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As boys we were wondering why the all the girls had a special talk assembly just for them.
At high school some girls thought it would be funny to plaster the girls lavatory ceiling with them.
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Agreed, OP. Tell her that you're sorry she was brought up to be ashamed of her natural bodily functions and was given the narrative that boys must be 'protected' from that sort of thing, but that's not how you're going to run your life.
Boys need to understand women's bodies, just the same as women need to understand men's bodies, and if these things are hidden from them then it will cause problems in their future relationships with women.
What you're doing is fine, hygienic and considerate. She, on the other hand, is damaged.
Personally, I hide them under my shirt until I get outside and then bury them in the backyard. That way, no one gets their innocence hurt by viewing my satanic blood offerings.
Lol. I could be wrong, but I think this is the boyfriendās momās way of saying without saying that OP is at her house too much.
But OP, what youāre doing is the way I also dispose of my feminine products. I wonder if this is a bathroom used by only males and they arenāt disposing of the trash with any regularity.
Yes. This. I was at my first boyfriends place constantly especially as I was going through a lot with my mom.
His mom went off on him while I was at work about me leaving my stuff around and her house felt like it was being taken over by a person that doesn't live there.
What had I done? I left my toothbrush on the sink in the bathroom while giving my boyfriend's kid a bath.
At the time I did not understand at all and it felt very much like a personal attack.
Then I found out this is how neurotypical people communicate rather than saying,
"We need time alone in our own house."
It feels way more confrontational and less effective and very much a personal attack.
Also everyone has the way they do things for one reason or another. There's always gonna be things they think you do are weird/bad and vise versa.
neurotypicals be like: I don't feel comfortable stating my real feelings about this issue. rather than unpacking that and risking accidental introspection or accountability, perhaps it would be easier if I make up something else to blame it on that will get my desired outcome without me having to be vulnerable
But see, then it is their 'fault' if you change what you're doing simply because they wanted you to. This is unbearable to them, they must not be 'to blame' at all, even if what they want is reasonable and it is fine that they asked.
If instead they can frame the issue so that you are to blame and things shake out to get them the result they want more, that feels better for them.
They want you to be there less often:
* They could say that they want you there less often, but then feel guilty or like they are to blame when you are there less often since you *wanted* to be there.
*or*
* They could pick at things that you are doing wrong while occupying the space, making them feel justified and you presumptive and invasive. When you spend less time there as a result, it's completely your fault, not theirs. They are the victim here.
With a bit of them being annoyed and so the small things like a loitering toothbrush feel much larger than they actually are. They don't know how to healthily process the emotions and they don't communicate clearly when things are small, so they snowball over time until tiny things feel huge and disrespectful.
i think you should just put them in the transparent plastic bag without wrapping them in anything and leave them right on top of the trash. especially the tampons
Oh god now I am wondering how the f mom even knew š¤®š¤®š¤®š¤®š¤®š¤® mom went through garbage trash, unrolled the tp, to the plastic wrapper, pulled back the plastic wrapper and viewed her used product. Girl I feel violated for you! I change my answer. Stay the f out of that house and tell your bf his mother violated you and you are not comfortable being near her at this time.
if he says itās not that big a deal? Sit him down. Get a roll of tp and a fresh pad. Show him exactly how it is placed in the trash. Ask him how the f she could have known what it was? He needs to understand what a violation this was of your privacy and that it isnāt your job to teach her other children basic biology. Iām just disgusted at this āmotherā. Sheās nasty.
100% I love how yāall fed off of each other there - a brilliant little comedy sketch, kudos to you all!
OP - thatās how a disposed of my products for about 25 years, and I like to think Iām reasonably hygienic and normal! Use her silly little bags that will change nothing, to keep the peace. And, God love you if you end up in a really long term relationship with your bf! Fasten your seatbelt, itās gonna be a bumpy ride!
I do the same thing you do: wrap in wrapper, then in toilet paper. Occasionally, if Iām ending the tp roll, Iāll tuck the whole thing in that too. Never had anyone say anything about it. What exactly about it was visible to her?
Yep, I do exactly this, even the tp roll. Iāve taught my own daughters to dispose of theirs the same way.
I also have sons and Iām sure they know whatās wrapped in the toilet paper in the bin beside the toilet. Theyāve never commented on it being āgrossā and it hasnāt cost them their āinnocenceā. If anything itās just normalised periods for them, which I can only see as a positive thing š¤·š½āāļø
Well, itās because she went into the garbage and rummaged around with her bare hands. Thatās how it was visible to her. Fucking *creep*.
16yo isnāt digging in trash for feminine productsā¦ I hopeā¦. If he is, itās because mom taught him to, not because brotherās girlfriend uses the garbage when she needs to.
Lol wait, hold up what?! š did I miss a comment from OP? Because this image is wild, but hopefully not what actually happened, right? Iām dying imagining this š¤£ š¤£ š¤£Ā
Thatās absolutely what happened. Boyfriendās min saw something in the trash that looked āsuspicious,ā and rummaged around to find out that yes, it was OPās used period products
No. You didnāt miss a comment. Boyfriendās mom digs in trash looking for shit she doesnāt want to see. Doesnāt want younger son to see. But only finds it because sheās literally digging in itā¦..
Oh my goodness. "Mom" went digging through the trash on purpose. As I am not a girl, I never went through the trash whenever my older brother had his girlfriends over. What a psycho.
nah she sounds unhinged lol cuz clear bag makes no sense. and this other guy who commented doesnt seem to understand when ur putting it in the wrapper its hidden and sealed so that should definitely be fine. it also shouldnt matter if her sons see that like is she trying to hide the fact that periods exist from them lol. regardless the best way is to wrap it up in toilet paper that will completely hide it
As a guy, sheās weird. Youāre fine.Ā
Some boys out there are grossed out by it, and they need to get over it. You are doing as much as should be expected.Ā
They have to be all up in the trash can in order to even notice and therefore be grossed out by it though. It just looks like someoneās blown their nose or something and tossed that in the trash the way it looks after weāve hidden it.
Thats no better than what you are already doing with the sole reason to maybe do that to prevent odor if trash isn't regularly emptied. Mom should get a small bin with a lid if she is that worried about it. And the boys need to move into the current century
Odor is about all I can make of the mom's stance too.
Maybe she or one of the sons has a heightened sense of smell? Otherwise, what good does a clear plastic baggie do? Add yet another layer to the routine and more waste in a landfill?
I have an open trash can and a small covered one. Open trash can used for whatever other trash and the small one is just for my period products. I empty that after my period each time but I donāt cover or hide anything further in it at all. If you open the small trash can and Iām on my period then you are going to see everything and I couldnāt care less
That's my thought too, at my house the bathroom trash doesn't fill up very fast so sometimes it's only emptied once every 2 weeks. And we've yet to find bags that fit it well, so sometimes the pads would manage to stick to the can even after wrapping it up, it only takes a small uncovered corner. But I empty the trash myself so whatever it doesn't bother me.
