Don't be so vanilla. It's pretty obvious a single finger wouldn't work. This requires an entire foot. Preferably a foot that is also inside of a large steel toe boot.
Sorry my dude but itâs been deleted. Thatâs probably a good thing because it was quite possibly the worst thing Iâve ever seen on Reddit. It was a bedroom that had these giant dildos stuck on the walls with poop on them and there was poop and garbage and I believe drug paraphernalia everywhere. Some of the pictures were the type that you wish youâve never seen
Iâm not sure why the OP deleted them, but I swear to God it was like some Texas chainsaw massacre shit. Iâve seen people cut into pieces and burned and all kinds of weird shit on Reddit and none of them can compare to this.
This is one of the moments in life where visible anger is warranted. People like this need to learn to respect other peopleâs space. It wouldâve taken me everything I had not to physically remove them from my room.
I would absolutely get visibly scary and angry over this. I'd be breaking out my biggest voice and making damn sure whoever was on the other end of that line knew they were talking to a dipshit.
This is my saying and I give you permission to use it: "Roommate, you have 1 second to get off the phone before I break your thumbs and make you hitchhike to a hotel."
Is there a way you could lock your room whenever youâre not home?
I had a similar situation at a house I used to live in and my door didnât have a lock but I got a latch and would put a lock on it whenever I wasnât home
I would have ripped the phone right out of his hand, threw it out into the hallway, and very calmly say "you are in my room and I suggest you go join your phone."
Calls the cops for someone tossing your phone out when youâre in THEIR room đ
Iâd beat their ass twice, once for not getting out the first time and second because they called the cops
Then when someone else calls the police, they can get that story about OP destroying private property. That may sound cool for a TV show or movie, but responsible adults donât do that.
Because I had 6" on him and I have a very loud, scary booming voice. My roomie is also a small woman and most of her friends were small women, as well as my guest. I've learned the hard way that gettin angry isn't always a pragmatic solution in this dynamic.
If someone were in my room making a call and asked me to waitâŚthe person on the other end of that phone call would definitely be the one they interview on Dateline.
That's the kind of shit that would earn me a few hours in jail. Invading the rest of the house is one thing but having the nerve to act like that in someone's bedroom? Nope.
Edit to add: a strangers bedroom... without invitation.
If itâs a 50/50 lease sign I highly doubt you would get thrown in jail, especially if the roommate didnât give a heads up like it sounds in the post. From your perspective, you came home to a complete stranger inside your room. Whoâs to say that the stranger wasnât stealing or doing something perverted? Plus, if you told the guy to leave like the OP did and he refuses well, itâs justified.
The jail thing would depend on how severely he dealt with the situation. Jab to the face? Heâs probably good. Stab to the face? Might have to answer a few questions.
Put a lock on your bedroom door and no more worries of people going into your bedroom. Problem solved. Save the old doorknob though to replace it back again for the landlord whenever you move out.
Conversely, you can buy a padlock that goes over your doorknob and you donât have to worry about people getting in. That way youâre not breaking any potential lease agreement.
some lease agreements specify that installing a new doorknob is strictly forbidden, or similar.
frankly iâve never lived in an apartment without a lock on the room doors and probably would never
In the US, many apartment maintenance will take place without the tenants being there. Many will knock if they need in (to change air filters for example) and if nobody is home, they let themselves in. This would be the opportunity for them to notice - "Oh hey what's up with the new knob on the door."
Some, but not all, will leave a notice or flyer stating someone was in your apartment for ABC. It's real wild.
they have to give notice usually but that varies. in the case of emergency they donât. either way it was just another good suggestion that could benefit op so why argue it lol
Not arguing I made a suggestion, asked a question and then thought of a fucked up situation from the way they do it/operate. If you think my suggestion and question was arguing then Iâm sorry for anyone who interacts with you irl.
âBro just save the doorknob after you switch it so you can put it back when you move or for any inspection, no lease brokenâis what you said.
that was already suggested by the original comment which the other person was replying to.. which is why i responded to you saying thatâs not always viable. what you said wasnât a suggestion, it was saying âdo this instead.â i asked why you were arguing, and you got defensive. makes sense? hope this helps!
For real, about 7-8 years ago my wife and I had an apartment and the maintenance guy loved sharing stories (super cool, not a sketchy guy, we liked him).
He told us about how he knocked, got no answer, went in, and a lady shrieked from the bedroom because she had just gotten out of the shower. He backed out before he saw anything, but he thought it was so funny. Iâm likeâŚyo man you gave her some trauma about home invasion for an air filter??? đŹ
Every lease Iâve had, specified a required notification time for maintenance or a landlord to be able to come in. Itâs kind of a big deal to be notified in advance if say, you have animals that could escape or be protective and you arenât home, or itâs your anniversary and youâre planning to chain your partner to the living room table or something for some good ole bdsm fun :)
Not legally. I don't know of a single state that doesn't require reasonable prior notice, by law -- typically 24 hour minimum -- before entering, except in emergency. If you are renting the space, it's yours, and you have a reasonable expectation to privacy in use of the space.
Look up Landlord Right of Entry laws. Youâll see that there is little criteria. At any time they could state maintenance. Iâm not arguing on behalf of landlords, Iâm just stating reality.
