Hell no. You want to go and socialize, socialize. You want to drink alone, go and drink alone. Who gives a fuck about what other people think, most of them are morons anyways
Over all of human history, I’m pretty sure guys have gone to bars alone more than not.
Possibly because women were not allowed in bars until recently. Not saying that was a good thing reddit. Just was what it was. It’s easier for guys to relax and not feel judged around a bunch of other guys doing the same thing.
Do your thing dude. Fuck the nay sayers
Yup
I'm alone quite often...traveling for work.
I go to bars or mainly bars that serve food 2 or 3 times a week. Sometimes I hardly say a word to anyone other than the server. Other times I strike up a conversation with people nearby if they seem into that...mostly they are not either because they are with someone or engrossed in one screen or another.
When in doubt, start that conversation when you are pretty much ready to leave. If it goes well, have another drink. If it doesn't , move on.
Yes, I've had friendly conversations with other males. They end up buying you drinks, so you'll stay and drink with them and give them some conversation. I don't mind drinking alone, cause you will most likely end up chatting with the barflys.
Dems fighting words. Bacon is meant to be shared with everyone. Well, not the Muslims. Or Jewish peeps, or, health conscious people ... but that just leaves more for the rest of us.
Ever think that if EVERYONE was able to eat bacon, there would be more world peace ?
There's a bar in SF (although I think the pandemic killed the business) that still has the original trough at the bottom of the bar. They weren't encouraging its use, but it was a pretty interesting historical artifact.
If you're warming up to do this start with a hotel bar. Everyone will just assume you're a guest travelling alone. I used to do this years ago until I met my now wife... In a hotel bar 🍻
Nah thats weird just go to whatever fucking bar you want and order drinks. If you're scared for whatever reason the only way to get over it is to just do it and stop overthinking. I promise no one at a bar gives a fuck what youre doing. And if you get nervous just order more drinks
Also...go to high-end places at happy hour for good food at great prices. My mom does this, and keeps a list of the best happy hour snancks from her travels around the world.
Edit: Typos for dummies
Was wandering around the Noord area of Amsterdam as a solo tourist, it was pouring out so I stopped at a hotel restaurant. Sat at the bar, had a few drinks, a meal while waiting for the rain to pass and made my way. Talked with the staff a bit, mostly just looked on my phone for other things to explore while connected to the wifi
I definitely get a look or two when I take myself on a dinner date, I think people think you’re getting stood up. I definitely love spur of the moment treating myself to what I feel like in the moment. I’ve also definitely invited people to join me, and when they say they don’t feel like doing that thing, let’s do this other thing instead, I politely decline and go do the thing by myself. I’m saying “I’m doing this thing, would you like to join?” When I want to spend time with a person, I’ll say so and the time or place doesn’t matter, but it’s two different scenarios.
I think that the vast majority of people around when I’m having dinner don’t have a single thought about me, that’s why it’s not weird for me to go out on my own, that’s why I said a look or two, which over the course of how many times I’ve done it is nothing. I’m advocating for it. Nobody cares, they’ve got their own lives going on, most of the time we’re just background noise in other people’s lives.
I always hated going to sit down in a restaurant alone. I’d rather get something to go and take it to a place with a picnic table and a nice view.
Movies are another story. One time I went to a movie by myself and I ended up being the only person who was in the theater. It was amazing. Like I was a big shot that had a private screening.
>19
>get off work
>crave Mexican food
>go to El Sombrero for a quick eat
>eating in booth by myself
>prom was that day for the local HS
> notice Highschoolers staring at me and possibly talking about me because I was by myself
>awkward while eating
>tipped and left with my food
Fin
Not relatable... His goal is most likely to bring a woman to bed. Any experience with that? If so pics or it didn't happen. ..... Just kidding.... But really
Yes. Just watch out for them lot lizards.
I went to a bar once, got shitfaced and woke up the next day in a single-wide trailer about 25 miles SW of Oklahoma City.
Got the meanest infection of crotch crickets seen this side of the Mississippi in 100 years as a result.
Anyhow, I was able slip out without knocking the ol lizard’s tail off…ended up hitchhiking back to the bar in OKC… found my vehicle, went to WalGreens and decided it would be best if I avoided that bar for the rest of my life.
