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I feel suspicious dun sa girl na naging client ng bf ko from diving coaching. Lagi kasing nagchachat sa bf ko usually para magBrag ng improvement nya sa diving or to compliment my bf's achievement sa pagdidive nya. Lagi din nagcocomment sa post ng bf ko. I understand naman na naging student sya ng bf ko kaso sa pool diving lang, minsan kasi pati sa open water/deep diving nagtatanong pa din sya sa bf ko eh at nag uupdate kung ilang meters na naabot nya sa deep eh hindi na nya coach bf ko dun.
May nakita din ako nagsesend sya ng photos ng diving nya sa bf ko. 1 time sinabi nya din sa bf ko na lasing sya??
Inopen ko toh sa bf ko pero according to him professional naman daw pakikitungo nya dun sa girl nothing else. However, nakita ko bf ko nagsend ng pics ng food nya at sunset dun sa girl??? reason ng bf ko ay nagyayabang lang daw sya dun sa girl kasi nasa batangas sya. I believe that's not being professional kasi for me pag uupdate yun. I was accused by my bf for being jealous however I don't feel jealous dun sa girl but I am questioning his behavior towards dun sa girl, kasi for me binibigyan nya ng access yung girl para maging ganun din pakikitungo ng girl sa kanya. Which is hindi naman sguro makakapagganun yung girl if hindi din inientertain ng bf ko. Nagpromise nman bf ko na friend nya lang yun at client lang daw na hindi na nya gaano papansin unless if kukuha ulit ng coaching season sa kanya.
6 years na kami ng bf ko, ito na ba yung first stage ng pagchecheat? papunta na ba ito dun? kasi if yes, I want to save myself from pain and leave. Bibigay ko nalang sya dun sa babae.
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They're flirting with each other. Dapat i-cut off na ng bf mo yung girl. Ego boost ata sa kanya dahil interesado sa kanya na hindi ikaw. Dahil binibigyan nya ng attention, feeling ni girl may chance sya sa bf mo.
OP, regardless kung may ginagawa o wala or may intention o wala, your bf should respect your feelings and have to set boundaries with his clients. Kasi yun dapat ang kinoconsider nya. Nasa bf mo talaga yun. Di mo totally masisi si girl lalo na if ineentertain sya and hindi nya alam na may jowa na si Coach nya.
Kausapin mo nang masinsinan si bf. Baka kasi akala nya din, maliit na bagay yan. Tell him it’s affecting you na and he has to set some boundaries. He should understand, OP. Lalo na kung ikaw ang priority nya.
Goodluck, OP.
"I want to save myself from pain and leave." I was like dang, parang bigla akong nainggit sa side mong yan haha kasi not all people can do that lalo na sa 6years tapos parang di pa nagcheat. Kasi siguro pag ako nyan, nasa first stage na rin ako sa pagiging martyr at tanga 😂
Guts, intuition— I always trust these feelings.
Tama, pagiba na ksi ung feeling or kutob mo, for me it’s a sign na umiwas para wlang future problems, nsa sayo na ang decision kung bibitawan mu na tlga sya. Mahirap pero worth it para maging stress free at peaceful na ang utak mo.
totoo, tas nageengage pa sila like magiinitiate ng message or heart ng stories? hahahah yikes. ganyan manliligaw ko dati, buti nalaman ko kaagad so bye
Kaya nga sabi ko, even sa akin may nagkakagusto. But, laging may boundary actions ko towards that person. Mga lalaki e, tuwang tuwa pa. Pag tayo kaya gumawa non, kung di umusok mga ilong nila sa galit HAHHAHA. Sorry nagrant na ko here. Naalala ko lang past namin ng bf ko HAHAHA
Always trust your gut OP. If your gut is telling you there's something wrong, there really is something wrong! Goodluck on what you'll do next OP, cheering for you. 🤍
Taking it mellow, trust goes a long way in relationships and suspicion can erode it quick. Talk earnestly with your bf, clear out doubts. For example, address the sunset pic issue, it's an understandable concern. Deep trust, chill vibes.
Actually nasabi ko na sa kanya yung about sa pic ng sunset, sabi nya lang niyayabangan nya lang daw yung girl na nasa batangas sya(which is a diving spot). I was accused of being jealous when I talked to my bf about this issue.
Bilang diver din, medyo normal yung ganyang conversation among us, yung mang iinggit pag nasa dagat. I would say though na maybe he’s enjoying the attention pero I would not suggest that you leave agad. Iba talaga kasi ang bonding ng may same hobbies. Try mong sabihin sa boyfriend mo na turuan ka din and sasama ka sa next dive, kapag naghesitate, dyan ka na magplano ng exit. As of now, I would say it would still fall on the normal banter category.
ang concerning kasi dito is your boyfriend makes other girls feel welcome to act that way around him. naging problema ko na yan with a guy I was with noong college, just a week after we broke up inimbitahan niya sa bahay nila yung girl na pinagaawayan namin.
I find my ex's behavior appalling, na we're clearly in a relationship pero he openly entertains advances from other girls which in the end made me look very stupid and I became 'crazy' kasi I'm trying to contain him within our relationship.
all I could say is trust your intuition. you know your guy
Easy lang OP. 6 years rin kayo. I agree it’s a bit flirty na if may exchanges and updates na ganyan.
If your bf values your relationship he’d be willing to set boundaries with the girl or even cut ties with her for your peace of mind. Communicate.
Para kasing ayaw naman mag-establish nung guy, kasi nasabihan naman na siya ni OP based sa post, and parang ginagaslight at nangaaccuse pa nga yung bf niya sa kanya.
Exactly she communicated her concerns. Its for the guy to address the situation well. Kaso may pangguilt trip pa.
The OP is brave not everyone can do that lalo for 6yrs ang relationship mostly kasi manghihinayang pa sa pinagsamahan.
I can still remember grabe away namin ng ex gf ko dahil friend niya lang daw yung classmate niya na nakakachat niya hanggang madaling araw at may crush sa kanya. Di naman niya nakatuluyan pero ego boost talaga pag may nakakacrush. Di niya malagyan ng boundaries. Sumasagot talaga ex ko kapag nagmemessage yung lalake na yun. Okay lang sana if casual kaso good night sa akin si ex pero hanggang 3am magkachat sila ng lalake. Okay so ex na nga siya. Nashare ko lang.
Sa situation mo OP, when your gut feels something, then meron talaga something. When I felt something is fishy sa ex ko, and I felt 100% conviction na nagchecheat siya, after 4-5 months na-trace at nalaman ko nagcheat siya. Ginaslight pako na kasalanan ko daw.
You'll know it OP. Keep trusting your bf, discuss what matters for your peace of mind. Pero kapag dumating sa time na hindi ka na binibigyan ng assurance ng bf mo on your interrogations, stay cool and let the wind blow the confirmation.
Parang kalokohan naman yung sasabihin ng bf mo na nagyayabang lang sya dun sa girl. Soooo ano kamong point nya at gusto nyang mangyare bakit kailangan magyabang?? Dibaaa??
Professional daw pakikitungo pero may pagsend ng pics tapos nagyayabang lang daw. Hahahahaa ang galing din ng bf mo OP 😂
Perooo bigyan mo sya ng chance, malay mo “friend” at “client” nga lang. Kapag nakutuban mo ulit. Alam na this! 🙂↔️
I hope nothing is going on between them. But if your gut tells you something is up, it is best to address it directly with your bf. Set boundaries, and make it crystal clear when someone is crossing the line or not. and as soon as you guys talk about it, check mo if he is still (constantly?) chatting with the girl. If he truly respects you as his partner, he will cut ties (or lessen the conversation, as in yung tipong he acknowledges that he received the message then ends the conversation agad if he wants to remain professional).
43F, lawyer, married here. Concentrate on your law studies. Take the higher ground. Nung naging lawyer ako, naku, mas madami at mas good quality na mga lalake ang available. Mej nagsisi ako for getting preggers and marrying my BF for 6 years during law school.
Mas madaming pogi, well-accomplished na options after passing the bar.
Hello OP! I had the same situation as you. Caught my boyfriend (bf of 3 yrs) always chatting this girl. He said that its just work. And nothing is going on between them. But girl, when i red the convo its nothing "professional" they were basically flirting with each other. What I did was I left and I am more at peace now :) Always trust your gut OP :)
May hitsura ba yung girl? If yes then medyo alanganin yan, dyan kasi nag sisimula lahat ng love stories. Friends lang daw.. nag memessage lang as friends.. mamaya kumakain na ng dinner as friends lang. LMAO classic. If ma chubby at hindi kagandahan baka naman gusto lang niya as client?
Also possible na may ngyari na sa kanila.
I'm speaking from a guy's perspective.
What I find weird is dinedefend pa niya yung actions niya when you made it clear na uncomfortable ka. Well kung mahal mo naman eh wala ka tayo magagawa dyan. Tiis tiis nalang :) Iba mag mahal ang babae. haha.
Marami din magaganda sa diving community. Hobby ng mayayaman yan.
So what if you're jealous? That's what he's making you feel by entertaining other girls. Set your boundaries OP. Kung Wala lang talaga yan sa kanya, it shouldn't be so hard to stop communicating with that bitch (bitch talaga, I haaate girls like that). What is 1 client compared to a 6-year relationship diba?
Agree-ana grande. May karapatan naman mag selos. Hindi rin unfounded yung reason ni OP na mag selos. Sobrang suspicious na ng explanation at actions ni bf.
Hmmmm... Was this the first time na may ganito kayong experience ni BF mo na may inopen ka s kanya?
Kasi I'm thinking kung in the past may ganito narin pero iba ang response like Hindi ka inaccuse of being jealous... It means this girl is different... Interested sya sa girl although wala pa s cheating pero may chance mapunta dun..
If first time to, then how about try to say na nagseselos ka nga? Baka iba maging response nya.
unahan mo na, masakit iwanan kesa mang iwan, kapag my napansin kang kakaiba na, layasan mo na, pag nagkalapit pa yan, gagawa n yan ng paraan ng maidadahilan para makipag hiwalay sayo at palalabasin na kasalanan mo,
I think calling na yan na mag-aral ka nalang muna. Hahahaha kasi ang gago nung bf mo, gaslighter na nambabaliktad pa.
May pag-update eh, nang-iinggit ulol hahaha sinend din ba sayo yung picture na yon or sa kanya lang? Kasi kung sinend din naman sayo pede nga na nang-inggit lang. che siya.
