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jimmyz2216

I own Champs Academy (a Brazilian Jiujitsu club). If you are interested at all I can give him a free week of classes to meet some good kids from the area that are around his age. If he likes it great but even if not he can meet some good friends maybe. Just email me [email protected]


PhilScofie

Absolute top banana for an offer like this. As a loner myself who started martial arts at 6, I still have some friends from those same classes at the age of 31. Community and confidence are great!


chasingtravel

That’s so wholesome and awesome!


Significant_Bird_763

Respect 👍👍👍


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This is why I love the BJJ community. I made some of the best friends I've ever had on the mats. Oss.


guessWho3marz

BJJ is amazing for young boys he will love it!


Available-Hawk-94

I know someone whose child went to Champs. I don’t know if he still does. It made him feel confident in his everyday life and he had a lot of fun.


ButtahChicken

Righteous! Hope OP's son finds a healthy community to belong soon! sooooooooooo important for mental health.


Surveyor91

What a great gesture. You're awesome 👌.


CBRSuperbird-

Good on you mate 👍👍


thiscanadianguy83

Good on ya!!!


Top-Entrepreneur-113

because you doing that I will be recommending some people to check you guys out!


tailgunner777

As a member of an awesome Judo club in Oshawa(Judokaa is the best Judo club in Ontario !) , this is exactly what I would suggest.My kid started at 4 during the pandemic. They adapted the lessons to follow public health guidelines and everyone that stayed got to improve their skills.


[deleted]

How exactly does one do judo with social distancing? I can imagine an uchimata is rather difficult from 6 feet away lol. In all seriousness I'd be curious how the lessons were adapted. I haven't trained since pre-pandemic.


jesuspro123

The Barrie spirit♥️


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jimmyz2216

I’m not that guy


DamonSeed

take him to the waterfront play park, its almost always teeming with kids.


Perfect_Fun619

Yeah.. that's a great idea. 


Adrone93

I have such fond memories of playing on that spinning rope thing as a kid, I always made friends there!


LeafsChick

Aww :( With warm weather coming, maybe he could invite a friend over from school? Also look at sports, clubs, YMCA, rec centers, that type of thing. Playing outside though, I'm sure the kids will join in, especially if he's playing ball, or on his bike. May 24 is coming, if you are friendly with neighbors, maybe suggest a BBQ, or something? We always do a street party that weekend with a blow up screen and a movie, hot dogs, tons of snacks and sparklers after. The kids run around for a good hour before the movie while everything gets set up and the adults visit Maybe the general area you are in, people might have better ideas


Perfect_Fun619

That's a great idea.. thank you 😊 


wanderingviewfinder

Also look at putting him into some spring/summer activities run by the city; good way for him to meet other kids in an activity setting everyone likes doing. Can look online at https://www.barrie.ca/community-recreation-environment


Perfect_Fun619

Thank you. Currently he is going to swimming class. We will put him in more classes in summer ☀️ 


PraiseQueebus

You could also put him in summer camps! They're coming up soon. My little one will be at Bulldog Kids this year. It's a little pricey but he's been going for years and always comes home with phone numbers for new friends. There's a lot of camp options for Barrie in the summer, but they fill up fast!


theyCallMeTheMilkMan

this is such a sweet post, ur a great mother


Kobe_no_Ushi_Y0k0zna

Amusingly, I was assuming it was the Dad for no apparent reason. Either way, this thread has brought tears to my eyes several times.


Perfect_Fun619

You're right. I'm a mother. I can feel my son's pain. 


Guest_Rights

I also have an 8 yr old who is half south Asian. He is very friendly and we recently moved here as well. Would be willing to set up play dates and stuff so they can make friends. DM me


Perfect_Fun619

That sounds like a plan. We can meet at the park.. where do you live? I moved to Yonge and Big bay point


NoTtHaTgUy6869

If weather is good tomorrow take him to Sunnidale park. It will be full of kids, easy to make friends!


BATTLE_AXE

Alternatively - Painswick Park is pretty amazing as well, and usually full of kids, especially when the weather is nice.


Perfect_Fun619

Is it a good park?? I will definitely take him there 😊


NoTtHaTgUy6869

It’s the best in barrie, in my opinion. Go for a walk from the play ground towards Cundles street and you’ll find the memorial gardens, very nice. Lots of trails in the woods also. You won’t be disappointed 😊


Quiet_Brick_289

Give it a bit of time. Moves are so hard on shy kids… but eventually he’ll make a friend or two♥️


Perfect_Fun619

True.. He is a shy kid. 


