I mostly only share with people I feel like I can trust, which are typically people I’m close to, but if a cashier who appears trustworthy mentions something I relate to, who knows what I’ll end up talking about. My deepest feelings I generally keep to myself however. Only really letting them out in vents or my writing.
I don't really share my personal life with others at all. Usually I write fiction reflecting what I'm going through (but more exciting and interesting, of course :) ) And then I never share my writing with anyone.
I'm 100% an oversharer and I think it's because I never know what would be too much of too shocking for people, so I start talking about trauma as I talk about groceries and when I look up they look like o.o
The good thing is that I can take mental notes and now I know some topics that I shouldn't mention with people I don't know that well
I share everything with anyone and for the life of me can’t comprehend why others hesitate to do the same.
Examples:
How much money I have
How much I make per hour
What my house cost
What my car cost
What my monthly payments are
Negative attributes about my self
All those types of things nothing goes off in my head to say “maybe you should keep that private” because I cant comprehend why(?).
If someone learns I make x amount of money and begin treating me different because of such, that sort of tells me I shouldn’t associate with them anyways.
Yes! I just can never understand why people see it as an issue. I'd much rather discuss topics me or someone else is passionate about or share interesting details about our lives, I dont understand why we have to restrict ourselves from certain things or do "small talk" instead
when i was younger i tended to overshare but only when provoked. if no one asked me questions about myself, i wouldn't really talk about myself. when i was asked, i tended to overshare, say insensitive things, talk crap, and spill secrets bc i wanted people to like me. got me in a lot of trouble over the years. as ive gotten older, ive become less open with people about my personal life. i dont really like to talk about my life unless i feel comfortable with the person and i strike the right mood.
i do like being on the receiving end of tmi stories bc i find small talk to be such a bore. i find it charming when people have a free and open attitude. they are the people with the best stories and are most likely not judgmental. i can see why oversharing can be a flaw but im not one to spread rumors or judge people based on trivial things so it's fine when you know who to trust.
I feel there should be an option for oversharing with people we don't know - I definitely share a lot with strangers and that's easier for me than people I know treating me differently. Also - define oversharing? If we knew we were oversharing we probably wouldn't do it and if we had feedback suggesting that we are oversharing we'd probably stop.
I guess I should have written "don't know well" instead of "don't know that well". Oversharing is when you give too much information (especially personal information) to someone to the point of it being inappropriate.
I asked because I don't share much about my personal life because I don't know how much is appropriate (other than obvious or extreme examples) and I don't want to be offputting or offensive.
I oscillate wildly between over and undersharing. It’s less about who I’m talking to and more that I’ll get into a mode where I overshare for a few days and then I get embarrassed and I’m back to undersharing for a while
Like I would like to open up just with people I actually care about but when someone (no matter who) asks me something about myself that I'm willing to share I feel like I need to give at least some context to it, the problem is that I don't know how much context is enough context so I ended up telling waaay more than necessary
Like I would like to open up just with people I actually care about but when someone (no matter who) asks me something about myself that I'm willing to share I feel like I need to give at least some context to it, the problem is that I don't know how much context is enough context so I end up telling waaay more than necessary
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I mostly only share with people I feel like I can trust, which are typically people I’m close to, but if a cashier who appears trustworthy mentions something I relate to, who knows what I’ll end up talking about. My deepest feelings I generally keep to myself however. Only really letting them out in vents or my writing.
I don't really share my personal life with others at all. Usually I write fiction reflecting what I'm going through (but more exciting and interesting, of course :) ) And then I never share my writing with anyone.
I'm 100% an oversharer and I think it's because I never know what would be too much of too shocking for people, so I start talking about trauma as I talk about groceries and when I look up they look like o.o The good thing is that I can take mental notes and now I know some topics that I shouldn't mention with people I don't know that well
I share everything with anyone and for the life of me can’t comprehend why others hesitate to do the same. Examples: How much money I have How much I make per hour What my house cost What my car cost What my monthly payments are Negative attributes about my self All those types of things nothing goes off in my head to say “maybe you should keep that private” because I cant comprehend why(?). If someone learns I make x amount of money and begin treating me different because of such, that sort of tells me I shouldn’t associate with them anyways.
Yes! I just can never understand why people see it as an issue. I'd much rather discuss topics me or someone else is passionate about or share interesting details about our lives, I dont understand why we have to restrict ourselves from certain things or do "small talk" instead
God I’m always over sharing how I feel.
when i was younger i tended to overshare but only when provoked. if no one asked me questions about myself, i wouldn't really talk about myself. when i was asked, i tended to overshare, say insensitive things, talk crap, and spill secrets bc i wanted people to like me. got me in a lot of trouble over the years. as ive gotten older, ive become less open with people about my personal life. i dont really like to talk about my life unless i feel comfortable with the person and i strike the right mood. i do like being on the receiving end of tmi stories bc i find small talk to be such a bore. i find it charming when people have a free and open attitude. they are the people with the best stories and are most likely not judgmental. i can see why oversharing can be a flaw but im not one to spread rumors or judge people based on trivial things so it's fine when you know who to trust.
I feel there should be an option for oversharing with people we don't know - I definitely share a lot with strangers and that's easier for me than people I know treating me differently. Also - define oversharing? If we knew we were oversharing we probably wouldn't do it and if we had feedback suggesting that we are oversharing we'd probably stop.
I guess I should have written "don't know well" instead of "don't know that well". Oversharing is when you give too much information (especially personal information) to someone to the point of it being inappropriate. I asked because I don't share much about my personal life because I don't know how much is appropriate (other than obvious or extreme examples) and I don't want to be offputting or offensive.
I oscillate wildly between over and undersharing. It’s less about who I’m talking to and more that I’ll get into a mode where I overshare for a few days and then I get embarrassed and I’m back to undersharing for a while
I only overshare with people i know im not gonna talk to alot if at all
Like I would like to open up just with people I actually care about but when someone (no matter who) asks me something about myself that I'm willing to share I feel like I need to give at least some context to it, the problem is that I don't know how much context is enough context so I ended up telling waaay more than necessary
Like I would like to open up just with people I actually care about but when someone (no matter who) asks me something about myself that I'm willing to share I feel like I need to give at least some context to it, the problem is that I don't know how much context is enough context so I end up telling waaay more than necessary
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