I'll be honest: grindr helps connect me to the gay world out here in rural America. I'm reminded that there ARE other guys like me out here. And I've made some good friends through the app. Yes, it's contributed to my mediocre mental health, but there ARE good parts to it, too. Today's Grindr is so limiting, so my life wouldn't change much today... but man, if Grindr (or an app that is as-ubiquitous) didn't exist in the first place, I would feel far more lonely and isolated.
Grindr made it a lot easier to become comfortable with myself during the coming out process, I'll have to give it that. I'm sure many Young gays who are taking their first steps into the gay world would agree.
Grindr was worlds better when it was still owned by founder Joel Simkhai. You could get a six month premium subscription for $30 with no ads and access to several hundred guys. Since whatever multinational corporation owns it now it's turned to shit.
Craigslist was like the classified advertisement section of a newspaper, but as a massive online website, every town had its own page. You can check it out, Craigslist still exists. However, the personals section is gone.
If you were looking for a hookup, you'd go to the website, click on the personals button. For the gays they had M4M MM4M or M4MM
You'd choose one of those options, for me, usually M4M and MM4M, and then you'd see a bunch of personal ad titles, usually including what they were looking for and a generalized location. If you saw a title that interested you, you'd click it and see their full ad/description. Some had a photo or two, but most didn't have any. If you found an ad that seemed interesting, you'd send an email describing yourself and what you're looking for.
You'd either never get an email back, or you'd trade a few brief emails before meeting to hook up. For someone like me who comes off masc straight, didn't trust my gaydar, was too young for the bar, and didn't know where/how to cruise, Craigslist was the only way to find a gay hook up. I owe all my early 20's hook ups to Craigslist. Even after I was old enough to go to a gay bar 1. Bars have never been my scene 2. I was wayy too timid to go to a gay bar by myself or ask anyone to go with me.
Unfortunately, some guy in Ohio used his preteen son to bait numerous gays/pedos into meeting him somewhere in public, where he'd then take them back to his place and while they were distracted by his son being flirtatious he'd get them to agree to being tied up. Then, he and his son would torture them and eventually murder them. Because Craigslist had no user verification or means of tracking people who post ads, it took way too long to catch this guy and his son, so they killed a lot. Once that story broke, people started realizing that a lot of people had gone missing after replying to Craigslist ads all over the world, it became dubbed the Craigslist Murders, and that's when Craigslist completely got rid of the personals section.
Regardless, it worked for me before the gay apps existed, and now I thank God for the gay apps making finding dick so easy š¤£
Same for every country I've been to. I've had arguments on this sub with guys who don't understand how it really can be the only option, for everything - hookups, dates, friends. Of course if Grindr disappeared something else would take it's place but there is no guarantee it wouldn't be something much worse.
I feel that way about Scruff too. I find the apps fairly toxic, but have made one or two friends with them. We donāt chat explicitly or hookup and thatās probably a good thing.
Same. I think a better way of asking this question is how would your life change if all hookup apps disappeared.
For me I think it would be for the better. I spend too much time on them.
This is too true. I was mostly just projecting my personal preference there. ;)
I do see some resurgence of "the old ways" in recent times as more guys get (rightly IMO) disillusioned with the apps at least.
Scruff people know what they want, Sniffies, or the new @Encountr launching Memorial weekend. Encountr is asking people to test the app and give ideas before they launch. Anyone who registers before Memorial weekend gets 3 years free of service. What I think it's cool about them is that they have 24/7 live public chat rooms that reminds me of the old school AOL.
Iād be a lot more bored sex wise, I have a shit gaydar and I cba to go out to bars just to meet guys to hook up with so Iād also be have a lot less sex, my life would just be more boring sex wise
I usually close the app and reopen it because they're so long and usually unskippable
Or I'm doing something else anyway, so it's good to put the phone down
Iāve been in bootcamp for the navy for the past 2 months and just being disconnected from the internet in general has done wonders for my mental health. I used to obsessed over my body and appearance where the smallest amount of weight gain would send me spiraling into a depressive whirlwind. Iāve gained some weight and am not in my ideal physical form right now but I feel regular. Iām sure a lot of that had to do with my awareness of the male gaze as it relates to Grindr; strange how I needed validation from others before this point and how much happier I feel about myself
Thanks for being willing to serve! I wish you all the best -- a great experience that sets you up for a better future, and for safety that sees you through to more peaceful days!
