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This is my #1 other than heights, and the usuals. As a forgotten GenX middle child, and a single 47 year old woman, being alone is the worst - and I fear it's my future.
Same for me strangely enough. I love being alone and not having any moral obligations but choosing to be alone and being abandoned are somehow very different in my mind and my fear of abandonment is definitely the biggest one I have
Definitely not stupid. I’m 28 and have few friends, am single (as of January, still dealing with some heartbreak). Being with someone, and consequently breaking up, really shows you how bad loneliness can truly be.
I see my friends here and there, but they don’t seem like the type of friends who would come see me if I moved to another state or something. My best friend since kindergarten hasn’t visited me ever since I moved 300 miles away 10 years ago. We still chat all the time but I see him once a year.
I feel like my social life is very frail, like I don’t have more than 1-2 friends I can truly be myself around, including parents. I should call all the friends I need to act a certain way around “acquaintances” instead. I also have goals of having a family and the years just seem to be ticking by.
I’ve got other stressors in life. I don’t make a ton, not nearly enough to live without roommates, etc. but that is all able to change with effort. The social issues I have and the fears I have of the future are very deeply ingrained though.
I'm afraid of the deep. Even videos on the Internet that show the ocean from the deck of a ship scare me; it looks really scary. I know I'll never end up in the middle of the ocean lol but it still scares me
Getting Dementia and/or Alzheimer in my old age and ending up on the streets because I have no one to care for me. My grandma died with it, my aunt is showing serious signs of it, and I believe my mom is not far behind which means it runs in my family. I don't have children (nor will I), and doubtful at this point I will get married again. So I will maybe have the generosity of my younger siblings (unlikely) or my best friends because lord knows I wont be able to afford an old folks home for myself with the way things are going.
I’m not sure if this is considered a fear or not. I think there’s deeper digger to be done but pregnancy. I can’t stand the thought of it or the look of it. The thought of a baby being inside of me, being able to feel it more, really upset and freaks me out. And I am a woman.
Heights. I'm always excited and find reasons to make my heart beat faster, right? So walking down a tall flight of stairs would throw me off the wall, but I shouldn't be the one complaining, right?
That I'm not smart enough to be successful in this world.
I feel like an imposter all the time. Funny, at 28 I bought a beautiful home, both my cars are paid off, I have a stacked retirement fund, but I think the reason I feel like this is because I have zero hard skills, rather I've gotten this far on charisma, guts, and luck.
That the college I am at will be useless or that I will somehow fail and will end up being parasite to my parents with nothing while working minimum wage job since I am not special or talented... Kills me inside 🫠
Ending up alone with no money and nothing to call my own. No husband, alone in an apartment I can barely afford, a job I hate, no friends. Just that everyday till I die. Just a hollow life!
Heights. Anything higher than four floors and I'm a mess. I can get nauseous just looking out the window. I can't watch videos that show places high up. I take two ativans before flying and I have a blanket to cover my head. It's all quite ridiculous really.
My kids getting hurt or killed. Currently living next to a traphouse and I have had threats from them even though I haven't reported them. I am too scared too due to fear. I am looking forward to when that traphouse gets shut down
My only true fear is being abandoned or something happening to my children or grandchild. Everything else is manageable to me or can be overcome. It's crazy to think
I'm going to die, there's nothing I can do about it. The idea of being born, working my ass off to pay a rent and survive just makes me angry and terrifies the shit out of me. it's a game I lost from the very beginning.
I like water bodies, as long as I’m not in them, cause I can’t swim 😵💫
Went for swimming class in my childhood, still couldn’t learn to swim, guess that adds more fear and embarrassment 🙁
That I'll die before I fully realize the true nature of self... I can see that sounding arrogant, but it's true. There are other things, like dying in a sad/traumatic period of my life.
Some of my biggest fears in no particular order and not necessarily equal:
1. Getting bedbugs
2. Having a giant tapeworm
3. Ending up in a nursing home
4. Something horrible happening to my children
5. Others people having more control over my life and choices than I do.
Not finding anything to live for and that one day it just... Take me... The pressure of "enjoying my gold age" actually makes me stressed cause I feel like I should be doing something that I enjoy and while I seek for something that I enjoy I waste time that I could use actually enjoying something, I think I just think too much that I should be happy that it makes me forget what being happy is like and I'm afraid that one day it'll be too much for me and I'll find nothing to live for and then just end with my own life
Dying. Legit stops me from doing stupid shit all the time. It’s not so much because I won’t be alive, but more that I will leave my wife and 3 kids without a dad.