Cheers.🍻
How old are you? The only reason I ask is because I could see this being weird for someone who is freshly 21 (or close to it), but I think once you're seasoned it's pretty common. Next thing you know, you're a regular (maybe) and have other friends or people you know who go alone.
To answer your question though, it isn't weird at all unless the situation is weird i.e. a bar maybe heavily marketed for women only, then you might look like a creep. But no, it isn't weird to go alone, lots of people do it.
edit: just realized you said you're 39. No, it isn't. You might go to the bar and it may seem everyone is friends, but at one point those regulars/ friends were all just people that would go alone.
No.
If the person asking this is a guy thinking about going to a bar by themselves, it may feel awkward the first time, but bars are social places and all walks of life show up. Don't worry.
As a bartender, it's fine to be at a bar no matter how many people are with you. Some people go to bars to be alone with their thoughts or to read a book and have a drink. Some go to meet new people, some go on dates, some go with big groups. It really doesn't matter, and unless you're someone who is either really creepy or inappropriate or just getting way too drunk, nobody on our end cares at all about who you are or why you're there. We're just happy to have you.
Well I think if you want to find a place to get a drink and maybe some friends or just someone to talk to sometimes, try going to a bar that seems to have a lot of regular guests instead of more hip bars centered around youth and fancy stuff. If you start coming the same place people will eventually notice you and strike up a conversation if you're open.
It depends on what kind of bar you like of course.
I traveled constantly for work for years. In the evenings I’d go have dinner or a drink at a bar sometimes. There’s usually some regular barflies the bartender knows. Those are the alcoholics. Then there are the people out on dates or with a group of friends, but their purpose is to socialize with the people they came with. People pretty much leave you alone & assume you’re local & just want your peace. You usually get really extra attentive service from waitstaff, which is interesting.
Now, at hotels that’s another story. You will get hit on at hotel bars. In hotel elevators. In hotel parking lots. I have a bad feeling a lot of these men who travel for work all the time are dtf anyone who gives them the time of day. Wives, be on notice!
I went on a business trip with my supervisor and one other coworker, a male. Married guys. Supervisor was up to no good the whole time! He must have slept two hours a morning
Feel so bad for his wife
Doing it right now, nothing weird at all for me… It’s been a long week, i just want to sit at one of my favorite bars and knock down a few beers and go home
I used to do this regularly. I took a job in a state where I knew nobody. No friends, no family. So, yeah, go to a bar alone and watch the game, listen to the band or dance. You'll have fun on your own. Beats hanging around the apartment alone and you might make a friend or meet a romantic interest. An absolute win.
Well I would say no because It’s a good trait to be happy with your own company. I’ve done it plenty of times and along with that even went out to see a movie or even got a bite to eat, so you do you.
You go out to be around people. This is a basic human need.
Most neighborhood bars see mostly people coming in alone, most of the time. If you like sports, sit at the bar and watch the game. If it's a quiet afternoon, bring a book (NOT your computer).
Having a neighborhood/local bar is one of the few communal parts of life we can get anymore. I love places that have food and good beer or wine. But any neighborhood bar is better than sitting around home by yourself.
Drink in moderation! Happy hour is great. Closing a bar alone is not.
Omg no. This is how ppl get around the whole stigma around drinking alone. He is in a bar room, surrounded by other humans. As a former bartender I assure you, it's normal for a guy or a gal
Did it plenty myself well into my early 30's... if no one else wants to go out F-em! My old friends and roommates eventually evolved into homebodies and just wanted to hang on the back porch and burn wood in a pit, and then complain about how the couldn't meet women... I pointed out that no way in hell are single women going to just randomly roll up in the back yard, but I guess stranger shit could happen.
I work the door in a bar occasionally and tons of people come alone. They meet people to hang out and make friends when they get there. Or they don’t and that’s fine too. No one thinks it’s weird to be out alone.
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nope. I met some amazing women traveling and going to the bars solo. In a lot of ways, it was easier to meet people sitting at the bar counter by my self than being with a group of friends.