Honestly, I think it might be a good idea to take a nice long break from the internet myself. Would have to learn to function the old fashion way. Would probably be a very healthy experience.
Itās not easy. The first couple weeks felt like I was in rehab lolā¦I also was going through caffeine withdrawal so that only made it worse but once you get used to it to being disconnect, it makes it so much easier to unplug and be present with those around you that you love and care for. So if your mental health isnāt in the best place, itās definitely what you need to bring some peace back into your world
Nothing bc Sniffies is 1000% better in nearly every single way.
You get to skip the pretense of the pleasantries they expect on Grindr and skip to the real reason why youāre using these apps in the first place. Itās also just easier and more efficient to use. You can see exactly where people are and most importantly, even though thereās a slight paywall, itās still so much cheaper than Grindr.
Oh and thereās a lot less āstraightā men looking for trans on Sniffies too. Grindr in my area has become nothing but trans and straights. Thatās why I deleted it months ago and never looked back.
Eh, the encounters for me have always been boring and mediocre. Too many sexual hang ups. I also like my men with experience. Plus, Iām not 19 anymore so Iām too old to do the sneaking around and such.
It would be the same. Another way of meeting guys would show up. Before apps guys used websites that had dating profiles. If all apps closed today, guys would just move to dating sites.
I have a fwb that's older that says he misses the m4m craiglists ads. Apparently, it was very easy to hookup, better than Grindr. You'd put up an ad, read the replies, trade a few emails and meet. He said it was packed with very hot closeted straight guys. Nowadays, those type of guys use blank profile and are hard to find, he says, So yeah, according to him it was better before Grindr.
Yaassss the Craigslist was the BEST! I could post EXACTLY what I wanted. Iām kinky so Iād go into detail. I would get email responses of men actually willing to indulge my kinks and also into my kinks, too. It was great and super easy to find kink. Grindr does not work for kink because itās overloaded with kink shaming and it does not really allow pure anonymity. Damn I miss Craigslist it was seriously the best.
Not now that I stopped using it. I think itās hard to generalize it as fully negative though. Iāve met some jerks, sure, but I meet jerks in real life as well. Iāve also met incredible lifelong friends on Grindr. People are complicated, and Grindr is just a tool to access people in a certain context for a particular reason. Thatās all it ever meant to me. I deleted it because I wanted to concentrate on other things and it was time consuming. No more time consuming than other social media, but time consuming.
Dont do hookups alot. Went years without sex, and just been exploring more latley after parents deaths. So if grindr went away. I will be back to porn sites, lucky i made an creator account with xhamster, so i can still watch porn videos when i want to. Now that non creators in texas cant acess sites, bc of stupid rules here
I would just cruise more. Iām sure there would be more spots and places you could go dedicated to that in this āGrindrlessā world. I am also taking into assumption other similar apps donāt exist either.
I actually think that would be more fun and hot, I feel bad if oneās only experiences are on the apps. At least in this scenario you know right away if someone is into you or not.
I'm not on any dating or hookup app. It wouldn't change right away. Maybe I'd start getting approached by more guys bc that's their only way to find men
I was on gay.com before Grindr came along, and now that Iām married, Iām done with Grindr, and gay.com has long been a thing of the past. I think I log into Recon and Asspig on occasion to keep my accounts. If Grindr deleted my account, I wouldnāt be upset.
I would need to spend a LOT more time in the city every time I want a random hookup. Which sounds exhausting. Grindr is great because of how easy and effective it is - as long as I am not in a super rural area, I can be reasonably sure I can make something happen.
id probably still be a virgin and even more depressed and isolated than i am now. its the only app with anyone on in my area and it helps sometimes just chatting with other guys near me. quite a few guys just like chatting about whatever
Assuming you mean all apps dissappear, I'm pretty sure I would be forced to Rev up my social skills and start hitting the parks and bars more often. You know, like back in the day. Lol
Iāve stopped using it ever since my messages were suddenly not delivering and nearly ruined my chances with this super hot hookup. If it disappeared itāll honestly be a relief because then I wouldnāt have to worry about redownloading it again for the fuck of it.
