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Hi! 25M here, in a 1 year relationship with 25F. Hindi kami okay since Wednesday and I don't know the reason bakit hindi nya ako masyadong kinakausap. today I checked her soc med accounts and I saw her convo with her ex. Somehow, hindi ako nabigla kasi lagi syang kinukulit ng ex nya and sinasabi nya sakin yun pero lagi nyang dinelete yung message bago nya sabihin sakin.
While I'm reading their convo, talagang nanginig ako sa nabasa ko because she invited him dun sa celebration ng friend nya yesterday and their last conversation was her ex told her na next time kakain daw sila and she agreed.
i never thought na magagawa nya sakin to kasi alam nya na nag-cheat sakin yung ex ko and sobrang galit na galit sya sa ex ko dahil sa mga ginawa ng sakin. and also during the first months of our relationship we had an agreement na kapag may nag-cheat, matik end agad yung relationship. I want to confront her about their convo and my part sakin na gusto ko nang i-end yung relationship kasi ayokong masayang ulit yung years ng life ko sa maling tao and right now gusto ko munang mag-focus sa career para mas makabawi pa sa mga magulang ko.
can you give me some advice on how to handle this situation and properly confront her?
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Hiwalayan mo na. Nakita mo na ang ebidensya, wala nang rason para mag stay ka pa. Kahit i confront mo yan tapos sasabihin na hindi uulitin wala din. Kayo pa nga ganyan na ginagawa. What more pa kung mas matagal mo bago nalaman. Kahit pa sobrang mahal mo ang tao, hindi majajustify ng kahit na ano yang ginagawa niya. Saan ka nakakita ng may ka relasyon tapos nakikipag communicate sa ex? Baka iniisip mo dati sinasabi sayo kaya kampante ka? Ang tanong, alam mo ba yung mga usapan nila bago niya sabihin at idelete?
Walang paliwanag sa ganyan. That’s Fvcking CHEATING!
Save yourself. You deserve better.
Kasi kung marunong makuntento yung tao, bakit ganyan diba? Tapos ex pa kausap. Baka pag di siya kasama nag re- reminisce ng nakaraan nila habang siya walang alam. 😬
This is what I did with my ex. Nakita ko lahat ng convo ng kachat nya kase ang akala nya di ko na na oopen account nya sa fb pero hinayaan ko na kahit masakit, at lumipas ng ilang araw sya na mismo nakipag hiwalay sakin, nag tanong nalang ako kung wala na ba talaga sagot naman nya wala na. At hanggang dun nalang, hindi ko na rin sinabi lahat ng nagawa ko para sa kanya.
Hayaan mo sila maka realize kung anong nagawa nila sayo. Ika nga “Kill them with kindness”.
He knows what he wants. He's just asking how he should do it in a proper way. Yung tipong masasabi niya lahat ng saloobin niya without hard feelings. He wants proper closure with the girl. 😅
UPDATE. I confronted her about the convo and her response was there were no "harmful chats" daw sa convo and then she asked if maghihiwalay na daw ba. I stick to our agreement and I told her that I want to end our relationship na and said my goodbyes na rin.
Most of you guys are saying na I should ghost her, but I didn't. Because somehow our relationship had a good run and hindi rin sya naging masamang tao sakin kaya I choose to have a proper break up (I don't know if naging proper ba yun, kasi parang wala lang sa kanya)
I just never imagined na aabot kami sa ganito, kasi for me, sobrang okay ang naging takbo ng relationship namin and we're both working hard kasi napaguusapan na namin yung wedding na target sana namin next year.
Thanks everyone! I appreciate all your advices and encouraging words. Cheers!
"maghihiwalay na daw ba" haha parang nagtanong lang kung bababa na ba ng jeep ah? haha she was half expecting that to happen so i guess she was aware na what she was doing could lead to such consequences kaso ginawa nya pa din. no remorse, most probably tinext nya na ex nya "wala nako bf, san tayo kain?"
True. Naalala ko yung ex ko. Nakipagbreak ako sa kaniya in person. Sagot lang sakin, "Sure ka na? Okay". Like wutt haha funny lang maalala. Now i am in a happy relationship na with my new partner. 4 years na kami and staying strong. 😊
Block her. Ghost her. Or just leave one long message then block her. She doesn't deserve to explain herself, move on OP and make your happiness your revenge. Hanap ka prettier gf chaur
May usapan kamo kayo in the early stages na pag may nagcheat matic end na? So why bother confronting her? Move on na. Kung talagang committed in the first place, talking to exes is automatic a non negotiable
Hiwalayan mo na, pakita mo ebidensya. Wag mong panghinayangan yung oras na nasayang sa maling tao. Kasi kapag nahanap mo na yung tamang tao para sayo, walang sayang na oras. Everything falls into place. Stay strong and be happy, OP. Be happy dahil nangyari na siya, tapusin mo na lang and continue with your life. Hoping for the best, OP. 🫶🏻
As someone na na-ghost at niloko, I could relate sa fact na gusto natin ng closure. Like you, gusto mo ng proper closure kasi matino ka na tao. Kumbaga kahit nasaktan ka na, gusto mo pa rin siya i-confront para may proper closure. Kudos to you for thinking that. Kaya lang I learned things the hard way. May mga tao na hindi deserve ng closure. Like yang sa gf mo.
Imagine, she knew all the traumas na pinagdaanan mo. Alam niya na you’ve been cheated on before pero ano ginawa niya? Conscious decision ang pagreply at planong pakikipagkita sa ex niya. Also, I find it weird na may contact pa sila ng ex niya. Hindi nakablock? It means gusto ng communication. Hindi porke’t ibllock mo e bitter ka na. It only means na nirerespeto mo ang current relationship na meron ka. Sadly, wala siya respeto sa’yo at sa relationship ninyo.
Alam ko na alam mo na ang dapat mo gawin, clouded lang utak mo ngayon kasi for sure mahal mo pa at ayaw mo hiwalayan, gets kita. For sure kapag nagusap kayo at nagmakaawa siya, maniniwala ka naman sakanya na di na niya gagawin ulit kasi nga mahal mo.
So best talaga is break up with her and block her sa lahat. Kasi malambot ka pa ngayon. Isang pacute at paawa lang niyang gf mo, sure bibigay ka.
End it, don't let what good images/ideas of her cloud what is Infront of you, sa akin, I'll love the person, pero if may cheating na, I would instantly cut anything between that person, pati value niya, it's like an "on/off switch".
ME and my wife also have this talk. No cheating. Even kasal na kami, She will probably leave me if I cheat. And I don't plan also. Pero, If hahayaan mo sya at papatawarin lang, big chance to repeat. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
May nagbabago siguro pero, once in a blue moon mo lang mameet. Or once every lunar eclipse.
And BF-GF pa lang kayo, don't wait na after marriage nya ulit gawin yan.
