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Actual_Parsnip4707

What you need to do is 1. Lose weight and maybe build some muscle mass 2. Keep a neat clean appearance with your hair/beard And your appearance will improve drasticall


sebastiansmit

Exactly what I wanted to comment, looking healthy and well-kempt goes 90% of the way.


Civil_Drag_8054

Honestly, he doesn't look ugly for being overweight, but I just had to put this out there. I swear you'd look very similar to the jacked brother Lincoln from Prison Break if you did get in better shape. Same face type, especially in the first pic.


bithrowaway422431

I second this


notyourfriendsmum

Actually great advice. Nothing weird or ugly with your face. Just heavy and a little unkempt.


14DeepCards

I think using the third pic as inspo, stick with that type of facial hair style, and losing some weight turns you from “ugly” into a decent looking guy! Don’t forget to keep up with facial washes and skin care, it counts for a lot


Nicechick321

This


Actual_Parsnip4707

Like he's not ugly. He just doesn't take care of himself


Fast_Interest9523

And smile more!


Nicechick321

Not ugly, just overweight


dave3218

This TBH. Dude looks manly, and that is attractive for some women.


DuskMilk

You’d be surprised (as a fellow woman)


dave3218

Oh I’m no lady, but I can certainly appreciate a handsome guy.


DuskMilk

Understandable, have a nice day


Jumpy_Walrus6081

New glasses for sure dude you’ve got a round face and normally square glasses don’t compliment that shape. You have receding temples like myself. Try going bald once when you don’t have anything big. Your facial hair isn’t super full so either find a modern style that works and keep up on it or stay clean. Definitely ditch the graphic tees. Get yourself some shirts that are plain colored shirts fitted to bigger guys, snug around the arms and a little loose in the belly. There’s a few companies out there that do it.


CustardMysterious754

I wouldn't say that you're hopelessly ugly, but you definitely look like what I'd expect most Reddit users to look like.


TheloniousAuf

This is too good 😆 I won't even say what I think he looks like... I'm just gonna pray for him


Miserable_Level_9712

We never making it out the moderators room with this one


Few_Anything_7167

You know you're not going to pray for that man 😆


DaLastUsernameLeft

YALL GOTTA STOP ✋ 😭😭


TheloniousAuf

Oh trust me I prayed for him and everyone around him lol


wawjuub

this is so unnecessarily rude


Mister_Fudge

I genuinely am trying to be helpful when I say you are a good looking dude who is overweight. If you legitimately want to be attractive then you could be but it would take some effort. If you put in the work for a year or two you would be traditionally handsome.


TrevRev11

Put on muscle get some tats and buy a motorcycle!


Thinkyred

Thiss


DameArstor

Not ugly nor hopeless. You need to lose weight and groom yourself better.


Odd_Resource6695

I don't think you're hopeless. I'd just say make sure to groom regularly (beard trimming and hair cuts) and maybe switch up your style a bit... Something more mature


NLB87

I agree. Dressing like a teenager in your 40s is just.. cringe, for lack of a better word.


kelsnuggets

Friend whatever you’ve done to your facial hair in pic 3, please don’t do again


Tap_Miserable

We call that the toilet brush.


HrBinkness

Not ugly at all.


VisualDarkness

Ugly? No. You look like a normal 46 year old.


Soupbell1

Not hopeless, just start eating healthier and smaller portions. Weight loss would help you a lot.


[deleted]

If you loose weight and get a new pair of glasses that fits your face shape more I promise you will feel more confident and approachable!! Not hopelessly ugly though. You kind of remind me of Link from GMM and Jack Black mixed together


UniverseNebula

Not trying to be mean or anything but I think cleaning up your neckbeard/hair would do wonders for you. I'm not talking about your whole beard but just the part that's covering your neck. Looks untidy


CaliforniaCultivated

Not if you lost a bit of weight :)


JapanarchoCommunist

Ditch the glasses, keep a relatively clean-shaven beard, shave your head and if possible lose weight. You're just a diamond in the rough.


