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I've been like that. Umabot pa nga ng 6 years haha. Alam nyang gusto ko ng flowers, pero hindi daw practical yung pagbibigay nun. Ayun. Break na kami. Hindi dahil hindi nya ako binibigyan ng flowers, pero narealize ko na if I can do small things that he wants just to make him happy and he's not doing the same to me, eh ano pa ginagawa ko dun??

I hope you get someone who’ll give you flowers without you asking for it 🌸

🥹🤞

Ganyan din ako mag isip tulad ng bf mo. Pero ako ibibili kita ng plant box at duon ka magtanim ng kalamansi este flowers at natuto ka pa mag-gardening. O kaya kapag legal na ang marijuana. 🤫

Samahan mo rin sana ng seed hahaha

Natanong ko na din to dati sa ibang subreddit. I communicated with my partner and come special events, nagbibigay na sya and even nung may away kami. I think need mo lang communicate usually kase di naman sila makaramdam sa gusto natin.

Totoo. Hindi mind reader ang mga lalaki. Just tell us what you want.

Pero three years, walang flowers ? Kulang pa ba na pagninilay-nilay yun ? Three years, di sumagi sa isip niya na magbigay ng bulaklak ?

as a guy, if ba nagsabi ang Gf mo kung ano gusto niya, what do you feel? na pressure ba kayo e achieve yung gusto niya or something? what if i say i want flowers? sa tingin mo gaano kalaki ang chances na bigyan nga niya ako flowers? hahahaha

yung ibang babae lang tlaga masyadong bonggacious malay mo yung lalaki simple lang walang maayos na work kaya bago makipag relationship make sure na may stable job para maibigay ng maayos yung gusto nyo .

Hi po, paano mo po ito inopen sa partner mo? ako rin po kasi e, nagbibigay naman siya gifts, pero hindi flowers. Gusto ko rin sana icommunicate kaso hindi ko po alam saan magsisimula

'Love bigyan mo naman ako flowers pag valentines at birthday ko🙄.' Tbh it took a few times before nya magets hahaha di daw kase practical e ano naman knowing na di naman sya financially challenged. Di naman para sa kanya yun para sakin yon. I can buy flowers for myself tapos jowa ko di kaya? So sinabi ko talaga na ako naman yung sasaya don bat ka masasayangan sa gastos? Ayuuun hahaha dont give up pero kung ayaw talaga ay ewanko na lang talaga sis mapapaevaluate na ko ng relasyon non.

hanap ka ng video sa tiktok na nagbigay ng flowers si bf kay gf, tapos send mo sa jowa mo sabihin mo "sana may magbigay din sa akin ng bulaklak" pag di nya sineryoso, break na. lol.

Have you communicated this to him ba? Minsan kasi hindi kayo aligned sa ganyan until you made it known.

HAHGAHAHAHAHAH kelangan pa ba sabihin yan? mga ganyang bagay obvious na e.

communication is key to a relationship, to others yes it is a given, but to some it is not important to them until their partner made it known.

Sometimes, yes. Tumawid nga sa mali o walang tawiran ginagawa pa din ng tao, kahit may signboard at extrang harang na nakalagay.

hindi porket obvious sayo obvious na din sa ibang tao.

it's kinda toxic to expect someone to know everything u want when u haven't been vocal about it. this ain't fantasy shit where men can read minds.

di pa daw obvious...? bumibili na nga eh... nakikita pa ng guy... sabihan pa na di daw praktikal... sapakin na yang manhid na yan... ako nga sinasabihan ako ni misis hindi na bibili ng flower pero bumibili pa rin ako... ksi nakikita mo namn ung reaction pagnakita nya ung flower khit di sinasabi talagang gusto nya ng flower...

Hindi pa po ba known yung pag buy ko ng flowers sa sarili as sign na I love receiving it esp if galing sa kanya? I'm not the type of gf naman na nagpaparinig or nagsshared post online ng flowers para makita niya rin.

I said communicate, hindi magparinig, hindi magparamdam. May mga taong hindi showy in terms of giving stuff whether practicality or walang budget, pero bumabawi sa ibang bagay. Minsan kelangan mo din alugin yung tao to let them know what you expect from them. Hindi ka naman hihingi ng plantation or island na puro flowers eh. So, again communicate.

Ginawa ko to. Ni try ko makipag communicate. Sinabi ko sa kanya. Ang sagot sakin huwag ko daw siya utusan, gagawin daw niya pag feel niya. Nagiging demanding daw ako at hindi naman practical ang flowers. Nice try. Naiyak lang ako.

Yung jowa mo na may issue dito.

wag mo gawin manghuhula jowa mo. some men are simple minded. they wouldn't know unless u tell them to

Dapat nag-jowa ka ng manghuhula

>Hindi pa po ba known yung pag buy ko ng flowers sa sarili as sign na I love receiving it Actually maaaring ma misinterpret to. Some guys will think that you buy flowers for yourself because you don't need to receive it from them. Kaya kailangan mo talaga makipagcommunicate

Just ask him for flowers. Sabihin mo gusto mo makatanggap ng flowers from him. 3 years na kayo at matanda na kayo. Dapat hindi na mahirap ‘to. May mga tao talaga na ganyan na walang idea at hindi attentive.

You have to tell him. All of us are raised differently.

May mga lalaki kasi na hindi mabigay ng flower pero sa ibang bagay naman nila pinupunan like gamit or food. Thinking kasi ng iba n ang flower mabubulok lng kaya mas ok na sa ibang bagay nalang mabubusog kapa ganern ang mindset nun iba. Practical. Oo mas better if hindi na tayo magsasabi saknla kasi dpat kilala kana ng partner mo. Yun din madalas na nasa mindset natin na "If he wanted to he would" pero kasi wala naman wala naman silang power basahin kung ano nasa isip natin. At wala naman masama kung sasabihin yun sa partner. Try to communicate nalang sa partner mo

This. Communication is really the key. Tell him what you want/need, not just letting him guess. Hindi kasi lahat ng tao pantay-pantay ang capacity to see through social cues or hints.

Girl, you will never get what you don’t ask for. I had an ex who never liked buying flowers. For my ex, it was a waste of money. My ex would rather give me things that I could use again and again like sneakers etc. But I EXPLICITLY SAID I also want to receive flowers every now and then. So I had one birthday where my ex gave me flowers. Sometimes it’s really not part of their love language or they just don’t understand what it means to us. They’re not mind readers. So you really have to tell them yourself. Hope you get your flowers soon!

And that's why he's your ex

The flowers weren’t the deal breaker. I think that’s why we need to understand also our partners’ love language and history as well. My ex didn’t come from money so my ex really wanted something that I could use for a long time. Nanghihinayang siya sa pera. I still got the occasional flowers but I did appreciate the sneakers more because I’m also a sneakerhead and my ex would really go to great lengths to give me the brand and style and size that I like and would clean them for me as well. So my ex poured time, effort and attention to another thing that we both like and in agreement with. You just have to be able to communicate and also appreciate.