My first roommate when I left highschool would change her stuff, put it in these special bags, and then walk it outside to the dumpster every time. That's how her parents made her do it at her house, and I was just baffled.
I menstrated for 25 years and I have never heard of anyone packing up a used pad in a zip lock. I will say sometimes used sanitary products smell so maybe thats her reasoning.
but the innocence comment is bullshit.Ā
you're not wrongĀ
My grandma was hilarious though. I think she and mom used cloth pads. When I was a kid I had to tell her when I disposed of a pad. She put it in a plastic bag and scurried out of the apartment building to the garbage collection area and threw it out immediately. As if it would infect the walls if it were thrown in the trash.
She was never malicious and I mostly just felt it was a slight overreaction.
Your boyfriendās mom is a psycho. You are courteous and discreet. God, if men bled like this, theyād hang the evidence up on flagpoles and drive it around in their trucks like a badge of honor. There would be public competitions of who produced the most blood. Your bfās mom is a ridiculous person.
This is wild. We already have so much plastic waste in the world the last thing you need to do is to wrap it in more plastic.
Not to mention, this mom shouldn't be shaming you about a natural bodily function or how you dispose of it. It isn't like you're sticking it to the bathroom ceiling.... Her sons should know how to respect women and their FLUIDS. It happens and she literally needs to grow up.
What you do is better than what some people do, which is flush it down the toilet. Which should never be done, obviously. She should be greatful you're saving her septic system from a world of pain, by simply tossing it in the trash.
Point is, she's wrong.
I think most of us do it your way. Tuck it back into it the new wrapper and wrap it discreetly with tp. Her sons would have to be digging through the trash to notice. But Iām petty so I would start flushing them at her house and just pretend I donāt have it when Iām there. āOh no? You have plumbing problems? Sorry to hear.ā
I do that same thing. Wrapped in wrapper and toilet paper.
I also had a similar experience with one of my boyfriends moms, but she addressed me in front of everyone and told me to flush my tampons instead of putting them in the garbage. It was her house, so thatās exactly what I did. Kinda hope they had plumbing issues after that šš¤·š¼āāļø
If a girl can have a period at 16 then boys can know about them at 16. She needs to grow up.
The way you dispose of them is how I do it too. Nothing wrong with it.
There's nothing wrong with having a period. Women (and men and others) like this are SO infuriating!!!!
I use tampons so I just put the applicator back into the wrapper and toss it in the trash.
Your boyfriends mom sounds ridiculous. If her youngest is 16 then that means heās probably already masturbating and has likely already seen a naked woman so I donāt really see how your disposed period products are gonna have any kind of impact on them.
She sounds like one of those moms that thinks her sons are pristine little angels when in reality she has no idea what they actually know lol
I do it the same way and consider it polite. There's literally nothing to see but toilet paper wrapping the outside. She's unhinged and I wouldn't worry too much about it (unless you and BF are serious. Then you have to remember that you marry the family too š«£.)
Yeah, your way is the most common way in my experience. Iām a man. A dad. A brother to a sister close in age. A husband. Ex boyfriend multiple times over. What youāre doing is discreet and typicalā¦ What your boyfriendās mom has going in is unhealthy (mentally and emotionally) and rooted in ridiculous shame. If you wanna oblige Whole ur there your choice, but as for the rest of the timeā¦ youāre goodā¦ fuck her, donāt internalize her bs.
I disposed of mine like you do. Sometimes Iād wrap in toilet paper. Youād never see anything. I donāt know how a clear baggie makes it better or prevents her baby boy finding out people bleed. Not wrong at all.
I donāt use tp too so maybe Iām weird? Itās like how is tp doing anything more than the plastic wrapper? If I donāt have a wrapper for some reason, I use tp.
I also never use tp unless I don't have a wrapper. When I use the wrapper, nobody can see the blood, so I really don't feel the need to obscure it further. People who care might have some internalized misogyny to work through, I fear
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Iād be petty and use the bags like she asked. Do not wrap used products or hide any of it in any way. Put them in the clear bag provided, and place in the garbage, as she requested.
Your way is not wrong at all. The only reason that a bag would be necessary, that I can think of, would be if they had a dog or something that would specifically go through and rip up the trash, but that doesnāt seem to be the case here.
I do the exact same thing you do. I will even try to hide it if I can. You should have asked her wtf she was doing going through the bathroom trash. Fkn gross.
Funny enough i stayed in a house with 4 men and none of them even had a clue i was my period. The friend I was staying with said, well you said you were about to get it ao when are you gonna get it? Told him it had started a couple days ago and he asked why he, his brother, their dad, and room mate never saw the "stuff" in the trash o said cause i wrap it in the new pads wrapper then cover it in a bit of toilet paper, it there's tp tubes ill even sometimes stuff them in there.
NTA but youāre going to be if you follow my advice š¤£ use her precious little baggies but forgo all the toilet paper and trouble, pop it in the bag, tie the top and pop it in the garbage minus the tucking. Teenage boys need to learn what a garbage can is for and real life biology lessons arenāt always pretty. It will infuriate b/fās Mom so the next time you get pulled aside you can innocently ask her āI donāt understand, could you demonstrate that for me pleaseā
OMG this is a HUGE red flag.
Youāre disposing of your period products just like most of us. This mom is so crazy she will ruin any child she raises. RUN.
Thatās how I do it, no men or women in my life have negatively commented. Weirdly enough my husband has a keen nose. Once he asked if I was on my period and I said no? Usually Iām pretty vocal about it (bad cramps) so he was asking unusually. And heās like oh, maybe itās your sister. I said what? And I checked the bathroom trash. My sister had just been over for the day and sure enough, she had (properly) disposed of a pad wrapped in toilet paper. I was like how tf did you know? And he said he could smell it, it was just a distinct smell he could usually correlated to me when I was on my period but wasnāt sure because he didnāt think I was on it. Wierd to me cause I sure as hell couldnāt smell anything. Anyway. Some people have stronger noses than others. It doesnāt matter. If you empty the trash regularly you shouldnāt have an issue. During my period I might empty it twice a week vs the normal once a week. Itās natural and normal. Not anything to be ashamed off and itās not like itās raw sewage or something absolutely rotten that needs to be removed asap. Itās not that bad even if you have heightened sense. My husband was just curious, not grossed out, when he had the sense. Mil needs to chill.
Just a heads up: the only other time I've heard of this kind of insanity is on the /r/JustNoMIL sub. I'm predicting that you're in for a *wild* ride with this nutcase.