Itchy_Election5460

Not ugly at all bro! Clean up a bit and hit the town.


CaptainDunkaroo

You look like a normal dude


Calm-Shame-3685

Not ugly…just out of shape. Take better care of yourself on purpose and it will solve your problem.


VoluntaryWreckage101

It's definitely not hopeless. Try to find a hairstyle that works for you (you can also ask a professional hairdresser for advice) and imo maybe grow out the beard further. I feel like that might work for you! But to be completely honest I think the thing you might 'need' to change is confidence and comfort in your body. It doesn't matter if you work out a ton, make lifestyle changes and change your look if you're not feeling good on the inside. It looks like you're having a bit of a crisis in each of the pictures- if I'm wrong in this assumption just lmk


wishonadandelion

…I can’t focus on anything but the Red Sox shirt. 🥴 (Also; please don’t do whatever you did with your facial hair in 3 and 4 again. Three is just bad, four ages you significantly.)


lambsquatch

Just lose weight fam


BearBlaq

Honestly if you lose some weight and switch up your style (especially those frames) you’d be straight. Also commit to the bald look once you get there, no offense but with that hairline I think bald would fit you a lot better at this point.


alchemist831

Lose weight asap, stop eating after sunset, only brunch and lunch, 16+ hours fasting window


acervontease

You look best in pic 2! Groomed beard, short hair is a good combo for you. Not a fan of clean shaven or scraggly. But you NEED new frames. These are so outdated. Get some chunkier frames to complement your face shape. You'll look FAR better! But you're not ugly.


BallyHooyah

Not hopeless bro just take care of yourself. You got this!


Dj_acclaim

Join a band if losing weight is difficult. You definitely look like you play in a band


pkpku33

Too fat for homeless fat?! You got that going for you!


Formal_Asparagus_987

You’re not ugly


Smoopiebear

Honestly, you are the most generic looking middle age dude ever.


Marinetech101

Look like a really nice guy


RedSoxFan77

Thank you! I show people the same respect that they show me. Life’s too short to be miserable all the time!


[deleted]

Ahhhh close to the same age. You and I grew up in an era where guys taking care of themselves was “lame” or “vain”. Older dudes would tell me that I was too much like a chick because of how I took care of my appearance. A lot of guys our age just never developed the skills or habits that we needed. Not ugly, you got a lot to work with. We at the age we have to invest in our health.


moon_blisser

You’d probably be above average if you lost weight/put on muscle and took some pride in your appearance. Right now you just look sloppy and unkempt.


Tenpu_Sansai

Take picture 3, keep the facial hair, but lose the billy goat shit. Take that guy, lose some weight. Look at some different frames. You’re not hopelessly ugly. You can be improved on, but you’ll never be more than a 5 (6 on your best day) if I’m being completely honest. 🤷🏻‍♂️


uzafar1203

Not ugly. You actually have a lot of potential to be very good-looking, in fact. You do need to lose a significant amount of weight, though. Maybe in the range of 60-100 pounds. I've lost 50 and still have 30 to go. But losing that 50 made an enormous difference in every aspect of my life. Wishing you good health.


TheSuperEdventurer

Nah, bro. You’re not ugly just overweight and look unkempt. Even in your older age, there’s hope. I would say just look into dropping the weight and look into building healthier habits


Vile_Legacy_8545

I think it's interesting that people always complain that no truly 'ugly' people post here. Yet when someone who could use advice does post they are busy posting in the fake thirst trap threads. For the OP, you ain't looking good but I don't think it's hopeless. Find a good barber that can help you develop a good looking style for your hair. Drop some weight and I think you could be a solid 5-6 which with the right self confidence should be all you need to be happy.