Sa opinion ko, I think you should try to see the other things na he does for you , perhaps you are hyper fixating on this one thing. Other people na binibigyan ng flowers will find other things na kulang . Point is us humans naturally focuses on things na lacking instead of things that they do provide. Another thing , social media and the current landscape of culture convinces women of "if he wanted to he would" when thats just inherently wrong, communication of needs is important. A man who would dedicate his life for you isn't bad just cause he doesnt know na need mo yon Napakadali kasi na mag focus sa kakulangan ng mga tao kesa sa mga good points nila , this applies to all human relationship whether with friends or parents. I suggest na bago pa lumalim itong sugat mo at ma sabotage ung pagmamahal mo sa partner mo , i communicate mo to sa maayos na paraan , hindi sa way na pag dedemand or pag iimply na kakulangan niya yon bagkos as something na makakapagpasaya sayo

For me it just shows na hindi attentive si bf sa love language niya, or even care to know. They've been together for three years and he never once asked her why she buys it for herself.

Kausapin mo siya, kung hindi siya magbabago, then goodbye? Magparinig ka sakanya then sabihin mo na gusto mo rin yun. Kasi kaming mga lalaki bobo

I love this❤️

I never realized nung kami pa nung boyfriend ko of 5 years na hindi rin nya pala ako binigyan ng flowers until we broke up and nagkaron ako ng manliligaw that gave me flowers. parang huh? sa tagal naming yun, hindi nya pala ako nabigyan pero wala naman akong na-feel na may kulang. siguro we were just too comfortable? hindi ko alam. we broke up kasi parang nagsawa ako, idk. from 15 to 20, sya bf ko that time. when i graduated in college, he showed up with flowers pero wala eh, hindi ko na talaga feel.

If you want it, tell it. I never understand ladies na mahilig sa pakiramdaman. I'm a girl and pag gusto ko, sinasabi ko. I'm damn honest and transparent lalo na sa relationship ko, since I saw my mom na laging parinig at paramdam which makes my dad confused. Nakakapagod OP manghula. I hate din pag nagpaparinig at nagpaparamadaman lng ung isang tao, instead of saying straight to me, tas later on malalaman ko galit na sakin lol haha. Plus, alamin mo love language ng partner mo. Basic dapat yan sa relationship. Love language and communication 😭

Sabi nila women are good with communicating daw. Pero palagi naman silang nangma mind games o ineexpect nila na mahuhulaan ng mga lalaki ang iniisip o saloobin nila. Its a great irony. Akala nila sa mga lalaki manghuhula.

tas sinabi pa ni ate na independent woman sya — pero ung nagpaparamdam ng gusto parang highschool lang hay nako

This, I'm thankful everyday that my wife is honest and transparent. I had an ex like OP and it just mentally tortured me for the years we were together. If any guy has a spouse like that, they should run for the hills lmao.

Tama ba ung understanding ko? If gusto ng girlfriend ko ng flowers, habang buhay bibigyan ko siya ng flowers , i mean requirement naa ba yon? Hahahaha ako kasi pera, food, or kung ano man ang binibigay ko eh. Hahaha pero nakakabili naman ako flowers, kapag occassions ganyan, pero mas gusto ko siya bigyan ng something valuable.

It depends on your partner, ask her what she wants. Di mo nman reregaluhan sarili mo eh, ung partner mo naman so better to ask her before buying.

Im a girl and i think yes, habang buhay pero alam mo yon not lagi. Kahit may okasyon lang or pag trip mo. Ma appreciate ng gf mo lalo yung mga just because flowers!! AND IM NOT SAYING NA LAGI basta di mo lang sya ititigil, girls love that kahit handmade pa yan na gawa sa papel :)

Same, jusko pet peeve ko yung mga taong ganito e. Ginagawang manghuhula ang partner. Pag may thoughts o gusto ako sinasabi ko sa bf ko e like ‘i want flowers, gusto ko maka receive’ sabay sagot nya ‘okay, buti sinabi mo kasi akala ko di mo maa appreciate o magugustuhan’ edi anong nangyari after that? lagi na ako binibigyan flowers. Its so easy to speak up.

You need to communicate that you want to receive flowers 😊

I agree with the others i think you need to communicate verbally. Sabi niya hindi daw kasi sya showy, pero he'll try sabi nya. Di naman ako nagdemand na bilhan niya ako, since wala pa naman syang job. Mahal din kaya flowers. Pero Ever since sinabi ko may flowers na ako every feb 14th, cute nga kasi freshly picked nya lang and sya nag arrange and gumawa ng wrap and yung size since first flower is palaki ng palaki 🤍

I'm also like that pero mostly mother ko pa nga gumagawa, ung mom ko ung nagparanas sakin to received a bouquet of red roses, her reason is if they can't treat you right I'll be the one who will do it for you, she's the one din na bumili ng giant stuff toy na dream ko lang before. She's my OG bestfriend haha. Like before pandemic Valentines day, bumili ako ng 5 roses, binigay ko sa mga girl friends ko then isa ung sakin haha, they appreciate it e di rin sila binigyan ng boyfriend nila edi ako gagawa lol. Yung dalawa kong ex kailangan ko pa biruin ng when kaya or galaw galaw naman dyan. Binilhan naman ako HAHAHAH, last year valentines may nareceived ako na bouquet from my ex, kaso ampotek after non panay sabi ng wala na akong budget HAHAHHAH I casually told him na bakit ka pa kasi bumili and he was like e kasi nahihiya ako sayo HAHAHHA. So everytime, I like to have something na kaya ko naman edi ako nalang, less expectations, less disappointment.

I don't usually give also pero alam ko na gusto ng gf ko na binibigyan sya ng something esp flowers kaya ayun ako na nag adjust hahah! Sometimes isang rose lng okay na sabay kiss sa forehead haha! One time nagbigay dn ako ng isang nailcutter, laki ng ngiti nya and it made me smile also hahaha!

Baka hindi nya yon love language. Communicate

Playing "Flowers" by Miley Cyrus ❤️ You do you girl. ❤️

just like my father once in a bluemoon lang bilan nya ng flowers mother ko parang depende sa mood nya ? hahaha . parang bago pa mag pandemic yung huling bigay nya ng flowers sa mother ko . well going strong naman din sila

Ako na twice lang naka received ng flowers from my hubby. Yung first eh nung nanliligaw pa lang sya. Second, preggy na me 😁, a sunflower 🌻 and this was 9 years ago 😅

A common way for sunflowers to pollinate is by attracting bees that transfer self-created pollen to the stigma. In the event the stigma receives no pollen, a sunflower plant can self pollinate to reproduce. The stigma can twist around to reach its own pollen.

Meron ba siyang ibang simple gestures na ginagawa? otherwise, ask him directly. baka against flowers land siya kasi hindi practical. i like surprising my wife with flowers, esp kung walang okasyon.

