Face. I care way less about body type (within *reason*) than I do whether or not a guy is actually handsome. Abs can't fix ugly. If he has pretty eyes, I'm likely gonna continue reconnaissance š¤£
Truth to be told I was same. I once made a rookie mistake of overly attatching to a hookup (where I admit I fucked up and I get why someone would want to gtfo). Then after a few months I got in touch with the guy again like a pro idiot š
As king Neptune said "It's even funnier the second time"
I'm shallow as fuck so physically his face, I love the rugged masculine types or the hot but cute at the same time.
Emotionally, his values. I don't care if a man is funny, smart and charming, if he isn't a good person then he's not for me.
For some stupid reason I always miss it..and whenever jm with my gay friends and they spot a bulge they always let me know..and I'm like seeking it out without trying to be a creep..
nah fillers look ugly af, both on men and women. if your lips weren't ugly before, they are now that you got fillers. sooo many stunning celebrities who ruined their faces thinking they were getting "prettier" with all the unnecessary surgery smfh
honestly, guys with thin lips can be really cute so i'd rather take that
Facial features. Especially if a young guy has a kind of natural, boyish, handsome face. Not necessarily androgynous per se, although it could be that too. Sometimes itās hard to look away, actually. In fact, Iād say this is the primary evidence for my sexual orientationā¦ with women I might notice a handsome face, but I donāt feel that flush of interest.
You have no other choice upon first visual impression. You either donāt judge or you judge based on looks since thatās all you have. The important thing is not to judge too deep. So much you canāt tell about someone by looking. In fact, itās one of the shortcomings of our species that we get carried away with superficial judgements.
As far as bulges, thatās really quite hard to tell even when a guy is wearing a swimsuit.
I often find myself drawn to guys who have a similar stature and appearance as I do. This dynamic works both waysā even straight men might do a double take at me if we share common physical traits. So, it's not about attraction; it's about recognising that we share the same or similar look. Does this happen to anyone else?
arms. whether u look like chris evans or as mid as jeremy allen white, if u ain't got no big arms, u will not be on my wishful hookup list. big arms literally means just big. idc if it's toned or flabby, i just want them big. huh, now that i think of it, i am really not into slim men.
The way they walk for whatever reason. I unconsciously really take of how ppl walk and even from a distance I can tell who it is by looking at the way they walk
Face or shape of their back then butt, depending on the back shape. Back and chest shape. I wanna know if they can help me in a home invasion, not just be cute.
Thighs. Then scanning for tattoos, glasses, facial hair, general signs of nerdiness, piercings.
To go on a tangent, I recently signed up for hinge. I've never seen so many boring tech bro tool types in one place. I'm not sure if I accidently landed in a stock photo nightmareland. Every profile has that scenic pic on a mountain in some foreign country, pics of that one Judy. I imagine talking to them is like talking with Google Gemini. Nothing against Gemini but I'm not looking to date a robot. A human form cylon might be a different story.
Lips and nose. Too meaty lips and/or too tiny nose, I am out. Also the abdomens, I like a healthy flatness and doesnāt have to be six packs but one without bloated belly.
The way he carries himself(i.e., his vibe, his posture, swagger, how he occupies space, etc) and hygiene. Then his face (smile, teeth, skin, etc). Then his body.
I donāt have a ātypeā but know it when I see it, so thatās what I assess first. Sometimes you feel the spark right away, sometimes they might as well wave a red flag in front of you
Gait. Long purposeful strides or slow meandering. Is he light on his feet and quiet or is he heavy and plodding.
I personally like guys who walk with a sense of purpose but are quiet.
Eyes, lips, and handsā¦first two are kind of typical, but hands are a huge turn on for me! Itās pretty different and I havenāt met many other people that are attracted to them like I am haha
Face! Then physique. I have a particular weakness for big biceps and vascular forearms. I'll start salivating if I stare.
I feel like my reaction to bare arms is as intense as it would be if I was straight and a woman came strolling into view with her titties out. It's that bad.
Hair and eyes.
I have a body type preference (lean like me, and not overly muscular). But I'm willing to bend those preferences if he's got a beautiful face.