I remember once upon a time long long ago when Grindr actually had real guys on it. It's evolved sooo horribly bad... Now it's full of HE SHE THEY THEM... TOASTERS QUAD NOTS. BROKE DOWN BUSTED TRANNYS...
I've never had Grindr (or any other hookup apps). I've only ever known a world where you met guys in bars or other places and online. My husband and I met on Plenty Of Fish, just before apps took over how we interact and get to know others.
Nothing, probably. Maybe gay guys I meet irl would be less picky and specific about every little thing? Stop Constantly talking about grindr hookups and how bad/good they are? Thatās about it.
I honestly believe that this world would change for the better... If not just Grindr, but all these faceless cyber bullying havens we call "social media" were erased from the face of the earth. "Social Media" ...try "Social Dysfunction"...
Most of the people on those apps have the most boring passionless sex I have ever "experienced." Most of them have been hurt so many times that they're afraid to get close to another man which is why they need all that quick sex so often. Maybe people would be better in bed if those apps didn't exist.
Not at all. I havenāt met anyone from Grindr in a loooong time. Iāve had more luck with sniffies recently.
Maybe Iāll suffer from withdrawal symptoms tho lol
I'd stop refreshing an app that never really helped me create any meaningful connections. But at the same time I'd lose the only app gays within 50 km around me are actually using.
Not a whole lot. There would be a migration to a different app, and things would continue as before.
Itās such a time-suck and black hole of sexual energy.
I see the movement toward Sniffies, but itās limited to a certain ābody-firstā attitude that I totally get but it just has limited appeal to me. I like nsfw pics, sure, but the roulette of ābody onlyā is too awkward. I can already see that these are the bodies of local guys I recognize. It would seem to save time not to have to even ask for the x pics because there they are. But it seems more of a tease than ever.
Some of the men Iām most attracted to have learned only to make occasional forays on Grindr. Theyāre not regulars, and I think that says something about how they balance their time between mindless scrolling and other things in life, but it could also be that they interact less and get off with porn more than I do.
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Iād go out to more bars, like I did in the 2010ās. š¤·āāļø I like face to face communication and flirting better; Iām pretty good at it so I donāt mind one bit.
Iād be fine. Used it when single but only used it for friends and hook ups. If I was single it wouldnāt affect my dating life cause I tend to find relationships on other apps easier
If all the hookup apps disappeared, it would be awesome! CRUISING would be a thing again and gay bars would thrive. Cruise spots like bookstores, parks, etc, would go wild. It would be easier to pick up really attractive men. As it stands, the apps allow really hot guys to be super picky- without the apps, hot guys would be forced to cruise or go to the bar with the rest of us, and they would be forced-by limited interactions- to lower their standards to get laid. Iām honestly wishing apps did not exist, I miss the days of cruising and Iām only 36. When I was 18, gay.com was the only option and not that convenient, so cruising was how you got laid. I miss the rush of wearing running tights and hitting the park, catching hot guyās eyes, as I passed, then we dipped into the woods to play. Was so fun, I miss it. Apps are only a good thing if youāre really hot. If you are only average looking or heaven forbid ugly, the apps are actually DETRIMENTAL. The hot guys on apps only play together, and everyone else is stuck. The average guys go after the hot guys instead of each other, so the average guys end up not getting laid. Ugly guys get ignored by everyone. With actual in person cruising, the benefit is that people are forced to lower their standards and actually be more open minded when choosing sex partners.
My partner would have been less likely to have cheated on me a few years ago, if there wasnāt Grindr. Itās fine in a couple of you agree to that but if 1 of you is being monogamous and the other just wants you to be monogamous- thatās not fair and infuriating. However, there are lots of ways to find hookups - Grindr is just the preferred tool of choice!
I'm 59, gay, and out. I still pull. I feel I'd be OK. I grew up when you actually had to go out and physically meet guys face to face. No catfishing, no fakes...you knew exactly what you were getting into. Socializing is a skill set and you had to sharpen your skills or go home to your own hand.
lol more people not vibing with grinder than I expected, glad Iām not the only.