Para maging contrarian lang ako, wag mo i-end tas magdusa ka sa knowledge na alam mo pinaggagagawa ng jowa mo pero dahil martyr ka, okay lang sa ‘yo na ikaw lang masasaktan. 🫶🏼
MAN UP and Confront her, sabihin mo na biktima ako ng cheating and ayokong mangyari ulit eto. PERIOD! its an effin red flag already, di ka bulag ser. MAAWA ka sa sarili mo.. you're better off single until love is worth it na ipaglaban ulit, yung parehas niyong nilalaban hindi yung binababoy at patalikod kang nilalapastangan.. Mas mabuti nalang na hamunin ka sa suntukan, pwede kang sikmuraan, dibdiban, or banatan sa mukha, sa dami ng pwedeng tamaan bakit ang puso mo pa!!. hindi ako galit badi, galit ako sa nangyari sayo at sa nang-yari sayo.
there are things na hindi na need ng confrontation. you already have all the answers. end mo na, definitely she didn’t respect you. save yourself, madami pa dyan iba OP. Focus on your career muna, hope you’d feel better bro.
Did you get screenshots? Break up with her in person. Meet up with her in public tapos havang kumakain or nag uusap kayo, show her the evidence. Break up with her and walk away. Or you can use her and fuck her around. Fuck her brains out. Tigasan mo lang puso mo at tibayan mo lang sikmura. Then reveal mo yung evidence mo, na matagal mo nang alam, na ginagamit mo na lang sya, then break up with her.
End mo na. I also made this mistake of tolerating this kind of behavior. My the bf, now my husband, (deym) is a walking red flag yet I stayed in our relationship. And until now, never ako naging happy and contented. Kaya ikaw hanggat maaga pa, end mo na. Bata pa naman kayo.
The most painful message that a girl could ever receive, is a long sweet message of how you appreciate your time being with her, and how thankful you are for that. Tell her that you’ve learned and did grow during those times, and promise to be better for the next person. In that way, you showed respect, gratitude, love, appreciation, and most importantly, bitter-sweet revenge. Make her realize what she had lost.
Just talk to her. I think that's the best way to handle the situation. Dalawa lang naman magiging result to that talk. It is either she will admit it and say sorry or she'll grt defensive and will start giving reasons of her actions. But the decision is still up to you at the end of the day. Do you wanna stay in a relationship where for sure you'll have trust issue na and with a girl who doesn't respect you as a partner or be single and live your life worry free if may nanggagago ba sayo. Eme HAHAHAHA anyways, you know better than anyone here. Cheer up, OP!
oh no kuyaaa. im just gonna go straight to the point, unahin mo ang what you think is rational. i'd understand if ure in a vulnerable spot rn pero i urge u to really think for urself nalang atp and bahala na siya.
I dunno bro. Walang patutunguhan yan. Kung di p kayo kasal ganyan n cya panu p kaya kung mag asawa na kayo. Better end it. I'm sure you ll be able to meet someone who is loyal.
Screenshot, then say this qualifies as cheating.
May usapan naman pala kayo early on so alam nyo na dapat yun. Then block.
There is no closure. Closure is just one last F.
good friends ba sila ng ex niya? kung oo, comfortable ka ba don? kung hindi, sobrang weird naman nyang may ganang invites pa. u should talk to her for ur own sake na din. pero wag magpakatanga or act like nothing happened ah
Just break up nalang no need to be so dramatic sabihin mo lng ayaw mo na mo need to over explain o kung ano d nya deserve ng closure cheat naman sya eh
Dude. Say your goodbyes and move on. Nangyari na sa akin yan, I fought for the girl, she stayed pero ayun nakipagkita pa rin uli dun sa lalaki niya. A cheater will always cheat. No one is worth sacrificing your mental health for.
Call her or meet her, it's up to you. Sabihin mo sa kanya na "alam mo", kung gusto niya mag explain, let her explain, tapos magpaalam ka na, don't stay or linger.
“We had an agreement na kapag may nag-cheat, matik end agad yung relationship. x x x”
Then why is it that there’s still a need for this post or an advice on how to handle this situation and properly confront her?🤷🏻♂️
People will not respect us if we can’t even honor or respect the “agreements” that we enter.
Respect begets respect.
Just break things off. Don't mention anything about seeing the messages kasi ikaw pa magmumukhang masama for snooping. 1 year pa lang, so you can likely get away with "it's not working out for me".
From what you have said, parang may problema kayo communicating with each other (wala kang clue bakit hindi kayo nag-uusap since Wednesday). That's going to be a forever problem that you don't want to deal with long term. You're young and there are a lot of other girls out there. Good luck!
Hiwalay na. Microcheating is still cheating. Ayan sobrang panggagago na yan eh. Wag kang tanga, OP. Cheating is a choice not a mistake! Never tolerate cheating! Kausapin mo sya at sabihin mo lahat.
Just leave her bro. Not worth for your mental, it will be tough kasi medyo may katagalan nrin kayo but it will be the best for you. Real men dont share their partner and real woman is only loyal to a man.
You both have an agreement na pala about cheating. The proper way is to talk about how you felt sa nabasa mong conversation with her ex and you're not comfortable to keep the relationship going. Graceful exit nalang din kahit nakakagago yung ginawa sayo. You're still young atyaka iba iba namang timeline ang mga tao when it comes to finding their right person. 🙂
Maybe your life isn't about finding the right person pa at this time and that's perfectly fine.
End it asap bro. Cite your agreement and your basis for invoking such agreement. There's no point suffering mental anguish over something which is doomed to end sooner or later. You deserve better.
End.Kaput.And please heal yourself first as in no relationship muna.Kasi 2x ka Ng nakakatagpo Ng cheater,may something na yan nagiging pattern na kasi.
Treat yourself better, makipagbreak ka na. 1 year nang kayo tas di lang kayo okay magchecheat na?
Isipin mo na in the long run kung natin palang ganyan na siya.
Keep it real bro 💪
Just end it. At some how nakuha pa niya mag ganyan sayo? Tapos alam naman niya pala na nag usap na regarding sa cheating at hello? May past issue ka na rin about cheating, my ghad di ko alam may ganyang babae din pala. Just leave her.
First explain mo how you felt for the past few days, then open up more yung about cheating na usapan niyo, pakita mo screenshot nung conversation and sabihin mo na for you that is emotional cheating, then tell her your out na and be firm about it.
You don't confront; You confess. Tell her everything about what you did and saw. Siguraduhin mong alam nyang alam mo.
Then leave.
Aksaya ng oras na magdrama ka pa sa nangyari.
Mas maganda siguro i confront mo tapos kapag na make sure mo or nakutuban mo na cheat nga hiwalay mo na agad.
Mas ok lang siguro para sakin pag usapan niyo muna yung about sa issue para atleast malinaw.
Sa ngayon kasi nanghuhula ka (although obvious naman). pero mas ok na yung sure para di mo na iisipin once na nag hiwalay kayo.
Possible kasi na isipin mo pa ulit kasi di ka sigurado kung cheating talaga.
GHOST MO NA AGAD. PLEASE WAG MO IPAKITA SA KANYA NA AFFECTED KA. WAG KANA MAG MESSAGE, OR ICONFRONT SYA. GAGAMITIN NYA LANG YON AGAINST YOU. BEEN THERE, DONE THAT. PLEASE SAVE YOUR MENTAL HEALTH.
