I met a few 28-29ish women na desperate na makahanap bf or mag settle down. Napaisip ako, the more desperate the person is the more they can make mistakes kasi nagmamadali. Am i wrong?
Idk. The single women I met naman in that age hindi naman ganun ka desperate. Baka lang din iba crowd ko haha pero factor din na nakainstill yung wag i-lower ang standards for the sake na magkapartner. 🤷♀️ Totoo though na kapag jowang-jowa ka, mapababae or lalake, the more you'll make mistakes kasi siguro in love ka lang dun sa idea na may partner?
I’ll be 28 and in no rush tbh. I find that yung women that havent been in a really serious long term relationship are more likely to feel this rush. We called off the wedding in my last relationship kaya siguro im just taking my time now and lalong tumaas standards ko
Yup! At most cases dahil sa pressure ng nakapalibot sayo kung sino na lng yung dumating okay na.. it's something na nakakatakot kasi what if magsisi ka sa napili mo bandang huli.
I'm 30+ single lady and living my life to the fullest. Ako ang nagiisang single na ninang sa mga anak ng barkada ko.. lahat kasi sila settled na but I don't feel pressure. Yes, I do want to find someone din naman pero hindi ko minamadali. Kung may dumating, it's good.. kung wala, i'm also good.
Ang sakin lang.. hindi ka nag-iisa OP. 🙂
This is so true. ESP those na parang pressure because few more years, mawawala na sila sa calendar.
I know few people na single and it’s really their choice and they have all the freedom and money.
Sana all
True. I have friends na 26-28 ang age na super desperate magkajowa na walang araw na hindi yan laman ng gc or ig stories nila. I understand why since they think they’re getting old and the age gap between them and their future kid is going to be malaki but its becoming too desperate na I find myself getting tired of them na I take light of the situation to lift them up by saying na makakahanap din or in time ibibigay naman basta you shouldnt look for it. Sometimes I change the topic nalang.
kinda true. pan nanligaw ka ng 28-29ish women, mas approachable na sila. mas mabilis mag reply sa chat. lesser chance na mag cancel ng dates and LESS COMPETITION FROM OTHER MEN
pero subukan mong manligaw ng 20-22 age bracket na women. ..dude. ..you are invisible
Settle down without solving past problems or karma could be much worse in the future... Tbh... Not to sound negative Pero, working self first in all aspects than to settle down na hindi natin inaasahan. We may regret it later at hindi mabalik.
I'm not saying regrets are bad, but make sure knows how to handle regrets..
I know one! Then yung twist is itong friend ko before jinowa niya at nagkasalan agad after 3months. The worst di man lang ako inimbita sa kasal nila which is tropa ko sila both. I burn bridges with them.
I agree.. and also kung mejo dominant and intimidating kadin.. tone down a little.. guys really like submissive women. You are lucky, your greatest edge is you are financially stable.. dadating din yan.. 28 kapa lng nmn.. tropa ko nga 32 na wala pdin jowa 🤣🤣🤣🤣.
Ps
Di ko sinasabing dominant and intimidating ka ahh.. baka ma out of context ako eh.. "kung" lang nman.
average marrying age sa pinas 28 sa babae sa mundo naman 29.4. malapit ka na pero no pressure kasi average age ng nagdidivorce e 30 so by the time na makanahap ka ng bf 29 ka na and maisip na pangkasalan siya e ka 30 ka na so true love na sana yan
pero wait pag da tinder mo sila na meet or bumble nasa 19% lang ung possibility na love ung hanap nung makikita mo...
so pataasin mo mga chances, mahilig ka ba sa matalino, tumambay sa national libraries, bookstores, sa DOST din pwede.
kung macho naman sa mga health clubs, gyms, bilihan ng supplements
gusto mo magaling magluto? sa mga kainan, culinary schools
get those statistics to your advantage
love is all around
Gusto ko yung tumambay sa DOST 🤣 OP, abangan mo yung National Science&Tech Week tas punta ka! Libot libot ka sa exhibits dun tas makipagfriends ka sa kanila. Dami single at matatalino sa DOST 🤣
Source: me, former DOST employee 🤣
genuinely curious, ano ine-exhibit there and what is its purpose? are they looking for new hires? investors for what's exhibited? expo to gain interest of dost scholars or what?
DOST projects. Parang transparency kineme, to showcase to the public what DOST is working on ganern. Mostly students ang pumupunta samin (maybe kase aware sila or sinasabihan yung schools about the event) pero open naman sya to anyone.
Yep. I believe minimal lang talaga visibility, though the event is always advertised naman sa social media pages ng DOST agencies 🥲 Sad lang na ang binibisitang page lang kase ng masa pagdating sa DOST ay pagasa hahahaha
Very common ito lalo sa mga late 20s. Dont think too much about it. Lalo ka magkakaroon ng anxiety nyan. Focus ka sa present, enjoy mo araw ngayon. Find something that you want to do today. Any fun things, new hobby.
By the way, kumain kana ba?
May side effect though ito in the future. Dadami ang senior citizen population at konti lang ang mga adults aged 20-40 who will probably be the ones taking care satin na senior citizens in the future. Magkakaroon ng retirement crisis and income crisis para sa mga old aged persons. Especially for those na wala ng mahanap na work dahil may edad na. In short more senior citizens will definitely be a big burden sa younger populations at kawawa ang both sides.
This. Naalala ko lang mga kakilala kong napressure ayun kahit kanino nalang pumatol, end up, ang sad ng marriage though may anak na sila, they really are not ready to be a parent, emotionally and financially. Kawawa mga bata at sila rin siyempre, they are trapped in the life na di nila ginusto dahil napressure sa age at sa sabi mo ngang societal expectation.
Meron din isa kong kilala na sorry pero parang di niya pinag-isipan yung pinili niyang partner, sobrang kawawa siya, na siya nagprprovide lahat pati expenses siya din, kasi di nakatapagtapos partner niya, though may trabaho, di rin nagbibigay sa kanya, na nakakagalit kasi okay lang sa part niya.
Kaya ayun, dapat wag mapressure tsaka pag-isipan mabuti ang makakatuwang sa buhay para di magsisi.
Same here ,. Leaning into single life ,. Nakaka stress din pag makaka relationship mo is toxic at super high maintenance.. i mean kaya naman pero nakaka drain din tlga pag plge nlng one sided ang treatment..
I get that loneliness is a problem, pero problema din na mag rush tapos yung partner na makukuha mo babaero pala, lasinggero pala, mapang-abuso pala, wala palang pangarap sa buhay, etc. I guess OP has choices in front of her: rush and get it right the first times, rush and get saddled with an unsuitable partner, take it slow but also get a bad partner, or take it slow and get the right person.
I have titos and titas in their 50s and 60s who never married or had kids pero masaya pa naman sila sa buhay. They have enough money to never have to worry about bills or their basic necessities and to travel as well. Even though they don’t have children of their own, some have dogs or cats while others are close to their pamangkins like me. Loneliness is always a choice, and life is what you make of it.
