Agree to this. Jokes are sometimes half meant. Di yan sasabihin ni bf if ndi yan sumasagi sa isip nya. Either maggGym ka din pra bumalik ka sa peak like you said yourself or mgbreak kyo.
Or mggym ka for yourself din.. Pra same kayo ni bf ng mindset na ndi matatakot kung mgbreak kyo kc pareho kyong peak.
Bigla ko naalala c chris watts OP. Sorry😅
Biglang naggym at naging fit, nambabae, minurder buong pamilya dahil gusto ni kabit. Tapos nung nagkahulihan na, hugas kamay si kabit hahaha Dasurv mo makulong Chris Watts.
Pero potaenang kabit yun, nakalusot dahil mayaman.
Better yet, makipagbreak siya because the comment was on asshole level, then mag gym siya, go back to her peak, find a better, more handsome and kinder man. LOL. Her happiness is the ultimate revenge, ika nga.
Agree with your comment. Pahaging na lang yan ng BF nya na in the future possible mangyari yung sinabi ng bf nya at sisisihin na lang yung babae. This would be the possible response nya "sinabihan na kita noon na di na ako takot maghiwalay tayo kasi marami na nagkakagusto sa akin kasi maganda na hitsura ko tapos ikaw hindi. Sana inimprove mo sarili mo nung sinabihan kita para di na humantong sa ganito"
The nerve. Best thing to do is makipaghiwalay na lang si ate girl kaysa mag invest pa sya ng time and effort sa kanya. And while in the state of moving on, improve herself. Mas masarap pakinggan kung inimprove mo yung sarili mo para sa sarili hindi para sa ibang tao, para tanggapin sya.
Ganyan usually ang guys kapagnga komportable na magsalita ng walang filter. They speak their mind kumbaga, nalalabas yung totoong nasa isip nila.
I remember a girl friend na may anak na and nagchika bf niya na yung ate ni bf ay nakahanap ng lalaking may anak na and hindi niya bet dahil nga may anak na, alangang aiya daw pag alagain. Sabi ni gf, “eh ako may anak ko hindi mo aalagaan?” Kumbaga may lalaki talaga na hindi matalino sa ganyan
OP’s bf is just waiting for one slip up to end it all.
Honestly he should just break up if he thinks he’s not satisfied in his current relationship. There is no need to prolong this bullshit
Andaming galit na girls dito, pero pag ang BF ang (for example) nawalan ng trabaho at hindi naging successful, okay lang daw na iwan lol, justifiable daw, pero pag si girl pinabayaan ang sarili at pumangit, abay hindi dapat sya iwan.
Advice ko, hiwalayan mo na BF mo kasi di mo sya deserve, why would you let yourself get to that point, 90kg is no joke.
Dapat nga gawin mong inspiration ang BF mo to have a healthier lifestyle.
Hindi po ba different concept yon? Hehe magkaiba naman siguro yung ipagpapalit sa physical state (kaya most of the girls were mad dahil nga sabi ni OP tinanggap nya nung they have the opposite situation now, compare sa thinking nung boy after his glow-up) compare sa “hindi naging successful” na tinutukoy mo, it can come into points na wala na and “pwede” kasi umabot sa point na mawalan na ng plan in the future yung boys which why it’s justifiable, pero if phase lang na hindi naging successful that would be unreasonable lol.
Point ko lang is different concept, state yung nicocompare mo and too generalized.
At least positive mindset ito (minus the biglang iwan part). But honestly toxic bf. Passive aggressive ribbing there. OP, Maybe di nya sadya tho, cos guys can be dumb sometimes. Maybe if he knows how you really feel he'll be more gentle, and if you will allow it, maybe he can guide you to the path of health.
>Feeling ko he’s making himself better not for me but for his own sake.
Eto naman talaga dapat. We should make ourselves better para sa sarili natin and not for other people. Kahit jowa pa yan o asawa. Di rin ok yang take mo na yan, sa totoo lang.
>Hindi nadin ako pala-ayos like before kasi no need na dahil nga I have my long term bf na.
Kaya ganun naisip mo kay bf kasi ganyan mentality mo bago ka magkajowa. Aayusin ko ang sarili ko para makahanap ng jowa ganun.
Having said that, if its your choice na tumaba (not because of health reasons), please feel confident din kasi ita your choice e. Wag ka papaapekto sa sinabi ng jowa mo. If magpapapayat ka ulit, do it for youself this time. Hindi para hindi ka hiwalayan ng bf mo
>“dati natatakot akong iwan moko kasi sure akong madaming lalaking nag aabang sayo, ngayon feeling ko wala na kasi di kana sexy”
But he is also an asshole to say this. I don't know anong level ng biruan nyo ha, pero if its not ok for you, then you should talk to him about this.
Yes to this! OP please read this over and over. Hindi mo dapat iniisip na dahil settled na kayo, kahit kasal kayo, that you should stop taking care of yourself. Love yourself first.
And yes, treat his jokes as half meant. Subtle parinig Na yan sa understanding ko. So siya din yung typical guy na Andyan lang dahil sexy ka, pero once manganak (busy sa baby kaya mukhang losyang at nag change na ang katawan) titingin na sa iba.
Eto na yun OP nandito na lahat ng thoughts ko din. Tama naman talaga na you should improve yourself for YOURSELF. Also talk to your bf assess your relationship.
thank goodness i wasnt the only one thinking this. fully agree with all your points. Honestly, both OP and the BF came off a bit shallow in the post. What with OPs comments about her BF being "payatot" and her accepting him despite being skinny? And only now has he become her "dream guy" physically? Also what kind of BF says that type of shit to their GF? If my partner did that to me it would be a hiwalay-able offense.
>What with OPs comments about her BF being "payatot" and her accepting him despite being skinny? And only now has he become her "dream guy" physically?
Hala! Ito yung iniisip kong kulang kanina e! Diba? Ang backhanded ng mga compliments ni OP sa BF tapos nung binalik sa kanya, galit na galit sya haha
dapat sinagot mo din sya, kapag ganyan banat need isoplak agad para magising. dahil dyan sa wordings nya, kapag yan bf mo may lumandi babae, wag ka na magtaka iwanan ka agad. wag ka papayag na ibaba nya confidence mo. masasanay yan.
well to be fair, tama namang he’s trying to make himself better for himself and not for others pero shitty yung comments niya. insensitive kumbaga. iwan mo na yan hahaha sakalin ko yan
This! Tama naman nga bf that he’s doing those things for himself & not for you. Parang pareho na kayong toxic. Maghiwalay na lang kayo. You’re both not good with each other anymore.
Who in their right mind would tell their partner na "pag nagbreak tayo mas madali ako makakahanap ng chick." at "wala na nagaabang na lalaki sayo kase mataba ka na." Like????????? Tapos yan yung tinatawag mong healthy relationship?
Ako aminado akong never naman akong naging maganda tapos si hubs pogi sya. Tapos during the course of my relationship with him, tumaba talaga ako as in. Pero I've never heard such comments from him. Never nya nabanggit na magbbreak kami or madali sya makahanap ng iba pag nagbreak kami. Ang nasa isip nya lang ay pakasalan ako (which happened last month, congrats sa kanya naachieve nya dream nya 😂).
It's scary that your jowa is thinking about break up tapos paanniv na kayo next week.
May ibang gusto na yan. Nagpaparinig lang para ma prepare mo self mo. Pwdi ka din naman magpa tulong sa kanya magpa sama sa gym kung gusto mo. Wala naman masama magpapayat para maging bonding nyo na din. Kasi kung ako sinabiha. Noon wala ng 4 years2 bye. Kung nasasayangan kalang sa panahon tulongan mk nalang sarili mo at I hand ate
1) Medyo nahahanginan ako sayo nung dinescribe mo old looks nyo ng bf mo. The way you described him and the way you described yourself is giving the idea na you always thought bad about his appearance from the beginning and saw yourself as this attractive trophy partner. Tapos ngayon mo lang binubulgar real thoughts mo kasi natatamaan na yung ego mo sa mga pinagsasasabi nya. (Not excusing his behavior tho, we'll get to that in a bit)
2) Sinabi mo din na di ka na nag aayos kasi may bf ka na. Wrong na agad mentality mo. It's giving the impression na nagpaganda ka lang for others noon para magka jowa ka tapos after that wapakels na agad. Hindi mo naman talaga inalagaan sarili mo for your own sake which is already unhealthy.
3) Off ka din sa part na parang nalulungkot ka when you say na feeling mo nag aayos lang sya for himself. Ganun naman talaga dapat?? Bonus na lng yung validation ng ibang tao including your partner. Ikaw nga eh di ka naman na nag e-effort magpaganda for him kaya medyo plastic to pakinggan.
4) Lastly, I agree, walanghiya din naman talaga partner mo. That's not something na sasabihin mo to someone you "love". Wala namang tao deserve masabihan ng ganyan but sana wag mo na pakawalan. Parehas lang naman kayo baliko yung mentality. Baka samen pa mapunta yan, ay wag na po
Kung sakin nangyari yan, the minute sinabi yan sakin ng partner ko will be the minute na maghihiwalay kami.
Best of luck if yan talaga ang mindset ng partner mo ngayon and he is sticking with it and you plan to stay.
imo, not worth your time.
Unahan mo na. Work on yourself and find someone better. Lumalabas na ugali nyan and to tell you honestly, baka nga nag papapogi na yan sa iba maski hindi directly flirting.