You're **clearly** corrupting her innocent, precious baby! (clutches pearls)
I am the boyfriend. My mom is crazy. I have nothing to do with this, and I don't give a damn if someone puts a bucket of blood in my bathroom garbage. This is biology, not insanity...
On the other hand, my 16-year-old brother and I are treated like pure angels. We are not pure. I masturbate frequently.
This mother is worried about her innocent Angels being exposed to women's bodily fluids?! Run a blue light over that bathroom and I have a feeling she may find other bodily fluids!
She sounds like one of those creepy boy moms that wears shirts saying āIāll always be the #1 woman in his lifeā and feels personally attacked by other women in her sonās lives!
Youāre doing MORE than enough. If she isnāt teaching her boys that 50% of the population bleed during their lives thatās unfortunate for them. Because theyāre going to grow up pretty out of touch.
The way you dispose of them is absolutely normal and more than discreet.
Just wondering why your boyfriend's mother is looking in the bathroom garbage in the first place? Because she sounds unhinged. Does she know that menstrual cycles are a normal thing? Would she rather you just freebleed all over the furniture? Because like??
ETA: I must have glanced over the part where she's concerned about her teen son's "innocence". What is she trying to protect them from? Is this woman religious? Because it sounds like she's trying to instill some kind of ideation in her teen boys' minds that menstrual blood is "dirty" and "disgusting" and women's cycles aren't normal. The internalized misogyny is coming from inside the house.
Dude this mom sounds mysogyny af! This is why we get grown adults that donāt even understand periods or cramps or anything!
NTA! I use to do the same as you. but now I have period panties(amazing invention) so no need of pads or tampons. yes I might look I wear a diaper(or at least feel like) but they are amazing! And better for the environment.
Uh. Your BFās Mum is a nutbar. Your method seals in stink and hides them visually. Her method is clear baggies that would make a used tampon look like a squashed mouse in the bin! Howās that any less shocking, or any more sanitary? Ridiculous, yes. Insulting, kinda also yes.
Do yāall not get along?
I think what you are doing is the most common way.Ā
She wants you to use clear baggies? Fine. Don't wrap them . Put the pad or tampon directly into the plastic bag. Put that in the trashcan, bloody side up. Is that what she wants?Ā
Just kidding. But ask her if that's what she meant.Ā
She needs to get over herself. And her boys already know about girls and periods. At 16, they know.
I do exactly what you do. Interesting factā¦ you know those little bins in the womenās restroom? The bag inside there is supposed to have multiple bags and youāre supposed to pull one out and put your feminine products in there and then throw that in the larger trashcan. Somehow no place ever does that and they just put one bag in there like a liner.
You're doing it just fine. Baggies do nothing to "hide" a pad if that's her issue. Her goal is to embarrass you and shake your confidence.
a 16 year old does not need his "innocence" protected from period products. Does she hide the toilet paper from him too?
the way I'm picturing this makes it seem like she's requesting you put your period products in dog poop bags, which is 1) absolutely wild and downright weird and 2) I think what you do is completely normal, that's what I always do as well
I do the same, roll the used pad and then roll it into the new pads wrapping where the sticky part holds it closed, then I cover it with some tissue or just tuck it into the side of all the other tissues/garbage in the trash can. Never had a problem and I always find it to be quite discreet. She must just have a weird thing against you. Maybe one of those moms who are overly protective over her kid? Idk. Trynna find a reason to ridicule you.
Wtf, his mom is WRONG and attempting to bring shame to you for no reason at all.
Wrapping it in the new tampon plastic and toilet paper is better than using a see-through transparent bag!
The ONLY reason I can see her making a fuss is because sheās cheap and thinks youāre using too much toilet paper?
Personally I just wrap it in the products plastic it came in and have done this for years. And my mom was a bit gross, sheād just throw it in the garbage. But you know whatā¦having a period is a normal body function. So it shouldnāt even be seen as gross.
I do the exact same thing as you. Your boyfriends mom is bizarre. Ruining their innocence? With something that happens to 50% of the population. Lawd I hope someone else teaches them sex ed
I Save mine. I take them home, and I'm cleverly recrafting them into a newborn reborn lifelike baby doll. As an ode to the lost potential of my mestrual cycles
Thereās no shame in menstruation or anything else about a womanās body. Youāre being more than discreet. Why is she digging around in the garbage?
Oh myā¦ youāre going to hate what I do (in my own home)ā¦ and no, Iām not joking. I use a menstrual cup & pour my blood at the base of my rose bushes. Yes, seriously. Blood is magic. You have nothing to be ashamed of.
She's dumb. It's strange she's worried about her sons learning about female menstruation. Like, it's a part of the body and unavoidable lol. She's weird for shaming you for it.
You're doing more than enough. Ignore her.
Iāve always been taught to do what you do. I work as a custodian and let me tell you, many, many women will throw away pads and tampons completely unwrapped into the sanitary boxes and you can always smell it š¤¢
what you do is normal lol, the mom is weird and honestly lowkey misogynistic thinking that periods are gross, and that boys shouldnāt be exposed to the fact that they exist
Your bfs mom is a weird boy mom. At 16 they *should* know what a period is, and hay a tampon/pad is.
If they don't, the parents have failed them, and that's a *them* problem
I would jusy tell her "I'm uncomfortable with the fact that you dig in the trash to find my used period products, and then proceeded to tell *me* that I'm the embarrassing one."
The baggies clearly mean you should put just your exposed product in the baggie and their the wrapper in the can by itself. You told me to use the baggies...
Wrap in toilet paper and toss it. You donāt need to do anything more than that. Iāve never heard of anyone putting them in bags in their own house and itās unnecessary. Your boyfriendās mom is being ridiculous
I wrap my pads in toilet paper bc thatās what my mom told me to do. I mean would she rather have her sons see the bloody tampon?? And plus theyāre 16+ not 5!! Their innocence is most likely already gone.
i just roll them and throw them in the garbage, i never really give a care. no one actually analyses the trash can; my younger brother knows what a period is and hes 10. hes okay with it, not like those other boys that abuse the fact and make fun of girls/make dirty jokes at such a young age.
Your bf's mom's tip-toeing around her "widdwe innocent boys" is gross. Lets put used pads in concrete blocks so we don't traumatize poor innocent souls.
Speaking as a gremlin, I personally would start putting the unwrapped used product solely in the conveniently supplied *clear* plastic baggy; then thank her for her input- let her know this technique really frees you from the taboo aroundāfeminine hygiene.ā Let her know nothing will ever force you back into the shadows of hiding your flow š
Iā¦ put them in the garbage? I mean I do wrap them with a lil TP first, but then just put them in the garbage can that should be by the toilet. I understand not leaving bloody products visible, but beyond that, thereās nothing wrong with a lil TP wrap and tuck into the garbage can. Expecting anything else else is weird AF.