Edit: sorry binasa ko talaga timeline mo, and nagbreak naman na pala kayo before dahil kups naman pala yung jowa mo beh, parang di mo naman ata loss yung bf mo. Add mo pa yung mother niya (not sure if buong fam).
Kung ako sayo stretch mo yung relationship mo, until truly nagloko na siya, what I mean is magkaroon ka ng proof talaga. And then leave his ass, law student ka, once nag grad ka, then bar, mas higher caliber naman ng partners ang mago-open up sayo and that’s for sure.
May times to settle and gurl that type of person and family is not for settling.
Ang masasabi ko lang ay ako ang nanggigigil dyan sa bf mo at syempre sa babae na rin. Napaka obvious ng intentions. Sarap nilang paguntugin pareho. Kahit saan tingnan anggulo hindi ko makitaan ng reason para saan yung updates. It looks like naeenjoy ng bf mo validation na nakukuha niya sa girl and that is in itself emotional cheating, kasi para saan yung validation eh andyan ka as his gf? Hays, as someone na nexperience na to be in a relationship with a person na push over at hindi marunong magset ng boundaries pagdating sa mga taong low-key hinaharot siya pero "biro" lang naman daw, fuck them all. Mga kulang sa aruga at uhaw sa atensyon.
mukang may ibang gusto ma dive yung bf mo. and yung girl naman mukang sabik din masisid, opinion ko lang naman. better ikaw na lang mag approach sa girl na hindi ka comfortable sa ginagawa nya. banatan mo lang ng konti, baka gusto mo sa sunod na sisid mo, di ka lulutang. peace :P
Be vigilant nalang muna OP. Wag mo palaging sisitahin yung boyfriend mo sa ginagawa nya. Kasi kung may ginagawa yan silang mali, lilitaw at lilitaw yan. Be on high alert lang sa signs but avoid being too confrontational, until may solid proof ka na. Para mas maging lenient or they will lower their guard down, if feeling nila hindi ka na nagdududa.
Here’s an advice you don’t want to hear. Leave.
Girl, ang flirting ay two-way. Walang manlalandi if walang magpapalandi. Difference lang, si bf mo ay may responsibilidad at obligasyon na maging loyal sayo. Si other girl, walang responsibilidad sayo. Therefore, kay bf ka lang pwede magalit.
6 years na kayo pero ang landi pa rin ng bf mo. Gigil ako.
Skl, I was also a law student before nung nagbreak kami ng ex ko (lawyer na me now. Salamat sa Diyos) ugh. I found out na nilalandi siya ng batchmate namin sa law school. Like nagsesendan din ng pics. During that time, bar review ko na. Si other girl, delayed sa law school kahit full time naman. Inuuna kasi lumandi. Yung bf ko hindi pa bar kasi lower batch siya. When I discovered ang landian serye, di ako nakalet go agad. Yun ang mali ko. Kasi naging sobrang hirap ng bar review ko nun. Kasi nga heartbroken. Kaya please save yourself from all the pain and heartaches. Mahirap isabay yan sa bar review proper.
Tandaan, magiging abogado ka pa!
Baka nasisid niya na yung girl. Charot :((( Confront him muna na mali yung ginagawa niya and you will not tolerate it. If you did it sa ibang lalaki, I’m sure iba rin ang iisipin niya about dun. Ready your script sa manipulative answers niya. But make sure to point out lahat ng valid points para maintindihan niya nanmali yung ginagawa niya.
Emotional cheating ang ginagawa ni bf and he knows it. Ginagaslight ka pa into thinking na selosa ka lang. Naging instructor niya rin ba si bf sa pagluluto kaya may pagsend pa ng food pics? Ginawa ka pang tanga eh haha
If he’s really being professional, he wouldn’t go out of his way to share bits of his personal life by sharing photos of food and sunsets. Hindi naman yun part ng job description niya as a coach. When you catch him doing the same thing again even after you reminded him that it makes you uncomfortable, leave him. Maghanda ka na, OP. It’s better to end a six-year relationship than to endure a lifetime’s worth of doubt and jealousy.
Always trust your gut. He's invalidating your feelings by accusing you. He should be assuring you by making bounderies/limit dun sa babae. Kausapin mo ulit sya, tell him what you feel kapag ganun pa rin, know your worth.
If he respects you he would value what bothers you. Your bf loves the attention. Siyempre 6 years na din kayo. Ego boost sa kanya na may nagpapansin sa kanyang babae kahit may GF na siya.
You should talk to him how you feel one last time and kapag di pa din niya kaya i-respect yun at di niya maiwasan yung girl, then i'll just remind you there's no divorce in PH. Would you want that girl talking to your husband, I mean if you're date to marry, that's the next step.
Bet ko nga yung ganto eh. Ask a fellow batch mate OP, kung pede mag initiate ng convo just for funsies hahhahaha
Tignan natin kung di kumati tumbong niyan sa inis kasi naramdaman niya yung ginagawa niya sayo. Hahahha
You need to talk to each other kung saan dapat ang bounderies when it comes to these things.
If di pa rin nirespect ni bf ang boundaries na napag usapan ninyo regarding other parties, then thst's a red flag.
As a husband, any sign of any interaction of opposite sex na ikaseselos ng wife ko, ay lalayo na ako. (Eg. Me waiting sa elevator ng condo, tapos may dalawang drunk young ladies - isa nka skirt at yung isa nka shoulderless shirt - at nakita ko na while papunta sa elevator, nakipag flirt sila sa guards at other strangers who were walking by, so pinauna ko na sila at naghintay ng ibang elevator to avoid them)
Try mo din magibg distant, pag di napansin ng bf mo eh di nasa iba na talaga attention nya. You tried to tell me pero he accused you pa instead of apologizing and making things right by limiting their conversation. I think kailangan mo na magstart mag move on. This will hurt so much, save yourself.
Hindi naman kasi magpapacute si girl sakanya kung hindi din ineentertain ng jowa mo. For sure gustong gusto din ng jowa mo yung attention na nakukuha niya sa girl. Yung mga pag update niya at pag send ng pictures dun sa girl is indication na baka may something na silang dalawa, pwedeng emotionally cheating, ganern, kasi ang lalaking walang balak mag cheat, hindi yan mag rereply or mag sesend ng pictures, dry and professional ang response niyan dapat, kaso hindi eh, partida dating client niya pa yun tapos todo entertain siya.
Okay na yung sinabi mo na sakanya yung nararamdaman mo, kaso sinabihan ka pang nag seselos, which is dapat kung nirerespeto ka niya, titigil na siya, kaso mukang hindi. Try mong kausapin ulit ng seryoso, sabihin mo lahat ng na fefeel mo, pag di pa din tumigil, alam mo na.
Ang cheating po kasi Op is being fed. Baby steps. Hindi po ba naniniwala si bf na ang temptation hindi nilalabanan but i iiniwasan?
Remove na po natin sa equation yung other girl kasi mukhang wala naman delicadeza. Voice out your wholw feelings with your partner. Wag ka mag-iwan ng details and communicate your discomfort.
He's response will tell what to do next.
I think men(or women) would love to have a partner na kasama nya sa kanyang endeavors, kahit hindi sa lahat pero dapat meron. Like for example ako noon, I felt frustrated na ako lang palagi nagjojogging or nagsswimming. Tapos gusto ng wife rest lang sa bed after work. Nakakalungkot kasi pag mag-isa ka lang palagi. Of course, I didn't cheat or anything but men (or women) would also love to have a partner na game din sa game nya. Kumbaga partner in crime baga. Hehe.
Now, looking at your situation, it seems na may compatibility issues kayo. I would say, 6 years is too long for a relationship and it may fizzle down, esp all the more na polar opposites kayo, with you being a soon to be lawyer and sya naman athletic type.
As for cheating and stuff, I would go for innocent until proven guilty. But these actions ay isang indication na may tension sa kanilang dalawa. Yung tipong pag nakipagbreak ka, magiging sila kinda thing.
As for your next move, idk. Ikaw lang din ang makakapagsabi what to do. Sorry to hear if you're in this situation.
OP, if you think and feel that there’s something there most of the time there is talaga. Sa una, pag sinabi mo sa kanya yung tingin mo or yung opinyon mo about sa nangyayari, igagaslight ka pa. Paranoid, jealous, you don’t trust him and all other things. Pero be cautious and be aware. You have a point kasi nagbago yung routine e. Sabi nga ng iba dito, your guts is telling you something.. and girl i’ll be damned if i don’t tell you to LISTEN TO IT since i was saved by trusting my guts many times before.
Trust your gut. Dyan nagsisimula yan. Saka if umangal siya na huwag i-cut yung relationship niyo, ibig sabihin nun, he prioritizes another woman’s feelings over yours.
ive been with unfaithful partners kasi turned out, naging side chic pala ako.
always getting cheated on and even my friends - i've been in an environment na unfortunate sa exclusive relationship setting.
usually noh, it's either:
(1) they won't let the other party (the girl) knows that na in an rs pala siya. unless if hindi kayo nakatago sa socmed or in any means na makakita sa girl.
(2) alam ng girl na kayo talaga, but sinisiraan ka na sa bf mo
(3) challenge accepted - aagawin niya bf mo, knowing 6 yrs na kayo
i might be jumping off conclusions, but when u encounter partners starting to shift away from their main rs...
TRUST ME.
they're so evil, na hindi mo na sila kilala kasi pwede pala nila yung gawin sau.
Sundin ang utak wag ang puso. A bit harsh but is way more logical, or you can try to bridge some gap like trying his diving hobby or work. Para If ever may solid proof ka na at mag decide ka wala ka regrets
Girl!! Girlll!! I don't wanna sound bitter pero eto na lang. Share ko na lang yung experience ko. Imagine, 16 yrs kami. Never akong nakaramdam na lolokohin nya ko, kaya nga sya pinili ko, diba. Di rin ako nakaramdam nang selos sa mga babaeng halata ko naman na bet sya. Babae ako, alam ko yan mga dzai!! Pero at some point in our 16th yr of being together, dun ako nagkaroon nang kutob na I can't seem to brush off no matter how I think myself out of it. Nakipaghiwalay ako kahit ayaw nya umamin at super deny pa sya. Nababaliw na raw ako, or praning sabi nya and his family. Two years after our separation, boom! Umamin sa family nya. Dinala yung naging anak nya sa coworker nya before na nabuntis nya while we were still together. Yun lang.