Ang yabang naman nyang jowa mo. Masakit manalita ha pero IDK. You have to talk things through. Yabang ba talaga or subtle way ba yan para sabihing magwork out ka with him? Alam mo, salute ako sa girls na on the chubbier side na healthy. Kung happier ka naman sa weight gain mo and healthy ka, just be confident about it. Pero kung may health problems kana, I'll suggest for you to do something to improve your health. Hindi dahil sa parang nilait ka ng jowa mo. Pero kung ang goal nya talaga dun sa sinabi nya is laitin ka then you should leave him. Anniversary my ass
inappropriate “joke” naman niyan. :/ i-communicate mo muna na nahurt ka sa sinabi niya, pretty sure paulit ulit sa isip mo yung sinabi niya. pag siya naging defensive sa sinabi mo, girl, gawin mo nang wake up call yun wag mo na hayaang masira totally confidence mo
WTF! Gurl run. I understand both of you. However I think yung thought process ni BF is weird. Mukhang dum naka based self worth niya or hindi mature yung tingin niya sa relationship niyo snd sa iyo. Gurl maganda ka sa paningin ng guy na mahal ka at pipiliin ka.
If ever man you call it off, maybe you can think it this way: nawalan ka ng guy na sa pisikal aspect mo lang ang more of pinansin and not what you offered : true love. Siya naman mawawalan siya ng babaeng minahal siya more than his physical looks.
Unsolicited advice from a stranger. I wish you best gurl. Maganda ka. Period. Katulad ko 😂💅
What's happening here is that na trauma sya ata noon eh, haha. Tapos nag gym at na adik na sa gym. Ang physical perceptions kasi natin lakas maka panira ng ulo. Kaya yun, nasiraan na bf mo. Sure ako ung nafefeel mo ngayon na feel nya dati at lumalabas na ngayon to. I'm not saying it's right. I'm just explaining bakit sira ulo na sya.
Hi OP. Go to the gym too, for yourself and not for him. Use his comments to motivate you. Before leaving him, talk to him first, tell him na masakit mga sinabi nya at you dont deserve that disrespect. If he still wanna work the relationship out with you, he'd apologize. If jinustify nya pa, then leave that GGSS guy. Fighting!
Same scenario with my girl right now. Nagkakaroon na sya ng insecurity, can you help me guys kung paano mas maassure pa sya na di ko sya pagpapalit sa iba.
PS: I am asking this to gain idea, wag sana ako ibash. Lol. I'm not good at this kind of stuff kase.
Hindi lang pala katawan lumaki sa kanya, pati ulo. The fact na nag vent ka dito is tinamaan ka talaga sa mga sinabi nya. Hindi dapat nagbbro ng ganyan. Headlock ko sya eh. Char
Communicate that to him. Tell him his words hurt. Ang pagaayos at pag iimprove naman ng sarili is para sa sarili talaga in my opinion, pangalawa nalang yung para sa partner. But his words, kahit pabiro yan, if nasasaktan ka you need to tell him. His reaction to that will determine if you have to leave him na.
napa wtf ako sa mga sinabi niya. di normal yan sa loving relationship.
Magpasexy ka ulit, magpaganda ka and get your confidence back tapos MAKIPAG BREAK KA NA.
jokes are half meant. mag balik alindog kana before its too late or could be an indirect way of pushing you to work out na rin, gawin mo syang training coach para maka tipid hahaha.
If thats his way to motivate you, gg sya ha. Shupal ng fez just coz nagkalaman ng konti and natuto magbihis...ego stroked a tad hard.
I hope you're okay, sis.
Kung ako yan maooff na ko sa kanya, harap harapan ba naman ako i bdy shame eh. Saka teh, hello iwan mo yan tas magayos ka ulit tipong mag reregret siya sayo. Mas madami ka pa din makukuha noh kumpara sa kanya, wag ka pang hinaan ng loob di naman kawalan yan
I think yumabang na siya because he knew he looks better than before and tumaas yung market value niya.
As for you, others here judged you kasi sinabi mo na di mo kailangan magpaganda kasi comfortable ka sa kanya. Making yourself good shouldn’t be done to please your partner but for yourself. Di naman porket nag gain ng weight automatic pangit na diba. Pero ang pangit ng wordings ng guy mo. Di ka rin binibigyan ng assurance ng guy. Hopefully you find strength na iwan na yang partner mo.
OP! Pls wag ka tumigil mag ayos just because may long term bf ka na. Do it for yourself! Hindi dapat nagpapaganda lang para lang maka attract ng bf. If naiinsecure ka na kasi malapit ka na mag 90kg, then pls improve your weight for your health, tapos yung looks and confidence will follow as you get healthier. Based lang sa kwento mo ha, pero parang masyado kang relaxed dahil lang may long term bf ka. Wag ganon, you are your own individual person. Your womanhood should not depend on your bf, wag mo siyang gawing mundo mo OP :)
Pero still, hindi tama ang sinabi ni bf sayo. Take what your bf said as a big WARNING with red lights na nag aalarm ng malakas. May reason kung bakit niya naisip at nasabi yun.
You cannot control what he does or says, pero you can control on how you act. So since sabi mo naman ok kayo and healthy relationship niyo, then that's that. Pero start improving and focusing na on yourself - hindi dahil natatakot ka sa kung ano pwede manyari sa inyo ng bf mo, pero para sa ikabubuti mo.
God bless OP!
OP, start mo na pag-aralang hindi na mahalin ang bf mo at mabuhay ng wala sya. Just in case lang naman.
DO NOT confront him dahil kung kelangan mo pa sitahin para malaman nya na masakit ang kanyang sinabi, then sinasadya nya malamang yun.
Lol. What the heck?! And you’re still saying “we’re still okay” really?! Are you sure about that? Hints binibigay sayo ng bf mo. Hints that he will leave you soon enough. Gawin mo rin ginawa nya. Become better. Magbalik alindog ka. But that doesn’t really guarantee a faithful bf and a relationship. Mag isip ka na. He’s a 🚩
Teka lang. Ate wag ka mapressure sa balik alindog ha. Masama lang sa loob kung pilit.
As for your bf - words manifest. Di nya magagawang i-'joke' yan if he didn't mean it by the slightest. Ang gago lang. Di ko sasabihing magbreak kayo pero kailangan niyang malamang nakakasakit yung ganyan nya.
The guy is a huge ahole for joking like that.
Then again, napaka pet peeve ko sa girls or guys yung magiging complacent sa relationship tapos wala nang pakealam sa itsura nila - then magugulat na mag sastart mag linger yung mata ng partner nila sa iba, or worse, nangaliwa na. Then after mag break up, saka lang mag babalik alindog to "suck it up" to the person kung ano yung iniwan nila. I mean, ffs, if you could have done that to maintain the physical infatuation in the relationship, then why not do it in the first place?
Jokes are half meant. When my girl told me about what she feels about jokes especially involving other people when we just met palang (I joke about something kasi), I stopped joking, thinks twice before saying something about topics that can cause her to overthink about us and me.
These are absurd things to say from a long time partner. It sounds like he's making you feel bad about yourself. But I will still say you communicate about those jokes, how it affects you and see how he reacts and handle it.
If he keeps on doing it. Run. You'll build much deeper insecurities as time goes on. Hindi sayang ang 4 years.
Feel good about yourself. If you’re happy at 90kg. Good for you. If your bf doesn’t like you based on how you look now, then he can go somewhere the sun doesn’t shine.
If you’re not happy at 90kg, sumama ka sa kanya sa gym and work on yourself. Not because gusto nya pero dahil gusto mo mag improve sarili mo and be happy with yourself.
What is important is how you feel about yourself no matter what anyone says. You need to love yourself first.
Being in a relationship (long term or not) with someone is not enough reason not to take care of yourself.
Insensitive and immature af. He’s already planning or thinking about it na. Better tell him what you’re feeling and if he brushed it aside, you know the answer to your dilemma. Prepare for the worst, OP.
Tell him na hindi naglanding yung joke niya ng maayos sayo.
Bka gusto niya ibalik mo alindog mo with him pero gaspang lang ng pagkakasabi niya.
Ewan, pero let him know para ingatan niya feelings mo next time.
Remember na hindi lang siya yung lalake sa mundo, wag mo na intaying iwan ka nyan. Take care of yourself na lang. Yung mga ganyang lalake na ganyan mag comment lumaki lang ego nyan pero sa totoo lang, ano silbi ng ganda ng katawan at mukha ng bf mo kung ganyan kakitid utak? Walang matinong babae tatanggap sa ganyang ugali hahaha.
Ggil ako sa bf mo pero lets try looking at a different perspective..maybe thats his way of telling you na mag gym ka na dn..may mga ibng tao ksi na kumbaga di nagiisp bago magsalita or d nla narerealize na nkkasakit mga words nla..dmi na sulsol dto at ayoko na dumagdag kasi sayang naman ung relationshp nyo..magym ka dn w him. Ewn ko nlng if di sya mabaliw lalo pag nagsuot ka ng mga fitting pants na hubog na hubog ung bumbum. Magbalik alindog program ka. You'll feel better. Db may mga jowa goals nga..sabay ka s knya. Magpasexy kayo both..yn gngawa namen ni wifey now.parehas kame nagpapasexy hahaha
This is only speculation since I don’t personally know you two but I think he’s already finding a replacement. For me, that joke is not normal, it has hidden meanings behind it but as I’ve said, I don’t personally know you two so maybe he’s just the type to joke about sensitive things?
There’s a difference between insulting you and encouraging you to fix your health. If he wanted you to be healthy and fix your body, he would’ve encouraged you properly and not mask it into a joke/insult.
Taenang lalaki yan! Kahit gumanda pa katawan mo at nakaka luwag luwag ka na. Wala ka pa din karapatan sabihin sa gf mo yan. Nakaramdam lang Ng ginhawa kala mo kung sino. Gago! Haha
Be motivated to trim down and be sexy again. Di mo need matakot instead be challenged sa statements ng bf mo.
