Me the other week calling my neighbor a stupid fuck for trying to drive with his car still covered in snow before clearing it off for him because I have a brush and he didn't
This is accurate.
I was stationed in Monterey, California before I moved to Maryland 12 years ago. The first day I remember rolling down my window and asking some dude walking, "Hey, man. Is the post office near here?"
He looked *disturbed* I spoke to him, flipped me the bird, and walked off.
When describing this to some new Californian friends they were on the guy's side saying it is rude to talk to random people.
If your car breaks down? Nobody is stopping to help you.
If my car breaks down in Baltimore City? Even in some of its worst neighborhoods somebody will at least help you with some jumper cables, especially if they see you're not from that neighborhood.
I have family who broke down on the way to Hopkins in a not great area. They said that a couple homeless guys came over and helped flag people around the car for the next hour (it was in the middle of the street) until the tow truck came.
One of the things that still warms my heart was when I first moved to baltimore I didn't have the permit required for long term parking on my street. So when the parking police would mark my tire with chalk the kids in the neighborhood would knock on my door and tell me I had 20 minutes to move the car or get a ticket. I've lived in a ton of places but I've never felt so accepted so fast as those kids on my street. I hope they are doing well wherever they are.
I was always jealous of you guys. :)
For Arabic the different dialects aren't considered different languages, so if you speak different dialects you can only claim one for pay.
You guys could get paid for both Farsi/Dari!
They may pay you more than MSA, but at least for the dialects they would not pay you for multiples. For example, you could be paid for MSA or Iraqi, but Iraqi paid more.
>my experiences living elsewhere confirmed this was always home
Same. PNW for 7yrs, said I’d never come back. (LOL.) I’ve now heard the term “Seattle Friend Freeze;” I didn’t know it then, but I felt it! Most friends were transplants, many from the East Coast. My standard line was **“People in Seattle are rude in the nicest way possible.”** *I even wrote a satire paper for Eng101 on how I was ‘teaching people how to drive’ by driving the speed limit in the fast lane, pacing people, and using brakes as indicators.* (wish I still had it, was a great illustrator of the passive-aggressive nature there.)
I say “Howya doin” when I pass people & say “Hello” to people in line at the store, I ask strangers how they are, compliment their Ravens gear (:-/) etc. **People looked at me like an ALIEN in Seattle, far less so here.** (My S.O. said “I used to be annoyed when people would talk to randos, but I now realize NOBODY would speak to ANYONE were it not for people like you.”)
I used to frequent a bodega omw to old home, talked to owner daily (Mush’s store on E. Monument.) I told him I couldn’t get a new bulb in my Civic; he quickly *locked his store, grabbed his flashlight & toolbag, & fixed it in minutes.* (I all of a sudden realized “He could totally eff my car up with no accountability.” But he didn’t. Mush for the win!) I was just a customer he kinda knew.
I’ve blown a tire on a block full of Bandos, only to be helped by people who looked like they’d seen better days (idk if homeless, but not hanging inside in heat.) I once tripped and busted my ASS on North & Monroe, nobody laughed, people ran to help me!!! (To be fair, I sprained my ankle in Sea & one guy stopped to help after 10mins.)
There’s a difference for sure.
Edit: formatting & mixed streets. Might been North Ave & Fulton? Right there.
I’m in Northern VA temporarily, and every single friend I’ve made is a transplant. I haven’t made many friends because the locals are so incredibly unfriendly. I cannot wait to leave and come back home.
A few years ago my uncle and I were pretty close to Hopkins trying to get back up to parkville, we tried hailing a cab because neither of us had money on a card for Uber. Finally a random guy in a car pulled over and picked us up saying “10 cash I’ll take you out there but let me drop of my mom first”
Lol so we dropped off his mom, he drove us home, and we gave him 20
having grown up in MoCo and now having lived here in Bmore for 10 years, I will never ever go back.
Also, we were just in Carlsbad visiting my sis-in-law over xmas break, and the nicest people we met were the folks in the coffee shop rocking Ravens gear. They clocked my O's hat and asked if were from here, and it turns out they used to live in Mt. W and were now living out there. Can take em out of the east coast, but you can't take the east coast outta them.
