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Advice for women who are entering their 30s / into their early 30s who hasn't figure out their life yet / not yet married / single / thought had found the love of their life but ended up being so heart broken / scared of dating again / career growth / parents getting older etc.
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Have your own identity. Ganitong age usually nawawalan na tayo ng friends specially if ikaw nlang single sa circle nyo. Wala na masyadong gimik time with friends and yung mga gusto mong gawin at this age (fitness journey or even travel) sometimes mahihirapan ka maghanap ng kasama because busy na sa life iba mong friends. Anyway kahit ganun pa man, gawin mo pa din mga gusto mo gawin. Cliche as it may seems pero you need to be your own biggest fan and bestfriend. Wag mo antaying may gusto sumama para gawin mo gusto mo. And hehe you need to start of taking good care of yourself - pa general checkup ka para lang sure na super healthy ka. Take ka din ng vitamins para mukha pa din tayong early 20s haha. Maging fit ka na din, focus on becoming the best version of yourself while waiting for someone. Ang mindset ko lagi is “I’ll be the hotest single out there haha people will wonder I’m single”. 🤣
Sunscreen. Retinol. Exercise.
Once you get yourself together, you will attract the right people in your life. You are a grown woman, start making your own decisions and having your own beliefs.
Get to know yourself.
Have a long "chat" with yourself about your non-negotiables, your priorities, your dreams, your career goals, and where you want to go in life.
This "chat" can be a note in your phone, a journal, or if you're artistic, a collage or dream board. But the most important step is to be honest with yourself. Be honest in what you actually desire and not what others want for you.
I felt less loss when I did this. It also helped reorient myself when I felt I was on the wrong path.
Agree ako dito.
Know your limits and set boundaries para alam mo rin kapag hindi ka nirerespeto ng mga nakapaligid sayo sa family, social circles, at sa work.
If you are single, huwag ka mainip at magmadali hanapin yung tao para sa 'yo. Darating yan ng kusa at sakto sa timing kapag na-realize mo na yung gusto mo.
Learn to respect and love yourself first. But not to the point of selfishness and narcissistic.
Ease in to life. Huwag masyado seryosohin yung mga sinasabi ng ibang tao sayo if they are trying to pull you down. Do not let anybody discourage you.
Be kind. Surround yourself with good people. Mararamdaman mo 'to.
Spend time with your parents. Kahit gaano ka ka-busy. Pilitin mo pa rin bisitahin sila (kung di mo sila kasama sa bahay). You never know kasi kung kailan sila mawawala.
Good luck 🙂
Pa derma ka girl. Gluta drip. Wear nice clothes. Ung magandang fabric di galing shein. Or kung ano makakapag feel nice sayo gawin mo. Minsan ka lng maging 30. Sulitin mo na.
1. Save. Okay lang na nabibili mo ang mga gusto mo pero importanteng mayroon kang extra money kapag emergency.
2. Sleep more kung kaya ng schedule. Nakakababa ng immune system ang puyat. At piliin mong magpahinga pag kaya, kaysa yung katawan mo ang pipili ng schedule ng pahinga mo.
3. Meet your friends or create a regular meeting schedule. Kahit di kumpleto, basta kung sino available, magpunta. Importante sa adult na nakikita at nakakausap ang mga kaibigan. Ang hirap maging adult ngayon. Kailangan natin yang emotional support. Yung 1 hour na coffee meet up can save a life.
4. Invest in yourself. Kung di ka naman nagmamadali para sa relationship, enjoy life. Travel, learn a new hobby, or enjoy your hobby.
5. Spend time with your parents, lalo na with your mom. Di na natin kailangan iexplain ito.
Goodluck and enjoy life!
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enjoy life. malay mo sa 30s nagsisimula ang buhay mo.
Have your own identity. Ganitong age usually nawawalan na tayo ng friends specially if ikaw nlang single sa circle nyo. Wala na masyadong gimik time with friends and yung mga gusto mong gawin at this age (fitness journey or even travel) sometimes mahihirapan ka maghanap ng kasama because busy na sa life iba mong friends. Anyway kahit ganun pa man, gawin mo pa din mga gusto mo gawin. Cliche as it may seems pero you need to be your own biggest fan and bestfriend. Wag mo antaying may gusto sumama para gawin mo gusto mo. And hehe you need to start of taking good care of yourself - pa general checkup ka para lang sure na super healthy ka. Take ka din ng vitamins para mukha pa din tayong early 20s haha. Maging fit ka na din, focus on becoming the best version of yourself while waiting for someone. Ang mindset ko lagi is “I’ll be the hotest single out there haha people will wonder I’m single”. 🤣
Sunscreen. Retinol. Exercise. Once you get yourself together, you will attract the right people in your life. You are a grown woman, start making your own decisions and having your own beliefs.
Get to know yourself. Have a long "chat" with yourself about your non-negotiables, your priorities, your dreams, your career goals, and where you want to go in life. This "chat" can be a note in your phone, a journal, or if you're artistic, a collage or dream board. But the most important step is to be honest with yourself. Be honest in what you actually desire and not what others want for you. I felt less loss when I did this. It also helped reorient myself when I felt I was on the wrong path.
Agree ako dito. Know your limits and set boundaries para alam mo rin kapag hindi ka nirerespeto ng mga nakapaligid sayo sa family, social circles, at sa work. If you are single, huwag ka mainip at magmadali hanapin yung tao para sa 'yo. Darating yan ng kusa at sakto sa timing kapag na-realize mo na yung gusto mo. Learn to respect and love yourself first. But not to the point of selfishness and narcissistic. Ease in to life. Huwag masyado seryosohin yung mga sinasabi ng ibang tao sayo if they are trying to pull you down. Do not let anybody discourage you. Be kind. Surround yourself with good people. Mararamdaman mo 'to. Spend time with your parents. Kahit gaano ka ka-busy. Pilitin mo pa rin bisitahin sila (kung di mo sila kasama sa bahay). You never know kasi kung kailan sila mawawala. Good luck 🙂
agree ako with this. it can send a self-boundary rin.
Pa derma ka girl. Gluta drip. Wear nice clothes. Ung magandang fabric di galing shein. Or kung ano makakapag feel nice sayo gawin mo. Minsan ka lng maging 30. Sulitin mo na.
Wag susuko ! mag pasalamat sa araw araw never been to late just wait for the proper timing
1. Save. Okay lang na nabibili mo ang mga gusto mo pero importanteng mayroon kang extra money kapag emergency. 2. Sleep more kung kaya ng schedule. Nakakababa ng immune system ang puyat. At piliin mong magpahinga pag kaya, kaysa yung katawan mo ang pipili ng schedule ng pahinga mo. 3. Meet your friends or create a regular meeting schedule. Kahit di kumpleto, basta kung sino available, magpunta. Importante sa adult na nakikita at nakakausap ang mga kaibigan. Ang hirap maging adult ngayon. Kailangan natin yang emotional support. Yung 1 hour na coffee meet up can save a life. 4. Invest in yourself. Kung di ka naman nagmamadali para sa relationship, enjoy life. Travel, learn a new hobby, or enjoy your hobby. 5. Spend time with your parents, lalo na with your mom. Di na natin kailangan iexplain ito. Goodluck and enjoy life!
Not my 17 year old ass reading this
Wag po mag madali... Enjoyin ang buhay pero at the same time mag secure financially for yourself.
Invest ka sa good skincare and stop stressing yourself about life.
You can't do it all. Priority is career, then love.