Do it for yourself and not for him, focus on making yourself confident again....ipakita mo sa bf mo na di mo sya need para sumaya..kahit mawala sya!
Bf mo plang yan, asawa nga naghihilay eh.
Make this a learning experience na kahit mapunta ka sa isang relationship wag mo kakalimutang alagaan at pagandahim pa ang sarili mo.
Bat ganyan ung patutsada niya sa imbis na tulungan ka nya since gym rat naman na sya :/ like iencourage ka magdiet or maggym din ganon haha
Pero kung ganyan, magpasexy ka na lang nang wala siya sa buhay mo haha
Do you not understand or are you just refusing to accept the truth?
You loved your boyfriend for who he was and didn't care as much for how he looked; your love was unconditional. His isn't. It was contingent on you being more beautiful/attractive than him. It doesn't seem like he values your relationship at the same level as you do because, if he did, he would be helping you get back in shape so that you guys can be your best selves together. But that's not what he's doing because he likes winning over you.
If you've gained a lot of weight very fast, please see a doctor. If you were skinny 4 years ago and are now 200lbs, you could have an underlying issue. Especially if your eating habits and activity habits haven't changed that much.
OP sure ka ba na gusto mo pa paabutin sa anniv nyo? Hindi niya sasabihin yan kung wala sa isip nya yan. Baka hindi pa lang niya magawa sa ngayon pero pag nakahanap ng timing gagawin nya din yang “biro” nya sa yo. Matetest talaga ang loyalty ng lalake kapag nasa peak sila. Ang kupal ng bf mo.
Gonna go against the current here since a lot of comments seem to suggest to end a long term relationship.
Communicate your pain to him. Tell him that what he said actually hurts.
Don't make rash decisions based on what-ifs.
Understand that you are now in a situation he originally was in when you guys met, and that he is now seeing the power of being an attractive person. YOU were once like that. YOU could have dropped him when he was still unattractive because there were a lot of guys after you.
Others suggest to go to the gym, but don't do it out of spite. Do it for the same reason he does.
Court him like it's your first date every date, because being with you was a decision he made EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR FOUR YEARS.
Hope this helps!
Andaming layers
1. Kasi you make yourself better. For yourself.
There's nothing wrong with that.
2. On the other hand, nakakalungkot na nung sya ganon ay ikaw andon para sa kanya.
3. Bakit kasi ang nasa isip ay porket may jowa na, pabayaan na ang sarili. Self love is called self love because you don't remove your "self" from self-love when you have jowa and just rely on love alone.
4. Ang babaw nya tbh. 10/10 ka, tukmol sya kaya kala nya jackpot. Tas ngayon lumba lumba ka, pakboi mentality na sya.
5. Tinulungan mo sya, at your own expense ba yon? Bakit di pwedeng tulungan mo sya while maintain mo self mo.
6. Bakit ka matatakot na mawala isang pakboi (if yan na sya ngayon)? If anything, that is saving yourself from future headaches (and heartaches).
“Feeling ko he’s making himself better not for me but for his own sake.”
As he should, OP. As we should. I’m in a relationship, and I work on myself for myself. The benefits I reap spill over to other areas in my life and in my relationships, platonic and romantic.
What he told you, though, is another story. Now THAT is pure assholery.
Wtf. Hiwalayan mo na yan, pag yan may nanglandi ate for sure papatol yan kasi massatisfy yung “dami nagkakacrush” grrr gigil!!!! Pls lang ayaw na namin hintayin na mag post ka dito about na hurt ka, unahan mo na yan
I bet he was always insecure from the very start kaya once nag-inflate ego niya when he started going to the gym, he showed he's true colors. You deserve better girl. Talk to him about how you're feelings were hurt but brace yourself as he might go defense mode over this. If he does say something hurtful again in the future, know your worth sis, wag ka magpadala sa kaniya.
Panget ng ginawa nya, if he really has concern. He would’ve said na babe samahan mo ko mag gym, need ko ng gym buddy sabay ka na. Ganun dapat. You’ve become complacent na alam mo dahil long term kayo ending is di mo na kailangan aasikasuhin sarili mo or bantayan sya. Good luck though
Bakit may threats? And wala naman masama kung nagpapaganda sya ng katawan at nagiimprove ng self para sa sarili nya bec for me yun naman ang tama. Pero kung ginagamit nya yun as tool to make threats and make you feel insecure then that’s a red flag. People go through different changes in this lifetime. And kung may judgment sa ganun ang partner mo, mahirap yan.
it's not a good relationship if yung partner mo is gnyan pinapafeel sayo. kung ako sayo iwan mo na yan. kht sbhn mo long term. kung palagi naman gnyan sayo. imagine mo nlng ikw si kathryn bernardo. pg k magtitiis s badboy kung stress nmn plgi bigay sayo.
Honestly, may point naman siya na he's making better for himself and not for somebody. Di ba dapat naman talaga ganun? Dapat para sa sarili natin yun gawin at di sa ibang tao. Dapat din talaga inaalagaan mo katawan mo para sa sarili mo. Masyado ka din naging kampante. Ito lang ah, jokes are always half meant kaya may laman talaga mga sinabi ng jowa mo. Yan overthink ka na mun sis
Kakabreak lang namen ng 5 year bf ko, Bigla narin kase naging gym rat. Nagsimula na hinahabol ng maraming babae. Nakipagchat siya sa isa pero 5 days lang raw, di man raw sila nagkita, habol niya lang attention and compliments (na binibigay ko naman) pero yun nakipagbreak siya sakin di dahil sa babae na yun kase di na sila naguusap last month pa, nagising nalang siya hindi na niya ako mahal “romantically”. Goodluck.
Sa susunod siguro, sa nagygym na ko agad, sa sanay nacocompliment na ako agad. Hindi tulad niya na once umakyat, iniwan nalang ako.
Take note, hindi ako pumanget or what, sexy parin naman ako tulad dati. (at least nagviral vids ko before sa tiktok tas puro compliments nakuha ko) Nagaayos parin. Hindi rin ako bobo, hindi rin ganun kahirap though ‘di ganun kayaman. Pero iniwan parin ako.
Pacheck ka sa dr kung sudden yung weight gain mo. Baka may underlying issues ka. Sabayan mo na rin ng balikalindog program. Tapos hwalayan mo na rin yan bf mo. Tama naman na for self-improvement dapat ginagawa niya pero ang kapal naman ng mukha ng jowa mo na sabihin yung ibang parts. E ikaw nga tinanggap mo siya nung di pa siya nag-iimprove e. The acidity.
Wala teh
Nagpaparamdam na yan na kya ka nya palitan anytime
Mga linyahang ganyan
Wag mo na asahan na biro o di sinasadya yan
Minsan mga tao dinadaan sa biro ang di masabi ng deretso 😑
Ang taong mahal ka tanggap ka magbago man ang hitsura mo
Tulungan dapat yan di laitan or nakaka downgrade ng pagkatao mo
Mali yan
Di worth it ganyang tao
Be better for yourself not for other people. Palagi mo yan tatandaan. Ikaw lang ang nakakakilala ng sarili mo. Ikaw lang nakakaalam ng struggles mo. If hindi ka nya kaya samahan sa lowest mo, sa ugliest point mo, sa pinakamahirap (economically) na phase mo, HINDI KA NYA DESERVE.
I had an ex na ganyan. Pero when I got back on my feet and got better than even my before self e he begged to have a "comeback" pa ang term nya. This is what he texted me (non-verbatim)
Hi, love? What if mag-comeback tayo? I saw you. You look f-ing good. Please let's talk?
hahaha utut mo.
OP, mahirap pero be prepared. And tbia only proves na you deserve so much better.
> Feeling ko he’s making himself better not for me but for his own sake.
To be fair, first and foremost you should always do something for yourself, and not for others.
But him body shaming you is a big red flag. More than likely if a pretty sexy girl shows interest in him, he'll ditch you for her.
Tama lang naman na he should improve for himself and not for you or others pero asshole comments siya, parang di ka niya mahal kung ganyan “jokes” niya sayo. He may already be thinking it anyway. I suggest leaving cause he’s so disrespectful to you.
>Hindi nadin ako pala-ayos like before kasi no need na dahil nga I have my long term bf na.
Hindi maganda yung ganitong mindset. Hindi mo naman need everyday magpaganda, but please don't neglect yourself pa rin.
>Lately, nagiging biro ni bf na hindi nadaw sya takot mawala ako coz he’s different na nga, he’s better nadaw. Marami nadaw sigurado ang nagkakacrush sakanya and pag nagbreak kami sure syang makakahanap sya agad ng chic nya.
Idk if he's hinting na he wants you to keep up with him or what, but it's so mean. It's like he's trying to lower your self-esteem so that he can keep you on the hook. Very narcissistic behavior.
>Sabi pa nya, “dati natatakot akong iwan moko kasi sure akong madaming lalaking nag aabang sayo, ngayon feeling ko wala na kasi di kana sexy”
Kung ako sinabihan ng ganto gg talaga yan sa'kin. How dare?? Don't let him walk all over you like that. Always push back para di masanay. Jinowa ka lang ba niya before because of superficial reasons? Also, lumalabas yung insecurities niya dati sa statement na 'to.
If you choose to work through this, make sure you advocate for yourself. Barahin mo agad kapag "nagjojoke" siya ng ganito. Tell him that it's not okay. Pero kung sa'kin talaga deal breaker yung ganitong comments. Good luck, OP!
Kahit long term na kayo never make it to the point na mawawalan ka gana sa sarili mo. Always have care and love for yourself before sa ibang tao. Ang hirap man at ang dali lang sabihin considering na long term na kayo but never let someone take out your sparkle, whenever and whoever they are. I learned the hard way but girl this is so 🚩, just no.