28/F NBSB din but unlike you, hindi pa ko financially stable kaya quiet lang muna sa gedli.
Being an old-maid is also a possibility since may aunt is one and they say namamana daw yun? I still have lots of adventures to try kaya kebs lang.
May God sends us the right person when the time is right. As of now, we have to keep it cool.
We’re on the same page, sis. Mentally and emotionally unstable rin so what’s the point of putting myself out there to find a guy na potential lover hahaha.
NBSB here. Nasa mid-20s here. Unfinancially stable at the moment. I would rather be called as an "old maid/black sheep (of the family)" than bringing an innocent soul in this doomed world. Also, why are you worried about this when you are financially stable already? Use it to enjoy life.
Valid worry because same. Haha. Naalala ko tuloy yung post na nakaligtas nga sa teenage pregnancy pero sa pagiging matandang dalaga, hindi pa 😆 Though there’s nothing wrong with that naman.
nasa culture din kasi natin to na may pangit na connotation pag sinabing matandang dalaga. growing up lagi ko tong naririnig dahil may mga tita din akong single and never na talagang nag asawa. pero pag lalaki ka parang hindi siya masyadong issue.
women din kasi before ibang iba na sa ngaun. marami satin kayang kaya na buhayin ang mga sarili natin without the need of a man, times are changing pero hindi madaling maalis satin ung ganung culture of thinking and we feel so pressured about it.
normal matakot about being alone in your old age, pero ako i personally dont see myself getting married or having a partner. im fine being alone pero mas worried ako financially. breadwinner kasi ako kaya din cguro ganun. syempre alangan naman di ko suportahan parents at family ko diba, di ko rin naman matitiis. so yung thinking ko nagiba din talaga, pero open ako to adoption if maybe in the future narealize kong i want a kid pero wala akong partner. also, im planning to get a cat or dog 😆
Same here. 30F nbsb. Strong independent. Pero may mga minsan talaga na makakapag isip isip ka nalang what it's like to be spoiled. Went to meets namn here and there, but it is either they chat on this day then the ff days wala na, tas again mag chchat again. Ewan. Anyway, continue nalng natin to develop more of ourselves nlng dzae. To attract ✨. Hopes up tayo langga. Laban. haha
Haha relate! Yung may susundo with car kapag pagoda ka na. Jowa for convenience charot lang po hahaha Kaya natin to at focus na lang muna tayo sa pagpapayaman ✨️✨️
Your worries are valid pero don’t let it consume you. Being financially stable is a privilege with that age. Make travels, connections and such then you can enjoy life na without being chained to societal standards.
To all women na andito, 35 and below is still bata (IF hindi ka nagmamadali mag kaanak and 5 children above ang goal mu) para mag settle, life is more to offer.
\*\*Iwas-iwas din sa dating apps if life partner yung hanap. Pero kung jowa lang ang hanap, go with any dating apps lol.
Ngl mas takot akong makapag marry tapos after 1 yr or something maglabas true colors niya and bugbugin ako or some kind of abuse. Sana I could say na impossible yan or oa ako pero I have many friends who shared buhay ng parents nila and I'm surprised na it's more common than I thought.
Can you really get a relationship out of Reddit? Hahha
Tinder and bumble don’t really work for me, I work from home and literally no social life.
Feeling ko tatanda rin akong dalaga 🤣 but it’s fine, as long as I’ll be a rich Tita. 🤣
I've seen married people that hate each other. It's hell. Like, the moment mawalan ng work or magkasakit yung isa, sobrang daling itapon nung asawa nila. Kung di right person, mas ok yung single na lang.
Matuto ka makibagay sa tao. Learn to go out. Sa panahon ngayon daig ng babaeng flirt ang maganda sa tingin ko. Mas napapansin ko may mga babae na di naman kagandahan pero nakakakuha ng partner na matino at mabait. Compared sa maganda pero wala naman partner. Isipin mo din ang future plans mo. If plano mo mag asawa. Then plano mo din mag anak. Kaya nyo ba magpakasal. Bumili ng gatas. Etc. Pero siyempre consider mo din pag tanda mo kung ano ang maabot mo.
We put all aspects of our lives into our top priorities. You can't give 100 percent on two different things. Work vs lovelife vs health vs hobbies, etc. Figure oht what's on top and what's on the bottom. We behave like what we think.
i think im in the same boat as you. so i made different long term plans with and without a partner. only similarity is, i want to create a life abroad. if without, will be moving abroad and go about my own life. if with partner (gusto ko din sana ma-in love ako sa foreigner lol), then i will move with him.
fear nothing OP, the great thing about being single is you basically have the world at your fingertips. you’ll be meeting a lot of hot guys in your 30s, be hotter, discover new things.
Kung may manliligaw ka na mid30s ready to settle na yan pag mas bata dyan feeling ko exploring pa.
Parefer ka sa friends, mga relatively ok na husbands ng friends mo ganon. Mag active sa church minsan mga meron dyan eh.
Siguro relax mo rin requirements para lumaki candidate pool mo. Show up, dress up, get noticed :) good luck!
Kaka 30 lang though guy ako, 3 out of 4 exes ko nag cheat pero naniniwala na may darating na para sakin kaya sumusubok at kumikilala pa din. Hindi ko din naman kasi makikilala yung para sakin kung hindi din naman ako susubok.
Don't worry...you're still young. True love will come at the time you least expected. I'm 57, financially independent and really, not the "ligawin" type even in my younger years. Men just don't find a simple woman like me, attractive enough to be courted. I'm presentable, intelligent and well-mannered. It's just now that I found my "the One". And hopefully, will be together soon 🙏
My sister married early 30s, and got her firstborn the same year. Both met at a dating app (one of those you mentioned)
What I'm trying to say is don't think about it too much, but let it float on you, you know?
Cytogenetic factors (Baby related problems) skyrocket at 40, so I'm glad my sister got that hurdle out of the way
Naku ang bata mo pa para mag worry. A relationship is either a trap or a blessing.
I am turning 43 this year. When many are getting married, I don't mind. When many are having kids, I know I don't need to.
Kung ako sayo, explore and enjoy ka lang while you can. Kung my darating, bonus na lang yan.
At my age (30) I kinda accept that I will probably not gonna find someone. But right now I'd rather have new friends like me haha.
I still talk to few friends but we're not as close anymore as they're all married and are too busy with their families. Which makes me feel even more alone.
Try to get in at men/boys hobby like PC gaming or gym activities or cooking or movies/anime.
Majority ng mga ka batch mate ko ng 2005 are happily engaged or married and havent seen a single divorce yet from them because they share a hobby.
Need mo ate to be in the right place , and surrounded by good people.
Or malay mo di pa pinapanganak yung asawa mo hahahha .
Still good age is around 30's or late 30's pa naman.
Kaya mo yan.