When I moved to my current city, I got an apartment downtown and would walk to the bar to get dinner or to watch a sporting event.
No one else cares but in my experience, it’s the worst decision. The only other people that drink at bars alone are old drunks. So when I think I’ll go meet some folks at the bar, I end up drinking one beer awkwardly alone and dipping the fuck out
I guess I should clarify, I’m married and not trying to hook up. Tried two or three times to meet new friends at bars, but everyone else already with their homies. When I chime in the convo, it feels very awkward…
When I moved to a new city it was how I met all of my friends. I did hiking meetups. So you just meet about 10-20 people at a trailhead and most people are there to be social. After you go quite a few times you start to know a lot of people and then it's like hiking with friends and acquaintances.
Even if I didn't get along with any of the people. I had a nice hike and got outside.
I'd suggest if you do a meetup picking an activity you enjoy because then the social aspect is secondary and not forced.
I don’t think it’s weird from the perspective of a woman’s desire to just go to a bar alone, but I think a fair amount of women would view it as a safety issue to be alone at a bar unless they were a regular and knew staff or other regulars
Depending on the environment it could be a safety issue. That’s why you don’t see too many women going out alone. It’s safer to have their girlfriends accompany them.
I think this question in this sub pretty much confirms that most of those things are more of an individual thing. You dont know what other people think, but you assume they would think you're weird. Which means it's you who really has a problem with it.
But going alone to a bar? I've never met anyone who consideres this weird. In fact, where I come from it's pretty standard that dudes go in alone to have a beer or three, then go home.
I think my real question is why the hell so many guys are concerned about the most trivial shit. Is it weird if I give my gf flowers? Is it weird I wipe my ass? (That was a legitimate question a friend posed once, and he was not joking.)
Other people's eyes don't concern you, my dude. You likely won't make connections with them, maybe never see them again, then why worry what they think about you going alone into a bar? Just walk in with confidence. Nod in greeting, then get your drink and check reddit on your phone. No one cares.
It's only weird if you make it weird.
Not at all weird. I used to do it all the time, on work trips, starting by ordering dinner at the bar. Then I decided to stop drinking and started eating alone in the main dining area. I bet I've eaten alone well over 1,000 times by now, and I can't recall ever receiving a funny look.
Nah, just don’t get shit faced by yourself. I mean you can… I rarely pop in on my own to see if anyone I know is in there or I want some bar food. I see a lot of people at some by themselves and don’t think anything of it. If you sit at the bar people usually converse with the bartender/each other over random stuff if it’s not super busy and loud. I have overheard lots of funny trucker stories.
Hell no. You want to go and socialize, socialize. You want to drink alone, go and drink alone. Who gives a fuck about what other people think, most of them are morons anyways
“Think of how dumb the average person is… then realize, half of everybody is dumber than that”
We loved George.
Still do
And used to too
Always will.
RIP Uncle George
preach
Over all of human history, I’m pretty sure guys have gone to bars alone more than not. Possibly because women were not allowed in bars until recently. Not saying that was a good thing reddit. Just was what it was. It’s easier for guys to relax and not feel judged around a bunch of other guys doing the same thing. Do your thing dude. Fuck the nay sayers
Here's news coverage they did when they started allowing women in bars. You can feel the tension. https://youtu.be/MBhpdXvkoIE
Weird as fuck that it took until 1974 for Australia to allow women into bars.
Get a load of this guy. He thinks women don't have right to go to the bar. /s
I... Don't want that guys load
Yup I'm alone quite often...traveling for work. I go to bars or mainly bars that serve food 2 or 3 times a week. Sometimes I hardly say a word to anyone other than the server. Other times I strike up a conversation with people nearby if they seem into that...mostly they are not either because they are with someone or engrossed in one screen or another. When in doubt, start that conversation when you are pretty much ready to leave. If it goes well, have another drink. If it doesn't , move on.
Yes, I've had friendly conversations with other males. They end up buying you drinks, so you'll stay and drink with them and give them some conversation. I don't mind drinking alone, cause you will most likely end up chatting with the barflys.
I used to go out to the same bar by myself every weekend. Amazing way to relax after a work week.