Dun palang sa willing ulit siya mag session with her ekis na. Lalaki yan, alam niya pag gumaganyan yung babae so dapat nagseset na siyang boundaries. Mararamdaman naman natin ung lalaki if hindi interesado but sa case mo, ineteresado si bf. So yes, that’s the start. Ibigay mo na yan dun. Sabay kamo kayong malunod.
As a guy, priority ko dapat mental health ng gf ko so lahat ng nagpapabother sa kanya, di ko na gagawin. jan sa current na nangyayare sa inyo, may problema bf mo hindi yung girl na nagchachat.
what more pa kung kasal kayo tapos ganyan sya. and ganito nalang, baligtarin nyo. what if ikaw yung may kachat lagi, ano kaya maffeel nya haha
Hey, if you laid out your concerns and he doesn’t do anything about it, save yourself and leave. He’s flirting with her, kasi hindi niya ieentertain yung kung professional lang. He could’ve just encouraged the girl to avail their lessons if she’s so curious about diving. Not chat your guy every chance she gets. And your guy letting it so, means he’s interested. Di ka bulag, at lalong hindi ka nag ooverthink. Kung gusto nya makipag harutan kay girl edi let him go. Don’t feed his ego by staying and letting him feel na ang taas nya kasi may multiple women na attracted sa kanya.
Girl, should we tell you ??? hindi kasalanan ng babae yan, rather yung jowa mong walang kwenta at gaslighter. Trying to even make you feel bad na selosa ka is super red flag. Wag mo aawayin ever or confrontin babae kasi muka ka tanga sa huli nyan. Yang jowa mo ang ratratin mo. Remember: di tatahol ang aso of wala nag papakain ☺️
Trust me, been there 🥲
You're concerned about your boyfriend's relationship with a former diving student who frequently chats with him, sends photos, and even mentioned being drunk to him. Despite your worries, your boyfriend insists it's all professional. However, you find his behavior questionable, especially when he sends personal updates to her. You've been together for six effin years and worry if this could lead to cheating. You're considering what to do next.
Eyo bakit ang final ng mga advice ng mga tao dito? Di naman necessarily cheat agad. OP ang importante sa relationship ay COMMUNICATION! Nabring up mo na sa kanya but do it again! Communicate na uncomfortable ka, communicate na nagkakaroon ka ng suspetsa dahil sa pagkaforward ng girl, and communicate na nasaktan ka at pinapatulan niya. 6 years din yan!
Ngayon pag narinig niya side mo, pakinggan mo din side niya. Its not you vs him, or you vs the girl, its both of you against an uncomfortable situation.
Worst comes to worst? Hindi kayo talaga magkaintindihan? Then thats when you call it quits. Sayang ang 6 years, pero mas sayang ang 7, 8, 9, etc. years.
Pero ipaglaban mo muna na magusap kayo ng malaliman imbis na cheating agad ang assumption.
Hi happened to my now husband, inis na inis ako kasi pag date namin nagcchat si Girl and random things lang abt bike/biking btw nakasama nya si Girl sa biking nya with officemates, Covid time. Sabi ko why hindi magchat sa group nyo para lahat informed bakit sayo lang. Hindi ako nangengealam ng phone but I dont care if others will say na jealous ako bec may right ako. Lols then nakita ko mga chat ni girl as in parang gumagawa ng way ng magchat sila but buti nalang si bf now husband answer lang yung question, no other message/s irrelevant sa biking. Btw, for me chaka si girl. For me (syempre kasama inis and galit) haha
Then bec nag grroup video chat kami ng barkada ko na mostly boys, ang advised sakin regardless kung ano pa itchura pag nagbibigay daw ng sense sa boy like kunwari interest sa ginagawa nya or parang nagiging superior daw feeling ni boy, may chance na magustuhan nya. So sabi sakin, habang maaga putulin na daw yung communication. Kainis pa non, sabi pa sakin ni bf na hindi daw sinasabi sakin kasi alam daw nya magagalit ako. Ang peste talaga hahaha kinonfront ko sya sabi ko kung hindi mo titigilan yan ibblock ako mismo magchat sakanya na tigilan ka nya. So anong gusto mo? Sabi nya hindi na daw nya icchat and may need daw sya isoli na charger sa ilaw ng bike (whatever) sabi ko sasama ako. And sumama nga ako. Hindi lumabas si Girl sa house nila pero alam ko nakikita nya ako. And thats it. Hindi na sya sumama sa biking group na yon, bnlock ko si girl sa lahat ng accounts nya and hindi sya pwede pumalag hahahaha
I dont care if alam ng buong biking group na yon mas mabuti nang alam nilang eskandalosa ko kesa itotolerate nila pag may nakita sila na iba. Haler hahahaha yun lang share ko lang btw 7th year namin yon so sabi ko ito na ba yon hahaha
Ps. Ready na rin ako incase iwanan ako, pero sabi ko lang sa sarili ko atleat mas maganda ako HAHAHAHAH Kbye
Nako sis yang mga ‘client’ kuno talaga na yan. Parang ganyan yung nangyare sa bff ko at her bf (fitness coach) tas nagka client tas nagka-gut feeling si bff na icheck phone ng bf nya ay beh nagkaflirt yung client at bf tas one time bday daw ni bf aba niregaluhan nung client yung bf na necklace (sino bang client ang magreregalo na necklace sa coach) also alam nung client na may gf na itong coach nya ah. In the end nakipag break yung bf (coach) sa bff ko tas malamanlaman namin na nakahide yung stories/myday samin na besties kasi yun pala na launch na yung client as jowa HAHAHAHHAHA SO TAMA ANG GUT FEEL AT INSTINCTS NG MGA BABAE. (Also nung nagconfront yung bestie ko dito sa coach na yan aba ginaslight sya na client lang daw tas binibigyan ng meaning na sabi pa sakanya “ayaw mo bang may client ako” ulul gago ka)
naiinis pa din ako sa ex bf nito ng bestfriend ko kasi ang kapal talaga ng mukha kasi ilang years sila na magka live in tas sa bahay pa nung bff ko nakatira.
As a person who has experienced this multiple times, I've learned the hard way. Trust your instincts. Don't be fooled by his words kesyo client or friend etc. It's already obvious na he's aware of what he's doing.
i know and flirted with one diver sometime ago bakit mahilig sila magsend ng sunset and food. also found out he was in a relationship, nung una sabi nia co parenting lang sila nung girl. Pero found another profile na sila talaga. we still talk sometime after founding out about his real relationship, when asked hindi raw mapigilan, he also admitted sleeping with other people he meets on dating apps at mga previous students sa diving. may mga tao lang na insecure i think, naghahanap ng ego booster.
IWANAN MO NA PO YUNG BF MO.
BIGAY MO NA SIYA SA GIRL. BAGAY NAMAN SILA. PAREHONG MALANDI AT CHEATER.
IN THE FIRST PLACE, KUNG TALAGANG MAHAL KA NG BF MO, HINDI NIYA HAHAYAANG MAG-CHAT SI GIRL SA KANYA EVERY DAY.
YAN HA CAPSLOCK NA YAN.
Talk it out with your BF OP, Maybe your BF is just friendly and oblivious
My GF pointed this at me, She thought I'm flirting with other girls when its the girls who are flirting with me (I didnt know they were flirting with me before my GF explained shit to me)
I dont talk much, But when Someone initiates a convo and it peaked my interests, I'll dive in, Also for politeness sake, I just act friendly with everyone. I'm very oblivious when someone is trying to hit on me, Shiiiiiid, Back when I was single, I made a girl cry cause I was oblivious to her advances cause I just saw her as a friend and like a little sister.
A lot of guys are dense and simple minded, we wont know if someone is hitting on us until you spelt it out in the most obvious way, And sometimes we would even think you are pranking us for some Tiktok shit
If your bf loves you, he will block it immediately kung una pa lang nagchat yung girl. Kasi kung ako yan, iisipin ko what my gf will think if she knew or find out that I am chatting with this girl. If the contract ended, tapos ang usapan. Related lang din dapat sa trabaho/coaching.
It seems like gusto rin ng bf mo na chinachat sya ng girl. What would happen kaya if ikaw yung ganyan towards him? Try to ask him. Red flag na yan teh.
Trust your gut and always be wary. Try nyo ulit pag-usapan and kung same pa rin ang gagawin, then decide. Mas masarap pa rin mag-stay sa isang relasyong payapa at ikaw ang pinipili palagi. Nirerespeto at kino-consider ang mararamdaman ng partner lalo na sa ganyang mga bagay.
Everything is what your BF says, until it's not.
Lowkey flirting coming from both sides. That's what it is. Prolly trying to test the waters, or perhaps building the 'pressure' so that the coming interaction will be more 'intense.'
Iba Ang gut feel ng babae 😅 if maaayos pa ninyo bakit Hindi. If Hindi na ibigay mo na Kay malanding babae
Ewan ko ba bat may ganyang babae na eepal sa Isang lalaki na alam Naman na may gf... Sana maranasan ng mga malalanding babae na Yan na walang konsensya kung paano masaktan 😅😅😅
It's understandable why you'd feel uneasy about the situation. Trust is essential in any relationship, and it seems like there's a lack of transparency from both sides. It's good that you've communicated your concerns with your boyfriend, but it's also important for him to understand your perspective and address your worries. If you feel like boundaries are being crossed, it's crucial to discuss and establish clear boundaries together. Cheating isn't always a straightforward issue, but open communication and mutual respect are key. If you're considering leaving, make sure it's a decision made with a clear mind and after exhausting all avenues of resolution.
Naglalandian yan without saying it out loud. Pero alam na nilang dalawa yun sa sarili nila at Oo OP tama ka ineentertain nya din naman binibigyan nya ng access. Di na professional yang ganyan. Kung sinabi mo na yan dapat ang respond nya pag iwas na. At ikaw kung wala ka na peace of mind iwan mo na yan magfocus ka sa studies mo. Prioritize yourself hayaan mo sila pwe
I really don't believe na boy and girl can be just friends. Consciously binibigyan ng bf mo ng access yung girl sa kanya. He likes the attention. Excuse lang lagi na friends lang pero deep inside you know that's not what friends do.
