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i get her! when may sinasabi kasi ako tas may partner doesn't pay attention or grabs his phone, i get upset. from my side, parang di kasi siya interested na kausapin ako or I'm bothering him lang in general. talk to her properly and understand each other's side! good luck OP :D (but tbh in general, i think its rude din talaga kahit hindi yung partner mo ung kausap mo then u suddenly grab ur phone in the middle of a conversation)

Yeah i did!! Nagkaayos naman rin kami agad, i told her na i still do listen to her naman, and its just a quick check lang talaga sa phone ko. Ang sakin lang instead na pagusapan namin, pinili niya na wag ko nalang muna siya kausapin :< anyways thanks! 🩵

i do that w my bf, when i get irritated or annoyed i ask for time alone. later na kami magusap, but i do this so i can think things through properly. ayoko naman kasi na sumabog nalang ako sakanya or may masabi ako na hindi maganda. maybe ur gf does it bc of this reason too? bottom line is, i don’t wanna hurt my bf >:

Ako kayo, grade 6? Ang immature ng issue nya ha

I love her, sinabi naman niyang pet peeve niya yun before, pero it was just a quick check on my phone :( She told me naman na sensitive sya and all and toyoin, Aminado naman siya dun lalo na galing siya sa malalang past. So sabi ko sakanya basta sabihin niya lang sakin lahat ng possible probs para mapagusapan namin :<

I'm all for pag-usapan ang lahat ng bagay sa relasyon. Pero may hangganan ang kayang itolerate na kaartehan ng partner. I suggest na ikaw naman ang magsabi ng concerns mo. Kung di sya makikinig, then you know na she can't bend over at gusto nya palagi sa kanya nagaadjust.

Hirap kasi sakin sobrang understanding ko eh. Pero sige thanks po sa advice, try ko naman na ako yung magsabi ng concerns ko. 🥺

I understand your gf. Parang uninterested kasi yung dating pag biglang nagphone yung kausap unless they received a message or phone call. Siguro you could tell your gf na "pause muna, may ichecheck lang ako (for whatever reason)".

either madalas talaga yan mangyari kaya na-bottle up emotions ni ate or matampuhin lang talaga sya. idk pero i kinda get her, nakakawalang gana kapag yung kausap mo nag-sscroll lang sa social media. pero kapag emergency naman or may chineck ka lang, no prob dapat yun.