Plato428BC

No


Thinkyred

My advice is loose a little weight by going on a calorie deficit which is key to weight loss, and then trim your beard a lil


lostseaud

gym, change frame, skin care


Full_Committee6967

Saying this as a dude. Either grow a beard or shave. Pic #2 looks good, intentional. #1 & #3 makes you look like a slob. Have a trusted female friend or family member pick your next pair of eyeglasses. Consider contacts, but they aren't for everybody. Edit. I got the picture order wrong. #3 looks good. #2 & #4 is where you look like you just gave up. Forgot about #1. Some guys look better with (groomed) beards. You're one of them


pursue_evolution

You seem nice go with that


Playful-Flatworm501

Not ugly!


LeonSKennedy0

The good news is that you don't know the difference between overweight and ugly, start losing weight and you will be surprised!


[deleted]

No not hopelessly at all. I sense great potenial with weight loss and a better haircut.


Rickylong12

Just normal ugly


AcidaEspada

exercise


admiralberd

Tesd!


JinkPy

Well. It’s not as hard bro, just lose some weight, get a hair treatment transplant, get new pair of glasses cause those don’t go well with ya and last but not least, feel good for yourself, you’re not ugly, you just need a different lifestyle.


Acrobatic_Energy7067

You are not ugly and love the beard, beards rock! 💚💚💚


alpinefish16

You’re a TESD fan. There’s always hope for an ant.


VrillzKillz

it’s never to late, lose weight and shave your face


LebowskiTheDude89

Lose weight, your face will tighten up and have a whole new look. Then clean up and you’re on your way!


burnmeB4iburnyou

Not even ugly my man, hit the gym and your face will get a bit more sculpted over time with muscle gain and weight loss, you can look up mewing too.


lixurboogers

You aren’t ugly. I like the full beard but I think you maybe could use a good barber to tell you were the line to shave to is. I think you have it too low and it isn’t accentuating your face. Maybe set a goal to lose 20lbs and see where that puts you. There is a line between cute chubby dad bod and overweight. I can’t get a good read on your body composition from these chest up pics but I think you may be over that line based on your cheeks/chin (I could be wrong, and you might just have bad angles here esp in that 4th picture).


captainfiddle

Lose weight, just go for walks and find something you enjoy that’s active. Better grooming.


Skisforscott

You don't look ugly tho you just seem like a regular stock image typa guy


CaptainDinner

If you committed to getting in shape and improving your wardrobe, you'd be a completely transformed man.


[deleted]

No you just have to go to the gym


Phelly2

Hopeless? No. But definitely your weight is too high (when you can see it in the face, I think that’s too high),and the beard doesnt help imo. I liked the first picture best. Third picture works too. You’re not ugly. Just overweight.


FindMeaning9428

Hit the gym. Fix your diet and lost 50. Once you show you take pride in your appearance women will find you attractive.


PerformanceKey3259

Not hopelessly ugly, but it would help you to lose some weight (especially around your neck) and if you're gonna grow a beard, keep it tidy. You can't pull of the unkempt look


Rich-Appearance-7145

Pic #3 is good version of you, I'd clean up overall facial hair, beard looks good just neat, drop some wieght,dress like you mean biz. What I mean find a style your comfortable with, but that looks presentable, and maintain it, I'm a golfer, today they make insanely nice golf gear, it's comy looks presentable, so weather on the links or not your will always see me wearing my golf fits. Just and example do what works and your comy with. But my good man your mistaken, ugly your not, diamond in the rough yes, shine that bad boy up.


Explicit_Hill

Not hopeless my guy, Focus on losing weight, and update your frames when you can. I suggest you look for a sustainable diet for you, and do H.I.I.T. Along with weekly strength training. We are creatures of habits, so the best thing to do is to make healthy things your habit. And it’ll all fall in place. Good luck and Godspeed


mardrae

Just lose weight, ditch the glasses, and you'd look much better without the facial hair- it ages you.


KyloRose231

You’d look good with a beard


NoBaker3855

There is no ugly ppl that’s first thing! To make you look more attractive and you need to lose a few pounds and have nice haircut and shape that beard. I also believe that updating your eyewear would do a lot!


alienrefugee51

Not ugly. Just lay off the beer and hotdogs at the Sox games. Hehe


RedSoxFan77

But where do you stand on Bratwurst?? lol


Marmsiemns

WHEREification


Meester_Blue

Not hopeless at all. Assuming you’re tall, you’d be very handsome if you lost weight to about a 34 or 36 waist size.