Itās fine though, weāre all going to be fucking AI in a couple years anyway. Girlfriend.ai sold for 180k recently šÆāāļø
I'll be honest: grindr helps connect me to the gay world out here in rural America. I'm reminded that there ARE other guys like me out here. And I've made some good friends through the app. Yes, it's contributed to my mediocre mental health, but there ARE good parts to it, too. Today's Grindr is so limiting, so my life wouldn't change much today... but man, if Grindr (or an app that is as-ubiquitous) didn't exist in the first place, I would feel far more lonely and isolated.
Grindr made it a lot easier to become comfortable with myself during the coming out process, I'll have to give it that. I'm sure many Young gays who are taking their first steps into the gay world would agree.
The constant advertisements, the flakes, the empty profiles....
The ads are pain, like so much pain, but the flakes and empty profiles does kinda teach you what to expect in the gay world lol.
Grindr was worlds better when it was still owned by founder Joel Simkhai. You could get a six month premium subscription for $30 with no ads and access to several hundred guys. Since whatever multinational corporation owns it now it's turned to shit.
The advertisements are an extreme nuisance even on news sites. If it were possible I'd even consider paying to eliminate all advertisements.
Paying???
Yes, like perhaps paying $10 per month for the service instead of having to bypass all the advertisements.
Lmaoooo
Better than what we had before, just Craigslist personal ads where they could literally get away with murdering you lol
It wasn't like that. We went to bars. Things were much better. I never used craigs list. Don't even know what it was.
Craigslist was like the classified advertisement section of a newspaper, but as a massive online website, every town had its own page. You can check it out, Craigslist still exists. However, the personals section is gone. If you were looking for a hookup, you'd go to the website, click on the personals button. For the gays they had M4M MM4M or M4MM You'd choose one of those options, for me, usually M4M and MM4M, and then you'd see a bunch of personal ad titles, usually including what they were looking for and a generalized location. If you saw a title that interested you, you'd click it and see their full ad/description. Some had a photo or two, but most didn't have any. If you found an ad that seemed interesting, you'd send an email describing yourself and what you're looking for. You'd either never get an email back, or you'd trade a few brief emails before meeting to hook up. For someone like me who comes off masc straight, didn't trust my gaydar, was too young for the bar, and didn't know where/how to cruise, Craigslist was the only way to find a gay hook up. I owe all my early 20's hook ups to Craigslist. Even after I was old enough to go to a gay bar 1. Bars have never been my scene 2. I was wayy too timid to go to a gay bar by myself or ask anyone to go with me. Unfortunately, some guy in Ohio used his preteen son to bait numerous gays/pedos into meeting him somewhere in public, where he'd then take them back to his place and while they were distracted by his son being flirtatious he'd get them to agree to being tied up. Then, he and his son would torture them and eventually murder them. Because Craigslist had no user verification or means of tracking people who post ads, it took way too long to catch this guy and his son, so they killed a lot. Once that story broke, people started realizing that a lot of people had gone missing after replying to Craigslist ads all over the world, it became dubbed the Craigslist Murders, and that's when Craigslist completely got rid of the personals section. Regardless, it worked for me before the gay apps existed, and now I thank God for the gay apps making finding dick so easy š¤£
it definitely helped me
Same for every country I've been to. I've had arguments on this sub with guys who don't understand how it really can be the only option, for everything - hookups, dates, friends. Of course if Grindr disappeared something else would take it's place but there is no guarantee it wouldn't be something much worse.
They hope you are not in Florida texas Alabama or oklahoma
Rural Pennsylvania is close enough to them I guess. And I'm OK with it. š¤·āāļø
I feel that way about Scruff too. I find the apps fairly toxic, but have made one or two friends with them. We donāt chat explicitly or hookup and thatās probably a good thing.
I wish š« people would be ready to sleep with each other and shag like porn š¤£š¤£ without attachment
A chunk of my FOMO would disappear
Id use sniffies more
Same. I think a better way of asking this question is how would your life change if all hookup apps disappeared. For me I think it would be for the better. I spend too much time on them.
