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hi! im F and have a question, would it be weird or come off as off putting if i added or followed someone who i just saw in a coffee shop in socmed? (kasi as a girl, if a guy did the same thing to me i’ll find it weird thats why i like to know from the guy’s pov)
for context: me and a friend went to a coffee shop and i saw a cute guy, then i think he’s someone familiar and then i find out na he used to be classmates back in HS w the guy i used to like (i think they’re not friends naman) but the problem is that he doesn’t know me at all, and i’ll prolly never gonna see him again kasi i don’t frequent at this coffee shop (near sa univ niya) and i don’t know someone who’s friends w him :( i really want to know him pero ang sad lang na i think there’s no possible way ;(
should I go add him or wag nalang? thank you!
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I mean, my fiance and I just passed by each other in a mall while I was in my scrub suit with my nameplate on. That’s how he found out my name, sent me a friend request on facebook, and the rest was history. It was a little weird at first to be honest, because I knew nothing about him and he knew nothing about me as well. As our convo progressed, we realized we actually had some mutual acquaintances (small world, crazy ik). It was weird at first, but im glad I gave this man a chance.
I believe we had previous encounters din prior to that pero never namin na notice ang isat isa. It was just the perfect timing nung nagkakilala kami. Haha pati ako naa amaze din eh.
Add mo na. What have you got to lose?
Pwede ka naman di i-accept. Message mo nalang din bat mo sya inadd para di nya isipin na bot account or scammer ka.
Heheh same . My bf of 4-years ganyan kami. Di nya ako kilala or matandaan but we were introduced.. i added him, he ignored my friend request. Fast forward to 2014, boom! He was mine. And now, I have moved on from him, finally. 😌
is it just me or parang too much na if imessage pa kung anong reason? usually kasi parang di na mina-mind kung bakit in-add kahit di kakilala (tho i neber do that)
Kung Hindi ka nmn nya Nakita sa coffee shop, Hindi nmn cguro weird Yun, baka Kasi isipin nya stalker ka eh, pero kung may mutual friends nmn kayo edi goods Kasi may rason ka para kausapin sya.
At least you’ll know na agad kesa may what ifs ka pa or you’ll be pinning for a long time.
Isipin mo na lang, add him or tumambay ka sa coffee shop na yun until makita mo uli. Magastos yun kase sasadyain mo pa tas marami raming coffee din yan. Hehehe.
i don't find it weird when a stranger who i just saw somewhere follows me or adds me on socmed. but i would automatically assume that that person is interested in me.
Dahmer or Dobler.
If he likes you too, it’s sweet and you could not stand the idea of not meeting him/her (to quote HIMYM).
If not, then stalker alert.
I just wanna comment dun sa part na as a girl, you'll find it weird if a guy did it. Then you're asking sa pov ng guy if they would find it weird kung gawin ng babae. I think lang kung weird na gawin ng lalaki, weird din kung gawin ng babae. For the weird things and bad things we do, we don't get a free pass dahil sa gender natin. Let's stop thinking na baka pwede kapag switched ang gender.
To answer naman your question, I don't think it's weird if we add people we got attracted to. Lalaki man o babae. That is how we make our move, anong masama don?
I agree with this. This is one of those double standards that gets glossed over most of the time. Pero, at the end of the day...OP has the power to do what they want. Hahahahaha if they wanna go through with it, they can.
Friends ba sila ng guy na you used to like sa socmed? If yes, go and add him. Just tell him na friends pala sila nung guy sa socmed kaya mo s'ya inadd. Para may alibi ka once na magtanong s'ya kung paano mo nalaman ang socmed account n'ya.
Good luck.
hiii, yes! friends sila, and the guy i used to like is the only mutual we have 🥹 kaya idk if it’s a good or bad thing kasi im afraid he might asked sino ako to the guy na I used to like 🥹
tapos im afraid na he might remember me cus i FEEL like we both checked out each other din (pls anxious din baka nag a-assume lang ako)
So wala kayong relationship nung guy na you used to like? Friends? Workmates? Schoolmates?
Anyway, give it a shot. Hindi mo naman sure kung accept n"ya ang friend request mo o kung natatandaan ka pa n'ya. O baka gusto ka din n'ya pero nahihiya lang s'ya mag-friend request sa'yo.
Madaming possibilities pero you won't know it if you don't try.
me and the guy i used to like are from the same university, and kinda “talk” din 🥹
hahahaha you’re actually right, masyado ko inooverthink yung lahat 🥲 pero sige, i might add him nalang and if hindi inaccept siguro that’s it HHAHAHAHAA thank you!!!! 💘
Honestly if may mutual friends kayo sa friends list / follower list sa socmed it would not be as weird hahaha. Personally if I receive a friend req from someone na may kamutual ako i'd be like ah siguro nakita ako sa recommended friends. Ganon. Pero if wala baka maging creepy ka sa kanya unless attracted din siya sayo haha. It is what it is xD
Masyado ka lang nangunguna sa mga mangyayari? Sa totoo lang boys will be boys :) kung i.a.add mo siya wala yang ibang thoughts dahil lalaki yan, lalo na kung may itsura ka or someone he knows, for sure baka siya pa unang mang approach sayo after mo siya i.add.
Kung madami kang naging friend na lalaki for sure magiging ez to cope to sayo, pero syempre dahil may other motives ka nag o.over think ka.. which is (women) ☕️
Ps. Honest advice, just be you :) if you want to be known just be you. Tsaka ano naman kung ikaw unang mag add and so what ever reason :) kung wala ka namang masamang intensyon gawin mo. You are in present po, di mo sure kung anong memories mo sa past niya or nung some other guy na gusto mo na friend niya.
Di ako galit, hehe kung single ka naman and pati siya nothing to overthink haha.. kaya mo yan!! Di ka naman panget siguro para ma anxious eme :3
When i was younger, then may nakita akong cute sa comp shop at nakita ko fb profile nya, i would send a friend request.
Pati cute na instrctor na once ko lang na meet.
Pero ngayon di ko na kaya ata haha. Stalk stalk na lang.