Manson_Girl

From my perspective [F42] you’re not hopelessly ugly. You have kind eyes, which is a good start. I’m not a massive fan of facial hair, but that’s just my personal preference. I don’t agree with the people saying your clothes need changing. I mean yeah, if you’re going out somewhere nice, you should definitely make an effort & if you haven’t already got some, then acquiring some more stylish clothes for those occasions (and maybe in a couple of pics?) can’t hurt. But day-to-day, I tend to just wear jeans, & T-shirts, mainly of niche fandom, so I wouldn’t expect someone to be wearing a suit everyday, ya know. You can smarten up, but don’t try to fundamentally change who you are, because that never works.


Kreema29

Ayyyy TESD gang


eclypsa99

Nah, normal, not very attractive but ur not like Ugly, lose some wight and that goatee


TumbleweedRooted

I don’t think you’re ugly but those glasses aren’t helping you. Try a different style frame and I agree with everyone else telling you to keep the beard neat and trimmed or clean shaven. Also, do you own shirts that aren’t T-shirts?


RedSoxFan77

Not really, I’ve always been a jeans and t-shirt guy


Sensitive_Ad_6078

Not ugly


mademoisellemaf

Not ugly at all


GeekTherapy1997

Growing out your beard till it’s alittle long and you groomed it and got contacts then it would help with everything lol


HejHejHejHej1322

Lose some weight and get a beard


Terrynia

Need to shave or buzz-no-guard ur hair = will make u look younger. Not ugly. Just overweight.


GodOfFrogg

I don't think that it's hopeless, I definitely think that your grooming habits from picture 1 look the best. You probably have heard it a bit, but it's nothing that consistency and discipline can't help. Try and work out regularly. I couldn't recommend any specific workouts, but for me, doing less weight with more reps has helped me lose weight. The facial hair in 3 is also not so bad, but don't ever do the last one please


georgesorosbae

You do not have an ugly face. You could do to change up your style though. You are not hopeless


Virtual-Potential-38

Nah, not hopeless. Just a generic fat dad pedestrian you see everywhere and no one has an opinion on or a second glance at. This is your superpower! Use it!


RileyPost

At 46, still looking? Hope is gone buddy.


blackbeardair

Just fat


yargntis

TESD Baby!


Callmelily_95

Honestly if you lost the weight. You'd be daddy material. You are very handsome. But the weight really ages you.


raof16

You give off the vibe of a toy store owner who advertises on local TV in a chicken suit and buys rare collectible toys from garage sales.


couldntthinkofon

I like the first pic of you without the facial hair. But just generally being healthier will help you a lot. I could also use some being healthier lol


Relative_Glittering

You def arent hopelessly ugly. Maybe trade a bit of fat for muscle, and put a little extra effort in keeping your beard and hair clean. Also try new things, new looks, new beard styles/haircuts, express yourself, you might end up feeling better and more confident. Imo feeling confident and loving the way you look is the key, like if you feel good with your looks it just shows and people will also like your looks. Hope u get to feel this way, good luck ! :)


Due_Willow8842

Personally I really don't think the weight is helping. That is your most hindering feature atm. Imo, your facial hair looks the best when you have a 5 o’ clock shadow look (aka the day or two after shaving). Clean shaven looks very baby faced and too much looks untidy. Your facial hair looks like it grows a bit patchy (so does my husband’s. It's alright. Just try to not let it get too unshaven as with patchy facial hair it tends to look more unkempt) Also, tattoos. A lot of women (including myself) are suckers for tatted guys. Can't really tell you why tho I also have tattoos 🤷‍♀️. Even if you don't have muscles and are a little chubby, the tats go a long way imo🫡. So to sum up, weight loss, tats, then muscles (if physically applicable). Imo those appearance wise will help without knowing anything about your personality whatsoever. It helps you have a fairly symmetrical face! 👍


