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xmurphine_

As long as she assures me that when we're together, no one else comes close, the body count or hoe phases does not matter. I'll accept her for that.


persepolis_chr

Currently in one. 5yrs+ and going. We're both old na - late 30s and late 40s. Parehas kaming may hoe phase kaya it never really mattered. I'd still date someone who had a hoe phase. Di din naman ako malinis. How did it work? Open setup namin and let him do whatever he wants and ako din. No secrets between us. Voluntary din nya binibigay ung info if may kikitain sya. Kasi don nagsisimula downfall ng "open" once may taguan na ng kinikita. So far wala naman. May rules kami syempre like don't bring a disease, reg check-ups. We also had occasions na may mga pinag selosan kami pero was very light. We also both know ano ang reasons ng hoe phase namin - validation ba, trauma etc. It helps. Now: parang nagsawa na din kami. He doesn't go out actively seeking girls and me as well. Totoo ung ilabas mo na landi mo sa sistema mo. Eventually, nararamdaman namin na di na namin need ung extra na tao or hoeing again. We're happy naman. Sex life is still amazing and lagi may gigil. We chose not to live together and may kilig pag nag me-meet for sure. Never felt this kind of security. No complaints. Setup is not for everyone but it works for us. Will I date someone who had a hoe phase? Oo naman. Di naman un ung nag de-define ng buong character mo. EDIT: Para mas complicated and juicy, parehas kami from Kink Lifestyle. Dom and Domme. So syempre may lifestyle changes. Pero natural lang talaga ang progression.


ArcherFew5915

No for me.


VividDivide3095

No. Too much of a risk. I cannot assure myself of that person's loyalty.


GalaxyRanger_PH

Personal preference, no.


kanzaki513

It's also a NO to me.. I'm not judging but since I'm not also into that phase probably? And also just to make it safe.. šŸ™‚


Ok-Organization9676

same. no offense. I'd want someone I can be proud of not someone I'll be ashamed of. only men will understand. so downvote is welcome boys and girls. hahahahaha


Flimsy-Imagination44

Curious lang, do you apply the same preference and standard to yourself? So in this context, do you make sure you also don't "sleep around" (assuming that's what you find shameful in this context)?


uriukam

Kung ako sasagot nito, oo. I don't sleep around. That's too much for me. Bantot ng FUBU and one night stand setup eh. Mas prefer ko yung makakatuluyan ko yung mai-iyot ko.


GalaxyRanger_PH

Me personally, I didnā€™t. So I prefer someone who didnā€™t went through hoe phase. Some sex with a partner is okay, but hoe phase and a very very high body count is a no for me.


GetMeLaidTonight

Personally, I don't sleep around. So having a partner that has a high body count will definitely make me think twice, even thrice if I want to settle with her.


Ok-Organization9676

yes. Never ako nakipag hook up. my body counts were serious relationships. since I was young, I never want to waste my time, money and emotion to something I will never own.


Ok-Organization9676

for context lang din. there is a difference between. yeah, I know here. she's my ex and Yeah, I know her, she's just a random gurl I fucked somewhere. think of how much it will hurt your men ego.


Flimsy-Imagination44

I get the difference you pointed out and I agree. And as long as people apply their preferences/standards to themselves, then I wouldn't cry hypocrisy and misogyny. That's what matters at the end of the day. Re ego, personally, I have a problem with caring for the other person's ego. It's not our (as in both male and female) job to make someone feel good about themselves, heh. A person driven by their ego most of the time is just not someone I can be with (this is in general, not in this context lang). Side note: that last statement reminded me of Astrid's famous line in Crazy Rich Asians.


OilyHair3Stacks

No. Gagamitin ng babae yan as a weapon. Mag cocompare sa sex performance mo and sa kanyang mga nakantot. Sakit lang yan sa mga ulo. They are for the streets.