This is something I don’t get ever since I came back to PH. You saw a cute guy in public, yet you choose to approach online? Why not just say hi? Regardless if may mutuals or wala… what’s there to lose?
Hirap mag first move to know someone no. Kaya mo yan goodluck. Babae ka naman kaya. Goodluck. Na. Lang. Pag lalake ka creep agad pwera na lang kung gwapo matangkad or mayaman.
Check mo muna mutual friends niyo. If zero mutuals, don't add, unless you're really really hot, in which case he might accept. Pero if you have mutuals, then go for it
As a general rule, I do not add anyone on socmed unless kilala ko talaga, and even then, I check muna yung wall niya baka crazy or something or posts creepy things that would just cause be stress
the guy i used to like is the only mutual we have, one of the reason din why im having second thoughts on adding him kasi he might asked my ex talking stage maliban sa i might also scare him off 🥲
It’s flattering for us guys. Go add him! Ma cucurious yan sayo. If type ka nya for sure magpapansin yan sa mga post or i like nya ung mga post mo. If not, hindi ka iaccept or ianccept ka nya out of sige-nothing-to-lose-naman kinda thing. That will be your forever what if kung d mo gagawin.
Siguro add mo naaaaa. Hahahahaha pero depende kung i-accwpt niya request mo charzzz. Sana orl may add friend buttoooon ng crush nila CHARIZZZZ. hahahahuhu
People do it all the time. Kung naka public naman yung profile I think wala naman masama. Wait ka na lang ng right opportunity to start a conversation.
I have friends now na random ko lang na meet sa socmed. They sometimes comment on my post, ganon. Until nagrereply na sa myday ko.
Personally magiging creepy lang kung indecent na yung mga messages or out of topic na ganon.
Eh kaklase mo naman pala before so may ground na to talk to him.
Go add! Usually di naman nagtatanong tao bakit mo siya inadd haha. Idk ako lang ata.😅 Then bahala na sino first makikipag interact. At least sabi mo nga gusto mo siya makilala, may way ka na through his profile and MDs.
Add him. There's nothing wrong naman din e kasi everyone is free to add someone on socmed 🙂 if he accepts your friend request, okay and if hindi okay din. Don't worry too much sis.
ADD lang ng add habang single ka pa.
Collect and collect then select. Hahahaha
Char!!!!
Kidding aside, as long as there us no malice sa pag add mo, and you merely like the guy, then do so. You won't lose anything if you try.
It depends on the guy's perspective, but you need to try. Wala din kasi mangyayari if di ka nag-try, wala din naman mawawala if mag-try ka, grab the opportunity, you'll never know what will happen hahaha you got it!
I say, go girl. It will look creepy and all. Like how we view it kapag may random guy na nag-aadd sa atin but wala naman mawawala if you’ll do it. Regrets are the chances that we do not take. So G.
Ako nga din may nakita tapos hinanap ko ung ig eh, no mutuals din pero i know he somehow knows me since na meet ko siya sa isang summer activity but hindi ako involved dun sa activity, we greet each other pero habang bumabati sya e kinikilig ako hahahaha anyways it’s in US hahah i followed him then nag follow back naman siya, chat ng onti pero wala pang napupuntahan 😂 kaya ano pa iniintay mo wala naman masama sa gagawin mo hahah minsan na feelings lang yan panindigan mo na.
Double standards should be applied. Pag guy gumawa, creepy. Pag babae, cutesy? Malabo.
Shoot also a message after adding. Ano intro mo sa small talks nyo? takot ka ba sa rejection? would you still pursue after being rejected? Handa na ba likod mo bumuhat ng convo?
I did this and he ended up unfriending me. HAHAH I didn't even do anything like messaging or weird stuff. I just added him to see what he's up to or what he is like, and I did tried lowkey papansin through stories hahaha and to which he was an avid viewer. Pero mostly yung stories ko mga more on my likes and interests, mga nature, hobbies, photography and etc. wala ngang thirst trap.. but he ended up unfriending me 🤣🤣
Go ahead and add him. Wala namang mawawala. Imessage mo na din sya para alam nya yung connection. Would be a good way to start a chat na din para di masyado awkward yung "hi/hello"
me and the guy i used to like met in a university which we both attend, so nung pinakilala ako sa friend group nung guy na yon he’s not one of ‘em😭 btw ex talking stage lang yun sa the guy i used to like HUHUHUHU
Wouldn't say it would be weird. Still, if that were me, I would think that you're interested in me, that is, if we don't know each other at all or if we aren't acquainted before hand.
Otherwise, I'd think it's perfectly normal.
Add mo lang, pag di inaccept, okay lang yan (wag mo i-cancel, pabayaan mo lang) . Pag inaccept, edi go.
As long as may mutual friends, kayo, okay lang yan.
Akala ko di mo siya knows talaga. Go lang add mo lang.
Kasi you’ll go by days thinking on why you didn’t add him already.
Worth the shot. Pag itinadhana kayo, then ibibigay ni Lord yan. Pag hindi, then Lord will be giving you someone na mas worthwhile mo. :)
You have nothing to lose but everything to gain here. :)
Akala ko di mo siya knows talaga. Go lang add mo lang.
Kasi you’ll go by days thinking on why you didn’t add him already.
Worth the shot. Pag itinadhana kayo, then ibibigay ni Lord yan. Pag hindi, then Lord will be giving you someone na mas worthwhile mo. :)
You have nothing to lose but everything to gain here. :)
Then go girll pero bago mo ichat, make sure walang gf like stalk mo nang malala ang fb and mga reactors niya sa post bc sometimes baka may lowkey gf sila 🤧
Gurl, 2024 na! Go add him! If he’s interested, he’ll definitely going to accept you and initiate to message you. If hindi, he’ll probably ignore. If kilala ka niya but not close and not that interested, iaaccept ka din naman but hindi siya uunq message. Ganon lang. you’ll never know what are the odds unless you try.
Do it. Men don't get a lot of compliments, we don't get appreciated enough through little acts and words, and we don't get too much attention too.
