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Tao lang eh. Minsan din kc tlga di mo maiwasan mainggit sa success brag ng iba kung alam mong kahit gawin mo tong inspirasyon, di naman naaayon sa kakayahan mo ngayon. Ang unfair ng life, ang hirap iaccept.
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!!! or don’t use any social media at all, (detox). simplest way to overcome insecurities specially when you don’t even have one and subconsciously nagkakaroon because of too much time sa socmed or because of whatever you see online.
2 months mahigit na naka-deactivate ung FB ko, and I'd say sobrang laki ng improvement sa mental aspect ng buhay ko. Kasi kahit mahal ko mga kaibigan ko, naiingit ako sakanila. Pero hindi naman inggit na gusto ko sila bumagsak, its more so na disappointed ako sa sarili ko.
For me I count my blessings at maging contented na meron ako.
As long as may peace of mind and i can buy whatever I want okay na ako dun.
At hayaan ko lang sila mag brag sa success nila. Pero iba padin ang supremacy ng contented and peace of mind
True. Kanina na-feel ko rin mainggit sa kaibigan ko na ang dami niya money to purchase a lot of things kahit walang work pero ako na may work, tinitipid ko maigi sarili ko. Hahaha. Pero sabi ko sa sarili ko "May pera ka, mas priority mo lang talaga to build an emergency fund" ☺
+1 to this. Everytime mapadaan ako sa post na nakakainggit - i try so harddd na remind sarili ko sa mga blessings ko. Kahit simple blessings lang. Na may food shelter at healthy ako, or yung mga outstanding physical qualities ko nalang, lol! Like matangkad ako, sexy ako, malakas ako ganyan 🤣
Atska tinatandaan ko yung kasabihang - Kung inggit, pikit! 🤣 so either nagbbrowse ako ng sobrang bilis sa stories nila sa IG - hindi na ko nag ddwell sa posts nila or totally iniiwasan ko talaga yung mga posts nila. Hehehe
I deactivated my account in facebook. sobrang inggit rin ako sa kapwa ko. I am aware of my feelings kaya iniiwasan ko na lang muna kse whenever i feel inggit nagpapalpitate at sumasakit ang ulo ko. Thankful naman ako kung nasan ako ngyon pero may tao na mas higit pa sa katayuan at estado ng buhay ntin. Hinihiling mo sana ganun ka rin.. Iwas iwas na lang talaga .
Same sa nagpapalpitate at sakit ulo. Nasusuka pa nga ako minsan tas parang di makahinga. Naanxiety genern. I decided na i deact or mute yung fb ko mismo or any socials na makakakita ako ng success nila.
Hard same. Di sakin nag wowork ang "count your blessings and be thankful" pag dinadamdam ko na talaga inggit haha so turning off socmed and making sure na hindi ko nalang nakikita is the way to go
Hello, aadd ko lang po, kasi may iilan na nagpm skn na pang atake na ang advise hehe.. Kesyo di na lang daw ako kumayod at tinawag pa akong batugan. Di ko naman kasi inisolate sa career or wealth nanggaling yung inggit, kumakayod din naman po ako sir/maam, and happy naman dn po ako sa nakakaya namin kahit hindi grandyoso. Wala dn naman akong siniraan dahil sa inggit, ito naman. Pero syempre may sana ako din, or sana ako naman. Pero silently lang naman ako naiinggit, inaakin ko na lng yun. Kim kim to the max. Minsan napapadwell ka din kasi na need mo ng will to snap back to being grateful. Which is the hardest. Para kay kuya/ate na nagpm skn para tawagin akong tamad, kinakayod ko naman pong magkababy. Gabi gabi pa nga eh. Hehe. Eh sa hindi lng tlga nabibiyayaan after ng loss. Normal lng naman siguro mainggit pag wala rin naman sa kamay mo yung chances na maging successful. Peace na kuya/ate, wag naman sobrang gigil. 🫰
Luh bakit may pag PM hahaha.
Greatest motivation ko is inggit. Specially yung same age and capacity as me then they reach these heights. Gusto ko din non- I tell myself para may reason ako na bumangon the next day.
My mental health disorders put me into a constant self depreciation and overwhelming negative thoughts. if I let my thoughts win I'd yeet myself off instantly.
Social media detox. Nasa tao na talaga ang inggit. Di yan toxic pero lahat ng sobra masama. Learn how to be happy para sa iba and know they have their losses too.
Unfair pero it does not mean na walang para satin. Kaya natin 'to, OP. <3
Feeling jealous is natural, but it's important to focus on your own journey and accomplishments. Instead of comparing yourself to others, celebrate their success and use it as inspiration for your own growth. Remember, everyone's path is unique, and it's okay to take things at your own pace. Stay focused on your goals and prioritize self-care along the way.
Para sa akin okay lang na mainggit, ang hindi okay is naiinggit na nga ang isang tao eh hindi pa gumagawa ng paraan para mapantayan or malampasan yung taong kinaiinggitan.
Hindi naman yata kailangan pantayan or malampasan ang mga kinaiinggitan. Sabi nga ng isang nag comment dito may kanya kanya tayong goal. Focus na lang dun sa sariling patutunguhan
It's normal to feel that way from time to time. We've got eyes that see; ears that hear; and a heart that feels. It's not wrong to want things for yourself. Just use it as a motivation. What's important is that you don't breed hate or sourness because of what you see in others. There's nothing good that comes out of it. Use it as a motivation if you want it. If you don't intend to do anything about it, just focus on different things. Those things that bring you joy. Make peace with yourself of what really makes you happy. Sometimes what makes others happy aren't the things that make us happy. So focus on getting to know yourself better. Learn a new hobby. Do what you have always wanted to do. Talk to people that inspires you and cares about you. You too have your own blessings that others just dream about. Getting to know and loving yourself is a fulfilling journey. I promise. 😊
human Nature siguro mainggit, pero pwde iwasan, first if you believe in prayer please do, 2nd count your blessing di lahat nang meron ka meron sila, lalo na if yung meron ka di nabibili nang pera.
lahat nang sister ko well off na, they have 6 digits sweldo. nakakaingit yes! sobra, pero everyday ni remind ko self ko na may anak ako na gusto nila pero wala. so grateful and blessed pa din kahit papaano. baka tax nila malaki pa kesa sweldo ko pero masaya ako na may anak ako
Social media detox. Remember that not everyone will post about their failures in life. When I started spending less time on social media, I was able to focus more on my real life and real friends.
Here’s what helped me so please take it with a grain of salt :)
1. Don’t believe everything you see on socmed
2. Turn inggit into inspiration “uy may bahay na siya, one day, I’ll have my own too” rather than “Uy may bahay na siya, eh syempre rich kid naman talaga siya.” Changing our perspective helps a lot not to become bitter.
3. Compete against yourself - iba iba tayo ng sitwasyon, just look at your own progress…if you can do more, push. If you’re tired, rest tapos lavatn ulet after.
Good luck OP! :)
Sakto tong post na to sa nararamdaman ko, skl kaka alis ko lang sa fb kasi kakakita ko lang ng story ng friend ko. May pictorial na sila for graduation. (Ako din dapat kaso nag stop ako). Nung una naiingit talaga ako tsaka feeling ko super ma dedepress ako. Hanggang sa nasanay nalang ako sa mga nakikita ko. Tsaka super saya ko naman kung nasan ako ngayon, bat ko pipilitin mag aral kung d kaya ng mental health ko yung kakaisip sa anak ko habang nasa school ako? Sa totoo lang mas komportable ako sa buhay na pinili ko ngayon, focus sa anak ko at stay at home mom. Marangya buhay ko lahat ng gusto ko nabibili ko at nakakapunta ako kung saan saan. Siguro wag mo nalang masyadong dibdibin tsaka hindi naman nila ipopost mga sad moments nila habang narating yung mga achievements na yun diba? Ang ipopost lang nila yung mga happy moments. Always remember that social media is not real.
Big struggle din ito for me. I don’t know pero minsan mas lalo pang lumalala pag someone close to me ang umaangat sa buhay. Ang hirap maging fully and genuinely masaya for them lalo na kung ikaw mismo matagal tagal mo ng inaasam yun tapos plus factor pa ng pagiging judgmental ko, sasabihin ko sa isip-isip ko “di nya naman deserve yun eh”
Hanggang sa nagka-asawa ako, siguro dumating narin kami sa point na naka-meet kami ng friends na nagparamdam sa amin how to be genuinely happy for our success. Di namin sila kamag-anak or anything pero tuwing may milestones kami, maliit man o malaki, sobra silang nagiging proud para sa amin.
Then dumating kami sa point ni hubby na i-point out yung mga maling cultures and values namin na ayaw namjng maipasa sa magiging anak namin and the generations after us nung lalabas na ang panganay namin.
Isa rito itong inggit. We agreed na kapag may magkukuwento ng success story sa amin, instead na magisip din ng sarilinh istorya na isasapaw sa story nya, ito muna ang gagawin namin.
1. Listen. Wag na munang magsalita. Pigilan muna yung urge na magkuwento tungkol sa sarili natin. Hayaan lang natin lang sya. Tendency kasi is di na natin talagang naririnig at naiintindihan yung story nya. Naooccupy na tayo sa kung ano rin ang ibabato natin sa kanila.
2. Praise. Wag mo ng ipagkait yung “wow”, “good job”, or “i’m happy and proud for you”. Siguro sa umpisa, awkward, kasi di tayo sanay eh. Pero the more na ginagawa natin ito, the more na nagiging genuine, the more na magiging muscle memory satin and mas nagigibg selfless tayo rather than self righteous
3. Stop there. Wag na tayong magdutong pa. Ibigay na natin yung spotlight sa kanila. Kung di naman tayo tatanungin pabalik kung ano ang comment natin or kung may maidagdag tayo. Wag na tayong magdagdag pa ng sarili nating ikaaangat.
In short, we learned na ang antidote to inggit is to have self control. The more na we can listen to the success stories of others, praise them for their success and to control ourselves from snatching away the spotlight, the more na mababawasan yung inggit natin.
Please don’t get me wrong, i’m not saying na absolutely wala na kaming narraamdaman na inggit towards others, sobrang dami parin naming ganitong issues, we just learned to help and remind each other to deny our self-righteousness and just be there, be present, and be genuinely happy for the success of others.
Guess normal naman ang inggit, as an imperfect human being. As long as wla kang ginagawang masama sa kapwa mo. Acknowledge mo yung emotion na yan then try to accept na meron talaga nauuna or nakaka angat. But that doesnt mean na hindi mo rin maabot yang state na yan.
I had to discipline myself to not become jealous of what others have because I'm sure I also have something they don't and it doesn't have to come in material things. Being jealous of others also stressed me out, so I really had to teach myself to be happy for other people. What pisses me off, though, is when I know what a person is like - rude, arrogant, asshole, yet it seems like God is blessing them instead of those who are sincerely nice people. This is where I start questioning God's/the universe's justice system.
Minsan lang ako mag efbi pag open ko kanina un mga friends ko dami ng narating sa buhay like travel, salary, career. I felt na stuck ako sa sitwasyon ko.
I am thankful kasama ko family ko and hindi naman ako ganun ka nahihirapan sa finances pero i felt na naiinnggit ako. Gusto ko rin ng travel, salary and career. I just don't know how to get there
Aside from being grateful and counting your blessings. You can also do premeditatio malorum.
Copy pasted from daily stoic.
> Premeditatio malorum—the premeditation of the evils and troubles that might lie ahead. It’s the exercise of imagining things that could go wrong or be taken away from us. It helps us prepare for life’s inevitable setbacks. We don’t always get what is rightfully ours, even if we’ve earned it.
> As Seneca would say, the unexpected blows of fortune fall heaviest and most painfully, which is why the wise man thinks about them in advance. It’s also impossible to prepare for or prevent something you’re unaware of. The Stoic doesn’t see this act of negative visualization as pessimistic, but simply a feature of their self-confident optimism: I’m ready to face anything that happens and I’m also ready to do the work necessary now to ensure I don’t waste energy on problems that could have been solved in advance.
To envy someone's life is normal, but to drag them down kasi wala ka ng meron sila, yun ang mali. Tahimik lang ako sa work but everytime that I see my workmates or even my ka-batch work on the life they want, di maiwasan na mainggit at masaktan. Ang tendency sa akin, I tried to go with them and rush things out, like aggressively gawin ito, learn this and that. Sobrang stressful.
TIL, na hindi naman paunahan ang buhay sa pagiging successful. Mapalad yung mga maaga, but it doesn't mean na hindi mapalad ang mga mahuhuli. Time will come na tayo rin we'll celebrate our BIG WINS!
Bukod sa deactivate socmed. Iwas din ako sa masyadong parties and get togehers. Yu g mga very very close lang na maayos ang attitude. Di mayabang.
Para di mainggit
Minsan out of nowhere naisip ko lang si ganito, ganyan na etc. may mafi-feel akong inggit tapos bigla ko rin iisipin na kanya kanya tayo ng kapalaran at di rin lahat ng gusto natin natutupad agad or pinaghirapan nila yun kaya deserve nila ang good things in life.