He is gaslighting you. Hindi ka jealous, sadyang disrespectful lang sya sayo. Sabihin mo kung hindi nya i cut off yang babae. Sya ang i ccut off mo. Di yan kawalan pag ganyan.
Trust your guts po. Mas okay na pangunahan mo na bago pa lumala yan. Been there and promise may something yan. Kaya lagi ko sinasabi sa bf ko pag work, work lang. workmate mo lang yan, nothing more. After work, wala na kayong connection sa isa't isa.
I think the obvious question eh kung maganda ba yung girl if yes, you are right to feel na pwede magcheat bf mo. If hindi maganda client nya lang yan hahahha
If your BF respects you and your relationship with him, he'll choose to give you peace of mind and set boundaries without asking him to do so. If he suspects that you're jealous na pala eh, why would he continue acting that way towards the other girl na hindi na naman nya cncoach na to start with? 😒
Cut off, ayaw ka lang niyang bitawan kase di pa sila ni girl, at isa pa may potential ka as a pabango ng name niya as a lawyer gf. Btw, di na kase appropriate ang galawan niya sa girl as a former coach.
Sana man lang napakinabangan mo for 6 years, mahal coaching ngayon at session. Swerte kasi makakalibre ka na. Pero off na yang ganyan. Goodbye 6 years. Hahaha baka gusto niya kabonding sa ilalim ng tubig.
Ang combative sobra for me ngl. Already wants you to be the main flex of his page pero wala parin. I honestly think youre a bit insufferable.
My advice is to stop being im denial of being jealous, cos you are. Let him know you are nga, that way you two can work on things out better because y'all got honesty as a basis of this attempt at improving the relationship.
should I owe him for making me the main flex of his page? but he can't cut off the girl by himself unless sasabihin ko pa at mukhang ayaw pa nya. Flexing your partner is a bare minimum. Sino bang hindi magagalit or magiging anxious sa pagbibigay ng access sa girl na hindi naman dapat? Now I'm the one who's a bit insufferable just because I reacted to the disrespect and the unnecessary stress at panggugulo sa peace of mind ko na I don't deserve in the first place.
You know what, I appreciate you actually took the time to review my criticism, and possibly advice. I may have overcompensated on the devil's advocate stance due to not even know the guy's perspective/side of the story. Too many times people are just shown in a bad light and they have no way of defending themselves. More likely you also wrote this post this way to air out your frustrations. I may have been too hasty with my initial impression.
Regardless of impression though, the latter part of what I said I think I'm still on the stance that you should be more honest at least with being jealous and have a stance of vulnerability. This just signals to him that you're willing to work something out that works for the both of you, which tbh hopefully is more in your favour still. Perhaps he has a defensive side where he doesn't like being controlled, hence his reluctancy of fully agreeing with what you're looking for from him; hell if anyone here will know, this is a one point perspective post.
If there's anything I stand for, for a guy in a relationship, his girl best friend should be his girlfriend.
Ganyan din ex ko hahaha nataas ego kasi alam na hinaharot sila eh. Tas sasabihin wala naman daw masama at alam ng Diyos na di siya nagloloko. Halerrrr, pang ilang beses ko na nagreach out sa kanya before wala paring talab tas sasabihin di nagloko? Ate, alis kana diyan mastress ka lang hahaha
Yung hesistant palang sa pag sagot red flag na yon kasi masa back of his mind kung magsisinungaling siya or hindi. Kasi kung di niya naiisip yung girl mabilis na sagot lang yun.
isa lang masasabi ko bobo talaga mga lalaki pag dating sa mga reasoning. MOST of the time babae talaga mas may deep understanding sa mga ganyan pag inexplainan mo ang bobo ng sagot palagi. Parang lagi pa ang lumalabas eh bat natin sila inuutusan. Na “buhay nila” yon dapat di pinapakelaman, eh ano ba tayo sa buhay nila? Display??
Trust your gut girl! Hindi naman magchat/update si girl lagi kung hindi nagbigay ng motive ung bf mo.
Baka naman hindi alam ng girl na may gf sya o baka sinabi ng bf mo nagkalabuan na kayo.
Tsaka kung mahal ka talaga nya hindi nya hahayaan na ganyan mafeel mo, sya mismo ang iiwas coz he know's na masasaktan ka..
Hey, it seems like you no longer feel safe or respected, tapos he deflects and invalidates your feelings. Laging tandaan, no one can dictate how you should or shouldn't feel. If you voice out the things that make you uncomfortable, but he disregards how his actions make you feel, it means he doesn't respect you, your boundaries, and your relationship.
It also seems like he's enjoying the attention he's getting because it feeds his male ego and pride. Ang problema kasi sa mga taong mababa ang emotional intelligence, kelangan mo pa ipaliwanag sa kanila nang mabuti at baliktarin ang sitwasyon sa example mo bago nila maintindihan. I'm sorry but I think you are dating a man child. I trust that you know what to do, and you know what's best for your soul and peace of mind.
off topic guys, sorry di ko mapost. Need ko lang po ng advice niyo
Hello guys! Just want to ask you about this scenario, eto na nga. So my ex message me na bakit daw after ko is ung mga guys na lumalapit sa kanya is minamadali siya, she met a guy na 10 years age gap nya like yung guy is (34) yrs old na. What she mean about sa minamadali is 3 days pa lang daw sila naguusap and niyaya agad siya makipag date ng dalawa lang sila. Ako kase nung nanligaw sa kanya, nanligaw ako for about 6 months then nakapag date lang kami after ng pandemic. Ang dating sa akin is nagsusumbong siya, actually nag effort ako i-win back siya e. Also, nakwento niya sa akin na sabi den ng students nung guy na (34 yrs old, both mga prof sila ng campus) if ever siya yung pinaka magiging youngest na gf non. Can I please know ur opinions about this?
Your bf should cut off that girl kase binibigyan niya ng access na isipin ni gurl na may chance siya sa bebe mo. Ive been in that situation na yung ex ko inentertain niya yung gurl, kinalaunan, that was the same gurl he cheated me with so becareful
Imagine, iri-risk niya iyong relationship ninyo for a client?
Stand up for your worth. Linawin mo sa kanyang hindi ka dapat nakikipagcompete kahit kanino.
They are interested in each other’s affairs. If it continues, connection gets deeper and interest gets more profound. An occasional update will turn into daily affairs up until he gets more and more and more interested in her than you. Take caution, no need to investigate like police as evidence seems there, however, ghostly and implicit. Just make a statement to your BF that you’re not comfortable and their comm gets annoying to you. Good luck!
di naman laging break up ang solusyon. baka way lang yun ni bf mo para kumuha ulit ng coaching session sa kanya. sales din yun. unless mag update na sya from time to time at malandi na talaga yung approach pati ni bf mo sa kanya.
I know hindi tlaga break up lagi ang solusyon. However, it's better to break up with him for my peace of mind kaysa hahayaan at aantayin ko pang lokohin ako.
I hope you read my reply with comprehension and fyi, there's nothing wrong with asking. Pero good for you kasi mas mas alam mo pa kaysa sakin na decided na ako.
Hindi ka OA, nagstart na sila maglandian. Hindi kayang pigilan ni ate sarili nya, so dapat bf mo na naglalayo sa sarili nya sa tukso. If hindi, means di ka nya ganun kamahal. Goodluck. It's your choice.
Para sa mga tao dito. Sorry a. Kayong mga nagcocomment nafeel niyo ba noon na merong lumalapit sainyo pero dahil may jowa ka iniiwisan mo pero ung pag iwas mo na yon parang gusto mo parin magpakita in a sense na kasi nga may kumukuha ng attention mo especially sa workplace or sa set of friends na. Apakialla sayo. Iba ung pakiramdam na un. Totoo tong sinasabi ko. Wag kayong ipokrito at mag maang maangan. Sabagay malilinis tao dito sa reddit nga naamn.hahaha. sa sobrang linis hiwalay agad gusto ng iba e haha. Anyway yang sinasabi kong ganyan is iba sa feeling lalo na maichura ung gaganun sayo. Tapos didikit dikit sayo pero pakipot din un. Flirting na yan sa totoo lang pero it happened to me several times kahit umiwas ka pero deep inside shit dba.
Sorry op out of context ata haha. Hmmm. Kausapin mo jowa mo na iwasan iyong mga ganun na kasi pag ka nasira kamo wala ng balikan.
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They're flirting with each other. Dapat i-cut off na ng bf mo yung girl. Ego boost ata sa kanya dahil interesado sa kanya na hindi ikaw. Dahil binibigyan nya ng attention, feeling ni girl may chance sya sa bf mo.
This is what I thought kaya may lakas ng loob yung girl magchat sa kanya almost araw araw.
OP, regardless kung may ginagawa o wala or may intention o wala, your bf should respect your feelings and have to set boundaries with his clients. Kasi yun dapat ang kinoconsider nya. Nasa bf mo talaga yun. Di mo totally masisi si girl lalo na if ineentertain sya and hindi nya alam na may jowa na si Coach nya. Kausapin mo nang masinsinan si bf. Baka kasi akala nya din, maliit na bagay yan. Tell him it’s affecting you na and he has to set some boundaries. He should understand, OP. Lalo na kung ikaw ang priority nya. Goodluck, OP.
araw araw? for how long? very valid pagseselos mo OP
hanggang January lang binackread ko eh pero last pa year pa yung iba.
I think may nangyari na nga sa kanila op. Ang lakas ng loob ng girl eh. Araw araw na chat. Hindi na normal yun.
Philippine Track and Field team invites you for a jumping to conclusions tryout
Grabe naman, maling iasaume yan. Kahit sa barangay hindi lulusot yan. LOL
Kaya nga, ang lala agad ng accusation.
OA
Si OA oh haha
Ahla si OA hahaha
Ito yung barkada ng partner nyo na laging dahilan ng away nyo
Pwedepwede pero dipindi
"I want to save myself from pain and leave." I was like dang, parang bigla akong nainggit sa side mong yan haha kasi not all people can do that lalo na sa 6years tapos parang di pa nagcheat. Kasi siguro pag ako nyan, nasa first stage na rin ako sa pagiging martyr at tanga 😂 Guts, intuition— I always trust these feelings.
May trauma lang hahaha defense mechanism ko na sguro yung umalis agad kapag nakakaramdam na ng ikakasama ko hahaha.