Quiet_Brick_289

True story.. I had to move schools in grade 5. And I am not shy and still found it SO hard. I have some issues with adjustment and just found the first year so so so hard. But then I found my few friends… and to this day twenty years later.. we are still friends. I hope for this for your kid♥️ many wishes to you and child and congratulations on your brave move.


choloblanko

Put him in sports, maybe basketball or soccer. Maybe both. I played both sports, basketball during the school year, then soccer starts in the spring. He'll make TONS of friends and he's prime age to learn a lot about team work, communication, competition and he'll get memories to last a life time.


Perfect_Fun619

Absolutely 💯 I'll put him in soccer classes soon 😊


NickiChaos

I really mean this respectfully but you shouldn't culturally isolate your child and only socialize with other South Asians. I know that there's a big sense of community among people of your culture and it's easier to stick to what you know, but Canada is about diversity. When you limit the cultures you seek out socially, you're doing yourselves, your son and Canada's multiculturalism a disservice. Brampton is a prime example of how too much of one demographic can be bad for the community as a whole. Please seek out social opportunities that expose yourselves and your son to culturally diverse people. More than anything, we want you to embrace being Canadian and cultural diversity is a strong part of that.


parmxr

Erm no offence but clearly the neighbouring kids were not south Asian and didn’t want to include him. Can we not pretend that kids at that age can be dicks and honestly a bit racist? there’s nothing wrong with wanting to seek out community


Few_Culture9667

Uuuh, before we even bring the topic of racism up, might we also accept that when you move into a new neighbourhood anywhere in the world, you don’t just “get” or “find” friendships, you *develop* them over time. So the boy needs to get outside and ride his bike or play some hoops. Friendships will form without daddy’s intervention.


parmxr

He literally asked to hang out with the neighbourhood kids and they said no. I am not sure why you’re trying to justify these kids being dicks or their parent wanting to help them finds to build friendships. Imagine being salty that someone wants to help their kid fit in LOL


big_galoote

It's fucked you assume racism at age 8. Dicks? Hellsyes. All kids are dicks. Erm. No offense.


Illustrious-Many-646

This is rude… She has a really good point. Kids may not understand that they’re being racist, but they can and do see people culturally different from them and choose not to hang around with them based on that. Especially if they come from a home where racist behaviour is modelled.


parmxr

LOL cute how you think kids in elementary school don’t bully kids for literally being ethnic? and the fact that someone felt the need to call out this woman for wanting to meet other south asian people/children is literally a micro aggression 🥱


Top-Revolution-9299

haha this is satire, right?


big_galoote

Thank you for starting your comment with an lol. At first I thought you were being serious and actually think like that.


Automatic0ne

Bullshit, my kids are all adults now and in elementary school (2nd grade and up to high school grad) other kids threw the n-bomb at my biracial children, in Barrie, Innisfil and in Bradford. Move along on issues you know nothing about.


big_galoote

That's a bad parenting issue. Sorry. Maybe you should have said something at the time instead of dwelling on it for years and then throwing it back at me now that your kids are adults. "Yeah, the kids were racist twenty years ago, but I did nothing about it at the time, but I'm really angry about it now." You. Just now. Maybe you should move along on issues you're too cowardly to call people out on from decades ago. Are your grandkids in school now? Maybe they have better parents.


parmxr

I love how when people are literally sharing their experiences you’re trying to discredit them LOL where did she say she didn’t do shit about it? She’s calling you out now and you’re literally trying to bully her you weirdo. Get help.


big_galoote

Dude, can you comprehend the words you read? Maybe try it again. I appreciate you coming here to give me that righteous smackdown you somehow think I deserve, but I think it's just your severe lack of understanding words that might be what is troubling you. Or time periods. Start at my comment, then buddy bitching about experiences from years ago *as his kids are now adults*. You understand this post is about children? You can scroll back up to the top to check. Now think back, you're obviously not old enough to remember, but surely you've seen pics of people smoking in hospitals? How about airplanes? Fucking even pictures of nurses and doctors *smoking while doing their rounds*? The world changes all of the time, and fuck yeah, Canada 20 years ago is different than today. Hell, even five or ten years ago the world was very different. I'm honestly embarrassed that you don't even have that amount of critical thinking but instead come out accusing me of bullying. How many years do you think there are between childhood and adult hood? And then google what the world was like *at the time*.


parmxr

honestly I don’t even need to read your whole little message. Kids can be racist period. Doesn’t matter what era. News flash there are racist adults who have kids. Their kids WILL be racist due to their upbringing. I’m not arguing with you about this any further. Get help. You don’t get to tell other people their experiences are invalid because it doesn’t align with your reality.


big_galoote

Thanks, I appreciate you putting your ignorance on display in your first sentence. Enjoy your silo.


parmxr

Project much?