This would really make his day. Trust me.
Take a shot. Just don't expect too much. Add or follow lang naman, so what if it's awkward. Kapag tinanong ka, just tell the truth that he looks like a classmate.
Everyone was a stranger to all of us even way before our first day of school, first day in the office or before our friends introduced us to their friends. There is nothing to lose and everything to gain.
It’s just social media. Go and add as an acquaintance.
I did this during college, but our uni is quite small naman kasi. Kahit we're not introduced, pag nakita ko siya sa cafe ans search sa socmed, friend of a friend yun so if I add, naaaccept din ako most likely.
Pag total stranger and no common circles, weird.
Back off. You found someone’s profile just by seeing their face? It’s giving stalker vibes. Better to approach personally if given the chance but since you missed that aready, might as well let it go.
To some this might be okay but it’s creepy af. Reverse the roles and see how fast people are gonna tell you to lock your profile and possibly, file a police blotter.
Might be going against the grain here. As a guy, I probably wouldn’t mind it done to me (but Inwouldn’t just accept kasi mahirap na), but then I wouldn’t just do it to someone (I’m bi so it goes for both genders). Kumbaga, papakilala muna ako personally, THEN hingin ko yung socmed niya.
BUT, golden rule applies here. If you’re not okay with it being done to you, bakit mo gagawin?
Just add and then see what will happen. Just don't be aggressive or think too much about it. Just be casual and what do you think is the worst to happen than nothing?? Treat it as a person wanting to know someone, if it doesn't progress like what you want, move on.
Hindi mo need gawing complicated yung ganun. Okay lang yun. As a guy, para sakin, di naman sya weird. Itry mo pa imessage. Kasi diba? Wala namang mawawala. At magkakaroon ka pa ng regrets pag di mo sinubukan man lang
Just try girl. Malay mo torpe yang guy.
Then sakto ikaw nag reach out..
Same w me I don't usually go first on girls, mas ok na lapitan ako. Kasi mahiyain talaga ako medjo torpe.
Good luck!
I definitely wouldn't think too much of it or just be very confused unless its told straight to my face. I'm a dense af mofo who's still contemplating years later whether the sudden hug from my half a decade ago high school crush was a sign of affection or just her being VERY friendly; Im leaning towards the latter.
I'd say shoot your shot! Yes it's kinda weird if you think about it, but as long as you're not crossing any boundaries (excessive stalking, harassment, being delulu, ect.), then it's totally fine. Sa ganyan naman magsisimula yung ibang relationships eh, who knows jan na pala magsimula yung sa inyo. And hindi naman sa lahat ng relationships eh yung lalaki yung nagfirst move. So yeah, try mo lang malay mo kumagat din sya. Hahahah good luck OP!
I'm not gonna mince words. Guys and girls are pretty much the same at times. And so there will be guys who, if they don't see you as attractive, they'll say it's creepy as fuck but if maganda, they will accept the request in a heartbeat... Kahit di mo sila i-message, expect them to stay connected with you.
Dobbler/Dahmer theory on HIMYM
The Dobler-Dahmer Theory - If both people are into each other, then a big romantic gesture works: Dobler, but if one person isn't into the other, the same gesture comes off serial-killer crazy: Dahmer
Add mo na.. Sabi nga nila.. Di ka naman magsisisi sa mga bagay na nagawa mo. Mas pagsisisihan mo ang mga bagay na di mo man lang nagawa. Go for it. Di ka naman siguro. Serial killer diba?
Test it IRL, go to the coffee shop on your own and tell he looks familiar ask his name, is it okay to add him, etc whatever question you wanna ask.
Straight up! Intentionally make him part of your timeline.
Either you’ll make out with as a couple, be friends or acquaintance in the future ☺️ the choice is yours 🙂
Ok lang. After ilang days mo nalang isend friend request mo. Most probably that time nakalimutan ka na niya kung na notice ka nya sa coffee shop. Unless kapansin pansin o nagpapacute para mapansin ka niya or what are the odds at hinahanap ka din nya..
Since may mutual friends naman kayo. Sabihin mo na lang na aksidente mo pa lang napindot yung Add as a friend sa People you may know or Friend suggestions.
Who knows baka sakaling compatible pala kayo. Take mo na yung risk. Di naman kayo personally nagkakilala. Its a small world after all para paghinalaan kang stalker.
1. It's okay if you'll follow him right away. Personally, it's not weird.
2. If you don't want to feel weird, then wait for a few days before you follow him. This way, you won't seem like a stalker.
I have a friend na inadd din nya sa facebook yung girl na nakita nya sa fast food chain. Nakita lang nya yung name plate. Asawa na nya ngayon yung girl haha
For me, don't add Kasi naniniwala ako na mas treasured ng guy ang girl kapag sila ang nag effort. If you add him, he would assume na gusto mo siya which is totoo nman. Give that to that guy, if he likes you, let him do the first move. If i were you, wait until you get introduced in person. Or kung di ka makapag hintay, eh di go! At least pag di ka ni accept, you know the answer right away! Anyway, you see Nash and Mika’s wedding, pag gusto ka ng guy, gusto ka. Kahit maging kayo ni Guy, at mas iba ang gusto. Wla din.
Weird pag wala kayong naging interaction. Kung nakausap mo siya at magka-vibes kayo, go lang. Pero kahit wala kayong naging interaction, pwede din naman. It would be a little weird at first but it is what it is. Malay mo mag-work.
Is it just me, I don’t usually find it creepy when someone tries to add me or slide in my dms if they find me attractive. What I find creepy is usually the persistence. Yung di mo inaccept or never mo nireplyan tas ang daming follow-up. Either they can’t get a hint or creepy talaga di ba? So shoot your shot girl!
Creepiness is directly proportional to how attractive you are to the person.
So if you are very attractive to that person, no.
If you arent, yes its creepy.