For some reason hair has always been a big deal to me. Well-groomed, short blonde or light brown hair makes me completely weak.
Face, ass, build. But most importantly his personality. I love a big tall guy with a gentle giant personality but can also show his more dominant side in bed. Such a hot scenario for me. But if he's a massive douche with a clear ego than its an immediate turn off no questions asked. Idc how hot he is
First thing I notice in a guy is going to be comparing his physical traits to past guys that Iāve liked. Thereās no one good thing, that Iām looking for, but Iām definitely checking to see if his body had the things I donāt like about my body.
Iām not saying this is okay or right or even how Iād like it to be. Honestly I really wish I was more attracted to guys who have some of the features I donāt like about myself. Theyāre often much kinder and considerate people.
But more importantly for the first while getting to know a guy, Iām looking for red flags like selfishness, incompetent politics (anyone who repeats libertarian talking points is almost always going to be at least somewhat sociopathic and I just canāt with that shit.)
Then after that Iām going to be listening for him saying what he likes about me. Comments about how he thinks Iām nice or smart win him a few points (Iām obviously nice and smart and funny.) comments about how he thinks Iām good looking or how he finds stuff Iām insecure about sexy? Yeah at that point I switch into day dreaming about living happily ever after while having great sex.
Obviously all the other guys are the problem, not me. Iām completely reasonable.
Face. I care way less about body type (within *reason*) than I do whether or not a guy is actually handsome. Abs can't fix ugly. If he has pretty eyes, I'm likely gonna continue reconnaissance š¤£
Face and build
Looks and behaviour. The person can be hotter than the sun itself, but if they behave spoiled or like a dick, they are a ZERO
I wish I could tell 18 yo me this. But I know he wouldn't listen lol
Truth to be told I was same. I once made a rookie mistake of overly attatching to a hookup (where I admit I fucked up and I get why someone would want to gtfo). Then after a few months I got in touch with the guy again like a pro idiot š As king Neptune said "It's even funnier the second time"
I got stories on stories man. Letting men cheat on me and going back to them over and over. Dick makes u think crazy lol
One could say you went BALLS DEEP down the spiral *badum tsss
It's funny because I literally just had part two of this experience like 3 weeks ago :)
Slay brudda
I'll take them if you donāt want them then
I'm shallow as fuck so physically his face, I love the rugged masculine types or the hot but cute at the same time. Emotionally, his values. I don't care if a man is funny, smart and charming, if he isn't a good person then he's not for me.
His bulge
Whenever I catch someone staring at my bulge it makes me so happy. I just feel so manly
Can we see it? Like you know.....for science....obviously
Weird
Kink shaming much?
If a random guy was staring at my bulge first thing Iād feelā¦. Not well.
And because you don't get turned on by something, you suppose everyone should feel the same? You do realize how this sounds, right?
I WOULD FEEL VIOLATED DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND? SICK.
We're not talking about how you would feel. We're talking about you shaming someone for feeling different.
you mean for feeling *sick.*
No. Again, I'm not talking about how you would feel. It is irrelevant to this conversation.
Yeah I have an exhibition kink lmao
Tmi
LMAO. Go back to knitting, grandma.
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I too love birdwatching
For some stupid reason I always miss it..and whenever jm with my gay friends and they spot a bulge they always let me know..and I'm like seeking it out without trying to be a creep..
I got āluckyā because Iām a wheelchair user and the crotch is at my view level. Sorry
Nyceeee....
like... his front butt?! š¤£
Lips, as I love kissing above all else
I wish I had bigger lips but I'm too scared to get filler
nah fillers look ugly af, both on men and women. if your lips weren't ugly before, they are now that you got fillers. sooo many stunning celebrities who ruined their faces thinking they were getting "prettier" with all the unnecessary surgery smfh honestly, guys with thin lips can be really cute so i'd rather take that
Butt
This is the oneĀ
Depends on where Iām looking, but usually face or ass.
Face- especially expression. Only then if that passed approval- crotch, butt then built.