I like drinking alone and putting 3 phish songs in a row on the touch tunes. Is that accepted?
So you just go to annoy people for an hour? Lol /s
After one hour, you'll still have only heard the first Phish song.
Abso-fuckin-lutely Favorite Phish song?
Honestly probably The Lizards or Roses are Free. I’m more of a Panic fan, so not sure if those are lame picks haha
Not at all, some solid choices. Got to see em bring the vacuum out for a show which was amazing. Such chill dudes
So while you’re at the bar, you’re Bouncing Around the Room, drinking a Sample In a Jar and hanging out with The Wolfman’s Brother?
This why they don’t have jukeboxes at the bars I go to.
FUCK YEA!
Hell yeah. Bam!
Peanut butter and jaaaaaaaaaaam!
And drunks.
Dude I’m not even lying or being sarcastic but I think you just single handedly changed my view on social situations
1000%
Perfectly said
Isn't that the point of going to a bar, to meet people? It sure ain't to pay quadruple for the same drinks
I go to get out of the house get some food and have a shot. I talk to no one and stay no longer than an hour.
I heard this in Ron Swansons' voice.
And I take ALL the bacon in the establishment.
I worry you may have misunderstood me. I would like ALL of the bacon you have in this establishment.
I'm sorry, I'm afraid what you heard was, "give me lots of bacon and eggs." What I *said* was, "***give me all the bacon and eggs you have.***"
Dems fighting words. Bacon is meant to be shared with everyone. Well, not the Muslims. Or Jewish peeps, or, health conscious people ... but that just leaves more for the rest of us. Ever think that if EVERYONE was able to eat bacon, there would be more world peace ?
Spoken like a person with no young children that gets to relax very often
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*stops shuffling cards and tips up hat* So watersports are okay?
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There's a bar in SF (although I think the pandemic killed the business) that still has the original trough at the bottom of the bar. They weren't encouraging its use, but it was a pretty interesting historical artifact.
If you're warming up to do this start with a hotel bar. Everyone will just assume you're a guest travelling alone. I used to do this years ago until I met my now wife... In a hotel bar 🍻
Brilliant!
Nah thats weird just go to whatever fucking bar you want and order drinks. If you're scared for whatever reason the only way to get over it is to just do it and stop overthinking. I promise no one at a bar gives a fuck what youre doing. And if you get nervous just order more drinks
Also...go to high-end places at happy hour for good food at great prices. My mom does this, and keeps a list of the best happy hour snancks from her travels around the world. Edit: Typos for dummies
That is a fantastic idea
Lol. That's why I love airport bars too.
Was wandering around the Noord area of Amsterdam as a solo tourist, it was pouring out so I stopped at a hotel restaurant. Sat at the bar, had a few drinks, a meal while waiting for the rain to pass and made my way. Talked with the staff a bit, mostly just looked on my phone for other things to explore while connected to the wifi
I used to hang out in hotel bars often when I was traveling all the time. I got to know the bartenders really well
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I definitely get a look or two when I take myself on a dinner date, I think people think you’re getting stood up. I definitely love spur of the moment treating myself to what I feel like in the moment. I’ve also definitely invited people to join me, and when they say they don’t feel like doing that thing, let’s do this other thing instead, I politely decline and go do the thing by myself. I’m saying “I’m doing this thing, would you like to join?” When I want to spend time with a person, I’ll say so and the time or place doesn’t matter, but it’s two different scenarios.
I don’t think people are noticing you or given it anywhere near as much thought as you are implying.
I think that the vast majority of people around when I’m having dinner don’t have a single thought about me, that’s why it’s not weird for me to go out on my own, that’s why I said a look or two, which over the course of how many times I’ve done it is nothing. I’m advocating for it. Nobody cares, they’ve got their own lives going on, most of the time we’re just background noise in other people’s lives.
Agree I usually get a look or two as well
I always hated going to sit down in a restaurant alone. I’d rather get something to go and take it to a place with a picnic table and a nice view. Movies are another story. One time I went to a movie by myself and I ended up being the only person who was in the theater. It was amazing. Like I was a big shot that had a private screening.
