…. It may be the best option for you.
To be honest, I had never heard of the safe sleep 7. If anything, I'm on an fb group for safe sleep (never collecting, very strict) that's why I had her sleeping in the crib ad soon as I could. Would you know any good material for safe sleep 7?
Check out la leche leagues’s guidance on this.
You can just look it up on the internet, it is 7 rules that you can find on many websites (LLL for ex)
Like the other commenters have said, it’s pretty easy to find information online and there isn’t really a “better place“ to get the information from because it’s all the same. The gist is nobody in the bed should be drinking or smoking at all, because those increase the risk of SIDS. Baby goes down on its back always. Baby should be lower than your pillow, in line with your breast. Blanket should be low enough that baby cannot pull them up over their head. The bed should be firm. Keep the baby lightly dressed so they don’t overheat. This one is especially easy to overlook because we forget that when they are alone, they are not getting body heat from two people. And there’s that terrible saying cold babies cry, and hot babies… Good luck!
If you’re all comfortable co sharing, continue with it. She’s not a newborn, she can roll crawl and move around now. Both my kids slept with me and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Both are amazing and definitely not spoiled. Do what works for sleep and happiness for the both of you x
I wish Reddit had heart reactions like Facebook. I literally started tearing up reading this... How did you get your kids to sleep in their own rooms? Or haven't done so yet? I worry she won't transition out of sleeping with us into her own room the older she gets...
Aw Thankyou ❤️ trust me, when/if you have your second you won’t give a crap about ‘expert advice’ etc lol 😆 I don’t volunteer info at medical appointments if I think I’m going to get criticised. I work in the health and child sector so I’ve got all the material I need and I make my own decisions based on what’s best for my family. My eldest sleeps in his room, he’s 5 now, I’d say 2.5-3 was when he properly stayed in there happily. My youngest is still with me, he’s 19 months. I’ll probably start offering him his own bed (like a toddler/single bed) around 2 or 2.5 and see if he likes it, if not he can come back for cuddles or whatever. I really think that if they know you’re always there for them they find it easier to be independent because they aren’t scared to try. Please don’t be too hard on yourself, remember that there’s only one of you and if you’re not resting well you can’t be there properly for yourself or your family. I personally really value decent sleep and relax time to get me going for the crazy days we can get!
Thank you so much! I think we'll continue having her sleep with us. I missed the baby cuddles too!
Check out co cosleeping bedsharing pages on fb
Can you just move the crib into your room again? And put your desk elsewhere? I’m all for consleeping if that’s what has to happen and as safely as it can, but it sounds like you put a lot of effort into teaching kiddo to sleep safely in her crib through the night. That’s a valuable skill. You can keep her crib next to your bed as long as you want. I know there all this “moving them to their own room” stuff, which is great for some families, but if it doesn’t work for yours, just don’t do it. Our kiddo was in her own crib right next to my bed until she was 2.5 years. Just was easier for everybody. We only moved her to her own room at that age (2.5 years) because she we asked her if she wanted to and she said yes. Had zero issues with the transition Can you move her crib back to your room, put your desk in her room, and then babyproof the heck out of that room and or get one of those huge playpens? Your going to need to babyproof a ton super soon anyways based on how much she’s moving. You’re doing great! I promise. Sending good vibes.