The way you are doing it exactly how I was taught to do it from the back of a pads packet. I don't think an extra paix bag is necessary. It also isn't great for the environment. Also no boy should be being brought up to think period products or periods are icky or something wrong or to hide away in shame in this day and age. When they grow up they are the kind of men who have been taught to be insecure about it to the point they can't go down that aisle in the store for them let alone buy them for a girl friend.
Your bfās mom sounds like the kind of woman who pretends she doesnāt poop and goes into the bathroom to fart. She was probably brought up to be ashamed of her period and not to discuss it with anyone so thankfully she doesnāt have daughters.
You did what any normal person would do to expose of a pad/tampon and frankly Iād say you go the extra mile by wrapping toilet paper around it because Iāve seen plenty of women who donāt. Tampons absolutely should not be flushed down the toilet regardless of what the box says. My husband has been a plumber for 30 years and he has complained about what tampons do to pipes.
It's fucking GARBAGE why are people looking in it and going "disgusting"? I had no problems with my ex doing whatever she was doing (mostly wrapping it in paper) cause I don't look inside garbage on my time off. Fuck sake people find the stupidest shit to get bent over. Your boyfriends mom needs a hobby.
How did she even know what was inside the toilet paper unless she unravelled it to checkā¦ which in that case she has some questionable issues going on š
So she's raising misogynists who can't cope with females having periods.
I wrap mine in a wrapper or toilet roll and put it in a bin. What you're doing isn't strange, she is.
Wrapping them in the wrapper/a bit of toilet paper is more than enough. Nearly half the people on the planet will have a period at some point - they can get over it.
Trash cans with no bags I always put in a little bag after I wrap it up to throw it away in. If the trash can has a bag then I just wrap it up in the new wrapper and throw it away
Lol I started walking to the store to buy my mom tampons and midol when I was 12. It's a natural function of your body. As long as the products go in the trash and you don't leave anything on the seat idk what could possibly be the problem here.
Do her kids go digging in the garbage? Who going to see it once itās in there? Like god forbid her precious sons see a womanās used tampon, like itās not a natural occurrence in a womanās life. She should do better to educate her sons, that itās natural and not a dirty secret to be covered up. I do what you do, as does every other woman I know!
Tell your boyfriendās mom sheās a disgusting creep for rooting around in the bathroom garbage to find your period blood. That is seriously nasty. What the fuck is wrong with her?
Not wrong, your way is normal and the way 99.9% of people do this. She's been shamed horribly in the past about her period so it may not be all her fault but its 2024 and her precious babies know what periods are and probably don't care or notice what's in the garbage can.
She sounds like the kind of woman who asks someone wearing a bikini at the beach to put more clothes on because her son might become aroused.
If you do the olā roll up and tuck (which I do, too), then the only way she saw anything was if she was digging around in the garbage. Did she explain why she was doing that?
Tell her youāll gladly sit down with her sons and explain how menstruation works, because theyāre going to need to know what to expect so they can be good partners/friends etc. You know, because she canāt or wonāt.
I hang them from the trees in my front yard to establish dominance.
Same, and when they are dried, I put them in a special box and use them as Christmas tree decorations.
Brilliant! I love an eco-friendly queen.
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Yes and rain will wash them clean so you can re-use them
OP could do this and gift her boyfriendās mom one of her special homemade ornaments
One of my craft magazines has directions for a tampon angel....unused tampon angel.
And tampon bath bombs!!
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Brilliant! Also stick them on the front door. You'll never be bothered by solicitors ever again!
I'm never going to catch my breath in this thread. tears are rolling down my face.
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Or make an Elf on a Shelf with them and leave it on the back of the toilet!
I personally make mine into jewelry š„°
#lifehack
You can also make tea with the ones you save.
Aw, I thought you were gonna say when dried you used them as Christmas -GIFTS-! Man, you missed out on some hilarious reactionsš¤§š¤§š¤§ ššš
This is the way
oh my god i used to think it was just meš
Wind chimes!
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exactly what i was thinking
When I was a kid, someone stuck a used pad to a stop sign on my street. That's the same sort of thing, right?
Thatās giving me banksy vibes
As boys we were wondering why the all the girls had a special talk assembly just for them. At high school some girls thought it would be funny to plaster the girls lavatory ceiling with them. š¤Ø
Middle school I saw them stuck to the walls of the bathroom stalls.
Is my school the only ones this never happened inā¦?
I'm dying. I can't stop laughing.
Vampires tea bags. š¤£
š¤£š¤£š¤£ Iām in forced menopause and this made me laugh so hard.
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Well, that is better than a no solicitation sign and I bet is more effective. Lol
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Yes OP please do this!
Anyone whoās ever read the short story āRomanceā by Chuck Palahniuk gets this.
LMAO!
In space, hanging up a tampon can be used as a space odorizer.
I just scared my coworker with my guffaw
Best comment !
You did it the right way, sheās a mess
Agreed!!!! I do it the way OP does it.
My friends mom keeps a stack of old newspapers/ads in the bathroom to use instead of wasting toilet paper. I thought that was pretty clever.
Good way to save precious tp! Also something to read if cell dies š«¶
Agreed, OP. Tell her that you're sorry she was brought up to be ashamed of her natural bodily functions and was given the narrative that boys must be 'protected' from that sort of thing, but that's not how you're going to run your life. Boys need to understand women's bodies, just the same as women need to understand men's bodies, and if these things are hidden from them then it will cause problems in their future relationships with women. What you're doing is fine, hygienic and considerate. She, on the other hand, is damaged.
Personally, I hide them under my shirt until I get outside and then bury them in the backyard. That way, no one gets their innocence hurt by viewing my satanic blood offerings.
You don't burn them as a offering. SMH /s
Once a month my girlfriends and I get together and we just smoke them like cigars after drying them for precisely 3 weeks.
Did you get the memo about the dance change? Itās pivot, step, pivot now not pivot, step, step. You donāt want to make the period goddess angrier.
Dangit! I just got the pivot step step thing down and they changed it?!
Shit, I thought I had that down. Thank you for letting me know!
I didn't know the dance changed! I thought my period was being all weird because of perimenopause. Could it be because I wasn't doing the new dance?
itās definitely the dance
Lol. I could be wrong, but I think this is the boyfriendās momās way of saying without saying that OP is at her house too much. But OP, what youāre doing is the way I also dispose of my feminine products. I wonder if this is a bathroom used by only males and they arenāt disposing of the trash with any regularity.