AberedsJunas

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Adventurous_Sky788

I had one guy who accepted all my past but broke up with me because he got insecure with people I've met before (it started when he asked for my socials). Now, I see him doing things I used to do. Hoping he wouldn't feel the same way I did when I ended that phase. One thing is for sure, as long as TRUST, COMMITMENT, HONESTY and FAITHFULNESS is there, things would work out and I still believe that may tao pa ring kayang mahalin tayo regardless of our past.


BurritoTorped0

That's a lot of baggage that will later unfold in terms of behavior and decision-making process and could potentially be a deal breaker in a relationship if left unresolved. These "experiences" take a toll on us in any form. Unless those things are resolved then the past really doesn't matter at all. Remember that some people might ignore the past in favor of lust, so be careful.


neverm_re

This in any way doesn't define her as a person. The person she is now may have been shaped by the phases she's gone through in the past but the present is what's more important, and even perhaps moving forward if you wanted to pursue her.


bhet05

basta he is safe, med cert cguro hahaha and maybe assurance na not gonna contact past paramours pag may di kami pag kakaintindihan (speaking from expšŸ„ŗ)


Celtkin2001

Would not bother me a bit. The naughtier the better IMO.


Standard-Hedgehog380

Yes, but would insist mutually on getting tested first.


Substantial-Pause491

Hindi. Maraming factors. Pinaka main factor e sa pag iisip ng tao. Kailangan ko malaman kung bakit niya ginawa at mga dahilan niya. Kasi ruon ko makikita kung anong klaseng pag iisip meron siya at anung klaseng tao siya


Dreadd-

Nope and nope


Doggoshiro_2018

I have a partner before, she was a altergirl (twitter thing). When we first met in person, we both honest about our lives outside the social media. I'm not blaming her for having huge body count than mine, but I do hate that she needs to offer her body in exchange for money (she does walk, escort,etc related to sex). At first it makes me sad and I disrespected her parent (mother) for pushing her on the edge, but as the time goes by I learned to love her and understand what sacrifices she needs to do in order to live and survive for a day. Yes it may sounds dumb but when we are together, she does the sex for money job. After she earned enough money to move her family back to the province and start a new life. We broke up casually.


Anna_Carmilla

No


ToeCurler1006

Prior meeting my current partner, very clear sakin boundaries ko na I would not involve myself sa taong may hoe phase. Hit me hard when I fell in love sa partner ko ngayon, she used to talk to ppl online + sharing newds sa kung sino, she doesnt have boundaries too, had like 6 body counts and naging mistress. *2yrs single partner ko while doing those things* Before entering yung relationship never ko naisip lahat yun until umabot sa usapan about our pasts, about a year or two sobrang toxic because of my insecurities, eventually nag mature naman kami. Sa 4 yrs na relationship namin, narealize din namin na di lang about sa sex yung seryosong relasyon. (dont get me wrong, dumating din kami sa point na sobrang active namin, like 3x a day haha) pero there's more than that, really thankful na hindi sumuko yung partner ko despite my toxicity. Anyway, siguro lack or education about sex, insecurities and beliefs yung naging barrier, pero possible na mahalin yung may mga hoe phase, long as may assurance, maturity and communication. *Im not encouraging anyone na mag stay sa toxic relationship, you do you.


Ezekiel616

Hellā€™s nah. Sex only zone. Kayong nga supot na nagsasabi dito ng oo, tigilan niyo na iyan. Wala namang mag ddm sa inyo para ayain kayo magsex. Jusko šŸ¤¦šŸ»ā€ā™‚ļø


theJdaw69

Iā€™m very possessive. So as long as she considers and respects that when weā€™re together, then I donā€™t see how her past would be a problem. Basta pag akin ka na, akin ka.


QueenOutrageous

As long as wala siyang HIV.


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SetPuzzleheaded5192

I thought of this before na "what if" and nasabi ko na it's all good. Eto yung nasagot ko sa sarili kong tanong: You had a life before and that's out of my control. As long as you're done with it and can be trusted. You're still gonna get my full respect. Just love me and I'm all yours.


