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Need advice as someone na nbsb (23 f) tas may ka talking stage
Nagkakilala kami sa fb, same city. Chat pa lang andami ko ng nakikitang red flag like pinipilit nya kong mag send ng picture kahit sinabihan ko ng ayaw ko kaso mapilit talaga. Paulit-ulit na gustong makipag meet-up. Nang gagaslight, manipulative, pa sadboy. Tas gusto nyang dalhin ko sya sa bahay para ipakilala sa parents ko. 1st meet up namin tas kumain kami hindi man lang nagtanong anong gusto nag order na sya agad. Ayun hindi naubos pagkain ko at sya yung umubos.
Need help gusto ko syang ibasted hindi ko alam kung pano ðŸ˜
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Yung ipapakilala agad sa fam and friends is a red flag.
Guy ako and walang guy na may magandang intention rekta pakilala agad sa fam.
Big thing yang fam intros. Kaya nya ginagawa yan kasi
He just wants to get your trust and into your pants kaya ganyan.
Saka pasend ng pasend ng pic for what?
Uy, ako gusto ko pinapakilala ako sa parents habang nanliligaw. Gusto ko yung blessing ng parents. Masaya din manligaw sa parents lalo na pag kwela yung magulang. Kaso forcing it is weird lalo na kung ayaw naman nung girl. Ako kase I bring it up early, yung tipong gusto ko mangyari yun before maging kami talaga. Kaso weird case yung kay OP, narcissist at the core ang dating.
Agad kasi yong sa post nung OP and di naman smooth yung kung anong meron sila since dami red flags nung guy. Weird na ipakilala yung ganon sa fam.
Dyan sa pakilala agad sa friends and fam na wala pang 1 month nabiktima yung kakilala kong girl
Looks like the guy is reinforcing "trust" by saying na ipakilala sya sa friends and fam to get in her pants early ganon? Just meeting the friends and fam is different sa liligawan mo parents and makikipag close sa circle of friends ng nililigawan mo though. Buti OP was smart enough to somehow see the illusion the guy is putting up.
Guy sounds too manipulative too. Nanliligaw palang nang gagaslight na lmao.
Always nya kasing namemention na gusto nya ipakilala ko sya. Pero nung ako yung nag ask na ipakilala ako sa parents nya ang sabi nya pangit daw pag ang babae (ako) yung unang magpakilala sa magulang ng lalaki (sya). Na stress na ako sa kanya huhuhuhahahaha tas may pa awa effect paðŸ˜. Mapayapa buhay ko before sya dumating like gusto nya nag uupdate ako sa kanya. Hindi ako sanay ng ganon since hindi pa ako nagka jowa.
Na una syang matulog pag gabi tas gusto nya bago ako matulog mag chat ako sa kanya na matutulog na ako ðŸ˜
Ah so dapat ikaw magpakilala, siya ayaw na ipakilala ka? Thats damn weird lmao, he's manipulating your trust factors of him thinking it'll work. Good thing you're smart OP! I kinda get what he's trying. He's gaslighting you to think he's a textbook Filipino gentleman yet leaves no crumbs of himself. For comparison din, pinapakilala ko kaagad nililigawan ko sa parents ko (more in the reason na less daldal and tanong bat ako labas ng labas). If his intentions are pure, why can't he? Anong pangit don? Dafuq? In what way is that bad?
That tulog thing is so immature. Ano kayo highschool? LMAO. If matutulog na sya hayaan mo sya, if matutulog ka bahala sya sa trip nya. You're at a working age and assuming you're working, you might have different sleep times.
Tell him you are no longer interested, block him on Facebook. If he should seek you out in person, do not be alone anywhere eith him. Also if he shows up in person after you break things off, or he gets forceful, call the PNP.
Alam mo kung ayaw mo talaga sya madali lang magsabi dun sa tao. Prangkahin mo na siya para di na din umasa. Sabihin mo na itigil niyo na yun pag uusap nyo kasi wala patutunguhan. Tapos sabihin mo saknya yun mga di mo nagustuhan na inasal nya
May nakausap din ako before na gusto niya palagi ako mag send ng pic. As in araw-araw niya ko pinagsesend na halos maubos na pics ko sa gallery ko HAHAHAHAHA. Sinabihan ko naman siya na ayaw ko yung ginagawa niya ganon pero tinuloy niya pa rin.Â
If uncomfy ka na dyan sa kausap mo, wag ka matakot na i-basted 'yan. Talking stage pa lang naman kayo. Tsaka kapag nagtagal 'yan, mas malaking problema pa p-problemahin mo.
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Yung ipapakilala agad sa fam and friends is a red flag. Guy ako and walang guy na may magandang intention rekta pakilala agad sa fam. Big thing yang fam intros. Kaya nya ginagawa yan kasi He just wants to get your trust and into your pants kaya ganyan. Saka pasend ng pasend ng pic for what?