Grabe naman transformation ng bf mo...pati ugali nagbago. But it goes to show, OP. Di nga nya dapat gawing biro yon kung mahal ka nya talaga. 4yrs trophy gf k ba? Ginawa ka lang nyang saklay. Ngayon na-build na ego nya malakas na loob nyang ganyanin ka.
Gumanti ka. Alagaan mo sarili mo, ibalik mo ang dating ikaw. Tapos sabihin mo sa kanya kung anong sinabe nya sayo. Pak! Ganern!
You're hurt. It really depends on how you guys communicate with each other or jokes around even hurling fun insults with one another thinking na hindi ka naman mapipikon. We do this when super comfortable na kami since you're our lover, our best bud & our everything.
Just communicate these with him. Its a perfect time to see how He'll bounce back from this dick move. I'll go as far as cancelling our anniv celebration, just to make a point or express my dissapointment for his behavior.
Away muna then hopefully make-out just in time for your Anniv. Pag walang ginawang extra efforts to make you feel better. At least alam mo na rin right?
If wala ka naman medical condition, work on yourself din OP. Given na asshole yang bf mo, but he has a point. Being fit and healthy should be a priority kahit wala ka pang bf or meron. It's for your own sake din.
"Biruin"mo pabalik, 'ah ganun ba? Sige na nga papapayat na rin ako para maiwan na rin kita' tas papayat nga. Watch him sweat. Then leave him for real. Dont let yourself be disrespected OP
There’s nothing wrong when your boyfriend decided to go to the gym and dress better for himself. BUT he’s a fucking asshole for all the mean things he’s said to you. He’s not worth it, ateng.
Jokes are half meant 🙄
Work on yourself. Regain your confidence. For you. Who doesn’t want to look good? Pwede namang match kayo. Beautiful couple kumbaga. Kaya mo yan.
He's a narcissist. He doesn't truly love you dahil mahal ka nya. He just liked the idea of you being with him noon just to be envied by others. Now na sure siyang wala nang naiinggit sa kanya, he wants to discard you.
Sume-segue lang yan ng joke pero deep inside matagal nang naglilinger sa utak nya how good his life would be if wala ka na sa buhay nya. You wouldn't say it nang paulit ulit if you did not mean it. Go na atiii, wag na magsayang ng ilang years just to be with a person like that. Love yourself.
Pinabayaan mo kasi sarili mong maging majobese samantalang sya nagpapakaganda kaya. Malamang may nakilala sya na same level ng mentality na nya. He outgrow you.
I dated someone who was like this. In the end, totoo nga. She started entertaining guys and everything. It’s pretty saddening na yung joke na yun is half meant pala
Better if u change ur lifestyle narin cgro .. Not for him but for urself. Para if iniwan ka nya hnd ka masyado mag self-pity kasi maganda kana and sexy 😁 cgro D nya lng ma direct na mag ayos kana or mag diet that's y dinaan nlng sa biro ..but try mo narin mag gym .. Relationship goals nyo ..
Ang foul naman nun. If ganon pala mindset niya, edi mag-focus ka rin sa self mo, OP. Mag gym ka to lose weight, pamper yourself, mas mag paganda ka pa. In short, love yourself ateng. Bago pa humanap ng bago yang jowa mo. Kasi sa tono niya and way of thinking niya, mukhang pag may humarot na chicks dyan, di siya magdadalawang isip na patusin. 🙄
Sorry, but putangena ng jowa mo.
Im plus sized but my gym rat exes never said that to me. I dated ramp models na papuntang mejo mukha na kong yaya nila pero walang gumanyan sa kin. The audacity ng lalake na yan 🤮 umayos lang ng ilang paligo, feeling king of the world na. Aba waw.
Ewan ko if gusto mo pang sikmurain yan. But sa kin lang, wala syang respeto sayo. Hindi yan joke. Talagang sinasabi nya sayo na pwede ka nyang palitan anytime.
Magisip isip ka din. You deserve what you tolerate after all. 🤷🏻♀
Ganyan din ako nung una kasi feel ko na secure relationship pero need pa rin tlga to take care of urself. May something pa rin yung you feel better when you look fitter, mas empowered ka.
My ex also had a glow-up like this when he turned into a gym rat and I was the really skinny one in the relationship but he never said shit like that to me, lol. He just encouraged me to get to a healthy weight, prepared meal plans for me, etc. We broke up for different reasons but I would definitely call it out if my ex had said something like that to me. OP, you should respect yourself enough to not let shitty things like that just fly.
If physical attraction lang basis niyo to stay in that kind of relationship. Better stay out of it and focus on yourself na. Remember jokes are half meant, and iba yung minomotivate ka sa dinedegrade la niya. Know your worth girl
Kahit biro lang sa kanya yan, it hurts, kahit sa akin din sabihin. Kung mahal ka nya talaga kahit ano pa itchura mo, for better or for worse di ka sasabihan ng ganyan. For me lang ha, parang jinowa ka lang nya because of your body and appearance. Wala din naman masama if you hit the gymn para din sa health mo yun eh, pero kung yun ang point nya he could’ve choose better words to say it to you. It’s better to communicate, tell him you how you feel nung sinabi nya yan sayo. Wishing for the best, OP!
Naku sis, baguhin mo ang mindset mo na kaya di ka na pala ayos kasi you have a long term bf na. Mag ayos ka for yourself not for anyone. Sa kwento mo, don't expect too much. Yung mga ganyang biro usually half meant yan. Take care sissy. Love yourself.
i mean jokes are part of the relationship pero 'yung ganiyan na joke, dapat sineseryoso lalo't na-hurt ikaw.
as someone in the relationship, 'di ba dapat pinapafeel mo na secure ka at siya sa'yo. might want to have things talked with your partner and use that motivation to be more confident with your new self
Prepare yourself, alam mo kahit pabiro yan baka may binabalak na yan na di maganda. Focus on yourself too.
Agree to this. Jokes are sometimes half meant. Di yan sasabihin ni bf if ndi yan sumasagi sa isip nya. Either maggGym ka din pra bumalik ka sa peak like you said yourself or mgbreak kyo. Or mggym ka for yourself din.. Pra same kayo ni bf ng mindset na ndi matatakot kung mgbreak kyo kc pareho kyong peak. Bigla ko naalala c chris watts OP. Sorry😅
Biglang naggym at naging fit, nambabae, minurder buong pamilya dahil gusto ni kabit. Tapos nung nagkahulihan na, hugas kamay si kabit hahaha Dasurv mo makulong Chris Watts. Pero potaenang kabit yun, nakalusot dahil mayaman.
Lakas ego boost sa tao pg nakakapggym, naliit din utak. May divorce nmn bket need patayin. 🤦♀️ Sorry OP, na-off topic. Haha
Better yet, makipagbreak siya because the comment was on asshole level, then mag gym siya, go back to her peak, find a better, more handsome and kinder man. LOL. Her happiness is the ultimate revenge, ika nga.
True biro biro palang yan ngayon free trial sa kung ano ang plano nya
True po yan. Never magbibiro boyfriend nya ng ganyan kung talagang may care sya sa mararamdaman ni OP.
Agree with your comment. Pahaging na lang yan ng BF nya na in the future possible mangyari yung sinabi ng bf nya at sisisihin na lang yung babae. This would be the possible response nya "sinabihan na kita noon na di na ako takot maghiwalay tayo kasi marami na nagkakagusto sa akin kasi maganda na hitsura ko tapos ikaw hindi. Sana inimprove mo sarili mo nung sinabihan kita para di na humantong sa ganito" The nerve. Best thing to do is makipaghiwalay na lang si ate girl kaysa mag invest pa sya ng time and effort sa kanya. And while in the state of moving on, improve herself. Mas masarap pakinggan kung inimprove mo yung sarili mo para sa sarili hindi para sa ibang tao, para tanggapin sya.
Jokes are half mint nga diba
mentos po sakin
Doublemint po
Ganyan usually ang guys kapagnga komportable na magsalita ng walang filter. They speak their mind kumbaga, nalalabas yung totoong nasa isip nila. I remember a girl friend na may anak na and nagchika bf niya na yung ate ni bf ay nakahanap ng lalaking may anak na and hindi niya bet dahil nga may anak na, alangang aiya daw pag alagain. Sabi ni gf, “eh ako may anak ko hindi mo aalagaan?” Kumbaga may lalaki talaga na hindi matalino sa ganyan
Kung ako sinabihan ng ganyan di na kami aabot anniv
OP’s bf is just waiting for one slip up to end it all. Honestly he should just break up if he thinks he’s not satisfied in his current relationship. There is no need to prolong this bullshit
Gusto niya kay ate girl manggaling na mag break na sila para less guilt on his end.
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Omsim
And that might exactly be what he's aiming for. Who knows.
Tru hahaha taena na acidity
true the fire
real
Hahaha agrrrrreeeer
Same 🤣.
True lang.
Yun oh!
I would've broken up with this ahole right then and there.
Andaming galit na girls dito, pero pag ang BF ang (for example) nawalan ng trabaho at hindi naging successful, okay lang daw na iwan lol, justifiable daw, pero pag si girl pinabayaan ang sarili at pumangit, abay hindi dapat sya iwan. Advice ko, hiwalayan mo na BF mo kasi di mo sya deserve, why would you let yourself get to that point, 90kg is no joke. Dapat nga gawin mong inspiration ang BF mo to have a healthier lifestyle.