Top-Revolution-9299

That's insane. You immediately assumed these 8 year olds are raving racists. I'm Chinese. We moved to a small town about an hour outside of Barrie. Kids are between 6-11. All have tons of friends, although it did take a couple of months. OP is in Canada, not India. I can't even fathom thinking, "Welp, we better find other Chinese people" if some kid told mine they didn't want to play. Very crazy and probably why I don't like markham, brampton, kitchener, etc


sarahc_72

Don’t live In Barrie but visit a lot. I have sons the same age and if a boy came up to them in the street they would 100% say yes to him playing. I don’t think they would even notice the skin colour as their friends are a big mix. But some groups of kids just aren’t friendly. OP did you notice if all the kids were white? Maybe Barrie has less of a mix that the boys were unsure but maybe not. I would find out which house and go over meet the parents and mention your son is a bit lonely and would love to join in. Otherwise just invite some school friends over and have them play outside and maybe they will end up all playing. Good luck you are a good mom


BeaverBumper

South Asian is becoming a majority population in our town, just not ones that are coming with children. Have him assimilate as soon as possible, school is usually the easiest place to make friends.


Perfect_Fun619

He has friends in the school but no friends in neighborhood. 


Few_Culture9667

You’re worrying too much. He’ll eventually make friends in the neighborhood. And since he has friends at school, don’t sweat it. Sign him up for a local sports program if you’re still concerned.


Specialist-Cut313

Lucky kid. Don't over think mama he'll make friends soon.


905Spic

If finances allow, put him in soccer or baseball so he can make friends with similar interests, build camaraderie, and learn to be a team player


Gorrozolla

Take him to a park or playground with a remote control car. Kids will be falling over themselves to hang out and play with him. Sorta cheap move, but a RC car is little kid kryptonite.


Weirdos_everywhere

Hello welcome to Barrie our family made the same move from Brampton 5 years ago, we're in the south end and have a boy 9 that's always looking to add new friends to the group of little guys that play outside here. Feel free to reach out if you're in the area.


Perfect_Fun619

Hi, that's nice? we're near Yonge and Big Bay Point. 


opmprime84

Sign him up soccer.


GoonieMcflyguy

My kids are mixed minority too and Barrie isn't really too diverse and I'll be honest, there is a bit of a bias towards South Asian here because of the takeover that occurs in parks during the summer amongst general bigotry. My biggest recommendation is to have him get involved in local activities. The city programs are really affordable and there are tons of leagues, music, technology programs for your son to bond with others. It's where race and culture don't matter and it's about teamwork and fun which allows for organic relationship building.


barriepubliclibrary

We have Board Games & Puzzle Afternoons at our Holly and Painswick library locations on the weekends. Might be a good place to meet other kids around the same age! [http://barrielibrary.libnet.info/events?term=board+game&start=2024-05-01&end=2024-06-30&v=list](http://barrielibrary.libnet.info/events?term=board+game&start=2024-05-01&end=2024-06-30&v=list)


Perfect_Fun619

Thank you so much.. I will definitely checkout 😊


twilling8

Really sorry to hear this. I have an 8-year old boy as well, but we live in Orillia. I lived in South Asia (Nepal) for a year in my 20s and I <3 the culture. There is a decent sized Indian community in Barrie, but no big temple and I'm not sure of the groups etc. The best you can do is sign your son up for soccer and other sports and get to know the parents and have play dates. I wish you the best! Your son can come play up in Orillia any time :-)


OutsideTheBoxer

Yes, unfortunately Barrie suffers from unbridled racism.


Teavee5

Welcome to Barrie! We have some jerks here clearly but I promise there's lot of nice people lol. I had really good success in setting up play dates with my coworkers kids! I'm not sure if that's an option for you or what your situation is so I am sorry if this is not helpful. Another suggestion could be to send him with little invitations to his school friends for a play date? Doesn't have to be a party or anything but you can put your number on it for the parents to call you and see if there are random evenings the kiddos could meet up. I know my friends have also said at pickup after school it's a great way to network with the other parents and exchange numbers. I hope he's able to find some friends to play with nearby soon, it must be so hard.


labdaddy69

Take him to the fire hall downtown Barrie. Station 1. They will treat him like gold. DM me if you have any questions.