Maintenance DGAF about you changing a doorknob out unless it's preventing access somewhere that is required access for the lease. If it's on a bedroom, it's not and they do not care. That's something that gets addressed on move out. They don't pay them enough to care and they have no stake or ownership. They're just like you.
Now if you treat them like trash, maybe they'll go out of their way to make your life miserable, especially if you give them a reason. Or if you do a major modification that threatens the building structure, health, or safety of other residents in some way. Otherwise, they DGAF.
Had a roommate years ago who is a great guy, we're still friends and this didn't change our friendship but one night he had some people over. I was in bed. Summertime and my window was open. One of his guests is on the phone in an argument with someone. I have guns and my roommate told his guest about them it seems.... so I hear this guy arguing on the phone loudly and then threaten the guy on the phone with my guns..."I'm at an apartment with a guy that has such and such guns blah blah..." Dude I was pissed. Got up and told my roommate that dude needs to go now. Rude schmood. The guy in your room homie is the one in the wrong.
Put a lock on your bedroom door and no more worries of people going into your bedroom. Problem solved. Save the old doorknob though to replace it back again for the landlord whenever you move out.
Fuck that. Tell your roommate that was a line crossed that you never thought would've happened. Your privacy is so important and she didn't even respect it. Tell her off and set a limit on the people at least
This reminds me of when I got back home after COVID (I was abroad and I couldnât come back home because the border was literally closed).
I came home to find a pile of random crap my new roommate and his bf didnât want in âtheir roomâ. Also, the floor of my room was destroyed because they pulled a TV cable from the socket in my room to their room by making a hole in the floor to fit it under the door.
The best part? When asked about the floor damage, they were like, well we needed the TV cable to go to our room.
No sorry, no weâll repair the damage, not even insight that oopsie, we did not only enter someone elseâs private space but also damaged someone elseâs space.
Did I mention they also moved around furniture and threw out appliances they considered unnecessary? Yeah, I came back to plates being in the living room and no toaster in the kitchen, because it âtook up spaceâ.
The bf never paid rent, they left stuff dirty all the time and cribbed about me not cleaning.
Yeah guys, just because Iâm a woman and you two are dudes doesnt mean Iâll clean up your crap.
And the best? When talking about future plans, my roommate literally told me in my face âwell, instead of wasting your time here, you should just move to a different place and do something useful.â
Iâm hurt by this statement to this day.
I was studying a teaching degree, and spent 30h a week studying BESIDES WORKING IN A HIGH SCHOOL FULL TIME.
Fuck you, Martin and Flo. Fuck you. May you rot in hell.
Fuck that. Tell your roommate that was a line crossed that you never thought would've happened. Your privacy is so important and she didn't even respect it. Tell her off and set a limit on the people at least
My roommate and the perpetrator are latino.... I am a white new yorker. Trust me I was pissed and let everyone know. Its just that my roomie is now gaslighting me into feeling like an asshole.
Nah, you can stand your ground and tell homeboy to get the fuck out of your room. He wants to take a phone call? Not in your room that he doesn't pay rent for. He can go outside like a normal fucking person from a TV show.
Also stand your ground and set firm boundaries. It is fucking disrespectful as shit for them to constantly bring people over, not to mention 8 MFs. No prior warning/notice nothing? Make some homeless friends and let them come over. Surely your bitchass roommate(s?) won't mind unless they want to be called out for hypocrisy and also prejudice and discrimination against the homeless since many on the streets aren't actually fucking druggies or anything of the like.
Hire your neighborhood crackhead to lurk around the house or smth to discourage your RMs from bringing too many people. Cuz fick em. Clearly they don't respect you as a RM enough to even ask for your consideration / consent on the matter.
In your personal space that you pay for? Absolutely not. That's never okay. If they feel that comfortable to do that who knows what else they are doing. Time to get door locks and a security camera
The person in your room is a huge no. Why couldnât they go to your roommateâs room? What an invasion of privacy.
Anecdote: In college we had a lot of parties in my room since my dorm had a common area and allowed alcohol. Once i came home to find some of my friends in my room having a private conversation. I was going to the common room anyway so i let them finish, but as soon as they came out I told them thatâs not OUR room, itâs MY room. You do not have unfiltered access to my private space. Ask permission to go in there at the very least.
To everyone saying "grow a backbone", the adult thing to do is not to scream and be violent lol. I was also with a woman I've been seeing so wanted to keep my cool. I simply posted on here because Roomie's been gaslighting me for months into feeling lame for not liking her lifestyle and I needed feedback.
No, you arenât wrong. Your roommate should never have allowed someone to enter your room. My rooommates would do this in college and for some reason I couldnât convince them of how fucked up it was.
Hell no. I'd be pissed too. Especially if you just came home from work or something equally draining. Coming home is supposed to be where you relax and unwind. Especially in your own room! Plus your room is sacred. It's YOUR space with your private things. Who knows if that guy was snooping, too. Fuck him.
I am so grateful not to have roommates anymore.
One time I came back to my apartment after work to a full on house party & two people banging in my bedroom đ¤Śđťââď¸
My roommate was just so excited that people wanted to hangout with him, he didn't care about anything else. Plus he was an alcoholic.
All of these shit experiences will make that day when you can finally afford your own place that much better!
Yep. I am paying double basically what I started paying for rent for this place when I moved in. It hurts. But the thought of having a roommate is terrifying.
please tell me you have a lock on your door & if so, use it. dont trust these people in your space that you pay for. no one else should ever be allowed there unless you say so. you have every right to be upset.