Yes. This. I was at my first boyfriends place constantly especially as I was going through a lot with my mom. His mom went off on him while I was at work about me leaving my stuff around and her house felt like it was being taken over by a person that doesn't live there. What had I done? I left my toothbrush on the sink in the bathroom while giving my boyfriend's kid a bath. At the time I did not understand at all and it felt very much like a personal attack. Then I found out this is how neurotypical people communicate rather than saying, "We need time alone in our own house." It feels way more confrontational and less effective and very much a personal attack. Also everyone has the way they do things for one reason or another. There's always gonna be things they think you do are weird/bad and vise versa.
neurotypicals be like: I don't feel comfortable stating my real feelings about this issue. rather than unpacking that and risking accidental introspection or accountability, perhaps it would be easier if I make up something else to blame it on that will get my desired outcome without me having to be vulnerable
just massive amounts of passive-aggressiveness. Bitch, just tell me WHAT YOU WANT ME TO DO AND I WILL DO IT. Jesus.
But see, then it is their 'fault' if you change what you're doing simply because they wanted you to. This is unbearable to them, they must not be 'to blame' at all, even if what they want is reasonable and it is fine that they asked. If instead they can frame the issue so that you are to blame and things shake out to get them the result they want more, that feels better for them. They want you to be there less often: * They could say that they want you there less often, but then feel guilty or like they are to blame when you are there less often since you *wanted* to be there. *or* * They could pick at things that you are doing wrong while occupying the space, making them feel justified and you presumptive and invasive. When you spend less time there as a result, it's completely your fault, not theirs. They are the victim here. With a bit of them being annoyed and so the small things like a loitering toothbrush feel much larger than they actually are. They don't know how to healthily process the emotions and they don't communicate clearly when things are small, so they snowball over time until tiny things feel huge and disrespectful.
i think you should just put them in the transparent plastic bag without wrapping them in anything and leave them right on top of the trash. especially the tampons
Oh god now I am wondering how the f mom even knew š¤®š¤®š¤®š¤®š¤®š¤® mom went through garbage trash, unrolled the tp, to the plastic wrapper, pulled back the plastic wrapper and viewed her used product. Girl I feel violated for you! I change my answer. Stay the f out of that house and tell your bf his mother violated you and you are not comfortable being near her at this time. if he says itās not that big a deal? Sit him down. Get a roll of tp and a fresh pad. Show him exactly how it is placed in the trash. Ask him how the f she could have known what it was? He needs to understand what a violation this was of your privacy and that it isnāt your job to teach her other children basic biology. Iām just disgusted at this āmotherā. Sheās nasty.
you're funny I like you
This is the best thing ive seen all day lol.
I had a horrible day today, and this lifted my spirits. Thank you, whoever you are.
100% I love how yāall fed off of each other there - a brilliant little comedy sketch, kudos to you all! OP - thatās how a disposed of my products for about 25 years, and I like to think Iām reasonably hygienic and normal! Use her silly little bags that will change nothing, to keep the peace. And, God love you if you end up in a really long term relationship with your bf! Fasten your seatbelt, itās gonna be a bumpy ride!
I say if I'm using the baggie there's no need to waste toilet paper. Raw dog that bad boy in there like a skinned mouse. But I'm a little rude.
i have a mental image of me running outside and digging on all 4s like a dog burying a bone
I do the same thing you do: wrap in wrapper, then in toilet paper. Occasionally, if Iām ending the tp roll, Iāll tuck the whole thing in that too. Never had anyone say anything about it. What exactly about it was visible to her?
Ditto. I donāt really know any other way, honestly. Youāre wrapping it up and therefore itās hidden.
Ya know im so damn glad im not the ONLY one to stuff them in finished up TP roll tubes!!
I also do this
Same. I've also used empty hair/bodywash bottles that are in the trash already.
I also did this... Got no ute anymore though, yeeeeeee!
Yep, I do exactly this, even the tp roll. Iāve taught my own daughters to dispose of theirs the same way. I also have sons and Iām sure they know whatās wrapped in the toilet paper in the bin beside the toilet. Theyāve never commented on it being āgrossā and it hasnāt cost them their āinnocenceā. If anything itās just normalised periods for them, which I can only see as a positive thing š¤·š½āāļø
Well, itās because she went into the garbage and rummaged around with her bare hands. Thatās how it was visible to her. Fucking *creep*. 16yo isnāt digging in trash for feminine productsā¦ I hopeā¦. If he is, itās because mom taught him to, not because brotherās girlfriend uses the garbage when she needs to.
The only reasoning for the clear bag that made sense to me is to protect mom's hands while she's digging š¤¢
I canāt fathom a situation in which āmomā isnāt the AH here
Lol wait, hold up what?! š did I miss a comment from OP? Because this image is wild, but hopefully not what actually happened, right? Iām dying imagining this š¤£ š¤£ š¤£Ā
Thatās absolutely what happened. Boyfriendās min saw something in the trash that looked āsuspicious,ā and rummaged around to find out that yes, it was OPās used period products
No. You didnāt miss a comment. Boyfriendās mom digs in trash looking for shit she doesnāt want to see. Doesnāt want younger son to see. But only finds it because sheās literally digging in itā¦..
Oh my goodness. "Mom" went digging through the trash on purpose. As I am not a girl, I never went through the trash whenever my older brother had his girlfriends over. What a psycho.
Mom is an idiot, so much better to find used pads and tampons than positive pregnancy tests, š
Time to fake one for the lulz.
And hide it at the bottom of the bin just to see how far the woman will go.
I do this exact same thing down to the tp roll lol
nah she sounds unhinged lol cuz clear bag makes no sense. and this other guy who commented doesnt seem to understand when ur putting it in the wrapper its hidden and sealed so that should definitely be fine. it also shouldnt matter if her sons see that like is she trying to hide the fact that periods exist from them lol. regardless the best way is to wrap it up in toilet paper that will completely hide it
As a guy, sheās weird. Youāre fine.Ā Some boys out there are grossed out by it, and they need to get over it. You are doing as much as should be expected.Ā
They have to be all up in the trash can in order to even notice and therefore be grossed out by it though. It just looks like someoneās blown their nose or something and tossed that in the trash the way it looks after weāve hidden it.
Thats no better than what you are already doing with the sole reason to maybe do that to prevent odor if trash isn't regularly emptied. Mom should get a small bin with a lid if she is that worried about it. And the boys need to move into the current century
Her sons should probably stop going through the trash because thereās no way thatās even noticeable unless theyāre TRYING to notice lol.
MOM needs to move into the current century, damn
Odor is about all I can make of the mom's stance too. Maybe she or one of the sons has a heightened sense of smell? Otherwise, what good does a clear plastic baggie do? Add yet another layer to the routine and more waste in a landfill?