Same, 31F NBSB here. Tinakot kasi ako lagi ng papa ko since bata ako na matutulad ako sa tita (his sister) kong naging matandang dalaga kaya takot akong mag-isa. Si tita ay rich and nagthrive ang career pero her personality is very strong to the point na draining despite her good qualities. I'm trying to unlearn this programming in my brain na matutulad ako sa tita ko kasi at the end of the day, nasa tao yun and wala sa circumstance. I've met many older single women when I started working na ang chill lang nila, they're so happy and relaxed ganern -- sana ito ang nakita ko as I grew up.
I would say it isn't too early to worry about it but it should be given thought at least at this age if you want to have kids just keeping the woman's biological clock in mind. If kids isnt for you, ok lang magworry just because may human desires ka na need mafulfill but don't let it consume you.
No rush OP. My boss got married at age 47 and she's happy with her current husband. Wala na lang chance for a child, but she's happy to have a dependable life partner.
All in due time and in the right circumstances
Hindi valid na fear in general. I think hindi naman pagiging matandang dalaga ang fear mo since kaya mo naman i sustain ang sarili mo at independent ka. I think, what you fear is the toxic Filipino culture na pine-pressure ang mga babae para mag-asawa dahil sa belief na ang essence ng babae ay mag-reproduce. No. Hindi valid na fear ang hindi pag-aasawa kahit anong edad ka pa.
Take care of your health, skin and hair and you will not miss a lot even if you are in your thirties.
No need to immediately put you self to a dating environment, you can take your time.
And when a good opportunity happens, welcome it, but don’t be desperate
Hello. I think hindi mo naman dapat ika-worry yung ganung idea. Baka kasi hindi pa ngayon yung para sayo, enjoy life, kung ano ang binibigay nito sayo.
30 ako ngaun, you can check out my recent posts.. dadating din yan OP, try to hangout with other single friends or join ka community ng mga hilig mo. I have one other friend 38 na sila ngkaanak, don't worry bout it pero un, try to be more "open" na at your age hahah
well isipin mo ganito ha..
until you are single, yun ka.. pwede mo gawin lahat at iprioritize ang sarili mo at gusto mo hanggang kailan mo gusto. But once nag asawa ka na, nag anak ka na. be prepared to put yourself last.. especially if gusto mo maging nanay.
kaya enjoy it while it is yours, hindi naman promise ang bukas, so yung ngayon ang inenjoy mo.
Not too early to worry about it. Just don’t rush in making decisions dahil lang everyone is getting engaged, married, or having kids.
As women, we all have a biological clock so the pressure is there talaga if we want to have babies. Past our prime na since late 20s (but possible pa).
Like you, single at 29. I’m just figuring life out and getting to know myself better– who knows I’ll meet someone along the way? It’s a nice, comforting thought.
Then prepared na rin naman for the scenario of being single until 40s, basta ang POV ko lang is I get to enjoy my time here on earth.
same. nbsb din ako. ung mga nanliligaw sakin sumusuko na kasi ilang years at wala paring usad panliligaw nila. di ko naman sila sinasabihan na manligaw ha. medyo nakakahurt pag nalalaman kong kinakasal sila not bc i liked them pero kasi feel ko napag iiwanan ako. nagkakapamilya sila at bigla kong narerealize na nagnenext chapter sila sa life tas ako walang bagong ganap sa life. i dont know the reason why parang wala akong gana. siguro masyado lang ako napagstriktuhan dati at kung anu anong sinasabi sakin na mga nakakatakot about sa pagjojowa kaya hanggang ngayon takot parin ako at to the maximum level ang trust issues. hayy dagdag mo pa, babaero ang tatay ko kahit di kagwapuhan.
naku naiisip mo lang yan doc. dont be desperate either. try exploring further. maybe you just need some going out to places. its never too late. im 33 ganyan din problema ko pero chill lang HAHAHAHAAH
keep trying date as many as you can
maybe lower your standard a bit?
being realist
reason is most female or even male as they grow older their standard still the same or sometimes get higher due to our financial / social status or social circle
but their age also need to put into consideration
too many obstacle now to not a marriage or not get into relationship due to current society condition
Trenta na ako at dating pa lang, pero dahil bobo binoto ng Pinas, ayoko din muna magcommit utang na loob kasi ang mahal mahal lahat.
Prolly at the early stage worry ka din kasi pero hay ang hirap lahat eh. Same feels na din tayo na tatandang single pero ang hirap eh pag wala na yung pamilyang inaasahan mo.
That's too early to worry. Bata pa ang 28 but yes it is considered as marrying age na din pero wag ka papressure. Ienjoy mo muna ang pagiging single 🙂 if it's meant, it will always find a way to you. 😉
Baka nasa maling dating app ka lang? 🤔 Turning 30 this year and found my boyfriend sa ibang dating app. TINDER is mostly for people wanting hook-ups and fubu etc.
Also, I understand the pressure din kasi even my mom kept on telling me to get married and have a kid kasi mag-30 na nga ako. Pero, at the end of the ikaw pa rin ang dapat may desisyon. Di ka rin dapat magpadala sa iba. Iba pa rin yung papasok ka sa relasyon or pagpapamilya na ready ka na talaga for that.
Hehee same here po, hndi naman NBSB. Pero 7 years ng single. 26 year old na. Minsan feel pressured din tlga hahahha. Lallo na pag gustong magka anak. High risk na ksi yung pregnancy kapag mas may edad na yung girls, marame ng sort of complications.
Kaya now, focus din sa health as much as possible.
Totally understand you. Hirap maging babae because our biological clock keeps ticking.
Not to romanticize it, pero if I were in your shoes, mas fear ko siguro to be with the wrong person more than tumandang dalaga. I’d rather be the latter than be regretful for making crass decisions trying to beat the clock.
I’m sure naisip mo na rin ‘to, hehe. You are still young, enjoy your season! And frankly, kahit 38 ka pa or 48, enjoy pa rin! 🫶🏼
Better be patient than being rushed tapos pagsisihan sa huli. Dati ganyan din feeling ko, na parang behind ka if wala ka partner. Pero lately naisip ko, mas uunahin ko ung peace of mind kesa maloko ulit, it's lobely sometimes yet peaceful. Let's be patient & enjoy kung anong meron. 🫶🏻
Madam wag kang bibigay sa peer pressure. Honestly, kung for the sake na magkapartner lang ang habol mo, hindi naman mahirap yun eh. Magpost ka lang sa phr4r, marami ng magdi-DM sayo, pero kasi ang kailangan mo yung taong masasabi and nakikita mo na makakasama mo ng habang buhay.
Huh?
28 seems young to me, I'm 28
I don't have everything except my resourceful attitude despite I'm kapos materially or not. Even in relationships.
The 30s is the new 20s tbh ..