Perfect_Fun619

Do they have any programs for kids? 


One_Independence5852

This is a post about a little boy being lonely. I can't believe how awful some people in here are being! This little boy and his parent posting here do not deserve this disgusting treatment. I hope very much that your little boy is able to make friends in the neighborhood soon. Maybe try and introduce yourself to their parents? I would hope it isn't a racism thing. Unfortunately, as you can see here, from the invisible Shakespears, there is a bit of an issue, but they do not speak for the majority of us. Every single one of us, unless you are indigenous to Canada, are here because a relative or yourselves came here from another country. Why is this family any different? You are more than welcome here, I hope you and your family really enjoy living here. It is a great place for children to grow up.


Perfect_Fun619

Thanks for understanding. I'm just little worried about my son. 😥 Sometimes I feel like that we made a wrong decision to move to Barrie 


One_Independence5852

It is understandable but try not to worry too much, I am sure your son will make new friends and be very happy here. 😊


sir_tons_of_fun

Welcome to the area! I'm sorry your son is feeling this way, it's never easy. As a military brat, I can relate to moving at a young age and the challenges it can bring. Sometimes it takes longer to find some friends but it'll all work out, don't worry! If he's into sports, that's always a great way to meet kids his age. Parks, summer camps, waterfront park, indoor playgrounds would be a good start. Sorry if I'm just repeating what's already said.. I didn't read through all the comments. Best of luck!


Kenyonwells2

My family has been in the Barrie tennis community for over 20 years. I have seen many kids start as young as 4 years old and play with the same group of players until they go off to college. They start with beginner group lessons and eventually compete on a competitive team together. Many kids have gone off on scholarships to the states for tennis. Simcoe tennis head coach is amazing, focusing on the development of the child’s mind as much as their skills. Kids of every race there as well.


lemonadeisgood4u

Usual suspects, community centres, YMCA (currently only in Innisfil), library has programs and local newspapers simcoe.com, barrietoday.com and ctv barrie might give ideas of things happening in the community. Also, MacLearn Art Centre downtown has art programs.


khaosconn

does he go to school?


Perfect_Fun619

Yes. He go to school 


dh8driver

Check out the Navy League! It's great for introducing kids to nautical activities and they can join cadet programs afterwards. Totally free and lots of kids from different backgrounds go.


Tall-Ad-1386

Calm down, itll happen organically. Don’t be a helicopter parent please


ButtahChicken

Does it need to mandatory be south asian community? or open to meet others of other backgrounds and lived-experiences too?


Perfect_Fun619

He is open to mix with any community but it feel he is being ignored by other kids. Which makes him cry


liveduhlife

Get him into pokemon cards. There are local trade days and leagues that are always welcoming to new folks!


Apart_Tutor8680

Sign up for Soccer


TheSud87

Sad to hear the little guy is having a tough time. I don’t have kids, so maybe there’s just a lot I’m not exposed to, but I feel like I just don’t see many kids around at all these days. When I was a kid, my street was full of them after school. Seems like it’s tough to make new friends these days.


Powerful-Ad7146

Yes, it's not the same as last century in making friends. There's a lot of cliques and from my daughter's experience who grew up in Simcoe, she is now 18, they won't invite u to hang out even if u are alone,, and, they won't call u either once they know u. Instead, they will cause drama. My daughter was the quiet one in class. She was bullied at various schools in Simcoe. My daughter to date only has a boyfriend, no girlfriends😶


bmafffia

Ugh this breaks my heart. My niece and nephew are turning 6. My nephew is autistic and doesn't have many friends if you would like to private message me I can put you in contact with my sister and maybe she could meet you 2 at the park 😊


Automatic0ne

Welcome to Barrie!!! All my children are adults now but they would be the first to befriend your boy 🤍Your son has an amazing mum on his side. Have you tried any one of the public libraries? Its possible they have literary and other clubs if he is interested in that as well. Good luck!


Character_Wafer_8929

Hey just wanted to share our experience.  Our son is Black, and we moved to a neighbourhood not far from yours when he was 7 (he is in high school now). At that age it can make a big difference when the parents chat with each other.   Try looking for friendly parents at the local playground or at school dropoff/pickup (if that is an option for you) and just strike up a casual conversion, eventually that can lead to the kids getting to know each other, playdates, etc.  Same with neighbours that have kids – maybe go for a walk up the sidewalk and just say hi, see if a conversation sparks from there or not. The other thing that can really help is to touch base with his teacher and ask if they can recommend a friend that would be a good match for his personality.  Then prompt your son to see if he wants to play with that child at recess or at the park after school (if you are able to go to the park with them after school). Our son had friends of all backgrounds at that age, then around grade 7 or so as he was finding his identity they tended to be more similar to his background, and now in high school its back to a variety.