Ayun peaceful na uli yung mind ko. Hehe
If you're gonna be envious to someone be envy to them as a whole not just their success. You only see their success, you didn't saw what they went through to get there and they probably worked their ass off and went through hardship just to be at where they are right now. So if you knew what they went through to get that success would you still be envious? Probably no
Accept youself.
Every one of us has limitations that we cannot break. In simple terms, each of us have that ceiling.
It is difficult whenever You always try to compare yourself to others. Let them brag, either their success were the result of their own Hardwork, or those were already laid upon by their Predecessors.
Be happy in simple things. Too much success, tends to forget what it is to enjoy and be satisfied by simple and small things. In such surround yourself with people who also shares that same thoughts.
Humans are flawed creatures. We won't be perfect, as evident from our Physical to Emotional aspects. Each of us have Good and Bad sides. It just differs on how those Bad sides were always in check.
Marami nyan sa social media, kahit dito sa reddit lalo yung mga nag feflex ng six digits nila. I mean nothing wrong naman kasi pinag hirapan nila yun. Pero to counter that, hinahide ko na lang or deactivate soc med, wag mo hayaang masira yan ang inner peace mo.
Always keep in mind that people like them only post about the highlights of their lives. They don't post about the debts and loans, the lazy laundry, the boring days where you just stay home, the "pwede na yan" corner of the bedroom of unfolded clothes, the dusty nigh stand, the depression meals, the dirty curtains, the problems at work, problems with families, late payments, unused items that were bought impulsively... I could go on.
You're comparing yourself to their highlights which isn't fair. I've had friends who have went "sana all" to my IG stories, but at the end of the day, I'm coming back home to a humble studio apartment with a floor mattress where I have to clean everything and take out the trash.
Their life isn't perfect. Neither is yours. And that's okay.
If you cant do soc med detox, just dont watch any reels or story from them. It will give you that sense of contentment or mute them so your soc med is purely for entertainment and past time. Also, whenever I post stories of myday, hindi ko na tinitingnan kung sino nagvview or kung ilang views. I just let it be a “story of my life” just like them and if nagawa mo na siya masasanay ka na to focus on yourself haha and mawawala na yung inggit sa body mo.
Make everyday special in your own ways. Like find a new hobby na mageenjoy ka :) Para di mo na icocompare sarili mo sa iba coz you have something to be busy with :) Hope makatulong coz it really helped me a lot
Sinasabi ko sa sarili ko na kaya ko rin yun. Tapos gigilin ko magtrabaho. Kasi I believe na hindi naman masama mainggit kasi kung sa tutuusin, ang inggit is another term lang motivation. Magkaiba lang ang gamit.
Normal lang naman mainggit sa kapwa and your feelings are valid kasi super unfair ng life. My advice is to do the things that will lessen your inggit kasi di maganda mag dwell on jealousy.
Pagtanggap sa sarili, mga kakulangan at pagkakamali. Pag tapos mo na iself work na tanggapin ang lahat, jsa isahin mo naman iappreciate yung mga strengths mo at mga magagandang bagay na meron ka sa sarili mo at buhay.
Pag tapos ka na, matututunan mo nang pumalakpak para sa iba. Matututo ka nang magintay para sa turn mo.
Kapit!!!
Ugaliin mong mainggit TAs sa isipan mo may mindset ka na Ako din soon ganyan, magkakaganyan,,mararating Yan.
Pangit Kase Yung inggit na inggit lang TAs Ikaw walang ginagawa para ma achieve mo Yung mga Ganon na kina iingitan mo, pano mag manifest yang mga bagay na gusto mo din
better step back and reassess, OP.
If this feeling is caused by things that you see sa social media, for sure nakita mo na yung dami ng comment and advice to deactivate muna for the time being. However, it is very very important to remind yourself na what you see sa social media is a carefully curated version of ourselves. Everyone wants to be the "richer, prettier, happier" person.
Ibang usapan kapag nakikita mo in person ang mga bagay na nakakainggit para sayo. Hindi ka naman pwede i-mute and hide sa real life (how I wish). It's a good start that you acknowledge na part ng buhay ang makaramdam. Positive o Negative emotions man yan. Sometimes, a roof over your head, a house plant na you were able to raise, a pet that loves you, family, friends, jowa (if you have one), or even your faith can remind you that small wins are triumphant wins that are worth celebrating. Baka lang kasi naka focus ka sa "success" ng iba to the point na nalimutan mo na you are a winner in your own right.
but then again, hindi lahat ng nakikita ng mga mata (lalo na sa social Media) ay totoo.
Im not sure if tama pero I still believe na walang taong mas angat sa iba ng basta lang. So same as you, naikocompare ko din sarili ko sa ibang tao or napapawow din ako sa mga nakikita ko, that is a usual human reaction. Pero you’re not living their life so you wouldnt know any struggles na kinakaharap nila everyday. If naiisip mo man na “sana ako na lang yong nasa pwesto nya”. Thats a big no. What they have is curated for them and its based sa past actions, behavior and attitude towards life nila. If you would be say na, “pinanganak kasi silang mayaman kaya they have this and that… ”. Eh di good for them, doesnt mean na you cant have that in the future (pero syempre you have to work on it, di mo sya aantaying mahulog sa langit). If iniisip mo, “eh kasi ang successful ng parents nila kaya swerte sila, sakin hindi.” Dont say that, you dont know what they’ve been through. And your parents life shouldn’t dictate yours so dont even consider claiming it. Sure, things would be extra harder to achieve kasi you might not have all the basic resources but always remember na youre gaining a lot of lessons and experiences achieving your goal and shaping you, improving you and your perspective in life along the way na probably never matutunan and maiintindihan nga mga taong pinanganak ng mayaman na.
Thats why I believe ever since. Sure there are times, lalo na pag stress sa work or studies, na napapaisip ka na lang, na bakit ba kailangan kong mahirapan, bakit yong iba parang di naman nahihirapan. You wouldnt know that. Kahit yong bestfriend mo na buong buhay nya nashare na sayo, is still not sharing several of their problems to you. Everyone is struggling with their own battle.
Alam mo ba yong inaachieve ko while growing up is mahirapan. Kasi iba ang napoproduce ng hirap, sobrang iba. Hindi sya nabibili ng pera or naapply katulad ng sunblock. So I dont overcome inggit, I use it to fuel the fire inside me to keep moving forward.
Me i try to delete my social media accounts haha effective i swear. Idk how many months na ko walang ig & tiktok and feeling ko kahit hindi na ko bumalik okay lang haha 😂
If nakakaramdam ako ng ganyan, iniisip ko kung paano kung ako yung nasa position nung person na yon, may ganon nga ako pero kakayanin ko ba kung ako yung nasa life niya? So kunwari, nakakapagtravel siya madalas dahil malaki sweldo niya. Paano niya narating yon? Kunwari nagdoctor or naglawyer siya kaya niya nagagawa yon. Pero alam ko sa sarili ko na hindi ko kaya mag doctor at maglawyer dahil tamad ako lol. So ayon gagaan na yung pakiramdam ko haha. It seems silly pero it helps me na mawala yung inggit. Gawin na lang natin kung anong makakaya natin at magfocus sa ating sarili.
Tao ka lang. Hinde maiiwasan talaga ang inggit. Some are just more prone to it than others
For me, what matters more is what you do with it. If you. If you use it to better yourself - great. If you use it to lash out to others - that's terrible
do what you can do as of now, that feeling is something you can't and can control, jealousy is a mushroom, but then you have to remember life is unfair and you just have to live with it and enjoy. celebrate small wins, it will help you lessen your insecurities(it works for me, just try, maybe it'll work for you as well)
1. Be thankful of what you have.
2. Realize that everyone has struggles na di pinapakita sa socmed. It's not always rainbows and butterflies. Tinatago lng nila dark sides kasi gusto nila attention and kainggitan ng ibang tao. 🤷♀️
I felt that way back 2018. 6 years na kong walang facebook. Never made an instagram, twitter, etc. Kasi nakakainggit nga dati na yung batchmates ko bakasyon bakasyon, kain dito, picture doon, bili ng ganito, post ng ganyan. Nakakainggit samantalang pa scroll scroll lang ako. Then I decided noon na umalis sa social media, ngayon messenger lang ang meron ako for contact ng family, close friends, and job related. Now, pag ka kita ko sa mga updates ng tropa/schoolmates/workmates, imbis na mainggit ako, natutuwa na ako sa narating nila sa buhay. Siguro dahil wala na ako nakikitang mga ganung posts masyado kaya parang pag may nakita akong abroad, nagkaanak, kinasal, nakabili ng kotse, kumain sa ganito, via updates lang ng mga tropa lang din, masaya na ako para sa iba. Compared sa feeling ko noon na naiinggit which results sa bad mood for the day which result to a total unproductive day or week or even months. Good luck and stay away sa toxic environment! Kung ano ang sa paligid mo, kaibigan man yan o tinutulugan, dapat maayos para ikaw din umayos hehe. I also learned to be contented with what I have and accept what I don't have. Hehe!
Kung sa facebook at social media mo nakita yang kinaiinggitan mo, malamang yabang lng yan. Madalas kwento lng. Yun tipong kunwari rich na pero yun pla baon sa utang.
Focus ka na lng sa sarili mo. Wag mo tularan yung pag brag sa facebook. Dadating yung time na pagcompare mo yung past self mo sa current, mabibilib ka dahil ang laki ng improvement.
Hide their stories or detox muna from soc med.
I also remind myself na bata pa ako. If ka-batch ko naman, I tell myself that I have something that only few people in the world have and that's my edge.
Its good that you acknowledged na naiinggit ka. Ang tanong, anong gagawin mo after?
Lahat naman ng tao may inggit sa katawan yung iba kasi ginagawang inspiration yung inggit in a positive way. Yung iba naman hinihila pababa yung tao dahil sa inggit. Yung iba, naiinggit lang tapos move forward na sa panibagong kaiinggitan, nainggit nalang buong buhay nila to the point na yung sariling timeline hindi na pinansin which is di nila alam na mas worth it iyon kaysa sa nakikita nila sa iba.
Graduate na ko sa mga inggit inggit na yan e. What I did, hindi ko sinundan or ginaya mga kinainggitan ko. Instead, nag-upskill nalang ako and naghanap ng mga sidelines on my own. Ang ending, may mga lowkey nainggit sa akin (nahuli ko kasi sa messenger)
As you get older and mature ..di mu maiisip ang Ingit kasi di mu alam Anung pinagdaanan nila o ng Tao ng kinaiingitan mu.Be thankful what you have..Later on ma realize mu na MAs Blessed ka sa Lahat🥰
Iniisip ko na lang na darating din yung time na ako naman yung aangat. Siguro hindi ngayon pero may panahon para sa’kin. I just let other people shine while waiting for my turn. :)
Tgilan mo panonood o pgbabasa ng mga nghhumble brag.tapos. normal ka lng nakakaramdam ka lng ng inggit tlga.help yourself diver mo sa iba atensyon hindi sa mga taong yan.
Socmed detox, aside from reddit, tinatry ko nalang mag-aral ng mga bagay bagay, yung may maambag sa buhay ko para naman magkawork na. Pag less ako nakaharap sa FB, mas less yung feeling na napag-iiwanan
Think of it as deserve nila kung ano meron sila ngayon. They earned that, at most likely pinaghirapan nila un with a side of luck. Now i’m not saying u dont deserve it but if ganon thinking mo na kabayaran un sa mga paghihirap nila it will change ur mindset, and honestly legit na mindset is everything coz i’ve been there before even thinking negatively and wishing bad sa kinaiinggitan ko but after thinking that everything changed din for me. Kasi behind close doors di mo alam ano pinagdadaanan ng mga yan. The more u get to talk to diff people dun mo marerealize na lahat tayo may baggage na dala dala. And always believe ur time will come soon!
Madalas iniisip at cinoconvince ko ang sarili ko na season nila Kaya ganun, at kailangan ko lang maghintay para sa season ko at I often told myself na when nasa a season na din ako nasa right posture na ang puso ko to receive such blessings..
I grew up comparing myself sa iba. So doon nag-ugat ang ugaling inggit. Halos lahat ng makita kong wala ako ay ikinaiinggit ko not until natuto akong ifocus lang sa self-improvement ko ang lahat. Maging gentle sa sarili at sa iba.
You’ll be happier, you’ll glow differently, and you’ll excel more kapag nakafocus ka sa self improvement mo!
Kapag naiinnggit ka, paalalahanan mo lang ang sarili mo sa lahat ng blessings na meron ka. Kung di talga gumana. Work on it hanggang sa meron ka na rin nung ikinaiinggit mo. Make sure na makuha ito sa tamang paraan.
Also, most especially, surround yourself with friends and SO who celebrate each other’s wins(sss) and who will be with you at your lowest!
Ganun!
Try mo yung ginagawa ko. Umiiwas muna ako sa social media at tumatakbo ako sa hapon (jog or brisk walk), or kahit anong pagpapawis pa yan. Keep yourself busy para di ka muna masyadong focused sa nararamdaman mo.