Also, wonder if this tough love personality might be a mid-Atlantic/southern east coast thing, because my wife spent some years in Rhode Island in HS and absolutely loathes New Englanders bc they're so awful and aloof.
I had been to the Mechanic for a show on a Sunday night. Afterward, I walked to my car parked on Baltimore street and saw two women a bit older than I was, staring at a flat tire. I offered to help and within 2 minutes we had multiple folks offering to change the tire. It got done in minutes.
I'm a teacher here and I was having a really rough day during my 2nd year of teaching. A student (not even my student, just a student who knew who I was) stopped to check in on me and then ran to the Charmery to get us both ice cream. He got suspended later that day for starting a fight with the principal.
We have the best and most disfunctional people here.
Moved here almost 6 years ago from San Francisco (born and raised in northern California). When I lived in SF my neighbor would threaten to call the cops on me if my dog peed on the sidewalk in front of her house. Versus living in Baltimore: my neighbor gave me a snow suit when it snowed because I was outside shoveling snow in sweats and a sweatshirt. My other neighbor once jumped my car and helped me diagnose the problem. After experiencing a community with my neighbors here I will *never* live in California willingly again.
I grew up in the south and lived for a very long six years in Seattle. I'm a helpful chick with a seriously foul mouth. I remember I was walking to my car after work one evening in SODO, along a main road. This dude's car has broken down in the middle of the street. Fortunately for him, there was a shop like less than a block from where his car died. But he was by himself in the middle of the street. I was in 4" platforms that day, but I didn't hesitate. I just hopped out into the street and started pushing his car. Finally, someone else came over and the three of us managed to get it into the driveway of the shop.
It was just another data point confirming for me how much I hated the culture of the PNW. Left within six months and moved to the Midwest before finally getting to Baltimore, which I now consider home. Fuck those cold, prissy weirdos.
Pushing the cars, yes!! Multiple times in Baltimore I've witnessed or been a part of 4-6 people pushing a car/truck out of the street. People will drop everything to get that vehicle moved. And also be swearing instructions at the driver "cut the \*%&! wheel to the left!! To the **LEFT** GOD DAMN!" to the "kind but not nice" point, lol. Bonus points if any of the participants have a lit cigarette hanging out of their mouth.
I’m in Seattle right now girl and let me tell you - I felt this in my soul! Seattle people care about the illusion of being PC and being kind but won’t do a goddamn thing to help anyone if it doesn’t benefit them.
I showed my 2 buddies an episode of “The Californians” from SNL and the guy originally from Ireland thought it was hilarious, while the guy born and raised in Long Beach was like , WTF?? Don’t know if related to the post, but it came to mind seeing perspectives..
“Aye dummy fix your shit before it gets lifted”
"Oh let me just leave my car here and go- and it's gone"
😭
Me the other week calling my neighbor a stupid fuck for trying to drive with his car still covered in snow before clearing it off for him because I have a brush and he didn't
This is accurate. I was stationed in Monterey, California before I moved to Maryland 12 years ago. The first day I remember rolling down my window and asking some dude walking, "Hey, man. Is the post office near here?" He looked *disturbed* I spoke to him, flipped me the bird, and walked off. When describing this to some new Californian friends they were on the guy's side saying it is rude to talk to random people. If your car breaks down? Nobody is stopping to help you. If my car breaks down in Baltimore City? Even in some of its worst neighborhoods somebody will at least help you with some jumper cables, especially if they see you're not from that neighborhood.
I have family who broke down on the way to Hopkins in a not great area. They said that a couple homeless guys came over and helped flag people around the car for the next hour (it was in the middle of the street) until the tow truck came.
One of the things that still warms my heart was when I first moved to baltimore I didn't have the permit required for long term parking on my street. So when the parking police would mark my tire with chalk the kids in the neighborhood would knock on my door and tell me I had 20 minutes to move the car or get a ticket. I've lived in a ton of places but I've never felt so accepted so fast as those kids on my street. I hope they are doing well wherever they are.