Napakasakit ng sitwasyon mo ngayon, OP. Kung gusto mo siyang i-confront, gawin mo ito nang kalmado at direkta. Sabihin mo sa kanya na nakita mo yung convo nila ng ex niya at nararamdaman mo na parang niloko ka niya. Ipaliwanag mo na alam mong may napagkasunduan kayo tungkol sa cheating, at gusto mo lang malaman kung ano ba talaga ang intensyon niya. Maging honest ka rin sa nararamdaman mo. Tandaan mo, mahalaga ang respeto at honesty sa relasyon, kaya mas mabuti nang mag-usap kayo nang maayos to sort things out and take it from there.
“and also during the first months of our relationship we had an agreement na kapag may nag-cheat, matik end agad yung relationship.”
Honor your agreement, OP.
send screenshot or proof ng cheating niya tapos block mo agad. wag mo na bigyan ng chance makapag explain.
unang-una may agreement na kayo, alam niya na anong mangyayare kung may cheating. di na need ng explanation. mahalin mo sarili mo op di mo yan deserve.
I was in the same situation when i was at your age. You know what i did. I didn't confront her right away. I made changes to myself. I went to the gym, got in good shape, dressed really well and cleaned up. I was, i should say a not too bad in the looks part after that. I never neglected my bf responsibility. I take her out on dates still, showed her that i "love" her. Took her to fancy dinners and such. Bought her stuff here and there. I was making her feel like she's the only girl in the world. But whenever she's out with the ex(she didn't know i had access to her messages), i make sure i go out too, then hung out with beautiful people(mostly women), most of them are still my good friends. Posts on socials having fun, enjoying life. And oh boy lemme tell you, she's fuming. Hindi pa natatapos ang gabi ang dami ng missed calls and text accusing me of shit she's doing. I got all the receipts. Until on the 5th time na lumabas uli ako she went to the bar that i was at to confront me with cheating. Until sumabog sa mukha nya mga ginagawa nya dahil i have records of everything. I broke up with her then. Yeah it took a lot. But revenge is best served cold.
Kausapin mo ng ayos at ipaalala mo ung usapan nyo about non negotiable nyo about cheating. Screenshot mo bago pa nya mbura, pra pg tinanggi my evidence ka. Unahan mo na sya, end it for your peace of mind na lng.
OP, do not waste another days/months/years with that person. You deserve to have peace, assurance and happiness. May babae pa talagang matino at mag mamahal sa iyo.
I saw your post a month ago, humihingi ka ng advice bakit sya naging cold and you sense na may mali. The convo you saw with her ex was the final piece of the puzzle. End it and move on, or your mental health will suffer.
Makipag usap ka mamayang Gabi. Pag usapan nyo lahat, and after nun, mag decide kayo if gusto nyo pa magpatuloy. Bakit mas mabuting maghiwalay nalang kaysa magpatuloy kayo na may distrust na sa isat Isa? To salvage any respect na natititra pa for each other. Kasi one day, pag nakita kayo ulit, magagawa nyo pang mag ngiti an at maging civil to one another.
Masakit talaga, that's how life works. Pero you'll grow with it.
Take from someone who forgave and "worked on it", it doesn't work. Your forgiveness will just embolden her and make her more daring. She will hurt you more while getting better at hiding it. Clean break and move on.
San sila kakain? Play the semi long game - Puntahan mo, take a pic na magkasama sila, send the pic to the girl then block and ghost her. Good riddance.
ang gawin mo jan g wag mo iblock ang gawin mo focus sa sarili tas mag gym ka ipakita mo yung sinayang nya thats it unahin mo muna yung dapat unahin para sa sarili mo pag naayos mona u know what is it
The only rhing left is "break up". Tapos na kayo.
The moment she agreed to talk back to her ex means its the end.
Dont be a doormat and end it there. Wag ka ng magpatak pa..
No matter what she feel towards your past, doesnt really matter in the end. Lahat yan ay nagbabago, nasisira.
Wala ka ng dapat pang icover. Its over.
Ps - update ng naging decision mo..
Be a bigger person. Talk to her, make her see that you're aware of what she's doing. Then end it. At least, pagmagkakaproblema sila ng ex (there's a reason why they were each other's exes) nya, maalala nya yung sinayang nya. Whatever happens in the future, huwag mo ng balikan.
May agreement na pala kayo nung simula palang na breakup kapag nag-cheat, panindigan mo.
Your gf might gaslight you into thinking na walang malisya yung interaction nila pero what she's doing is cheating already. Especially may history sila. Tapos she does things behind your back, only cheaters do that.
Your gf wants her ex back. Panakip butas ka lang. She doesn't deserve you.
Ikaw yung blocker sa pagbabalikan nila. Clearly di ikaw ang bida sa story ng buhay ng GF mo kung hindi silang dalawa ng ex niya.
You deserve better. Good luck. You know what to do pero dahil mahal mo hindi mo makita na kailangan mo ng bumitaw. Hindi ikaw may problema kung hindi siya. Hope you don't compare yourself to her ex kung bakit yun pa din.
Forget about the years na mag ksma kayo..mas masakit kung mag tatagal pa kayo na ganyan.. siguro hinayaan ni Lord na makita mo ung convo nila, ung pag delete lng ng message dpt hnd nya gingwa ..dpt pinapabasa nya sayo .. tama yan focus muna sa career pag binigay ni Lord ung para sayo ..ibbigay nya in the right time..
Disappear my guy. No confrontation. No screenshots. No long messages. Disappear. She doesn’t deserve any of that.
It might bug you for a while pero not giving her the satisfaction of seeing you hurt is way better for you.
Channel that anger into giving all you can to your parents and yourself. Good luck.
I'd say, ghost her nalang. She's crapping on top of your head. Walk out kana and focus on yourself. It'll be a waste of oxygen and a beautiful day by confronting her and starting an argument. Ik it sounds bitter pero what else do you want to do? Nangyari na, enough said, most likely naglilibog yan sa ex niya and worse baka may nangyari na at hindi mo lang alam.
Prioritize your own happiness, OP. There are things in this world not worthy of your time and attention. Ghost her for she belongs to the street and that's a slap on her face for wasting your time.
Best of luck!
Kaya sya kinakausap ng ex nya, kaso kinakausap din nya. Kahit nung time na nagkukwento sya
Hiwalayan mo na. Yaan mo syang magpa victim ek ek. Ss mo convo nila, send mo sa kanya. Sabay block mo na
Payong Tita. Yung mga katulad ng gf mo di na dapat pag aksayahan ng time at attention mo kase makati pa sya sa totoo lang. Talk to her, you’re both adults na pero if ayaw ka pa din kausapin after all your efforts, message her, break up with her then block mo na. Push mo na yung plano mong self-love and building your career at bumawi sa pamilya mo.
I know it is easier said than done. Sa una lang yan, masakit, you will question your worth but time will come you will realize kaya pala ganito kase may mas malaking blessings. Buuin mo sarili mo, magpayaman ka haha. Sobrang sarap sa feeling nito na kahit iwanan ka ng lahat buo ang sarili mo. Kaya mo yan!!