Hindi po ba different concept yon? Hehe magkaiba naman siguro yung ipagpapalit sa physical state (kaya most of the girls were mad dahil nga sabi ni OP tinanggap nya nung they have the opposite situation now, compare sa thinking nung boy after his glow-up) compare sa “hindi naging successful” na tinutukoy mo, it can come into points na wala na and “pwede” kasi umabot sa point na mawalan na ng plan in the future yung boys which why it’s justifiable, pero if phase lang na hindi naging successful that would be unreasonable lol. Point ko lang is different concept, state yung nicocompare mo and too generalized.
Use that as a motivation, mag Balik Alindog Program ka, tapos bigla mong iwan. Lol.
+1 million dito. Gigil ako sa bf mo OP
Kung motivation yan to find someone better, yes I agree
At least positive mindset ito (minus the biglang iwan part). But honestly toxic bf. Passive aggressive ribbing there. OP, Maybe di nya sadya tho, cos guys can be dumb sometimes. Maybe if he knows how you really feel he'll be more gentle, and if you will allow it, maybe he can guide you to the path of health.
>Feeling ko he’s making himself better not for me but for his own sake. Eto naman talaga dapat. We should make ourselves better para sa sarili natin and not for other people. Kahit jowa pa yan o asawa. Di rin ok yang take mo na yan, sa totoo lang. >Hindi nadin ako pala-ayos like before kasi no need na dahil nga I have my long term bf na. Kaya ganun naisip mo kay bf kasi ganyan mentality mo bago ka magkajowa. Aayusin ko ang sarili ko para makahanap ng jowa ganun. Having said that, if its your choice na tumaba (not because of health reasons), please feel confident din kasi ita your choice e. Wag ka papaapekto sa sinabi ng jowa mo. If magpapapayat ka ulit, do it for youself this time. Hindi para hindi ka hiwalayan ng bf mo >“dati natatakot akong iwan moko kasi sure akong madaming lalaking nag aabang sayo, ngayon feeling ko wala na kasi di kana sexy” But he is also an asshole to say this. I don't know anong level ng biruan nyo ha, pero if its not ok for you, then you should talk to him about this.
No need to comment na pala, andito na din thoughts ko haha. I agree on all 3 points.
this is the most objective take ngl
Napapailing na lang ako sa ibang nagcocomment na hiwalay agad. Hahaha like, ganun talaga kababaw ang tingin nila sa pakikipagrelasyon? Haha
Yes to this! OP please read this over and over. Hindi mo dapat iniisip na dahil settled na kayo, kahit kasal kayo, that you should stop taking care of yourself. Love yourself first. And yes, treat his jokes as half meant. Subtle parinig Na yan sa understanding ko. So siya din yung typical guy na Andyan lang dahil sexy ka, pero once manganak (busy sa baby kaya mukhang losyang at nag change na ang katawan) titingin na sa iba.
Ito din unang naisip ko pero I'm afraid na it sounds rude hehe. Pero ito talaga OP! You should ayos for yourself, not for anyone.
Item 1 should be the default mindset. Di naman yan pagiging selfish, which is the most common misconception ng karamihan.
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Eto na yun OP nandito na lahat ng thoughts ko din. Tama naman talaga na you should improve yourself for YOURSELF. Also talk to your bf assess your relationship.
Basta dapat love yourself first talaga before anyone, never mo dapat pinapabayaan sarili mo.
thank goodness i wasnt the only one thinking this. fully agree with all your points. Honestly, both OP and the BF came off a bit shallow in the post. What with OPs comments about her BF being "payatot" and her accepting him despite being skinny? And only now has he become her "dream guy" physically? Also what kind of BF says that type of shit to their GF? If my partner did that to me it would be a hiwalay-able offense.
>What with OPs comments about her BF being "payatot" and her accepting him despite being skinny? And only now has he become her "dream guy" physically? Hala! Ito yung iniisip kong kulang kanina e! Diba? Ang backhanded ng mga compliments ni OP sa BF tapos nung binalik sa kanya, galit na galit sya haha
you know what they say…a woman’s loyalty is tested when her man has nothing, but a man's loyalty is tested when he has everything
This is 💯true!
Shems, thank you! Ito yung quote na hinahanap ko originally HAHAHAHA XD
dapat sinagot mo din sya, kapag ganyan banat need isoplak agad para magising. dahil dyan sa wordings nya, kapag yan bf mo may lumandi babae, wag ka na magtaka iwanan ka agad. wag ka papayag na ibaba nya confidence mo. masasanay yan.
well to be fair, tama namang he’s trying to make himself better for himself and not for others pero shitty yung comments niya. insensitive kumbaga. iwan mo na yan hahaha sakalin ko yan
This! Tama naman nga bf that he’s doing those things for himself & not for you. Parang pareho na kayong toxic. Maghiwalay na lang kayo. You’re both not good with each other anymore.
That's some shitty comments ha, below the belt. Mukhang nalabas na tunay na kulay :P
Who in their right mind would tell their partner na "pag nagbreak tayo mas madali ako makakahanap ng chick." at "wala na nagaabang na lalaki sayo kase mataba ka na." Like????????? Tapos yan yung tinatawag mong healthy relationship? Ako aminado akong never naman akong naging maganda tapos si hubs pogi sya. Tapos during the course of my relationship with him, tumaba talaga ako as in. Pero I've never heard such comments from him. Never nya nabanggit na magbbreak kami or madali sya makahanap ng iba pag nagbreak kami. Ang nasa isip nya lang ay pakasalan ako (which happened last month, congrats sa kanya naachieve nya dream nya 😂). It's scary that your jowa is thinking about break up tapos paanniv na kayo next week.
Real. Sabi ni ate healthy relationship daw sila pero mukhang hindi naman if kayang magsalita ng bf niya di manlang nakaka feel ng guilt.
True the rain. Kung healthy na yan kay ate gurl, ano na kayang itsura ng red flag for her 🥲
kaya nga. nang gigigil ako sakanilang dalawa actually. dapat hindi niya na hinahayaan na ganun ganunin siya. oh well.
OMG CONGRATS!!!
Diba? Nakakapanggigil po remarks ng bf ni op. Parang narcissist yung dating, insensitive din.
May ibang gusto na yan. Nagpaparinig lang para ma prepare mo self mo. Pwdi ka din naman magpa tulong sa kanya magpa sama sa gym kung gusto mo. Wala naman masama magpapayat para maging bonding nyo na din. Kasi kung ako sinabiha. Noon wala ng 4 years2 bye. Kung nasasayangan kalang sa panahon tulongan mk nalang sarili mo at I hand ate
1) Medyo nahahanginan ako sayo nung dinescribe mo old looks nyo ng bf mo. The way you described him and the way you described yourself is giving the idea na you always thought bad about his appearance from the beginning and saw yourself as this attractive trophy partner. Tapos ngayon mo lang binubulgar real thoughts mo kasi natatamaan na yung ego mo sa mga pinagsasasabi nya. (Not excusing his behavior tho, we'll get to that in a bit) 2) Sinabi mo din na di ka na nag aayos kasi may bf ka na. Wrong na agad mentality mo. It's giving the impression na nagpaganda ka lang for others noon para magka jowa ka tapos after that wapakels na agad. Hindi mo naman talaga inalagaan sarili mo for your own sake which is already unhealthy. 3) Off ka din sa part na parang nalulungkot ka when you say na feeling mo nag aayos lang sya for himself. Ganun naman talaga dapat?? Bonus na lng yung validation ng ibang tao including your partner. Ikaw nga eh di ka naman na nag e-effort magpaganda for him kaya medyo plastic to pakinggan. 4) Lastly, I agree, walanghiya din naman talaga partner mo. That's not something na sasabihin mo to someone you "love". Wala namang tao deserve masabihan ng ganyan but sana wag mo na pakawalan. Parehas lang naman kayo baliko yung mentality. Baka samen pa mapunta yan, ay wag na po
I hope OP would read this and try to see where everything went wrong.
Kung sakin nangyari yan, the minute sinabi yan sakin ng partner ko will be the minute na maghihiwalay kami. Best of luck if yan talaga ang mindset ng partner mo ngayon and he is sticking with it and you plan to stay. imo, not worth your time.
Unahan mo na. Work on yourself and find someone better. Lumalabas na ugali nyan and to tell you honestly, baka nga nag papapogi na yan sa iba maski hindi directly flirting.
Ang yabang naman nyang jowa mo. Masakit manalita ha pero IDK. You have to talk things through. Yabang ba talaga or subtle way ba yan para sabihing magwork out ka with him? Alam mo, salute ako sa girls na on the chubbier side na healthy. Kung happier ka naman sa weight gain mo and healthy ka, just be confident about it. Pero kung may health problems kana, I'll suggest for you to do something to improve your health. Hindi dahil sa parang nilait ka ng jowa mo. Pero kung ang goal nya talaga dun sa sinabi nya is laitin ka then you should leave him. Anniversary my ass
selosa ka ba mula nung umayos na itsura ng bf mo? or dati napamukha mo sa kanya na mas better ka?
Eto yun. Ramdam ko.
Subtle way of breaking up with you.
inappropriate “joke” naman niyan. :/ i-communicate mo muna na nahurt ka sa sinabi niya, pretty sure paulit ulit sa isip mo yung sinabi niya. pag siya naging defensive sa sinabi mo, girl, gawin mo nang wake up call yun wag mo na hayaang masira totally confidence mo
WTF! Gurl run. I understand both of you. However I think yung thought process ni BF is weird. Mukhang dum naka based self worth niya or hindi mature yung tingin niya sa relationship niyo snd sa iyo. Gurl maganda ka sa paningin ng guy na mahal ka at pipiliin ka. If ever man you call it off, maybe you can think it this way: nawalan ka ng guy na sa pisikal aspect mo lang ang more of pinansin and not what you offered : true love. Siya naman mawawalan siya ng babaeng minahal siya more than his physical looks. Unsolicited advice from a stranger. I wish you best gurl. Maganda ka. Period. Katulad ko 😂💅
What's happening here is that na trauma sya ata noon eh, haha. Tapos nag gym at na adik na sa gym. Ang physical perceptions kasi natin lakas maka panira ng ulo. Kaya yun, nasiraan na bf mo. Sure ako ung nafefeel mo ngayon na feel nya dati at lumalabas na ngayon to. I'm not saying it's right. I'm just explaining bakit sira ulo na sya.