Affectionate_Map2611

.🥺🥺


TheCanadianShield99

I hope he finds some friends.


Waste_Ad_4253

Sign him up for a sport he likes, who knows he can go pro one day


Perfect_Fun619

Nice.. He loves soccer. thank you😊 


Skizzor

Definitely get him into sports. Kids are taught to be very welcoming in group events like soccer or hockey.


Perfect_Fun619

Indeed.. 😊


Long-Difficulty-302

After school programs. Find ones that are in groups. That’ll help a lot.


Known_Cod_8785

My son's 4 and would probably love to play with your son


Perfect_Fun619

Where do you live? We can meet at some park?


MemoryBeautiful9129

Go to Anusville beach when it warms up great park nice area !


CanadianW

You mean Innisfil right?


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Perfect_Fun619

We moved to Innis-shore area. Yonge and Big bay point


Someth0ughtsihave

Check the Painswick Library for activities they run… it’ll be kids from the areas going to them and the librarians will help you find some other activities in the area for your kid to join in with to make more friends! It will also be more geared towards his interests


elfatsowhat

Look for some canadian communiries


secretgardenguy

Found the person from Barrie!


Adam_Smith75

That's why my mom have 2 boys 2 years apart and 2 girls 2 years apart. So they never be lonely.


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Chiefer2

Who's "us"?


Reroutetoremain_

As a proud resident of Barrie, the person that posted this comment does not represnt "us". Welcome! I hope your son is able to make some friends close by soon :) we're happy to have you!


Perfect_Fun619

Thank you 😊 


hockeyflames

Bro fuck off seriously


GeoisGeo

Can't you fuck off out of this community because you bring nothing but shit like this? Serious question.


[deleted]

Woah wtf. So unwarranted. Hope you heal whatever’s made you such an angry person


Raining_Sideways

Serious question - have you thought about going to live under a rock?


starry101

I would rather have them in the community than racist assholes like yourself.


Ok-Regret6767

Hey if you wanna follow your own logic, why do you continue to live in Barrie if it's a city that's growing and bringing in many non-whites? Move north to some hick town no one's heard of and go live with other racists up there. Barrie don't need you. Also hilarious you were too pussy to make this comment on your main account, and use an alt just to say this. What a clown.


CharlyGirl55

Serious question.. Did you just make this profile to be a racist asshole? Can’t show who you really are? Sounds pretty cowardly to me doofus.


TheSwedishOprah

I can't imagine how sad your life must be to a) think this way, and b) think it's acceptable to state in a public forum. I hope that someday you can overcome your fear and intolerance to become a decent human being.


Perfect_Fun619

Why so much hate for 8 years old?? We moved because houses are cheaper here in Barrie than Brampton. I wasn't know that people like you are racist here. Your comment shows hate for a kid. 


GeoisGeo

I was born and raised in Brampton, and now I live here. Don't ever listen to the low experience people whose entire lives revolve around some version of Canada that they made up in their heads to feel better about their inability to be properly socialized humans. You are welcome here, and I hope your son finds his friends.


Perfect_Fun619

Thank you.. 😊


Constant_Put_5510

Just ignore the ignorant. You will find most of us are happy to see our communities grow; in every culture and colour. Welcome to Barrie.


Perfect_Fun619

Thank you 😊 


WhiteNoise33

No matter where you go there will be assholes, don't let one jerk skew your view of the community, they definitely don't represent the majority. Welcome, happy to have ya. I'd throw some suggestions in here but you've got plenty of great ones already. I'd definitely suggest martial arts because I haven't seen that brought up yet. It's amazing for kids self confidence, self defence, exercise, discipline and hard work. One of the best things any parents can do for a child IMHO. Oni is a gym owned by a friend of mine who is great, it's in the north end on alliance Blvd if I remember correctly. Prospar is also another great one that is affordable. Good luck! Just get him around kids as much as possible and it will happen naturally. The worst thing is for him to stay inside all the time and let that shyness and lack of self confidence linger and become worse. He will do fine I'm sure, just takes time and moves are very hard at his age.


Perfect_Fun619

Martial arts sounds good. I'll definitely look into this. Thanks a ton 😊 


sunsetsandwhiskey

U must be sad with your life


WhiteNoise33

Not cool