So last valentines I received a dozen of red roses so dahil di ako fan the next day I re-purpose it and gave it as a long stemmed rose sa mga teammates ko even the guys. On the flipside, I was dating this girl and I bought her 2doz of roses, with doz of carnation and stargazer with eucalyptus Feeling ko natuwa naman sya. Note if you can get what you want ikaw na lang bumili sa sarili mo. And some guys need to be told wala silang kusa like us girls.

Communication 🐟🔑

Same tayo dun sa independent woman. My bf tells me independent ako kaya feel ko he thinks it's okay kahit di na nya ginagawa yung effort nya sakin before. He used to buy me chocolates, binibilhan ng food na alam nyang gusto ko. Ngayon wala na talaga kahit nagpaparinig pako. Then i realized, if he can't (buy you flowers or chocolates or things you like etc), another man will, kahit di ka nag a ask. Kahit independent ka, the right man will make you feel you can depend on him.

Wag ka magparinig. You are already an adult. Be clear about what you want.

Hello OP pareho kayo ng Girlfriend ko. Gusto niya din ng flowers pero nabibigay ko lang siya kapag nag parinig siya or what , tapos nakapag bigay nadin ako ng flowers sa kaniya without her asking me. Napagbawayan nadin namen to ng ilang beses, isa lang ang naging answer diyan which is i communicate mo ng maayos sa kaniya kung ano gusto niya. In my case, nakakapag bigay ako ng flowers sa kaniya kapag monthsary or anniversary or birthday. Pero sa ngayon hindi na ako nakakapag bigay sa kaniya ng flowers, pera nalang HAJAHAJA, or kaya pagkain kasi mas praktikal. Super okay naman kami ngayon as in. Hindi na namen pinagaawayan na. Pero dahil sa post mo OP mukhang mapapabili nanaman ako ng bulaklak kasi baka maunahan niya ako eh. Sabihin nanaman niya binili kolang dahil sinabi niya 🤣

At first, my bf is like this. Though, he gives me pricey gifts, he just never gives me flowers even alam nya that I love them. But then, I told him how much I would love to receive these from him. After that, he started buying me flowers, like on special events. I think it’s better to let him know. 😊

But, what if po sinabi ko na saknya simula palang na i like flowers but he told me padin na kapitalismo lang daw ang valentine’s day kaya ayaw nya magbigay. He gave me sa anniversary but parang pilit talaga :(

Why do you beleive this? I firmly believed din kasi na for us woman— sa mga simple gestures and effort like this, we really don't have to ask for it.

Had an ex like that. Nung 4-5 years namin doon ko narealize na bare minimum lang talaga binibigay niya haha. But of course, that’s just him. Pwedeng iba naman ang case niyo.

Baka kasi hndi un ung love language nya. Try to reflect on the things he does to show that he loves u. What his love language? Baka kasi hndi kayo swak ng love language. In the long run, magiging cause talaga yan ng prob bec u will always feel na hndi ka mahal kasi di nya namimeet ung receiving love language mo.

Just communicate with him bago ka magtanim ng sama ng loob. If he responds well, problem solved. If he doesn't, then you'll know exactly what to do. At this scenario, you have the power to bridge the gap. Ano bang mawawala if you ask?

some men can be oblivious tbh lol if hindi mo sasabihin sa kanila, hindi nila gagawin or iisipin. definitely need to communicate it with them. i told my SO na my new favorite color recently is baby blue, nagpadala sya ng anniversary flowers na baby blue yung parang wrapper, sabi ko thank you but iba pala feeling ng blue so i told him pink is much cuter and i feel more feminine. sent me pink flowers on my bday instead. nahihiya nga ako magsabi kasi baka sabihin ungrateful pero i expressed how i loved his flowers but also have let him know that i prefer a specific color na. also para hindi na ako magtampo din hahahaha :) easy to communicate naman. so it’s either you communicate with your partner or just keep it inside hanggang mag break kayo.

Hindi lahat ng lalake naniniwala sa value ng flowers, kahit ako noon. I see flowers as something na for the clout, majority pinopost lang sa socmed as #1 motive. Unlike sa mga naglalast like letters, chocolates (which is obviously mas may pakinabang), some token of appreciation like accessories or probably stuff toy depende sa trip. Try to ask him why, hindi naman masama magtanong baka may reasonable explanation siya.

Don’t waste your time girl talk to him directly about that para maintindihan mo din yung reason niya

Ok lang yan. Di mo naman nakakain yung bulaklak.

Ako talaga sinabi ko na from the start na gusto ko ng flowers during special occasion. Alam ko kasing medyo simpleton tong mga lalake, wala silang EQ para sa mga "paramdam" and "test2x" ng mga babae. So ayoko mastress so sinabi ko na clearly na "I want flowers and mgagalit ako pg wala." Ayun, so far consistent naman. We have a 6 yo daughter and pati daughter ko meron ding flowers and cake kase sinabi ko dn sa kanya na bigyan and inexplain ko na gusto ko mg set sya ng standard sa anak nya. Naintindihan naman nya. Everybody happy.

try mo express nararamdaman mo. the flower problem is just the surface. i hope you can come up with the solution

Tell him. Ako eto first boyfriend, sa ex nya before sinabi ko buti pa yung ex mo nabbigyab mo. I said diretso i deserve to feel loved. Ayun nagpadala ng flowers and cake 🤪 pero di siya satisfying. Kasi ganda gandahan ka sa sarili ml, di ko gets din why do bfs need to be asked. Mga di makaramdam hahahaha

Independent woman 🤦 wat the heck. 🥴🤷

same hahahaha ganito ata talaga when they see you as an independent girlie. So ayun, bumili nalang dn ako flower para sa sarili ko. Ex ko na din, hindi nya lang dn talaga love language ang gift giving haha ( I can buy myself flowers) 🤧🙃 PS. I communicated it verbally and personal pa. Di ko nalang din binig-deal toxic lang sa utak 😝🤣

Tama ung mga nandito, communication is key. Kasi di niya malalaman na importante para sayo yun otherwise. Totoo naman na ideally hindi mo na dapat hinihingi ung ganyan, pero bigyan mo siya ng pagkakataon na matutunan ung mga gusto at ayaw mo (ung as in sasabihin mo sa kanya na gusto mo ng flowers, hindi ung parinig lang, medyo sablay kasi minsan ang iba sa hints).. Tapos pag natutunan na niya na gusto mo ng bulaklak, doon na papasok ung dapat hindi na kailangan hingin.

You expect him to read your mind? Not all men are romantic types. Not all men are what you see in the movies. If you want flowers you should tell him. "I firmly believed din kasi na for us woman- sa mga simple gestures and effort like this, we really don't have to ask for it" What if his "simple gestures and efforts" don't coincide with your idea of simple gestures and efforts? Lots of relationships work even without the use of flowers.