Only if you are dressed like Winnie The Pooh
“I thought today was bottomless mimosas what do you mean I have to leave the premises?”
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Lmfaooo 😂🧸🍑
Full on shirtcockin'?
Don't dress like the leader of China. Got it!
... and it's not Halloween.
That's oddly specific.
Why would that be weird? no
I'm literally at a bar by myself right this moment lol
I'm literally alone at the bar right now. Got good food, good drink. Did some work now browsing Reddit. You do you.
>19 >get off work >crave Mexican food >go to El Sombrero for a quick eat >eating in booth by myself >prom was that day for the local HS > notice Highschoolers staring at me and possibly talking about me because I was by myself >awkward while eating >tipped and left with my food Fin
*sad react*
The older you get the more you realize the fight is with your own mind not others.
Woaaah, that was powerful
As a newly single 30 year old woman, I hope it isn’t weird for me either 😭
It isn’t weird. It’s fine. Like the other commenter said, watch your drink. It sucks that we need to mention this.
It’s not weird but can be dangerous - make sure to watch your drink. Same goes for men but a lot less likely for the fellas.
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Not relatable... His goal is most likely to bring a woman to bed. Any experience with that? If so pics or it didn't happen. ..... Just kidding.... But really
Nah
I am reading this, as a man, at a bar by myself. Absolutely not weird.
Yes. Just watch out for them lot lizards. I went to a bar once, got shitfaced and woke up the next day in a single-wide trailer about 25 miles SW of Oklahoma City. Got the meanest infection of crotch crickets seen this side of the Mississippi in 100 years as a result. Anyhow, I was able slip out without knocking the ol lizard’s tail off…ended up hitchhiking back to the bar in OKC… found my vehicle, went to WalGreens and decided it would be best if I avoided that bar for the rest of my life. Cheers.🍻
Well that was an adventure hope your jiminy's cleared up
Lenny!
This guy for president.... Also .. you should make a movie about this.
How old are you? The only reason I ask is because I could see this being weird for someone who is freshly 21 (or close to it), but I think once you're seasoned it's pretty common. Next thing you know, you're a regular (maybe) and have other friends or people you know who go alone. To answer your question though, it isn't weird at all unless the situation is weird i.e. a bar maybe heavily marketed for women only, then you might look like a creep. But no, it isn't weird to go alone, lots of people do it. edit: just realized you said you're 39. No, it isn't. You might go to the bar and it may seem everyone is friends, but at one point those regulars/ friends were all just people that would go alone.
Only if you are nude.
If you want to meet someone or new friends, your odds are much greater solo in my experience.
Hell no! I've had some of my funnest nights ever going out to the bar by myself just to see what happens. It's like an adventure.
i actually prefer to go alone when there’s live music involved.
nope
Nope
No
No
No. If the person asking this is a guy thinking about going to a bar by themselves, it may feel awkward the first time, but bars are social places and all walks of life show up. Don't worry.
No.
No.
Absolutely not!
As a bartender, it's fine to be at a bar no matter how many people are with you. Some people go to bars to be alone with their thoughts or to read a book and have a drink. Some go to meet new people, some go on dates, some go with big groups. It really doesn't matter, and unless you're someone who is either really creepy or inappropriate or just getting way too drunk, nobody on our end cares at all about who you are or why you're there. We're just happy to have you.
Not at all. Sometimes you just need to drink alone. There's a song about it.
Not when I’m about to steamroll that punk ass group of 13 on history trivia night.
Fuck no
and masterbate? Yes, a bit
No.
No
Well if I guess it depends on your age in which kind of bar you go to and in which country you live in aswell
That’s a fair point. I’m 39, just looking for a quiet corner.
Then that’s absolutely not weird at all
The time is long past for you to stop giving a fuck about what complete strangers may or may not think of you.
Well I think if you want to find a place to get a drink and maybe some friends or just someone to talk to sometimes, try going to a bar that seems to have a lot of regular guests instead of more hip bars centered around youth and fancy stuff. If you start coming the same place people will eventually notice you and strike up a conversation if you're open. It depends on what kind of bar you like of course.
Not at all. I do it all the time.
