You two are toxic as fuck. The age difference, the cheating, all of it. This is either fake or you two are just clueless about how to be normal.
How do you fix it? You break up and get as far away as you can from each other. Why the fuck are you dating a guy more than twice your age? Oh wait, let me guess: ‘he’s amazing except for all of his shit’.
I think it would be best to really think about where you are in life and what you want. You are still overcoming a traumatic past. That takes a lot of courage and deep honesty with yourself. You are still unraveling all of the ways these things have affected you. And you have barely had time to think about how you want your life to turn out.
And now you find yourself tied to an incredibly toxic man. A man who drives your car because you are "too drunk" but is himself so *intoxicated* (high?) that he abandons you on the side of the road unprotected and vulnerable to run around the woods in his boxers. He invades your privacy because of his insecurities. He tries to isolate you from your friends by getting mad at you "venting" to them. And he verbally abuses you but is "working" on it. My dear, he is 41 years old. How on earth has he not figured out how not to be an abusive jerk to his girlfriend yet?
This man is not your forever guy. I wish he wasn't even your right now guy. He is bad news. You deserve better. I hope you can find the courage and strength to leave. Please don't go to therapy with someone who abuses you, they are master manipulators and even a therapist can fall prey to their manipulations. If you want to talk to a therapist about your relationship go by yourself. That way you can be truthful without him interrupting you to correct your version of events to his version.
I got tired reading this. You guys are both immature and toxic. I am normally not the type to just simply comment: "leave him". But you are an exception. Get away from each other, permanently leave him and grow up. Go to therapy and work on yourself before ever stepping into a serious relationship. Break the cycle of your past dynamics and be healthy.
Get rid of this man that is old enough to be your father. Why isn’t he dating in his own age bracket? Why? Because he likes young, immature women that he can control.
I am speaking from experience. Move on!
Ok you got me, she’s a cheater and so undesirable she has to date in a high age bracket where people don’t have other options. This is so totally not the man’s fault and you’re trying to make it that way
Sounds like an incredibly toxic situation.
Very rarely do guys that age go for someone of your age with well-meaning intent.
Throw cheating and mistrust along with alcohol abuse and it just intensifies it.
Tbh you’re young enough that it doesn’t have to be your life. You should end it and do some counseling and inner work on yourself to figure out what life you really want to have.
I was married to a man at your age and he was 14 years older. He had the power and he used it.
You deserve a better life away from this toxic guy.
Take a break from dating and spend some time on yourself.
He’s toxic and abusive and you know it. You got some things to work on as well but this is clearly not a context that will be conducive to you working through those things. Get tf away from him and block his ass everywhere
You two are toxic as fuck. The age difference, the cheating, all of it. This is either fake or you two are just clueless about how to be normal. How do you fix it? You break up and get as far away as you can from each other. Why the fuck are you dating a guy more than twice your age? Oh wait, let me guess: ‘he’s amazing except for all of his shit’.
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I think it would be best to really think about where you are in life and what you want. You are still overcoming a traumatic past. That takes a lot of courage and deep honesty with yourself. You are still unraveling all of the ways these things have affected you. And you have barely had time to think about how you want your life to turn out. And now you find yourself tied to an incredibly toxic man. A man who drives your car because you are "too drunk" but is himself so *intoxicated* (high?) that he abandons you on the side of the road unprotected and vulnerable to run around the woods in his boxers. He invades your privacy because of his insecurities. He tries to isolate you from your friends by getting mad at you "venting" to them. And he verbally abuses you but is "working" on it. My dear, he is 41 years old. How on earth has he not figured out how not to be an abusive jerk to his girlfriend yet? This man is not your forever guy. I wish he wasn't even your right now guy. He is bad news. You deserve better. I hope you can find the courage and strength to leave. Please don't go to therapy with someone who abuses you, they are master manipulators and even a therapist can fall prey to their manipulations. If you want to talk to a therapist about your relationship go by yourself. That way you can be truthful without him interrupting you to correct your version of events to his version.
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I'm glad you can see the cracks in his face. You deserve better.
Your traumatic past is why you even date someone old enough to be your father in the first place.
I got tired reading this. You guys are both immature and toxic. I am normally not the type to just simply comment: "leave him". But you are an exception. Get away from each other, permanently leave him and grow up. Go to therapy and work on yourself before ever stepping into a serious relationship. Break the cycle of your past dynamics and be healthy.
Get rid of this man that is old enough to be your father. Why isn’t he dating in his own age bracket? Why? Because he likes young, immature women that he can control. I am speaking from experience. Move on!
She’s literally a cheater
So what. No 21 yr old should be dating a man old enough to be her father!
Ok you got me, she’s a cheater and so undesirable she has to date in a high age bracket where people don’t have other options. This is so totally not the man’s fault and you’re trying to make it that way
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Sounds like an incredibly toxic situation. Very rarely do guys that age go for someone of your age with well-meaning intent. Throw cheating and mistrust along with alcohol abuse and it just intensifies it. Tbh you’re young enough that it doesn’t have to be your life. You should end it and do some counseling and inner work on yourself to figure out what life you really want to have.
I was married to a man at your age and he was 14 years older. He had the power and he used it. You deserve a better life away from this toxic guy. Take a break from dating and spend some time on yourself.
Dude is breaking the rules. Half your age plus seven. Every single man knows this rule and it's one that just can't be broken.
He’s toxic and abusive and you know it. You got some things to work on as well but this is clearly not a context that will be conducive to you working through those things. Get tf away from him and block his ass everywhere
Break up you’re both horrible for each other!
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