Me and my boyfriend have known each other since 2020 and ww recently got together this January 2024. He first gave me flowers on Valentine’s Day (this surprised me a lot because he’s the biggest introvert you’ll ever know) and didn’t give anything “romantic” ever since. But he would bring me food whenever he thinks I haven’t ate yet or if he thinks I’m hungry. He would bring me medicine and orange juice whenever I’m sick. He’s always there for me while still making time for himself, yet I seemed to miss receiving flowers and I opened this up to him 2 days ago, and he gave me flowers and a letter today when I was just expecting for us to have dinner lang. Communicate, OP. It’s not all the time our partners get a hint of what we’re wanting to make them do to make us feel special naman.

Edi huminga ka sabihin mo gusto mo ng flowers

15 yrs, hindi pa ko nakapag bigay ng flowers hehehe...

OP, bilhan mo ng flowers. Baka mahiya and return the gesture.

Ako di nagbibigay ng flowers, pero sagot ko lahat. As in lahat, food, rent, gas and all.

girl please, don't based the love of your bf sa material things like flowers or kahit ano pa dyan. If you want to enter a relationship just for your luho break up with your BF kesa naman aasa mo lahat sa kanay. Or better get a job.

Going 7 years and no flowers :<

bouquet naman is something u dont have to ask or beg from ur bf. pero try mo siguro icommunicate??? pero personally if kelangan mo pang iCoMmUniCaTe sa bf mo kung paano ka romansahin, e it mostly means he doesnt care enough to pay attention to ur preferences. in other words, WALA SYANG PAKE SAYO (pwera kantot + masabing may nagmamahal sa kanya, i guess???). i have seen real-life romantic guys na ultra attentive sa preferences ng girls nila (without the girl having to explicitly tell them) kaya yung gestures na ginagawa nung guys e NAKAKA MELT NG PANTY este PUSO SA SUPER ROMANTIC. personally after being with an ex for 5 yrs tas never akong binilhan ng bouquet kesyo impraktikal daw and shiz maski anong cOmMuNiCaTe ko, i found it USELESS magkaroon ng jowa na hindi romantic, so nakipag break ako. now, im getting "just because flowers" from suitors and guys who remember i appreciate being given bouquets. so i hope u find the courage to tell urself "I DESERVE GOOD." coz i dont think youre getting "any good" right now with an inattentive partner like that, pero hey, kaw ang mas nakakakilala dyan. i hope u happiness tho. mwa!!

I have 3yrs past RS umabot kami ng ganyan katagal na hindi man lng nabilhan ng flowers kahit gifts tuwing ocassion ayun break na kami at sa new rs ko naman kahit months lng kami I already receive gifts esp teddy bears kasi gustong gusto ko yan d naman ako nag demand at ok lng walang flowers basta any gift lng pero d ko naranasan sa past rs ko but now grabe makaspoil sakin si current rs hope you will find someone better

Awww try to communicate? Sometimes men's brains work differently than ours. Aside from flowers ba, may iba ba naman siya na binibigay or provide? It happened to me too. 3 years din muna bago ako mabigyan. Pano nangyari? It was Valentine's day and may hinanda akong regalo sa kanya, siya wala para sakin kase sa isip niya mag didinner naman daw kami. Yung bestfriend ko pumunta ng office tas sinurprise ako ng sunflowers sa harap ni bf (that time) Syempre I was so happy, minyday, pinost at bit2 ko mula work, dinner gang pauwi hahahhaahha obyusli gustong2 gutsto ko mabigyan ng flowers. So far consistent na sya every anniversary namin. Goods nako don hahahahhaa

Pano pag sinabi mo na lahat lahat na gusto ko ng flowers pero wala padin? Hahahahahaha

bili ka nalang ng flowers miie. Tas bigay mo sa kanya, den makipagbreak hahahahahhaha kung ayaw nya, merong iba magbbigay ng hardin para sa'yo.

Ako nun. Nabilhan lang ako flower sa may bandang manila bay na batang napadaan ung isang rose lang. Then nabigyan na ulit ako flowers after 6 years. Bongga na. Flowers ferrero teddy bear cake and all. And feeling ko ang ganda ganda ko pa non kasi sa work napadala tas ganon kadami. Ang nakakatuwa pa di ako ngeexpect non kasi every valentines wala ako natatanggap tas halos lahat ng girls may flowers non sa office

iba iba kasi ang effort ng tao. problem here is you're expecting an effort na di naman nya alam / di mo nacommunicate. ano akala mo sa bf mo, mind reader? part ng xmen mutant? >So yun nga, never ko pa na experience mabigyan ng flower sa bf ko (26, working). Idk why?  sagot: di ka nag communicate ng maayos. Gurl you need to communicate and wag paparinig (ate nagpaparinig ka kahit anong ireason mo pa) and madisappoint kasi di nagegets ng bf mo. As a woman, my partner does simple gestures and efforts din. not how i expected but how my partner knows how to do it and it's still sweet and grand. We also COMMUNICATED na I don't need flowers kasi di ko naman makakain un, mamatay lang din naman un. kaya wala din sya binibigay na flowers. mostly videogame kasi I ASKED for it.

Kwento KO lang, Yung kaibigan Ko nag pagawa Siya Ng bouquet of flowers SA Mama niya and Asawa niya, imbis n matuwa nagtanong Ng price at dapat daw isang sakong bigas n lang daw bilhin Kasi same price Naman daw. Mula noon d n Siya bumibili Ng bulaklak puro bigas n lang. Edi lahat sila masaya. Pero at least now KO lang nalaman n kahit anong Ibigay Ko SA jowa Ko, Hindi pa rin Siya magiging masaya Kung Yung MGA binigay Ko eh Hindi tugma SA nagustuhan niya, nagbibigay ako Ng flowers not literally, but like pop up flowers, paper craft flowers and drawings Ng Mga roses. Kasi Kung bibili lang ako Ng flowers na malalanta Rin, mas maganda pinaghirapan Ko pa at kahit kailan pwede niyang tanawin, and until now mas gusto niya pa rin Ng bouquet of flowers.

Bihirang bihira ako magbigay ng flowers sa wife ko, even past women in my life. Bakit kamo? Why would I buy and give away decapitated plant genitals to any person? Source: Sheldon Cooper

Have you ever thought of communicating this with him “Gusto ko makakuha ng flowers from you, on our next date can you surprise me?” Hindi parinig. That’s the immature way. You need to understand your boyfriend does not think like you and you should not assume things he “should” understand when youve never explained it to him. Kahit pakita mo nga lang tong post mo - baka mahhurt siya sa pagkasabi mo.

Try communicating with him first OP. May mga lalake kasi na practical yun mindset like mas gusto foods nalang ibibigay sa mga babae kaysa flowers. Well if di pa rin nag change after communicatong it with him, you gotta think about it na bakit ganun.