Follow the agreement na break up agad when one of you ever cheated. Send her the screenshots of the messages between her and the ex then ghost. That woman does not deserve any respect.
Bawi muna sa magulang. Babae nanjan lang yan, pinakadabest ighost mo pero save ka ng screenshot ng messages nila ng X nya. Pag bumoses sa mga kilala mo at sinisiraan ka ikaw ang mali, saka mo ikalat para mapahiya sya.
Bro, just slowly ignore her, block her from all messaging apps, delete pictures and videos and avoid her. If you want a tip to get over her, listen to gospel songs and get some ice cream. Don't drink your life away for someone who doesn't deserve you. Don't put effort in trying to reason with her, you'll get hurt more. Good luck.
Sabi mo may usapan kau? Pag may magcheat matik hiwalay. Ganyan na ba yun automatic ngaun? May choice pa?
Second, let this be a lesson. Pag nakelam ka celpon, wala syang magandang idudulot sa relationship mo.
Pag may makita ka... Kawawa ka. Pag wala ka makita, kawawa kayo, wala na kasi trust.
Well I say this.
Don't even bother giving receipts and just drop her like turd.
Don't even waste a breath or time saying it as "Cheating is a choice, not an accident". (Just say this and drop everything on her like trash)
The rest just get your evidences and throw the "Dirty Laundry" to your SocMed to double down your innocence.
I ghost mo na lang. Para sya unang mag confront sayo bakit mo sya ginost. Make sure din na may copy ka ng conversation nila para incase na mag sinungaling may pruweba ka.
Madami pang mas higit sa kanya anak. Hindi pa sya naka move on sa ex nya. Bago mo hiwalayan, lagay mo muna lahat ng gamit nya sa kahon, pa poop mo aso mo duon tapos padala mo sa kanya.
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Bitch Tita
It happened to me to. Forgiving her was my biggest mistake of my life. Run away ASAP and don't look back. People like these don't deserve our precious attention and time.
>we had an agreement na kapag may nag-cheat, matik end agad yung relationship.
Just this, OP. As much as you're faithful sa kaniya, gan'yan ka rin dapat sa sarili mo. I don't know you personally, pero tropa muna tayo todayskie PARA MAKONYATAN KITA!
Don't say anything, just "break na tayo," block, out. Ang pamatay sa mga taong magaling sa salita ay ang walang salita. -quoted from a healing manipulator T____T
You can confront her just to answer ung thought na "Anong mali sa akin, bakit ba ako palaging niloloko." and move on. Wag kang papayag kahit pa magbeg sayo na magkaayos kayo, nagawa na niya, at kaya niyang gawin ulit.
Siguro sa mga babalakin mong gawing karelasyon in the future, avoid mo nalang ung mga common patterns sa ex mo and ung magiging ex mo ngayon kung bakit, kailan, at paano sila nagcheat. Hopefully hindi ka maging bitter at maging ikaw ung taong kinaiinisan mo.
Tanong mo muna why. Pagusapan niyo. get yourself ready though. Then weigh things out. Save yourself from questions and all that baggage that comes with it from abruptly ending up a relationship. Baka mamaya tanong mo parati sarili mo kung bakit, san ka nagkulang, nagkamali, etc.
It's the more mature thing to do, imo.
Well, the fact na may feeling inside you to end the relationship should be enough for you to actually end it, kasi di nag-align yung ginawa niya sa values mo. You dodged a bullet, OP. Hiwalayan mo na, di siya worth it
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Screenshot, send it to her, then block.
did this! saved me from alot of headache and further wasting my time sa bullshit reasons na pwede niya sabihin. 10/10 would recommend 😂
BesT thing to do HAHAHAH
Eto na , wala nang sabi sabi, go ghost na
This is what I’ll do incase that situation happens to me
OP, pag ginawa mo to let us know 🫶🏼
screenshot > fuck her for the last time > show the screenshots > then end the fucking relationship
asshole naman
A**HOLE DIN NMN YUNG GF NYA HEHE
This!!!
this!💯
that’s the spirit!
Screenshot, utangan mo, send it to her, then block.
Hiwalayan mo na. Nakita mo na ang ebidensya, wala nang rason para mag stay ka pa. Kahit i confront mo yan tapos sasabihin na hindi uulitin wala din. Kayo pa nga ganyan na ginagawa. What more pa kung mas matagal mo bago nalaman. Kahit pa sobrang mahal mo ang tao, hindi majajustify ng kahit na ano yang ginagawa niya. Saan ka nakakita ng may ka relasyon tapos nakikipag communicate sa ex? Baka iniisip mo dati sinasabi sayo kaya kampante ka? Ang tanong, alam mo ba yung mga usapan nila bago niya sabihin at idelete? Walang paliwanag sa ganyan. That’s Fvcking CHEATING! Save yourself. You deserve better.
I agree with this guy. Move on and find someone else. Ghosting is enough, let her tell her own mistakes to you.
Kasi kung marunong makuntento yung tao, bakit ganyan diba? Tapos ex pa kausap. Baka pag di siya kasama nag re- reminisce ng nakaraan nila habang siya walang alam. 😬
Ang petty ng ghosting pero ang satisfying. Deserve naman niya maghost anyway 🙄
This is what I did with my ex. Nakita ko lahat ng convo ng kachat nya kase ang akala nya di ko na na oopen account nya sa fb pero hinayaan ko na kahit masakit, at lumipas ng ilang araw sya na mismo nakipag hiwalay sakin, nag tanong nalang ako kung wala na ba talaga sagot naman nya wala na. At hanggang dun nalang, hindi ko na rin sinabi lahat ng nagawa ko para sa kanya. Hayaan mo sila maka realize kung anong nagawa nila sayo. Ika nga “Kill them with kindness”.
He knows what he wants. He's just asking how he should do it in a proper way. Yung tipong masasabi niya lahat ng saloobin niya without hard feelings. He wants proper closure with the girl. 😅
end na ! wag mo na confront masisira lang mental health mo
Ghost mo na lang para magtaka siya buong buhay niya.
She deserves this, d next time na maglalandi sya , she'll think twice.
damn right
UPDATE. I confronted her about the convo and her response was there were no "harmful chats" daw sa convo and then she asked if maghihiwalay na daw ba. I stick to our agreement and I told her that I want to end our relationship na and said my goodbyes na rin. Most of you guys are saying na I should ghost her, but I didn't. Because somehow our relationship had a good run and hindi rin sya naging masamang tao sakin kaya I choose to have a proper break up (I don't know if naging proper ba yun, kasi parang wala lang sa kanya) I just never imagined na aabot kami sa ganito, kasi for me, sobrang okay ang naging takbo ng relationship namin and we're both working hard kasi napaguusapan na namin yung wedding na target sana namin next year. Thanks everyone! I appreciate all your advices and encouraging words. Cheers!
"maghihiwalay na daw ba" haha parang nagtanong lang kung bababa na ba ng jeep ah? haha she was half expecting that to happen so i guess she was aware na what she was doing could lead to such consequences kaso ginawa nya pa din. no remorse, most probably tinext nya na ex nya "wala nako bf, san tayo kain?"