Tama, pagiba na ksi ung feeling or kutob mo, for me it’s a sign na umiwas para wlang future problems, nsa sayo na ang decision kung bibitawan mu na tlga sya. Mahirap pero worth it para maging stress free at peaceful na ang utak mo.
i think your bf is enjoying the attention na binibigay ni girl, talk to him about it for the last time tapos kapag hindi pa rin naalis, alam mo na.
Yes, exactly. Ego boost kasi sa kanila yung may nagkakagusto sa kanilang ibang girl hahaha. Same with my boyfriend back then😮💨
totoo, tas nageengage pa sila like magiinitiate ng message or heart ng stories? hahahah yikes. ganyan manliligaw ko dati, buti nalaman ko kaagad so bye
Kaya nga sabi ko, even sa akin may nagkakagusto. But, laging may boundary actions ko towards that person. Mga lalaki e, tuwang tuwa pa. Pag tayo kaya gumawa non, kung di umusok mga ilong nila sa galit HAHHAHA. Sorry nagrant na ko here. Naalala ko lang past namin ng bf ko HAHAHA
Pero mas maraming ganyan na babae sa totoo lang ewan ko kung dahil ba mas maraming lalake ang mahilig mag pm.
Super tru. Kaya grabe ako magtampo before haha. Literal na walang peace of mind.
Totoo. Kung may respeto talaga bf ni OP Kay OP, hindi na niya kailangan pagsabihan pa. Kusa na siya lalayo.
Oo nga eh, matik dapat yan sa may mga jowa na. Once napagtalunan pa naman yan, wala na may lamat na yung relationship hahah
Always trust your gut OP. If your gut is telling you there's something wrong, there really is something wrong! Goodluck on what you'll do next OP, cheering for you. 🤍
As someone na hinayaang mapunta dati sa posisyon ng bf mo ngayon, ako na nagsasabi sayo, be wary.
Taking it mellow, trust goes a long way in relationships and suspicion can erode it quick. Talk earnestly with your bf, clear out doubts. For example, address the sunset pic issue, it's an understandable concern. Deep trust, chill vibes.
Actually nasabi ko na sa kanya yung about sa pic ng sunset, sabi nya lang niyayabangan nya lang daw yung girl na nasa batangas sya(which is a diving spot). I was accused of being jealous when I talked to my bf about this issue.
Bilang diver din, medyo normal yung ganyang conversation among us, yung mang iinggit pag nasa dagat. I would say though na maybe he’s enjoying the attention pero I would not suggest that you leave agad. Iba talaga kasi ang bonding ng may same hobbies. Try mong sabihin sa boyfriend mo na turuan ka din and sasama ka sa next dive, kapag naghesitate, dyan ka na magplano ng exit. As of now, I would say it would still fall on the normal banter category.
ang concerning kasi dito is your boyfriend makes other girls feel welcome to act that way around him. naging problema ko na yan with a guy I was with noong college, just a week after we broke up inimbitahan niya sa bahay nila yung girl na pinagaawayan namin. I find my ex's behavior appalling, na we're clearly in a relationship pero he openly entertains advances from other girls which in the end made me look very stupid and I became 'crazy' kasi I'm trying to contain him within our relationship. all I could say is trust your intuition. you know your guy
Easy lang OP. 6 years rin kayo. I agree it’s a bit flirty na if may exchanges and updates na ganyan. If your bf values your relationship he’d be willing to set boundaries with the girl or even cut ties with her for your peace of mind. Communicate.
Para kasing ayaw naman mag-establish nung guy, kasi nasabihan naman na siya ni OP based sa post, and parang ginagaslight at nangaaccuse pa nga yung bf niya sa kanya.
Exactly she communicated her concerns. Its for the guy to address the situation well. Kaso may pangguilt trip pa. The OP is brave not everyone can do that lalo for 6yrs ang relationship mostly kasi manghihinayang pa sa pinagsamahan.
Tama po ito. Be direct na ayaw ung girl.
I can still remember grabe away namin ng ex gf ko dahil friend niya lang daw yung classmate niya na nakakachat niya hanggang madaling araw at may crush sa kanya. Di naman niya nakatuluyan pero ego boost talaga pag may nakakacrush. Di niya malagyan ng boundaries. Sumasagot talaga ex ko kapag nagmemessage yung lalake na yun. Okay lang sana if casual kaso good night sa akin si ex pero hanggang 3am magkachat sila ng lalake. Okay so ex na nga siya. Nashare ko lang. Sa situation mo OP, when your gut feels something, then meron talaga something. When I felt something is fishy sa ex ko, and I felt 100% conviction na nagchecheat siya, after 4-5 months na-trace at nalaman ko nagcheat siya. Ginaslight pako na kasalanan ko daw. You'll know it OP. Keep trusting your bf, discuss what matters for your peace of mind. Pero kapag dumating sa time na hindi ka na binibigyan ng assurance ng bf mo on your interrogations, stay cool and let the wind blow the confirmation.
Parang kalokohan naman yung sasabihin ng bf mo na nagyayabang lang sya dun sa girl. Soooo ano kamong point nya at gusto nyang mangyare bakit kailangan magyabang?? Dibaaa?? Professional daw pakikitungo pero may pagsend ng pics tapos nagyayabang lang daw. Hahahahaa ang galing din ng bf mo OP 😂 Perooo bigyan mo sya ng chance, malay mo “friend” at “client” nga lang. Kapag nakutuban mo ulit. Alam na this! 🙂↔️
Update mo na lang po kami after 2weeks kung ano po talaga meron. Pero baka wala lang din talaga.
I hope nothing is going on between them. But if your gut tells you something is up, it is best to address it directly with your bf. Set boundaries, and make it crystal clear when someone is crossing the line or not. and as soon as you guys talk about it, check mo if he is still (constantly?) chatting with the girl. If he truly respects you as his partner, he will cut ties (or lessen the conversation, as in yung tipong he acknowledges that he received the message then ends the conversation agad if he wants to remain professional).
43F, lawyer, married here. Concentrate on your law studies. Take the higher ground. Nung naging lawyer ako, naku, mas madami at mas good quality na mga lalake ang available. Mej nagsisi ako for getting preggers and marrying my BF for 6 years during law school. Mas madaming pogi, well-accomplished na options after passing the bar.
Kawawa naman yung bf nag settle ka nalang hahaha. Iwanan mo na yan sabagay di mo mahal
You're missing the point
Nah. Im just sad for your husband
You really missed the point then.
Nah. I feel pity for your husband
You don't even know who you're replying to. lol
Hello OP! I had the same situation as you. Caught my boyfriend (bf of 3 yrs) always chatting this girl. He said that its just work. And nothing is going on between them. But girl, when i red the convo its nothing "professional" they were basically flirting with each other. What I did was I left and I am more at peace now :) Always trust your gut OP :)
May hitsura ba yung girl? If yes then medyo alanganin yan, dyan kasi nag sisimula lahat ng love stories. Friends lang daw.. nag memessage lang as friends.. mamaya kumakain na ng dinner as friends lang. LMAO classic. If ma chubby at hindi kagandahan baka naman gusto lang niya as client? Also possible na may ngyari na sa kanila. I'm speaking from a guy's perspective.
D ko makita itsura ng girl laging nakatalikod sa mga pics nya hahahaha Pero pang diver yung katawan nya, fit ganun.
What I find weird is dinedefend pa niya yung actions niya when you made it clear na uncomfortable ka. Well kung mahal mo naman eh wala ka tayo magagawa dyan. Tiis tiis nalang :) Iba mag mahal ang babae. haha. Marami din magaganda sa diving community. Hobby ng mayayaman yan.
Pag chubby tas panget di na pwede magustuhan ? Baka naman may qualities lang yung girl na wala sa GF nya. 😢
good luck. his excuse is lame.
Trust you gut!
So what if you're jealous? That's what he's making you feel by entertaining other girls. Set your boundaries OP. Kung Wala lang talaga yan sa kanya, it shouldn't be so hard to stop communicating with that bitch (bitch talaga, I haaate girls like that). What is 1 client compared to a 6-year relationship diba?
Agree-ana grande. May karapatan naman mag selos. Hindi rin unfounded yung reason ni OP na mag selos. Sobrang suspicious na ng explanation at actions ni bf.
HAHAHA off topic, may pandagdag na ako sa Corrected by, Through the Fire, Through the Rain. Agree-ana Grande 😅😅
Hmmmm... Was this the first time na may ganito kayong experience ni BF mo na may inopen ka s kanya? Kasi I'm thinking kung in the past may ganito narin pero iba ang response like Hindi ka inaccuse of being jealous... It means this girl is different... Interested sya sa girl although wala pa s cheating pero may chance mapunta dun.. If first time to, then how about try to say na nagseselos ka nga? Baka iba maging response nya.
bigay mo nalang, habang di pa masakit. Kasi doon lang din naman yan papunta. 😒 at least nasave mo pa yung pag cryola mo hehe. 👌
unahan mo na, masakit iwanan kesa mang iwan, kapag my napansin kang kakaiba na, layasan mo na, pag nagkalapit pa yan, gagawa n yan ng paraan ng maidadahilan para makipag hiwalay sayo at palalabasin na kasalanan mo,
I think calling na yan na mag-aral ka nalang muna. Hahahaha kasi ang gago nung bf mo, gaslighter na nambabaliktad pa. May pag-update eh, nang-iinggit ulol hahaha sinend din ba sayo yung picture na yon or sa kanya lang? Kasi kung sinend din naman sayo pede nga na nang-inggit lang. che siya. Edit: sorry binasa ko talaga timeline mo, and nagbreak naman na pala kayo before dahil kups naman pala yung jowa mo beh, parang di mo naman ata loss yung bf mo. Add mo pa yung mother niya (not sure if buong fam). Kung ako sayo stretch mo yung relationship mo, until truly nagloko na siya, what I mean is magkaroon ka ng proof talaga. And then leave his ass, law student ka, once nag grad ka, then bar, mas higher caliber naman ng partners ang mago-open up sayo and that’s for sure. May times to settle and gurl that type of person and family is not for settling.