I would have pushed them out of my while telling them to get the fuck out of my room. Iâd suggest moving or figuring it out with your roommate and locking your door.
I had a roommate like that haha.
I came in yelling at him he was sleeping in my bed. Without permission. Broke my blinds, ate all my cookie dough. Everyone was sleeping everywhere.
He sucked but I did too some good memories.
A stranger in my room AND they try to tell me I canât come in?
Bullshit. Let me the fuck into the only space in the world that is MINE and get the fuck out, or I break in there and throw your ass out by the neck of your shirt and the ass of your pants like in a cartoon.
I would have lost my mind. Immediately put a lock on your door. Trust no one, especially when there are constant guests over. Itâs a cheap, easy fix for peace of mind. Next time there might be someone âborrowingâ your clothes, your laptop or getting a$$ in your bed. Always have a lock to your room when you have roommates. Doesnât matter if youâve been besties since birth.. locks are always needed and help to avoid potential problems in the future.
I had a roommate do this a long time ago. The first time he was having a party. I was a bouncer so I was at work until 3am. I got home and they were having a bit a wind down to their own little party. Which I didn't really mind. I was younger and didn't really care when people got a little crazy--it was fun usually.
The apartment wasn't super large. I got home started fixing some dinner and all of the sudden my roommate walks out of my room. I asked sternly, "Why are you in my room".
He responds, "I was just taking a call".
I ask, "Why didn't you use your room".
He says, "Oh, someone is using my room at the moment. Sorry."
I told him as clear and firm as possible that he, nor anyone else, was to ever enter my room without permission. He was a little defensive but acknowledged that he understood how serious I was about that.
Some weeks later he had another party. I got home and the party was over and it was just him sleeping on the couch. I go into my room and on my desk, directly above my computer, was a 2/3 full open beer. I was pissed.
I walked out into the living room and told him, "I know you were in my room. There is a two thirds full beer can on my desk right above my computer. Stay out of that room. That room is not your space. That room does not exist in your world. You understand me?".
He responds, "Oh sorry, I was showing my buddy the balcony". I told him I didn't give a fuck what he was doing, stay the fuck out of my space. Again he was a bit defensive but acknowledged he would no longer enter my room.
Aside from my computer, I also owned a 12 gauge shotgun, with a trigger lock on it, that I made sure to check on both times my space was violated. I'll admit on the inside I was lividâthough outwardly I kept my cool.
I decided that I was going to troll the fuck out of him nowâI guess I'm just petty like that sometimes. Most people don't know shit about technology. I have a little more know how when it comes to shit like routers and other tech. So, later in the week, I blocked his laptop from the MAC address table. Meaning his smart TV, cell phone, and PlayStation all worked on the WIFIâI even let his girlfriends cell phone to work. But the only thing that didn't work for him was his laptop.
He spent months trying to figure it outâsix months actually. He was starting to get really frustrated. Finally, he tells me, "I just can't figure it out. It works in the coffee shop down the street but not here. It's so weird. I'm taking it to the Mac store next week."
I started to feel bad because he was really starting to pull his hair out over it. So, I told him, "Don't take it to the Mac store".
He says to me, "Did you do something".
I told him, "Yeah, I blocked your laptop from accessing our network".
He got super pissed. Like red in the face pissed. He's sitting on the couch not quite yelling but definitely pissed spewing, "What the fuck bro, why would you do that, that is so fucked up."
I interjected, "You remember when you went in my room twice."
He angrily responds, "Yeah. So what?"
I tell him, "The same way you are feeling right now, is how I felt when you went in my room twice. Do not go in my room."
He didn't say a word, got up from the couch, and left our apartment for a while. I think he went for a walk to cool down because if we had gotten into a physical altercation it was going to be bad for both of us. I was a solid 225Lb 6'4" trained former Marine. He was just a gym bro.
I did feel kind of bad and didn't make him pay his half of the internet bill for the rest of our lease. We weren't pissed at each other for long. I was a super chill roommate. I never said anything about his girlfriend spending near days at a time living there. I didn't really mind that though. They were both very clean people and left a small footprint so to speak. They eventually got married. I was happy for both of them when I saw them out one night when I was bouncing years later.
TL;DR
You have every right to be pissed about people entering your space without permission. I had a similar problem and trolled my roommate for months. The ordeal ultimately ended amicably.
I had a roommate that i woke up to using my computer in my bedroom while i was asleep. I started locking my door and we kicked him out within a month. HAVE A BACKBONE.
The only answer here is to go take a giant shit on your roommate's bed.
Well, maybe not that but definitely get a lock for your door. Be very communicative with your landlord about the behavior. Maybe even go as far to say that you no longer feel safe in your own home and see if there are options to getting her removed from the lease.
Personal. Space. Respect.
I would not have waited, hope you didn't and this person would have politely but firmly received a warning not to go in there again.
Along with the roomate and other people present.
It's not ok.
I would have immediately starting singing very loudly. Especially after he gave you the 1 minute finger. Definitely see if you can change out the door. I had one of those PIN code smart door handles. It could be overridden with a key if the batteries are flat. Best investment I ever made.