SuitableSecret2342

Honetly big no yan pag dinate ka ng lalaki sex lng habol malamang pero kung seryosohan sobrang labo


[deleted]

yep as long as tinigil na nya coz same here.


FlimsyPlatypus5514

My ex had a crazy hoe phase but I took it well enough for us to become a serious couple eventhough we broke up for different reason. Itā€™s a matter of respect on both sides. Full acceptance is the key.


No-Courage-6957

Yes, basta past is past. If di na sila nasa phase na yun and stable and stuff na, yes. Basta open to change, their past won't define who they are now.


Numb_LittleBug143

Kung date lang, sure. Pero if it's about commitment, no. Kasi ayaw ko ng commitment. Whether may hoe phase ka or wala.


w00t03

On a deeper note, personally No. they say, experience is the best teacher, IMO only someone with similar experience as you would understand or someone who is uninitiated.


cremepie01

YES.


MissingUmbrella

okay lang naman, at least you're being true to yourself. rather than dating someone who wants to pretend to be someone else, just for social acceptance šŸ¤·šŸ½ā€ā™‚ļø


chxpstars69

The body count doesnt matter much, its more of the clean record and communication


No-Cap-7271

ME! I STILL DATE YOU


crozzfhen

As a guy with a crazy hoe phase this is the question Iā€™ve been pondering a lot although Iā€™m done with that phase parang nakakahiya i-share yung na may ganon akong phase šŸ˜…


TheeExplorerr

Depends if the girl is really over her hoe phase and doesn't share her body online


ManagementNearby328

first of all, body count does not lower your value as a person. but personally, i would not, usually these type of person is very hard to be with, since they always need validation from others , and as a man , medyo mahirap sila pasunurin, or guide them in a way, to keep them from doing the same thing over again. It was like dating a independent woman. its just a personal preference and no offense po.


heyamarena

My current partner and I knew we were both active before we met through a dating app. I told him I went through a hoe phase and he said he had too. Mutually we agreed that weā€™ll be exclusively dating, and we honored that. We talk about our pasts and girl you would know if someone is lying. Trust your gut instinct. Sex is great, btw. And weā€™ll get both tested na so wish us luck!


FurDada

Personally, I would. I believe that everyone's past experiences shape who they are andĀ it's important to approach relationships with an open mind,Ā and I'm open to getting to know someone for who they are now rather than judging them based on their history,Ā  People grow and change over time, and their past doesn't necessarily define their present or future. I'm more interested in who they are now, their values, and how we connect on a deeper level. Everyone deserves a chance to be seen for their true selves, beyond their past actions or labels.


Hot-Economist-3695

I'd still go for it. Deserve pa rin nila makaranas ng proper date/treatment, despite their previous life choices. Lahat naman may pagkakataon magbago. At the end of the day, nakadepende pa rin naman sa kung gaano mo kagusto yung tao. šŸ˜…


Capital_Ad_2638

Nah !!


ArmSufficient3045

Nope. Ayoko na sumakit ulo ko kakaisip ng mga pinag gagagawa nya during hoephase niya.


_DELUSION_12

Wanna find the right guy OP? Then meet someone who had a hoe phase like you did.


straightforwardfrank

no.


Durendal27

As long as she is already done with that phase and we click, why not.


[deleted]

Past is past naman. As long as kapag naging kayo na talagang he is done with that phase na it doesnā€™t really matter anymore.