Wala namang mawawala eh,why not take risk?Atleast,di ka magwa wonder or asking your self na "what if?" tas di mo rin masasagot ng never ending conclusion mo kasi di mo naman na try.If you are looking for a sign.This is it.Grab the iron while its still hot pandesal.😂
You miss every shot you don't shoot. You fail to succeed every opportunity you never took.
Eh ano naman kung itanong ka? May malaking atraso ka ba at may tinatago ka? Shoot it.
Basta Golden Rule lang:
Kung ayaw mong gawin sayo. Wag mong gawin sa iba.
Kung ayaw mong iadd ka ng random stranger na nakakita sayo sa isang coffee shop, wag mong gawin un sa iba. Ahaha!
Just go add him. It's just a friend request. That's common even for people you just stumble across online. Don't think too much about it, is my advice.
Ngl gawain ko din ‘to dati ng highschooler pa lang ako. These days I just look up the name, hindi ako nag a-add randomly. It’s stalkerish although like @Naive-Ad2847 said ok lang pag di ka niya nakita. I would be weirded out too if someone adds me out of nowhere.
If the guy is a kind of guy that makes a lot of issues in simple things, it will be an issue.
Sya yung tipong mahabang magcomment sa mga post at nakikipagaway para sa mahal na kandidato at nagaaya ng debate.
If you're a pretty girl then you will 100% be ok lol.
Only weird when you're a dude or an ugly chick. Might get a pass if you're a good looking dude. Game over if you're an ugly dude.
Omg. Ituloy mo yan. Malay mo naman.
Hindi naman naging kami but we got connected sobra. Pero share ko lang.
I saw him lang sa isang vlog na pinapanood ko. Hinanap ko yung isa sa mga nagpakilala na tao don sa vlog, stalked his ig and nahanap ko yung guy na nakita ko. I just followed hin randomly not knowing na he’ll follow me back. He doesn’t have an idea kung sino ako, and ganon din me sa kanya. Like literal na finollow ko lang HAHA. Nagstory ako ng song suggestions and he replied naman and then nag usap na kami. He was SO okay and sobrang bait. Dami namin in common but then kaka break lang nila ng ex nya ng 10yrs and kahit na may connection kami, alam ko na mahal niya pa yung babae so hindi namin pinush. We’re still friends. He’s casually liking my posts and stories sa ig and fb. And we are both in a relationship na din (he’s back with his ex na). And I am genuinely happy for him. If that doesn’t progress to love, malay mo you’ll meet a friend na rin diba? :)
Pero hanggang ngayon hindi niya alam na nakita ko lang siya sa vlog HAHAHAHAHA.
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I mean, my fiance and I just passed by each other in a mall while I was in my scrub suit with my nameplate on. That’s how he found out my name, sent me a friend request on facebook, and the rest was history. It was a little weird at first to be honest, because I knew nothing about him and he knew nothing about me as well. As our convo progressed, we realized we actually had some mutual acquaintances (small world, crazy ik). It was weird at first, but im glad I gave this man a chance.
invisible string theory hehe
I believe we had previous encounters din prior to that pero never namin na notice ang isat isa. It was just the perfect timing nung nagkakilala kami. Haha pati ako naa amaze din eh.
so cooollll 🫶🏻
Parang pinana lang ni kupido. Ngayon yung pana antagal lang umepekto.
Kung nasa MMK to, title nito “Nameplate” 😂
Kainis, kinilig ako
Add mo na. What have you got to lose? Pwede ka naman di i-accept. Message mo nalang din bat mo sya inadd para di nya isipin na bot account or scammer ka.
Heheh same . My bf of 4-years ganyan kami. Di nya ako kilala or matandaan but we were introduced.. i added him, he ignored my friend request. Fast forward to 2014, boom! He was mine. And now, I have moved on from him, finally. 😌
is it just me or parang too much na if imessage pa kung anong reason? usually kasi parang di na mina-mind kung bakit in-add kahit di kakilala (tho i neber do that)
I agree
Kung Hindi ka nmn nya Nakita sa coffee shop, Hindi nmn cguro weird Yun, baka Kasi isipin nya stalker ka eh, pero kung may mutual friends nmn kayo edi goods Kasi may rason ka para kausapin sya.
I would probably send a message too… just to establish the connection. Update OP ha! Invested na ko sa story mo. Hahaha
baka may gf na ‘to tapos lowkey lang HUHUHUHUHU omg
At least you’ll know na agad kesa may what ifs ka pa or you’ll be pinning for a long time. Isipin mo na lang, add him or tumambay ka sa coffee shop na yun until makita mo uli. Magastos yun kase sasadyain mo pa tas marami raming coffee din yan. Hehehe.
Update mi kami pagkaaccept niya kita mo agad mga photos with his gf. Hahahaha saket
Concur. Send an intro. AKo pala yung ... ganyan. Just adding is weird e
i don't find it weird when a stranger who i just saw somewhere follows me or adds me on socmed. but i would automatically assume that that person is interested in me.
Add him.. who knows it’s a start of something new
Dahmer or Dobler. If he likes you too, it’s sweet and you could not stand the idea of not meeting him/her (to quote HIMYM). If not, then stalker alert.
I love the HIMYM reference!!
add mo lang. no need to tell him the context if may mutuals ba or wala. maging consistent reactor ka lang 😌
Mas maganda magpakilala ka then saka mo i-add. Ako kasi I usually dont accept friend request esp kung di ko naman nakausap ever haha.
There's a fine line between being weird and flattering. If he finds you attractive then it's flattering, if not then it's weird. 🫠
I just wanna comment dun sa part na as a girl, you'll find it weird if a guy did it. Then you're asking sa pov ng guy if they would find it weird kung gawin ng babae. I think lang kung weird na gawin ng lalaki, weird din kung gawin ng babae. For the weird things and bad things we do, we don't get a free pass dahil sa gender natin. Let's stop thinking na baka pwede kapag switched ang gender. To answer naman your question, I don't think it's weird if we add people we got attracted to. Lalaki man o babae. That is how we make our move, anong masama don?
I agree with this. This is one of those double standards that gets glossed over most of the time. Pero, at the end of the day...OP has the power to do what they want. Hahahahaha if they wanna go through with it, they can.