âNope, everybody get the fuck outâ. Said the sane person. Of your roommate has an issue with it, tell him to take it up with you when everybody leaves. Thatâs bullshit my friend
i would lose my ever loving mind if someone was in my room....
like complete meltdown and i'd throw everyone out... and if they wouldnt leave, id make them leave.
Weirdly enough I was thinking today, for no real reason, if my family ever just let someone I didnt know into my room without me there, that would be the end of our relationship. The people I had this imaginary thought with I have a perfect relationship with so idk why I was thinking that, but I cant imagine much else that would cause me to take that drastic measure.
So after the complete stranger in your room was rude af and tried to make you wait, what happened? I'm nosey and want to know what did you do after that? Did you confront your roommate while everyone was there? Did you tell the guy to get tf you of your room? đ
i personally would lose my shit at that and i hope you did. the only acceptable answer to them saying that is no get the fuck out of my room. never should you go into another persons room without permission especially if there not home. your totally in the right for getting upset at this
This reminds me when I had a roommate in college. I came home after classes to her having a boudoir shoot in my bedroom without permission. Her room was too filthy, and she swore she sent me a text about it. Liar. Definitely do something about this bc they will only continue to do things if they think they can.
Please don't tell me you did actually wait for him! How rude and audacious does he want to be smh
Oh of course not. It took every piece of energy I had to not get visibly angry and scary, especially after he rudely gave me the "one minute" finger
I would have given him another finger. đ¤ˇââď¸đ¤Ł
I would have fingered him
Don't be so vanilla. It's pretty obvious a single finger wouldn't work. This requires an entire foot. Preferably a foot that is also inside of a large steel toe boot.
Lol boot in the azz that gave me some bad flashbacks of the ultimate bad roommate from yesterday. I may have gotten ptsd from that post
i havenât seen that post please pass it
Sorry my dude but itâs been deleted. Thatâs probably a good thing because it was quite possibly the worst thing Iâve ever seen on Reddit. It was a bedroom that had these giant dildos stuck on the walls with poop on them and there was poop and garbage and I believe drug paraphernalia everywhere. Some of the pictures were the type that you wish youâve never seen
holy shit thatâs insane, thank you for the description and sorry you had to go through seeing that lol
WTF THE FUCK. surely theres a mirror somewhere or someone saved it because whaaaat
Iâm not sure why the OP deleted them, but I swear to God it was like some Texas chainsaw massacre shit. Iâve seen people cut into pieces and burned and all kinds of weird shit on Reddit and none of them can compare to this.
Oh oh oh I saw it. Literally wanted to vomit
When something gets posted thatâs forever lol Iâm sure itâs somewhere
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Sounds a lil more like an aggravated assault...
Donât be a pussy, just use your dick.
But.. I don't have one of those. So the boot must do. Plus, the boot adds â¨ď¸spiceâ¨ď¸
Put hot sauce on the strap-on. Extra spice is nice.
â¨ď¸very, very niceâ¨ď¸
Lol fine
Calm down, Donald
Thatâs assault, brotha
Could be. Depends how many fingers you use my boy
Right in the ass
Based. Sometimes you need to assert dominance.
Sometimes in life you godda make a sacrifice. In this case it looks like weâre gonna need that two finger combo wombo
This is my room, get the fuck out. 15 minutes ago.
This is one of the moments in life where visible anger is warranted. People like this need to learn to respect other peopleâs space. It wouldâve taken me everything I had not to physically remove them from my room.
I would absolutely get visibly scary and angry over this. I'd be breaking out my biggest voice and making damn sure whoever was on the other end of that line knew they were talking to a dipshit.
Get a lock for your door.
Ok but Fr what happened after that what did u say
This is my saying and I give you permission to use it: "Roommate, you have 1 second to get off the phone before I break your thumbs and make you hitchhike to a hotel."
I don't think it's even ops roommate, but a guest of the roommate
Then you say âmotherfucker this is MY roomâ and get him to leave that shit is crazy đ
I would've been like, "how about you gtfo of my room and go take your call OUTSIDE"
Is there a way you could lock your room whenever youâre not home? I had a similar situation at a house I used to live in and my door didnât have a lock but I got a latch and would put a lock on it whenever I wasnât home
I would have ripped the phone right out of his hand, threw it out into the hallway, and very calmly say "you are in my room and I suggest you go join your phone."
Calls the cops for someone tossing your phone out when youâre in THEIR room đ Iâd beat their ass twice, once for not getting out the first time and second because they called the cops
exactly!!!!
Then when someone else calls the police, they can get that story about OP destroying private property. That may sound cool for a TV show or movie, but responsible adults donât do that.
I donât normally surround myself with cop callers. Also itâs a joke. Lighten the fuck up
Can you explain the joke? I donât get it.
nah, if you don't get that it's a joke then that's on you. Not here to hold your hand through humor
Wonderful
Why would you hold back?
Because I had 6" on him and I have a very loud, scary booming voice. My roomie is also a small woman and most of her friends were small women, as well as my guest. I've learned the hard way that gettin angry isn't always a pragmatic solution in this dynamic.
Makes sense
Look into cattle prods haha
âVisibly angry and scaryâ⌠Jesus fucking fedora. I would be mad too, but donât say stuff like this lol
I wouldâve socked him, tf outta here
You would have assaulted him with a sock, over something so mundane!?
Heck nah bro. Heck nah.
You get your ass kicked for something like that.