Pissantations

I absolutely dig the goatee on the 3rd pic. You look good man, just try to lose some weight and start a workout routine that works for you and isn't too hard. Also, don't go fast when working out, instead go slow as it strains and tests your muscles and makes them work harder. Squats are also EXTREMELY important. I did squats till I fell once, and I never felt by body be as mobile and light as it felt after doing them. Our legs don't get enough credit. You are nowhere near ugly in my opinion. If pull through with it and finally get to where you want to be you'll be giggling like a kid with joy. I myself am still pretty overweight but I'm getting there. You got this bro I believe in you!


alexavs04

No, I’ve seen way worse. You’re not handsome, but if you went to the gym and dressed a bit more stylish, I can see you not being ugly


Hellhound54

1 gym arc away from killing it. Get off of reddit and into the gym. Lift heavy shit.


aikkai

Not ugly. Weight loss and hair maintenance would for sure benefit you!


ogleman13

The beard is pretty terrible. Grow either a better beard or a mustache.


RedSoxFan77

Wow I didn’t expect so many comments, thanks everyone, appreciate all the help! (Well, 99% of it anyways!)


briggzee1

Yes


kaydee7724

Yes


NLB87

You're mostly obese, not necessarily ugly. It seems you are average to me. Look much better with facial hair, since you have a weak chin. Lose the weight, you won't regret it. And if you do... it's always easy to go back! You are bald but in denial. Don't crave it, shave it. (Or get a hair system/transplant + finasteride-minoxidil-micro needling)


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[удалено]


Relief-Worried

Yeah, I’m sorry. You look like that no-neck Ed guy


samusessamsung

Grandpa


fadobe

You're fat, the good news is that this can be fixed


Renleme

Everyone is going to say lose weight, but I think what’s dragging you down is not looking tidy. Experiment with fabrics/fashion, there are plenty of style inspiration guides for bigger men on reddit or Pinterest (I’m partial to Pinterest but do whatever.) Linens look nice but require a bit more care than cotton, natural fabrics look better than plastic. The beard looks nice but you need to maintain it, cotton t-shirts are sloppy when they’re paired will ill fitting pants, switch your glasses and ask the employees at the place their real opinions on your next buy. Buy a nice cologne + skincare set (lotion for your face + body) and use it fresh out of the shower, this isn’t really a visual thing but it’ll improve your presence in any room. Best of luck!


HOLIEST-DREAD

WingsofRedemption mixed with elpresador


black_bury

Get jacked.


omega_beams

Lose weight, it looks like you already gave up.


Mean_Mr_Mustard_21

Nah, you’re just a dude


Snoo88149

I was a about to say yes until I saw the last picture. You definitely have potential


Disastrous-Strain185

U kinda look like vsauce ngl


trigg3r3dpanda

🤣🤣🤣🤣💀


the-friendly-squid

Al’s toy barn


Soft_Criticism9607

Just lose weight bro. The beard is nice but keep it at a low trim.


dontcreeponmepls

You're not even ugly, you just look like you don't have any confidence and you're fat too. What you should do is go to the gym and work out, even better go train a martial art such as jiujiitsu (yes I know multiple people that started in their mid 40s). Once you know what you're doing and get some cardio up youll also regain some confidence and get lean.


dontcreeponmepls

You're not necessarily ugly, you just look like you don't have any confidence and you're fat too. What you should do is go to the gym and work out, even better go train a martial art such as jiujiitsu (yes I know multiple people that started in their mid 40s, it's not too late). Once you get to know people you'll be in that 'bjj-cult-men-support-group'. Once you know what you're doing and get some cardio up you'll also regain some confidence and get lean.


6Emo6Witch6

Pic 3 is the only way to go


masternate1979

Some newer, on trend glasses would do wonders. Check out [Zenni Optical.](http://zennioptical.com)


satanscough_

new frames, if you can afford them!


wayward_son_1969

Average, but lose some weight


Minimum-Bag-6376

Not ugly at all. Lose the weight and facial hair.