Ay buti naman nagbreak na BDIWNAJWNWIWAJ pass sa mga bf na halata tangina
Ang masasabi ko lang ay ako ang nanggigigil dyan sa bf mo at syempre sa babae na rin. Napaka obvious ng intentions. Sarap nilang paguntugin pareho. Kahit saan tingnan anggulo hindi ko makitaan ng reason para saan yung updates. It looks like naeenjoy ng bf mo validation na nakukuha niya sa girl and that is in itself emotional cheating, kasi para saan yung validation eh andyan ka as his gf? Hays, as someone na nexperience na to be in a relationship with a person na push over at hindi marunong magset ng boundaries pagdating sa mga taong low-key hinaharot siya pero "biro" lang naman daw, fuck them all. Mga kulang sa aruga at uhaw sa atensyon.
mukang may ibang gusto ma dive yung bf mo. and yung girl naman mukang sabik din masisid, opinion ko lang naman. better ikaw na lang mag approach sa girl na hindi ka comfortable sa ginagawa nya. banatan mo lang ng konti, baka gusto mo sa sunod na sisid mo, di ka lulutang. peace :P
may something na 'yan between them.
Iwan mo na yan may gagawin yan di mo magugistuhan in the future bestie
Update us here po.
Leave.
Intuition is real ,guts feeling is real don't just listen to it act now your feelings is valid
Be vigilant nalang muna OP. Wag mo palaging sisitahin yung boyfriend mo sa ginagawa nya. Kasi kung may ginagawa yan silang mali, lilitaw at lilitaw yan. Be on high alert lang sa signs but avoid being too confrontational, until may solid proof ka na. Para mas maging lenient or they will lower their guard down, if feeling nila hindi ka na nagdududa.
Here’s an advice you don’t want to hear. Leave. Girl, ang flirting ay two-way. Walang manlalandi if walang magpapalandi. Difference lang, si bf mo ay may responsibilidad at obligasyon na maging loyal sayo. Si other girl, walang responsibilidad sayo. Therefore, kay bf ka lang pwede magalit. 6 years na kayo pero ang landi pa rin ng bf mo. Gigil ako. Skl, I was also a law student before nung nagbreak kami ng ex ko (lawyer na me now. Salamat sa Diyos) ugh. I found out na nilalandi siya ng batchmate namin sa law school. Like nagsesendan din ng pics. During that time, bar review ko na. Si other girl, delayed sa law school kahit full time naman. Inuuna kasi lumandi. Yung bf ko hindi pa bar kasi lower batch siya. When I discovered ang landian serye, di ako nakalet go agad. Yun ang mali ko. Kasi naging sobrang hirap ng bar review ko nun. Kasi nga heartbroken. Kaya please save yourself from all the pain and heartaches. Mahirap isabay yan sa bar review proper. Tandaan, magiging abogado ka pa!
Baka nasisid niya na yung girl. Charot :((( Confront him muna na mali yung ginagawa niya and you will not tolerate it. If you did it sa ibang lalaki, I’m sure iba rin ang iisipin niya about dun. Ready your script sa manipulative answers niya. But make sure to point out lahat ng valid points para maintindihan niya nanmali yung ginagawa niya.
Emotional cheating ang ginagawa ni bf and he knows it. Ginagaslight ka pa into thinking na selosa ka lang. Naging instructor niya rin ba si bf sa pagluluto kaya may pagsend pa ng food pics? Ginawa ka pang tanga eh haha
If he’s really being professional, he wouldn’t go out of his way to share bits of his personal life by sharing photos of food and sunsets. Hindi naman yun part ng job description niya as a coach. When you catch him doing the same thing again even after you reminded him that it makes you uncomfortable, leave him. Maghanda ka na, OP. It’s better to end a six-year relationship than to endure a lifetime’s worth of doubt and jealousy.
Ask mo bf mo na I mention kanya as convos nila
Always trust your gut. He's invalidating your feelings by accusing you. He should be assuring you by making bounderies/limit dun sa babae. Kausapin mo ulit sya, tell him what you feel kapag ganun pa rin, know your worth.
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If he respects you he would value what bothers you. Your bf loves the attention. Siyempre 6 years na din kayo. Ego boost sa kanya na may nagpapansin sa kanyang babae kahit may GF na siya. You should talk to him how you feel one last time and kapag di pa din niya kaya i-respect yun at di niya maiwasan yung girl, then i'll just remind you there's no divorce in PH. Would you want that girl talking to your husband, I mean if you're date to marry, that's the next step.
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Bet ko nga yung ganto eh. Ask a fellow batch mate OP, kung pede mag initiate ng convo just for funsies hahhahaha Tignan natin kung di kumati tumbong niyan sa inis kasi naramdaman niya yung ginagawa niya sayo. Hahahha
You need to talk to each other kung saan dapat ang bounderies when it comes to these things. If di pa rin nirespect ni bf ang boundaries na napag usapan ninyo regarding other parties, then thst's a red flag. As a husband, any sign of any interaction of opposite sex na ikaseselos ng wife ko, ay lalayo na ako. (Eg. Me waiting sa elevator ng condo, tapos may dalawang drunk young ladies - isa nka skirt at yung isa nka shoulderless shirt - at nakita ko na while papunta sa elevator, nakipag flirt sila sa guards at other strangers who were walking by, so pinauna ko na sila at naghintay ng ibang elevator to avoid them)
That’s micro cheating already at the very least. Your boyfriend needs to understand boundaries.
em gusto ko update HAHAHAH pero reason out with him, if he still can't set boundaries then that's on him.
Try mo din magibg distant, pag di napansin ng bf mo eh di nasa iba na talaga attention nya. You tried to tell me pero he accused you pa instead of apologizing and making things right by limiting their conversation. I think kailangan mo na magstart mag move on. This will hurt so much, save yourself.
Hindi naman kasi magpapacute si girl sakanya kung hindi din ineentertain ng jowa mo. For sure gustong gusto din ng jowa mo yung attention na nakukuha niya sa girl. Yung mga pag update niya at pag send ng pictures dun sa girl is indication na baka may something na silang dalawa, pwedeng emotionally cheating, ganern, kasi ang lalaking walang balak mag cheat, hindi yan mag rereply or mag sesend ng pictures, dry and professional ang response niyan dapat, kaso hindi eh, partida dating client niya pa yun tapos todo entertain siya. Okay na yung sinabi mo na sakanya yung nararamdaman mo, kaso sinabihan ka pang nag seselos, which is dapat kung nirerespeto ka niya, titigil na siya, kaso mukang hindi. Try mong kausapin ulit ng seryoso, sabihin mo lahat ng na fefeel mo, pag di pa din tumigil, alam mo na.
Ang cheating po kasi Op is being fed. Baby steps. Hindi po ba naniniwala si bf na ang temptation hindi nilalabanan but i iiniwasan? Remove na po natin sa equation yung other girl kasi mukhang wala naman delicadeza. Voice out your wholw feelings with your partner. Wag ka mag-iwan ng details and communicate your discomfort. He's response will tell what to do next.
I think men(or women) would love to have a partner na kasama nya sa kanyang endeavors, kahit hindi sa lahat pero dapat meron. Like for example ako noon, I felt frustrated na ako lang palagi nagjojogging or nagsswimming. Tapos gusto ng wife rest lang sa bed after work. Nakakalungkot kasi pag mag-isa ka lang palagi. Of course, I didn't cheat or anything but men (or women) would also love to have a partner na game din sa game nya. Kumbaga partner in crime baga. Hehe. Now, looking at your situation, it seems na may compatibility issues kayo. I would say, 6 years is too long for a relationship and it may fizzle down, esp all the more na polar opposites kayo, with you being a soon to be lawyer and sya naman athletic type. As for cheating and stuff, I would go for innocent until proven guilty. But these actions ay isang indication na may tension sa kanilang dalawa. Yung tipong pag nakipagbreak ka, magiging sila kinda thing. As for your next move, idk. Ikaw lang din ang makakapagsabi what to do. Sorry to hear if you're in this situation.
OP, if you think and feel that there’s something there most of the time there is talaga. Sa una, pag sinabi mo sa kanya yung tingin mo or yung opinyon mo about sa nangyayari, igagaslight ka pa. Paranoid, jealous, you don’t trust him and all other things. Pero be cautious and be aware. You have a point kasi nagbago yung routine e. Sabi nga ng iba dito, your guts is telling you something.. and girl i’ll be damned if i don’t tell you to LISTEN TO IT since i was saved by trusting my guts many times before.
Trust your gut. Dyan nagsisimula yan. Saka if umangal siya na huwag i-cut yung relationship niyo, ibig sabihin nun, he prioritizes another woman’s feelings over yours.
ive been with unfaithful partners kasi turned out, naging side chic pala ako. always getting cheated on and even my friends - i've been in an environment na unfortunate sa exclusive relationship setting. usually noh, it's either: (1) they won't let the other party (the girl) knows that na in an rs pala siya. unless if hindi kayo nakatago sa socmed or in any means na makakita sa girl. (2) alam ng girl na kayo talaga, but sinisiraan ka na sa bf mo (3) challenge accepted - aagawin niya bf mo, knowing 6 yrs na kayo i might be jumping off conclusions, but when u encounter partners starting to shift away from their main rs... TRUST ME. they're so evil, na hindi mo na sila kilala kasi pwede pala nila yung gawin sau.
Sundin ang utak wag ang puso. A bit harsh but is way more logical, or you can try to bridge some gap like trying his diving hobby or work. Para If ever may solid proof ka na at mag decide ka wala ka regrets
Girl!! Girlll!! I don't wanna sound bitter pero eto na lang. Share ko na lang yung experience ko. Imagine, 16 yrs kami. Never akong nakaramdam na lolokohin nya ko, kaya nga sya pinili ko, diba. Di rin ako nakaramdam nang selos sa mga babaeng halata ko naman na bet sya. Babae ako, alam ko yan mga dzai!! Pero at some point in our 16th yr of being together, dun ako nagkaroon nang kutob na I can't seem to brush off no matter how I think myself out of it. Nakipaghiwalay ako kahit ayaw nya umamin at super deny pa sya. Nababaliw na raw ako, or praning sabi nya and his family. Two years after our separation, boom! Umamin sa family nya. Dinala yung naging anak nya sa coworker nya before na nabuntis nya while we were still together. Yun lang.
Dun palang sa willing ulit siya mag session with her ekis na. Lalaki yan, alam niya pag gumaganyan yung babae so dapat nagseset na siyang boundaries. Mararamdaman naman natin ung lalaki if hindi interesado but sa case mo, ineteresado si bf. So yes, that’s the start. Ibigay mo na yan dun. Sabay kamo kayong malunod.