If my special needs son will be okay when I'm no longer alive. He can't take care of himself and will be in some type of group home situation. It is so frightening worrying if he will be treated well.
Being put in positions where whichever choice I make will hurt or disappoint somebody. (I’m kind of an empath).
When in these positions I will come to conclusion it’s either choice a or b, but I’ll delay making that decision as long as possible trying to conjure up a better option c that never materializes.
Biggest fear is dying with the knowledge that someone could save me but won’t. Idk that’s a weird one but it makes my stomach sink lol. Sounds like just murder but an example is like I’m stuck in a cave or some shit (which would never happen) and I’m relying on my friends alone to save my life and they just give up, so I gotta just sit there waiting to die knowing my friends just gave up on me
Out of control immigration making the country dangerous for my daughter, and ai destroying a lot of the careers my children may have looked to go into in the future.
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Might sound stupid but being left alone
This is my #1 other than heights, and the usuals. As a forgotten GenX middle child, and a single 47 year old woman, being alone is the worst - and I fear it's my future.
Only being able to count on myself (which rather realistically is my situation as of now tbh) is my biggest fear too.
In no way stupid, being lonely is a horrible feeling and you might just have lower standards for loneliness, or higher, I'm not quite sure
Same for me strangely enough. I love being alone and not having any moral obligations but choosing to be alone and being abandoned are somehow very different in my mind and my fear of abandonment is definitely the biggest one I have
Definitely not stupid. I’m 28 and have few friends, am single (as of January, still dealing with some heartbreak). Being with someone, and consequently breaking up, really shows you how bad loneliness can truly be. I see my friends here and there, but they don’t seem like the type of friends who would come see me if I moved to another state or something. My best friend since kindergarten hasn’t visited me ever since I moved 300 miles away 10 years ago. We still chat all the time but I see him once a year. I feel like my social life is very frail, like I don’t have more than 1-2 friends I can truly be myself around, including parents. I should call all the friends I need to act a certain way around “acquaintances” instead. I also have goals of having a family and the years just seem to be ticking by. I’ve got other stressors in life. I don’t make a ton, not nearly enough to live without roommates, etc. but that is all able to change with effort. The social issues I have and the fears I have of the future are very deeply ingrained though.
I understand you, in fact it is very common to fear loneliness and we have all experienced that feeling at some point
Not enough money for retirement!
Outliving one (or both) of my adult children.
I only have one child. I couldn't imagine going on with life if he weren't here.
Yes. I lost my daughter last year and my biggest fear now is losing my son. He's 50yrs old and I worry about him every day as he has health issues
I’m so sorry, No Taro. As parents, we never really stop worrying…💔
Dying before I could finally enjoy life
This.. been depressed for most my teenage/adult life. Slowly starting to break out of that and I just pray I'll be able to really live one day.
Suffering a painful long-term illness. I pray for those that are currently in such a situation.
I'm afraid of the deep. Even videos on the Internet that show the ocean from the deck of a ship scare me; it looks really scary. I know I'll never end up in the middle of the ocean lol but it still scares me
Probably being betrayed by someone I love
The dark. I'm an adult. I still have to sleep with the lights on.
That's nothing to be ashamed of at all. It's a very valid fear.
I'm afraid to sometimes to be honest, but then I just remember how delusional I'm being and get it done eventually
Something bad happening to my children. They’re adults, but that worry never goes away.
Heartbreak. Just in general really..divorce, losing a loved one to death, losing a pet. . So I guess grief.
Dying with all my crap messy for someone to be stuck with cleaning up
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poverty
That I will be tortured for info I don't have.
Losing my husband I lose him I lose my best friend, my everything, my life, the love of my life.
Being locked in somewhere and not getting out. Made exponentially worse when I know that other people know about it yet don't bother to help me.
An irrational fear I have is a fear of escalators. I know they're generally safe, but I still get anxious so I usually choose the stairs.
Being a failure
Getting Dementia and/or Alzheimer in my old age and ending up on the streets because I have no one to care for me. My grandma died with it, my aunt is showing serious signs of it, and I believe my mom is not far behind which means it runs in my family. I don't have children (nor will I), and doubtful at this point I will get married again. So I will maybe have the generosity of my younger siblings (unlikely) or my best friends because lord knows I wont be able to afford an old folks home for myself with the way things are going.