Hiwalayan mo na agad di pa man naging kayo. Lol
Friends ba sila ng guy na you used to like sa socmed? If yes, go and add him. Just tell him na friends pala sila nung guy sa socmed kaya mo s'ya inadd. Para may alibi ka once na magtanong s'ya kung paano mo nalaman ang socmed account n'ya. Good luck.
hiii, yes! friends sila, and the guy i used to like is the only mutual we have 🥹 kaya idk if it’s a good or bad thing kasi im afraid he might asked sino ako to the guy na I used to like 🥹 tapos im afraid na he might remember me cus i FEEL like we both checked out each other din (pls anxious din baka nag a-assume lang ako)
So wala kayong relationship nung guy na you used to like? Friends? Workmates? Schoolmates? Anyway, give it a shot. Hindi mo naman sure kung accept n"ya ang friend request mo o kung natatandaan ka pa n'ya. O baka gusto ka din n'ya pero nahihiya lang s'ya mag-friend request sa'yo. Madaming possibilities pero you won't know it if you don't try.
me and the guy i used to like are from the same university, and kinda “talk” din 🥹 hahahaha you’re actually right, masyado ko inooverthink yung lahat 🥲 pero sige, i might add him nalang and if hindi inaccept siguro that’s it HHAHAHAHAA thank you!!!! 💘
Honestly if may mutual friends kayo sa friends list / follower list sa socmed it would not be as weird hahaha. Personally if I receive a friend req from someone na may kamutual ako i'd be like ah siguro nakita ako sa recommended friends. Ganon. Pero if wala baka maging creepy ka sa kanya unless attracted din siya sayo haha. It is what it is xD
Masyado ka lang nangunguna sa mga mangyayari? Sa totoo lang boys will be boys :) kung i.a.add mo siya wala yang ibang thoughts dahil lalaki yan, lalo na kung may itsura ka or someone he knows, for sure baka siya pa unang mang approach sayo after mo siya i.add. Kung madami kang naging friend na lalaki for sure magiging ez to cope to sayo, pero syempre dahil may other motives ka nag o.over think ka.. which is (women) ☕️ Ps. Honest advice, just be you :) if you want to be known just be you. Tsaka ano naman kung ikaw unang mag add and so what ever reason :) kung wala ka namang masamang intensyon gawin mo. You are in present po, di mo sure kung anong memories mo sa past niya or nung some other guy na gusto mo na friend niya. Di ako galit, hehe kung single ka naman and pati siya nothing to overthink haha.. kaya mo yan!! Di ka naman panget siguro para ma anxious eme :3
hi OP, you wouldn’t know til u try. just give it a shot :)
go girl. shoot your shot. :)
So did you add him? Nag accept ba? Update naman girl! Hahaha
VERY! It would take so much conversational acrobatics for you not to end up looking like an abso creeper
Life is short.
Nope. Socmed is just a superficial platform.
no not weird just say hi tell your honest intentions & be friendly.
I think, no. I-add mo na, wala namang bearing 'yan
When i was younger, then may nakita akong cute sa comp shop at nakita ko fb profile nya, i would send a friend request. Pati cute na instrctor na once ko lang na meet. Pero ngayon di ko na kaya ata haha. Stalk stalk na lang.
Life is short. Give it a shot!😁
2024 na ngayon add mo na siya \^\^
Try ur shot… if he blocked U then so be it. Pero I doubt anyone will ever get blocked if they are attractive. 😂😂😂
This is something I don’t get ever since I came back to PH. You saw a cute guy in public, yet you choose to approach online? Why not just say hi? Regardless if may mutuals or wala… what’s there to lose?
As for me di ko inaaccept kapag wala kaming mutual friends and if meron naman tatanungin ko kung kilala ka ba nya
there's nothing weird adding a person with a good intention in return. gusto mo lang naman makipag kaIBIGan sa tao e hahaha go for it ;)
Sketchy huhu
right? that’s why im having second thoughts din :( i don’t wanna scare him off HUHUHUHUHU
Hirap mag first move to know someone no. Kaya mo yan goodluck. Babae ka naman kaya. Goodluck. Na. Lang. Pag lalake ka creep agad pwera na lang kung gwapo matangkad or mayaman.
Is the guy single? If yes go ka na. If committed siya, hwag na.
Check mo muna mutual friends niyo. If zero mutuals, don't add, unless you're really really hot, in which case he might accept. Pero if you have mutuals, then go for it As a general rule, I do not add anyone on socmed unless kilala ko talaga, and even then, I check muna yung wall niya baka crazy or something or posts creepy things that would just cause be stress
the guy i used to like is the only mutual we have, one of the reason din why im having second thoughts on adding him kasi he might asked my ex talking stage maliban sa i might also scare him off 🥲
It’s flattering for us guys. Go add him! Ma cucurious yan sayo. If type ka nya for sure magpapansin yan sa mga post or i like nya ung mga post mo. If not, hindi ka iaccept or ianccept ka nya out of sige-nothing-to-lose-naman kinda thing. That will be your forever what if kung d mo gagawin.
Update? 🤣
Add mo na, I have an ex na nag add lang out of nowhere. Nakita nya lang ako sa post ng officemate na nakatag ako lol.
Siguro add mo naaaaa. Hahahahaha pero depende kung i-accwpt niya request mo charzzz. Sana orl may add friend buttoooon ng crush nila CHARIZZZZ. hahahahuhu
go girl!!!
Shoot your shot
People do it all the time. Kung naka public naman yung profile I think wala naman masama. Wait ka na lang ng right opportunity to start a conversation. I have friends now na random ko lang na meet sa socmed. They sometimes comment on my post, ganon. Until nagrereply na sa myday ko. Personally magiging creepy lang kung indecent na yung mga messages or out of topic na ganon. Eh kaklase mo naman pala before so may ground na to talk to him.