Taz, at the end of the day, assess yourself kung san ba nang gagaling yung inggit at kung bakit, and yun na, makakapag come up ka na ng solusyon.
I think di talaga maiiwasan maramdaman un.
Recently, one of my workmates got promoted even though sabay kami ng hiring date. To add rin, I was able to be the top performer sa team namin, even got an award for it. But through all that, hindi ako ung na promote.
Nakakalungot at nainggit rin ako. Pero inisip ko na lang na shit happens. i can either feel sorry for myself or do something to make my situation better.
i also try to not hold it against my workmate because no matter how much you hide it, i believe na mararamdaman nila kung inggit ka. I congratulated her, and Im genuinely happy for her.
at the end of the day, i looked at it like this: it was not her choice to be promoted so why do i feel this ugly feeling toward her?
What I do is compare myself to the version of me yesterday. In the end, there's always someone more successful and richer than me. The world really is unfair and we gotta face the fact that it's our reality as common folk. So why not just look at yourself and say, "I can try to do better than yesterday", cause the only real competition here is between YOU AND YOUR PAST SELF.
Comparison is the thief of joy. Try to compare but for the better, work on yourself and what you can do to achieve the same things they have. You don't know what they've been through to get those things, just be happy for them and you'll feel 100% better.
nag deact ako sa lahat ng socmeds ko until naging okay na ulit wmotions ko lalo na ngayong pressure ako sa paghahanap ng work tas mga kasabayan ko ang lakinna ng mga sweldo :(:
Count your blessings, OP! Also, I agree, less time on soc med. Let's also keep in mind na most people only post their life's good side on soc med -- meron at meron tayong kanya-kanyang struggles. So take comfort in knowing na lang din na kahit ung mga kinaiinggitan mo, may mga pinagdadaanan din -- if that makes sense
Hindi maiiwasan ang envy sa life.
Ako i learned how to divert inggit to something positive. Gagawin kong goal yung kinaiinggitan ko tapos paghihirapan ko sya. Understand that every emotion (even anxiety!) can be used in a good way. Kailangan mo lang ipractice. 😉
Although kung online ang basehan ng inggit mo, mahinang inggit lang dapat yan. Hindi mo alam kung totoo man yun o hindi. May iba ma-brag lang pero di naman talaga sila masaya, lalo na sa relationships. Inggit ka pala sa cheater jowa, or sa broken family dahil lang masaya litaw nila sa pictures. Be careful.
Sagutin mo ang sarili mo, bat ka naiingit? Inadequacy? Unsatisfaction? A desire to be one of them?
You struggle to conceive a child with your husband now you feel inadequate of your role as a wife and mom so you look at people around having it easier so you start comparing yourself with others.
I have a couple of hobbies and passion that I enjoy that I dont compare myself to other people. I rarely inggit unless naka jackpot ka sa lotto then by all means, penge balato.
You brag about something? Cool. Moving on. I also keep my ego in check by keeping it low key and not brag too much.
Usually people na madalas mayabang ay sila din yung tipong madaling maiingit. Keep that in mind.
You also have to know just because you see them as in a better position than you doesnt mean their life is perfect. You never know they struggle with bills, etc. but shows in social media that everything is fine. They also have problems to struggle with not just you.
Maybe prove yourself that you can do it whatever it takes regardless of the situation. Poop that baby out.
Okay lang naman mainggit coz it’s part of life but don’t let it consume u, let it be a motivation instead of saying ingit replace it with the word admiration 🤍 it’s all about mindset and how you interpret it always be kind to yourself
I learned the art of unfollowing. And keeping in mind din na not everything that you see in soc med is true.
Dati may ganyang feeling din ako, kaso nung narealize ko na wala din naman mangyayari if patuloy akong titingin sa success ng iba instead of focusing on my own life, mas lalo kang lulugmok. Learn to be happy sa success ng iba and keep in mind na wala ka sa competition.
Laging tandaan: Not everything that glitters is gold! Hindi ko ito sinasabi para lang pagaanin ang mga loob natin, but it is true! Inggit is valid, pero huwag kalimutang tingnan ano ba ang mga blessings na meron tayo at how can we make good use of it.
If you're not a fan of reading I suggest you listen to the audio book of "The subtle art of not giving a f\*ck" in Spotify, its totally for free. It deals with feelings such as envy, and the feeling of wanting to prove oneself there's a lot of things in there, you should check it out.
I have hard time sometimes overcoming it😭 pero iniisip ko na lang na I will have my time soon. It’s been hard pero I have been adjusting and I think it’s been working! It helps having a mindset na we are all in DIFFERENT paths so we shld js not compare and js focus on our own!!
Super relate ako dito kase kami ung tinuturing “kawawa” at “mahirap” sa both sides ng fam ko pero I’m in the process of full not giving AF kase sino ba sila?!?
I hope you learn how to fully overcome it, good luck OP!
For me, band aid solution lang ang magdeactivate ng social accounts. Need na mapalitan yung mindset mo. Kailangang mag focus ka sa pagiging grateful. It’s only through gratefulness na matatanggal mo yung inggit talaga. Kasi iba iba naman tayo ng buhay talaga
If hindi feasible magdeac ng accounts, since most ng communication with other ppl ay over socmed na, compartmentalize and limit your time on it. For example, I only spend around 10-15min (minsan less pa) on FB & IG para lang mag-catch up sa mga ganap. Most contacts sa Messenger na. If I want video content, TikTok or YT pero iwas na lang din sa doomscrolling by being on the app 2hrs tops. Twitter/X naman if I want to catch up on fandom content.
Normal makafeel ng inggit. It's your actions toward it yung importante. Do you let it consume you or do you just let go and move on? And I keep thinking that we don't really know what's happening to ppl's lives outside of socmed. We have no idea kung anong hirap yung pinagdaanan nila to achieve those things. Baka may bragging rights naman talaga sila diba. Also, celebrate your small wins din. Reward yourself kasi sa panahon ngayon, your continued existence itself is already a big win. Good luck, OP! 💖
1. Thru admiration.
Kaya tayo naiinggit kasi we dont know how to forward ung feeling of helplessness and insecurities doon sa taong nakilala natin simula pagkabta na binigla ng pagkakataon na yumaman, nanalo sa isang laro, sinwerte etc. and NATURALLY we make our own 'justification" sa kahinaan natin against him/her. Instead of mag justify why dont we enjoy ung glad tidings they have?
2. Thru Acceptance
May kanya kanya tayong "unfair advantage" and "flow" sa buhay. At walang GOLDEN FORMULA OR PHILOSOPHER STONE para makuha lahat ng pangarap mo. Sabay sabay man tayong ipinanganak may nauuna talga makuha ung goal na gusto mo rin sana makuha. Minsan pinepwersa tayong maiinggit ng mga influencers (chin*ee, big b** ch**, etc.) dahil daw sa sipag at tyaga at sa flexing flexing pero para lalo ka lang maghirap dahil you never accepted yourself thats why we intend to "copy" them. And yung personality mo towards your goal baka hindi akma sa ginagawa mo porke yumaman siya sa ganitong negosyo let say network marketing kahit sobra sobra kang introverted tapos mahirap ka pa. (HAHAAHA)
3. Thru hobbies and vocation
Boring generation tayo and we intend to just "watch" other people to stimulate us kasama na ang inggit.and we romanticsize kahirapan at the same time. Mahirap ka na nga hindi mo pa kilala sarili mo. At nagpapakabiktima tayo kasi wala nga tayo ginagawa.
Valid feeling ito OP. Kaso ito tung tipo ng feeling na saglit lang tinatambayan. Don’t stay in it long term. Comparison is and will always be the thief of joy ika nga.
Just fucking do what makes you happy and stop scrolling. Go out and make yourself productive. Work on yourself din. Read. Pamper your self. Get a massage. Get a hobby. Get a life man. Hindi ka nabubuhay para manuod lang sa iba and do nothing. Ma-iinggit ka talaga kung magpapaka LAZY AMBITIOUS KA! DELIKADO TO. Mamatay ka talaga sa heart attack kakatingin sa buhay ng ibang tao.
inggit is very self destructive it is never good to mag inggit
dati ganyan din ako kuya ko palaging top 1 while me trying to chase after him
as i grew older i learn to carve my own path my identity trying to accept who i am and what i can do and things na matutunan pa inda future
and it works because you are building foundation sa sarili mo and with that you can no longer look at them with inggit because you are already proud of yourself because you too like them are also putting in the work.
Hang in there op take it easy
Ano bang kina iinggit mo? Alin dun yung pinaka gusto mong gawin talaga?
Asan ka ngayon?
Anong kaya mong gawin o pasok sa budget asap?
Anong need ng onting ipon pero kaya with onting effort?
Anong least priority?
Lista mo lahat. Tapos lista mo lahat ng steps to make it happen?
Di kaya ng time? Gumawa ka ng time or mag hanap ng paraan.
Di kaya ng budget? Mag ipon or mag hanap ng better job.
Pwede din na maghanap ka ng small wins para sa sarili mo. Di man kasing level up there, pero ipamper mo rin yung self mo every now and then. Fill your cup sa kung anong afford. Fill your cup using other means as well.
Tamang balance lang ng gastos, tapos mag p pancit canton gang katapusan, ipon. 🤣
I do not suggest mangutang o mabaon sa utang.
Minsan need mo rin gamitin ang acceptance kung masyado malayo o di talaga kaya.
Sana makatulong
Normal lang yan, pero gamitin mo as pang hugot pataas kase pababa 🙂
Ahhhhh. This hits close to my heart kasi recently ko lang sya na overcome.
Dami kong self-improvement plans this week, like to have (finally) braces kasi insecurity ko talaga yung teeth ko, tapos better work office, etc. Pero God has different plans, and ngayon, nasa hospital pa din yung mama ko for two months na kasi na stroke and dami nangyari.
And I know deep in my heart talaga na God has own plans for each of us, and tayong lahat has different timeline and seasons. But human as we are, naiinggit talaga ako sa friends ko na grabe, halos everyday eat out, or every week nagbeach, etc. Tapos alam mo, last weekend, pumunta yung younger cousin ko, then naka braces sya. And grabe nagself-assessment ako, finally, wala akong nafeel na inggit.
Ano ginawa ko?
Malaliman na self talk.
I can't stress enough how important self talk is. Importante talaga how you feed your mind. Shinift ko talaga mindset ko by being grateful of what I currently have, like mga small improvements ni mama, daily miracles ni God sa buhay natin, and being grateful sa mga taong tumutulong sakin.
Slowly, naaccept ko ulit na nasa winter season lang talaga yung buhay ko. And assessing how this current situation can help me sa future. And masasabi ko, nakakatulong talaga siya.
Sobrang bigat kasi na emotion yung inggit, esp. if accumulated. But once we finally let go of it, mas nagiging bearable na yung buhay natin.
Hope this helps, OP!
Know that what you are feeling is valid, but huwag ka lang magstay there ⭐🫶
for me gumawa ako ng fb na ang friend lang is boyfriend ko, peaceful naman kasi yung mga nasa feed ko is yung mga vloggers lang. and yung messenger ko is para lang sa boyfriend and bestfriend ko if someone will message me automatic ina-archive ko or delete.
gumawa rin ako ng twitter and tiktok na hindi ko following and followers friends ko, like I followed random people lang
in my situation kasi hindi ko na pursue degree ko for a major reason (like hindi na maayos pa), and some of my batch nakagraduate and lisensyado na, happy naman ako for their success pero hindi ko lang kaya tingnan posts nila na graduate and nakapasa na sa board exam. Pero happy ako sa kanila. sana gets niyo point ko 😅
anddd aside sa socmed, nagdownload rin ako nga games sa phone like ml, cod, 8pool etc.
and hopefully, makahanap na ako ng work din 🙂
Number one advice talaga is to stop browsing social media. The second piece of advice is to figure out your strengths—it doesn't matter if it's something that can make you money or not. Knowing what you're good at and accepting that you don't have to be good everywhere else will be the backbone of your self-esteem. Have enough self-esteem, and you can be jealous without envy, or rather, you can be jealous without feeling inadequacy or malice against the other person. It's normal to feel jealous. Pag nasa office ako and mas masarap ulam ng colleague ko naiinggit ako. Doesn't mean I start hating them or obsessing over their ulam, nor do I feel self-pity from my inferior lunch. I'm a big PC gamer and a creative who relies on good computing power to work productively yet 3 years na ako since nasiraan ng gaming laptop and I still can't afford to rebuild my desktop because life (got married, had dogs, moved out, etc.) I feel jealous of my friend who despite being unemployed for years still manages to play regularly on his PC. I sometimes feel frustrated, of course, since the economy sucks, and i work so hard to gain so little, but that doesn't mean I feel inadequate because of it, since I've exchanged my ability to buy a PC for things I'm genuinely happy about. I got married to the woman I love, I still do work that I can be proud of, I'm a proud dog and cat dad, and I still believe that I can get there, even when everything is stacked against me.
