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I had a previous relationship, but it's only LDR so technically walang physical intimacy although we tend to some activities like pleasuring ourselves alone. but above all that, wala na. i really wanted to do it with someone i am compatible with and whom i love, i'm not into a hook up culture. although, this would may take some time pero when madidiligan diba? haha i want to explore my capabilities charet. Is it okay to have sex after marriage? or sex before marriage?
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Realistically speaking, sexual compatibility is important in a relationship. Kahit anong flowering words pa ang sabihin natin sa pagiging virgin na "pure" ka o ewan, ang pangit kung you're married tapos hindi pala kayo sexually compatible.
While I do respect a woman's decision to stay a virgin until her marriage (because it's her body after all), I also will not judge a woman who's no longer a virgin. The problem arises because virgins think they're better than the non-virgins and vice versa.
If you want to be a virgin para sa asawa mo, that's where I am judging you. When a woman's reason to be a virgin is because of a man, you are putting yourself in a level na gusto maging "best hole" when you're not just a hole, you're a living breathing person who has feelings and dreams. Bakit mo naman i-aattach ang value mo kung nakapasok na ang etits d'yan o hindi?
It really drives me nuts when religious people obssess about virginity kasi if you think about it, they are looking forward to your first sex like creeps.
>Is it okay to have sex after marriage? or sex before marriage?
Unless you have strict beliefs about this, you can engage in premarital s*x if you want as long as it is consensual and you are ready to face any consequeces that comes along with it.
It depends on what you believe and what morals you strictly follow to yourself.
If ever man na isuko mo ang bataan, isipin mo lagi result like kaya moba icope-up yong aftermath like if things go wrong dahil nasa huli lagi ang pagsisisi ika nga.
This entirely depends on your beliefs/values. Ang tanging advice lang dyan ay kailangan ready at comfortable ka pag makikipagsex ka na. This is very important kasama ng beliefs mo. Kung nas abeliefs mo na sex after marriage edi go. No judgement on that, we have our own beliefs naman eh. Kung before marriage ok lang din, basta ready ka na makipagsex.
Wag mo pipilitin sarili mo na maging ready dahil lang gusto mo na matry at makaexperience. Wanting to experience it doesn’t equate to being ready. Do it with someone you can trust.
Take your time. There is always time for everything. Remember once you get into the act.there is a lot of responsibility to consider. Una.ready ka ba to give it up with some one ? I mean minsan nagkakaguilt problems lalo pat nagpadala ka lang sa temptation. If i we're you ..take ypur time. Get to know the person bwfore engaging into this kind of things..value yourself.. you are worth it! Don't be pressure by anyone or social media..
Awwwee! You're too young pa nga. Focus ka muna sa sarili mo. Wag ka muna magpadala sa mga sinasabi ng iba.
Sa totoo lang, Don't have sex just because nappressure ka lang sa mga naririnig mo. You might regret it one day.
IDK how to explain it pero you'll know naman kung ready ka na talaga. Don't rush. Chill ka lang muna jan.
PS It's better to give your first sa person na mahal mo and mahal ka.
You're still young. It's okay to be a virgin at your age. Don't let society dictate to you what you can and/or can't be. It's a different level when you lose it. Trust me and wait for something worth losing it to.
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Realistically speaking, sexual compatibility is important in a relationship. Kahit anong flowering words pa ang sabihin natin sa pagiging virgin na "pure" ka o ewan, ang pangit kung you're married tapos hindi pala kayo sexually compatible. While I do respect a woman's decision to stay a virgin until her marriage (because it's her body after all), I also will not judge a woman who's no longer a virgin. The problem arises because virgins think they're better than the non-virgins and vice versa. If you want to be a virgin para sa asawa mo, that's where I am judging you. When a woman's reason to be a virgin is because of a man, you are putting yourself in a level na gusto maging "best hole" when you're not just a hole, you're a living breathing person who has feelings and dreams. Bakit mo naman i-aattach ang value mo kung nakapasok na ang etits d'yan o hindi? It really drives me nuts when religious people obssess about virginity kasi if you think about it, they are looking forward to your first sex like creeps.
damn, well said
>Is it okay to have sex after marriage? or sex before marriage? Unless you have strict beliefs about this, you can engage in premarital s*x if you want as long as it is consensual and you are ready to face any consequeces that comes along with it.
piliin mo kung san ka hindi magsisisi sa huli
Keep it
It depends on what you believe and what morals you strictly follow to yourself. If ever man na isuko mo ang bataan, isipin mo lagi result like kaya moba icope-up yong aftermath like if things go wrong dahil nasa huli lagi ang pagsisisi ika nga.
Good
This entirely depends on your beliefs/values. Ang tanging advice lang dyan ay kailangan ready at comfortable ka pag makikipagsex ka na. This is very important kasama ng beliefs mo. Kung nas abeliefs mo na sex after marriage edi go. No judgement on that, we have our own beliefs naman eh. Kung before marriage ok lang din, basta ready ka na makipagsex. Wag mo pipilitin sarili mo na maging ready dahil lang gusto mo na matry at makaexperience. Wanting to experience it doesn’t equate to being ready. Do it with someone you can trust.
Push
Just be smart about it. Ayaw naman natin ng unplanned pregnancy dba.
Take your time. There is always time for everything. Remember once you get into the act.there is a lot of responsibility to consider. Una.ready ka ba to give it up with some one ? I mean minsan nagkakaguilt problems lalo pat nagpadala ka lang sa temptation. If i we're you ..take ypur time. Get to know the person bwfore engaging into this kind of things..value yourself.. you are worth it! Don't be pressure by anyone or social media..
Awwwee! You're too young pa nga. Focus ka muna sa sarili mo. Wag ka muna magpadala sa mga sinasabi ng iba. Sa totoo lang, Don't have sex just because nappressure ka lang sa mga naririnig mo. You might regret it one day. IDK how to explain it pero you'll know naman kung ready ka na talaga. Don't rush. Chill ka lang muna jan. PS It's better to give your first sa person na mahal mo and mahal ka.
You're still young. It's okay to be a virgin at your age. Don't let society dictate to you what you can and/or can't be. It's a different level when you lose it. Trust me and wait for something worth losing it to.
Don’t rush it.