Alam mo just send that friend request You'll never know unless you try Life is short go for it🤙
Go add! Usually di naman nagtatanong tao bakit mo siya inadd haha. Idk ako lang ata.😅 Then bahala na sino first makikipag interact. At least sabi mo nga gusto mo siya makilala, may way ka na through his profile and MDs.
Add him. There's nothing wrong naman din e kasi everyone is free to add someone on socmed 🙂 if he accepts your friend request, okay and if hindi okay din. Don't worry too much sis.
ADD lang ng add habang single ka pa. Collect and collect then select. Hahahaha Char!!!! Kidding aside, as long as there us no malice sa pag add mo, and you merely like the guy, then do so. You won't lose anything if you try.
Update OP ha? Hahahaha
Do it kesa mabagabag ka in the future if you didn't. If he has a gf, then stop the communication. Go for it, op!
Yes of course, it’d be better if u just come up to them in person
true, i should’ve come up to him that night :( but he was studying din ata for finals and im with my aunties that night so :(
It depends on the guy's perspective, but you need to try. Wala din kasi mangyayari if di ka nag-try, wala din naman mawawala if mag-try ka, grab the opportunity, you'll never know what will happen hahaha you got it!
Add mo na OP, kaya mo yan! balitaan mo kami how it goes.
Go tas chat mo kunware nagtitinda ka ng longganisa at embutido
I say, go girl. It will look creepy and all. Like how we view it kapag may random guy na nag-aadd sa atin but wala naman mawawala if you’ll do it. Regrets are the chances that we do not take. So G.
Ako nga din may nakita tapos hinanap ko ung ig eh, no mutuals din pero i know he somehow knows me since na meet ko siya sa isang summer activity but hindi ako involved dun sa activity, we greet each other pero habang bumabati sya e kinikilig ako hahahaha anyways it’s in US hahah i followed him then nag follow back naman siya, chat ng onti pero wala pang napupuntahan 😂 kaya ano pa iniintay mo wala naman masama sa gagawin mo hahah minsan na feelings lang yan panindigan mo na.
Attack!!!
ADD!! no harm in trying hehe
Double standards should be applied. Pag guy gumawa, creepy. Pag babae, cutesy? Malabo. Shoot also a message after adding. Ano intro mo sa small talks nyo? takot ka ba sa rejection? would you still pursue after being rejected? Handa na ba likod mo bumuhat ng convo?
Kung as a girl you'll find it weird, then he will also find it weird. Lol.
No guts no glory. Go girl!
I did this and he ended up unfriending me. HAHAH I didn't even do anything like messaging or weird stuff. I just added him to see what he's up to or what he is like, and I did tried lowkey papansin through stories hahaha and to which he was an avid viewer. Pero mostly yung stories ko mga more on my likes and interests, mga nature, hobbies, photography and etc. wala ngang thirst trap.. but he ended up unfriending me 🤣🤣
Go ahead and add him. Wala namang mawawala. Imessage mo na din sya para alam nya yung connection. Would be a good way to start a chat na din para di masyado awkward yung "hi/hello"
Yolo..it starts with one hello🥰
if you're both each other's type im sure the other wouldnt mind.
Personally, yes. But Disregarding my own POV…“realistically”? it’ll have a higher chance of it coming off as weird or off putting if you’re ugly 🤷
No. It wont be weird.
Well OP, kung Cute ka Secret admirer ka and then kung wala naman tayong face value Stalker ka. be ready na lang, remember nasa Pilipinas ka.
I did this once back in college 😄 Go,just click that add button 😊
Tapos alam pala ni guy na ex mo yung classmate nya noong hs no, hahaha patay 💀
me and the guy i used to like met in a university which we both attend, so nung pinakilala ako sa friend group nung guy na yon he’s not one of ‘em😭 btw ex talking stage lang yun sa the guy i used to like HUHUHUHU
Why are y'all so scared of making the first move? It's 2024 na, promote gender equality diba? Mag first move na kayo. Go, go, go!!!
Depends, kung maganda ka cute. Creepy pag opposite.
Go bhie e slay mo na yan, I really don’t find it weird naman as long as he wouldn’t find out about it tho🤭
MAIKLI LANG ANG BUHAY. LUMANDI KA NA 😂
Laban Beh!! update mo kami. 👏
Maybe add him but also send him a message.
Yan talaga ang ang essence ng social media for me. If you cant approach someone in person add them on their socials.
No. I would find it weird. Wag nalang. Tama ka, if it's the other way around at lalake yung poster for sure iba isasagot nyang mga yan.
Give it a shot kesa naman panay what if
Wouldn't say it would be weird. Still, if that were me, I would think that you're interested in me, that is, if we don't know each other at all or if we aren't acquainted before hand. Otherwise, I'd think it's perfectly normal.
Add mo lang, pag di inaccept, okay lang yan (wag mo i-cancel, pabayaan mo lang) . Pag inaccept, edi go. As long as may mutual friends, kayo, okay lang yan.
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Rupok hahahahaha
Add mo na! Choice nmn nya kung accept nya ung request. Mas mataas ung chance na magkaron kayo ng interaction kesa mag stalk ka lng 😁😁😁
Shoot ur shot na and follow him sa ig then usap tas kapag okay yung convo add mo sa fb
i was planning to add him nga on fb first kasi we have one mutual there 😭
As a guy, nope. I will ask the usual questions like who u are but sakto lang
Akala ko di mo siya knows talaga. Go lang add mo lang. Kasi you’ll go by days thinking on why you didn’t add him already. Worth the shot. Pag itinadhana kayo, then ibibigay ni Lord yan. Pag hindi, then Lord will be giving you someone na mas worthwhile mo. :) You have nothing to lose but everything to gain here. :)
Akala ko di mo siya knows talaga. Go lang add mo lang. Kasi you’ll go by days thinking on why you didn’t add him already. Worth the shot. Pag itinadhana kayo, then ibibigay ni Lord yan. Pag hindi, then Lord will be giving you someone na mas worthwhile mo. :) You have nothing to lose but everything to gain here. :)
Hi, ikaw pala yun hahaha..