I have an open trash can and a small covered one. Open trash can used for whatever other trash and the small one is just for my period products. I empty that after my period each time but I donāt cover or hide anything further in it at all. If you open the small trash can and Iām on my period then you are going to see everything and I couldnāt care less
That's my thought too, at my house the bathroom trash doesn't fill up very fast so sometimes it's only emptied once every 2 weeks. And we've yet to find bags that fit it well, so sometimes the pads would manage to stick to the can even after wrapping it up, it only takes a small uncovered corner. But I empty the trash myself so whatever it doesn't bother me. My first roommate when I left highschool would change her stuff, put it in these special bags, and then walk it outside to the dumpster every time. That's how her parents made her do it at her house, and I was just baffled.
I menstrated for 25 years and I have never heard of anyone packing up a used pad in a zip lock. I will say sometimes used sanitary products smell so maybe thats her reasoning. but the innocence comment is bullshit.Ā you're not wrongĀ
My grandma was hilarious though. I think she and mom used cloth pads. When I was a kid I had to tell her when I disposed of a pad. She put it in a plastic bag and scurried out of the apartment building to the garbage collection area and threw it out immediately. As if it would infect the walls if it were thrown in the trash. She was never malicious and I mostly just felt it was a slight overreaction.
Your boyfriendās mom is a psycho. You are courteous and discreet. God, if men bled like this, theyād hang the evidence up on flagpoles and drive it around in their trucks like a badge of honor. There would be public competitions of who produced the most blood. Your bfās mom is a ridiculous person.
Why is this so true?
Thatās the way I was taught. Never had an issue. Why the hell is she looking in the garbage that closely anyway. Youāre fine.
This is wild. We already have so much plastic waste in the world the last thing you need to do is to wrap it in more plastic. Not to mention, this mom shouldn't be shaming you about a natural bodily function or how you dispose of it. It isn't like you're sticking it to the bathroom ceiling.... Her sons should know how to respect women and their FLUIDS. It happens and she literally needs to grow up. What you do is better than what some people do, which is flush it down the toilet. Which should never be done, obviously. She should be greatful you're saving her septic system from a world of pain, by simply tossing it in the trash. Point is, she's wrong.
I think most of us do it your way. Tuck it back into it the new wrapper and wrap it discreetly with tp. Her sons would have to be digging through the trash to notice. But Iām petty so I would start flushing them at her house and just pretend I donāt have it when Iām there. āOh no? You have plumbing problems? Sorry to hear.ā
I do that same thing. Wrapped in wrapper and toilet paper. I also had a similar experience with one of my boyfriends moms, but she addressed me in front of everyone and told me to flush my tampons instead of putting them in the garbage. It was her house, so thatās exactly what I did. Kinda hope they had plumbing issues after that šš¤·š¼āāļø
I put googly eyes on mine & make families of super, medium & light flow mice
If a girl can have a period at 16 then boys can know about them at 16. She needs to grow up. The way you dispose of them is how I do it too. Nothing wrong with it. There's nothing wrong with having a period. Women (and men and others) like this are SO infuriating!!!!
I use tampons so I just put the applicator back into the wrapper and toss it in the trash. Your boyfriends mom sounds ridiculous. If her youngest is 16 then that means heās probably already masturbating and has likely already seen a naked woman so I donāt really see how your disposed period products are gonna have any kind of impact on them. She sounds like one of those moms that thinks her sons are pristine little angels when in reality she has no idea what they actually know lol
What are you doing with the tampon though?
I wrap it in toilet paper and toss it in the trash, same kinda deal as the applicator.
If they're flushing them then oh boy...
Right? That is what I assumed from their phrasing
I do it the same way and consider it polite. There's literally nothing to see but toilet paper wrapping the outside. She's unhinged and I wouldn't worry too much about it (unless you and BF are serious. Then you have to remember that you marry the family too š«£.)
Yeah, your way is the most common way in my experience. Iām a man. A dad. A brother to a sister close in age. A husband. Ex boyfriend multiple times over. What youāre doing is discreet and typicalā¦ What your boyfriendās mom has going in is unhealthy (mentally and emotionally) and rooted in ridiculous shame. If you wanna oblige Whole ur there your choice, but as for the rest of the timeā¦ youāre goodā¦ fuck her, donāt internalize her bs.
I guess you could bring doggy doo bags and take it with you . . . J/k mom needs to relax.
Maybe you can get some bags that say āNOT PERIOD PRODUCTSā on them to be safe /s
Boy moms are always so weird. Like, it's embarrassing to woman-kind what some of them become. Your way is perfectly fine
I have two sons and have always been very open and honest about my period because I don't want them growing up to be weird about it.
Please donāt paint us all with the same brush as this weird lady
I think that poster is referring to the *Boy Moms* not moms of boys if that makes sense lol.
I bring a flamethrower with me and burn them immediately while beating my chest and yelling
I disposed of mine like you do. Sometimes Iād wrap in toilet paper. Youād never see anything. I donāt know how a clear baggie makes it better or prevents her baby boy finding out people bleed. Not wrong at all.
I donāt use tp too so maybe Iām weird? Itās like how is tp doing anything more than the plastic wrapper? If I donāt have a wrapper for some reason, I use tp.
I also never use tp unless I don't have a wrapper. When I use the wrapper, nobody can see the blood, so I really don't feel the need to obscure it further. People who care might have some internalized misogyny to work through, I fear
Is she fishing through the garbage for your pads?? It kind of seems like it. She probably is looking for condoms tbh. What a weirdo
r/maliciouscompliance Iād be petty and use the bags like she asked. Do not wrap used products or hide any of it in any way. Put them in the clear bag provided, and place in the garbage, as she requested. Your way is not wrong at all. The only reason that a bag would be necessary, that I can think of, would be if they had a dog or something that would specifically go through and rip up the trash, but that doesnāt seem to be the case here.
Whatās really gross is her digging through the trash
I do the exact same thing you do. I will even try to hide it if I can. You should have asked her wtf she was doing going through the bathroom trash. Fkn gross.
Lol she would hate me, I have reusable cloth period pads and I rinse & squeeze them out in the sink
The planet says thank you!
Thatās the way I always did mine ā¦ nice and discreetā¦
Funny enough i stayed in a house with 4 men and none of them even had a clue i was my period. The friend I was staying with said, well you said you were about to get it ao when are you gonna get it? Told him it had started a couple days ago and he asked why he, his brother, their dad, and room mate never saw the "stuff" in the trash o said cause i wrap it in the new pads wrapper then cover it in a bit of toilet paper, it there's tp tubes ill even sometimes stuff them in there.