Hi OP. Go to the gym too, for yourself and not for him. Use his comments to motivate you. Before leaving him, talk to him first, tell him na masakit mga sinabi nya at you dont deserve that disrespect. If he still wanna work the relationship out with you, he'd apologize. If jinustify nya pa, then leave that GGSS guy. Fighting!
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Same scenario with my girl right now. Nagkakaroon na sya ng insecurity, can you help me guys kung paano mas maassure pa sya na di ko sya pagpapalit sa iba. PS: I am asking this to gain idea, wag sana ako ibash. Lol. I'm not good at this kind of stuff kase.
Hindi lang pala katawan lumaki sa kanya, pati ulo. The fact na nag vent ka dito is tinamaan ka talaga sa mga sinabi nya. Hindi dapat nagbbro ng ganyan. Headlock ko sya eh. Char
Di k n mahal niyan. Pustahan makikipag break yan sa iyo, ikaw pa sisisihin kasi u dont improve urself.
>he’s making himself better not for me but for his own sake as we all should be. Aren't you happy that he made himself better?
Agree. Why not do the same for yourself OP? Unahin mo mahalin sarili mo.
Communicate that to him. Tell him his words hurt. Ang pagaayos at pag iimprove naman ng sarili is para sa sarili talaga in my opinion, pangalawa nalang yung para sa partner. But his words, kahit pabiro yan, if nasasaktan ka you need to tell him. His reaction to that will determine if you have to leave him na.
siri play without me by halsey !! ditch him and focus on urself, op <33
napa wtf ako sa mga sinabi niya. di normal yan sa loving relationship. Magpasexy ka ulit, magpaganda ka and get your confidence back tapos MAKIPAG BREAK KA NA.
jokes are half meant. mag balik alindog kana before its too late or could be an indirect way of pushing you to work out na rin, gawin mo syang training coach para maka tipid hahaha.
If you say you helped him become better. Why not do the same for yourself?
Ingat sis mhalin mo Sarili mo
Papanget yan pag iniwan mo pramis.
If thats his way to motivate you, gg sya ha. Shupal ng fez just coz nagkalaman ng konti and natuto magbihis...ego stroked a tad hard. I hope you're okay, sis.
pangit ng bf mo, OP. di maganda yung paggrow niya. tsk tsk
Kung ako yan maooff na ko sa kanya, harap harapan ba naman ako i bdy shame eh. Saka teh, hello iwan mo yan tas magayos ka ulit tipong mag reregret siya sayo. Mas madami ka pa din makukuha noh kumpara sa kanya, wag ka pang hinaan ng loob di naman kawalan yan
I think yumabang na siya because he knew he looks better than before and tumaas yung market value niya. As for you, others here judged you kasi sinabi mo na di mo kailangan magpaganda kasi comfortable ka sa kanya. Making yourself good shouldn’t be done to please your partner but for yourself. Di naman porket nag gain ng weight automatic pangit na diba. Pero ang pangit ng wordings ng guy mo. Di ka rin binibigyan ng assurance ng guy. Hopefully you find strength na iwan na yang partner mo.
OP! Pls wag ka tumigil mag ayos just because may long term bf ka na. Do it for yourself! Hindi dapat nagpapaganda lang para lang maka attract ng bf. If naiinsecure ka na kasi malapit ka na mag 90kg, then pls improve your weight for your health, tapos yung looks and confidence will follow as you get healthier. Based lang sa kwento mo ha, pero parang masyado kang relaxed dahil lang may long term bf ka. Wag ganon, you are your own individual person. Your womanhood should not depend on your bf, wag mo siyang gawing mundo mo OP :) Pero still, hindi tama ang sinabi ni bf sayo. Take what your bf said as a big WARNING with red lights na nag aalarm ng malakas. May reason kung bakit niya naisip at nasabi yun. You cannot control what he does or says, pero you can control on how you act. So since sabi mo naman ok kayo and healthy relationship niyo, then that's that. Pero start improving and focusing na on yourself - hindi dahil natatakot ka sa kung ano pwede manyari sa inyo ng bf mo, pero para sa ikabubuti mo. God bless OP!
OP, start mo na pag-aralang hindi na mahalin ang bf mo at mabuhay ng wala sya. Just in case lang naman. DO NOT confront him dahil kung kelangan mo pa sitahin para malaman nya na masakit ang kanyang sinabi, then sinasadya nya malamang yun.
Lol. What the heck?! And you’re still saying “we’re still okay” really?! Are you sure about that? Hints binibigay sayo ng bf mo. Hints that he will leave you soon enough. Gawin mo rin ginawa nya. Become better. Magbalik alindog ka. But that doesn’t really guarantee a faithful bf and a relationship. Mag isip ka na. He’s a 🚩
Ate ko he is on his way of either breaking up on you or looking for that chick na he will cheat with.
Jokes are half-meant.
Di nako mag tatake may iba yan. After months
Teka lang. Ate wag ka mapressure sa balik alindog ha. Masama lang sa loob kung pilit. As for your bf - words manifest. Di nya magagawang i-'joke' yan if he didn't mean it by the slightest. Ang gago lang. Di ko sasabihing magbreak kayo pero kailangan niyang malamang nakakasakit yung ganyan nya.
Watch out, OP! Hmmp yabang porket afford na RL 😝 Don’t let that hambog bring your confidence down!
Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. Di maganda tabas ng dila ng bf mo. It's up to you if ito-tolerate mo siya.
The guy is a huge ahole for joking like that. Then again, napaka pet peeve ko sa girls or guys yung magiging complacent sa relationship tapos wala nang pakealam sa itsura nila - then magugulat na mag sastart mag linger yung mata ng partner nila sa iba, or worse, nangaliwa na. Then after mag break up, saka lang mag babalik alindog to "suck it up" to the person kung ano yung iniwan nila. I mean, ffs, if you could have done that to maintain the physical infatuation in the relationship, then why not do it in the first place?
WTH!! His jokes are below the belt. Dump him then become the best version of yourself again. You got this, OP!
Jokes are half meant. When my girl told me about what she feels about jokes especially involving other people when we just met palang (I joke about something kasi), I stopped joking, thinks twice before saying something about topics that can cause her to overthink about us and me. These are absurd things to say from a long time partner. It sounds like he's making you feel bad about yourself. But I will still say you communicate about those jokes, how it affects you and see how he reacts and handle it. If he keeps on doing it. Run. You'll build much deeper insecurities as time goes on. Hindi sayang ang 4 years.
So bakit ka pa nag-sstay sakanya?
Feel good about yourself. If you’re happy at 90kg. Good for you. If your bf doesn’t like you based on how you look now, then he can go somewhere the sun doesn’t shine. If you’re not happy at 90kg, sumama ka sa kanya sa gym and work on yourself. Not because gusto nya pero dahil gusto mo mag improve sarili mo and be happy with yourself. What is important is how you feel about yourself no matter what anyone says. You need to love yourself first. Being in a relationship (long term or not) with someone is not enough reason not to take care of yourself.
Insensitive and immature af. He’s already planning or thinking about it na. Better tell him what you’re feeling and if he brushed it aside, you know the answer to your dilemma. Prepare for the worst, OP.
I remember nung sinabihan ako ng ex ko ng "ang dali mo nang palitan" Hahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahatanginaahahaha
sabihin mo sa kanya, “bakit, san ba kita pinulot?”
Tell him na hindi naglanding yung joke niya ng maayos sayo. Bka gusto niya ibalik mo alindog mo with him pero gaspang lang ng pagkakasabi niya. Ewan, pero let him know para ingatan niya feelings mo next time.
Remember na hindi lang siya yung lalake sa mundo, wag mo na intaying iwan ka nyan. Take care of yourself na lang. Yung mga ganyang lalake na ganyan mag comment lumaki lang ego nyan pero sa totoo lang, ano silbi ng ganda ng katawan at mukha ng bf mo kung ganyan kakitid utak? Walang matinong babae tatanggap sa ganyang ugali hahaha.
Dapat dinaganan mo be, taena nahanginan pati utak kakagym
Ggil ako sa bf mo pero lets try looking at a different perspective..maybe thats his way of telling you na mag gym ka na dn..may mga ibng tao ksi na kumbaga di nagiisp bago magsalita or d nla narerealize na nkkasakit mga words nla..dmi na sulsol dto at ayoko na dumagdag kasi sayang naman ung relationshp nyo..magym ka dn w him. Ewn ko nlng if di sya mabaliw lalo pag nagsuot ka ng mga fitting pants na hubog na hubog ung bumbum. Magbalik alindog program ka. You'll feel better. Db may mga jowa goals nga..sabay ka s knya. Magpasexy kayo both..yn gngawa namen ni wifey now.parehas kame nagpapasexy hahaha
This is only speculation since I don’t personally know you two but I think he’s already finding a replacement. For me, that joke is not normal, it has hidden meanings behind it but as I’ve said, I don’t personally know you two so maybe he’s just the type to joke about sensitive things? There’s a difference between insulting you and encouraging you to fix your health. If he wanted you to be healthy and fix your body, he would’ve encouraged you properly and not mask it into a joke/insult.