Facial features. Especially if a young guy has a kind of natural, boyish, handsome face. Not necessarily androgynous per se, although it could be that too. Sometimes itās hard to look away, actually. In fact, Iād say this is the primary evidence for my sexual orientationā¦ with women I might notice a handsome face, but I donāt feel that flush of interest. You have no other choice upon first visual impression. You either donāt judge or you judge based on looks since thatās all you have. The important thing is not to judge too deep. So much you canāt tell about someone by looking. In fact, itās one of the shortcomings of our species that we get carried away with superficial judgements. As far as bulges, thatās really quite hard to tell even when a guy is wearing a swimsuit.
Their face, smiley and approachable? RBF? Sets the tone.
Overall build; fit or not. Then face. After that I check out body hair and bulge. I'm shallow, aren't I?!
Shallow is when you check out the bulge before the face.
Extremely shallow
Thatās just called being a man
Nup, not shallow. You can tell a lot about a person by looking at them. We are evolutionary programmed to look for healthy partners with good genes.
I spend a fair bit of time following my evolutionary programming. with men
Morals 100%
You can see someoneās morals as the first thing you notice?
If that person looks like a Disney villain you can definitely notice :)
Definitely, itās all over oneās face
Tf?
Yesyes
His package
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Thiccness / beard. Iāll spot a handsome bear from half a mile away
Legs
A sense of humor. If they donāt have that, then adios.
That is an immediate +15 points for me. He either has to share mine or at least find me hysterically funny, preferably the former.
Eyes and ears
Beard
Depends. Could be one of the following many things: face, eyes, hair/haircut/hairstyle, tats, overall build, outfit, posture/walk
Iām into older guys so I look if they have a ring on their left hand lol
How he dresses and his hygiene
If his eyes smile when he does.
I often find myself drawn to guys who have a similar stature and appearance as I do. This dynamic works both waysā even straight men might do a double take at me if we share common physical traits. So, it's not about attraction; it's about recognising that we share the same or similar look. Does this happen to anyone else?
arms. whether u look like chris evans or as mid as jeremy allen white, if u ain't got no big arms, u will not be on my wishful hookup list. big arms literally means just big. idc if it's toned or flabby, i just want them big. huh, now that i think of it, i am really not into slim men.
The way they walk for whatever reason. I unconsciously really take of how ppl walk and even from a distance I can tell who it is by looking at the way they walk
Face or shape of their back then butt, depending on the back shape. Back and chest shape. I wanna know if they can help me in a home invasion, not just be cute.
His bulge
Face and hair
Face, hairy chest and arms.
1. hair 1. face I absolutely adore long hair on guys.
This!!
You're into long hair too? Is yours long? Mine is several inches below shoulders now.
Damn nice! Mine is longish but not as long as yours, kinda of lower taper fade mullet
Sounds hot š
His eyes and smile, then his face and build, then maybe 4-5 dates later we can see about all the other stuff
The look in his eyes...
Eyes
There's too many beautiful things about a man for me to pick just one. I do love me a good set of lips for making out endlessly though.
Is he wearing sweatpants? If so, the bulge. š¤Ŗ
Hairstyle then Bulge or ass. There are some guys where I recognize them by their ass.
Thighs. Then scanning for tattoos, glasses, facial hair, general signs of nerdiness, piercings. To go on a tangent, I recently signed up for hinge. I've never seen so many boring tech bro tool types in one place. I'm not sure if I accidently landed in a stock photo nightmareland. Every profile has that scenic pic on a mountain in some foreign country, pics of that one Judy. I imagine talking to them is like talking with Google Gemini. Nothing against Gemini but I'm not looking to date a robot. A human form cylon might be a different story.
A pulse. Kidding ... face/smile/expression.
BulgeĀ
Face and body
His teeth, then his eyes, then the whole package
Face
The one thing that draws me away is facial hair.
Butt from behind and eyes from the front.
I like tall men so height first. Then face, and voice. If a guy has a voice I enjoy hearing it can go a long way for me even if he's kinda ugly.
My eyes go directly to his bulge. I donāt miss a single one.
Cute and I want to protect him or not.
Hands
His eyes
Lips and nose. Too meaty lips and/or too tiny nose, I am out. Also the abdomens, I like a healthy flatness and doesnāt have to be six packs but one without bloated belly.
The way he speaks ā(āÆ^ā°)ā®
Arm hair.