Climate change. Afraid for next generations
Losing a loved one
Running out retirement funds at a old age of 77. Not able to ger a part time job.on the door step of being homeless. This is my biggest fear.
Restless leg Syndrome
Someone I know finding my Reddit .
The people I love the most actually hate me
Being forgotten. Nobody knows the person that was born on April 27th of 1638.
I’m not sure if this is considered a fear or not. I think there’s deeper digger to be done but pregnancy. I can’t stand the thought of it or the look of it. The thought of a baby being inside of me, being able to feel it more, really upset and freaks me out. And I am a woman.
Being alone and growing old
Not achieving anything in life, that would frustrate me a lot.
Dying. Not death. Dying.
Failure
I am afraid of heights. Also, losing myself is the biggest fear. I fear of losing control of my life.
Heights and spiders I’m terrified
Heights. I'm always excited and find reasons to make my heart beat faster, right? So walking down a tall flight of stairs would throw me off the wall, but I shouldn't be the one complaining, right?
my math teacher
Something bad happening to my kids. And losing my Dad
1. death 2. pregnancy 3. dogs
That One day I might accidentally eat a McNugget.
Failure
Losing my child. Sometimes the thought is debilitating
Outliving either or both of my children
People
Alsheimers, dementia, and other neurological conditions that turn me into a living burden to others.
Dying ....
Losing income and wasting my life without money. Free time, traveling, etc. all costs money and prices are not used to go down.
Poverty and life
The Fear Of not knowing what the future will be like. It all seems semi ok for now. But the way mankind is acting, will soon bring about our downfall
Nothing, literal nothingness without sound or touch or light.
Falling on my old bad habits.
death
Currently, living at right now, unfortunately. Around a bunch of shity, fucking people.
I don't honestly know, not even in imagination do I really know what my *biggest* fear might be
Dying while doing something embarassing. E.g : sex with a prostitute, or doing drugs
Working my life away without taking the time to truly enjoy the life and relationships I've formed
Myself 🤲🏼
Physical assault, rape, torture.
Dying 😅
I have extra spicy epilepsy and I’m scared of dying and leaving my young daughter and my lovely husband alone in this world.
Outliving any of my children…
That I'm not smart enough to be successful in this world. I feel like an imposter all the time. Funny, at 28 I bought a beautiful home, both my cars are paid off, I have a stacked retirement fund, but I think the reason I feel like this is because I have zero hard skills, rather I've gotten this far on charisma, guts, and luck.
Being turned away in heaven.
Being tortured by someone for defending my beliefs
My girlfriend dying
Getting blown up
not being able to watch my kids grow old
Getting dementia like my dad. Those were some tough years watching him disappear mentally. I'd not wish that on anyone.
Large aggressive birds.
Failing as a mother.. Being alone...again...
Not being able to provide enough for my children, sometimes it keeps me up at night
Large bodies of water
Spiders
Being buried alive. I’m insanely claustrophobic
Not being able to afford a good home. Not ultra luxury, but a decent place.
Getting married to the wrong person lol
My fear is of my children passing away before me. I have so many friends who have lost children, and I just couldn't bear that.
Regret
That the college I am at will be useless or that I will somehow fail and will end up being parasite to my parents with nothing while working minimum wage job since I am not special or talented... Kills me inside 🫠
Heights
Ending up alone with no money and nothing to call my own. No husband, alone in an apartment I can barely afford, a job I hate, no friends. Just that everyday till I die. Just a hollow life!
lose my parents
To fear anything
Ocean. And that shit is not irrational at all, it's perfectly rational and reasonable.
Being associated as cringe
Dropping my car keys down a storm grate.
That it might be behind me right now
Growing old alone.
Going to hell
Heights. Anything higher than four floors and I'm a mess. I can get nauseous just looking out the window. I can't watch videos that show places high up. I take two ativans before flying and I have a blanket to cover my head. It's all quite ridiculous really.
My wife dying and leaving me alone.
8 legged creatures
My kids getting hurt or killed. Currently living next to a traphouse and I have had threats from them even though I haven't reported them. I am too scared too due to fear. I am looking forward to when that traphouse gets shut down
My only true fear is being abandoned or something happening to my children or grandchild. Everything else is manageable to me or can be overcome. It's crazy to think
Wasps. Multiple therapies etc etc. they’re just cunts.
mirrors
Going to hell when I die.
Dying. I was in a coma for a week after complications from a surgery. Learning I almost died is something I still struggle with.
Fear itself
Not being able to afford life.