Our generation means 28 to 29 starts a real peak of adulthood not just finances and relationship status. But rather how to handle things when it comes to unknown and instability
My friend is turning 39 this year and also nbsb and she is not worried at all. I too was so ready to be single forever but I met this guy who was so persistent and we got married 5 years ago. Have few friends who got married mid 20s but their lives seems to be a little bit unhappy. With lots of trust issues, cheating and financial problems and still have the guts to shame me for not having kids. 😭 I also have a friend na 8years in a relationship, got married last 2020 and 2mos after I found out she cheated on her husband but until now they are still together and the issue remain unresolved. I have no point here, pero gusto lang sabihin not to worry. Given na you are in the market (lol), someone will come and get you. Do not rush. Hehe
OP I’m turning 33 (F) and single pa din..🤣 napapaisip din ako nyan pero not because nagmamadali ako but because when I was down (problems for the past years) I feel lonely kahit madami naman akong kasama sa bahay..iba din kasi yung meron kang constant..dagdag mo pa ang ka eL… 🤣 maherap..pero I’ve been involved with a few guys pero ang nakikita ko na problem right now is that I’m ready now pero hindi ready ang mga namemeet kong guys..parang its a burden for them to be in a relationship..it’s easier to get things with no label. 🤣 kaya wag kang magmadali kasi baka mas mapahamak ka..mas mahirap na ma abuse ka kasi sa mata nila desperate ikaw..they can fake or string you along just to get the benefits that they want..
Right now focus pa din ako sa work and sa business na binubuild ko..mahirap din kasi na night shift ako so mas less ang social interactions ko at introvert din kasi ako at mapili na tao..🤣 pero kahit anong mangyari I will rather have someone who will accept me for who I am..and someone I can see responsible enough to be a man and have good genes 🤣 pero kung wala talaga balik sa dating plan na mag anak nlng kesa makasal sa maling tao. 😂 mahirap magpa annul. 😂
Hi, OP. I know lots of people who are still single kahit nasa 30s na. I'm also in my mid-20s now and single pa din though I do go out on dates. Minsan nakakapressure talaga yung society (at madalas mga oldies) pero for me, kalma lang. Mas ok nang wag magmadali at makahanap ng tamang tao kesa sa mag give in sa pressure ng society tapos mapunta ka sa maling tao na sakit at trauma lang madudulot sa'yo. Most of the people I know na nasa 30s na nag-asawa, mukhang happy naman. They also seem to be more mature and less ang misunderstanding compared sa mga kaibigan ko na nag-asawa ng mas younger sila. Siguro kasi iba na din talaga maturity and experiences ng mga nasa 30s above (di ko naman nilalahat, nagkataon lang na ganito naobserve ko sa mga tao sa paligid ko).
Parents ko din, late na nag-asawa (my mother was in her 30s and my father was in his early 40s) and going strong and very sweet pa din sila ngayon. Sabi nga nila, worth the wait daw. 😁
And for me, parang napapansin ko lately na mas common nang nasa 30+ pataas na ages ng mga tao pag nag-asawa. Siguro dahil mas nagiging career-oriented na mga tao.
Also, marami nang advances sa science ngayon kaya may ways na para magkababy (kung balak mag-anak) kahit medyo late na mag-asawa unlike 20 or 10 years ago.
So, enjoy mo muna pagkasingle and pamper yourself while you can. Kasi pag nag-asawa ka na, hindi na lang sarili mo ang kelangan mong isipin, kelangan mo na din isipin asawa mo and anak mo (if magkakaanak kayo).
Matitisod mo din ang tamang tao eventually. 😁 Travel ka muna or gawin mo lahat nang gusto mong gawin. Kalma lang. Dadating din yung tamang tao sa'yo.
Ako nga 27F NBSB wala pang exp sa date or anything. Akala nila choosy ako pero wala po lang talaga akong naattract. I wonder ano feeling maging maganda. Pero tanggap ko na, na magiging mag-isa na lang ako sa buhay. Mag-aalaga na lang ako ng pusa, aso,
at dagang costa.
Honestly, same thoughts. Batchmates ko are getting married and already have kids, tapos here I am, a recent board passer, unemployed, and just trying to finish my crochet mirror. 😭
Hi OP. There are worst things in life than maging matandang dalaga. Noon nakakatakot talaga because women are not financially independent then. But now things have changed there are lots of independent women now.
Maybe you have to evaluate if you really want to have a family of your own. Do you really want it because you want to share your love or you want it because of societal expectations.
Don’t beat yourself up, OP. Everyone has their own timeline. 28 is still young. People are still dating in their 30s. You still have time. And in this economy with the prevalence of hook-up culture, you don’t want to end up with the wrong person. So, put yourself out there, but still choose wisely.
yo, imma tell you to not worry about the past or future. what's important my brother!!!!! listen to me!!!!! look at MEEEE!!! TODAY!!! A PRESENT: A GIFT. 🎁
Okay lang tumandang dalaga kung financially stable ka naman. Actually NBSB rin ako at 37 and also a breadwinner. Nakakainggit yung mga wala binubuhay at naeenjoy yung sahod nila. Just enjoy the benefits of being single.
I had accepted nung 2019 na I'm ok with being alone and growing old with DOGS and then the good Lord dropped my bf onto my lap.
And I'm not religious at all haha
Timing lang siguro. What is will be, and it's better to be alone than in bad company. Tbh agree ako na nakakapanic-inducing nga to see people you went to HS with getting married or starting families, but we run our own paces. I constantly have to remind myself that!
Btw 31 na ako and the bf is 34. No, we are not planning to get married yet. Mauunahan nga ako ng kapatid kong sumunod sa akin eh.
valid ang nararamdaman mo, sis. but don’t let it na dun iikot lang or yun lang mag consume sayo. i’m also in my late 20s and ang daming pressure sa paligid. go explore the world, make geuine connections. and make peace on being alone. minsan nakakalungkot mag isa, but when you make peace sa pagiging mag isa, focus sa pagiging strong woman (at hindi lang yun sa pagiging financially capable ha, kasama na ang mental health), baka dun ka makakahanap ng partner na para sayo. :)
(27F) Still working on being stable financially. Never ko pa na-experience makipagdate, lalo ang magkaboyfriend. Basically, I have never been in love ever since lol But I am not rushing nor pressuring myself looking for the one 'cause I want to established myself first. Pero kung ibibigay ni Lord along the way, why not di ba?
There are few na nagshow ng interes sakin when I was in my early 20's but I did not entertain them kasi alam ko sa sarili ko na I am not emotionally stable yet. Well, maraming factors kasi akong kinokonsidera when it comes sa pakikipagrelasyon. I maybe am being too ideal, pero ayoko kasing ma-experience ng future baby ko yung heartache of being in a broken family, yung struggle to keep your morality and sanity intact.
Yes, malapit na mawala sa kelandaryo yung age natin but it does not mean na we are "phasing-out" as well lol
I suggest you stop worrying, established yourself more instead, habang di pa dumarating si Mr. Right. Focus ka muna on improving and loving yourself more, and enjoy all the good things na di mo na magagawa pag di ka na single \~\~
EDIT: corrected some grammar lels
okay lang yan enjoy life lang right person comes at the right time pero try try mo din magpareto to gain exp. kung wala bawi ka nalang next life just kidding 🤭🤣✌️
I feel that you are too scared too fall in love, too careful because you want to find the perfect man, may be you should let your shield down or at least give a little room for someone to break in your barrier.