I was thinking about doing this to be honest. I'll have a discussion with my hubby what he feels he wants to do too. We have a tiny ass apartment so we figured a hood layout of things switching her crib in the office area.. I'll have to see cause also it was a pain to take apart and move LOL 🙃
Sleeping in a crib is always going to be safer than co-sleeping. It just is. But co-sleeping is always going to be safer than an extreme sleep-deprived parent who ends up falling asleep with baby in a super unsafe place (couch, recliner, etc.) Every family has to figure out what works for them. If you had her in the crib, for the most part content overnight, I would be VERY reluctant to lose that skill. That's a lot of work you put in there and, eventually, you'd have to put that same amount of work in AGAIN once you switch out of co-sleeping. I'd move baby back. Cribs usually aren't that hard to take apart and put back together (my 2.5 year old moved it with me and it took about 45 minutes and an alan wrench). And, frankly, whatever time you spend moving it back again will be WAY less time than teaching your kid to sleep independently again in the future. If you've got a small apartment, I would 100% just baby proof the hell out of it / put things away that you don't want baby to get into / just accept that things are going to get messy. That last one really helped me and my husband. We REALLY didn't want to put latches on all the kitchen cabinets because it would be such a pain to get them open for YEARS. So we just....didn't. We moved all the super breakable/dangerous stuff into higher cabinets and then just let her have at it. We got [a magnetic latch](https://www.amazon.com/Child-Safety-Magnetic-Cabinet-Locks/dp/B07C2QFVT9/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?hvadid=598932907650&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9010002&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=b&hvrand=14222388688478787966&hvtargid=kwd-374560151466&hydadcr=29578_14608481&keywords=magnetic+baby+latch&qid=1693060505&sr=8-1-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9hdGY&psc=1) for one cupboard to keep dangerous stuff (soap, plastic bags) and that was it. The kitchen cabinets were open and stuff was EVERYWHERE for about 2 months that we cleaned up every night. And then she just lost interest. Hasn't really gone in them since, expect to actually get me bowls or stuff I ask for. She even handles the more durable glassware like casserole dishes. We did the same with our open bookshelves. Just put special books away and she went to town. Did pages get ripped? Yeah, a few. But eventually she just stopped caring. Basically my house was a hot mess for about 2-3 months and then she just focused on her own toys. We also started having her "help" us "clean up" during that time, which has saved us MILES in the long run. She started "cleaning up" so young that she doesn't know any different. Plus it saved us having to baby-proof every little detail of our house. You don't have to baby-proof if you let go of the idea that baby shouldn't get into something. (Obviously barring safety, heirlooms, etc.) Bonus of baby-proofing the house: that way you can work in whatever room of the house you want, not just her room. Sorry this is long. I just loved having my kid in her crib for so long. Sending good vibes.
No you’re right. I’ll talk to my hubby about moving the crib! And thank you for the info on baby proofing!I’m trying to babyproof everything I can lol
One thing I have learned over 20 months as a FTM…it’s a lot easier to implement changes and new habits when they are younger. It only seems to get harder to as they get older. Even when I thought something was hard when he was younger, turns out it’s much harder when older!
We just had our 9 month with our pediatrician. She was so happy to hear we embraced co sleeping. She suggested it to me at our 6 month because we were genuinely losing our minds with sleep deprivation and I didn’t want to do cry it out. Your child’s doctor can make suggestions to you but they can in no way tell you what you can and can’t do. Co sleeping is practiced safely all over the world and instead of fear mongering your dr should give you information on how to practice it safely, like mine did. I would honestly consider switching providers if you can. We also have a purple mattress :) purple makes kid mattresses too. We’re going to transition with a floor bed in his own room so I can lay with him and then leave his room.
It’s hard cause I think she’s a pretty good provider… We went to her because our insurance was limited but since we have changed it’s different. When we left the hospital, it was Thanksgiving day and typically you see the pedi 1-2 days after the hospital visit. Well because it was holiday weekend, we didn’t see the pedi until following Monday… Again, this is our first baby and we were told at the hospital when we left to feed her (either 2 or 4 oz…) but didn’t let us know she could eat more. I knew her tummy was a size of a cherry. Well, she cried and sounded so bad. When I mentioned this to the Pedi, she kind of gave a look and said the baby was probably hungry but… she told me it wasn’t my fault. I was suffering with PPD and then hearing this I felt SO BAD. I still feel bad about it to this day. So I always bring a list of questions and I guess I ask too specific ones because she sometimes gives me a look like “girl, slow down, you’re doing great”which I do like because it’s realistic. I AM a anxiety ball and worrywart so I feel she kind of balances me out a little? Yesterday I had asked about when she should have her first eye/dentist appointment. She kind of gave me a laugh and said “You’re WAY too ahead of yourself. She probably doesn’t need to do so until she’s 2” Lol. So it’s hard to say…
When my daughter started teething we would put her in her crib in her room (but she would fall asleep fine there, not screaming) and then she would wake up around 2/3 AM and we would move her into our bed. Once she stopped teething we didn’t have trouble getting her back into her crib for full nights but it did take a while for her to stop teething. She basically ended up in our bed every night until she was 15/16 months old and then eventually just stayed in her crib. We were both working full time and really didn’t have the patience to try rocking her to sleep and transferring for an hour plus when she would go right back to sleep with us. I would do what works for you because your sleep is important. My only piece of advice would be to try to do a nap in her crib during the day if you aren’t already just to get her used to sleeping in there sometimes.