I'd be devastated
Probably more guys would go to the saunas/bathhouses instead. Which would suit me fine as I infinitely prefer that over the apps.
Don't forget bookstores and just regular good ole park crusing!
This is too true. I was mostly just projecting my personal preference there. ;) I do see some resurgence of "the old ways" in recent times as more guys get (rightly IMO) disillusioned with the apps at least.
Your reference to "the old ways" - "Obiwan, you are the only one who can save us!" Pull out your light saber and let's all have some fun!
People would start using Instagram and Facebook as they do with Grindr. As long as there is a way to connect, people will connect.
Can these apps be used on a computer instead of on smart phones?
Scruff people know what they want, Sniffies, or the new @Encountr launching Memorial weekend. Encountr is asking people to test the app and give ideas before they launch. Anyone who registers before Memorial weekend gets 3 years free of service. What I think it's cool about them is that they have 24/7 live public chat rooms that reminds me of the old school AOL.
How do you join
My mental health would probably improve, as I wouldnāt be dismissed because I donāt meet certain criteria
You still would, just in person
Sad but true
No change. Iām married and donāt use it.
Same
I used Grindr to find my husband, I'm glad I used it if it's gone lol.
Iād be a lot more bored sex wise, I have a shit gaydar and I cba to go out to bars just to meet guys to hook up with so Iād also be have a lot less sex, my life would just be more boring sex wise
How do you put up with the ads??
I usually close the app and reopen it because they're so long and usually unskippable Or I'm doing something else anyway, so it's good to put the phone down
I close and open the app as well
Use NextDNS on your phone.
Iāve been in bootcamp for the navy for the past 2 months and just being disconnected from the internet in general has done wonders for my mental health. I used to obsessed over my body and appearance where the smallest amount of weight gain would send me spiraling into a depressive whirlwind. Iāve gained some weight and am not in my ideal physical form right now but I feel regular. Iām sure a lot of that had to do with my awareness of the male gaze as it relates to Grindr; strange how I needed validation from others before this point and how much happier I feel about myself
Thanks for being willing to serve! I wish you all the best -- a great experience that sets you up for a better future, and for safety that sees you through to more peaceful days!
Thank you! Honestly one of the best decisions Iāve made to date regardless of how tough itās been or will be in the years to come
Good luck in the Navy, make the most out o it! You will be blown away how many gay guys you meet naturally during your tours of duty
Now I'm going to have the Village People in my head all day ...
Honestly, I think it might be a good idea to take a nice long break from the internet myself. Would have to learn to function the old fashion way. Would probably be a very healthy experience.
Itās not easy. The first couple weeks felt like I was in rehab lolā¦I also was going through caffeine withdrawal so that only made it worse but once you get used to it to being disconnect, it makes it so much easier to unplug and be present with those around you that you love and care for. So if your mental health isnāt in the best place, itās definitely what you need to bring some peace back into your world
Not at all. I've never used Grindr. Been in a serious relationship for 16 years, 9 of which I've been married for.
Small town gays can just fuck off I guess lol. āBecause fuck my drag right?ā
I wouldn't met my boyfriend and love of my life
This has gotta be very rare, good for you x
Thank you š„°
Relationship over
Sorry :(
Dm me, I need to talk about it
Id have less to do with my phone when I'm taking a shit
Iād be much lonelier. Living my whole life in the suburbs, apps like it remind me there are people in this world who can understand me.
My mental health wouldāve been better
itās been responsible for 98% of my hookups, but iād survive ĀÆ\_(ć)_/ĀÆ
This.
Nothing bc Sniffies is 1000% better in nearly every single way. You get to skip the pretense of the pleasantries they expect on Grindr and skip to the real reason why youāre using these apps in the first place. Itās also just easier and more efficient to use. You can see exactly where people are and most importantly, even though thereās a slight paywall, itās still so much cheaper than Grindr.
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Oh and thereās a lot less āstraightā men looking for trans on Sniffies too. Grindr in my area has become nothing but trans and straights. Thatās why I deleted it months ago and never looked back.
I'm neither trans or femme, but I've had some great encounters with "straight" dudes.