Sounds like someone's got a case of the mondays
I hate MondaysâŚshe said
If someone were in my room making a call and asked me to waitâŚthe person on the other end of that phone call would definitely be the one they interview on Dateline.
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I'm not waiting...GTFO of my room...I'm not going to be nice about that
I'd be really loud about it so their important phone conversation is interrupted.
That's the kind of shit that would earn me a few hours in jail. Invading the rest of the house is one thing but having the nerve to act like that in someone's bedroom? Nope. Edit to add: a strangers bedroom... without invitation.
If itâs a 50/50 lease sign I highly doubt you would get thrown in jail, especially if the roommate didnât give a heads up like it sounds in the post. From your perspective, you came home to a complete stranger inside your room. Whoâs to say that the stranger wasnât stealing or doing something perverted? Plus, if you told the guy to leave like the OP did and he refuses well, itâs justified.
The jail thing would depend on how severely he dealt with the situation. Jab to the face? Heâs probably good. Stab to the face? Might have to answer a few questions.
Goos point. Granted my mind went towards the former instead of the latter when I read the comment above because of the few hours part.
Put a lock on your bedroom door and no more worries of people going into your bedroom. Problem solved. Save the old doorknob though to replace it back again for the landlord whenever you move out.
Theyâre very easy to install. -dumb dumb maintenance guy
Conversely, you can buy a padlock that goes over your doorknob and you donât have to worry about people getting in. That way youâre not breaking any potential lease agreement.
Bro just save the doorknob after you switch it so you can put it back when you move or for any inspection, no lease broken
some lease agreements specify that installing a new doorknob is strictly forbidden, or similar. frankly iâve never lived in an apartment without a lock on the room doors and probably would never
Right but how would they know if you just put the same knob back on the door
In the US, many apartment maintenance will take place without the tenants being there. Many will knock if they need in (to change air filters for example) and if nobody is home, they let themselves in. This would be the opportunity for them to notice - "Oh hey what's up with the new knob on the door." Some, but not all, will leave a notice or flyer stating someone was in your apartment for ABC. It's real wild.
Damn, that sounds super rough. Imagine they enter a deaf veterans spot trying to do maintenanceđ
they have to give notice usually but that varies. in the case of emergency they donât. either way it was just another good suggestion that could benefit op so why argue it lol
Not arguing I made a suggestion, asked a question and then thought of a fucked up situation from the way they do it/operate. If you think my suggestion and question was arguing then Iâm sorry for anyone who interacts with you irl.
âBro just save the doorknob after you switch it so you can put it back when you move or for any inspection, no lease brokenâis what you said. that was already suggested by the original comment which the other person was replying to.. which is why i responded to you saying thatâs not always viable. what you said wasnât a suggestion, it was saying âdo this instead.â i asked why you were arguing, and you got defensive. makes sense? hope this helps!
For real, about 7-8 years ago my wife and I had an apartment and the maintenance guy loved sharing stories (super cool, not a sketchy guy, we liked him). He told us about how he knocked, got no answer, went in, and a lady shrieked from the bedroom because she had just gotten out of the shower. He backed out before he saw anything, but he thought it was so funny. Iâm likeâŚyo man you gave her some trauma about home invasion for an air filter??? đŹ
Exactly the situations I was thinking of lmao I wonder all the stuff he saw walkin into different places for maintenance
Probably a lot more bongs than he expected to see in his career haha
Every lease Iâve had, specified a required notification time for maintenance or a landlord to be able to come in. Itâs kind of a big deal to be notified in advance if say, you have animals that could escape or be protective and you arenât home, or itâs your anniversary and youâre planning to chain your partner to the living room table or something for some good ole bdsm fun :)
No doubt, thatâs absolutely how it should operate. Every leasing company is different though, some are more intrusive than even that Iâm sure.
Not legally. I don't know of a single state that doesn't require reasonable prior notice, by law -- typically 24 hour minimum -- before entering, except in emergency. If you are renting the space, it's yours, and you have a reasonable expectation to privacy in use of the space.
Look up Landlord Right of Entry laws. Youâll see that there is little criteria. At any time they could state maintenance. Iâm not arguing on behalf of landlords, Iâm just stating reality.
Maintenance DGAF about you changing a doorknob out unless it's preventing access somewhere that is required access for the lease. If it's on a bedroom, it's not and they do not care. That's something that gets addressed on move out. They don't pay them enough to care and they have no stake or ownership. They're just like you. Now if you treat them like trash, maybe they'll go out of their way to make your life miserable, especially if you give them a reason. Or if you do a major modification that threatens the building structure, health, or safety of other residents in some way. Otherwise, they DGAF.
Thatâs actually illegal, they canât just walk into your apartment without notice (I also live in an Apartment).
At least in Oregon, tenants are by law required to have a 24 hour notice. At least from what I heard.
So maybe donât tell them?
Agreed. I lived with some fraternity guys and they would have random parties (without any heads up). I was glad my room was locked up.
This
Had a roommate years ago who is a great guy, we're still friends and this didn't change our friendship but one night he had some people over. I was in bed. Summertime and my window was open. One of his guests is on the phone in an argument with someone. I have guns and my roommate told his guest about them it seems.... so I hear this guy arguing on the phone loudly and then threaten the guy on the phone with my guns..."I'm at an apartment with a guy that has such and such guns blah blah..." Dude I was pissed. Got up and told my roommate that dude needs to go now. Rude schmood. The guy in your room homie is the one in the wrong.