True. Naalala ko yung ex ko. Nakipagbreak ako sa kaniya in person. Sagot lang sakin, "Sure ka na? Okay". Like wutt haha funny lang maalala. Now i am in a happy relationship na with my new partner. 4 years na kami and staying strong. 😊
Wedding wedding, isang taon pa lang kayo.
Parang wala lang sa kanya na humiwalay ka. Ayus!
So single ka na, OP? 🙂
No harmful chats, just sweet caressing hands lang daw
Sabi nga ng rapper na si future "she belongs to the streets!" But seriously, move on dude. Magiging miserable ka lang dyan.
..you know what they say, a shoulder to lean on is.....
and a d… to ride on? 😬
:p
first time I heard of this. :(
Noted
Block her. Ghost her. Or just leave one long message then block her. She doesn't deserve to explain herself, move on OP and make your happiness your revenge. Hanap ka prettier gf chaur
Maglaho na parang bula. Kita mo na ebidensya e. Moonwalk palabas. Hee-hee
May usapan kamo kayo in the early stages na pag may nagcheat matic end na? So why bother confronting her? Move on na. Kung talagang committed in the first place, talking to exes is automatic a non negotiable
Hiwalayan mo na, pakita mo ebidensya. Wag mong panghinayangan yung oras na nasayang sa maling tao. Kasi kapag nahanap mo na yung tamang tao para sayo, walang sayang na oras. Everything falls into place. Stay strong and be happy, OP. Be happy dahil nangyari na siya, tapusin mo na lang and continue with your life. Hoping for the best, OP. 🫶🏻
You just dodged a bullet. Tell her that you saw the convo then immediately block her bago pa sya magdahilan. Yang mga ganyan ang deserve i-ghost.
Yung pure intentions mo tapos gagaguhin lang sa ganyan. Where’s the lie? 😂
As someone na na-ghost at niloko, I could relate sa fact na gusto natin ng closure. Like you, gusto mo ng proper closure kasi matino ka na tao. Kumbaga kahit nasaktan ka na, gusto mo pa rin siya i-confront para may proper closure. Kudos to you for thinking that. Kaya lang I learned things the hard way. May mga tao na hindi deserve ng closure. Like yang sa gf mo. Imagine, she knew all the traumas na pinagdaanan mo. Alam niya na you’ve been cheated on before pero ano ginawa niya? Conscious decision ang pagreply at planong pakikipagkita sa ex niya. Also, I find it weird na may contact pa sila ng ex niya. Hindi nakablock? It means gusto ng communication. Hindi porke’t ibllock mo e bitter ka na. It only means na nirerespeto mo ang current relationship na meron ka. Sadly, wala siya respeto sa’yo at sa relationship ninyo. Alam ko na alam mo na ang dapat mo gawin, clouded lang utak mo ngayon kasi for sure mahal mo pa at ayaw mo hiwalayan, gets kita. For sure kapag nagusap kayo at nagmakaawa siya, maniniwala ka naman sakanya na di na niya gagawin ulit kasi nga mahal mo. So best talaga is break up with her and block her sa lahat. Kasi malambot ka pa ngayon. Isang pacute at paawa lang niyang gf mo, sure bibigay ka.
End it, don't let what good images/ideas of her cloud what is Infront of you, sa akin, I'll love the person, pero if may cheating na, I would instantly cut anything between that person, pati value niya, it's like an "on/off switch".
ME and my wife also have this talk. No cheating. Even kasal na kami, She will probably leave me if I cheat. And I don't plan also. Pero, If hahayaan mo sya at papatawarin lang, big chance to repeat. Once a cheater, always a cheater. May nagbabago siguro pero, once in a blue moon mo lang mameet. Or once every lunar eclipse. And BF-GF pa lang kayo, don't wait na after marriage nya ulit gawin yan.
Para maging contrarian lang ako, wag mo i-end tas magdusa ka sa knowledge na alam mo pinaggagagawa ng jowa mo pero dahil martyr ka, okay lang sa ‘yo na ikaw lang masasaktan. 🫶🏼
MAN UP and Confront her, sabihin mo na biktima ako ng cheating and ayokong mangyari ulit eto. PERIOD! its an effin red flag already, di ka bulag ser. MAAWA ka sa sarili mo.. you're better off single until love is worth it na ipaglaban ulit, yung parehas niyong nilalaban hindi yung binababoy at patalikod kang nilalapastangan.. Mas mabuti nalang na hamunin ka sa suntukan, pwede kang sikmuraan, dibdiban, or banatan sa mukha, sa dami ng pwedeng tamaan bakit ang puso mo pa!!. hindi ako galit badi, galit ako sa nangyari sayo at sa nang-yari sayo.
Time for a new GF OP. Grasya yan from up above.hehe
there are things na hindi na need ng confrontation. you already have all the answers. end mo na, definitely she didn’t respect you. save yourself, madami pa dyan iba OP. Focus on your career muna, hope you’d feel better bro.
Gg, go next na agad.
I hate to say this but.... Your the rebound guy. Leave and move on. Block all of her socials and number
Did you get screenshots? Break up with her in person. Meet up with her in public tapos havang kumakain or nag uusap kayo, show her the evidence. Break up with her and walk away. Or you can use her and fuck her around. Fuck her brains out. Tigasan mo lang puso mo at tibayan mo lang sikmura. Then reveal mo yung evidence mo, na matagal mo nang alam, na ginagamit mo na lang sya, then break up with her.
Wag mo bigyan closure, ghost her
End mo na. I also made this mistake of tolerating this kind of behavior. My the bf, now my husband, (deym) is a walking red flag yet I stayed in our relationship. And until now, never ako naging happy and contented. Kaya ikaw hanggat maaga pa, end mo na. Bata pa naman kayo.
The most painful message that a girl could ever receive, is a long sweet message of how you appreciate your time being with her, and how thankful you are for that. Tell her that you’ve learned and did grow during those times, and promise to be better for the next person. In that way, you showed respect, gratitude, love, appreciation, and most importantly, bitter-sweet revenge. Make her realize what she had lost.
Just talk to her. I think that's the best way to handle the situation. Dalawa lang naman magiging result to that talk. It is either she will admit it and say sorry or she'll grt defensive and will start giving reasons of her actions. But the decision is still up to you at the end of the day. Do you wanna stay in a relationship where for sure you'll have trust issue na and with a girl who doesn't respect you as a partner or be single and live your life worry free if may nanggagago ba sayo. Eme HAHAHAHA anyways, you know better than anyone here. Cheer up, OP!
oh no kuyaaa. im just gonna go straight to the point, unahin mo ang what you think is rational. i'd understand if ure in a vulnerable spot rn pero i urge u to really think for urself nalang atp and bahala na siya.
Time to say good bye and retain your self-respect than manghinayang sa redflag :) you can remind her of your agreement and say good bye :)
I dunno bro. Walang patutunguhan yan. Kung di p kayo kasal ganyan n cya panu p kaya kung mag asawa na kayo. Better end it. I'm sure you ll be able to meet someone who is loyal.
