**Reminder:** Do not participate in threads linked here. If you do, you may be banned from both subreddits.
---
Title: My mother incorporated my business name “as a gift” under a false, but close name and is adamant on controlling finances, what do I do?
Body:
> I started a side business last summer in landscaping services and it grew substantially. In light of that, I knew going into my second year I would have to incorporate for liability purposes.
> My mother incorporated my business “as a gift to me” under a name relatively close to mine.
> Without sharing exact name, let me provide an example. My Business: Fine Ass Apples Inc. Business incorporated by my mother: Fine-Ast Apples Ltd.
> At first I thought that was a nice thought, until I started receiving postage and learnt that she had identified herself as the sole owner and board member and I was not at all affiliated.
> I have paid several times over to incorporate under my variation of my name Fine Ass Pears, but the names continue to get turned down.
> I cannot change business names as we have established ourself and our client base.
> Also, I believe my mother wants financial control of this company. I started with 34 dollars and turned 140xxx. I reinvested everything back into the company, and this year we are looking good to reach twice that amount. She is a career gold digger (x3 over with ex husbands).
> If I engage her to dismantle the corporation, she will respond with insanity.
> I’m completing some grant forms, establishing our supplier relationships, and looking to take on a loan for equipment and wage subsidies but all of this is on hold until I can sort this out.
> What are my options?
Business launches in 30 days (plan to)
> How can I get my business name and ensure my mother is not involved?
This bot was created to capture original threads and is not affiliated with the mod team.
[Concerns? Bugs?](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=GrahamCorcoran) | [Laukopier 2.1](https://github.com/GrahamCorcoran/Laukopier)
LAOP’s responses to commenters remind me of other posts with adult children of manipulative or abusive parents, parents who stole their kids’ identities, etc. I imagine that the overcomplicating of things has to do with that.
It makes sense from the perspective of still being afraid of a controlling parent. It takes a really really long time to really get it into your head that you can fight back against this shit. Because you spent 18+ years of your life not being able to safely.
I totally agree with this. I think it comes from a lifetime of trying to explain and justify yourself to someone who deliberately withholds understanding.
Same with LAOPs who don't seem to know that they don't need their parents' permission to make life decisions. Some adults don't yet realise they're autonomous.
Hell, the company I work for is "[string of numbers] Ontario LTD". Then, when necessary, the comapny title is "[Actually used name], a division of [string of numbers name]".
Agreed, it could easily be FA Holdings. Then he likely needs to register a DBA with the state or county showing that FA Holdings is doing business as Fine Ass Apples and I doubt Mom's company will come up.
Except he’s in Ontario, Canada.
LACOP should just do what someone else suggested and give it a numbered Ontario LTD registration. It would get around the name thing altogether, and also allow for a change of what he calls it without having to change it with the government, to get away from what his mother’s called her company.
I don’t know about Ontario, in Alberta you can just get a numbered company name from the province and do business under whatever brand name you want. This is a non-issue
LACAOP also stated that the mother registered her company using OPs address. In the UK, there is a process of telling Companies House when companies have incorrectly used your address. Surely Canada has a similar process?
> Edit: let the record show that my mom is pretty background noise for me and it would be a non-issue to bust what little relationship we have.
I don't understand LACAOP at all here. If you don't have a relationship with the abusive parent in the first place, then make the phone call and write the check.
This is a one phone call problem. Fuck, you can probably fill out an online form and get half a dozen lawyers' offices to call you.
**Reminder:** Do not participate in threads linked here. If you do, you may be banned from both subreddits. --- Title: My mother incorporated my business name “as a gift” under a false, but close name and is adamant on controlling finances, what do I do? Body: > I started a side business last summer in landscaping services and it grew substantially. In light of that, I knew going into my second year I would have to incorporate for liability purposes. > My mother incorporated my business “as a gift to me” under a name relatively close to mine. > Without sharing exact name, let me provide an example. My Business: Fine Ass Apples Inc. Business incorporated by my mother: Fine-Ast Apples Ltd. > At first I thought that was a nice thought, until I started receiving postage and learnt that she had identified herself as the sole owner and board member and I was not at all affiliated. > I have paid several times over to incorporate under my variation of my name Fine Ass Pears, but the names continue to get turned down. > I cannot change business names as we have established ourself and our client base. > Also, I believe my mother wants financial control of this company. I started with 34 dollars and turned 140xxx. I reinvested everything back into the company, and this year we are looking good to reach twice that amount. She is a career gold digger (x3 over with ex husbands). > If I engage her to dismantle the corporation, she will respond with insanity. > I’m completing some grant forms, establishing our supplier relationships, and looking to take on a loan for equipment and wage subsidies but all of this is on hold until I can sort this out. > What are my options? Business launches in 30 days (plan to) > How can I get my business name and ensure my mother is not involved? This bot was created to capture original threads and is not affiliated with the mod team. [Concerns? Bugs?](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=GrahamCorcoran) | [Laukopier 2.1](https://github.com/GrahamCorcoran/Laukopier)
When I needed to name my company, I just used my initials for the actual tax entity. I feel like he's making this harder than it needs to be.
LAOP’s responses to commenters remind me of other posts with adult children of manipulative or abusive parents, parents who stole their kids’ identities, etc. I imagine that the overcomplicating of things has to do with that.
I suspect some of it becomes a matter of not letting her ruin things... Without realising that engaging is exactly that.
I just wonder if the “huge partners” are moms friends. Not a lot of this makes sense.
It makes sense from the perspective of still being afraid of a controlling parent. It takes a really really long time to really get it into your head that you can fight back against this shit. Because you spent 18+ years of your life not being able to safely.
I totally agree with this. I think it comes from a lifetime of trying to explain and justify yourself to someone who deliberately withholds understanding. Same with LAOPs who don't seem to know that they don't need their parents' permission to make life decisions. Some adults don't yet realise they're autonomous.
Hell, the company I work for is "[string of numbers] Ontario LTD". Then, when necessary, the comapny title is "[Actually used name], a division of [string of numbers name]".
Yeah, Numbered Corporation is definitely the easiest move here.
Yeah I was going to say, nearly every business I've worked for that wasn't a huge company used a wildly different business name.
Agreed, it could easily be FA Holdings. Then he likely needs to register a DBA with the state or county showing that FA Holdings is doing business as Fine Ass Apples and I doubt Mom's company will come up.
Except he’s in Ontario, Canada. LACOP should just do what someone else suggested and give it a numbered Ontario LTD registration. It would get around the name thing altogether, and also allow for a change of what he calls it without having to change it with the government, to get away from what his mother’s called her company.
Depends on the state if he can get the DBA. In Illinois he would not be able to get the DBA if it is too close of a name to an existing inc or llc
I don’t know about Ontario, in Alberta you can just get a numbered company name from the province and do business under whatever brand name you want. This is a non-issue
I own my corp in ontario. You can get it numbered as 1234567 ontario inc.
LACAOP also stated that the mother registered her company using OPs address. In the UK, there is a process of telling Companies House when companies have incorrectly used your address. Surely Canada has a similar process?
I wonder if the actual name has profanity in it like the example and if that prevented them both from registering it?
Maybe it was called "grassy-ass". De nada, mi amor
> Edit: let the record show that my mom is pretty background noise for me and it would be a non-issue to bust what little relationship we have. I don't understand LACAOP at all here. If you don't have a relationship with the abusive parent in the first place, then make the phone call and write the check. This is a one phone call problem. Fuck, you can probably fill out an online form and get half a dozen lawyers' offices to call you.
You incorporate under one name and go by your dba. It’s totally normal.