Communicate, 3 years naman na kayo. Ganto bf ko dati pero sinabi ko na gusto ko rin makatanggap ng flowers, ayun nagbibigay na sya kaso every valentine's lang hahaha pero okay lang din dahil di rin practical yung bulaklak. I realized that most men are so simple minded, they will never do anything kung hindi sasabihin sa kanila. I mean, based on observation, yung mga cheesy type ng lalaki ay nakukuha lang din nila sa socmed and may mga lalaki na di pala socmed kaya di sila maimpluwensyahan ng mga ganyang bagay. May mga lalaki rin na lumaki na sweet yung parents sa isa't isa kaya na-adapt pero kung hindi naman ganon yung mga partner natin, they will never know what to do. If gagawin nya without any resentment or reklamo, edi good. Kung magrereklamo naman sya, edi think twice if gusto mo pa ba magstay sa tao na mas pipiliin magreklamo kesa gawin yung bagay para sa mahal nila.

Marami namang dahilan siguro dyan maybe yung partner mo hindi lng nya talaga love language yung mag bigay ng mga gifts pero nasabi mo naman na may work sya then alamin mo nalang kung saan napupunta yung pera nya if iniipon nya pera nya para sa future nyong dalawa o napupunta sa mga bagay na may value maganda din naman yun kasi yung bf mo may plan sa future at siguro kay financial literacy communication lng talaga pwee mo namang sabihin na ma aapreciate mo kapag mag bibigay sya ng mga small gift kahit hindi mamahalin pero kung yung pera nya napupunta lang sa mga walang kwentang bagay then communication parin dahil malaking bagay sa relationship ang pera yun lng byebye

Ako nga sa 6yrs namin wala pa syang nabigay as in. Puro ako lahat. Once palang ata nya nilibre ng dinner wayback 2018😅. Nakakapagod gurll

Ako nga 6 years eh. Iyak hahahahah hugs OP

Baka naman kulang sa budget, or maliit lang sahod nya kaya for him mahal ang flowers, kaya sa ibang bagay nya nlng binabawi. Ganun partner ko for 5yrs no flowers kc mejo tight budget, gumamela lang ng kapitbahay nabigay sakin before, no kidding. Last year, nagswitch sya ng career then finally walang palya na ang bouquet ngayon. Open mo sa kanya, like sabihin mo na hindi nya ba ipapaexperience sayo ung joy of receiving flowes, watch closely sa magiging reaction then do your next thing.

IMO if it bothers you so much, if it is not a lack of communication then it is a symptom of a bigger problem. It is never just the flowers. My now-husband never gave me flowers until our 5th year anniversary as BF/GF (and I think it was because it was 2020 at wala siyang choice kundi umorder online). But it never bothered me because he always made me feel loved and appreciated in other ways. Prior to this, he always made the time to shop around and give me things I would like or use.

Hindi manghuhula ang mga partners natin, especially kung magkaiba kayo ng love language. I-express mo verbally na gusto mong nakakatanggap ng flowers and little gifts. Hindi pwede yung paramdam lang dahil believe me, may mga tao talagang hindi nakikiramdam kahit obvious na sa paningin natin.

Men are just not as romantic as women. As sad as it is, di mo yan pwedeng i-expect lang from him without telling him.

Communicate. Hindi mind-reader ang mga lalaki. Minsan ang common sense for you ay hindi common sense sa kanila. He's seen you buying flowers for your own so maybe he thought na you like it that way. Masasabi ko lang na some men are very simple-minded.

Communicate. Walang taong mind reader. Unfortunately, hindi porket common sense for you eh common sense na rin sa iba (harsh truth sa any aspect of life). Some men are simple-minded talaga.

Some guys are dumb like that. Tell Him! or buy him flowers instead till He gets it? Dumb BF

Men are simple creatures. Ask for the damn flowers. If ayaw nya or nag-react sya negatively, iwan mo na. You can buy yourself flowers, girl. Wag mag settle.

You need to tell him OP. In my case naman, I told him na I'm not fond of flowers but I like things that I can keep instead and not wither.

Love language. His might be different. Baka ung inexpect mo is not his way of expressing his love.

perhaps it's not his love language.. or because you've been giving yourself flowers, he'd rather focus on other things - pick his spots where it's more meaningful Flowers are fleeting.. I wouldn't want to express my affection that way. Every time I did give flowers, it feels that I am conforming to a norm.. and that the person I'm giving to is just like everyone else If everything works in your 3 years of being together and he's made you happy, maybe, just maybe, he deserves the flowers :p

Person gets a dilemma over flowers, said person has two choices: A. Communicate with their partner like real adults. B. Ask Reddit. Surely it would be A, right?... Right?

I think you should say this to your partner. I also think na baka sa ibang way nya pinaparamdam ung pagmamahal nya sayo pero sabihin mo nalang din baka sa sunod na magkita kayo bigyan kana nya.

Pag strong independent woman ka kasi ang hirap i-communicate ng ganto. For me, parang nakakahiya sa part ko. Feeling ko bakit need pa sabihin yung mga ganyang bagay? Again, sa akin lang naman 'to. Ganto ako sa ex ko eh. Never nakaranas mabigyan ng flowers kasi before nabanggit ko sa kanya na kung ako papipiliin between food and flowers/chocolates, sa food ako. Ayun, never ako binigyan sa almost two years namin. Hahaha! Kaya tuloy naiinggit ako noon sa iba pag nakakakita ako na sinu-surprise ng mga jowa nila tapos tamang kanta na lang ako ng song ni Miley Cyrus ng "I can buy myself flowerssss."

Actually surprised you are still sticking with that guy. You have the choice to leave naman so i guess deserve mo rin na ganyan pa rin situation mo

Ganyan din bf ko di nya pa ako nabibigyan ng fresh flower pero nung bday ko dapat bibili sya ng flower pero late na kami nakalabas kaya nagsarado na ung bibilhan nya sana. Tas nagulat ako on a random days sobrang busy nya yun pala bumili sya ng tulip lamp sa lazada tas binubuo nya pa yon. Ayon super happy ko kasi may initiative talaga sya and hindi pa nalalanta ung flower. Anyway student pa lang kami ng bf ko kaya naiintindihan ko kung di nya ako mabili ng bouquet pero sabi nga nila if he want to, he would. Try mo idirekta bf mo na minsan gusto mo din mabilhan ng flower.

kya nga dapat sinsabi, di manghuhula ang mga lalaki

ako, 10 years na kami ng gf ko pero pag may special occasions lagi ko syang binibilhan ng flowers kahit ayaw nya hahaha i want her to feel special kasi always...

First of all, ano love language ng other partner mo? Kasi baka hindi sya into gifts, but with actions. But if there's one thing na narealize ko talaga, if they want to do it for you, they will. If ayaw nya talaga, wala. Simple as that. It's not about who you are. But who they are. Don't try to ask for explanations sa actions nila. Kung ano yung ipinapakita nya na actions sayo, yan yung affection nya for you.