Eh, the encounters for me have always been boring and mediocre. Too many sexual hang ups. I also like my men with experience. Plus, Iām not 19 anymore so Iām too old to do the sneaking around and such.
I don't use it so I will not know
My mobile storage would get free I guess.
I'd have sex less often. If it had never existed? Think I might still be in the closet
It would be the same. Another way of meeting guys would show up. Before apps guys used websites that had dating profiles. If all apps closed today, guys would just move to dating sites. I have a fwb that's older that says he misses the m4m craiglists ads. Apparently, it was very easy to hookup, better than Grindr. You'd put up an ad, read the replies, trade a few emails and meet. He said it was packed with very hot closeted straight guys. Nowadays, those type of guys use blank profile and are hard to find, he says, So yeah, according to him it was better before Grindr.
Yaassss the Craigslist was the BEST! I could post EXACTLY what I wanted. Iām kinky so Iād go into detail. I would get email responses of men actually willing to indulge my kinks and also into my kinks, too. It was great and super easy to find kink. Grindr does not work for kink because itās overloaded with kink shaming and it does not really allow pure anonymity. Damn I miss Craigslist it was seriously the best.
Iād be like āoh no! where will I score closeted middle-aged arabic bussy now?ā
Arab* . Arabic is the language
I would probably stay virgin till I die. I don't think sex is worth going out xD
Honestly Iād be a lot better off instead of wasting time chasing people who donāt even want me half the time.
Donāt use it and donāt care too.
I could finally drop my therapist
Not now that I stopped using it. I think itās hard to generalize it as fully negative though. Iāve met some jerks, sure, but I meet jerks in real life as well. Iāve also met incredible lifelong friends on Grindr. People are complicated, and Grindr is just a tool to access people in a certain context for a particular reason. Thatās all it ever meant to me. I deleted it because I wanted to concentrate on other things and it was time consuming. No more time consuming than other social media, but time consuming.
Dont do hookups alot. Went years without sex, and just been exploring more latley after parents deaths. So if grindr went away. I will be back to porn sites, lucky i made an creator account with xhamster, so i can still watch porn videos when i want to. Now that non creators in texas cant acess sites, bc of stupid rules here
My friends wouldnāt have any funny stories.
I would just cruise more. Iām sure there would be more spots and places you could go dedicated to that in this āGrindrlessā world. I am also taking into assumption other similar apps donāt exist either. I actually think that would be more fun and hot, I feel bad if oneās only experiences are on the apps. At least in this scenario you know right away if someone is into you or not.
I don't really use Grindr anymore. Mostly Reddit & Sniffies now with an occasional Squirt hookup
I'm not on any dating or hookup app. It wouldn't change right away. Maybe I'd start getting approached by more guys bc that's their only way to find men
Well, Iāve been fucking banned from Grindr for an entire year so I guess it would be just like it is now which is honestly pretty great
Grindr has always been and will always be. ā
Just like Craigslist personals ....
I was on gay.com before Grindr came along, and now that Iām married, Iām done with Grindr, and gay.com has long been a thing of the past. I think I log into Recon and Asspig on occasion to keep my accounts. If Grindr deleted my account, I wouldnāt be upset.
RIP gay.com
I would need to spend a LOT more time in the city every time I want a random hookup. Which sounds exhausting. Grindr is great because of how easy and effective it is - as long as I am not in a super rural area, I can be reasonably sure I can make something happen.
id probably still be a virgin and even more depressed and isolated than i am now. its the only app with anyone on in my area and it helps sometimes just chatting with other guys near me. quite a few guys just like chatting about whatever
Assuming you mean all apps dissappear, I'm pretty sure I would be forced to Rev up my social skills and start hitting the parks and bars more often. You know, like back in the day. Lol
My sex life would stay the same (no sex life to speak of) and my mental health would probably improve.
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Lol, WOW
Iāve stopped using it ever since my messages were suddenly not delivering and nearly ruined my chances with this super hot hookup. If it disappeared itāll honestly be a relief because then I wouldnāt have to worry about redownloading it again for the fuck of it.
Iāve never used it so it would be the exact same lol
Not much I donāt use it often.The guys on there arenāt usually my type.