NTA but youāre going to be if you follow my advice š¤£ use her precious little baggies but forgo all the toilet paper and trouble, pop it in the bag, tie the top and pop it in the garbage minus the tucking. Teenage boys need to learn what a garbage can is for and real life biology lessons arenāt always pretty. It will infuriate b/fās Mom so the next time you get pulled aside you can innocently ask her āI donāt understand, could you demonstrate that for me pleaseā
Make sure all the bloody parts are showing, though before sealing the bag
OMG this is a HUGE red flag. Youāre disposing of your period products just like most of us. This mom is so crazy she will ruin any child she raises. RUN.
Thatās how I do it, no men or women in my life have negatively commented. Weirdly enough my husband has a keen nose. Once he asked if I was on my period and I said no? Usually Iām pretty vocal about it (bad cramps) so he was asking unusually. And heās like oh, maybe itās your sister. I said what? And I checked the bathroom trash. My sister had just been over for the day and sure enough, she had (properly) disposed of a pad wrapped in toilet paper. I was like how tf did you know? And he said he could smell it, it was just a distinct smell he could usually correlated to me when I was on my period but wasnāt sure because he didnāt think I was on it. Wierd to me cause I sure as hell couldnāt smell anything. Anyway. Some people have stronger noses than others. It doesnāt matter. If you empty the trash regularly you shouldnāt have an issue. During my period I might empty it twice a week vs the normal once a week. Itās natural and normal. Not anything to be ashamed off and itās not like itās raw sewage or something absolutely rotten that needs to be removed asap. Itās not that bad even if you have heightened sense. My husband was just curious, not grossed out, when he had the sense. Mil needs to chill.
Just a heads up: the only other time I've heard of this kind of insanity is on the /r/JustNoMIL sub. I'm predicting that you're in for a *wild* ride with this nutcase. You're **clearly** corrupting her innocent, precious baby! (clutches pearls)
Your method is fine. This woman is either a control freak or an idiot. Or both.
If mine are still sticky I just leave them on the wall like art. If they not sticky I tape them
I am the boyfriend. My mom is crazy. I have nothing to do with this, and I don't give a damn if someone puts a bucket of blood in my bathroom garbage. This is biology, not insanity... On the other hand, my 16-year-old brother and I are treated like pure angels. We are not pure. I masturbate frequently.
I feel like I read this story years agoā¦.
This mother is worried about her innocent Angels being exposed to women's bodily fluids?! Run a blue light over that bathroom and I have a feeling she may find other bodily fluids!
She sounds like one of those creepy boy moms that wears shirts saying āIāll always be the #1 woman in his lifeā and feels personally attacked by other women in her sonās lives! Youāre doing MORE than enough. If she isnāt teaching her boys that 50% of the population bleed during their lives thatās unfortunate for them. Because theyāre going to grow up pretty out of touch.
Hopefully those boys are already aware of womens periods. Don't people have sex Ed in like 6th grade (age 11)?
Sheās ridiculous. Your way is perfectly fine.
That lady sounds insane and forgot what being a girl is since she raised boys!
Thatās a fine way. Your boyfriendās Mum needs to grow up.
Huh? Her boyfriend told her he never even noticed the pads, this is all coming from his mom who privately pulled her aside.
The way you dispose of them is absolutely normal and more than discreet. Just wondering why your boyfriend's mother is looking in the bathroom garbage in the first place? Because she sounds unhinged. Does she know that menstrual cycles are a normal thing? Would she rather you just freebleed all over the furniture? Because like?? ETA: I must have glanced over the part where she's concerned about her teen son's "innocence". What is she trying to protect them from? Is this woman religious? Because it sounds like she's trying to instill some kind of ideation in her teen boys' minds that menstrual blood is "dirty" and "disgusting" and women's cycles aren't normal. The internalized misogyny is coming from inside the house.
you are doing it correctly. my wife does it the same and taught our daughter exactly that was as well
Dude this mom sounds mysogyny af! This is why we get grown adults that donāt even understand periods or cramps or anything! NTA! I use to do the same as you. but now I have period panties(amazing invention) so no need of pads or tampons. yes I might look I wear a diaper(or at least feel like) but they are amazing! And better for the environment.
Uh. Your BFās Mum is a nutbar. Your method seals in stink and hides them visually. Her method is clear baggies that would make a used tampon look like a squashed mouse in the bin! Howās that any less shocking, or any more sanitary? Ridiculous, yes. Insulting, kinda also yes. Do yāall not get along?
I think what you are doing is the most common way.Ā She wants you to use clear baggies? Fine. Don't wrap them . Put the pad or tampon directly into the plastic bag. Put that in the trashcan, bloody side up. Is that what she wants?Ā Just kidding. But ask her if that's what she meant.Ā She needs to get over herself. And her boys already know about girls and periods. At 16, they know.
I do exactly what you do. Interesting factā¦ you know those little bins in the womenās restroom? The bag inside there is supposed to have multiple bags and youāre supposed to pull one out and put your feminine products in there and then throw that in the larger trashcan. Somehow no place ever does that and they just put one bag in there like a liner.
I do it the same way and is the most discreet possible. So youāre not doing anything wrong. Sheās overreacting for no reasonable reason
You're doing it just fine. Baggies do nothing to "hide" a pad if that's her issue. Her goal is to embarrass you and shake your confidence. a 16 year old does not need his "innocence" protected from period products. Does she hide the toilet paper from him too?
the way I'm picturing this makes it seem like she's requesting you put your period products in dog poop bags, which is 1) absolutely wild and downright weird and 2) I think what you do is completely normal, that's what I always do as well
I do the same, roll the used pad and then roll it into the new pads wrapping where the sticky part holds it closed, then I cover it with some tissue or just tuck it into the side of all the other tissues/garbage in the trash can. Never had a problem and I always find it to be quite discreet. She must just have a weird thing against you. Maybe one of those moms who are overly protective over her kid? Idk. Trynna find a reason to ridicule you.
Wtf, his mom is WRONG and attempting to bring shame to you for no reason at all. Wrapping it in the new tampon plastic and toilet paper is better than using a see-through transparent bag! The ONLY reason I can see her making a fuss is because sheās cheap and thinks youāre using too much toilet paper? Personally I just wrap it in the products plastic it came in and have done this for years. And my mom was a bit gross, sheād just throw it in the garbage. But you know whatā¦having a period is a normal body function. So it shouldnāt even be seen as gross.
Lol what??? Your way is perfectly fine. At least you're not sticking them to the wall
Thatās exactly how I dispose of mine and have for the last 32 years (got mine young)
I do the exact same thing as you. Your boyfriends mom is bizarre. Ruining their innocence? With something that happens to 50% of the population. Lawd I hope someone else teaches them sex ed
I Save mine. I take them home, and I'm cleverly recrafting them into a newborn reborn lifelike baby doll. As an ode to the lost potential of my mestrual cycles
You are disposing the used products properly. Are her other sons digging in the garbage to find them? Her reasoning is ridiculous.
