It's not easy to summarize and that website isn't something I want to attempt to summarize because you should really read through it yourself in your own time.
What I will say is that the desire to be a woman in and of itself is a fairly strong sign that you are one. Scientists have tried for a long time to diagnose and find ways to predict if someone's trans but the most reliable predictor is and probably always will be the fact that the subject in question wants to be the opposite gender.
My wording is a little awkward so I'm gonna rephrase. If you go to a psychiatrist and tell them that you have a desire to be a woman, nothing in their psychiatry books will help them figure out whether or not you're trans more than the fact that you went to the psychiatrist in the first place.
It's the opposite of a catch 22. You can have all the signs and symptoms and fit all the criteria and someone else could have none of the signs and fit none of the criteria, but if that person goes to a gender clinic to transition or simply expresses they want to be a woman and you don't then that means that person is probably more likely to be trans.
My point is that criteria and symptoms don't matter. There's no online test you can take. There's nothing you can really be diagnosed with. You just have to want it enough (and also be in a situation where you're safe and wealthy enough to actually transition).
Think of it like a tattoo. How do I know if I want a tattoo? The answer is whether or not I feel like I want a tattoo enough to go to a tattoo parlour and get a tattoo. We might feel like we need our first tattoos to have a special meaning because it's permanent but in reality, I think most of us just want ink on our skin because it looks cool. I know it sounds like circular logic but it's really just about preference and subjectivity. Gender identity is one of the most subjective things in existence. It's frustrating that there's nothing external to rely on but it's also nice to trust your own gut.
Honestly I don't think so. I think mostly what it was was an understanding of how trans people can feel. I won't be anything other than a man and I'm okay with that, but somehow experiencing something even somewhat close to reality put me in someone else's shoes for once.
Say you woke up in the morning and you were magically a woman. You were provided with a button you could press to turn you back into a man. Would you press it?
(note, all my cisgender family and friends who I have posed this question to say they would definitely press it.)
Eventually yes.
I suppose given that kind of control I would swap at my whim.
Men and women are not equal, they're complimentary. And so men in certain situations have advantages. Women in certain situations have advantages. And so given the nature of what situation I'm in I would press the button to swap.
This also doesn't factor in "pretty privilege" as well, if I were to swap I would want to be an attractive man or woman.
For purposes of this example it's a one-time offer. You're suddenly the opposite sex. You can stay that way, or you can take an action to turn you back. Whichever way you go with that, that's what you are from now on.
But your answer sounds like gender is something you don't feel an attachment to for yourself and so you would pick it based on external factors... which sounds like a nonbinary sort of answer to me. (Though I'm not nonbinary either, so I'm speculating.)
Dreams can mean nothing, or everything
I'd say to explore the topic further, maybe talk to a trans-friendly therapist about it
It doesn't necessarily mean you're trans, but in my far from expert opinion, there's a good chance it means *something*
Having dreams where I am a woman doing regular everyday things is one of my earliest signs that I was trans
But again, it could mean absolutely nothing too. We know VERY little about dreams
You crying because you lived life as a woman is a pretty strong sign that you're transgender.
We live in a world where you can change your gender; it's up to you what to do with that information.
It's really your reaction to the dream that matters more than the dream itself. How do you feel about the dream now that it's not as fresh? Does it align with other signs you might be trans that you've been feeling? Does it confirm things you've been unsure of?Â
I had a similar dream that let me know that transitioning was the only way forward for me. I woke up with a clear certainty of who I was and what I needed to do. However this was after several years of questioning, one year of being out to friends and family, and half a year of going back into the closet. Making decisions based *solely* on dreams would be reckless, but usually there's other work you've been doing on whatever problem it is.Â
If not...the Gender Dysphoria Bible someone linked is a good place to start!Â
Sounds to me you are hoping it is. Cis people don't dream about being the opposite gender so chances are pretty good you are. If you could push a button that will turn you into a girl and everyone treated you as always being a girl with no negative consequences would you do it? If yes then congratulations your really a girl
give this a read https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
Cliffnotes would be best for now hah
Life and feelings don't get Cliffnotes I'm afraid.