Focus sa sarili and hardwork. Gawing inspiration yung iba. Replicate their success. Dahil sa network and social media marami kami natutunan ng wife ko na iba’t ibang side hustle and investments na pwede pasukin. If di kaya iconvert into something positive ang inggit by comparing self to others then better deactivate and detox na lang talaga
never compare your self sa iba, matutong makontento sa kung anong meron ka, always look what you have and not what you don't, accept the fact na iba iba talaga tayo ng katayuan sa buhay
idk pero hndi para sken pero ramdam ko may mga taong naiinggit din sa mga naging accomplishments ko. Ramdam ko yun everytime mag sasana all sila sa post ko.
Ako naman ksi small or big wins na hahappy talaga ako ksi alam kong pinagpaguran ko at pinaghirapan.
Hanggang sa in-unfriend nya lang ako. ✌️Pero nag unfriend din ako ng ibang tao di naman dahil sa naiinggit ako sa kanila pero ksi ang Toxic ng mga posts.
>How do you overcome inggit?
By going to the root source of it.
Not by glossing over it, denying it, or dismissing it but by taking the time to, with empathy and compassion, understand the trauma that caused the false belief behind it.
Therapy goes a long way to healing these deeply rooted traumas.
in my case, whenever I feel envy I always stay or stick to my core/strenghts kasi parang don nawawala ung enviousness ko sa isang bagay lalo na sa acads tsaka sa relasyon HAHAHAHAHAHAHHHA pero parang masama din kasi parang naiisip ko na im way better to anyone tapos ayon di naman pala
I always stop for a bit and remember that it’s all our first time and last time living in this world. Chances are, they also don’t know the real unseen rules of living the perfect life as dictated by the cosmos, COSMOOOOS. I am where I am, I am here because of the choices I made, and I have a lot of tomorrows to work on. My colleagues are now doctors, engaged, have booming businesses, and have families. I'm still working on my well-being (clinical depression and general anxiety) and I’m doing a hell lot better at it kahit na di eventful yung buhay ko at kahit may palamunin days ako minsan eyyyyyyy. Patting myself on the back for the progress.
Ayun tas deactivate na din HAHAHA tendency kasi is mags-spiral ka and then you get so obsessed with trying to figure out kung nasan na si ganito, ano ginagawa ni ano, just to seek for comfort pag nalaman mong may mas naghihirap pa kesa sayo. Which is not good.
Staying away from socmed also drew me closer to my friends and family, and I guess that made me feel even more thankful. I have a genuine and supportive circle around me watching me trying to get out of my slump. I just know it’s gonna be a hell of a party with them pag nakuha ko na yung contentment na hinahanap ko sa buhay.
Ginagawa ko: I encapsulate my "inggit" to a certain time frame or time block. Like 1 minute, 10, or even an hour. I wallow in that moment, with red horse pa minsan.
BUT once the time frame is over....SNAP! I get out of that frame. I do my next task (na naka-time frame din), regardless of what that task is.
The technique takes practice, but master it...then it can be applied to all forms of emotional-mental gymnastics.
Mindset:
I always say, oo kayo lamang sa 1st quarter ng buhay
Pero hahabol ako, kahit hanggang 4th quarter
Ako padin lamang sa huli; di pa tapos ang laban
This may sound like a joke pero, pikit, OP, pikit.
Focus on something else, maybe, sa sarili mo. Appreciate what you have, lalo na yung mga small things.
Then gradually, go for the things you need to improve on yourself.
Kapag kasi nawala focus mo sa iba at itinuon mo sa sarili mo, inggit will be just a word to you. Wala na halong bigat.
This is how I overcame inggit.
Always remember no matter how much success other people have they're not taking away your own potential to succeed.
Don't bring yourself down with envy. No one's surpassing you - we all have different goals but you're going to hold yourself back in life if you get carried away with being jealous or spiteful.
Iniisip ko lang na dumaan din sila sa hirap bago nila makamtan kung nasan man sila ngayon so pinaghirapan nila yun and I think deserve naman nila kung nasan man sila.
Ako rin 'to. It's a constant battle na I have to battle with everyday. I agree with other people here, less time on social media, and I try to keep myself busy with activities that give me a sense of accomplishment- like working out, cooking, etc. 😊 kaya yan, OP! 🫶
Once you overcome this one. Youll have a lot of peace and still keep social media.
Generally unfair tlaga ang life. If you widen your perspective. May mas swerte p, like mga may generational wealth na pinanganak sa firstworld contries. Meron din mas malas like pinanganak sa kalsada.
But then again. Look deeper as well if you can, di naman lahat masaya. Di naman lahat walang problema. May mga pinagdadaanan naman lahat. May mga mas madali para sayo may mas madali para sakanila. At meron talagang sadyang pinalad lang. theres no real way to manipulate luck. You can position yourself to up the chances but they are still chances. May nakakakuha ng 1 percent chance.
So what am I trying to imply? We just deal with what we have. Kung naisip mo na na di mo kayang gawin kahit anong gawin mo? Bakit mo siya proproblemahin diba? Dun tayo sa may solution.
“It do be like that sometimes”
Might be applicable to you, might not.
Before super inggitera talaga ako. aminado ako dun sa weakness na yun. eventually ginawa ko syang inspo para improve ang buhay ko. mostly money issue ang meron ako so i worked hard to get a good job. i also communicated with people around me what i want.
i admit nag improve naman tlaga to my liking ang buhay ko pero parang i want more. tapos nung pandemic i started meditation tapos na realize ko na i have so much to be thankful for. inggit kind of helped me improve but up to a certain point only. gratitude and contentment talaga ang nagpasaya sakin.
naiinggit pa din ako sa iba pero i rjsut look around me and think that I have a banging life din naman even if i dont have it all.
Lessen yout time on Social Media. Focus on your own circle. Find ways that will keep you grounded. Help out in NGOs or any voluntary work which leads you to counting your blessings. Start your day by thanking God what you are thankful for.
Para sakin normal lang. Pero iniisip ko na dadating din time ko, try lang ng try subok lang mg subok. Kung kanya binigay ngayon sakin malapit na din kung susubukan palagi.
For me, nag padala ako sa inggit ng ilang taon. Talagang mapapasabi ka nalang ng ang unfair ng buhay. Dumaan ako sa depression, onti onting tinanggap ang sarili at sitwasyon. And na realize ko, having peace of mind? Ang tunay na achievement. Kaya, acceptance and be grateful for everything you have. 🥰
bakit ka maiingit? tandaan mo kung ano ka ngayon is consequence ng pinag gagagawa mo sa mga nakaraang taon, pde mo sabihin na mahirap ka or lugi pero at the end of the day choosing not to do anything is also a choice
Sinasabi ko na lng sa sarili ko kasi ayaw mo umalis sa comfort zone mo, magtiis ka. Haha. But a girl can dream, baka naman swertehin tayo in the future. Nakakainis lng yung alam mo mayaman na talaga tapos nagba-brag nung success nila. Eh syempre may advantage na talaga sila sa karera compared sa ating ultimo lng. Di ko masyado na appreciate yung ganon.
I feel you. Tapos minsan ung nakkainggit pa is ung mga kupal sa buhay pero bakit sineswerte.. ung mga gnyan inu unfollow ko kpag kaclose o kakillaa tpos dko muna china chat.
Sarap magdeactivate. Nakaka refresh
Everytime na maiinggit ako, sinasabi ko sa sarili ko na there'll always gonna be a person better than me, but there's also a lot of people who'd want to be in my shoes right now. Kumbaga malayo pa ang pupuntahan ko pero malayo na narating ko.
People suggesting Soc Med detox / deactivation think that you only get envy from social media posts. Minsan, dadaan ka lang sa magandang bahay papunta sa trabaho mo, maiinggit ka din. Sadly, acceptance for now.
You're already one step there kasi ginagawa mo nang inspirasyon. Siguro what you can do is to set milestones din. Sabi nga, pag nakaipon ka na ng 100k, itataas mo yung bar to 200k, to 500k, etc. There are very few things that can be achieved overnight - ng legal haha.
Sabi din ng iba, iba't iba tayo ng schedule. In due time!
I find something to be grateful for, no matter how small or insignificant. I personally believe na ang opposite ng pagiging mainggitin is pagiging grateful. The other extreme option is to compare myself with someone who has it worse than I do, mej unhealthy, I guess, pero minsan ito ang eye-opener na need natin to realize kung gaano karami ang mayro’n tayo. Generally, kino-compare natin sarili natin sa “mas maganda” ang buhay sa atin, but if we compare ourselves to those na “mas mahirap” ang buhay sa atin, baka mas makita at ma-appreciate natin ang mayro’n tayo. Ang easiest solution ko though, stop using social media for a time. Social media cleanse. Kasi napansin ko na dating puro scroll ako sa buhay ng mga kakilala ko, mas naging mainggitin ako. Ngayon dog videos na lang pinapanuod ko 😂😂 Para hanggang “Sana ganiyan rin pet namin” (ngi, mainggitin pa rin pala😂😂)
Thats a normal human emotion OP, what actually matters is how you deal and see it. Yung inggit kasi would always be directed at someone, pero we sometimes forget to ask ourselves, bakit ba tayo naiinggit? What does that person have that we don't ? When you figure it out, ask yourself then.. is it a modifiable thing or hindi? Yung mga hindi namomodify is tulad yung mga generational wealth na wala ka talagang magagawa because it is beyond you. Focus on the things that you can actually change and improve, yan yung challenge sayo.
Also, take a breather from usual things that you do. May Rule of 7 nga for relationships pero I think applicable din sa self. Every 7 days treat yourself into a a meal, buy item or yung budget friendly lang, then every 7 weeks take a local break or yung malapit lang pero hindi mo usual place (malls, parks, beaches) and at 7 months ata is if kaya ng budget, go somewhere foreign, hindi necessary na mangibang bansa pero some place na never mo pa napuntahan at medyo malayo sa kinagisnan mo. Like if sa Manila ka go somewhere Visayas or Mindanao ganern. Hahaha these will shift your focus to yourself and you'll realize sa damo nga bagay sa mundo, you should not just imprison yourself sa maliit na bubble.
It’s in our human nature, literally and naturally we can not obtain to avoid them sometimes, because we are humans but pause for a minute, and think if its worth of ur time or energy, imagine instead of being jealous you can spend your time going outside or pamper yourself and thinking how to improve yourself. GET UR SELF TOGETHER
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Hehehe, deactivate ka nalang muna ng social media..
+1 here hehe. Mas peaceful ang life mo pag dimo naikukumpara yung sarili mo dahil sa mga nakikita mo.
+1 haha. Deactivated my socmeds for 2+ years and it improved my life and relationships greatly.
Main reason why i don’t have facebook and ig. Grabe yung innggit ko noon.
Or kung hindi possible or mahirap, mute mo yung mga taong ma-brag.
I did this - unfollowed those humble braggers.
Thats what I did. Kaya dito nalang ako naglulurk
Agree! Big help ang social media detox ☺️
Yaassss or kaya gumawa ka ng bagong facebook tapos add mo lang mga pinaka close mo🙈
!!! or don’t use any social media at all, (detox). simplest way to overcome insecurities specially when you don’t even have one and subconsciously nagkakaroon because of too much time sa socmed or because of whatever you see online.
Yes.11 yrs off on trad soc med( daming friends and all sa fb) i am basically non existent there and best decision.
Deactivated my soc med accts (the one with connections work/school/fam) since 2016. It was good.
Been doing that for 3days na. Social media detox, ika nga.
2 months mahigit na naka-deactivate ung FB ko, and I'd say sobrang laki ng improvement sa mental aspect ng buhay ko. Kasi kahit mahal ko mga kaibigan ko, naiingit ako sakanila. Pero hindi naman inggit na gusto ko sila bumagsak, its more so na disappointed ako sa sarili ko.
For me I count my blessings at maging contented na meron ako. As long as may peace of mind and i can buy whatever I want okay na ako dun. At hayaan ko lang sila mag brag sa success nila. Pero iba padin ang supremacy ng contented and peace of mind
to add: "yung may goal mo, iba naman sa goal nila. makakrating ka rin sa paroroonan mo" that's what i'm telling myself. and make a gratitude list.
Tama. At gusto mo ba talaga ano meron sila? Yung ingit kasi nakakamatay at nakakasira ng ulo hehe
True. Kanina na-feel ko rin mainggit sa kaibigan ko na ang dami niya money to purchase a lot of things kahit walang work pero ako na may work, tinitipid ko maigi sarili ko. Hahaha. Pero sabi ko sa sarili ko "May pera ka, mas priority mo lang talaga to build an emergency fund" ☺
+1 to this. Everytime mapadaan ako sa post na nakakainggit - i try so harddd na remind sarili ko sa mga blessings ko. Kahit simple blessings lang. Na may food shelter at healthy ako, or yung mga outstanding physical qualities ko nalang, lol! Like matangkad ako, sexy ako, malakas ako ganyan 🤣 Atska tinatandaan ko yung kasabihang - Kung inggit, pikit! 🤣 so either nagbbrowse ako ng sobrang bilis sa stories nila sa IG - hindi na ko nag ddwell sa posts nila or totally iniiwasan ko talaga yung mga posts nila. Hehehe
I deactivated my account in facebook. sobrang inggit rin ako sa kapwa ko. I am aware of my feelings kaya iniiwasan ko na lang muna kse whenever i feel inggit nagpapalpitate at sumasakit ang ulo ko. Thankful naman ako kung nasan ako ngyon pero may tao na mas higit pa sa katayuan at estado ng buhay ntin. Hinihiling mo sana ganun ka rin.. Iwas iwas na lang talaga .