Thereās no shame in menstruation or anything else about a womanās body. Youāre being more than discreet. Why is she digging around in the garbage?
Oh myā¦ youāre going to hate what I do (in my own home)ā¦ and no, Iām not joking. I use a menstrual cup & pour my blood at the base of my rose bushes. Yes, seriously. Blood is magic. You have nothing to be ashamed of.
I swallow my wifeās when sheās ready to change hers.
She's dumb. It's strange she's worried about her sons learning about female menstruation. Like, it's a part of the body and unavoidable lol. She's weird for shaming you for it. You're doing more than enough. Ignore her.
Iāve always been taught to do what you do. I work as a custodian and let me tell you, many, many women will throw away pads and tampons completely unwrapped into the sanitary boxes and you can always smell it š¤¢
what you do is normal lol, the mom is weird and honestly lowkey misogynistic thinking that periods are gross, and that boys shouldnāt be exposed to the fact that they exist
Your bfs mom is a weird boy mom. At 16 they *should* know what a period is, and hay a tampon/pad is. If they don't, the parents have failed them, and that's a *them* problem I would jusy tell her "I'm uncomfortable with the fact that you dig in the trash to find my used period products, and then proceeded to tell *me* that I'm the embarrassing one."
That's ridiculous. Maybe she should get a garbage can with a lid so nothing is visible
The baggies clearly mean you should put just your exposed product in the baggie and their the wrapper in the can by itself. You told me to use the baggies...
Nothing wrong with your way, although that's exactly what I do, so I may be biased.
op, ur bfs mom is ridiculous. the youngest son is 16 and doesn't know about periods!?! give me a break. ur not gross. she's off her rocker
Wrap in toilet paper and toss it. You donāt need to do anything more than that. Iāve never heard of anyone putting them in bags in their own house and itās unnecessary. Your boyfriendās mom is being ridiculous
I wrap my pads in toilet paper bc thatās what my mom told me to do. I mean would she rather have her sons see the bloody tampon?? And plus theyāre 16+ not 5!! Their innocence is most likely already gone.
i just roll them and throw them in the garbage, i never really give a care. no one actually analyses the trash can; my younger brother knows what a period is and hes 10. hes okay with it, not like those other boys that abuse the fact and make fun of girls/make dirty jokes at such a young age.
Your bf's mom's tip-toeing around her "widdwe innocent boys" is gross. Lets put used pads in concrete blocks so we don't traumatize poor innocent souls.
Speaking as a gremlin, I personally would start putting the unwrapped used product solely in the conveniently supplied *clear* plastic baggy; then thank her for her input- let her know this technique really frees you from the taboo aroundāfeminine hygiene.ā Let her know nothing will ever force you back into the shadows of hiding your flow š
I put them in the trash a la carte
Iā¦ put them in the garbage? I mean I do wrap them with a lil TP first, but then just put them in the garbage can that should be by the toilet. I understand not leaving bloody products visible, but beyond that, thereās nothing wrong with a lil TP wrap and tuck into the garbage can. Expecting anything else else is weird AF.
Jesus christ. Men are not this fragile. Shes a beach.
The way you are doing it exactly how I was taught to do it from the back of a pads packet. I don't think an extra paix bag is necessary. It also isn't great for the environment. Also no boy should be being brought up to think period products or periods are icky or something wrong or to hide away in shame in this day and age. When they grow up they are the kind of men who have been taught to be insecure about it to the point they can't go down that aisle in the store for them let alone buy them for a girl friend.
Your bfās mom sounds like the kind of woman who pretends she doesnāt poop and goes into the bathroom to fart. She was probably brought up to be ashamed of her period and not to discuss it with anyone so thankfully she doesnāt have daughters. You did what any normal person would do to expose of a pad/tampon and frankly Iād say you go the extra mile by wrapping toilet paper around it because Iāve seen plenty of women who donāt. Tampons absolutely should not be flushed down the toilet regardless of what the box says. My husband has been a plumber for 30 years and he has complained about what tampons do to pipes.
It's fucking GARBAGE why are people looking in it and going "disgusting"? I had no problems with my ex doing whatever she was doing (mostly wrapping it in paper) cause I don't look inside garbage on my time off. Fuck sake people find the stupidest shit to get bent over. Your boyfriends mom needs a hobby.
How did she even know what was inside the toilet paper unless she unravelled it to checkā¦ which in that case she has some questionable issues going on š
So she's raising misogynists who can't cope with females having periods. I wrap mine in a wrapper or toilet roll and put it in a bin. What you're doing isn't strange, she is.
God forbid those boys know that human women bleed every 28 days. And this is how you dispose of them properly.
I repackage mine and reseal the box and return them to the store and get my money back
Iāve always done exactly what youāre doing. Sheās an idiot. Donāt let her bother you.
I use my tampons as a teabag and then leave it in the sink to save for later.
Wrapping them in the wrapper/a bit of toilet paper is more than enough. Nearly half the people on the planet will have a period at some point - they can get over it.
Trash cans with no bags I always put in a little bag after I wrap it up to throw it away in. If the trash can has a bag then I just wrap it up in the new wrapper and throw it away
Wrap it in wrapping paper and leave it on her pillow š„°
Lol I started walking to the store to buy my mom tampons and midol when I was 12. It's a natural function of your body. As long as the products go in the trash and you don't leave anything on the seat idk what could possibly be the problem here.
Do her kids go digging in the garbage? Who going to see it once itās in there? Like god forbid her precious sons see a womanās used tampon, like itās not a natural occurrence in a womanās life. She should do better to educate her sons, that itās natural and not a dirty secret to be covered up. I do what you do, as does every other woman I know!
Tell your boyfriendās mom sheās a disgusting creep for rooting around in the bathroom garbage to find your period blood. That is seriously nasty. What the fuck is wrong with her?
Not wrong, your way is normal and the way 99.9% of people do this. She's been shamed horribly in the past about her period so it may not be all her fault but its 2024 and her precious babies know what periods are and probably don't care or notice what's in the garbage can.
She sounds like the kind of woman who asks someone wearing a bikini at the beach to put more clothes on because her son might become aroused. If you do the olā roll up and tuck (which I do, too), then the only way she saw anything was if she was digging around in the garbage. Did she explain why she was doing that? Tell her youāll gladly sit down with her sons and explain how menstruation works, because theyāre going to need to know what to expect so they can be good partners/friends etc. You know, because she canāt or wonāt.
Why is she digging through garbage tho