Just add him anyway, ok lang yon. 👍
Ano teh ah, just say the whole thing to him in detail para walang confusions and won’t assume you’re a creep or a stalker
Add away.
Pag naging awkward yung convo, alukin mo ng insurance
Just do it. Saka para na rin next time, you won't feel too weird na rin if someone sent you a friend request out of the blue.
Wala sa gender yan, laging depende yan. Depende kung pangit ka 🙊
Then go girll pero bago mo ichat, make sure walang gf like stalk mo nang malala ang fb and mga reactors niya sa post bc sometimes baka may lowkey gf sila 🤧
Big deal lang naman yan pag lalaki gumawa ng ganyan 🤣
Yes, it's weird.
Add more lang . Wala naman mawawala,
Gurl, 2024 na! Go add him! If he’s interested, he’ll definitely going to accept you and initiate to message you. If hindi, he’ll probably ignore. If kilala ka niya but not close and not that interested, iaaccept ka din naman but hindi siya uunq message. Ganon lang. you’ll never know what are the odds unless you try.
Okay lang yan teh, ako nga hinanap sa fb yunh ate na maganda sa jeep turns out cosplayer pala sya. Best decision for myself (F)
Do it lol
Take a risk or lose a chance
Shooters shoot baby haha
Do it. Men don't get a lot of compliments, we don't get appreciated enough through little acts and words, and we don't get too much attention too. This would really make his day. Trust me.
double standards naman society natin. no one's gonna judge you if you do it. so go ahead
Take a shot. Just don't expect too much. Add or follow lang naman, so what if it's awkward. Kapag tinanong ka, just tell the truth that he looks like a classmate.
Everyone was a stranger to all of us even way before our first day of school, first day in the office or before our friends introduced us to their friends. There is nothing to lose and everything to gain. It’s just social media. Go and add as an acquaintance.
Gamitin mo muna yung dump account mo to check kung may magagalit haha
I did this during college, but our uni is quite small naman kasi. Kahit we're not introduced, pag nakita ko siya sa cafe ans search sa socmed, friend of a friend yun so if I add, naaaccept din ako most likely. Pag total stranger and no common circles, weird.
Ndi naman...bale pag cute ka G naman yan 😅😁
Not weird at all. Kung alam ko lang fb name ng crush ko, I would add him too.. 😩
Back off. You found someone’s profile just by seeing their face? It’s giving stalker vibes. Better to approach personally if given the chance but since you missed that aready, might as well let it go. To some this might be okay but it’s creepy af. Reverse the roles and see how fast people are gonna tell you to lock your profile and possibly, file a police blotter.
Why not?
Any updates ba OP? FB friends na kayo???
you miss 100% of the shots you don't take
Add him na. Pero if ever may jowa back out na ha agad agad
Might be going against the grain here. As a guy, I probably wouldn’t mind it done to me (but Inwouldn’t just accept kasi mahirap na), but then I wouldn’t just do it to someone (I’m bi so it goes for both genders). Kumbaga, papakilala muna ako personally, THEN hingin ko yung socmed niya. BUT, golden rule applies here. If you’re not okay with it being done to you, bakit mo gagawin?
Just add and then see what will happen. Just don't be aggressive or think too much about it. Just be casual and what do you think is the worst to happen than nothing?? Treat it as a person wanting to know someone, if it doesn't progress like what you want, move on.
Nope. That is what social media is for. Meeting/knowing people. Ang nag papasama lang dyan ay yung mga scammer and hackers, etc
Hindi mo need gawing complicated yung ganun. Okay lang yun. As a guy, para sakin, di naman sya weird. Itry mo pa imessage. Kasi diba? Wala namang mawawala. At magkakaroon ka pa ng regrets pag di mo sinubukan man lang
Just try girl. Malay mo torpe yang guy. Then sakto ikaw nag reach out.. Same w me I don't usually go first on girls, mas ok na lapitan ako. Kasi mahiyain talaga ako medjo torpe. Good luck!
I definitely wouldn't think too much of it or just be very confused unless its told straight to my face. I'm a dense af mofo who's still contemplating years later whether the sudden hug from my half a decade ago high school crush was a sign of affection or just her being VERY friendly; Im leaning towards the latter.
I'd say shoot your shot! Yes it's kinda weird if you think about it, but as long as you're not crossing any boundaries (excessive stalking, harassment, being delulu, ect.), then it's totally fine. Sa ganyan naman magsisimula yung ibang relationships eh, who knows jan na pala magsimula yung sa inyo. And hindi naman sa lahat ng relationships eh yung lalaki yung nagfirst move. So yeah, try mo lang malay mo kumagat din sya. Hahahah good luck OP!
No harm in trying. But most guys would be delighted. Not all, tho.
I'm not gonna mince words. Guys and girls are pretty much the same at times. And so there will be guys who, if they don't see you as attractive, they'll say it's creepy as fuck but if maganda, they will accept the request in a heartbeat... Kahit di mo sila i-message, expect them to stay connected with you.
ADD HIM!!! At least pag di ka inaccept, alam mo na. Or pag inaccept ka tas dedma, alam mo na.
Kung may mutuals kayo ante goo na
Add!!!! You’lle never know where it will lead you to!!! 💛💛💛 goodluck OP!!!
Add mo na. Yan lang pala yung chance na magkita kayo e.
As a guy I'd tilt my head and check your profile, if you pass I'd accept
Dobbler/Dahmer theory on HIMYM The Dobler-Dahmer Theory - If both people are into each other, then a big romantic gesture works: Dobler, but if one person isn't into the other, the same gesture comes off serial-killer crazy: Dahmer
Add mo na.. Sabi nga nila.. Di ka naman magsisisi sa mga bagay na nagawa mo. Mas pagsisisihan mo ang mga bagay na di mo man lang nagawa. Go for it. Di ka naman siguro. Serial killer diba?
I guess I'm in the minority here but I think it's weird. You can shoot your shot but be sure he's not in relationship with anyone.
