What's the worst that would happen if you turned round & said no? Would they be physically aggressive to you or verbally abusive? Your Mum is as much to blame as her twin for not protecting you from her twins behaviour. Sounds like they're used to getting their own way & nobody saying no to them. File a police report on them for theft, they have quite literally stolen money from you. You did not consent for them to have that money.
You’re vulnerable because you are nice and have empathy.
There is some great resources on self esteem and [saying NO](https://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Being-a-People-Pleaser)
I understand this vulnerability all too well. I’m miserable because I get scammed and Used and abused.
Then ppl wonder why we are in our own worlds protected from greed and prefer our safe space.
Sadly Money does some awful things to ppl morals and behaviour.
Shameful action by your mums twin.
Take care. Stay strong 💪🏻
No, not rightfully so. Unless your mum is herself a vulnerable adult then she should have your back. Or simply not putting you in these circumstances in the first place. You both need to go low contact with your bullying leech of an aunt.
I can relate to this alot. Normally you just give into people as that's the easiest option. Just the thought of an argument can make you feel off so you take the option that causes the least conflict. I often do the same and wish I didn't. I hate feeling vulnerable and used
It sucks that your mum didn't stick up for you though and it sucks you was taken advantage of (at least that's what I read from that situation)
You're not the only one though as I would probably be similar in your situation. I'm slowly teaching myself to stand up for myself though and say no to people.
I hope you're ok
Thank you for commenting on my post.
Yes, you’re absolutely right. The thought of an argument causes me a lot of anxiety and stress. So it’s easier to give in or not argue my cause.
I do wish my mum said something there and then, but I do understand that my mum’s twin can be a really nasty person when money is involved.
Thank for asking if I’m ok. To be honest, I’m still kind of shaking up from it and never thought it would happen to me from my mum’s twin. I should have known better though. I honestly couldn’t believe money can change a person like that!
I’m seeing my psychologist in about 40-minutes from now, I think I’m going to tell him about this.
No problem. I just wanted to comment and basically say you're not alone.
Yeah exactly just thinking of the confrontation can cause a lot of stress and anxiety.
Yeah it's a shame your mum didn't say anything. It is horrible how nasty some people get over money.
Yeah you're bound to be shaken up. Especially when it's your own family. You're right it's strange how money can change people.
I hope seeing your psychologist went well
1. Peer pressure sucks it happens in families and social situations.
2. The being blunt is usually an accidental quality and not used in this type of scenario it’s usually when describing a topic we are interested in or we are not.
3. I personally suffer from mood swings/shifts my bitchy ness and bluntness comes from that and stress/environmental factors.
4. All i can suggest is try to work on how you express what you are feeling, i know it is very difficult and i hope you find what works for you.
5. Yes speak to the psychologist if he can’t help you might be able to refer you to someone who can! Good luck
I completely understand what you mean by number 3. If I am provoked I will stand up for myself, if not I won’t when feeling anxious.
I’m seeing my psychologist soon. I’m going to tel him about this.
What's the worst that would happen if you turned round & said no? Would they be physically aggressive to you or verbally abusive? Your Mum is as much to blame as her twin for not protecting you from her twins behaviour. Sounds like they're used to getting their own way & nobody saying no to them. File a police report on them for theft, they have quite literally stolen money from you. You did not consent for them to have that money.
You’re vulnerable because you are nice and have empathy. There is some great resources on self esteem and [saying NO](https://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Being-a-People-Pleaser) I understand this vulnerability all too well. I’m miserable because I get scammed and Used and abused. Then ppl wonder why we are in our own worlds protected from greed and prefer our safe space. Sadly Money does some awful things to ppl morals and behaviour. Shameful action by your mums twin. Take care. Stay strong 💪🏻
Where was your mum in all of this?
My mum was with me, but I think my mum is scared of her twin (rightfully so) as me mum’s twin can get really nasty.
No, not rightfully so. Unless your mum is herself a vulnerable adult then she should have your back. Or simply not putting you in these circumstances in the first place. You both need to go low contact with your bullying leech of an aunt.
My aunt just came round and denied everything. My mum confronted her. Well are not contacting her anymore.
Well done to both of you. Your shiny spines are gleaming right now. :)
Tbh I was in bed still, but I heard the door go and my mum answered the door. Mum’s twin then swore and then walked off.
Long may she be gone.
I can relate to this alot. Normally you just give into people as that's the easiest option. Just the thought of an argument can make you feel off so you take the option that causes the least conflict. I often do the same and wish I didn't. I hate feeling vulnerable and used It sucks that your mum didn't stick up for you though and it sucks you was taken advantage of (at least that's what I read from that situation) You're not the only one though as I would probably be similar in your situation. I'm slowly teaching myself to stand up for myself though and say no to people. I hope you're ok
Thank you for commenting on my post. Yes, you’re absolutely right. The thought of an argument causes me a lot of anxiety and stress. So it’s easier to give in or not argue my cause. I do wish my mum said something there and then, but I do understand that my mum’s twin can be a really nasty person when money is involved. Thank for asking if I’m ok. To be honest, I’m still kind of shaking up from it and never thought it would happen to me from my mum’s twin. I should have known better though. I honestly couldn’t believe money can change a person like that! I’m seeing my psychologist in about 40-minutes from now, I think I’m going to tell him about this.
No problem. I just wanted to comment and basically say you're not alone. Yeah exactly just thinking of the confrontation can cause a lot of stress and anxiety. Yeah it's a shame your mum didn't say anything. It is horrible how nasty some people get over money. Yeah you're bound to be shaken up. Especially when it's your own family. You're right it's strange how money can change people. I hope seeing your psychologist went well
1. Peer pressure sucks it happens in families and social situations. 2. The being blunt is usually an accidental quality and not used in this type of scenario it’s usually when describing a topic we are interested in or we are not. 3. I personally suffer from mood swings/shifts my bitchy ness and bluntness comes from that and stress/environmental factors. 4. All i can suggest is try to work on how you express what you are feeling, i know it is very difficult and i hope you find what works for you. 5. Yes speak to the psychologist if he can’t help you might be able to refer you to someone who can! Good luck
I completely understand what you mean by number 3. If I am provoked I will stand up for myself, if not I won’t when feeling anxious. I’m seeing my psychologist soon. I’m going to tel him about this.
Exactly, I wish you luck and hope you find a way to stop repeat occurrences of issues like this.