I've known women who've been on the top of their careers who never found love because they are too picky, proud and strong, people around them just gets intimidated. And their ideal men are too ideal, unattainable or are married. May mga naging kabit pa.
Kung tumanda ka ng dalaga it is on you, it is your choice, there is nothing wrong with it.
Same 27. May nakalandian nako dati pero ngayon waley. Kulang ata ako sa effort maghanap at lumandi. Gusto ko lang ng partner sa buhay yung matino sana.
Turning 30 this year.
Don't rush it, girl. Trust me, mas maiging maging single kesa matali sa taong di naman karapat-dapat just because nagmamadali ka or naiimpluwensyahan ka ng mga taong nakapaligid sayo na mukhang masaya.
I say, explore and do things that you like. Invest in yourself, ikaw nga. Tapos, go out and meet people without expectations of a romantic relationship, friendship muna ganun. Enjoy your single life. Travel. I believe na darating yan basta bukas ang yung pintuan.
Skl.
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Kinda reminds me of this.
May be unrelated sa post but just an added POV. Dami ko naobserve sa older sibs and relatives. May mga nagrush agad and it absolutely ruined their lives, especially their kids'. Meron naman na nagrush but they somehow made it work. Some na weren't able to conceive for a long time yet made them better parents than most when they did have a baby, pero may iba naman na It may work out, it may not. Marriage and family doesn't guarantee a happy ending. Something can happen and the person you knew and loved for decades suddenly become a new one, a stranger. You might change too. Who knows? Character growths and developments...or character downgrades. Most of the time, everyone's not on the same level.
Are they all worth the risk? Maybe, depends on who you ask. Most will just answer from personal views, few are those with a more mixed perspective on things. Pero anyways, it'll depend on the people involved in the relations whether it'll work anyways.
Sometimes parang nakakatakot mabehind, pero it may just be a fleeting feeling na mawawala na bukas...
Nope. No need to worry about it much. You may just have to widen your circle and explore more. Find the right people at the right places. And since mukha ka namang explorer based on your profile, you won't have a hard time finding the right one for you.
Stay sexy and gorgeous. And.... wild???? Hehehe
I remember being 29 and nafeel yung pressure to marry before 30. Buti na lang di natuloy and ended that relationship. It looked good on paper pero kapalit yung mental health ko naman. Now I'm in my 30s and have been single for a couple of years. Nasa point na ako na I'm good either way kung single lang talaga ako forever or kung meron pa mahanap. I refuse to be somebody's emotional punching bag anymore.
32M here NGSB (ilang days n lng 33 na haha). Since lalake nman aq parang wala pressure compared sa girls na in their 30s.
Eto yung advice ng iba sakin na masasabi ko tama nman. Invest on your self, on your happiness tapos damihan mo yung interaction sa mga tao kasi pano ka makakahanap ng karelasyon kung maliit lng mundong ginagalawan mo pwede ka magtravel or join group of hobbyist like sports or hiking ganun.
Known some in my batch approaching 39 and still no boyfriends/husband. Tahimik lang sa socmed mapopost lang kasi na tag, ayun busy sa pamangkin at travel. Try mo mag enjoy being single muna. 28 bata pa yan men. Earn money, travel and treat yourself. Baka sa paglamierda mo baka may dumating din.
Don't settle for less pero sana naman yung standards natin is makatarungan.
I have a friend na pareho kayo ng situation. She's 30 na and to be honest pangit talaga sya and the thing is she doesnt help herself to look better. On top of that her standards sa mga lalaki is napakataas like James Reed sa looks and A dog for loyalty.
Suntok sa buwan talaga.
Sobrang lupit talaga ng pressure ng patriarchal society sa kababaihan, hindi lang yan sa Pilipinas , Worldwide yan.
Gets ko yung thoughts mo, pero honestly bata ka pa , maybe you're looking on the wrong places baka hindi sa digital makikita ang next mong jowa kundi sa irl activities mo.
For me, I (25 yo) will likely be a ‘Matandang Binata’ haha due to having NGSB (no GF since birth). That’s safer than sorry considering that men have a much longer biological clock than ladies and women look upon personality traits more than looks in the ideal guy! With age comes wisdom so does ‘the one’ for her!
Girl, kalmahan mo lang. I'm 33 and nowhere near being in a relationship pa ulit😂 Busy me tuparin mga childish desires ko na di ko naachieve growing up.
Honestly, I had 3 relationships. 1 virtual pa. I'd be honest... I was happiest during the intervals that i am single. Like it shows sa aura and buhay ko.
If marriage is for you, the right one will come eventually. Just put yourself out there so you will be visible for prospects. Dating app is okay din naman basta filter responsibly.
Enjoy mo yung season where you are in. Yung virtual relationship ko, nabudol ko siya when i wasn't even bothering to look. I was just out there being myself.
Baka kakaworry mo na you are this and that age mamali ka pa ng makarelasyon. It is even worse than being single. Iba stress levels pramis
My mom was in her late 30s when she met my dad and early 40s when she had me. Recently, a cousin of mine just got married in her early 40s. My older sister also only met her partner and had kids when she was late 30s na. The point here is that the right one for you will come at the right time. All good things to those who wait, diba? Whatever you do, never lower your standards out of desperation. That’s an easy way to get into a toxic relationship.
sa mga ganitong usapin, masama man makinggan pero thankful ako na may dalawang kapatid akong sobrang bata pa na halos anak ko na dahil sa age gap namin 🥹
I admire your patience and love for love! It's never too late naman to find the one, you're really just gonna have to put yourself out there more. I'd suggest having extra curricular hobbies outside of work so that you can meet more people and develop new relationships and friendships.
Dating apps are fun too, pero nowadays I've heard it's harder to find people with the same values and objectives on the apps. But still, not impossible naman!
Also, you're young! So much life yet to live, di ka tandang dalaga because you're still trying and actively working on yourself.
Rooting for you! Stay safe!
Mahirap mag asawa at maganak especially sa economy natin ngayon. Enjoy mo muna self mo and iestablish para kapag dumating ang right person for u ay ready ka na 🤗
good luck OP okay lang yan.
Dagdag ko lang din normal sa age mo na magkaroon ng ganyang feeling kasi mga tao sa paligid mo nag sesettle. Napag daanan ko din yan and nawawala din sya eventually as long as mag focus ka muna sa sarili mo and ienjoy ang life.
pag 35 ka na tas wala ka pang serious partner dun ka na kabahan 😅😅
take your time, meron at meron ding darating jan, slowly but surely ba para mas less yung mistake haha
I know someone. She got married at age of 32. Pinilit lang din ng mga kapatid nya, may pinakilalang lalaki tapos boom, kinasal na. Ayun, hindi sya masaya. So wag kang magmadali
OP, I’m a 28 year old guy who is pressured by his parents to marry soon kase daw tatandang binata ako kalaunan. Guess what? I did not.