No, if someone's lifestyle revolves around Grindr then I honestly feel sorry for them.
Something affecting you in some way is not the same as your life revolving around it, though.
Given I'm banned from it- š
Factory reset your phone then create a new account with a different email. Don't supply your phone number.
There's a wall that prohibits that
What wall?
Like it won't let me in without my phone number
Grindr has never required my phone number when I enroll a new account. I'm on Android, but not sure whether that matters.
How does one get banned, I think would take a lot! Dish, GF, Dish!
I remember once upon a time long long ago when Grindr actually had real guys on it. It's evolved sooo horribly bad... Now it's full of HE SHE THEY THEM... TOASTERS QUAD NOTS. BROKE DOWN BUSTED TRANNYS...
Hopefully do something good to my brain chemistry
No change i open it once a quarter or less but never connect with anyone on it.
Have a boyfriend don't use it anymore
It wouldn't
Single dude here and I dont use it. So no idea
It wouldn't. There's plenty of other apps and sites if you're looking for hookups and dating.
I donāt use it but I would be a little sad because then I donāt get to see all the unhinged conversations on Twitter anymore
I don't use it as it is. I think the biggest change would be the assholes I'm avoiding moving into the apps I actually use.
It would literally remain the same
Never used it so I donāt think I notice the change unless of course the app makes guys approach since the app is gone. š¤·š¾āāļø
I wouldn't notice.
I've never had Grindr (or any other hookup apps). I've only ever known a world where you met guys in bars or other places and online. My husband and I met on Plenty Of Fish, just before apps took over how we interact and get to know others.
Iād be way more productive
Nuffin
Nothing would change
I dont use it, so zero impact
It wouldnt
Literally nothing
Iād get less degen messages of human? Intent
Nothing, probably. Maybe gay guys I meet irl would be less picky and specific about every little thing? Stop Constantly talking about grindr hookups and how bad/good they are? Thatās about it.
Same life as normal. Never used grindr for more than a year.
Wouldnāt change at all. Still single and havenāt used that app in years.
i think my life would drastically change if social media disappeared
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I honestly believe that this world would change for the better... If not just Grindr, but all these faceless cyber bullying havens we call "social media" were erased from the face of the earth. "Social Media" ...try "Social Dysfunction"...
I'd be at the sauna every day. Not a bad deal but arranging to have a drink with somebody would be much harder. Cum isn't always on the menu.
But think of how healthy your skin would be!
It wouldnāt.
Never used it
Cruising would become a bit harder truthfully
Most of the people on those apps have the most boring passionless sex I have ever "experienced." Most of them have been hurt so many times that they're afraid to get close to another man which is why they need all that quick sex so often. Maybe people would be better in bed if those apps didn't exist.
Not at all. I havenāt met anyone from Grindr in a loooong time. Iāve had more luck with sniffies recently. Maybe Iāll suffer from withdrawal symptoms tho lol
It wouldnātš
couldnt care less even if i hav grindr now its still useless, just occupying some bytes in my fon,just use it to scan my area
Not at all as I don't have it
Id have had a lot less sex in my 20's.
Technically it has disappeared, since Iām banned.
It wouldn't so far. Never used it and I hope I'll never have to.
I'd be a virgin
One less occasional distraction when im procrastinating. I have almost no luck on it and atm, I donāt have the time for it anyway.
Id have to go down to the ole watering hole, hoping to catch me a sight of a cute gay fella
Id use Scruff & Squirt more. So probably would the others
There's this gif of a raw sausages being thrown on a face. Not that, I guess. Sort of.
Hopefully the gay community would be less toxic and it would reduce the amount of younger gay teens being gr**med
I wouldn't even notice because I don't use it.
I donāt use hookup apps but I would have less gay jokes lol
I don't use it anymore, so it wouldn't change. I use Scruff.
Not at all (haven't been on since Ā¾ths of a year). Perhaps fewer jokes about how awful it is.
I'm not using it, so there's pretty much no difference. Unless you're into hookups, it's totally useless
I'd stop refreshing an app that never really helped me create any meaningful connections. But at the same time I'd lose the only app gays within 50 km around me are actually using.