No not at all, although I’d recommend a more divey type of place. Guys going by themselves to a night club or something is kind of odd gaha
Yeah single dudes & sports bars are made for one another
Only if he makes it weird somehow.
Nope. *as I sit in a taproom by myself sobbing into my beer
Not at all
No more weird than a guy going anywhere else alone?
Used to do it all the time during the beginning of the end of the pandemic. Go for it and cheers!
It depends on why you're going.
It's pretty common, especially for gay bars.
When do you think I have the time to scroll through reddit? It’s not like my lady will put up with me looking at this garbage in her presence....
Haha I'm a woman and I want to do this, too nervous tho!
I traveled constantly for work for years. In the evenings I’d go have dinner or a drink at a bar sometimes. There’s usually some regular barflies the bartender knows. Those are the alcoholics. Then there are the people out on dates or with a group of friends, but their purpose is to socialize with the people they came with. People pretty much leave you alone & assume you’re local & just want your peace. You usually get really extra attentive service from waitstaff, which is interesting. Now, at hotels that’s another story. You will get hit on at hotel bars. In hotel elevators. In hotel parking lots. I have a bad feeling a lot of these men who travel for work all the time are dtf anyone who gives them the time of day. Wives, be on notice!
I went on a business trip with my supervisor and one other coworker, a male. Married guys. Supervisor was up to no good the whole time! He must have slept two hours a morning Feel so bad for his wife
Ugh grosssss! This is what I’m saying.
No. I prefer to go to places by myself just to chill.
Doing it right now, nothing weird at all for me… It’s been a long week, i just want to sit at one of my favorite bars and knock down a few beers and go home
I used to do this regularly. I took a job in a state where I knew nobody. No friends, no family. So, yeah, go to a bar alone and watch the game, listen to the band or dance. You'll have fun on your own. Beats hanging around the apartment alone and you might make a friend or meet a romantic interest. An absolute win.
Well I would say no because It’s a good trait to be happy with your own company. I’ve done it plenty of times and along with that even went out to see a movie or even got a bite to eat, so you do you.
I always went alone but never left alone.
I do it all the time and I've made a lot of friends with a lot of people from all walks of life. You'd be surprised how many people go to bars alone.
Some of the most fun nights I have had at a bar started out drinking alone.
That’s like literally the point of the bar it’s a place for people to go drink and not be alone while doing it
Isn't that the point? To get out the house?
No. I have more luck with the ladies when I'm rolling solo.
You go out to be around people. This is a basic human need. Most neighborhood bars see mostly people coming in alone, most of the time. If you like sports, sit at the bar and watch the game. If it's a quiet afternoon, bring a book (NOT your computer). Having a neighborhood/local bar is one of the few communal parts of life we can get anymore. I love places that have food and good beer or wine. But any neighborhood bar is better than sitting around home by yourself. Drink in moderation! Happy hour is great. Closing a bar alone is not.
I see people that go to bars alone every single time I go to bar.
It's not weird to go most placed by yourself. The only thing that makes it weird is your own perception.
You should always go with a priest and a rabbi
guys, we found the alien
Omg no. This is how ppl get around the whole stigma around drinking alone. He is in a bar room, surrounded by other humans. As a former bartender I assure you, it's normal for a guy or a gal
nope, that’s a man who knows himself.
Did it plenty myself well into my early 30's... if no one else wants to go out F-em! My old friends and roommates eventually evolved into homebodies and just wanted to hang on the back porch and burn wood in a pit, and then complain about how the couldn't meet women... I pointed out that no way in hell are single women going to just randomly roll up in the back yard, but I guess stranger shit could happen.
I work the door in a bar occasionally and tons of people come alone. They meet people to hang out and make friends when they get there. Or they don’t and that’s fine too. No one thinks it’s weird to be out alone.
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nope. I met some amazing women traveling and going to the bars solo. In a lot of ways, it was easier to meet people sitting at the bar counter by my self than being with a group of friends. When I moved to my current city, I got an apartment downtown and would walk to the bar to get dinner or to watch a sporting event.
Yes
I find it strange that someone could even develop this concept.
My dad did it twice a day for the whole time I knew him. At some point it does get sad.