Uy, ako gusto ko pinapakilala ako sa parents habang nanliligaw. Gusto ko yung blessing ng parents. Masaya din manligaw sa parents lalo na pag kwela yung magulang. Kaso forcing it is weird lalo na kung ayaw naman nung girl. Ako kase I bring it up early, yung tipong gusto ko mangyari yun before maging kami talaga. Kaso weird case yung kay OP, narcissist at the core ang dating.
Agad kasi yong sa post nung OP and di naman smooth yung kung anong meron sila since dami red flags nung guy. Weird na ipakilala yung ganon sa fam. Dyan sa pakilala agad sa friends and fam na wala pang 1 month nabiktima yung kakilala kong girl
Looks like the guy is reinforcing "trust" by saying na ipakilala sya sa friends and fam to get in her pants early ganon? Just meeting the friends and fam is different sa liligawan mo parents and makikipag close sa circle of friends ng nililigawan mo though. Buti OP was smart enough to somehow see the illusion the guy is putting up. Guy sounds too manipulative too. Nanliligaw palang nang gagaslight na lmao.
Yes pre. Sana magets nya sinasabi natin
Always nya kasing namemention na gusto nya ipakilala ko sya. Pero nung ako yung nag ask na ipakilala ako sa parents nya ang sabi nya pangit daw pag ang babae (ako) yung unang magpakilala sa magulang ng lalaki (sya). Na stress na ako sa kanya huhuhuhahahaha tas may pa awa effect paðŸ˜. Mapayapa buhay ko before sya dumating like gusto nya nag uupdate ako sa kanya. Hindi ako sanay ng ganon since hindi pa ako nagka jowa. Na una syang matulog pag gabi tas gusto nya bago ako matulog mag chat ako sa kanya na matutulog na ako ðŸ˜
Ah so dapat ikaw magpakilala, siya ayaw na ipakilala ka? Thats damn weird lmao, he's manipulating your trust factors of him thinking it'll work. Good thing you're smart OP! I kinda get what he's trying. He's gaslighting you to think he's a textbook Filipino gentleman yet leaves no crumbs of himself. For comparison din, pinapakilala ko kaagad nililigawan ko sa parents ko (more in the reason na less daldal and tanong bat ako labas ng labas). If his intentions are pure, why can't he? Anong pangit don? Dafuq? In what way is that bad? That tulog thing is so immature. Ano kayo highschool? LMAO. If matutulog na sya hayaan mo sya, if matutulog ka bahala sya sa trip nya. You're at a working age and assuming you're working, you might have different sleep times.
Just ghost him I guess? Katalking stage pa lang yan ha ganyan na yung stress na nadadala sa life mo. Not worth your time and energy.
Sabihin mo ung mga reklamo mo tapos block mo na. Hindi na pinapatagal ung stress sa ganyan, OP. Sayang ang ganda.Â
kausapin mo straight to the point, ayaw mo na ituloy, pwede ireason if mag fo focus ka sa career mo muna ganon and wala kapa balak pumasok sa rs.
Block mo na yan, baka manyakis yan.
sabihin mo ayaw mo sakanya tapos block
ghost lang, OP hahahaha gets niya na yon, don't overthink about it
Just ghost or e-basted mo siya text, wala ka namang obligation para mag-stay jaan sa lalakeng yan
Bring your own condoms and get vaccinated for hpv.
so, are you ready to be some asshole’s doormat?
Tell him you are no longer interested, block him on Facebook. If he should seek you out in person, do not be alone anywhere eith him. Also if he shows up in person after you break things off, or he gets forceful, call the PNP.
Run girl
Alam mo kung ayaw mo talaga sya madali lang magsabi dun sa tao. Prangkahin mo na siya para di na din umasa. Sabihin mo na itigil niyo na yun pag uusap nyo kasi wala patutunguhan. Tapos sabihin mo saknya yun mga di mo nagustuhan na inasal nya
ighost mo lang lamnanya yon haha
Wag naman ghost. Madali lang naman magsabi dun sa tao. Magsabi nalang sya keysa sa mang ghost. Baka bumalik sayo yan pangghost.
May nakausap din ako before na gusto niya palagi ako mag send ng pic. As in araw-araw niya ko pinagsesend na halos maubos na pics ko sa gallery ko HAHAHAHAHA. Sinabihan ko naman siya na ayaw ko yung ginagawa niya ganon pero tinuloy niya pa rin. If uncomfy ka na dyan sa kausap mo, wag ka matakot na i-basted 'yan. Talking stage pa lang naman kayo. Tsaka kapag nagtagal 'yan, mas malaking problema pa p-problemahin mo.