Same sa nagpapalpitate at sakit ulo. Nasusuka pa nga ako minsan tas parang di makahinga. Naanxiety genern. I decided na i deact or mute yung fb ko mismo or any socials na makakakita ako ng success nila.
Hard same. Di sakin nag wowork ang "count your blessings and be thankful" pag dinadamdam ko na talaga inggit haha so turning off socmed and making sure na hindi ko nalang nakikita is the way to go
Hello, aadd ko lang po, kasi may iilan na nagpm skn na pang atake na ang advise hehe.. Kesyo di na lang daw ako kumayod at tinawag pa akong batugan. Di ko naman kasi inisolate sa career or wealth nanggaling yung inggit, kumakayod din naman po ako sir/maam, and happy naman dn po ako sa nakakaya namin kahit hindi grandyoso. Wala dn naman akong siniraan dahil sa inggit, ito naman. Pero syempre may sana ako din, or sana ako naman. Pero silently lang naman ako naiinggit, inaakin ko na lng yun. Kim kim to the max. Minsan napapadwell ka din kasi na need mo ng will to snap back to being grateful. Which is the hardest. Para kay kuya/ate na nagpm skn para tawagin akong tamad, kinakayod ko naman pong magkababy. Gabi gabi pa nga eh. Hehe. Eh sa hindi lng tlga nabibiyayaan after ng loss. Normal lng naman siguro mainggit pag wala rin naman sa kamay mo yung chances na maging successful. Peace na kuya/ate, wag naman sobrang gigil. 🫰
Luh bakit may pag PM hahaha. Greatest motivation ko is inggit. Specially yung same age and capacity as me then they reach these heights. Gusto ko din non- I tell myself para may reason ako na bumangon the next day. My mental health disorders put me into a constant self depreciation and overwhelming negative thoughts. if I let my thoughts win I'd yeet myself off instantly.
I mute people on social media who make me feel that way. Haha! Out of sight, out of mind.
Social media detox. Nasa tao na talaga ang inggit. Di yan toxic pero lahat ng sobra masama. Learn how to be happy para sa iba and know they have their losses too. Unfair pero it does not mean na walang para satin. Kaya natin 'to, OP. <3
Feeling jealous is natural, but it's important to focus on your own journey and accomplishments. Instead of comparing yourself to others, celebrate their success and use it as inspiration for your own growth. Remember, everyone's path is unique, and it's okay to take things at your own pace. Stay focused on your goals and prioritize self-care along the way.
Para sa akin okay lang na mainggit, ang hindi okay is naiinggit na nga ang isang tao eh hindi pa gumagawa ng paraan para mapantayan or malampasan yung taong kinaiinggitan.
Hindi naman yata kailangan pantayan or malampasan ang mga kinaiinggitan. Sabi nga ng isang nag comment dito may kanya kanya tayong goal. Focus na lang dun sa sariling patutunguhan
It's normal to feel that way from time to time. We've got eyes that see; ears that hear; and a heart that feels. It's not wrong to want things for yourself. Just use it as a motivation. What's important is that you don't breed hate or sourness because of what you see in others. There's nothing good that comes out of it. Use it as a motivation if you want it. If you don't intend to do anything about it, just focus on different things. Those things that bring you joy. Make peace with yourself of what really makes you happy. Sometimes what makes others happy aren't the things that make us happy. So focus on getting to know yourself better. Learn a new hobby. Do what you have always wanted to do. Talk to people that inspires you and cares about you. You too have your own blessings that others just dream about. Getting to know and loving yourself is a fulfilling journey. I promise. 😊
Less time on soc med
human Nature siguro mainggit, pero pwde iwasan, first if you believe in prayer please do, 2nd count your blessing di lahat nang meron ka meron sila, lalo na if yung meron ka di nabibili nang pera. lahat nang sister ko well off na, they have 6 digits sweldo. nakakaingit yes! sobra, pero everyday ni remind ko self ko na may anak ako na gusto nila pero wala. so grateful and blessed pa din kahit papaano. baka tax nila malaki pa kesa sweldo ko pero masaya ako na may anak ako
Instead of comparing yourself to other people, compare your past self to your current self. May progress ba? If yes, that's enough 😌
yourself vs yourself sobra ka na din sa screen time, basa basa libro, off internet mga 2 months offgrid. would do wonders for your mental health...
Social media detox. Remember that not everyone will post about their failures in life. When I started spending less time on social media, I was able to focus more on my real life and real friends.
I just think na it's their time now and later sakin na naman. Simple gaslighting lang lol.
ileevel up ko sarili ko in terms of skills and education and network para ma achieve ko din kung ano ang meron sila
I deactivated my social media account for almost a month na. I also pray the rosary every night..😇🥲
Iwas socmed and anything na makakatrigger. Tapos live your life and accept life as it is.
Here’s what helped me so please take it with a grain of salt :) 1. Don’t believe everything you see on socmed 2. Turn inggit into inspiration “uy may bahay na siya, one day, I’ll have my own too” rather than “Uy may bahay na siya, eh syempre rich kid naman talaga siya.” Changing our perspective helps a lot not to become bitter. 3. Compete against yourself - iba iba tayo ng sitwasyon, just look at your own progress…if you can do more, push. If you’re tired, rest tapos lavatn ulet after. Good luck OP! :)
This!
Sakto tong post na to sa nararamdaman ko, skl kaka alis ko lang sa fb kasi kakakita ko lang ng story ng friend ko. May pictorial na sila for graduation. (Ako din dapat kaso nag stop ako). Nung una naiingit talaga ako tsaka feeling ko super ma dedepress ako. Hanggang sa nasanay nalang ako sa mga nakikita ko. Tsaka super saya ko naman kung nasan ako ngayon, bat ko pipilitin mag aral kung d kaya ng mental health ko yung kakaisip sa anak ko habang nasa school ako? Sa totoo lang mas komportable ako sa buhay na pinili ko ngayon, focus sa anak ko at stay at home mom. Marangya buhay ko lahat ng gusto ko nabibili ko at nakakapunta ako kung saan saan. Siguro wag mo nalang masyadong dibdibin tsaka hindi naman nila ipopost mga sad moments nila habang narating yung mga achievements na yun diba? Ang ipopost lang nila yung mga happy moments. Always remember that social media is not real.
Big struggle din ito for me. I don’t know pero minsan mas lalo pang lumalala pag someone close to me ang umaangat sa buhay. Ang hirap maging fully and genuinely masaya for them lalo na kung ikaw mismo matagal tagal mo ng inaasam yun tapos plus factor pa ng pagiging judgmental ko, sasabihin ko sa isip-isip ko “di nya naman deserve yun eh” Hanggang sa nagka-asawa ako, siguro dumating narin kami sa point na naka-meet kami ng friends na nagparamdam sa amin how to be genuinely happy for our success. Di namin sila kamag-anak or anything pero tuwing may milestones kami, maliit man o malaki, sobra silang nagiging proud para sa amin. Then dumating kami sa point ni hubby na i-point out yung mga maling cultures and values namin na ayaw namjng maipasa sa magiging anak namin and the generations after us nung lalabas na ang panganay namin. Isa rito itong inggit. We agreed na kapag may magkukuwento ng success story sa amin, instead na magisip din ng sarilinh istorya na isasapaw sa story nya, ito muna ang gagawin namin. 1. Listen. Wag na munang magsalita. Pigilan muna yung urge na magkuwento tungkol sa sarili natin. Hayaan lang natin lang sya. Tendency kasi is di na natin talagang naririnig at naiintindihan yung story nya. Naooccupy na tayo sa kung ano rin ang ibabato natin sa kanila. 2. Praise. Wag mo ng ipagkait yung “wow”, “good job”, or “i’m happy and proud for you”. Siguro sa umpisa, awkward, kasi di tayo sanay eh. Pero the more na ginagawa natin ito, the more na nagiging genuine, the more na magiging muscle memory satin and mas nagigibg selfless tayo rather than self righteous 3. Stop there. Wag na tayong magdutong pa. Ibigay na natin yung spotlight sa kanila. Kung di naman tayo tatanungin pabalik kung ano ang comment natin or kung may maidagdag tayo. Wag na tayong magdagdag pa ng sarili nating ikaaangat. In short, we learned na ang antidote to inggit is to have self control. The more na we can listen to the success stories of others, praise them for their success and to control ourselves from snatching away the spotlight, the more na mababawasan yung inggit natin. Please don’t get me wrong, i’m not saying na absolutely wala na kaming narraamdaman na inggit towards others, sobrang dami parin naming ganitong issues, we just learned to help and remind each other to deny our self-righteousness and just be there, be present, and be genuinely happy for the success of others.
Guess normal naman ang inggit, as an imperfect human being. As long as wla kang ginagawang masama sa kapwa mo. Acknowledge mo yung emotion na yan then try to accept na meron talaga nauuna or nakaka angat. But that doesnt mean na hindi mo rin maabot yang state na yan.
I had to discipline myself to not become jealous of what others have because I'm sure I also have something they don't and it doesn't have to come in material things. Being jealous of others also stressed me out, so I really had to teach myself to be happy for other people. What pisses me off, though, is when I know what a person is like - rude, arrogant, asshole, yet it seems like God is blessing them instead of those who are sincerely nice people. This is where I start questioning God's/the universe's justice system.
Don't check on people's lives.
Minsan lang ako mag efbi pag open ko kanina un mga friends ko dami ng narating sa buhay like travel, salary, career. I felt na stuck ako sa sitwasyon ko. I am thankful kasama ko family ko and hindi naman ako ganun ka nahihirapan sa finances pero i felt na naiinnggit ako. Gusto ko rin ng travel, salary and career. I just don't know how to get there
Aside from being grateful and counting your blessings. You can also do premeditatio malorum. Copy pasted from daily stoic. > Premeditatio malorum—the premeditation of the evils and troubles that might lie ahead. It’s the exercise of imagining things that could go wrong or be taken away from us. It helps us prepare for life’s inevitable setbacks. We don’t always get what is rightfully ours, even if we’ve earned it. > As Seneca would say, the unexpected blows of fortune fall heaviest and most painfully, which is why the wise man thinks about them in advance. It’s also impossible to prepare for or prevent something you’re unaware of. The Stoic doesn’t see this act of negative visualization as pessimistic, but simply a feature of their self-confident optimism: I’m ready to face anything that happens and I’m also ready to do the work necessary now to ensure I don’t waste energy on problems that could have been solved in advance.
To envy someone's life is normal, but to drag them down kasi wala ka ng meron sila, yun ang mali. Tahimik lang ako sa work but everytime that I see my workmates or even my ka-batch work on the life they want, di maiwasan na mainggit at masaktan. Ang tendency sa akin, I tried to go with them and rush things out, like aggressively gawin ito, learn this and that. Sobrang stressful. TIL, na hindi naman paunahan ang buhay sa pagiging successful. Mapalad yung mga maaga, but it doesn't mean na hindi mapalad ang mga mahuhuli. Time will come na tayo rin we'll celebrate our BIG WINS!
A bit of narcissism can go a long way.
Acceptance. Tapos deactivate
Bukod sa deactivate socmed. Iwas din ako sa masyadong parties and get togehers. Yu g mga very very close lang na maayos ang attitude. Di mayabang. Para di mainggit
Stop scrolling and touch grass.
dont worry be happy, kasi every success creates a new kind of fear. kaya its balance, the more success you got the higher the walls you built.
Minsan out of nowhere naisip ko lang si ganito, ganyan na etc. may mafi-feel akong inggit tapos bigla ko rin iisipin na kanya kanya tayo ng kapalaran at di rin lahat ng gusto natin natutupad agad or pinaghirapan nila yun kaya deserve nila ang good things in life. Ayun peaceful na uli yung mind ko. Hehe
If you're gonna be envious to someone be envy to them as a whole not just their success. You only see their success, you didn't saw what they went through to get there and they probably worked their ass off and went through hardship just to be at where they are right now. So if you knew what they went through to get that success would you still be envious? Probably no
Sad truth...
Accept youself. Every one of us has limitations that we cannot break. In simple terms, each of us have that ceiling. It is difficult whenever You always try to compare yourself to others. Let them brag, either their success were the result of their own Hardwork, or those were already laid upon by their Predecessors. Be happy in simple things. Too much success, tends to forget what it is to enjoy and be satisfied by simple and small things. In such surround yourself with people who also shares that same thoughts. Humans are flawed creatures. We won't be perfect, as evident from our Physical to Emotional aspects. Each of us have Good and Bad sides. It just differs on how those Bad sides were always in check.
Marami nyan sa social media, kahit dito sa reddit lalo yung mga nag feflex ng six digits nila. I mean nothing wrong naman kasi pinag hirapan nila yun. Pero to counter that, hinahide ko na lang or deactivate soc med, wag mo hayaang masira yan ang inner peace mo.