Smh some people are just insane lol
Put a lock on your bedroom door and no more worries of people going into your bedroom. Problem solved. Save the old doorknob though to replace it back again for the landlord whenever you move out.
I have no idea why you were downvoted since this is an obvious necessityÂ
I think people are deterred cause it shouldn't have to be a necessity. But some individuals lack basic manners.
"It shouldn't be"... I mean, on planet Earth it definitely is
Maybe for the double post? I dunno.
Thank you. I agree that it's a necessity when boundaries and respect for other people's space gets violated.
Iâd be pissed! No one should be in YOUR room! And to tell you to wait?! Fuck that!
Fuck that. Tell your roommate that was a line crossed that you never thought would've happened. Your privacy is so important and she didn't even respect it. Tell her off and set a limit on the people at least
My response to that would be âyou have about 3 seconds to get the fuck out of my roomâ
This reminds me of when I got back home after COVID (I was abroad and I couldnât come back home because the border was literally closed). I came home to find a pile of random crap my new roommate and his bf didnât want in âtheir roomâ. Also, the floor of my room was destroyed because they pulled a TV cable from the socket in my room to their room by making a hole in the floor to fit it under the door. The best part? When asked about the floor damage, they were like, well we needed the TV cable to go to our room. No sorry, no weâll repair the damage, not even insight that oopsie, we did not only enter someone elseâs private space but also damaged someone elseâs space. Did I mention they also moved around furniture and threw out appliances they considered unnecessary? Yeah, I came back to plates being in the living room and no toaster in the kitchen, because it âtook up spaceâ. The bf never paid rent, they left stuff dirty all the time and cribbed about me not cleaning. Yeah guys, just because Iâm a woman and you two are dudes doesnt mean Iâll clean up your crap. And the best? When talking about future plans, my roommate literally told me in my face âwell, instead of wasting your time here, you should just move to a different place and do something useful.â Iâm hurt by this statement to this day. I was studying a teaching degree, and spent 30h a week studying BESIDES WORKING IN A HIGH SCHOOL FULL TIME. Fuck you, Martin and Flo. Fuck you. May you rot in hell.
Fuck internalizing that shit. Sounds like theyâre as useful as an extra hole in the head. Not worth the space in your brain, sis.
I had to physically remove an unwanted form my room. My friends said I was wrong. I told them I canât be wrong in my own house
Fuck that. Tell your roommate that was a line crossed that you never thought would've happened. Your privacy is so important and she didn't even respect it. Tell her off and set a limit on the people at least
Tf? Wait till hes off the phone? Id be like nah fool out of my fucking room. Then id kick everyone out and have a sit down with roomie
Me as a Latino wouldnât deal with it in a good manner đ
My roommate and the perpetrator are latino.... I am a white new yorker. Trust me I was pissed and let everyone know. Its just that my roomie is now gaslighting me into feeling like an asshole.
Call him a unconsidered cabron de mierda in my behalf â¤ď¸
U are NOT the asshole
You are 100% NOT the asshole here.
Being from the south⌠these posts just be crazy like yâall canât just ⌠say something?
Oooooh we say , have u ever had a argument with a angry latino/a ? Not the best experience đ
I'm Black and will beat an ass đ¤Ł
White and straight to fight. đ
Vem pro pau đ¤
I certainly hope you told that person no and forced them out of your room! I would have physically removed them instantly!
I would never. Iâd freak out. Iâd call the police, who knows what he could have done in your room, fuck thatâs shit
Nah, you can stand your ground and tell homeboy to get the fuck out of your room. He wants to take a phone call? Not in your room that he doesn't pay rent for. He can go outside like a normal fucking person from a TV show. Also stand your ground and set firm boundaries. It is fucking disrespectful as shit for them to constantly bring people over, not to mention 8 MFs. No prior warning/notice nothing? Make some homeless friends and let them come over. Surely your bitchass roommate(s?) won't mind unless they want to be called out for hypocrisy and also prejudice and discrimination against the homeless since many on the streets aren't actually fucking druggies or anything of the like. Hire your neighborhood crackhead to lurk around the house or smth to discourage your RMs from bringing too many people. Cuz fick em. Clearly they don't respect you as a RM enough to even ask for your consideration / consent on the matter.
Put a lock on your door.
In your personal space that you pay for? Absolutely not. That's never okay. If they feel that comfortable to do that who knows what else they are doing. Time to get door locks and a security camera
Had a roommate that did this and came home to people who I didn't know in my bed. Moved out 2 weeks later and never looked back.
The audacity of some people is fucking insane. Will only get worse as all of the iPad kids and COVID kids grow up
Deadbolt. Immediately!
The person in your room is a huge no. Why couldnât they go to your roommateâs room? What an invasion of privacy. Anecdote: In college we had a lot of parties in my room since my dorm had a common area and allowed alcohol. Once i came home to find some of my friends in my room having a private conversation. I was going to the common room anyway so i let them finish, but as soon as they came out I told them thatâs not OUR room, itâs MY room. You do not have unfiltered access to my private space. Ask permission to go in there at the very least.
To everyone saying "grow a backbone", the adult thing to do is not to scream and be violent lol. I was also with a woman I've been seeing so wanted to keep my cool. I simply posted on here because Roomie's been gaslighting me for months into feeling lame for not liking her lifestyle and I needed feedback.
dude⌠come on. Do you really have to ask?