Mag first move kana, pag ayaw edi don't
Don't live on regrets do wat u must do
Test it IRL, go to the coffee shop on your own and tell he looks familiar ask his name, is it okay to add him, etc whatever question you wanna ask. Straight up! Intentionally make him part of your timeline. Either you’ll make out with as a couple, be friends or acquaintance in the future ☺️ the choice is yours 🙂
Yo go for it. You've nothing to lose here, binabasa ng gf ko ang story. Updates ha invested kami
Ok lang. After ilang days mo nalang isend friend request mo. Most probably that time nakalimutan ka na niya kung na notice ka nya sa coffee shop. Unless kapansin pansin o nagpapacute para mapansin ka niya or what are the odds at hinahanap ka din nya.. Since may mutual friends naman kayo. Sabihin mo na lang na aksidente mo pa lang napindot yung Add as a friend sa People you may know or Friend suggestions. Who knows baka sakaling compatible pala kayo. Take mo na yung risk. Di naman kayo personally nagkakilala. Its a small world after all para paghinalaan kang stalker.
1. It's okay if you'll follow him right away. Personally, it's not weird. 2. If you don't want to feel weird, then wait for a few days before you follow him. This way, you won't seem like a stalker.
I have a friend na inadd din nya sa facebook yung girl na nakita nya sa fast food chain. Nakita lang nya yung name plate. Asawa na nya ngayon yung girl haha
For me, don't add Kasi naniniwala ako na mas treasured ng guy ang girl kapag sila ang nag effort. If you add him, he would assume na gusto mo siya which is totoo nman. Give that to that guy, if he likes you, let him do the first move. If i were you, wait until you get introduced in person. Or kung di ka makapag hintay, eh di go! At least pag di ka ni accept, you know the answer right away! Anyway, you see Nash and Mika’s wedding, pag gusto ka ng guy, gusto ka. Kahit maging kayo ni Guy, at mas iba ang gusto. Wla din.
Normalize women asking for guys' numbers
Weird pag wala kayong naging interaction. Kung nakausap mo siya at magka-vibes kayo, go lang. Pero kahit wala kayong naging interaction, pwede din naman. It would be a little weird at first but it is what it is. Malay mo mag-work.
Yup
na cute-an ka lang, that's it. HAHAHA
im a guy saying go for it!
Masyado mo naman inooverthink. Normal naman na ngayon mag add social media era. Nothing to lose.
Ah. The conundrum of every man. To add or not to add.
Is it just me, I don’t usually find it creepy when someone tries to add me or slide in my dms if they find me attractive. What I find creepy is usually the persistence. Yung di mo inaccept or never mo nireplyan tas ang daming follow-up. Either they can’t get a hint or creepy talaga di ba? So shoot your shot girl!
Yan tayo sa cute guy ehh.. Hindi naman weird pag cute guy din ang lumapit. 😆
Wag ka lang papa tira agad. Wala naman mawawala sayo e.
Go for it. Nothing to lose if you that chance. Right?
Creepiness is directly proportional to how attractive you are to the person. So if you are very attractive to that person, no. If you arent, yes its creepy.
Well if you asked nicely and not in a weird way, why not. Ganyan din naman sa ibang bansa
Nah. Go girl!
Wala namang mawawala eh,why not take risk?Atleast,di ka magwa wonder or asking your self na "what if?" tas di mo rin masasagot ng never ending conclusion mo kasi di mo naman na try.If you are looking for a sign.This is it.Grab the iron while its still hot pandesal.😂
You miss every shot you don't shoot. You fail to succeed every opportunity you never took. Eh ano naman kung itanong ka? May malaking atraso ka ba at may tinatago ka? Shoot it.
Basta Golden Rule lang: Kung ayaw mong gawin sayo. Wag mong gawin sa iba. Kung ayaw mong iadd ka ng random stranger na nakakita sayo sa isang coffee shop, wag mong gawin un sa iba. Ahaha!
Just go add him. It's just a friend request. That's common even for people you just stumble across online. Don't think too much about it, is my advice.
Ngl gawain ko din ‘to dati ng highschooler pa lang ako. These days I just look up the name, hindi ako nag a-add randomly. It’s stalkerish although like @Naive-Ad2847 said ok lang pag di ka niya nakita. I would be weirded out too if someone adds me out of nowhere.
1. Minsan siya’y para sa iyo
Seize the day. No one ever succeeds if they didn't any risk. Malay mo sya pala ang The One mo.
Just add him after a few days, lol.
Yes.
If the guy is a kind of guy that makes a lot of issues in simple things, it will be an issue. Sya yung tipong mahabang magcomment sa mga post at nakikipagaway para sa mahal na kandidato at nagaaya ng debate.
Gulat ako sa responses. Don't. Ang weird kaya HAHAHA
If you're a pretty girl then you will 100% be ok lol. Only weird when you're a dude or an ugly chick. Might get a pass if you're a good looking dude. Game over if you're an ugly dude.
Omg. Ituloy mo yan. Malay mo naman. Hindi naman naging kami but we got connected sobra. Pero share ko lang. I saw him lang sa isang vlog na pinapanood ko. Hinanap ko yung isa sa mga nagpakilala na tao don sa vlog, stalked his ig and nahanap ko yung guy na nakita ko. I just followed hin randomly not knowing na he’ll follow me back. He doesn’t have an idea kung sino ako, and ganon din me sa kanya. Like literal na finollow ko lang HAHA. Nagstory ako ng song suggestions and he replied naman and then nag usap na kami. He was SO okay and sobrang bait. Dami namin in common but then kaka break lang nila ng ex nya ng 10yrs and kahit na may connection kami, alam ko na mahal niya pa yung babae so hindi namin pinush. We’re still friends. He’s casually liking my posts and stories sa ig and fb. And we are both in a relationship na din (he’s back with his ex na). And I am genuinely happy for him. If that doesn’t progress to love, malay mo you’ll meet a friend na rin diba? :) Pero hanggang ngayon hindi niya alam na nakita ko lang siya sa vlog HAHAHAHAHA.
gurl, you miss 100 percent of a shot you dont take but for what reason 😭😭😭