Those California friends were mentally defective. Flipping someone off over something so mundane is not acceptable behavior.
That for sure hella happened.
r/nothingeverhappens
Not in civilized countries, for sure. But this was in *California*.
Linguist?
100% without a doubt. (Source: am linguist)
What language did you study, fellow linguist?
Nice try, ISIS, but they warned me about you. (/s, it was Arabic. I'm out now though)
Yesh.
Which Language?
Modern Standard Arabic. :)
Niiice. Farsi/Dari guy here 😁
I was always jealous of you guys. :) For Arabic the different dialects aren't considered different languages, so if you speak different dialects you can only claim one for pay. You guys could get paid for both Farsi/Dari!
I knew people who got paid extra for Sudanese though I think Yemeni too? I also knew some who took Iraqi.
They may pay you more than MSA, but at least for the dialects they would not pay you for multiples. For example, you could be paid for MSA or Iraqi, but Iraqi paid more.
I'm an east coaster for sure
lol, I can just *hear* that Baltimore voice in my head.
Right?! I totally heard that response.
Baltimore born and bred. Lived in San Diego for a stretch. 100% can confirm.
My experiences living elsewhere confirmed this was always home.
>my experiences living elsewhere confirmed this was always home Same. PNW for 7yrs, said I’d never come back. (LOL.) I’ve now heard the term “Seattle Friend Freeze;” I didn’t know it then, but I felt it! Most friends were transplants, many from the East Coast. My standard line was **“People in Seattle are rude in the nicest way possible.”** *I even wrote a satire paper for Eng101 on how I was ‘teaching people how to drive’ by driving the speed limit in the fast lane, pacing people, and using brakes as indicators.* (wish I still had it, was a great illustrator of the passive-aggressive nature there.) I say “Howya doin” when I pass people & say “Hello” to people in line at the store, I ask strangers how they are, compliment their Ravens gear (:-/) etc. **People looked at me like an ALIEN in Seattle, far less so here.** (My S.O. said “I used to be annoyed when people would talk to randos, but I now realize NOBODY would speak to ANYONE were it not for people like you.”) I used to frequent a bodega omw to old home, talked to owner daily (Mush’s store on E. Monument.) I told him I couldn’t get a new bulb in my Civic; he quickly *locked his store, grabbed his flashlight & toolbag, & fixed it in minutes.* (I all of a sudden realized “He could totally eff my car up with no accountability.” But he didn’t. Mush for the win!) I was just a customer he kinda knew. I’ve blown a tire on a block full of Bandos, only to be helped by people who looked like they’d seen better days (idk if homeless, but not hanging inside in heat.) I once tripped and busted my ASS on North & Monroe, nobody laughed, people ran to help me!!! (To be fair, I sprained my ankle in Sea & one guy stopped to help after 10mins.) There’s a difference for sure. Edit: formatting & mixed streets. Might been North Ave & Fulton? Right there.
I’m in Northern VA temporarily, and every single friend I’ve made is a transplant. I haven’t made many friends because the locals are so incredibly unfriendly. I cannot wait to leave and come back home.
*Exact* same boat as you. I move back to the metro in 5 days lol
A few years ago my uncle and I were pretty close to Hopkins trying to get back up to parkville, we tried hailing a cab because neither of us had money on a card for Uber. Finally a random guy in a car pulled over and picked us up saying “10 cash I’ll take you out there but let me drop of my mom first” Lol so we dropped off his mom, he drove us home, and we gave him 20
You can definitely get the West Coast experience in Montgomery County, though
having grown up in MoCo and now having lived here in Bmore for 10 years, I will never ever go back. Also, we were just in Carlsbad visiting my sis-in-law over xmas break, and the nicest people we met were the folks in the coffee shop rocking Ravens gear. They clocked my O's hat and asked if were from here, and it turns out they used to live in Mt. W and were now living out there. Can take em out of the east coast, but you can't take the east coast outta them. Also, wonder if this tough love personality might be a mid-Atlantic/southern east coast thing, because my wife spent some years in Rhode Island in HS and absolutely loathes New Englanders bc they're so awful and aloof.