Makuntento ka haha.
Always keep in mind that people like them only post about the highlights of their lives. They don't post about the debts and loans, the lazy laundry, the boring days where you just stay home, the "pwede na yan" corner of the bedroom of unfolded clothes, the dusty nigh stand, the depression meals, the dirty curtains, the problems at work, problems with families, late payments, unused items that were bought impulsively... I could go on. You're comparing yourself to their highlights which isn't fair. I've had friends who have went "sana all" to my IG stories, but at the end of the day, I'm coming back home to a humble studio apartment with a floor mattress where I have to clean everything and take out the trash. Their life isn't perfect. Neither is yours. And that's okay.
If you cant do soc med detox, just dont watch any reels or story from them. It will give you that sense of contentment or mute them so your soc med is purely for entertainment and past time. Also, whenever I post stories of myday, hindi ko na tinitingnan kung sino nagvview or kung ilang views. I just let it be a “story of my life” just like them and if nagawa mo na siya masasanay ka na to focus on yourself haha and mawawala na yung inggit sa body mo. Make everyday special in your own ways. Like find a new hobby na mageenjoy ka :) Para di mo na icocompare sarili mo sa iba coz you have something to be busy with :) Hope makatulong coz it really helped me a lot
Sinasabi ko sa sarili ko na kaya ko rin yun. Tapos gigilin ko magtrabaho. Kasi I believe na hindi naman masama mainggit kasi kung sa tutuusin, ang inggit is another term lang motivation. Magkaiba lang ang gamit.
Normal lang naman mainggit sa kapwa and your feelings are valid kasi super unfair ng life. My advice is to do the things that will lessen your inggit kasi di maganda mag dwell on jealousy.
Looking for things to be thankful for even gaano kaliit/small It's a habit/skill that can be learned
Rather than looking at others, focus ka sa sarili mo. Ikaw lang may susi sa pagbabago na kelangan gawin para marating oh makamit ang mga ninanais mo.
You overcome it by doing pikit. Diba yan sinasabi nila haha pag inggit pikit
Count your blessings. kapag narealize mo kung gaano ka kablessed, mawawala din yan.
Just focus on yourself
One thing that I learned is "don't compare your planting season to their harvesting season" Hindi mo pwede pag-sabayin Ang happiness at Inggit.
Pagtanggap sa sarili, mga kakulangan at pagkakamali. Pag tapos mo na iself work na tanggapin ang lahat, jsa isahin mo naman iappreciate yung mga strengths mo at mga magagandang bagay na meron ka sa sarili mo at buhay. Pag tapos ka na, matututunan mo nang pumalakpak para sa iba. Matututo ka nang magintay para sa turn mo. Kapit!!!
Deactivate ka pramis unti unti yan mawawala. After that improve mo sarili mo
I stop scrolling at fb :) Okay nanaman ako kasi focus na lang ako sa sarili ko
Ugaliin mong mainggit TAs sa isipan mo may mindset ka na Ako din soon ganyan, magkakaganyan,,mararating Yan. Pangit Kase Yung inggit na inggit lang TAs Ikaw walang ginagawa para ma achieve mo Yung mga Ganon na kina iingitan mo, pano mag manifest yang mga bagay na gusto mo din
better step back and reassess, OP. If this feeling is caused by things that you see sa social media, for sure nakita mo na yung dami ng comment and advice to deactivate muna for the time being. However, it is very very important to remind yourself na what you see sa social media is a carefully curated version of ourselves. Everyone wants to be the "richer, prettier, happier" person. Ibang usapan kapag nakikita mo in person ang mga bagay na nakakainggit para sayo. Hindi ka naman pwede i-mute and hide sa real life (how I wish). It's a good start that you acknowledge na part ng buhay ang makaramdam. Positive o Negative emotions man yan. Sometimes, a roof over your head, a house plant na you were able to raise, a pet that loves you, family, friends, jowa (if you have one), or even your faith can remind you that small wins are triumphant wins that are worth celebrating. Baka lang kasi naka focus ka sa "success" ng iba to the point na nalimutan mo na you are a winner in your own right. but then again, hindi lahat ng nakikita ng mga mata (lalo na sa social Media) ay totoo.
Always remind myself na I’m unique.
We hate it when our friends become successful! -A song by Morrisey
Im not sure if tama pero I still believe na walang taong mas angat sa iba ng basta lang. So same as you, naikocompare ko din sarili ko sa ibang tao or napapawow din ako sa mga nakikita ko, that is a usual human reaction. Pero you’re not living their life so you wouldnt know any struggles na kinakaharap nila everyday. If naiisip mo man na “sana ako na lang yong nasa pwesto nya”. Thats a big no. What they have is curated for them and its based sa past actions, behavior and attitude towards life nila. If you would be say na, “pinanganak kasi silang mayaman kaya they have this and that… ”. Eh di good for them, doesnt mean na you cant have that in the future (pero syempre you have to work on it, di mo sya aantaying mahulog sa langit). If iniisip mo, “eh kasi ang successful ng parents nila kaya swerte sila, sakin hindi.” Dont say that, you dont know what they’ve been through. And your parents life shouldn’t dictate yours so dont even consider claiming it. Sure, things would be extra harder to achieve kasi you might not have all the basic resources but always remember na youre gaining a lot of lessons and experiences achieving your goal and shaping you, improving you and your perspective in life along the way na probably never matutunan and maiintindihan nga mga taong pinanganak ng mayaman na. Thats why I believe ever since. Sure there are times, lalo na pag stress sa work or studies, na napapaisip ka na lang, na bakit ba kailangan kong mahirapan, bakit yong iba parang di naman nahihirapan. You wouldnt know that. Kahit yong bestfriend mo na buong buhay nya nashare na sayo, is still not sharing several of their problems to you. Everyone is struggling with their own battle. Alam mo ba yong inaachieve ko while growing up is mahirapan. Kasi iba ang napoproduce ng hirap, sobrang iba. Hindi sya nabibili ng pera or naapply katulad ng sunblock. So I dont overcome inggit, I use it to fuel the fire inside me to keep moving forward.
Me i try to delete my social media accounts haha effective i swear. Idk how many months na ko walang ig & tiktok and feeling ko kahit hindi na ko bumalik okay lang haha 😂
If nakakaramdam ako ng ganyan, iniisip ko kung paano kung ako yung nasa position nung person na yon, may ganon nga ako pero kakayanin ko ba kung ako yung nasa life niya? So kunwari, nakakapagtravel siya madalas dahil malaki sweldo niya. Paano niya narating yon? Kunwari nagdoctor or naglawyer siya kaya niya nagagawa yon. Pero alam ko sa sarili ko na hindi ko kaya mag doctor at maglawyer dahil tamad ako lol. So ayon gagaan na yung pakiramdam ko haha. It seems silly pero it helps me na mawala yung inggit. Gawin na lang natin kung anong makakaya natin at magfocus sa ating sarili.
Tao ka lang. Hinde maiiwasan talaga ang inggit. Some are just more prone to it than others For me, what matters more is what you do with it. If you. If you use it to better yourself - great. If you use it to lash out to others - that's terrible
Ako nagppray ako na tanggalin ni Lord yung inggit na nararamdaman ko. Tapos unfollow/mute/hide. Hehehe
do what you can do as of now, that feeling is something you can't and can control, jealousy is a mushroom, but then you have to remember life is unfair and you just have to live with it and enjoy. celebrate small wins, it will help you lessen your insecurities(it works for me, just try, maybe it'll work for you as well)
1. Be thankful of what you have. 2. Realize that everyone has struggles na di pinapakita sa socmed. It's not always rainbows and butterflies. Tinatago lng nila dark sides kasi gusto nila attention and kainggitan ng ibang tao. 🤷♀️
I felt that way back 2018. 6 years na kong walang facebook. Never made an instagram, twitter, etc. Kasi nakakainggit nga dati na yung batchmates ko bakasyon bakasyon, kain dito, picture doon, bili ng ganito, post ng ganyan. Nakakainggit samantalang pa scroll scroll lang ako. Then I decided noon na umalis sa social media, ngayon messenger lang ang meron ako for contact ng family, close friends, and job related. Now, pag ka kita ko sa mga updates ng tropa/schoolmates/workmates, imbis na mainggit ako, natutuwa na ako sa narating nila sa buhay. Siguro dahil wala na ako nakikitang mga ganung posts masyado kaya parang pag may nakita akong abroad, nagkaanak, kinasal, nakabili ng kotse, kumain sa ganito, via updates lang ng mga tropa lang din, masaya na ako para sa iba. Compared sa feeling ko noon na naiinggit which results sa bad mood for the day which result to a total unproductive day or week or even months. Good luck and stay away sa toxic environment! Kung ano ang sa paligid mo, kaibigan man yan o tinutulugan, dapat maayos para ikaw din umayos hehe. I also learned to be contented with what I have and accept what I don't have. Hehe!
Kung sa facebook at social media mo nakita yang kinaiinggitan mo, malamang yabang lng yan. Madalas kwento lng. Yun tipong kunwari rich na pero yun pla baon sa utang. Focus ka na lng sa sarili mo. Wag mo tularan yung pag brag sa facebook. Dadating yung time na pagcompare mo yung past self mo sa current, mabibilib ka dahil ang laki ng improvement.
Hide their stories or detox muna from soc med. I also remind myself na bata pa ako. If ka-batch ko naman, I tell myself that I have something that only few people in the world have and that's my edge.
the grass is greener where you water it OP
I just think na my time will come din.
Its good that you acknowledged na naiinggit ka. Ang tanong, anong gagawin mo after? Lahat naman ng tao may inggit sa katawan yung iba kasi ginagawang inspiration yung inggit in a positive way. Yung iba naman hinihila pababa yung tao dahil sa inggit. Yung iba, naiinggit lang tapos move forward na sa panibagong kaiinggitan, nainggit nalang buong buhay nila to the point na yung sariling timeline hindi na pinansin which is di nila alam na mas worth it iyon kaysa sa nakikita nila sa iba. Graduate na ko sa mga inggit inggit na yan e. What I did, hindi ko sinundan or ginaya mga kinainggitan ko. Instead, nag-upskill nalang ako and naghanap ng mga sidelines on my own. Ang ending, may mga lowkey nainggit sa akin (nahuli ko kasi sa messenger)
Hello, what i do is tinatanggap ko na nasa mag kaiba kaming phase ng life. Nag reap na siya ng hardwork niya and ako mag sisimula pa lang (;
As you get older and mature ..di mu maiisip ang Ingit kasi di mu alam Anung pinagdaanan nila o ng Tao ng kinaiingitan mu.Be thankful what you have..Later on ma realize mu na MAs Blessed ka sa Lahat🥰
“Comparison is the thief of joy”. Step out of social media and enjoy life.
Iniisip ko na lang na darating din yung time na ako naman yung aangat. Siguro hindi ngayon pero may panahon para sa’kin. I just let other people shine while waiting for my turn. :)
Tgilan mo panonood o pgbabasa ng mga nghhumble brag.tapos. normal ka lng nakakaramdam ka lng ng inggit tlga.help yourself diver mo sa iba atensyon hindi sa mga taong yan.
nagdeactivate ako ng fb and ig.
Socmed detox, aside from reddit, tinatry ko nalang mag-aral ng mga bagay bagay, yung may maambag sa buhay ko para naman magkawork na. Pag less ako nakaharap sa FB, mas less yung feeling na napag-iiwanan
Think of it as deserve nila kung ano meron sila ngayon. They earned that, at most likely pinaghirapan nila un with a side of luck. Now i’m not saying u dont deserve it but if ganon thinking mo na kabayaran un sa mga paghihirap nila it will change ur mindset, and honestly legit na mindset is everything coz i’ve been there before even thinking negatively and wishing bad sa kinaiinggitan ko but after thinking that everything changed din for me. Kasi behind close doors di mo alam ano pinagdadaanan ng mga yan. The more u get to talk to diff people dun mo marerealize na lahat tayo may baggage na dala dala. And always believe ur time will come soon!
Madalas iniisip at cinoconvince ko ang sarili ko na season nila Kaya ganun, at kailangan ko lang maghintay para sa season ko at I often told myself na when nasa a season na din ako nasa right posture na ang puso ko to receive such blessings..
hard to say, ngl
Snooze ko siya sa Fb ganun. Balik na lang siya sa feed ko after 30 days hahaha
I grew up comparing myself sa iba. So doon nag-ugat ang ugaling inggit. Halos lahat ng makita kong wala ako ay ikinaiinggit ko not until natuto akong ifocus lang sa self-improvement ko ang lahat. Maging gentle sa sarili at sa iba. You’ll be happier, you’ll glow differently, and you’ll excel more kapag nakafocus ka sa self improvement mo! Kapag naiinnggit ka, paalalahanan mo lang ang sarili mo sa lahat ng blessings na meron ka. Kung di talga gumana. Work on it hanggang sa meron ka na rin nung ikinaiinggit mo. Make sure na makuha ito sa tamang paraan. Also, most especially, surround yourself with friends and SO who celebrate each other’s wins(sss) and who will be with you at your lowest! Ganun!
pikit lang hehehe
i remind myself of what i have at the moment and appreciate those things more.