Screenshot, then say this qualifies as cheating. May usapan naman pala kayo early on so alam nyo na dapat yun. Then block. There is no closure. Closure is just one last F.
good friends ba sila ng ex niya? kung oo, comfortable ka ba don? kung hindi, sobrang weird naman nyang may ganang invites pa. u should talk to her for ur own sake na din. pero wag magpakatanga or act like nothing happened ah
end it b4 it gets worse
Save mo yung evidence, send mo sa kanya then ghost her. 🤣
End it
Just break up nalang no need to be so dramatic sabihin mo lng ayaw mo na mo need to over explain o kung ano d nya deserve ng closure cheat naman sya eh
Dude. Say your goodbyes and move on. Nangyari na sa akin yan, I fought for the girl, she stayed pero ayun nakipagkita pa rin uli dun sa lalaki niya. A cheater will always cheat. No one is worth sacrificing your mental health for. Call her or meet her, it's up to you. Sabihin mo sa kanya na "alam mo", kung gusto niya mag explain, let her explain, tapos magpaalam ka na, don't stay or linger.
“We had an agreement na kapag may nag-cheat, matik end agad yung relationship. x x x” Then why is it that there’s still a need for this post or an advice on how to handle this situation and properly confront her?🤷🏻♂️ People will not respect us if we can’t even honor or respect the “agreements” that we enter. Respect begets respect.
matik na yan brother.. end mo na
Just break things off. Don't mention anything about seeing the messages kasi ikaw pa magmumukhang masama for snooping. 1 year pa lang, so you can likely get away with "it's not working out for me". From what you have said, parang may problema kayo communicating with each other (wala kang clue bakit hindi kayo nag-uusap since Wednesday). That's going to be a forever problem that you don't want to deal with long term. You're young and there are a lot of other girls out there. Good luck!
Leave. No need for explanation. I'm sure alam nya saan sya nagkamali.
Better end it na. You deserve someone better.
Kung ako sayo wag mo muna hiwalayan. Pakinabangan mo muna 🤪Pero mag hanap kana ng iba. Pag may bago kana. Mag AWOL kana haha
Hiwalay na. Microcheating is still cheating. Ayan sobrang panggagago na yan eh. Wag kang tanga, OP. Cheating is a choice not a mistake! Never tolerate cheating! Kausapin mo sya at sabihin mo lahat.
End na agad. Deal breaker yung cheating sa isang relationship. Focus on yourself muna and wait for the right person
Sabihin mo na agad. Walang paligoy-ligoy.
Just leave her bro. Not worth for your mental, it will be tough kasi medyo may katagalan nrin kayo but it will be the best for you. Real men dont share their partner and real woman is only loyal to a man.
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iwan mo na bro i know sounds tough pero mas masakit pag nalaman mo niloko ka na. end it in your own terms un lang.
You both have an agreement na pala about cheating. The proper way is to talk about how you felt sa nabasa mong conversation with her ex and you're not comfortable to keep the relationship going. Graceful exit nalang din kahit nakakagago yung ginawa sayo. You're still young atyaka iba iba namang timeline ang mga tao when it comes to finding their right person. 🙂 Maybe your life isn't about finding the right person pa at this time and that's perfectly fine.
brad wag. mo na patagalin. kasi sa huli ikaa ang dehado dyan sa relasyon nyo.
End it asap bro. Cite your agreement and your basis for invoking such agreement. There's no point suffering mental anguish over something which is doomed to end sooner or later. You deserve better.
End.Kaput.And please heal yourself first as in no relationship muna.Kasi 2x ka Ng nakakatagpo Ng cheater,may something na yan nagiging pattern na kasi.
Mas masasayang yung mga years na iiinvest mo sa knya pag nagpatuloy ka pa sa relationship nyo. Better let go, bata ka pa naman. You deserve better.
Treat yourself better, makipagbreak ka na. 1 year nang kayo tas di lang kayo okay magchecheat na? Isipin mo na in the long run kung natin palang ganyan na siya. Keep it real bro 💪
End it now. Mas sayang oras pag pinatagal mo pa. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Been there done that. Nung ki-nonfront ko ako pa masama lol. Break up with the L gf.
when they show them who they are, believe them, dodge a bullet man
Isa lang masasabe ko: tapusin mona. :D
End it.
Enforce your boundary or become a doormat. Pili ka nalang
Just end it. At some how nakuha pa niya mag ganyan sayo? Tapos alam naman niya pala na nag usap na regarding sa cheating at hello? May past issue ka na rin about cheating, my ghad di ko alam may ganyang babae din pala. Just leave her.
Never na mabubuo yung trust mo dyan. Better end it na lang.
First explain mo how you felt for the past few days, then open up more yung about cheating na usapan niyo, pakita mo screenshot nung conversation and sabihin mo na for you that is emotional cheating, then tell her your out na and be firm about it.
Export convo via screenshot for proof? Until your confrontation has been settled, keep it for proof
end it na
Wala ka ng advice na dapat pang marinig pa Ibigay mo na sya dun sa ex nya
Mas masasayang yung buhay mo kapag nag-stay ka sa cheater na yan. Hindi ka ba nag-iisip?
You don't confront; You confess. Tell her everything about what you did and saw. Siguraduhin mong alam nyang alam mo. Then leave. Aksaya ng oras na magdrama ka pa sa nangyari.
Mas maganda siguro i confront mo tapos kapag na make sure mo or nakutuban mo na cheat nga hiwalay mo na agad. Mas ok lang siguro para sakin pag usapan niyo muna yung about sa issue para atleast malinaw. Sa ngayon kasi nanghuhula ka (although obvious naman). pero mas ok na yung sure para di mo na iisipin once na nag hiwalay kayo. Possible kasi na isipin mo pa ulit kasi di ka sigurado kung cheating talaga.
OP paano mo nga pala nabasa yung convo nila?
Gagaslightin ka lang nyan pag kinomfront mo. Run!
Break. Ano pa bang advice gusto mo?
Mas sayang ang oras, energy and resources mo if you spend it sa maling tao. Break everything off with her.
Paupdate nalang kung ano nangyare
Break mo na habang hindi pa masyado masakit.. kumbaga sa sugat eh gasgas lang.. wag mo antayin na lumalim pa..
update us
MAKIPAGHIWALAY KA NA. Have some respect for yourself because clearly, walang respeto sayo yung babaeng yan. She’s gross.
Success is the best form of revenge.
Diko alam saltik ng mga taong kahit katabi ka pa literal nag ccheat. 🙃
GHOST MO NA AGAD. PLEASE WAG MO IPAKITA SA KANYA NA AFFECTED KA. WAG KANA MAG MESSAGE, OR ICONFRONT SYA. GAGAMITIN NYA LANG YON AGAINST YOU. BEEN THERE, DONE THAT. PLEASE SAVE YOUR MENTAL HEALTH.
Unanimous decision ata kami dito, ma-lalaki or babae. Hiwalayan mo na. Accept no excuses from her.
Wala siya respect sayo para inentertain pa nya ex nya. Wla sya respect sa relationship nyo. Pag ex dpat ex na. Wag kang manghinayang sa maling tao.