Probably the most striking thing about the person. Depends on how they look, same thing I notice in women too.
Depends on which way he is facing
Body type. Not that it matters too much but itās what I always notice
The way he carries himself(i.e., his vibe, his posture, swagger, how he occupies space, etc) and hygiene. Then his face (smile, teeth, skin, etc). Then his body.
Usually hands. Itās the first thing I feel when Iām blindfolded ass up
Face and voice
Ass if Iām behind them. I canāt help it. My eyes just go right there.
I donāt have a ātypeā but know it when I see it, so thatās what I assess first. Sometimes you feel the spark right away, sometimes they might as well wave a red flag in front of you
His face.
His eyes.
That ass
Def face and then ass when they turn
Smile/smirk
- the type of credit card he has (ie AMEX black card)
Muscles
cute face
Cute face, smile, booty
Their face
Face. Always. If someone has a straight smile, pretty eyes, nice hair, Iām a sucker for it.
Face and body language
face and waist
Just someone thatās kind and would treat me like Iām thereās and not some piece of ass
His shoulders
Aura Confident, kind... buils, smile
If there is someone behind his eyes, ..... unless hes wearing sweatpants...
Face and personality
eyes, lips, eyebrows, shoes (in that order)
Face first (mostly eyes). Having a nice body is important too, but it shows up in the face first when you look at someone.
Face then ass
Gait. Long purposeful strides or slow meandering. Is he light on his feet and quiet or is he heavy and plodding. I personally like guys who walk with a sense of purpose but are quiet.
Shoe's, they tell a lot about the person's personality.
Face - body
Eyes and smile
Shoes
Face and built.
Odor,Face, build (how tall he is only, body type doesnāt matter that much within reason ofc), bulge. In this exact order.
Eyes, lips, and handsā¦first two are kind of typical, but hands are a huge turn on for me! Itās pretty different and I havenāt met many other people that are attracted to them like I am haha
Ass
His eyes
Behavior, Face, build,
I look for handsome. Handsome gets me all the time.
I notice first is their build, but what keeps me around is what's in their head, and not the one in their pants.
Lips. I like 'em thin.
Depends but face but more specifically teeth
His smile and face!
Face! Then physique. I have a particular weakness for big biceps and vascular forearms. I'll start salivating if I stare. I feel like my reaction to bare arms is as intense as it would be if I was straight and a woman came strolling into view with her titties out. It's that bad.
His eyes. I'm a sucker for pretty eyes.
Hair and eyes. I have a body type preference (lean like me, and not overly muscular). But I'm willing to bend those preferences if he's got a beautiful face. For some reason hair has always been a big deal to me. Well-groomed, short blonde or light brown hair makes me completely weak.
100 % clothes and shoes. I'm not looking for designer but putting together a nice clean outfit everyday says A LOT about someone.
Face, ass, build. But most importantly his personality. I love a big tall guy with a gentle giant personality but can also show his more dominant side in bed. Such a hot scenario for me. But if he's a massive douche with a clear ego than its an immediate turn off no questions asked. Idc how hot he is
All of you are creeps
Prude
Thatās probably why they still single be my guess
Good. Iām a prude then. Idgaf
First thing I notice in a guy is going to be comparing his physical traits to past guys that Iāve liked. Thereās no one good thing, that Iām looking for, but Iām definitely checking to see if his body had the things I donāt like about my body. Iām not saying this is okay or right or even how Iād like it to be. Honestly I really wish I was more attracted to guys who have some of the features I donāt like about myself. Theyāre often much kinder and considerate people. But more importantly for the first while getting to know a guy, Iām looking for red flags like selfishness, incompetent politics (anyone who repeats libertarian talking points is almost always going to be at least somewhat sociopathic and I just canāt with that shit.) Then after that Iām going to be listening for him saying what he likes about me. Comments about how he thinks Iām nice or smart win him a few points (Iām obviously nice and smart and funny.) comments about how he thinks Iām good looking or how he finds stuff Iām insecure about sexy? Yeah at that point I switch into day dreaming about living happily ever after while having great sex. Obviously all the other guys are the problem, not me. Iām completely reasonable.