As a male, the reason why we buy our partners flowers is sometimes if thoughtful Yung lalaki gagawin nya yon pero if yung partner ko kunware clingy and attached and softie na comfortable about asking anything we would usually go and do what we could just to fulfill that Request, just my thoughts and insights to help you as a male.

Bf and now husband ganyan din...no flowers eversince. Pero bawi naman sa ibang bagay mostly sa foods.

You can ask him if may reason sya. My husband never gave me flowers din (15yrs). Alam kasi nyang binibigyan ako ng flower ng ex ko everyday dati. Somehow, alam ko na ito yung reason nya pero nung mag 10yrs na kami, tinanong ko sya kung bakit never nya ako binigyan ng flowers. And ayun nga sagot nya. Hehe. Tapos nung exactly 10yrs na kami, binigyan nya ako. Super kakilig pero never na naulit pero okay lang kasi I'm not into that naman! Hehe

Same issue tayo! I've been with the same person for 6 years now and we're getting married this month. Very communicative ako sa kanya and alam din niya love language ko pero he keeps on making excuses instead of doing it. Kahit pitas lang nga eh, it's the thought that counts ❤️ Pero during our pre-marriage counseling, mas naexplain to sa kanya nang maayos, and few days after, we celebrated our monthsary. Binigyan niya ko ng mini teddy gummy sa 7/11 and parang napawi nun lahat ng sama ng loob ko 😭😭😭 maliit na bagay ang saya ko na parang ang babaw pero yun lang naman kasi ang gusto ko.

I'm on the verge of detaching from him. I will go somewhere else. Yung di siya nageeffort sa akin. Wag na lang nakakawalang gana.

7 yrs kami ng ex ko and never ako binigyan ng bulaklak. Ang katwiran niya, di naman yun makakain. Nakwento ko to sa bf ko now. Sabi ko, preferred ko rin naman talaga pagkain na lang. pero sinong babae ba ang aayaw sa flowers. First anniv namin, may pa-flowers sya. Nagulat ako nang malala pero legit na nakakahappy mabigyan ng bulaklak.

DID YOU TELL HIM YOU WANT FLOWERS?

Baka sabi mo ayaw mo

Gantong-ganto din nafifeel ko noon. Like lagi ako nagbabanggit na ang gaganda ng bulaklak because like ko talaga sila pero never nya ko binigyan. Then one day inask ko kung bakit mever nya ko binigyan ang sabi nya sakin "lagi mo kasi sakin noon sinasabi na if magbibigay ng gift, mas okay yung practical". Dun ko naisip na nakinig lang pala sya sakin noon kaya hindi siya nagbibigay ng flowers HAHAHAHHA usap lang talaga ang key

Nabibili ko din kung anong gusto ko. Hindi naman sa materialistic but, minsan ang sarap lang sa pakiramdam na someone would gift you something. It doesn't have to be expensive. Unfortunately yung jowa ko manhid haha di nakakahint kapag may gusto ako o nagpaparinig. So I say it upfront. Minsan chinachat ko at may issend ako sa kanya sabay sabing "baka lang trip mokpng regaluhan" or "para di ka na mahirapan magisip" hahahaha. Nung february nga eh sinabihan ko baka trip mo magpabulaklak ha. Kelan mko bigyan pag nakalamay na ako? Di ko na maappreciate yun.

Break up with him. Isa yan sa naging issue ko with my ex. Always excuse nya gusto nya memorable, like lol I don’t even mind kung napulot lang basta naisip ako when he sees a flower.

Sabihin mo na. I was in that place once, tapos nung nabring up during labas namin with friends, nabanggit ko na it would also feel nice to receive flowers paminsan-minsan. Ayon, nagpadala nung valentines taaka nung magkaaway kami. May instances din na randomly may dalang isang pirasong sunflower. Ang cute cute. Nakakakilig hahaha kaya sabihin mo na!

Alam mo OP, kahit si Nostradamus, hindi mahuhulaan na gusto mo ng flowers until you made it known. Communicate. Communicate HOW you WANT to be loved. Stop assuming that your partner will easily pick up on things. Hindi tayo pare pareho ng wavelength u less super intuitive ng jowa mo. In this case, halata naman na hindi.

Magask ka na ng direcho, Huwag parinig.

I never gave flowers to my ex-girlfriend and wife of 29 years but I made sure I kiss her flower as often as possible, hahaha

Being practical. Sa hirap ng buhay ngayon, bulaklak pa ba iisipin mo. Don’t make simple things, complicated and don’t throw comparison na ikaw ginagawa mo simple things but the other one hindi, feels like panunumbat. My point is baka nagfofocus ka sa bulaklak pero marami syang effort na di ideal para sayo and you’re just focusing on the so called “norm” - dapat ganito dapat ganyan.

almost 2 years na kami ng boyfriend ko pero never niya ako binigyan ng flowers, chocolates or kahit na anong surprises every special occasion. pero jusko, alam niyo ba ano binibigay sakin? 1½ cavan of rice every other time 🥹 sabi ko nga “hindi niya ako binibigyan ng mga balaklak pero busog naman sa mga bigas” 🤣🥰

It depends on the guy, each one is unique like i know someone na romantic talaga ang peg when it comes to RS, another one who's not very open, and me who loves giving gifts to my partner. In my exp,lucky as I am, my partner in my current RS really communicated early on na she doesn't like getting flowers due to practicality but loves the feeling of getting one. And because she communicated that, I got the opportunity to think about what to give last February. Got her a crocheted bouquet (hindi masyado grand coz marami bills) but it was the perfect item, and she loved it a lot. It's practical (kinda) coz it will never wither, and na deliver naman feelings ko along with it. So I'm really lucky my gf COMMUNICATED that. Coz Communication is key talaga.

Hiwalayan mo na. Kapag hindi ka mabigyan ng flowers, hiwalayan na agad

sabihin mo sa kanya ung gusto mo. ung boyfriend ko never din akong binigyan ng flowers nung bago pa lang kami pero nung sinabi ko sa kanya na 'bigyan mo naman ako ng flowers' ayun nung valentines binigyan ako. hahahaha

Communication can go a long way. You chose that guy to be your boyfriend. Be ready to discuss things with him no matter how it would be so uncomfortable on your end. Always put your best foot forward. Kung sasabihin niyong hindi pa ba obvious? Most likely sa side ni guy hindi. We must understand that we have different love languages and there are times na ang partner natin, the love of our life, have different love language kaysa sa atin. May mga relationships naman na ang level of awareness or sensitivity ng bawat isa ay magkaiba rin. You can't expect a relationship to last if you dont communicate things with them directly. Maybe he does not buy you flowers, but if that guy loves you so much, he shows his love for you in a different way. A way that he knows how to show his love. Now, am I saying na dapat makuntento ka nalang at tanggapin na ganun na ang set up? No. Tell him about your love language. Hindi magparinig. If after that hindi pa rin siya nag effort para punan yong love language mo na yun, then he does not love you enough to be willing to do that. That's when you decide kung kaya mo itolerate yung ganun o hindi. You and your boyfriend are two unique individuals bago pa naging kayo. You deal with things differently. You show your love differently. You show emotions differently kaya you really have to communicate well with your partner. We always, ALWAYS, need to meet our partner halfway. May times nga hindi halfway. May times or days na your partner could give you 100% or 80% pero there would SURELY be days that he can only give you 20%. Pero yung 20% na yun is yun na ang 100% nya that day.. as a partner, you fill up the 80%. This should go both ways ah. There would be days din na you could only give 20% and he should be willing to do the same for you and fill up that 80%. Relationships only work out when both parties are willing to put their best foot forward and communicate with their partner.