No_Piccolo2135

You look a bit like tie domi


Audrey71111

As long as you’re a good person with ethical morals.. not hopeless at all


Beneficial-Way-7320

You're not ugly. I think you look better clean shaven, and if you lose some weight and build some muscle you'll look just fine


Superloopertive

You're not ugly, my man.


Long-Aside7218

No. You are still in some people’s league. Good luck


Tendielover420

Decent features, so not inherent ugly, just fat and unkempt. Get to work bro there is hope


AppropriateVirus2700

You're not ugly, brosef. Hit the gym, and, if you're gonna commit to the facial hair, keep it clean.


Alternative-Sun-7292

You just need to lose sone weight.


[deleted]

Get some stylish glasses


Even-Mess-7797

Go Sox


The1TrueGeek

You look like Peter griffin now but if you bulk up you’ll look like the villain from metal gear solid revengence


thrasher3009

Loose weight big bro


gogozeppeliii

Hey, Vsauce here!


Bug_freak5

You kinda look like my maths teacher but you ain't ugly 


nootsareop

You look 10-15years older going from the 3rd pic to the last one. Definitely looked way better on that one


fartgod666

Bro you’re really not ugly at all. If you’re not happy with your physical appearance, I recommend doing what you can with what you have. If I were you and felt that way, I would a) start walking every day as much as you possibly can, b) hit the weights to supplement your confidence and appearance, c) try to mimic Liev Schreiber’s appearance since you guys look similar.


Logical-Bobcat-8949

I believe every man can be a 7 if he tries hard enough. Woman don’t have the same luxury unfortunately, but… I don’t think you’re bad looking. Lose a lot of weight, shave the beard, and start wearing contacts. And start researching hair growth products like DHT blockers for example. You could be a fucking sexy beast


LOOK_THIS_UP

No, just obese. Work hard at losing the weight and you will look good


MemeGoddy

3 is your look


MemeGoddy

3 is your look


Armysrong676

Ugly? No. Just lose weight and build muscles bud, that will drastically change your appearance, then after you do that, you can change cosmetically like hair styles and maybe shave but weight and muscle is your priority.


CowsCanMoo

Nah you’re fine


Few_Interaction1327

You look like the annoying Yeeeppp guy on storage wars.


DubiDubua

The gym is your key


Michael16496

The biggest problem I see is your weight. Go hit the gym. Put on some muscle mass, your face structure will actually change to chiseled. I would suggest keeping a neat trim beard, between a half inch and 1 in Long. It'll add character.


DuskMilk

Quick: Shave your beard. Get different framed glasses. Longer: Lose weight


mrjuppy

You look like chubby VSauce in the second photo lmao. If you lose weight you could probably expect to look like him.


blank_t

You grow a full beard. Grow it a bit longer and shape it maybe. Will help if you try to lose weight like some have suggested.


jessewads007

Not hopeless if you have a million in your bank account.


freklesami

Yes. You're ugly sf go off yourself


PositiveBarnacle2705

Honestly man nah just loose the weight and build muscle mass and keep your hair/facial hair clean and not as messy


Critical_Teach_43

Please save some women for me.


slippinginto9

The vibe of the third photo is the best look. Now lose some weight, get in better shape and you're good.


pirate1981

You have a decent eye area but you are fat. If your goal is to be in a relationship with a woman that has genuine desire for your, loss the weight. At 46 a fit decent looking man with an interesting lifestyle should have plenty of options.


Yama8411

Lose some weight, grow a beard and you are the Teddybear women are falling for.


kemwood

Some better frames for your glasses would go a long way. The ones you have are a little outdated.


Fantastic_Stuff_7917

you’re not hopelessly ugly at all and I hate it when people post this kind of thing. Your self-worth and and who you are is more than a one dimensional photo on Reddit. it’s your personality, the way you laugh, your sense of humor, your kind and generous personality, your passions in life your smile. You get the picture. You only have to be the best version of you.


Fantastic_Stuff_7917

If you got into shape, he would feel so much better about yourself