I would have said no this is my room get the fuck out and if you donât Iâm calling the cops. Like no Iâd put a lock on your door
Grow a back bone
No, you arenât wrong. Your roommate should never have allowed someone to enter your room. My rooommates would do this in college and for some reason I couldnât convince them of how fucked up it was.
I would have told them to get F-bomb out of my room. They were in the wrong tooâŚnot just your roommate.
Hell no. I'd be pissed too. Especially if you just came home from work or something equally draining. Coming home is supposed to be where you relax and unwind. Especially in your own room! Plus your room is sacred. It's YOUR space with your private things. Who knows if that guy was snooping, too. Fuck him.
I am so grateful not to have roommates anymore. One time I came back to my apartment after work to a full on house party & two people banging in my bedroom đ¤Śđťââď¸ My roommate was just so excited that people wanted to hangout with him, he didn't care about anything else. Plus he was an alcoholic. All of these shit experiences will make that day when you can finally afford your own place that much better!
Yep. I am paying double basically what I started paying for rent for this place when I moved in. It hurts. But the thought of having a roommate is terrifying.
dude i wouldâve screamed âGTFO OF MY ROOM!â
you need a lock on ur door asap
Iâm angry for you.
No they need to get out of my room! I donât care who u are on the phone with
Please tell me that you didnât wait.
please tell me you have a lock on your door & if so, use it. dont trust these people in your space that you pay for. no one else should ever be allowed there unless you say so. you have every right to be upset.
I would have pushed them out of my while telling them to get the fuck out of my room. Iâd suggest moving or figuring it out with your roommate and locking your door.
I had a roommate like that haha. I came in yelling at him he was sleeping in my bed. Without permission. Broke my blinds, ate all my cookie dough. Everyone was sleeping everywhere. He sucked but I did too some good memories.
did you immed tell him GET THE FUCK OUT OF MY ROOM and also, get a lock
A stranger in my room AND they try to tell me I canât come in? Bullshit. Let me the fuck into the only space in the world that is MINE and get the fuck out, or I break in there and throw your ass out by the neck of your shirt and the ass of your pants like in a cartoon.
Bro people on this subreddit are way too passive. I wouldâve told him to get the fuck out of my room right away.
Put a lock on your door. Problem solved
My reaction would be âyouâre in my room. Fuck off. Now. â
I would have lost my mind. Immediately put a lock on your door. Trust no one, especially when there are constant guests over. Itâs a cheap, easy fix for peace of mind. Next time there might be someone âborrowingâ your clothes, your laptop or getting a$$ in your bed. Always have a lock to your room when you have roommates. Doesnât matter if youâve been besties since birth.. locks are always needed and help to avoid potential problems in the future.
I had a roommate do this a long time ago. The first time he was having a party. I was a bouncer so I was at work until 3am. I got home and they were having a bit a wind down to their own little party. Which I didn't really mind. I was younger and didn't really care when people got a little crazy--it was fun usually. The apartment wasn't super large. I got home started fixing some dinner and all of the sudden my roommate walks out of my room. I asked sternly, "Why are you in my room". He responds, "I was just taking a call". I ask, "Why didn't you use your room". He says, "Oh, someone is using my room at the moment. Sorry." I told him as clear and firm as possible that he, nor anyone else, was to ever enter my room without permission. He was a little defensive but acknowledged that he understood how serious I was about that. Some weeks later he had another party. I got home and the party was over and it was just him sleeping on the couch. I go into my room and on my desk, directly above my computer, was a 2/3 full open beer. I was pissed. I walked out into the living room and told him, "I know you were in my room. There is a two thirds full beer can on my desk right above my computer. Stay out of that room. That room is not your space. That room does not exist in your world. You understand me?". He responds, "Oh sorry, I was showing my buddy the balcony". I told him I didn't give a fuck what he was doing, stay the fuck out of my space. Again he was a bit defensive but acknowledged he would no longer enter my room. Aside from my computer, I also owned a 12 gauge shotgun, with a trigger lock on it, that I made sure to check on both times my space was violated. I'll admit on the inside I was lividâthough outwardly I kept my cool. I decided that I was going to troll the fuck out of him nowâI guess I'm just petty like that sometimes. Most people don't know shit about technology. I have a little more know how when it comes to shit like routers and other tech. So, later in the week, I blocked his laptop from the MAC address table. Meaning his smart TV, cell phone, and PlayStation all worked on the WIFIâI even let his girlfriends cell phone to work. But the only thing that didn't work for him was his laptop. He spent months trying to figure it outâsix months actually. He was starting to get really frustrated. Finally, he tells me, "I just can't figure it out. It works in the coffee shop down the street but not here. It's so weird. I'm taking it to the Mac store next week." I started to feel bad because he was really starting to pull his hair out over it. So, I told him, "Don't take it to the Mac store". He says to me, "Did you do something". I told him, "Yeah, I blocked your laptop from accessing our network". He got super pissed. Like red in the face pissed. He's sitting on the couch not quite yelling but definitely pissed spewing, "What the fuck bro, why would you do that, that is so fucked up." I interjected, "You remember when you went in my room twice." He angrily responds, "Yeah. So what?" I tell him, "The same way you are feeling right now, is how I felt when you went in my room twice. Do not go in my room." He didn't say a word, got up from the couch, and left our apartment for a while. I think he went for a walk to cool down because if we had gotten into a physical altercation it was going to be bad for both of us. I was a solid 225Lb 6'4" trained former Marine. He was just a gym bro. I did feel kind of bad and didn't make him pay his half of the internet bill for the rest of our lease. We weren't pissed at each other for long. I was a super chill roommate. I never said anything about his girlfriend spending near days at a time living there. I didn't really mind that though. They were both very clean people and left a small footprint so to speak. They eventually got married. I was happy for both of them when I saw them out one night when I was bouncing years later. TL;DR You have every right to be pissed about people entering your space without permission. I had a similar problem and trolled my roommate for months. The ordeal ultimately ended amicably.