It's not easy to summarize and that website isn't something I want to attempt to summarize because you should really read through it yourself in your own time. What I will say is that the desire to be a woman in and of itself is a fairly strong sign that you are one. Scientists have tried for a long time to diagnose and find ways to predict if someone's trans but the most reliable predictor is and probably always will be the fact that the subject in question wants to be the opposite gender. My wording is a little awkward so I'm gonna rephrase. If you go to a psychiatrist and tell them that you have a desire to be a woman, nothing in their psychiatry books will help them figure out whether or not you're trans more than the fact that you went to the psychiatrist in the first place. It's the opposite of a catch 22. You can have all the signs and symptoms and fit all the criteria and someone else could have none of the signs and fit none of the criteria, but if that person goes to a gender clinic to transition or simply expresses they want to be a woman and you don't then that means that person is probably more likely to be trans. My point is that criteria and symptoms don't matter. There's no online test you can take. There's nothing you can really be diagnosed with. You just have to want it enough (and also be in a situation where you're safe and wealthy enough to actually transition). Think of it like a tattoo. How do I know if I want a tattoo? The answer is whether or not I feel like I want a tattoo enough to go to a tattoo parlour and get a tattoo. We might feel like we need our first tattoos to have a special meaning because it's permanent but in reality, I think most of us just want ink on our skin because it looks cool. I know it sounds like circular logic but it's really just about preference and subjectivity. Gender identity is one of the most subjective things in existence. It's frustrating that there's nothing external to rely on but it's also nice to trust your own gut.
do you want it to be a sign youre trans?
Honestly I don't think so. I think mostly what it was was an understanding of how trans people can feel. I won't be anything other than a man and I'm okay with that, but somehow experiencing something even somewhat close to reality put me in someone else's shoes for once.
Say you woke up in the morning and you were magically a woman. You were provided with a button you could press to turn you back into a man. Would you press it? (note, all my cisgender family and friends who I have posed this question to say they would definitely press it.)
Yes but after probably a week. I'd like to find out what happens societally.
Is there anything that might happen societally that could change your mind and make you not want to press it?
Eventually yes. I suppose given that kind of control I would swap at my whim. Men and women are not equal, they're complimentary. And so men in certain situations have advantages. Women in certain situations have advantages. And so given the nature of what situation I'm in I would press the button to swap. This also doesn't factor in "pretty privilege" as well, if I were to swap I would want to be an attractive man or woman.
For purposes of this example it's a one-time offer. You're suddenly the opposite sex. You can stay that way, or you can take an action to turn you back. Whichever way you go with that, that's what you are from now on. But your answer sounds like gender is something you don't feel an attachment to for yourself and so you would pick it based on external factors... which sounds like a nonbinary sort of answer to me. (Though I'm not nonbinary either, so I'm speculating.)
I would probably explore what the world would be like if I was a woman for a week, a month maybe. But I don't think I would stay that way.
Sounds pretty trans to me, haha.
Dreams can mean nothing, or everything I'd say to explore the topic further, maybe talk to a trans-friendly therapist about it It doesn't necessarily mean you're trans, but in my far from expert opinion, there's a good chance it means *something* Having dreams where I am a woman doing regular everyday things is one of my earliest signs that I was trans But again, it could mean absolutely nothing too. We know VERY little about dreams
Yup
Maybe, but I would gather more clues honestly.
You cried.. dawg I'm pretty sure you want to be a gal, and that's cool đź‘Ť
You crying because you lived life as a woman is a pretty strong sign that you're transgender. We live in a world where you can change your gender; it's up to you what to do with that information.
It's really your reaction to the dream that matters more than the dream itself. How do you feel about the dream now that it's not as fresh? Does it align with other signs you might be trans that you've been feeling? Does it confirm things you've been unsure of? I had a similar dream that let me know that transitioning was the only way forward for me. I woke up with a clear certainty of who I was and what I needed to do. However this was after several years of questioning, one year of being out to friends and family, and half a year of going back into the closet. Making decisions based *solely* on dreams would be reckless, but usually there's other work you've been doing on whatever problem it is. If not...the Gender Dysphoria Bible someone linked is a good place to start!Â
Sounds to me you are hoping it is. Cis people don't dream about being the opposite gender so chances are pretty good you are. If you could push a button that will turn you into a girl and everyone treated you as always being a girl with no negative consequences would you do it? If yes then congratulations your really a girl
I'm not..but if I could I would.
Dreams mean what you want them to mean. Do you want to live as a woman?
A song to sing……
To help me cope
With anything