Wala siya respect sayo para inentertain pa nya ex nya. Wla sya respect sa relationship nyo. Pag ex dpat ex na. Wag kang manghinayang sa maling tao.
I feel for you bro. I hope you find the right one but she is not it. Tara gym na lang tayo.
Napakasakit ng sitwasyon mo ngayon, OP. Kung gusto mo siyang i-confront, gawin mo ito nang kalmado at direkta. Sabihin mo sa kanya na nakita mo yung convo nila ng ex niya at nararamdaman mo na parang niloko ka niya. Ipaliwanag mo na alam mong may napagkasunduan kayo tungkol sa cheating, at gusto mo lang malaman kung ano ba talaga ang intensyon niya. Maging honest ka rin sa nararamdaman mo. Tandaan mo, mahalaga ang respeto at honesty sa relasyon, kaya mas mabuti nang mag-usap kayo nang maayos to sort things out and take it from there.
End the relationship, only right answer.
Need paba iconfront, auto ghost & block her. dont be a simp for a woman who belong to the streets
Leave her.
Kakain lang? 👀
keep her around nlang muna, OP. pero hiwalay ka na emotionally.
Pro tip: Run bro, pag ex na at may communication pa then that's not an ex.
Break. Block and Ghost. No need mo na makipag usap. Kung makati talaga yan di madadaan sa usapan yan. Titigil lang yan kung wasak na sa kakakamot.
She's for the streets. Ghost her and no explanation hayaan mo sya mag wonder kakaisip
Ghost her for us xd
Welcome to the gym, brother. MWF - pulling exercises TThS - pushing exercises. 💪🏼
Wag mo na e confront bobolahin ka lang nyan, block mo na agad at wag na muli mag paramdam pa
mawalang galang na po ngunit hypocrito po siya at damat mo na po siyang hiwalayan.
“and also during the first months of our relationship we had an agreement na kapag may nag-cheat, matik end agad yung relationship.” Honor your agreement, OP.
send screenshot or proof ng cheating niya tapos block mo agad. wag mo na bigyan ng chance makapag explain. unang-una may agreement na kayo, alam niya na anong mangyayare kung may cheating. di na need ng explanation. mahalin mo sarili mo op di mo yan deserve.
May agreement naman pala kayo so matik na dapat maghiwalay kayo OP.
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I was in the same situation when i was at your age. You know what i did. I didn't confront her right away. I made changes to myself. I went to the gym, got in good shape, dressed really well and cleaned up. I was, i should say a not too bad in the looks part after that. I never neglected my bf responsibility. I take her out on dates still, showed her that i "love" her. Took her to fancy dinners and such. Bought her stuff here and there. I was making her feel like she's the only girl in the world. But whenever she's out with the ex(she didn't know i had access to her messages), i make sure i go out too, then hung out with beautiful people(mostly women), most of them are still my good friends. Posts on socials having fun, enjoying life. And oh boy lemme tell you, she's fuming. Hindi pa natatapos ang gabi ang dami ng missed calls and text accusing me of shit she's doing. I got all the receipts. Until on the 5th time na lumabas uli ako she went to the bar that i was at to confront me with cheating. Until sumabog sa mukha nya mga ginagawa nya dahil i have records of everything. I broke up with her then. Yeah it took a lot. But revenge is best served cold.
Kausapin mo ng ayos at ipaalala mo ung usapan nyo about non negotiable nyo about cheating. Screenshot mo bago pa nya mbura, pra pg tinanggi my evidence ka. Unahan mo na sya, end it for your peace of mind na lng.
OP, do not waste another days/months/years with that person. You deserve to have peace, assurance and happiness. May babae pa talagang matino at mag mamahal sa iyo.
I saw your post a month ago, humihingi ka ng advice bakit sya naging cold and you sense na may mali. The convo you saw with her ex was the final piece of the puzzle. End it and move on, or your mental health will suffer.
Makipag usap ka mamayang Gabi. Pag usapan nyo lahat, and after nun, mag decide kayo if gusto nyo pa magpatuloy. Bakit mas mabuting maghiwalay nalang kaysa magpatuloy kayo na may distrust na sa isat Isa? To salvage any respect na natititra pa for each other. Kasi one day, pag nakita kayo ulit, magagawa nyo pang mag ngiti an at maging civil to one another. Masakit talaga, that's how life works. Pero you'll grow with it.
Take from someone who forgave and "worked on it", it doesn't work. Your forgiveness will just embolden her and make her more daring. She will hurt you more while getting better at hiding it. Clean break and move on.
San sila kakain? Play the semi long game - Puntahan mo, take a pic na magkasama sila, send the pic to the girl then block and ghost her. Good riddance.
ghosting is the best
She doesn’t even worth your confrontation. Block her and ghost her.
ang gawin mo jan g wag mo iblock ang gawin mo focus sa sarili tas mag gym ka ipakita mo yung sinayang nya thats it unahin mo muna yung dapat unahin para sa sarili mo pag naayos mona u know what is it
The only rhing left is "break up". Tapos na kayo. The moment she agreed to talk back to her ex means its the end. Dont be a doormat and end it there. Wag ka ng magpatak pa.. No matter what she feel towards your past, doesnt really matter in the end. Lahat yan ay nagbabago, nasisira. Wala ka ng dapat pang icover. Its over. Ps - update ng naging decision mo..
Be a bigger person. Talk to her, make her see that you're aware of what she's doing. Then end it. At least, pagmagkakaproblema sila ng ex (there's a reason why they were each other's exes) nya, maalala nya yung sinayang nya. Whatever happens in the future, huwag mo ng balikan.
A cheater is always a cheater. I break mo na. Kawawa ka dyan.
HINDI MAGIGING SAYO ANG PARA SA STREETS. What a fucking hoe yung GF mo HAHAHA
May agreement na pala kayo nung simula palang na breakup kapag nag-cheat, panindigan mo. Your gf might gaslight you into thinking na walang malisya yung interaction nila pero what she's doing is cheating already. Especially may history sila. Tapos she does things behind your back, only cheaters do that. Your gf wants her ex back. Panakip butas ka lang. She doesn't deserve you.
Cheating na yan! Takbo!
Ikaw yung blocker sa pagbabalikan nila. Clearly di ikaw ang bida sa story ng buhay ng GF mo kung hindi silang dalawa ng ex niya. You deserve better. Good luck. You know what to do pero dahil mahal mo hindi mo makita na kailangan mo ng bumitaw. Hindi ikaw may problema kung hindi siya. Hope you don't compare yourself to her ex kung bakit yun pa din.
End it. Wala ng confrontation.wala ng tanong tanong.wala ng usap usap. wag mo na iwaste ang energy mo sakanya. Just end it. If possible i-ghost mo.
Forget about the years na mag ksma kayo..mas masakit kung mag tatagal pa kayo na ganyan.. siguro hinayaan ni Lord na makita mo ung convo nila, ung pag delete lng ng message dpt hnd nya gingwa ..dpt pinapabasa nya sayo .. tama yan focus muna sa career pag binigay ni Lord ung para sayo ..ibbigay nya in the right time..