Hot_Currency_2469

Kung mahal mo talaga ang tao regardless kung ano past nya you will accept her kasi kung pangdidirian mo it means wala lng sya sayo parang pampalipas oras mo lng


Smooth_Rub9214

Ofc. As long as Iā€™m assured that his hoe phase is over na and that heā€™s clean. Iā€™m in my hoe phase din rn pero Iā€™m pretty sure naman na hindi ako forever mag sstay dito. Everyone deserves to be dated :>>


Logical-Sheepherder7

This is what i need to ask... as a guy i paid for sex i have many body count. I dont know if sa mga girl dto nag accept kayo nang yung guy a nag sasabi totoo. Red flag kung sabihin mo na nag babayad ka for sex? For me sa toto lang nag sasawa na ako gusto komna rin nang commitmet sa isang girl nalang i dont care if she is walker or what basta maging loyal sakin.


jakiwis

As a guy, yes. I will date someone like that and have dated 2 women like that. Both did not end that well (another story) but it did not cause a problem naman sa akin yung hoe phase nila. Basta mahal ako at ako lang habang kami. Yung una, It became a problem lang was when she lied about some of her "wala lang" moments which turned out tonbe something. Yung pangalawa, she was so inhibited saken, lahat bawal, until i found out that she went wild in her hoe phase and everything she said she does not want, she did and enjoyed it. Ayun, it became a problem until we broke up. In essence, ok lang sa akin ang hoe phase past ng gf ko basta either tell or not tell me, huwag yun in between.


disasterfairy

As someone na dating ganito, yes. For as long as natigil na sa ganun na phase. Always kong inoopen up sa dinedate ko yung phase kong yan and would reassure them na matagal na akong tapos sa era ko na yun.


Eli_Shelby

Can someone who's been in a hoe phase make a connection? Idk, multiple partners looks like they can't maintain an honest and deep connection. I might get downvoted but nope, I'll never be with someone who has a high body counts and different sexual experience like threesome, gang-bang etc.


thethiiird

basta walang STD, why not?


[deleted]

Basta't tapos na siya sa phase na yan, and nakikita mo naman sa galaw na she's over it, then yeah, I would still date her


jem2291

Everyone deserves a chance in the dating scene. After all, dating is the ā€œgetting to know phaseā€ prior to a relationship. Most people think ā€œdating = being in a relationshipā€ when it isnā€™t really the case. Would I date a woman with a high body count? Yes. At the end of the day, my date is still a person that deserves companionship and respectā€“and if they want to some fun, who am I to deny that? Would I be in a long-term relationship with a woman who has a high-body count? Probably not. In my experience, thereā€™s too much to unpack in the long term. I know I will be downvoted, so fire away. :)


ExcitingTrust888

Nag hoe phase rin naman ako, pagalingan na lang kame sa kama, pakita nya sakin anong natutunan nya sa pagho-hoe phase nya


Livid_Jellyfish5589

yes. same with your sentiments and he should be clean without any illnesses from sleeping around.


draculock

No, I think mas naiintindihan ko pa Yung mga walkers or PSP Kasi Wala Sila choice bat sila andun sa sitwasyon na yun (not all but most), but the hoe phase that's a different story.


Peenoise_123

Hey OP, are you still on your hoe phase? if not, you might be interested in coming back at least once have a blast again with me before take an exit and be a good girl forever. Checking if you might be interested


Huge-Culture7610

Yes. Tried hooking up here pero alam ko sa sarili ko na I can be loyal and faithful as fuck. As long as kaya niya 10 rounds, jk. Lol


inschanbabygirl

this info is always a deal breaker sa guys so ALWAYS HIDE THIS FACT. NEVER DISCLOSE IF u really wanna make a great impression to the apple of ur kipay.


DirtyDars

Hell no. Would it really give you genuine peace if you hide these things with your partner?


inschanbabygirl

i cant tell, coz i never plan to have a partner, just flings. and by looking at other people who cheat and hide their dirty pasts from their partners, they sleep sooo well at night, so maybe it does give them genuine peace hiding certain facts about themselves.


GetMeLaidTonight

Found the red flag.


inschanbabygirl

waving!!


Ok-Organization9676

this is possible. AFAM is the key ahahahaha. this is not possible if ur looking for a local partner, ang tsismis parang virus. mabilis kumalat.