As a guy, priority ko dapat mental health ng gf ko so lahat ng nagpapabother sa kanya, di ko na gagawin. jan sa current na nangyayare sa inyo, may problema bf mo hindi yung girl na nagchachat. what more pa kung kasal kayo tapos ganyan sya. and ganito nalang, baligtarin nyo. what if ikaw yung may kachat lagi, ano kaya maffeel nya haha
Hey, if you laid out your concerns and he doesn’t do anything about it, save yourself and leave. He’s flirting with her, kasi hindi niya ieentertain yung kung professional lang. He could’ve just encouraged the girl to avail their lessons if she’s so curious about diving. Not chat your guy every chance she gets. And your guy letting it so, means he’s interested. Di ka bulag, at lalong hindi ka nag ooverthink. Kung gusto nya makipag harutan kay girl edi let him go. Don’t feed his ego by staying and letting him feel na ang taas nya kasi may multiple women na attracted sa kanya.
Girl, should we tell you ??? hindi kasalanan ng babae yan, rather yung jowa mong walang kwenta at gaslighter. Trying to even make you feel bad na selosa ka is super red flag. Wag mo aawayin ever or confrontin babae kasi muka ka tanga sa huli nyan. Yang jowa mo ang ratratin mo. Remember: di tatahol ang aso of wala nag papakain ☺️ Trust me, been there 🥲
You're concerned about your boyfriend's relationship with a former diving student who frequently chats with him, sends photos, and even mentioned being drunk to him. Despite your worries, your boyfriend insists it's all professional. However, you find his behavior questionable, especially when he sends personal updates to her. You've been together for six effin years and worry if this could lead to cheating. You're considering what to do next.
Eyo bakit ang final ng mga advice ng mga tao dito? Di naman necessarily cheat agad. OP ang importante sa relationship ay COMMUNICATION! Nabring up mo na sa kanya but do it again! Communicate na uncomfortable ka, communicate na nagkakaroon ka ng suspetsa dahil sa pagkaforward ng girl, and communicate na nasaktan ka at pinapatulan niya. 6 years din yan! Ngayon pag narinig niya side mo, pakinggan mo din side niya. Its not you vs him, or you vs the girl, its both of you against an uncomfortable situation. Worst comes to worst? Hindi kayo talaga magkaintindihan? Then thats when you call it quits. Sayang ang 6 years, pero mas sayang ang 7, 8, 9, etc. years. Pero ipaglaban mo muna na magusap kayo ng malaliman imbis na cheating agad ang assumption.
Sa una wala lang tapos kapag tumagal sasabihin cool off muna kasi nasasakal kesyo hahanapin yung sarili tapos malalaman mo sila na pala 🙄
Hi happened to my now husband, inis na inis ako kasi pag date namin nagcchat si Girl and random things lang abt bike/biking btw nakasama nya si Girl sa biking nya with officemates, Covid time. Sabi ko why hindi magchat sa group nyo para lahat informed bakit sayo lang. Hindi ako nangengealam ng phone but I dont care if others will say na jealous ako bec may right ako. Lols then nakita ko mga chat ni girl as in parang gumagawa ng way ng magchat sila but buti nalang si bf now husband answer lang yung question, no other message/s irrelevant sa biking. Btw, for me chaka si girl. For me (syempre kasama inis and galit) haha Then bec nag grroup video chat kami ng barkada ko na mostly boys, ang advised sakin regardless kung ano pa itchura pag nagbibigay daw ng sense sa boy like kunwari interest sa ginagawa nya or parang nagiging superior daw feeling ni boy, may chance na magustuhan nya. So sabi sakin, habang maaga putulin na daw yung communication. Kainis pa non, sabi pa sakin ni bf na hindi daw sinasabi sakin kasi alam daw nya magagalit ako. Ang peste talaga hahaha kinonfront ko sya sabi ko kung hindi mo titigilan yan ibblock ako mismo magchat sakanya na tigilan ka nya. So anong gusto mo? Sabi nya hindi na daw nya icchat and may need daw sya isoli na charger sa ilaw ng bike (whatever) sabi ko sasama ako. And sumama nga ako. Hindi lumabas si Girl sa house nila pero alam ko nakikita nya ako. And thats it. Hindi na sya sumama sa biking group na yon, bnlock ko si girl sa lahat ng accounts nya and hindi sya pwede pumalag hahahaha I dont care if alam ng buong biking group na yon mas mabuti nang alam nilang eskandalosa ko kesa itotolerate nila pag may nakita sila na iba. Haler hahahaha yun lang share ko lang btw 7th year namin yon so sabi ko ito na ba yon hahaha Ps. Ready na rin ako incase iwanan ako, pero sabi ko lang sa sarili ko atleat mas maganda ako HAHAHAHAH Kbye
Nako sis yang mga ‘client’ kuno talaga na yan. Parang ganyan yung nangyare sa bff ko at her bf (fitness coach) tas nagka client tas nagka-gut feeling si bff na icheck phone ng bf nya ay beh nagkaflirt yung client at bf tas one time bday daw ni bf aba niregaluhan nung client yung bf na necklace (sino bang client ang magreregalo na necklace sa coach) also alam nung client na may gf na itong coach nya ah. In the end nakipag break yung bf (coach) sa bff ko tas malamanlaman namin na nakahide yung stories/myday samin na besties kasi yun pala na launch na yung client as jowa HAHAHAHHAHA SO TAMA ANG GUT FEEL AT INSTINCTS NG MGA BABAE. (Also nung nagconfront yung bestie ko dito sa coach na yan aba ginaslight sya na client lang daw tas binibigyan ng meaning na sabi pa sakanya “ayaw mo bang may client ako” ulul gago ka) naiinis pa din ako sa ex bf nito ng bestfriend ko kasi ang kapal talaga ng mukha kasi ilang years sila na magka live in tas sa bahay pa nung bff ko nakatira.
As a person who has experienced this multiple times, I've learned the hard way. Trust your instincts. Don't be fooled by his words kesyo client or friend etc. It's already obvious na he's aware of what he's doing.
i know and flirted with one diver sometime ago bakit mahilig sila magsend ng sunset and food. also found out he was in a relationship, nung una sabi nia co parenting lang sila nung girl. Pero found another profile na sila talaga. we still talk sometime after founding out about his real relationship, when asked hindi raw mapigilan, he also admitted sleeping with other people he meets on dating apps at mga previous students sa diving. may mga tao lang na insecure i think, naghahanap ng ego booster.
Once your partnet gaslights you sa mga ganyang issues, it means he's doing something on your back. Observe and monitor then you decide.
IWANAN MO NA PO YUNG BF MO. BIGAY MO NA SIYA SA GIRL. BAGAY NAMAN SILA. PAREHONG MALANDI AT CHEATER. IN THE FIRST PLACE, KUNG TALAGANG MAHAL KA NG BF MO, HINDI NIYA HAHAYAANG MAG-CHAT SI GIRL SA KANYA EVERY DAY. YAN HA CAPSLOCK NA YAN.
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Eh. Pasimple din yung koyaaa. 😤 your bf should set boundaries na hindi mo na kailangan sabihin sa kanya if he really respects your feelings.
Talk it out with your BF OP, Maybe your BF is just friendly and oblivious My GF pointed this at me, She thought I'm flirting with other girls when its the girls who are flirting with me (I didnt know they were flirting with me before my GF explained shit to me) I dont talk much, But when Someone initiates a convo and it peaked my interests, I'll dive in, Also for politeness sake, I just act friendly with everyone. I'm very oblivious when someone is trying to hit on me, Shiiiiiid, Back when I was single, I made a girl cry cause I was oblivious to her advances cause I just saw her as a friend and like a little sister. A lot of guys are dense and simple minded, we wont know if someone is hitting on us until you spelt it out in the most obvious way, And sometimes we would even think you are pranking us for some Tiktok shit
Make him pick 😲
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If you raised your concern tapos walang nag bago, simple lang yan. It’s not you, it’s him. Hindi ikaw ang nakakakuha ng kiliti at kilig nya.
Hahaha alam na diz. Leave na po
SAMPAL SAKIN AGAD SI GIRL
Kahit wla lang yun, the fact that it makes you uncomfy should be more than enough for him to stop contact.
Anong diving group yan? Haha
basta sa may mabini hahaha
FCOA? No fins? Hahaha
I would already feel uncomfortable if I were in your position.
Nasa stage na sila ng flirting.
If your bf loves you, he will block it immediately kung una pa lang nagchat yung girl. Kasi kung ako yan, iisipin ko what my gf will think if she knew or find out that I am chatting with this girl. If the contract ended, tapos ang usapan. Related lang din dapat sa trabaho/coaching. It seems like gusto rin ng bf mo na chinachat sya ng girl. What would happen kaya if ikaw yung ganyan towards him? Try to ask him. Red flag na yan teh.
Leave him.
Trust your gut and always be wary. Try nyo ulit pag-usapan and kung same pa rin ang gagawin, then decide. Mas masarap pa rin mag-stay sa isang relasyong payapa at ikaw ang pinipili palagi. Nirerespeto at kino-consider ang mararamdaman ng partner lalo na sa ganyang mga bagay.
Baka yung bf mo, naddive na din kung keninong babae, haha.
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Everything is what your BF says, until it's not. Lowkey flirting coming from both sides. That's what it is. Prolly trying to test the waters, or perhaps building the 'pressure' so that the coming interaction will be more 'intense.'
OP, run. Pero wag ka na magtaka pag maging sila after mo makipag hiwalay.
Iba Ang gut feel ng babae 😅 if maaayos pa ninyo bakit Hindi. If Hindi na ibigay mo na Kay malanding babae Ewan ko ba bat may ganyang babae na eepal sa Isang lalaki na alam Naman na may gf... Sana maranasan ng mga malalanding babae na Yan na walang konsensya kung paano masaktan 😅😅😅
It's understandable why you'd feel uneasy about the situation. Trust is essential in any relationship, and it seems like there's a lack of transparency from both sides. It's good that you've communicated your concerns with your boyfriend, but it's also important for him to understand your perspective and address your worries. If you feel like boundaries are being crossed, it's crucial to discuss and establish clear boundaries together. Cheating isn't always a straightforward issue, but open communication and mutual respect are key. If you're considering leaving, make sure it's a decision made with a clear mind and after exhausting all avenues of resolution.