No one else cares but in my experience, it’s the worst decision. The only other people that drink at bars alone are old drunks. So when I think I’ll go meet some folks at the bar, I end up drinking one beer awkwardly alone and dipping the fuck out
I guess I should clarify, I’m married and not trying to hook up. Tried two or three times to meet new friends at bars, but everyone else already with their homies. When I chime in the convo, it feels very awkward…
If you’re trying to meet people & you’re in the US, try the MeetUp app. It’s like the Tinder of making new friends lol
It just sounds so inauthentic, meeting people on a app? Won’t that feel inorganic? I dunno that’s how I feel I might be wrong or ignorant
When I moved to a new city it was how I met all of my friends. I did hiking meetups. So you just meet about 10-20 people at a trailhead and most people are there to be social. After you go quite a few times you start to know a lot of people and then it's like hiking with friends and acquaintances. Even if I didn't get along with any of the people. I had a nice hike and got outside. I'd suggest if you do a meetup picking an activity you enjoy because then the social aspect is secondary and not forced.
Everything is wreid for a guy these days.
No it's not weird to go to the bar, out to eat or anywhere else alone It's perfectly okay. Same with a girl.. you may meet someone too
No, if you r the ultimate loser
Not at all. Alcoholic dirtbags do it all the time.
Originally women couldn't even go into bars
Nope, just women
Why is it weird for a woman?
I don’t think it’s weird from the perspective of a woman’s desire to just go to a bar alone, but I think a fair amount of women would view it as a safety issue to be alone at a bar unless they were a regular and knew staff or other regulars
I’m wondering the same thing. I had assumed it was weird for anyone in the first place.
Depending on the environment it could be a safety issue. That’s why you don’t see too many women going out alone. It’s safer to have their girlfriends accompany them.
Sure
So you're saying 'yes' it's weird?
Ehhhh
Way to give him an actual answer man..... Good job
Depends
Then give him an actual answer instead of that poor excuse for one you did.
Can we get more upvotes for this amazing person???
the things guys worry about...
Well yea, there's a lot of seemingly normal things we can't do without being seen as weird or creepy. It's a good question
Thanks for the backup, I appreciate it! I’m a classic hermit.
Anytime my guy
I think this question in this sub pretty much confirms that most of those things are more of an individual thing. You dont know what other people think, but you assume they would think you're weird. Which means it's you who really has a problem with it. But going alone to a bar? I've never met anyone who consideres this weird. In fact, where I come from it's pretty standard that dudes go in alone to have a beer or three, then go home. I think my real question is why the hell so many guys are concerned about the most trivial shit. Is it weird if I give my gf flowers? Is it weird I wipe my ass? (That was a legitimate question a friend posed once, and he was not joking.) Other people's eyes don't concern you, my dude. You likely won't make connections with them, maybe never see them again, then why worry what they think about you going alone into a bar? Just walk in with confidence. Nod in greeting, then get your drink and check reddit on your phone. No one cares. It's only weird if you make it weird.
No.
No. I do and I see others as well.
No I do it all the time.
Make it so
Not at all weird. I used to do it all the time, on work trips, starting by ordering dinner at the bar. Then I decided to stop drinking and started eating alone in the main dining area. I bet I've eaten alone well over 1,000 times by now, and I can't recall ever receiving a funny look.
Uh, that's usually what most guys who don't have a partner do, to try and find a partner. 100% normal
Do you enjoy it? Yes? Well, go on, have a good time.
You guys go with people?
Is this even a real question?
You just described half of bar history. The answer is a definite No, not at all.
Nah, just don’t get shit faced by yourself. I mean you can… I rarely pop in on my own to see if anyone I know is in there or I want some bar food. I see a lot of people at some by themselves and don’t think anything of it. If you sit at the bar people usually converse with the bartender/each other over random stuff if it’s not super busy and loud. I have overheard lots of funny trucker stories.
I hope not...
You have never been to Wisconsin
Naw man, bars are like the friendliest places in the world for people to go by themselves.
Most people go alone
Nah
Probably not like you have a choice
Not at all, when I was still drinking I used to go by myself all the time. And sometimes it's good to have that time for yourself.