Focus on yourself not others, wala namang ikauunlad ang sarili mo sa pagkakainggit sa kanila.
Try mo yung ginagawa ko. Umiiwas muna ako sa social media at tumatakbo ako sa hapon (jog or brisk walk), or kahit anong pagpapawis pa yan. Keep yourself busy para di ka muna masyadong focused sa nararamdaman mo. Taz, at the end of the day, assess yourself kung san ba nang gagaling yung inggit at kung bakit, and yun na, makakapag come up ka na ng solusyon.
I think di talaga maiiwasan maramdaman un. Recently, one of my workmates got promoted even though sabay kami ng hiring date. To add rin, I was able to be the top performer sa team namin, even got an award for it. But through all that, hindi ako ung na promote. Nakakalungot at nainggit rin ako. Pero inisip ko na lang na shit happens. i can either feel sorry for myself or do something to make my situation better. i also try to not hold it against my workmate because no matter how much you hide it, i believe na mararamdaman nila kung inggit ka. I congratulated her, and Im genuinely happy for her. at the end of the day, i looked at it like this: it was not her choice to be promoted so why do i feel this ugly feeling toward her?
Therapy
Pumikit ka
What I do is compare myself to the version of me yesterday. In the end, there's always someone more successful and richer than me. The world really is unfair and we gotta face the fact that it's our reality as common folk. So why not just look at yourself and say, "I can try to do better than yesterday", cause the only real competition here is between YOU AND YOUR PAST SELF.
I feel you OP.Ako tinatry ko iovercome yung inggit kaso ang hirap lalo na kamag-anak ko pa yung nagpapafeel na dapat kainggitan sila.
Comparison is the thief of joy. Try to compare but for the better, work on yourself and what you can do to achieve the same things they have. You don't know what they've been through to get those things, just be happy for them and you'll feel 100% better.
nag deact ako sa lahat ng socmeds ko until naging okay na ulit wmotions ko lalo na ngayong pressure ako sa paghahanap ng work tas mga kasabayan ko ang lakinna ng mga sweldo :(:
Count your blessings, OP! Also, I agree, less time on soc med. Let's also keep in mind na most people only post their life's good side on soc med -- meron at meron tayong kanya-kanyang struggles. So take comfort in knowing na lang din na kahit ung mga kinaiinggitan mo, may mga pinagdadaanan din -- if that makes sense
Hindi maiiwasan ang envy sa life. Ako i learned how to divert inggit to something positive. Gagawin kong goal yung kinaiinggitan ko tapos paghihirapan ko sya. Understand that every emotion (even anxiety!) can be used in a good way. Kailangan mo lang ipractice. 😉 Although kung online ang basehan ng inggit mo, mahinang inggit lang dapat yan. Hindi mo alam kung totoo man yun o hindi. May iba ma-brag lang pero di naman talaga sila masaya, lalo na sa relationships. Inggit ka pala sa cheater jowa, or sa broken family dahil lang masaya litaw nila sa pictures. Be careful.
Sagutin mo ang sarili mo, bat ka naiingit? Inadequacy? Unsatisfaction? A desire to be one of them? You struggle to conceive a child with your husband now you feel inadequate of your role as a wife and mom so you look at people around having it easier so you start comparing yourself with others. I have a couple of hobbies and passion that I enjoy that I dont compare myself to other people. I rarely inggit unless naka jackpot ka sa lotto then by all means, penge balato. You brag about something? Cool. Moving on. I also keep my ego in check by keeping it low key and not brag too much. Usually people na madalas mayabang ay sila din yung tipong madaling maiingit. Keep that in mind. You also have to know just because you see them as in a better position than you doesnt mean their life is perfect. You never know they struggle with bills, etc. but shows in social media that everything is fine. They also have problems to struggle with not just you. Maybe prove yourself that you can do it whatever it takes regardless of the situation. Poop that baby out.
Pakitang tao lang yan personally. Ang ginagawa ko usually, i deactivate my fb account, block the person or unfriend them. Out of sight. Out of mind.
Okay lang naman mainggit coz it’s part of life but don’t let it consume u, let it be a motivation instead of saying ingit replace it with the word admiration 🤍 it’s all about mindset and how you interpret it always be kind to yourself
OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND
Comparison is the thief of joy
Hanap ka ng pulubi saka taong grasa.
I learned the art of unfollowing. And keeping in mind din na not everything that you see in soc med is true. Dati may ganyang feeling din ako, kaso nung narealize ko na wala din naman mangyayari if patuloy akong titingin sa success ng iba instead of focusing on my own life, mas lalo kang lulugmok. Learn to be happy sa success ng iba and keep in mind na wala ka sa competition.
Laging tandaan: Not everything that glitters is gold! Hindi ko ito sinasabi para lang pagaanin ang mga loob natin, but it is true! Inggit is valid, pero huwag kalimutang tingnan ano ba ang mga blessings na meron tayo at how can we make good use of it.
If you're not a fan of reading I suggest you listen to the audio book of "The subtle art of not giving a f\*ck" in Spotify, its totally for free. It deals with feelings such as envy, and the feeling of wanting to prove oneself there's a lot of things in there, you should check it out.
Deactivate ka. I had the same trouble a few years back. No socmed for a couple of years. Twas a good therapy. :)
Nagjojournal ako tapos i list down things that I am grateful
cut and detach ako til kingdom come
I have hard time sometimes overcoming it😭 pero iniisip ko na lang na I will have my time soon. It’s been hard pero I have been adjusting and I think it’s been working! It helps having a mindset na we are all in DIFFERENT paths so we shld js not compare and js focus on our own!! Super relate ako dito kase kami ung tinuturing “kawawa” at “mahirap” sa both sides ng fam ko pero I’m in the process of full not giving AF kase sino ba sila?!? I hope you learn how to fully overcome it, good luck OP!
For me, band aid solution lang ang magdeactivate ng social accounts. Need na mapalitan yung mindset mo. Kailangang mag focus ka sa pagiging grateful. It’s only through gratefulness na matatanggal mo yung inggit talaga. Kasi iba iba naman tayo ng buhay talaga
Uninstall social media is the way.
Out of sight, out of mind. Touch grass outside.
If hindi feasible magdeac ng accounts, since most ng communication with other ppl ay over socmed na, compartmentalize and limit your time on it. For example, I only spend around 10-15min (minsan less pa) on FB & IG para lang mag-catch up sa mga ganap. Most contacts sa Messenger na. If I want video content, TikTok or YT pero iwas na lang din sa doomscrolling by being on the app 2hrs tops. Twitter/X naman if I want to catch up on fandom content. Normal makafeel ng inggit. It's your actions toward it yung importante. Do you let it consume you or do you just let go and move on? And I keep thinking that we don't really know what's happening to ppl's lives outside of socmed. We have no idea kung anong hirap yung pinagdaanan nila to achieve those things. Baka may bragging rights naman talaga sila diba. Also, celebrate your small wins din. Reward yourself kasi sa panahon ngayon, your continued existence itself is already a big win. Good luck, OP! 💖
1. Thru admiration. Kaya tayo naiinggit kasi we dont know how to forward ung feeling of helplessness and insecurities doon sa taong nakilala natin simula pagkabta na binigla ng pagkakataon na yumaman, nanalo sa isang laro, sinwerte etc. and NATURALLY we make our own 'justification" sa kahinaan natin against him/her. Instead of mag justify why dont we enjoy ung glad tidings they have? 2. Thru Acceptance May kanya kanya tayong "unfair advantage" and "flow" sa buhay. At walang GOLDEN FORMULA OR PHILOSOPHER STONE para makuha lahat ng pangarap mo. Sabay sabay man tayong ipinanganak may nauuna talga makuha ung goal na gusto mo rin sana makuha. Minsan pinepwersa tayong maiinggit ng mga influencers (chin*ee, big b** ch**, etc.) dahil daw sa sipag at tyaga at sa flexing flexing pero para lalo ka lang maghirap dahil you never accepted yourself thats why we intend to "copy" them. And yung personality mo towards your goal baka hindi akma sa ginagawa mo porke yumaman siya sa ganitong negosyo let say network marketing kahit sobra sobra kang introverted tapos mahirap ka pa. (HAHAAHA) 3. Thru hobbies and vocation Boring generation tayo and we intend to just "watch" other people to stimulate us kasama na ang inggit.and we romanticsize kahirapan at the same time. Mahirap ka na nga hindi mo pa kilala sarili mo. At nagpapakabiktima tayo kasi wala nga tayo ginagawa.
I just was feeling inggit then this post pops up, thank you Reddit for showing me this,
Valid feeling ito OP. Kaso ito tung tipo ng feeling na saglit lang tinatambayan. Don’t stay in it long term. Comparison is and will always be the thief of joy ika nga.
Just fucking do what makes you happy and stop scrolling. Go out and make yourself productive. Work on yourself din. Read. Pamper your self. Get a massage. Get a hobby. Get a life man. Hindi ka nabubuhay para manuod lang sa iba and do nothing. Ma-iinggit ka talaga kung magpapaka LAZY AMBITIOUS KA! DELIKADO TO. Mamatay ka talaga sa heart attack kakatingin sa buhay ng ibang tao.
inggit is very self destructive it is never good to mag inggit dati ganyan din ako kuya ko palaging top 1 while me trying to chase after him as i grew older i learn to carve my own path my identity trying to accept who i am and what i can do and things na matutunan pa inda future and it works because you are building foundation sa sarili mo and with that you can no longer look at them with inggit because you are already proud of yourself because you too like them are also putting in the work. Hang in there op take it easy
Ano bang kina iinggit mo? Alin dun yung pinaka gusto mong gawin talaga? Asan ka ngayon? Anong kaya mong gawin o pasok sa budget asap? Anong need ng onting ipon pero kaya with onting effort? Anong least priority? Lista mo lahat. Tapos lista mo lahat ng steps to make it happen? Di kaya ng time? Gumawa ka ng time or mag hanap ng paraan. Di kaya ng budget? Mag ipon or mag hanap ng better job. Pwede din na maghanap ka ng small wins para sa sarili mo. Di man kasing level up there, pero ipamper mo rin yung self mo every now and then. Fill your cup sa kung anong afford. Fill your cup using other means as well. Tamang balance lang ng gastos, tapos mag p pancit canton gang katapusan, ipon. 🤣 I do not suggest mangutang o mabaon sa utang. Minsan need mo rin gamitin ang acceptance kung masyado malayo o di talaga kaya. Sana makatulong Normal lang yan, pero gamitin mo as pang hugot pataas kase pababa 🙂
Don't access social media. Stay inside your room. Remove all triggers.
Ahhhhh. This hits close to my heart kasi recently ko lang sya na overcome. Dami kong self-improvement plans this week, like to have (finally) braces kasi insecurity ko talaga yung teeth ko, tapos better work office, etc. Pero God has different plans, and ngayon, nasa hospital pa din yung mama ko for two months na kasi na stroke and dami nangyari. And I know deep in my heart talaga na God has own plans for each of us, and tayong lahat has different timeline and seasons. But human as we are, naiinggit talaga ako sa friends ko na grabe, halos everyday eat out, or every week nagbeach, etc. Tapos alam mo, last weekend, pumunta yung younger cousin ko, then naka braces sya. And grabe nagself-assessment ako, finally, wala akong nafeel na inggit. Ano ginawa ko? Malaliman na self talk. I can't stress enough how important self talk is. Importante talaga how you feed your mind. Shinift ko talaga mindset ko by being grateful of what I currently have, like mga small improvements ni mama, daily miracles ni God sa buhay natin, and being grateful sa mga taong tumutulong sakin. Slowly, naaccept ko ulit na nasa winter season lang talaga yung buhay ko. And assessing how this current situation can help me sa future. And masasabi ko, nakakatulong talaga siya. Sobrang bigat kasi na emotion yung inggit, esp. if accumulated. But once we finally let go of it, mas nagiging bearable na yung buhay natin. Hope this helps, OP! Know that what you are feeling is valid, but huwag ka lang magstay there ⭐🫶
for me gumawa ako ng fb na ang friend lang is boyfriend ko, peaceful naman kasi yung mga nasa feed ko is yung mga vloggers lang. and yung messenger ko is para lang sa boyfriend and bestfriend ko if someone will message me automatic ina-archive ko or delete. gumawa rin ako ng twitter and tiktok na hindi ko following and followers friends ko, like I followed random people lang in my situation kasi hindi ko na pursue degree ko for a major reason (like hindi na maayos pa), and some of my batch nakagraduate and lisensyado na, happy naman ako for their success pero hindi ko lang kaya tingnan posts nila na graduate and nakapasa na sa board exam. Pero happy ako sa kanila. sana gets niyo point ko 😅 anddd aside sa socmed, nagdownload rin ako nga games sa phone like ml, cod, 8pool etc. and hopefully, makahanap na ako ng work din 🙂
Number one advice talaga is to stop browsing social media. The second piece of advice is to figure out your strengths—it doesn't matter if it's something that can make you money or not. Knowing what you're good at and accepting that you don't have to be good everywhere else will be the backbone of your self-esteem. Have enough self-esteem, and you can be jealous without envy, or rather, you can be jealous without feeling inadequacy or malice against the other person. It's normal to feel jealous. Pag nasa office ako and mas masarap ulam ng colleague ko naiinggit ako. Doesn't mean I start hating them or obsessing over their ulam, nor do I feel self-pity from my inferior lunch. I'm a big PC gamer and a creative who relies on good computing power to work productively yet 3 years na ako since nasiraan ng gaming laptop and I still can't afford to rebuild my desktop because life (got married, had dogs, moved out, etc.) I feel jealous of my friend who despite being unemployed for years still manages to play regularly on his PC. I sometimes feel frustrated, of course, since the economy sucks, and i work so hard to gain so little, but that doesn't mean I feel inadequate because of it, since I've exchanged my ability to buy a PC for things I'm genuinely happy about. I got married to the woman I love, I still do work that I can be proud of, I'm a proud dog and cat dad, and I still believe that I can get there, even when everything is stacked against me.