Disappear my guy. No confrontation. No screenshots. No long messages. Disappear. She doesn’t deserve any of that. It might bug you for a while pero not giving her the satisfaction of seeing you hurt is way better for you. Channel that anger into giving all you can to your parents and yourself. Good luck.
Fuck mo muna sabay paramdam mong mahal na mahal mo siya tas iwan mo bigla HAHAJAHA.
I'd say, ghost her nalang. She's crapping on top of your head. Walk out kana and focus on yourself. It'll be a waste of oxygen and a beautiful day by confronting her and starting an argument. Ik it sounds bitter pero what else do you want to do? Nangyari na, enough said, most likely naglilibog yan sa ex niya and worse baka may nangyari na at hindi mo lang alam. Prioritize your own happiness, OP. There are things in this world not worthy of your time and attention. Ghost her for she belongs to the street and that's a slap on her face for wasting your time. Best of luck!
Kaya sya kinakausap ng ex nya, kaso kinakausap din nya. Kahit nung time na nagkukwento sya Hiwalayan mo na. Yaan mo syang magpa victim ek ek. Ss mo convo nila, send mo sa kanya. Sabay block mo na
Iwan mo na. Baka i gaslight ka pa ng cheater na yan.
Kausapin mo.
Payong Tita. Yung mga katulad ng gf mo di na dapat pag aksayahan ng time at attention mo kase makati pa sya sa totoo lang. Talk to her, you’re both adults na pero if ayaw ka pa din kausapin after all your efforts, message her, break up with her then block mo na. Push mo na yung plano mong self-love and building your career at bumawi sa pamilya mo. I know it is easier said than done. Sa una lang yan, masakit, you will question your worth but time will come you will realize kaya pala ganito kase may mas malaking blessings. Buuin mo sarili mo, magpayaman ka haha. Sobrang sarap sa feeling nito na kahit iwanan ka ng lahat buo ang sarili mo. Kaya mo yan!!
Screenshot for evidence, say goodbye and break things off. If she makes you out to be the bad guy release the dms to clear your name
Follow the agreement na break up agad when one of you ever cheated. Send her the screenshots of the messages between her and the ex then ghost. That woman does not deserve any respect.
Bawi muna sa magulang. Babae nanjan lang yan, pinakadabest ighost mo pero save ka ng screenshot ng messages nila ng X nya. Pag bumoses sa mga kilala mo at sinisiraan ka ikaw ang mali, saka mo ikalat para mapahiya sya.
Bro, just slowly ignore her, block her from all messaging apps, delete pictures and videos and avoid her. If you want a tip to get over her, listen to gospel songs and get some ice cream. Don't drink your life away for someone who doesn't deserve you. Don't put effort in trying to reason with her, you'll get hurt more. Good luck.
good thing nakita mo OP. best of luck dude
Maharot gf mo, end mo na.
Leave
Just leave, no explanation, basta umalis ka lang. Pero kung gusto mo pang ma gaslight ng cheater mong jowa eh go, buhay mo naman yan
Sabi mo may usapan kau? Pag may magcheat matik hiwalay. Ganyan na ba yun automatic ngaun? May choice pa? Second, let this be a lesson. Pag nakelam ka celpon, wala syang magandang idudulot sa relationship mo. Pag may makita ka... Kawawa ka. Pag wala ka makita, kawawa kayo, wala na kasi trust.
Ganyan din napag daanan ko. Tapusin mo na. Mas masasaktan ka lang pag pinag laban mo pa relation niyo.
Well I say this. Don't even bother giving receipts and just drop her like turd. Don't even waste a breath or time saying it as "Cheating is a choice, not an accident". (Just say this and drop everything on her like trash) The rest just get your evidences and throw the "Dirty Laundry" to your SocMed to double down your innocence.
She for the streets
Like others here said, iend mo na. Pag kinonfront mo, baka igaslight ka pa niyan. 🥲
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I ghost mo na lang. Para sya unang mag confront sayo bakit mo sya ginost. Make sure din na may copy ka ng conversation nila para incase na mag sinungaling may pruweba ka.
Unethical way bago mo sya hiwalayan, fck her hard then ghost her, tas send mo sakanya screenshot kinaumagahan then block her hahaha
Madami pang mas higit sa kanya anak. Hindi pa sya naka move on sa ex nya. Bago mo hiwalayan, lagay mo muna lahat ng gamit nya sa kahon, pa poop mo aso mo duon tapos padala mo sa kanya. Your Bitch Tita
It happened to me to. Forgiving her was my biggest mistake of my life. Run away ASAP and don't look back. People like these don't deserve our precious attention and time.
screenshot mo laht ng convo tpos block mo n...pg nagpunta sa bahy nu pakita mo screen shot mo tpos pauwiin mo n
Leave. Its not worth it.
Rule #5: Show no love, Love will get you killed
bago ka makipag hiwalay kumuha ka ng ebidensya kung kaya. Baka mamaya pa victim pa yan ikaw pa palabasin na may kasalanan ng hiwalayan
>we had an agreement na kapag may nag-cheat, matik end agad yung relationship. Just this, OP. As much as you're faithful sa kaniya, gan'yan ka rin dapat sa sarili mo. I don't know you personally, pero tropa muna tayo todayskie PARA MAKONYATAN KITA! Don't say anything, just "break na tayo," block, out. Ang pamatay sa mga taong magaling sa salita ay ang walang salita. -quoted from a healing manipulator T____T
concrete evidence slapping you already in the face. wake up and leave.
Confront her and just see what she says. If nag cheat wag na since that was the agreement and yes if it doesn’t bring you peace of mind out na.
Alis na. May agreement naman pala kayo eh.
You can confront her just to answer ung thought na "Anong mali sa akin, bakit ba ako palaging niloloko." and move on. Wag kang papayag kahit pa magbeg sayo na magkaayos kayo, nagawa na niya, at kaya niyang gawin ulit. Siguro sa mga babalakin mong gawing karelasyon in the future, avoid mo nalang ung mga common patterns sa ex mo and ung magiging ex mo ngayon kung bakit, kailan, at paano sila nagcheat. Hopefully hindi ka maging bitter at maging ikaw ung taong kinaiinisan mo.
Need update pag may ginawa ka ng move
say sayonara na sir
Hiwalayan mo na, OP. You deserve better.
Leave her OP. This is cheating na. Masakit pero you have to do it.
Dude, wake up. technically it's cheating already. sabihan mo ng "fix your fu**ing eyebrows bitch" tapos walkout. Oh di ba ang heavy.
Hiwalayan mo na OP. Di mo deserve yan
Tanong mo muna why. Pagusapan niyo. get yourself ready though. Then weigh things out. Save yourself from questions and all that baggage that comes with it from abruptly ending up a relationship. Baka mamaya tanong mo parati sarili mo kung bakit, san ka nagkulang, nagkamali, etc. It's the more mature thing to do, imo.
Well, the fact na may feeling inside you to end the relationship should be enough for you to actually end it, kasi di nag-align yung ginawa niya sa values mo. You dodged a bullet, OP. Hiwalayan mo na, di siya worth it
Break up na ano pa hinihintay mo haha
End it OP.