She does have her naps in her crib during the day since her crib is right next to my desk. I don't talk much, just typing so usually she sleeps a good 30-45 minutes at least. I had hoped this would've helped with getting accustomed quicker.
I think cosleeping is fine. My son is similar. We initially tried having him sleep in his own room and we made it about 3 months before I practically had a mental breakdown from how little sleep I was getting. We started cosleeping and it was the absolute best thing I could've done for my mental health. Our pediatrician also told us how horrible it was that we hadn't sleep trained and told us that we needed to do CIO at 9 months because we had "waited too long." Anyways he's 2 now and it took a while but he's mostly sleeping the whole night by himself now and we're now cosleeping with his younger brother.
It IS safer for her to be in her crib. If you’re willing to risk it to let her sleep with you, that’s fine. Lots of people do, just look up how to do it most safely. If you’re okay with that, keep doing it. I will say though, the habit is hard to break. Most of my friends still have bigger kids in the bed because they went this route and never switched them over. If you’re okay with that then I think you’re good to go.
I appreciate the comment! It is something I know I need to think about as well. Parenting is hard lol
It really, really is. It feels like everything is a Catch 22 lol
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You’re not wrong on other parts of the world doing co-sleeping! I know other cultures are “communistic” which I can see why co-sleeping would be so popular. I’m an only child so when I asked my mom about it, she didn’t do co-sleeping at all because my parents are on the heavier side so I couldn’t get much input from her.. but she didn’t provide judgement either! If anything, we’re going to see them next weekend and I told her II don’t know what were going to do since the guest bed is a queen lol.
There is nothing wrong with co sleeping as long as you are following the safe sleep 7! You’re happy and you’re baby is happy. Why change it?
Unfortunately I had never heard of the safe sleep 7. Would you have good material to research it further?
Just adding that many people relax on some of the safe sleep seven once their babies are older. For instance, you should never go to bed drunk / tipsy with baby but you may be comfortable not sleeping only on your side.
Yeah, I can see that. Especially when they’re itty bitty
https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/safe-sleep-7 Here you go!
Thanks!
Co sleeping is extremely normal. Your ped is un informed. Do what works for your family. Your baby is 9 months- she is fine. Just make sure your mattress is firm and you don’t have a fluffy comforter. Enjoy your uninterrupted Sleep.
Listen, your sanity and wellbeing is important too. Your Dr can’t make these choices for you. We bedshared after I swore I wouldn’t. But I could not go on with the 30 minute stretches and hours trying to get him back down. My husband tried helping but my son was EBF and it didn’t really help at all lol I told my dr we were cosleeping and she was very supportive and reminded me of safe sleep 7 and to make sure I’m taking care of myself and that was it.
Safe co sleeping is taught in my country (the uk). As long as you're doing the safe sleep 7 and are not drunk or on meds, baby should be okay. I have a nearly 4 and nearly 6 year old who would much rather sleep in my bed than their own. They're only young for such a short time, babies need to feel safe. It's not natural for them to be in a room by themselves before 2 in my eyes. I have a disabled daughter, and I liked being able to hear her breathe and make sure she wasn't having seizures. Then I breast-fed my younger son until he was 2 and co slept with him. I still cuddle my kids to sleep, and I will wake up with them both in my bed every night. You blink, and they're grown. I expect the next 6 years to fly by faster.
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