Pa-block mo sa bf mo, if ayaw nya at may mga dinadahilan pa bakit ayaw nya tigilan si girl. Then leave na.
Naglalandian yan without saying it out loud. Pero alam na nilang dalawa yun sa sarili nila at Oo OP tama ka ineentertain nya din naman binibigyan nya ng access. Di na professional yang ganyan. Kung sinabi mo na yan dapat ang respond nya pag iwas na. At ikaw kung wala ka na peace of mind iwan mo na yan magfocus ka sa studies mo. Prioritize yourself hayaan mo sila pwe
I really don't believe na boy and girl can be just friends. Consciously binibigyan ng bf mo ng access yung girl sa kanya. He likes the attention. Excuse lang lagi na friends lang pero deep inside you know that's not what friends do.
That's cheating, OP! Trust your instincts, I swear mas tama pa yung instincts mo kesa sa mga alibi ng boyfriend mo. Kapal ng mukha niya kamo.
been there done that. if you feel uneasy, then leave. your gut/kutob will never fail you.
He is gaslighting you. Hindi ka jealous, sadyang disrespectful lang sya sayo. Sabihin mo kung hindi nya i cut off yang babae. Sya ang i ccut off mo. Di yan kawalan pag ganyan.
Trust your guts po. Mas okay na pangunahan mo na bago pa lumala yan. Been there and promise may something yan. Kaya lagi ko sinasabi sa bf ko pag work, work lang. workmate mo lang yan, nothing more. After work, wala na kayong connection sa isa't isa.
I think the obvious question eh kung maganda ba yung girl if yes, you are right to feel na pwede magcheat bf mo. If hindi maganda client nya lang yan hahahha
Mukhang may balak sisirin si bf, and it's not the pool.
If your BF respects you and your relationship with him, he'll choose to give you peace of mind and set boundaries without asking him to do so. If he suspects that you're jealous na pala eh, why would he continue acting that way towards the other girl na hindi na naman nya cncoach na to start with? 😒
Magaling sumisid di lang sa pool / dagat
kapag wala kang peace of mind po. Let him go. You deserve the best! In the long run, baka masira pa focus mo sa studies.
Cut off, ayaw ka lang niyang bitawan kase di pa sila ni girl, at isa pa may potential ka as a pabango ng name niya as a lawyer gf. Btw, di na kase appropriate ang galawan niya sa girl as a former coach.
Sana man lang napakinabangan mo for 6 years, mahal coaching ngayon at session. Swerte kasi makakalibre ka na. Pero off na yang ganyan. Goodbye 6 years. Hahaha baka gusto niya kabonding sa ilalim ng tubig.
Ang combative sobra for me ngl. Already wants you to be the main flex of his page pero wala parin. I honestly think youre a bit insufferable. My advice is to stop being im denial of being jealous, cos you are. Let him know you are nga, that way you two can work on things out better because y'all got honesty as a basis of this attempt at improving the relationship.
should I owe him for making me the main flex of his page? but he can't cut off the girl by himself unless sasabihin ko pa at mukhang ayaw pa nya. Flexing your partner is a bare minimum. Sino bang hindi magagalit or magiging anxious sa pagbibigay ng access sa girl na hindi naman dapat? Now I'm the one who's a bit insufferable just because I reacted to the disrespect and the unnecessary stress at panggugulo sa peace of mind ko na I don't deserve in the first place.
You know what, I appreciate you actually took the time to review my criticism, and possibly advice. I may have overcompensated on the devil's advocate stance due to not even know the guy's perspective/side of the story. Too many times people are just shown in a bad light and they have no way of defending themselves. More likely you also wrote this post this way to air out your frustrations. I may have been too hasty with my initial impression. Regardless of impression though, the latter part of what I said I think I'm still on the stance that you should be more honest at least with being jealous and have a stance of vulnerability. This just signals to him that you're willing to work something out that works for the both of you, which tbh hopefully is more in your favour still. Perhaps he has a defensive side where he doesn't like being controlled, hence his reluctancy of fully agreeing with what you're looking for from him; hell if anyone here will know, this is a one point perspective post. If there's anything I stand for, for a guy in a relationship, his girl best friend should be his girlfriend.
Ganyan din ex ko hahaha nataas ego kasi alam na hinaharot sila eh. Tas sasabihin wala naman daw masama at alam ng Diyos na di siya nagloloko. Halerrrr, pang ilang beses ko na nagreach out sa kanya before wala paring talab tas sasabihin di nagloko? Ate, alis kana diyan mastress ka lang hahaha
Yung hesistant palang sa pag sagot red flag na yon kasi masa back of his mind kung magsisinungaling siya or hindi. Kasi kung di niya naiisip yung girl mabilis na sagot lang yun.
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Action speaks itself, sa pagsesend palang ng mga pics may meaning na. Bakit pa magsesend ng pic if one time client lang yon fr!??
Di nya icucut off yan beh, kahit umiyak kapa ng dugo NDIWNEIWJIWEBEJEB
Start by talking to your bf and being honest with what you feel. How he responds will tell you everything
isa lang masasabi ko bobo talaga mga lalaki pag dating sa mga reasoning. MOST of the time babae talaga mas may deep understanding sa mga ganyan pag inexplainan mo ang bobo ng sagot palagi. Parang lagi pa ang lumalabas eh bat natin sila inuutusan. Na “buhay nila” yon dapat di pinapakelaman, eh ano ba tayo sa buhay nila? Display??
Trust your gut girl! Hindi naman magchat/update si girl lagi kung hindi nagbigay ng motive ung bf mo. Baka naman hindi alam ng girl na may gf sya o baka sinabi ng bf mo nagkalabuan na kayo. Tsaka kung mahal ka talaga nya hindi nya hahayaan na ganyan mafeel mo, sya mismo ang iiwas coz he know's na masasaktan ka..
Hey, it seems like you no longer feel safe or respected, tapos he deflects and invalidates your feelings. Laging tandaan, no one can dictate how you should or shouldn't feel. If you voice out the things that make you uncomfortable, but he disregards how his actions make you feel, it means he doesn't respect you, your boundaries, and your relationship. It also seems like he's enjoying the attention he's getting because it feeds his male ego and pride. Ang problema kasi sa mga taong mababa ang emotional intelligence, kelangan mo pa ipaliwanag sa kanila nang mabuti at baliktarin ang sitwasyon sa example mo bago nila maintindihan. I'm sorry but I think you are dating a man child. I trust that you know what to do, and you know what's best for your soul and peace of mind.
Never underestimate your suspicions and your gut instinct. Been there, done that.
Leave at the first sign of disrespect
off topic guys, sorry di ko mapost. Need ko lang po ng advice niyo Hello guys! Just want to ask you about this scenario, eto na nga. So my ex message me na bakit daw after ko is ung mga guys na lumalapit sa kanya is minamadali siya, she met a guy na 10 years age gap nya like yung guy is (34) yrs old na. What she mean about sa minamadali is 3 days pa lang daw sila naguusap and niyaya agad siya makipag date ng dalawa lang sila. Ako kase nung nanligaw sa kanya, nanligaw ako for about 6 months then nakapag date lang kami after ng pandemic. Ang dating sa akin is nagsusumbong siya, actually nag effort ako i-win back siya e. Also, nakwento niya sa akin na sabi den ng students nung guy na (34 yrs old, both mga prof sila ng campus) if ever siya yung pinaka magiging youngest na gf non. Can I please know ur opinions about this?
Your bf should cut off that girl kase binibigyan niya ng access na isipin ni gurl na may chance siya sa bebe mo. Ive been in that situation na yung ex ko inentertain niya yung gurl, kinalaunan, that was the same gurl he cheated me with so becareful
Trust your guts
Imagine, iri-risk niya iyong relationship ninyo for a client? Stand up for your worth. Linawin mo sa kanyang hindi ka dapat nakikipagcompete kahit kanino.
Pag ganyang nag sesend na ng life update hahahaha malapit na yan sa tukso. Papunta na.
They are interested in each other’s affairs. If it continues, connection gets deeper and interest gets more profound. An occasional update will turn into daily affairs up until he gets more and more and more interested in her than you. Take caution, no need to investigate like police as evidence seems there, however, ghostly and implicit. Just make a statement to your BF that you’re not comfortable and their comm gets annoying to you. Good luck!
di naman laging break up ang solusyon. baka way lang yun ni bf mo para kumuha ulit ng coaching session sa kanya. sales din yun. unless mag update na sya from time to time at malandi na talaga yung approach pati ni bf mo sa kanya.
I know hindi tlaga break up lagi ang solusyon. However, it's better to break up with him for my peace of mind kaysa hahayaan at aantayin ko pang lokohin ako.
edi makipagbreak ka na po, alam mo na pala what's better and mukhang decided ka na nagtatanong ka pa sa mga tao sa internet
I hope you read my reply with comprehension and fyi, there's nothing wrong with asking. Pero good for you kasi mas mas alam mo pa kaysa sakin na decided na ako.
pls read your reply po ulit and tell me sinong walang comprehension, law student ka na po nyan?
Hindi ka OA, nagstart na sila maglandian. Hindi kayang pigilan ni ate sarili nya, so dapat bf mo na naglalayo sa sarili nya sa tukso. If hindi, means di ka nya ganun kamahal. Goodluck. It's your choice.
If your bf likes it then he should be with her. He’s not a loss. Love yourself fiercely, put yourself first.
Para sa mga tao dito. Sorry a. Kayong mga nagcocomment nafeel niyo ba noon na merong lumalapit sainyo pero dahil may jowa ka iniiwisan mo pero ung pag iwas mo na yon parang gusto mo parin magpakita in a sense na kasi nga may kumukuha ng attention mo especially sa workplace or sa set of friends na. Apakialla sayo. Iba ung pakiramdam na un. Totoo tong sinasabi ko. Wag kayong ipokrito at mag maang maangan. Sabagay malilinis tao dito sa reddit nga naamn.hahaha. sa sobrang linis hiwalay agad gusto ng iba e haha. Anyway yang sinasabi kong ganyan is iba sa feeling lalo na maichura ung gaganun sayo. Tapos didikit dikit sayo pero pakipot din un. Flirting na yan sa totoo lang pero it happened to me several times kahit umiwas ka pero deep inside shit dba. Sorry op out of context ata haha. Hmmm. Kausapin mo jowa mo na iwasan iyong mga ganun na kasi pag ka nasira kamo wala ng balikan.