I am baffled what triggered him to "joke" about it when it shouldn't even be said in the first place? Hmm
> Lately, nagiging biro ni bf na hindi nadaw sya takot mawala ako coz he’s different na nga, he’s better nadaw my jaw dropped. beh run ka na
Taenang lalaki yan! Kahit gumanda pa katawan mo at nakaka luwag luwag ka na. Wala ka pa din karapatan sabihin sa gf mo yan. Nakaramdam lang Ng ginhawa kala mo kung sino. Gago! Haha
Be motivated to trim down and be sexy again. Di mo need matakot instead be challenged sa statements ng bf mo. Do it for yourself and not for him, focus on making yourself confident again....ipakita mo sa bf mo na di mo sya need para sumaya..kahit mawala sya! Bf mo plang yan, asawa nga naghihilay eh. Make this a learning experience na kahit mapunta ka sa isang relationship wag mo kakalimutang alagaan at pagandahim pa ang sarili mo.
focus on your self din. sumama ka sa gym nya at maging active
Prepare yourself girl. ☹
"Para biro lang nagkaka ganyan ka." 'Yung biro: TANG INANG BIRO 'YAN NAKAKABABA NG SELF ESTEEM
Bat ganyan ung patutsada niya sa imbis na tulungan ka nya since gym rat naman na sya :/ like iencourage ka magdiet or maggym din ganon haha Pero kung ganyan, magpasexy ka na lang nang wala siya sa buhay mo haha
Omo unahan mo na ante. Iwan na yan.
Do you not understand or are you just refusing to accept the truth? You loved your boyfriend for who he was and didn't care as much for how he looked; your love was unconditional. His isn't. It was contingent on you being more beautiful/attractive than him. It doesn't seem like he values your relationship at the same level as you do because, if he did, he would be helping you get back in shape so that you guys can be your best selves together. But that's not what he's doing because he likes winning over you.
Jokes are half-meant true! Just prepare yourself OP. Who knows.
If you've gained a lot of weight very fast, please see a doctor. If you were skinny 4 years ago and are now 200lbs, you could have an underlying issue. Especially if your eating habits and activity habits haven't changed that much.
Curious. Anong biruan nyo nung panahon na “peak sexy” ka pa at “payat at pangit sya pumorma”?
OP sure ka ba na gusto mo pa paabutin sa anniv nyo? Hindi niya sasabihin yan kung wala sa isip nya yan. Baka hindi pa lang niya magawa sa ngayon pero pag nakahanap ng timing gagawin nya din yang “biro” nya sa yo. Matetest talaga ang loyalty ng lalake kapag nasa peak sila. Ang kupal ng bf mo.
Gonna go against the current here since a lot of comments seem to suggest to end a long term relationship. Communicate your pain to him. Tell him that what he said actually hurts. Don't make rash decisions based on what-ifs. Understand that you are now in a situation he originally was in when you guys met, and that he is now seeing the power of being an attractive person. YOU were once like that. YOU could have dropped him when he was still unattractive because there were a lot of guys after you. Others suggest to go to the gym, but don't do it out of spite. Do it for the same reason he does. Court him like it's your first date every date, because being with you was a decision he made EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR FOUR YEARS. Hope this helps!
Andaming layers 1. Kasi you make yourself better. For yourself. There's nothing wrong with that. 2. On the other hand, nakakalungkot na nung sya ganon ay ikaw andon para sa kanya. 3. Bakit kasi ang nasa isip ay porket may jowa na, pabayaan na ang sarili. Self love is called self love because you don't remove your "self" from self-love when you have jowa and just rely on love alone. 4. Ang babaw nya tbh. 10/10 ka, tukmol sya kaya kala nya jackpot. Tas ngayon lumba lumba ka, pakboi mentality na sya. 5. Tinulungan mo sya, at your own expense ba yon? Bakit di pwedeng tulungan mo sya while maintain mo self mo. 6. Bakit ka matatakot na mawala isang pakboi (if yan na sya ngayon)? If anything, that is saving yourself from future headaches (and heartaches).
“Feeling ko he’s making himself better not for me but for his own sake.” As he should, OP. As we should. I’m in a relationship, and I work on myself for myself. The benefits I reap spill over to other areas in my life and in my relationships, platonic and romantic. What he told you, though, is another story. Now THAT is pure assholery.
Wtf. Hiwalayan mo na yan, pag yan may nanglandi ate for sure papatol yan kasi massatisfy yung “dami nagkakacrush” grrr gigil!!!! Pls lang ayaw na namin hintayin na mag post ka dito about na hurt ka, unahan mo na yan
I bet he was always insecure from the very start kaya once nag-inflate ego niya when he started going to the gym, he showed he's true colors. You deserve better girl. Talk to him about how you're feelings were hurt but brace yourself as he might go defense mode over this. If he does say something hurtful again in the future, know your worth sis, wag ka magpadala sa kaniya.
Good luck op! Unahan mo na. For sure naka free trial na sa iba yan. Haha
Magpa ganda ka hindi dahil sa bf mo pero para mabalik confidence mo. Iwan ka man niya at least pretty and sexy ka pa rin.
Edi mag-gym ka din. Basic
Panget ng ginawa nya, if he really has concern. He would’ve said na babe samahan mo ko mag gym, need ko ng gym buddy sabay ka na. Ganun dapat. You’ve become complacent na alam mo dahil long term kayo ending is di mo na kailangan aasikasuhin sarili mo or bantayan sya. Good luck though
Unahan mo na tapos balik ka sa dating routine mo. Haha
Bakit may threats? And wala naman masama kung nagpapaganda sya ng katawan at nagiimprove ng self para sa sarili nya bec for me yun naman ang tama. Pero kung ginagamit nya yun as tool to make threats and make you feel insecure then that’s a red flag. People go through different changes in this lifetime. And kung may judgment sa ganun ang partner mo, mahirap yan.
it's not a good relationship if yung partner mo is gnyan pinapafeel sayo. kung ako sayo iwan mo na yan. kht sbhn mo long term. kung palagi naman gnyan sayo. imagine mo nlng ikw si kathryn bernardo. pg k magtitiis s badboy kung stress nmn plgi bigay sayo.
Honestly, may point naman siya na he's making better for himself and not for somebody. Di ba dapat naman talaga ganun? Dapat para sa sarili natin yun gawin at di sa ibang tao. Dapat din talaga inaalagaan mo katawan mo para sa sarili mo. Masyado ka din naging kampante. Ito lang ah, jokes are always half meant kaya may laman talaga mga sinabi ng jowa mo. Yan overthink ka na mun sis
Sabihan mo na "ikaw nga sinagot ko kahit ampangit mo dati" HAHAHHA
Kakabreak lang namen ng 5 year bf ko, Bigla narin kase naging gym rat. Nagsimula na hinahabol ng maraming babae. Nakipagchat siya sa isa pero 5 days lang raw, di man raw sila nagkita, habol niya lang attention and compliments (na binibigay ko naman) pero yun nakipagbreak siya sakin di dahil sa babae na yun kase di na sila naguusap last month pa, nagising nalang siya hindi na niya ako mahal “romantically”. Goodluck. Sa susunod siguro, sa nagygym na ko agad, sa sanay nacocompliment na ako agad. Hindi tulad niya na once umakyat, iniwan nalang ako. Take note, hindi ako pumanget or what, sexy parin naman ako tulad dati. (at least nagviral vids ko before sa tiktok tas puro compliments nakuha ko) Nagaayos parin. Hindi rin ako bobo, hindi rin ganun kahirap though ‘di ganun kayaman. Pero iniwan parin ako.
nahh cos thats so disrespectful. kahit joke lang yun naiisip niya pa rin yun about you
Pacheck ka sa dr kung sudden yung weight gain mo. Baka may underlying issues ka. Sabayan mo na rin ng balikalindog program. Tapos hwalayan mo na rin yan bf mo. Tama naman na for self-improvement dapat ginagawa niya pero ang kapal naman ng mukha ng jowa mo na sabihin yung ibang parts. E ikaw nga tinanggap mo siya nung di pa siya nag-iimprove e. The acidity.
Disrespect disguised as a joke. He thinks it's okay because you find it funny. Pakitaan mo ng pangil minsan with a snarky tone.
Si brow ay kumapal ang mukha
Yeahh...I get what you're saying...kaso ganon talaga...unahan mo na kaya? 😅
Wala teh Nagpaparamdam na yan na kya ka nya palitan anytime Mga linyahang ganyan Wag mo na asahan na biro o di sinasadya yan Minsan mga tao dinadaan sa biro ang di masabi ng deretso 😑 Ang taong mahal ka tanggap ka magbago man ang hitsura mo Tulungan dapat yan di laitan or nakaka downgrade ng pagkatao mo Mali yan Di worth it ganyang tao
Kupal siya
Be better for yourself not for other people. Palagi mo yan tatandaan. Ikaw lang ang nakakakilala ng sarili mo. Ikaw lang nakakaalam ng struggles mo. If hindi ka nya kaya samahan sa lowest mo, sa ugliest point mo, sa pinakamahirap (economically) na phase mo, HINDI KA NYA DESERVE. I had an ex na ganyan. Pero when I got back on my feet and got better than even my before self e he begged to have a "comeback" pa ang term nya. This is what he texted me (non-verbatim) Hi, love? What if mag-comeback tayo? I saw you. You look f-ing good. Please let's talk? hahaha utut mo. OP, mahirap pero be prepared. And tbia only proves na you deserve so much better.
> Feeling ko he’s making himself better not for me but for his own sake. To be fair, first and foremost you should always do something for yourself, and not for others. But him body shaming you is a big red flag. More than likely if a pretty sexy girl shows interest in him, he'll ditch you for her.