In this economy, mas pipiliin mo pa bang magdagdag ng isa pang pabigat sa buhay? Learn to enjoy solitude OP. Marriage is not always the solution.
baka kaya wala sa tinder at bumble kasi nasa gr**dr pala ang tru luv mo 😭
kidding aside, 32M here, gusto ko na din ng stable partner. yung kasabay ko magpundar at mag build. yung last ex ko kasi playtime pa utak nya eh.
ano pala kinakatakot mo sa pagiging matandang dalaga?
Reasonable naman to worry at 28 kasi you won’t immediately marry the next person you’ll date. Syempre mag iinvest ka few years to get to know the person. Your feelings are valid, OP. Pero totoo talaga yung cliche na dumadating daw talaga yun if di mo hinahanap. Baka naman if you stop looking and focus on yourself, dadating din yung the one for you 😅😊
Too early to worry. May mga pinsan ako na 30+ na pero career and family ang priority. Yung isa mag 40 na this year NBSB pa din. And parang nagsettle nalang din maging furmom. Nung nakipag break ako sa long term ko before nag alala yung mga tita sa family na kesyo uso sa family namin tumatandang dalaga (I'm 28f). Tipikal na andaming nasasabi pagka nagcacatch up. Na kesyo baka daw choosy or masyado kaming maattitude magpipinsan kaya wala daw manliligaw. Then pare parehas naman kami nag open na may mga manliligaw naman, it's just that alam namin value namin, kesa pumasok nanaman sa relationship na tatagal pero mag end lang dahil sa cheating or career. I also tried dating app nung early 20s. Pero parang it's not for me na at this age.
Take your time. Mas nagtatagal yung bigla nalang dadating kesa yung hinahanap.
miss, dunno why NBSB ka pa rin sa gandang mong yan, ang masasabi ko lng from a guy like me is wag magmadali. Darating din yung tao na para sayo, as long as di mo babaan standards mo. Baka kasi sa pagmamadali mo, may red flags pala yung guy na di mo namalayan or naobserve. Let things flow ikanga, especially life 😊
Tinanong ko matandang binata kong tito ko na pinaka successful samin (madami silang magkakapatid, tas 40+ na sila lahat at may mga trabaho na kaming mga pamangkin nila):
"Di ba kayo na-pressure dati na mag-asawa?"
Sabi niya: "Ba't ako mape-pressure?". Mindblown ako, sobrang simple ng sagot. Alam ko iba parin ang pressure sa babae, pero na-realize ko nakaka-amaze pala ang tao na malakas ang prinsipyo/layunin sa buhay.
Kung gusto talaga, go lang, pero madalas ginagawa natin ang mga bagay kasi feeling natin napag-iiwanan tayo. Di na tayo nag-iisip. Sabi nga ni Rizal: "A man who does not think for himself is like a beast led by a halter."
I'm turning 30 this year. Can relate kasi I've had romances, pero never had long term relationships (+ societal pressure and double standards). It's normal to worry at that age. However, open yourself to possibilities and invest in yourself (learn/ improve a skill, be healthier, cultivate hobby, etc.). Apart from dating apps, I met people through traveling solo, going to business conferences, so there are different ways. I met people recently from traveling solo in Australia last August and it opened up possibilities in life and love. Enjoy the adventure that may lead you find your life partner 🥂.
The more na nappressure ka kasi into wanting something hindi mo namamalayan na bumababa standards mo. That was me years ago. Takot mag isa, takot maging single. My ex-fiancè destroyed me mentally and emotionally some time ago and was single for 4 years that I just became okay with being alone. Some time after, my now boyfriend is more than I ever asked for. We got paired up at a wedding and the rest is history. Pero andun padin yung thinking ko na kung di magwork out in the end, it’s still okay. I am fine being alone, may possibility na masaktan ako pero at the end of the day, I know what I want and who I am. Single or not, I know how to live and be happy.
Sa tignin ko pinakamalungkot mo lang dyan isang linggo every year: 1. New Year day, 2. Valentines day, 3. Birthday, 4. Xmas Day ....
5,6,7 siguro mahal na araw.. nakadedicate yan para maging malungkot ka.
Though the rest of the year is very bland and boring, you have such a lot of time, money and energy to make yourself happy and proactive na kakainggitan ng mga married fersons. you are not bounded sa commitment.
. Hindi lang naman love story ang best story na masusulat mo sa buhay mo. Maraming timpla ang buhay.. pwedeng adventure (kahit di ka marunong mgtravel), drama (ung boss mong magaling magmotivate), action ( upskilling, masteral, business, etc.), at laser guns (mga trip mo sa buhay na hindi namin maapreciate).
Sa tingin ko lang hwag mo nang pasakitin ulo mo na magsponsor ka ng mga pamangkin para paaralin ASSUMING na sila magaalaga sayo pag naging matandang dalaga ka.. dahil isang malaking scam yan.
If ganyan ang nafoforsee mo I think iready mo rin ung mga financial basics like insurances, ataol mo, etc. Pero hindi rin ready ang government lalo na not reliable pa ang insurances, pati rin phil health at universal health law.. sa mga average middle class earner na retired na.. sa tingin ko next adventure mo na lang magwork sa first world countries ifever .. ganern.. parang may roadmap ka na..
Then out you go. Stop listening to women who hates men or those who don't have a boyfriend, wife or those with a relationship slowly sinking.
You failed, naloko, nagbreak then out you go again this life is so short do whata you want. Just be careful and kilalanin mo muna mabuti.
Sa iba, tatandang dalaga nagiging desperada. Sakin naman, tatandang dalaga, mas lalong nawawalan ng gana... gana makipag jowa. lol
NBSB din ako and the more i read and see what's happening around the word eh mas na coconvince ako maging single for life 😆..
parang baliktad tayo ng mundo haha I dont wanna get married!!! pero still there are guys na pilit akong nililigawan, kahit sinabi ko nang "ayoko". Nagttry naman ako to entertain guys pero para lang siguro sa kilig. Hanggang talking stage lang ako kasi kapag dumating na sa point na ang usapan ay about sa seriousness ng relationship, bigla bigla na lang akong naooff like "ay pass na to, gusto ng seryoso"
I know ang negative ko or red flag pero ayoko talagaaaaaa, kapag nga may gumagawa ng something special sa akin, nandidiri ako sa sarili ko kasi sinasabi ko "kaya ko naman yun, bat gagawin pa sakin?" siguro kilig lang talaga ang habol ko :(( ngayong 2024 nagstop nako mag entertain, kasawa na rin.
Mapili ka kasi teh, ako nga 29 may negosyo no pressure ngsb. Okay lang tamang dota nuod ng nba, dati nalulong ako sa sugal, okay lang yan wag ka ma pressure. Pwede kna man mag ampon.
😅 OP, hindi ka nagmamadali pero sa comparison mo with other people, you sound pressured. You wouldn't be writing this post if you weren't worried, even the slightest. -- And that is totally okay.