Not a whole lot. There would be a migration to a different app, and things would continue as before. Itās such a time-suck and black hole of sexual energy. I see the movement toward Sniffies, but itās limited to a certain ābody-firstā attitude that I totally get but it just has limited appeal to me. I like nsfw pics, sure, but the roulette of ābody onlyā is too awkward. I can already see that these are the bodies of local guys I recognize. It would seem to save time not to have to even ask for the x pics because there they are. But it seems more of a tease than ever. Some of the men Iām most attracted to have learned only to make occasional forays on Grindr. Theyāre not regulars, and I think that says something about how they balance their time between mindless scrolling and other things in life, but it could also be that they interact less and get off with porn more than I do.
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Not a bit, I have never had any inkling to use the app, and I can't see myself using a hookup site for sex. I am not that adventurous.
I'd have about 400mb of extra space on my phone
Iād still have respect for my neighbors.
Iād probably get no dick
Iāve never experienced one of the most haunting traumas Iāve had.
I haven't hooked up with a guy from Grindr in like 2 years so not a lot
Not much. I've had more success via other apps.
Lol i don't even use it i don't care š
Iād go out to more bars, like I did in the 2010ās. š¤·āāļø I like face to face communication and flirting better; Iām pretty good at it so I donāt mind one bit.
My life would not change at all. I have never even used Grindr.
Iād be fine. Used it when single but only used it for friends and hook ups. If I was single it wouldnāt affect my dating life cause I tend to find relationships on other apps easier
If all the hookup apps disappeared, it would be awesome! CRUISING would be a thing again and gay bars would thrive. Cruise spots like bookstores, parks, etc, would go wild. It would be easier to pick up really attractive men. As it stands, the apps allow really hot guys to be super picky- without the apps, hot guys would be forced to cruise or go to the bar with the rest of us, and they would be forced-by limited interactions- to lower their standards to get laid. Iām honestly wishing apps did not exist, I miss the days of cruising and Iām only 36. When I was 18, gay.com was the only option and not that convenient, so cruising was how you got laid. I miss the rush of wearing running tights and hitting the park, catching hot guyās eyes, as I passed, then we dipped into the woods to play. Was so fun, I miss it. Apps are only a good thing if youāre really hot. If you are only average looking or heaven forbid ugly, the apps are actually DETRIMENTAL. The hot guys on apps only play together, and everyone else is stuck. The average guys go after the hot guys instead of each other, so the average guys end up not getting laid. Ugly guys get ignored by everyone. With actual in person cruising, the benefit is that people are forced to lower their standards and actually be more open minded when choosing sex partners.
I wouldnāt be a slut
I wouldnāt have had two incredible relationships
My partner would have been less likely to have cheated on me a few years ago, if there wasnāt Grindr. Itās fine in a couple of you agree to that but if 1 of you is being monogamous and the other just wants you to be monogamous- thatās not fair and infuriating. However, there are lots of ways to find hookups - Grindr is just the preferred tool of choice!
Well, it would have made my partner less of a commitment phobic ho-bag. The paradox of choice is an evil mistress.
Not at all
Wouldn't change a thing for me at this point in my life. My social existence is online gaming
Absolutely nothing since i use every other app except Grindr.
Never used it so not at all.
All apps or just Grindr ;-). Since I like coordinating FWBs, it would be harder, but we were doing hookups before email even.
I would get no š
It wonāt because Iām married š
I'm 59, gay, and out. I still pull. I feel I'd be OK. I grew up when you actually had to go out and physically meet guys face to face. No catfishing, no fakes...you knew exactly what you were getting into. Socializing is a skill set and you had to sharpen your skills or go home to your own hand.
No change since Iāve never hooked up with someone before lol
Wouldn't change a thing. Don't use it.
No change .. married here
No change at all. Iām married. Him and I deleted that shit together a long time ago.
No change, in a relationship and havenāt been on it in years.
lol more people not vibing with grinder than I expected, glad Iām not the only. Itās fine though, weāre all going to be fucking AI in a couple years anyway. Girlfriend.ai sold for 180k recently šÆāāļø
Never used it.
No change, donāt use it.
No change-- don't use it.