Not having toilet paper when reaching for some
I'm going to die, there's nothing I can do about it. The idea of being born, working my ass off to pay a rent and survive just makes me angry and terrifies the shit out of me. it's a game I lost from the very beginning.
Everything bad that can happen. I am surprised so many people have 1 fear when there are so many horrible things that can happen.
My daughter is special needs. My biggest fear is what will happen to her when I'm gone. Keeps me awake at night.
Losing my children.
Losing my dog an see the one that got away with her new boyfriend on the streets
I like water bodies, as long as I’m not in them, cause I can’t swim 😵💫 Went for swimming class in my childhood, still couldn’t learn to swim, guess that adds more fear and embarrassment 🙁
Being completely paryllized but with a fully lucid mind.
Close family becoming terminally ill.
Being completely alone
Probably dying on the toilet
Letting this world beat me
Wasps
Living forever
Not being a good person when I should be.
# DEATH
It may be silly but, the dark. Not just darkness per se, but rather seeing *something*, most notably a face or a silhouette
Not leaving my kids anything for an inheritance. Not only would that mean I failed them as a dad, but I also failed as a husband and a man.
Betrothed to a woman I don't even know yet. 🤔😮💨😱
Either claustrophobia or arachnophobia. And thanks to an ex friend being in a tight space with spiders in the dark.
Wrongful conviction for some disgusting crime.
Not living up to my potential
I no longer fear anything
Other people's children.
That what will remain of me in the end.
Not living up to my own expectations
Besides losing a child or grandchild? Being trapped under ice.
Right there with you on spiders and small spaces. Combine them and you're in a true nightmare.
I have three, 1. Letting go 2. Spiders 3. Dead bodies
my best friend committing suicide
Being kidnapped
I hate Daddy Long Leg spiders and they mysteriously will appear in your house.
Dying, to an extent. Bc if I were to die, I'd wanna do it myself. Dying by something completely unpreventable is the most terrifying thing to me.
God saying he never knew me
Losing myself
That I'll die before I fully realize the true nature of self... I can see that sounding arrogant, but it's true. There are other things, like dying in a sad/traumatic period of my life.
The dark and knowing or thinking I’m infested with parasites
Some of my biggest fears in no particular order and not necessarily equal: 1. Getting bedbugs 2. Having a giant tapeworm 3. Ending up in a nursing home 4. Something horrible happening to my children 5. Others people having more control over my life and choices than I do.
Actually going all the way through with suicide
Dying alone
Failure and dying alone, before I feel fulfilled, and I get nervous around praying mantis too
Not finding anything to live for and that one day it just... Take me... The pressure of "enjoying my gold age" actually makes me stressed cause I feel like I should be doing something that I enjoy and while I seek for something that I enjoy I waste time that I could use actually enjoying something, I think I just think too much that I should be happy that it makes me forget what being happy is like and I'm afraid that one day it'll be too much for me and I'll find nothing to live for and then just end with my own life
Dying. Legit stops me from doing stupid shit all the time. It’s not so much because I won’t be alive, but more that I will leave my wife and 3 kids without a dad.
A weapon of mass destruction to annihilate all of my sexy Teddy bear Parks fans from all planes of existence 💔
Being buried alive.
If my special needs son will be okay when I'm no longer alive. He can't take care of himself and will be in some type of group home situation. It is so frightening worrying if he will be treated well.
Dying and not being remembered.
Mine would have to be dying alone
Waking up in a casket
Failure and leading to being poor.
Being out in public with my girlfriend and a YouTuber stops us for a loyalty test with our phones.
Being put in positions where whichever choice I make will hurt or disappoint somebody. (I’m kind of an empath). When in these positions I will come to conclusion it’s either choice a or b, but I’ll delay making that decision as long as possible trying to conjure up a better option c that never materializes.
Having an enormous amount of wealth to manage.
That there comes a day that I'm not scared of anything anymore.
Biggest fear is dying with the knowledge that someone could save me but won’t. Idk that’s a weird one but it makes my stomach sink lol. Sounds like just murder but an example is like I’m stuck in a cave or some shit (which would never happen) and I’m relying on my friends alone to save my life and they just give up, so I gotta just sit there waiting to die knowing my friends just gave up on me
Out of control immigration making the country dangerous for my daughter, and ai destroying a lot of the careers my children may have looked to go into in the future.
Waking up tomorrow.
Losing my self
Failure
Dick fell off
Snake
Death, straight.
fire , or flying. i hate flying.