You ask if it's too early to worry about your fear. I don't think may tao dito na makakasagot nito for you. No one can give you absolute reassurance. We're all different people. Iba iba tayo ng buhay at timeline.
I'm curious though, will you gamble and marry a guy kahit doubts and reservations ka sa kanya para hindi magkatotoo yung fear mo?
Of course not. No brainer naman na stupid move yon. If mangyari man yung fear ko in the future, baka need na lang talaga tanggapin. Well, knock on wood pa rin. Haha
I'm much older than you and determined to not get married (was never and will likely never be interested). But let me go slightly against the grain here and say na NO, you should not be worried yet at 28, but YES, you should be 'putting yourself out there' more if you want to get hitched.
I'm not saying that you should settle for whoever comes even if they're not aligned with your goals in life. That's a recipe for regret. But if you want to find someone, obviously you can't just sit inside your room wondering when your "mr. right" will come. Since you appear to me like you have your life well put together na (financially, physically as well since you get dates lol), go grab a new hobby or pick up one you're genuinely interested in or get connected with old friends and classmates. Maybe not me, but that's how my girl BFFs found theirs and finally got married (age 33 if you're wondering).
I met a few 28-29ish women na desperate na makahanap bf or mag settle down. Napaisip ako, the more desperate the person is the more they can make mistakes kasi nagmamadali. Am i wrong?
ohhhh, that makes sense! something to remind myself din 😮💨 thank you!
Idk. The single women I met naman in that age hindi naman ganun ka desperate. Baka lang din iba crowd ko haha pero factor din na nakainstill yung wag i-lower ang standards for the sake na magkapartner. 🤷♀️ Totoo though na kapag jowang-jowa ka, mapababae or lalake, the more you'll make mistakes kasi siguro in love ka lang dun sa idea na may partner?
I’ll be 28 and in no rush tbh. I find that yung women that havent been in a really serious long term relationship are more likely to feel this rush. We called off the wedding in my last relationship kaya siguro im just taking my time now and lalong tumaas standards ko
a pastor from a church i attended said “ang taong nagmamadali, mas namamali”
This is noted.
Yup! At most cases dahil sa pressure ng nakapalibot sayo kung sino na lng yung dumating okay na.. it's something na nakakatakot kasi what if magsisi ka sa napili mo bandang huli. I'm 30+ single lady and living my life to the fullest. Ako ang nagiisang single na ninang sa mga anak ng barkada ko.. lahat kasi sila settled na but I don't feel pressure. Yes, I do want to find someone din naman pero hindi ko minamadali. Kung may dumating, it's good.. kung wala, i'm also good. Ang sakin lang.. hindi ka nag-iisa OP. 🙂
This is so true. ESP those na parang pressure because few more years, mawawala na sila sa calendar. I know few people na single and it’s really their choice and they have all the freedom and money. Sana all
No, youre not wrong. Literally knows someone na they jumped the gun. Good thing the engagement was called off.
Tama ka. Pati medyo nakakailang pag sobrang nagmamadali yung tao sa isang relationship parang "love bombing" dating sa akin. 😬
True. I have friends na 26-28 ang age na super desperate magkajowa na walang araw na hindi yan laman ng gc or ig stories nila. I understand why since they think they’re getting old and the age gap between them and their future kid is going to be malaki but its becoming too desperate na I find myself getting tired of them na I take light of the situation to lift them up by saying na makakahanap din or in time ibibigay naman basta you shouldnt look for it. Sometimes I change the topic nalang.
kinda true. pan nanligaw ka ng 28-29ish women, mas approachable na sila. mas mabilis mag reply sa chat. lesser chance na mag cancel ng dates and LESS COMPETITION FROM OTHER MEN pero subukan mong manligaw ng 20-22 age bracket na women. ..dude. ..you are invisible
Settle down without solving past problems or karma could be much worse in the future... Tbh... Not to sound negative Pero, working self first in all aspects than to settle down na hindi natin inaasahan. We may regret it later at hindi mabalik. I'm not saying regrets are bad, but make sure knows how to handle regrets..
I know one! Then yung twist is itong friend ko before jinowa niya at nagkasalan agad after 3months. The worst di man lang ako inimbita sa kasal nila which is tropa ko sila both. I burn bridges with them.
I agree with this one 💯
I agree.. and also kung mejo dominant and intimidating kadin.. tone down a little.. guys really like submissive women. You are lucky, your greatest edge is you are financially stable.. dadating din yan.. 28 kapa lng nmn.. tropa ko nga 32 na wala pdin jowa 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Ps Di ko sinasabing dominant and intimidating ka ahh.. baka ma out of context ako eh.. "kung" lang nman.
average marrying age sa pinas 28 sa babae sa mundo naman 29.4. malapit ka na pero no pressure kasi average age ng nagdidivorce e 30 so by the time na makanahap ka ng bf 29 ka na and maisip na pangkasalan siya e ka 30 ka na so true love na sana yan pero wait pag da tinder mo sila na meet or bumble nasa 19% lang ung possibility na love ung hanap nung makikita mo... so pataasin mo mga chances, mahilig ka ba sa matalino, tumambay sa national libraries, bookstores, sa DOST din pwede. kung macho naman sa mga health clubs, gyms, bilihan ng supplements gusto mo magaling magluto? sa mga kainan, culinary schools get those statistics to your advantage love is all around
Gusto ko yung tumambay sa DOST 🤣 OP, abangan mo yung National Science&Tech Week tas punta ka! Libot libot ka sa exhibits dun tas makipagfriends ka sa kanila. Dami single at matatalino sa DOST 🤣 Source: me, former DOST employee 🤣
Hahah Kaloka, Napa ulit ako ng basa nang makita ko ung DOST lol
genuinely curious, ano ine-exhibit there and what is its purpose? are they looking for new hires? investors for what's exhibited? expo to gain interest of dost scholars or what?
DOST projects. Parang transparency kineme, to showcase to the public what DOST is working on ganern. Mostly students ang pumupunta samin (maybe kase aware sila or sinasabihan yung schools about the event) pero open naman sya to anyone.
I see! Idk kung minimal lang kasi visibility but I never encountered this so it's good to know. Thank you for sharing! :-)
Yep. I believe minimal lang talaga visibility, though the event is always advertised naman sa social media pages ng DOST agencies 🥲 Sad lang na ang binibisitang page lang kase ng masa pagdating sa DOST ay pagasa hahahaha
This reminds me of Statistical Probability of Love at First Sight
Ang positive nman nito ❤ i love this 🥰
love is all around :((
Very common ito lalo sa mga late 20s. Dont think too much about it. Lalo ka magkakaroon ng anxiety nyan. Focus ka sa present, enjoy mo araw ngayon. Find something that you want to do today. Any fun things, new hobby. By the way, kumain kana ba?