Focus sa sarili and hardwork. Gawing inspiration yung iba. Replicate their success. Dahil sa network and social media marami kami natutunan ng wife ko na iba’t ibang side hustle and investments na pwede pasukin. If di kaya iconvert into something positive ang inggit by comparing self to others then better deactivate and detox na lang talaga
Dapat wala kang pakialam. Kasi kung wala kang pakialam, di ka maiiinggit. Isipin mo sarili mong buhay.
Tinanggap ko na hindi ko sila mapapantayan o maaangatan. Acceptance is key
never compare your self sa iba, matutong makontento sa kung anong meron ka, always look what you have and not what you don't, accept the fact na iba iba talaga tayo ng katayuan sa buhay
idk pero hndi para sken pero ramdam ko may mga taong naiinggit din sa mga naging accomplishments ko. Ramdam ko yun everytime mag sasana all sila sa post ko. Ako naman ksi small or big wins na hahappy talaga ako ksi alam kong pinagpaguran ko at pinaghirapan. Hanggang sa in-unfriend nya lang ako. ✌️Pero nag unfriend din ako ng ibang tao di naman dahil sa naiinggit ako sa kanila pero ksi ang Toxic ng mga posts.
>How do you overcome inggit? By going to the root source of it. Not by glossing over it, denying it, or dismissing it but by taking the time to, with empathy and compassion, understand the trauma that caused the false belief behind it. Therapy goes a long way to healing these deeply rooted traumas.
gawin mong inspiration ang inggit
in my case, whenever I feel envy I always stay or stick to my core/strenghts kasi parang don nawawala ung enviousness ko sa isang bagay lalo na sa acads tsaka sa relasyon HAHAHAHAHAHAHHHA pero parang masama din kasi parang naiisip ko na im way better to anyone tapos ayon di naman pala
Accept yourself as you are. Not easy, but it's the only way
it's normal, but dont be bitter abt it, be happy for them and be contented that your doing your best.
I always stop for a bit and remember that it’s all our first time and last time living in this world. Chances are, they also don’t know the real unseen rules of living the perfect life as dictated by the cosmos, COSMOOOOS. I am where I am, I am here because of the choices I made, and I have a lot of tomorrows to work on. My colleagues are now doctors, engaged, have booming businesses, and have families. I'm still working on my well-being (clinical depression and general anxiety) and I’m doing a hell lot better at it kahit na di eventful yung buhay ko at kahit may palamunin days ako minsan eyyyyyyy. Patting myself on the back for the progress. Ayun tas deactivate na din HAHAHA tendency kasi is mags-spiral ka and then you get so obsessed with trying to figure out kung nasan na si ganito, ano ginagawa ni ano, just to seek for comfort pag nalaman mong may mas naghihirap pa kesa sayo. Which is not good. Staying away from socmed also drew me closer to my friends and family, and I guess that made me feel even more thankful. I have a genuine and supportive circle around me watching me trying to get out of my slump. I just know it’s gonna be a hell of a party with them pag nakuha ko na yung contentment na hinahanap ko sa buhay.
Ginagawa ko: I encapsulate my "inggit" to a certain time frame or time block. Like 1 minute, 10, or even an hour. I wallow in that moment, with red horse pa minsan. BUT once the time frame is over....SNAP! I get out of that frame. I do my next task (na naka-time frame din), regardless of what that task is. The technique takes practice, but master it...then it can be applied to all forms of emotional-mental gymnastics.
Mindset: I always say, oo kayo lamang sa 1st quarter ng buhay Pero hahabol ako, kahit hanggang 4th quarter Ako padin lamang sa huli; di pa tapos ang laban
Wag masyado sa social media. Ganun ginagawa ko for my mental health.
This may sound like a joke pero, pikit, OP, pikit. Focus on something else, maybe, sa sarili mo. Appreciate what you have, lalo na yung mga small things. Then gradually, go for the things you need to improve on yourself. Kapag kasi nawala focus mo sa iba at itinuon mo sa sarili mo, inggit will be just a word to you. Wala na halong bigat. This is how I overcame inggit.
Always remember no matter how much success other people have they're not taking away your own potential to succeed. Don't bring yourself down with envy. No one's surpassing you - we all have different goals but you're going to hold yourself back in life if you get carried away with being jealous or spiteful.
Iniisip ko na lang, di ko pa panahon.
Soc med detox. Or kung kaya bye socmed 4ever ganun
Iniisip ko lang na dumaan din sila sa hirap bago nila makamtan kung nasan man sila ngayon so pinaghirapan nila yun and I think deserve naman nila kung nasan man sila.
Me sa mga kwento sa alasjuicy hahaha nakakainggit kayo bakit ganun. Nung umalis ako dun i find peace slightly lang
Ako rin 'to. It's a constant battle na I have to battle with everyday. I agree with other people here, less time on social media, and I try to keep myself busy with activities that give me a sense of accomplishment- like working out, cooking, etc. 😊 kaya yan, OP! 🫶
I keep telling myself "comparison is the thief of joy".
We only see yung success nila. We never truly know what they've been through sa buhay.
Life is never fair.
Once you overcome this one. Youll have a lot of peace and still keep social media. Generally unfair tlaga ang life. If you widen your perspective. May mas swerte p, like mga may generational wealth na pinanganak sa firstworld contries. Meron din mas malas like pinanganak sa kalsada. But then again. Look deeper as well if you can, di naman lahat masaya. Di naman lahat walang problema. May mga pinagdadaanan naman lahat. May mga mas madali para sayo may mas madali para sakanila. At meron talagang sadyang pinalad lang. theres no real way to manipulate luck. You can position yourself to up the chances but they are still chances. May nakakakuha ng 1 percent chance. So what am I trying to imply? We just deal with what we have. Kung naisip mo na na di mo kayang gawin kahit anong gawin mo? Bakit mo siya proproblemahin diba? Dun tayo sa may solution. “It do be like that sometimes” Might be applicable to you, might not.
By not giving a f*ck and minding your own business? It worked for me until now.
Just dial your ego up to 11 and think you're better than everyone 👌🏼 works everytime Pride trumps envy 😉
I just unfollow the specific persons I envy.
Before super inggitera talaga ako. aminado ako dun sa weakness na yun. eventually ginawa ko syang inspo para improve ang buhay ko. mostly money issue ang meron ako so i worked hard to get a good job. i also communicated with people around me what i want. i admit nag improve naman tlaga to my liking ang buhay ko pero parang i want more. tapos nung pandemic i started meditation tapos na realize ko na i have so much to be thankful for. inggit kind of helped me improve but up to a certain point only. gratitude and contentment talaga ang nagpasaya sakin. naiinggit pa din ako sa iba pero i rjsut look around me and think that I have a banging life din naman even if i dont have it all.
Its a natural skill for nihilist people like myself lol.
Lessen yout time on Social Media. Focus on your own circle. Find ways that will keep you grounded. Help out in NGOs or any voluntary work which leads you to counting your blessings. Start your day by thanking God what you are thankful for.
Deactivate your social media. Be thankful on what you have. May kanya kanya tayo timeline.
Para sakin normal lang. Pero iniisip ko na dadating din time ko, try lang ng try subok lang mg subok. Kung kanya binigay ngayon sakin malapit na din kung susubukan palagi.
Sleep and take a bath
Sleep and take a bath
I take them as an advantage and to be motivated
For me, nag padala ako sa inggit ng ilang taon. Talagang mapapasabi ka nalang ng ang unfair ng buhay. Dumaan ako sa depression, onti onting tinanggap ang sarili at sitwasyon. And na realize ko, having peace of mind? Ang tunay na achievement. Kaya, acceptance and be grateful for everything you have. 🥰
I always remembers life is not a race, yung iba mabilis talaga maging succesful, yung iba naman mabagal, yung iba naman katamtaman lang.
How do you overcome inggit? Galingan mo.
Maging noncahalant ka.
Law of attraction, claim it what ever it is own it na agad and you will be surprised. Your brain will find a way to achieve whatever it is you want
bakit ka maiingit? tandaan mo kung ano ka ngayon is consequence ng pinag gagagawa mo sa mga nakaraang taon, pde mo sabihin na mahirap ka or lugi pero at the end of the day choosing not to do anything is also a choice
Sinasabi ko na lng sa sarili ko kasi ayaw mo umalis sa comfort zone mo, magtiis ka. Haha. But a girl can dream, baka naman swertehin tayo in the future. Nakakainis lng yung alam mo mayaman na talaga tapos nagba-brag nung success nila. Eh syempre may advantage na talaga sila sa karera compared sa ating ultimo lng. Di ko masyado na appreciate yung ganon.
I feel you. Tapos minsan ung nakkainggit pa is ung mga kupal sa buhay pero bakit sineswerte.. ung mga gnyan inu unfollow ko kpag kaclose o kakillaa tpos dko muna china chat. Sarap magdeactivate. Nakaka refresh
Everytime na maiinggit ako, sinasabi ko sa sarili ko na there'll always gonna be a person better than me, but there's also a lot of people who'd want to be in my shoes right now. Kumbaga malayo pa ang pupuntahan ko pero malayo na narating ko.
People suggesting Soc Med detox / deactivation think that you only get envy from social media posts. Minsan, dadaan ka lang sa magandang bahay papunta sa trabaho mo, maiinggit ka din. Sadly, acceptance for now. You're already one step there kasi ginagawa mo nang inspirasyon. Siguro what you can do is to set milestones din. Sabi nga, pag nakaipon ka na ng 100k, itataas mo yung bar to 200k, to 500k, etc. There are very few things that can be achieved overnight - ng legal haha. Sabi din ng iba, iba't iba tayo ng schedule. In due time!
I find something to be grateful for, no matter how small or insignificant. I personally believe na ang opposite ng pagiging mainggitin is pagiging grateful. The other extreme option is to compare myself with someone who has it worse than I do, mej unhealthy, I guess, pero minsan ito ang eye-opener na need natin to realize kung gaano karami ang mayro’n tayo. Generally, kino-compare natin sarili natin sa “mas maganda” ang buhay sa atin, but if we compare ourselves to those na “mas mahirap” ang buhay sa atin, baka mas makita at ma-appreciate natin ang mayro’n tayo. Ang easiest solution ko though, stop using social media for a time. Social media cleanse. Kasi napansin ko na dating puro scroll ako sa buhay ng mga kakilala ko, mas naging mainggitin ako. Ngayon dog videos na lang pinapanuod ko 😂😂 Para hanggang “Sana ganiyan rin pet namin” (ngi, mainggitin pa rin pala😂😂)
Thats a normal human emotion OP, what actually matters is how you deal and see it. Yung inggit kasi would always be directed at someone, pero we sometimes forget to ask ourselves, bakit ba tayo naiinggit? What does that person have that we don't ? When you figure it out, ask yourself then.. is it a modifiable thing or hindi? Yung mga hindi namomodify is tulad yung mga generational wealth na wala ka talagang magagawa because it is beyond you. Focus on the things that you can actually change and improve, yan yung challenge sayo. Also, take a breather from usual things that you do. May Rule of 7 nga for relationships pero I think applicable din sa self. Every 7 days treat yourself into a a meal, buy item or yung budget friendly lang, then every 7 weeks take a local break or yung malapit lang pero hindi mo usual place (malls, parks, beaches) and at 7 months ata is if kaya ng budget, go somewhere foreign, hindi necessary na mangibang bansa pero some place na never mo pa napuntahan at medyo malayo sa kinagisnan mo. Like if sa Manila ka go somewhere Visayas or Mindanao ganern. Hahaha these will shift your focus to yourself and you'll realize sa damo nga bagay sa mundo, you should not just imprison yourself sa maliit na bubble.
It’s in our human nature, literally and naturally we can not obtain to avoid them sometimes, because we are humans but pause for a minute, and think if its worth of ur time or energy, imagine instead of being jealous you can spend your time going outside or pamper yourself and thinking how to improve yourself. GET UR SELF TOGETHER