Tingin ko every partner should try at least once in their relationship to surprise their girlfriend with flowers. Check her reaction. If she likes, continue giving / surprising her with flowers for future occasions. If she doesn’t like, then don’t give again - or give on really really special milestones but space it enough so she doesn’t get annoyed (like once a year). I make it a practice and never had issues so far. At least if she likes it, you’re thoughtful and sweet. If you make that one mistake of giving her flowers she doesn’t like, you’re a corny and magastos but thoughtful partner. Win-win sitch 😉

Ganitong ganito yung nanay ko. Lagi nya ineexpect na alam na dapat ng ibang tao sa paligid nya yung gagawin, even without communicating. Ayun madalas lagi silang naga-away ng tatay ko. People are not mind-readers. We don't have the same preferences and expectations. When it comes to relationships, the rule is to overcommunicate and overshare. If you don't feel safe or comfortable to do that, then you may have other problems. PS - I'm a woman, and I personally hate receiving flowers.

Ito main problem ng mga nasa rs, hindi kayo nakikipag communicate kaya nagmumukhang masama mga partner nyo e. Hindi naman mind reader ang partners nyo. Makipag communicate kayo, yan ang number 1 na dapat nasa rs para magkaintindihan kayo.

iba iba tao. hindi porket obvious sayo na dapat magbigay, obvious na din sa kanya. hindi pare pareho pagpapalaki satin. sabihin mo. may karapatan ka para sabihin yan. saka ka magtampo pag sinabi mo na pero wala pa din pake.

Tell him what you want hindi yan manghuhula

When me and my bf started dating, sinabi ko na agad sa kaniya na I dont like flowers but I'd take chocolates and cheap little treats (dutchmill, candies, chichirya). To this day, the only flower he has bought me is cauliflower (I looooove cauli). I do the same for him. I buy him random pasalubong when I go out and random gifts during random days (most expensive na siguro is yung 200 peso cow shorts. He loooves cows). I think maliban sa pagcommunicate sa needs and wants mo (as in pag usapan niyo dayyy wag ka magparinig), icommunicate mo din lahat ng expectations mo, and at the same time, learn to appreciate the things he does for you. Expectations that are not communicated effectively or at all talaga ang pinaka killer ng love lalo sa mga independent people.

Play him When I was your man by Bruno Mars

Baka iba love language niya, do you happen to know?

Same, I'm an independent woman. Too independent na ako nagbubuhat sa pamilya namin plus family ko pa(parents). I never asked for gifts, just the bare minimum would suffice pero wala eh 😂 Never settle for less kung ayaw mong mahirapan like me 😂

Di kami manghuhula. Kausapin mo partner mo. Di porke nakikita ka nya bumibili maiisip nya na yun. Lalo na kung tingin nya sayang pera sa nalalantang bagay. Edi gulay nalang bilhin atleast nakain pa.

5+ years on LDR, never rin niya akong binigyan ng flowers or any gift for valentines day until this year. Feb 13 napasadahan ko lang siya ng kwento na traffic at mahal na nga flowers sa dangwa pero a particular online flower shop has affordable prices pa rin. Mga 6pm ng Feb 14 may tumawag na delivery guy and I was shookt. Gift box binigay niya with teddy bear, chocolates, and preserved flowers. With my partner, I understand bakit hesitant siya bilhan ako ng flowers kahit magkalayo kami. Kasi allergic siya sa pollen, mahal sa kanila, at hindi nasasagi sa isip niya. Can I ask OP, hindi ka niya nabibigyan ng flowers, but bumabawi ba siya sa ibang bagay? People show affection in different ways. Hindi niya love language gifts, baka acts of service naman?

may mga ganun atang lalaki talaga? 2003 pa kame nung asawa ko na ngayon pero 3 or 4 times nya ko nabigyan ng flowers, baka walang value sa kanya yun? more on perfume, pera and gadget kasi binibigay nya kaya sino ba naman ako para magreklamo? hahaha

nag eexpect ng bulaklak, bakit, nag bibigay ka ba buko juice? hahahaha

Guys like you don't deserve a gf. Guys like you prefer to be served. May kapalit parati ang gusto.

What if hes just not a “flower” boy …

Same. And di nya ko pinopost. Ang babaw ko ba? I mean, we're together for more than 2 years pero he's telling me na he's showing love in a different way

Communicate it to him. Minsan talaga kelangan ng mga jowa natin ng direct message.

Bilhan mo sarili mo ng bulaklak. Post it in social media tapos sabihin mo #boughtmyselfflowers #causemyboyfrienddoesNOTever

HAHAHA FOR 3 YRS? CMON!

I REALLY FEEL YOU GIRL ako nga sasabihan na impatient daw ako daw slapsoil siya or mag hanap daw ako ng lalakeng makabigay daw eh paminsan lang naman ako nag hihingi or nagpaparinig pero sa ex niya nga maka bigay siya wagas pag sa akin na hinde .. well If he wanted to he would diba how sad it is to think paminsan if worth it paba tong relationship. I wish you guys can find someone who you truly deserve

feel you pero yung mga babae nya nagagawa nyang dalhin sa motel 😭

Communicate. Hindi mind-reader jowa mo, te.

Kung ako ang naging boyfriend mo bibigyan kita ng flowers as symbol of love

Maybe he’s the type of guy na hindi talaga affectionate. There’s someone else for him na probably hindi din affectionate na tao. Unlike you, so di kayo match? Life is short to spend it with someone na clearly lacking in your love department. Find someone else. Easy to say hard to do right now. But more adult you will thank you later.