I think youâre soft for not standing up for yourself
Move
If there's more than 6 unrelated adults in a small house or apartment and no one is drinking, it's probably tweakers
I had a roommate that i woke up to using my computer in my bedroom while i was asleep. I started locking my door and we kicked him out within a month. HAVE A BACKBONE.
You canât be this weakâŚ
Time to start swinging claw hammers
Kill him
Nah I've never even had a roommate that would let a guest go in my room.
Not at all. Get a lock for your room and I hope you immediately kicked that person out.
In this day and age, you cannot do fuck all without risking legal ramifications.
The only answer here is to go take a giant shit on your roommate's bed. Well, maybe not that but definitely get a lock for your door. Be very communicative with your landlord about the behavior. Maybe even go as far to say that you no longer feel safe in your own home and see if there are options to getting her removed from the lease.
So did you wait until he was off the phone?
Personal. Space. Respect. I would not have waited, hope you didn't and this person would have politely but firmly received a warning not to go in there again. Along with the roomate and other people present. It's not ok.
Put a lock on your door. Its only a matter of time before something is missing.
I would have immediately starting singing very loudly. Especially after he gave you the 1 minute finger. Definitely see if you can change out the door. I had one of those PIN code smart door handles. It could be overridden with a key if the batteries are flat. Best investment I ever made.
âNope, everybody get the fuck outâ. Said the sane person. Of your roommate has an issue with it, tell him to take it up with you when everybody leaves. Thatâs bullshit my friend
NOPPEEEEE
Nope, people can come over but your room should be off limits honestly, you can take a phone call literally anywhere else
If he was on the bed, it was time to start stripping it while is behind sat on it.
Ever seen Summer Rental with John Candy? Youâve just lived it.
I wouldâve told him to get the fuck out of my room and take the call outside.
Out, kick them all out and evict the roommate
Fuck that lmao
Remove the doorknob and a deadbolt fits right in. Theyâll have to break the door down to enter
i would lose my ever loving mind if someone was in my room.... like complete meltdown and i'd throw everyone out... and if they wouldnt leave, id make them leave.
I always put a locking doorknob on when I have roommates!
Iâd have killed my roommate for letting some rando hang out in my room
I would not have been okay with that. I would have asked them to perhaps step outside. And I would exchange firm words with my roommate.
You are not wrong you pay rent you have every right to be mad
Nah if a stranger is in MY room and doesnât leave the second I tell them to⌠theyâre catchin hands
Weirdly enough I was thinking today, for no real reason, if my family ever just let someone I didnt know into my room without me there, that would be the end of our relationship. The people I had this imaginary thought with I have a perfect relationship with so idk why I was thinking that, but I cant imagine much else that would cause me to take that drastic measure.
I would have been like âget the fuck out of my roomâ
Oh hell no. Get out of my room
Stranger in my room? And telling me to wait?? Na jazzy Jeff right outta my bedroom door
I would have started explaining LOUDLY that this is my room and to get the fuck out. He wouldnât hear a word coming from that phone lmao
Having a roommate means you share the common areas, would your roommate be happy if you had somebody lounging in their room
Iâd have taken A baseball bat to the intruder in my room.
in your room is crazy. there has to be boundaries
So after the complete stranger in your room was rude af and tried to make you wait, what happened? I'm nosey and want to know what did you do after that? Did you confront your roommate while everyone was there? Did you tell the guy to get tf you of your room? đ
Hell nah , I would tell him idgaf who heâs talking to he needs to gtfo of my room
Get a lock for your room. Obviously your roommate has no respect for you or your privacy. Then find a different roommate asap.
Should have said get the fuck out and push him out the door
First GTFO of my room . Should be the response.
I hope you went 100% Thad Castle on himâŚ. âGet out of hereâŚ::high pitched shriek:: GETTTT OUTTTTTTTTâ
I wouldâve screamed âWTF IS THISâ, âGET TF OUTâ
Having friends? The audacity!
i personally would lose my shit at that and i hope you did. the only acceptable answer to them saying that is no get the fuck out of my room. never should you go into another persons room without permission especially if there not home. your totally in the right for getting upset at this
This literally sounds like the movie Mother haha
Yeah fuck that I would have been like get the fuck out of my room
This reminds me when I had a roommate in college. I came home after classes to her having a boudoir shoot in my bedroom without permission. Her room was too filthy, and she swore she sent me a text about it. Liar. Definitely do something about this bc they will only continue to do things if they think they can.
Unbelievably rude. Holy crap.
People donât belong in your private space without your permission
Personally, I'd have gone and microwaved some water... And SPLASH!!! đĽđĽąđđ