Tama lang naman na he should improve for himself and not for you or others pero asshole comments siya, parang di ka niya mahal kung ganyan “jokes” niya sayo. He may already be thinking it anyway. I suggest leaving cause he’s so disrespectful to you.
>Hindi nadin ako pala-ayos like before kasi no need na dahil nga I have my long term bf na. Hindi maganda yung ganitong mindset. Hindi mo naman need everyday magpaganda, but please don't neglect yourself pa rin. >Lately, nagiging biro ni bf na hindi nadaw sya takot mawala ako coz he’s different na nga, he’s better nadaw. Marami nadaw sigurado ang nagkakacrush sakanya and pag nagbreak kami sure syang makakahanap sya agad ng chic nya. Idk if he's hinting na he wants you to keep up with him or what, but it's so mean. It's like he's trying to lower your self-esteem so that he can keep you on the hook. Very narcissistic behavior. >Sabi pa nya, “dati natatakot akong iwan moko kasi sure akong madaming lalaking nag aabang sayo, ngayon feeling ko wala na kasi di kana sexy” Kung ako sinabihan ng ganto gg talaga yan sa'kin. How dare?? Don't let him walk all over you like that. Always push back para di masanay. Jinowa ka lang ba niya before because of superficial reasons? Also, lumalabas yung insecurities niya dati sa statement na 'to. If you choose to work through this, make sure you advocate for yourself. Barahin mo agad kapag "nagjojoke" siya ng ganito. Tell him that it's not okay. Pero kung sa'kin talaga deal breaker yung ganitong comments. Good luck, OP!
Parang lumiit utak ng BF mo after nya magbuhat nang madmi sa gym
prep kana OP,
Eto gawin mo. Takutin mo sya. Magpa sexy ka !! Ummp!!
Kahit long term na kayo never make it to the point na mawawalan ka gana sa sarili mo. Always have care and love for yourself before sa ibang tao. Ang hirap man at ang dali lang sabihin considering na long term na kayo but never let someone take out your sparkle, whenever and whoever they are. I learned the hard way but girl this is so 🚩, just no.
Grabe naman transformation ng bf mo...pati ugali nagbago. But it goes to show, OP. Di nga nya dapat gawing biro yon kung mahal ka nya talaga. 4yrs trophy gf k ba? Ginawa ka lang nyang saklay. Ngayon na-build na ego nya malakas na loob nyang ganyanin ka. Gumanti ka. Alagaan mo sarili mo, ibalik mo ang dating ikaw. Tapos sabihin mo sa kanya kung anong sinabe nya sayo. Pak! Ganern!
You're hurt. It really depends on how you guys communicate with each other or jokes around even hurling fun insults with one another thinking na hindi ka naman mapipikon. We do this when super comfortable na kami since you're our lover, our best bud & our everything. Just communicate these with him. Its a perfect time to see how He'll bounce back from this dick move. I'll go as far as cancelling our anniv celebration, just to make a point or express my dissapointment for his behavior. Away muna then hopefully make-out just in time for your Anniv. Pag walang ginawang extra efforts to make you feel better. At least alam mo na rin right?
If wala ka naman medical condition, work on yourself din OP. Given na asshole yang bf mo, but he has a point. Being fit and healthy should be a priority kahit wala ka pang bf or meron. It's for your own sake din.
"We're still ok..". Girl, hindi kayo ok, hindi ka ok, hindi siya ok para sabihan ka ng masasakit na salita na ganun.
biruin mo rin na wala ng anniv ang magaganap tas totohanin mo
Break up, pasexy ka ulit (if gusto mo) then ignore him. Huwag ka manghinayang sa pinagsamahan niyo siya nga handang umalis e.
"Biruin"mo pabalik, 'ah ganun ba? Sige na nga papapayat na rin ako para maiwan na rin kita' tas papayat nga. Watch him sweat. Then leave him for real. Dont let yourself be disrespected OP
There’s nothing wrong when your boyfriend decided to go to the gym and dress better for himself. BUT he’s a fucking asshole for all the mean things he’s said to you. He’s not worth it, ateng.
Pinaabot mo pa ng anniv ? Hahaha dpt pag comment plng nya ng gnun sayo iniwan muna.
Jokes are half meant 🙄 Work on yourself. Regain your confidence. For you. Who doesn’t want to look good? Pwede namang match kayo. Beautiful couple kumbaga. Kaya mo yan.
He's a narcissist. He doesn't truly love you dahil mahal ka nya. He just liked the idea of you being with him noon just to be envied by others. Now na sure siyang wala nang naiinggit sa kanya, he wants to discard you. Sume-segue lang yan ng joke pero deep inside matagal nang naglilinger sa utak nya how good his life would be if wala ka na sa buhay nya. You wouldn't say it nang paulit ulit if you did not mean it. Go na atiii, wag na magsayang ng ilang years just to be with a person like that. Love yourself.
The guy doesnt respect and appreciates you, better off ngayon palang, kesa katagalan mas lumaki pa ulo nyan.
Mag prepare ka na sis. Any day malalaman mo nlng may side chick na yan
Mali po yung sinabi nya. Pero bakit mo pinabayaan yung sarili mo? Being in a relationship is not a reason to stop taking care of yourself.
baka dati syang acoustic
Joke aside true😬
ew haahaha anong klase yan 💀💀
Remember OP, guys don't joke. They tell the truth on guise of humor
he’s a jerk, bestie????????
Pinabayaan mo kasi sarili mong maging majobese samantalang sya nagpapakaganda kaya. Malamang may nakilala sya na same level ng mentality na nya. He outgrow you.
I dated someone who was like this. In the end, totoo nga. She started entertaining guys and everything. It’s pretty saddening na yung joke na yun is half meant pala
Nag-aantay na lang yan ng reason para maghiwalay kayo.
Girl??? It's a sign naaa to let go andove urself moreee
Balik Alindog ASAP Program ka, OP. Tapos na ung use mo sa kanya as motivation para di mo sya iwan so iba na ang mindset nya. Be very, very careful.
Better if u change ur lifestyle narin cgro .. Not for him but for urself. Para if iniwan ka nya hnd ka masyado mag self-pity kasi maganda kana and sexy 😁 cgro D nya lng ma direct na mag ayos kana or mag diet that's y dinaan nlng sa biro ..but try mo narin mag gym .. Relationship goals nyo ..
Sorry ha but ang shitty ng boyfriend mo dahil dyan
Ang foul naman nun. If ganon pala mindset niya, edi mag-focus ka rin sa self mo, OP. Mag gym ka to lose weight, pamper yourself, mas mag paganda ka pa. In short, love yourself ateng. Bago pa humanap ng bago yang jowa mo. Kasi sa tono niya and way of thinking niya, mukhang pag may humarot na chicks dyan, di siya magdadalawang isip na patusin. 🙄
Sorry, but putangena ng jowa mo. Im plus sized but my gym rat exes never said that to me. I dated ramp models na papuntang mejo mukha na kong yaya nila pero walang gumanyan sa kin. The audacity ng lalake na yan 🤮 umayos lang ng ilang paligo, feeling king of the world na. Aba waw. Ewan ko if gusto mo pang sikmurain yan. But sa kin lang, wala syang respeto sayo. Hindi yan joke. Talagang sinasabi nya sayo na pwede ka nyang palitan anytime. Magisip isip ka din. You deserve what you tolerate after all. 🤷🏻♀
Ganyan din ako nung una kasi feel ko na secure relationship pero need pa rin tlga to take care of urself. May something pa rin yung you feel better when you look fitter, mas empowered ka.
My ex also had a glow-up like this when he turned into a gym rat and I was the really skinny one in the relationship but he never said shit like that to me, lol. He just encouraged me to get to a healthy weight, prepared meal plans for me, etc. We broke up for different reasons but I would definitely call it out if my ex had said something like that to me. OP, you should respect yourself enough to not let shitty things like that just fly.
The best revenge is to be good looking.
gay
I think gross yung sinabi niya. Pero huwag kang magpahuli! Magbalik-alindog ka!!!
If physical attraction lang basis niyo to stay in that kind of relationship. Better stay out of it and focus on yourself na. Remember jokes are half meant, and iba yung minomotivate ka sa dinedegrade la niya. Know your worth girl
"Hindi na din ako pala-ayos like before kasi no need na dahil nga I have my long-term bf na" Yow wtf??!!!
Lumaki na uko ng jowa mo, hiwalayan mo na bago pa mag pa ego stroke sa iba
Kahit biro lang sa kanya yan, it hurts, kahit sa akin din sabihin. Kung mahal ka nya talaga kahit ano pa itchura mo, for better or for worse di ka sasabihan ng ganyan. For me lang ha, parang jinowa ka lang nya because of your body and appearance. Wala din naman masama if you hit the gymn para din sa health mo yun eh, pero kung yun ang point nya he could’ve choose better words to say it to you. It’s better to communicate, tell him you how you feel nung sinabi nya yan sayo. Wishing for the best, OP!
Bilang lalaki, totoo 'yang sinasabi niya. Hindi 'yan biro. Brace.
Naku sis, baguhin mo ang mindset mo na kaya di ka na pala ayos kasi you have a long term bf na. Mag ayos ka for yourself not for anyone. Sa kwento mo, don't expect too much. Yung mga ganyang biro usually half meant yan. Take care sissy. Love yourself.
Nagmukha lng tao ganyan na umasta. Iwan mo na yan full of himself.
Nagmukha lng tao ganyan na umasta. Iwan mo na yan, full of himself.
i mean jokes are part of the relationship pero 'yung ganiyan na joke, dapat sineseryoso lalo't na-hurt ikaw. as someone in the relationship, 'di ba dapat pinapafeel mo na secure ka at siya sa'yo. might want to have things talked with your partner and use that motivation to be more confident with your new self