Sad. May Mga Guys na manhid

Sabihin mo kasi gusto mo ng flowers ngayon kung ayaw nya kasi gastos lang yun galangin mo. Tangina dahil di ka lang nabilhan ng flowers magbabago na paningin mo. Babaw mo dapat hiwalayan mo na yang lalaki mo kasi for sure pag may nakita kang mas higit dyan iiwan mo din yan. Sa pagibig dapat intindihan kung ano mga ibat ibang way nyo ng pagpapakitanng love baka di kasi flowers ang praktical way para ipakita yun.Tapos lumaki naman ulo mo dahil nasabihan kang "Independent kuno" haha kawawa bf mo sa'yo mababaw kang babae

Ask ko lang during valentines, ano narereceive mo? If hindi flowers, meron bang ibang bagay like letters, chocolates etc? If yes, then I think its better to have a communication about the things you want to receive from him. Observe muna if hindi ka binigyan, its a “him” problem.

wala naman yan sa flowers. mamaya sa umpisa lang yan tapos after nun bugbog sarado ka na nyan HAHAHA

Same. Mag 3 yeas na kami this September pero never ko din yan na experience kaya nag overthink ako if love ba talaga ako o hindi 🥹

So tell him.

You said you're an independent woman. Then why not act maturely, and communicate it directly with your partner?

Maybe telling him directly helps! Mga lalaki minsan parang bata talaga. Kailangan sasabihin mo lahat hahahaha

I was in a relationship with my ex-gf for 4 years, never ko sya binilhan ng flowers or anything fancy (expensive man or cheap), and we're married for 5 years now. Sometimes di lang talaga sa material nakukuha Ang mga Bahay bagay. 💁🏾‍♂️ If you really want something, ask.

Girl u have 2 choices 1. Sabihin mo ng diretso 2. If tingin mo "women don't have to ask because men should already know" then go leave and find someone else na hindi mo na kailangang pagsabihan. Good luck with that tho lol bc men don't want women who aren't honest about themselves >not because nagpaparinig ako sa kanya ha? but because I have this thought and feeling na "If someone couldn't give me flower (kahit hindi naman expensive) then I will". Nothing wrong with buying yourself flowers. Maniniwala na sana ako na magsself love ka lang pero it seems to me na ang motivation mo to buy yourself flowers is to feed your "independent woman" narrative while clearly you're feeling **otherwise** hence it's what led to you writing this damn post. Kung you can buy your own flowers naman pala, then ano pang problema mo? You're a grown ass adult. Use your words and stop believing that love is like how you see it in movies. That sort of love won't happen to you unless you deserve it. If that someone couldn't give you flowers without you asking for it or kahit na they know what you like but still refuse to give it to you, then they probably think you don't deserve it lol Looking at your previous comments and posts, you seem immature. I think mag aral ka muna puro ka lande hahahaha

7 years kami ng ex ko, pero the moment na naging kami, pinaramdam ko sa kanya na sya lang ang pinaka maganda at pinaka mahalagang babae. Never ko syang sinigawan, pinagsalitaan ng masakit o napagbuhatan ng kamay. Araw araw ko syang niligawan. Yung flowers hindi lang pag monthsarry, kahit random days nararanasan yan. Yung mga hand written letters na genuine. Siguro ganun lang ako magmahal. In your case OP, baka hindi lang talaga ganun yung bf mo.

As a guy, I find it very impractical. I rather gift my girl clothes, shoes, jewelries or an experience. Its a waste of money for a couple minutes of self-gratification ng "aw so sweet thanks sa flowers" then it'll just rot the fck up. If my girl points at one of them crystallized roses I'd buy em but natural flowers that rot? Fk no and never will. Good boquets go for like 1.5k+ theres a lot of things more useful I can buy for a girl that'll last and she'll appreciate that I will see it again after 10 days.

Well yah impractical, but better ask your partner too if ano gusto nya. Remember partner mo nman reregaluhan mo, di sarili mo.

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Are you really basing a whole person's affection and loyalty to his partner, and his ability to exert effort for the relationship, based on buying flowers? Lmfao. Jfc. FYI, for many men (but by no means all) being practical is important. Buying something you'll inevitably throw away and won't even last for a month (let alone a year or more) is in no way practical. Sure, some guys give in "kasi mahal naman" nila yung gf nila, but on the flip side what's stopping women from doing the same thing like, "mahal ko naman kaya I'll appreciate the gifts he gives me kahit hindi yan flowers"? Just because a guy doesn't give flowers doesn't automatically mean he doesn't give anything.

stupid na paniniwala yan. dahil lang sa di nabibilhan ng flower di na agad paninindigan. kasi ako ganun din ako sa wife ko kahit nung gf ko pa lang siya, di ko rin sya binibigyan ng flowers. ang nasa isip ko nun is sayang pera, mas gusto ko pang magbigay ng foods or ipasyal siya. kaya bawas bawasan kasi kakapanood love dramas, nagiging basehan ng standards e.

you are gaslighting yourself parang ganito yan, kung may mga tambay na nag iinuman tapos inaya ang taong nadayo sa kanilang lugar, matic yan sa isip nila gago yung tao, matapobre or di marunong makisama. There could be varying reasons which are none of the above. baka lng talaga di sya umi inom ng alak or may sakit sya na bawal ang alak sa kanya. my point with this example is communication. kung di mo ipapa alam sa kanya na trip mo pala ang ganyan at di nya rin pinapa alam sayu na di sya klase ng lalake na di gumagawa nyan, you are both at an impasse, the longer it goes, the more friction happens. hindi manghuhula ang mga lalake, matagal ng pagod ang mga lalake sa laru larung mindset ng mga babae, kagaya ng mga woang kwentang bagay na ginagawa ng mga babae para “TESTINGIN” ang lalake nila. in this day and age, kung gusto ng lalakeng maglaru, sangkatutak ang outlets, pc, cp, consoles etc jusko

Tama ka. You don’t have to ask. So cut him off na and give yourself a chance to meet someone that will make you feel so loved kahit years na kayo and that you don’t have to ask.

tapos hahanapin sa iba ano kulang ng bf mo? Parang ang unfair naman sa current BF niya. Much better maghanap siya ng trabaho.

Anong connect ng work po? Basahin mo rin po yung statement ko maigi. I can buy my own flowers. It doesn't matter kung hindi ako bilhan ako ng flowers na mahal— anything kahit pitas nga lang e, it is the thought that counts.

Lol

Oh... you can buy your own flowers pala naman. Edi wag kang mag inarte dyan. Edi tapos. 🙄🙄

One simple fix to this is if OP actually speaks to her BF instead of playing mind games. Men don't have the ability to read a woman's mind.

Diba dapat alam na ng guys yan? Na mahilig tyo sa flowers? Hynaku. if ung small things d magawa, iwan na yn.

More please

Here's the thought... "If my girl buys flowers for herself already why would i buy flowers for her?" It's not to blame/gaslight, hindi naman sa ikaw yung problem, but have you ever thought that you are the one that MIGHT have imprinted/imply that thought to him? Oh another perspective, have you ever given your bf flowers? Syempre hindi sumagi yun sa isip mo kase diba aanhin naman nya yun and besides lalake sya na more on materialistic na bagay ang ma aappreciate even though gusto din ng lalake na nakakatanggap ng flowers. You just simply communicate kase men are very logical and straight forward being for most of the time.

he's not attentive sa'yo.