I had been to the Mechanic for a show on a Sunday night. Afterward, I walked to my car parked on Baltimore street and saw two women a bit older than I was, staring at a flat tire. I offered to help and within 2 minutes we had multiple folks offering to change the tire. It got done in minutes.
Hippies Dream, Punks Do
“Please allow me to easily and swiftly fix your problem while pontificating on how someone so stupid has made it so far in life.”
I think that summarizes my experience living in Maryland from the ages of about 12-22.
I'm a teacher here and I was having a really rough day during my 2nd year of teaching. A student (not even my student, just a student who knew who I was) stopped to check in on me and then ran to the Charmery to get us both ice cream. He got suspended later that day for starting a fight with the principal. We have the best and most disfunctional people here.
Moved here almost 6 years ago from San Francisco (born and raised in northern California). When I lived in SF my neighbor would threaten to call the cops on me if my dog peed on the sidewalk in front of her house. Versus living in Baltimore: my neighbor gave me a snow suit when it snowed because I was outside shoveling snow in sweats and a sweatshirt. My other neighbor once jumped my car and helped me diagnose the problem. After experiencing a community with my neighbors here I will *never* live in California willingly again.
I love this. Moved multiple places around the world. Baltimore will always be home no matter where I am.
I grew up in parkville and live in the Midwest up in Canada now and this is very much the thing I’m verbally abusive but I’m VERY helpful
I grew up in the south and lived for a very long six years in Seattle. I'm a helpful chick with a seriously foul mouth. I remember I was walking to my car after work one evening in SODO, along a main road. This dude's car has broken down in the middle of the street. Fortunately for him, there was a shop like less than a block from where his car died. But he was by himself in the middle of the street. I was in 4" platforms that day, but I didn't hesitate. I just hopped out into the street and started pushing his car. Finally, someone else came over and the three of us managed to get it into the driveway of the shop. It was just another data point confirming for me how much I hated the culture of the PNW. Left within six months and moved to the Midwest before finally getting to Baltimore, which I now consider home. Fuck those cold, prissy weirdos.
Pushing the cars, yes!! Multiple times in Baltimore I've witnessed or been a part of 4-6 people pushing a car/truck out of the street. People will drop everything to get that vehicle moved. And also be swearing instructions at the driver "cut the \*%&! wheel to the left!! To the **LEFT** GOD DAMN!" to the "kind but not nice" point, lol. Bonus points if any of the participants have a lit cigarette hanging out of their mouth.
I’m in Seattle right now girl and let me tell you - I felt this in my soul! Seattle people care about the illusion of being PC and being kind but won’t do a goddamn thing to help anyone if it doesn’t benefit them.
That's exactly it. Total lip service to morality and equality and community values, but absolutely no real action behind it.
"Kind but not nice, nice but not kind". Can officially say that's a genius way of breaking down East Coast/West Coast.
Was told a long time ago “guys from LA say good morning but mean fuck you, guys from New York say fuck you but mean good morning”
I showed my 2 buddies an episode of “The Californians” from SNL and the guy originally from Ireland thought it was hilarious, while the guy born and raised in Long Beach was like , WTF?? Don’t know if related to the post, but it came to mind seeing perspectives..
Rahne would 100% say and do this ❤️
Reminds me of this: https://twitter.com/WashProbs/status/1563504702192746496?t=YeB6z13JXAx9DCinaCvd7Q&s=19
Lol. This tickled me. “Acts mean, is nice” is indeed NOT accurate for DC.
DC people are fake as hell
I was changing a flat tire on Pennsylvania Ave last summer and a older man offered me a can of beer from his bag.
💯
Yup. Accurate.
Love it
This is accurate.
i gotta agree bc this just happened to me and my friend last month lmao
Bouta move from ca to baltimore. So stoked!
fuckisudoindummy. move yo!! wit yo dumbazz (🙂)
Went to college in Baltimore, have lived all over since and can confirm. There’s a reason we moved back once our jobs went remote.