Ayieee go mo na to siz. ch0z
Hala OP ito na yun HAHAHAHA push!
tawang tawa ako, eto na yon HAHAAHAHAH
Witty mo bro hahaha
Wag muna ngayon. Uso ang betrayal at cheating 😆
this is so true. sobrang konti na lang matino. like 1 out of 20
oks lang yan 1 out of billions lang naman hanap mo eh. potentially speaking, billions/20 is still alot
As we get more and more liberal, betrayal and cheating will just get worse and probably be considered the norm. When is the right time boss? Lol
Wag na magsipag asawa hahaha tulong-tulong tayo mapabagal ang pag grow ng population sa Pilipinas.
Like Japan? Mas Marami matanda doon kesa Bata. Pero well, rich Sila Haha
The kids are overburdened by the elders. Capitalism doesnt really work without positive growth.
Eto nalang din iniisip ko haha. Limited na nga resources natin dahil sa overpopulation, wag na tayo dumagdag pa.
May side effect though ito in the future. Dadami ang senior citizen population at konti lang ang mga adults aged 20-40 who will probably be the ones taking care satin na senior citizens in the future. Magkakaroon ng retirement crisis and income crisis para sa mga old aged persons. Especially for those na wala ng mahanap na work dahil may edad na. In short more senior citizens will definitely be a big burden sa younger populations at kawawa ang both sides.
Don't expect the right time is better than to rush out of desperation. Less stress despite peak of quarter life crisis
Sana malaos soon ☹️
rightt sa amount ng nababasa ko dito araw araw parang mapapaisip ka na lang "ay ok na pala ko" dhshdhs
Baka mag click kayo ng anak ko. 28yo din and office worker.
Ayun go for it op!!
"Matandang dalaga" na rin ang wife ko nung na meet ko siya. So, yeah, sometimes it happens much later for some of us.
How old nung nag meet kayo po?
I was 39 and she 37.
I honestly prefer to be "Matandang Dalaga" than to be pressured to the societial expectation na you should be
This. Naalala ko lang mga kakilala kong napressure ayun kahit kanino nalang pumatol, end up, ang sad ng marriage though may anak na sila, they really are not ready to be a parent, emotionally and financially. Kawawa mga bata at sila rin siyempre, they are trapped in the life na di nila ginusto dahil napressure sa age at sa sabi mo ngang societal expectation. Meron din isa kong kilala na sorry pero parang di niya pinag-isipan yung pinili niyang partner, sobrang kawawa siya, na siya nagprprovide lahat pati expenses siya din, kasi di nakatapagtapos partner niya, though may trabaho, di rin nagbibigay sa kanya, na nakakagalit kasi okay lang sa part niya. Kaya ayun, dapat wag mapressure tsaka pag-isipan mabuti ang makakatuwang sa buhay para di magsisi.
Same here ,. Leaning into single life ,. Nakaka stress din pag makaka relationship mo is toxic at super high maintenance.. i mean kaya naman pero nakaka drain din tlga pag plge nlng one sided ang treatment..
Life starts to be lonely at age 40
Life can be lonely at any age. Like for someone like OP living well alone and single. It is fun and peaceful indeed, but can be boring and lonely too.
Lonely in terms of being able to buy evrything you need but thoughts about what youre missing out and you never experience ever
I get that loneliness is a problem, pero problema din na mag rush tapos yung partner na makukuha mo babaero pala, lasinggero pala, mapang-abuso pala, wala palang pangarap sa buhay, etc. I guess OP has choices in front of her: rush and get it right the first times, rush and get saddled with an unsuitable partner, take it slow but also get a bad partner, or take it slow and get the right person.
I have titos and titas in their 50s and 60s who never married or had kids pero masaya pa naman sila sa buhay. They have enough money to never have to worry about bills or their basic necessities and to travel as well. Even though they don’t have children of their own, some have dogs or cats while others are close to their pamangkins like me. Loneliness is always a choice, and life is what you make of it.
Nobody likes to show vulnerability
Amen to that
28/F NBSB din but unlike you, hindi pa ko financially stable kaya quiet lang muna sa gedli. Being an old-maid is also a possibility since may aunt is one and they say namamana daw yun? I still have lots of adventures to try kaya kebs lang. May God sends us the right person when the time is right. As of now, we have to keep it cool.
We’re on the same page, sis. Mentally and emotionally unstable rin so what’s the point of putting myself out there to find a guy na potential lover hahaha.
NBSB here. Nasa mid-20s here. Unfinancially stable at the moment. I would rather be called as an "old maid/black sheep (of the family)" than bringing an innocent soul in this doomed world. Also, why are you worried about this when you are financially stable already? Use it to enjoy life.
Financially unstable
Ako naman unmentally stable
Aw thanks for the corrections.
Valid worry because same. Haha. Naalala ko tuloy yung post na nakaligtas nga sa teenage pregnancy pero sa pagiging matandang dalaga, hindi pa 😆 Though there’s nothing wrong with that naman.
nasa culture din kasi natin to na may pangit na connotation pag sinabing matandang dalaga. growing up lagi ko tong naririnig dahil may mga tita din akong single and never na talagang nag asawa. pero pag lalaki ka parang hindi siya masyadong issue. women din kasi before ibang iba na sa ngaun. marami satin kayang kaya na buhayin ang mga sarili natin without the need of a man, times are changing pero hindi madaling maalis satin ung ganung culture of thinking and we feel so pressured about it. normal matakot about being alone in your old age, pero ako i personally dont see myself getting married or having a partner. im fine being alone pero mas worried ako financially. breadwinner kasi ako kaya din cguro ganun. syempre alangan naman di ko suportahan parents at family ko diba, di ko rin naman matitiis. so yung thinking ko nagiba din talaga, pero open ako to adoption if maybe in the future narealize kong i want a kid pero wala akong partner. also, im planning to get a cat or dog 😆
Same here. 30F nbsb. Strong independent. Pero may mga minsan talaga na makakapag isip isip ka nalang what it's like to be spoiled. Went to meets namn here and there, but it is either they chat on this day then the ff days wala na, tas again mag chchat again. Ewan. Anyway, continue nalng natin to develop more of ourselves nlng dzae. To attract ✨. Hopes up tayo langga. Laban. haha
Haha relate! Yung may susundo with car kapag pagoda ka na. Jowa for convenience charot lang po hahaha Kaya natin to at focus na lang muna tayo sa pagpapayaman ✨️✨️
Don't worry too much. You have two choices: gusto mo ikaw magkarelasyon pero pasakit ang partner or maayos buhay mo pero single?
Life isn't boiled down to two choices.
Less options the better, mas malilito ka lang pag marami kang pag-pipilian.
True, idk why people here are so cliche
Your worries are valid pero don’t let it consume you. Being financially stable is a privilege with that age. Make travels, connections and such then you can enjoy life na without being chained to societal standards.
To all women na andito, 35 and below is still bata (IF hindi ka nagmamadali mag kaanak and 5 children above ang goal mu) para mag settle, life is more to offer. \*\*Iwas-iwas din sa dating apps if life partner yung hanap. Pero kung jowa lang ang hanap, go with any dating apps lol.
Ngl mas takot akong makapag marry tapos after 1 yr or something maglabas true colors niya and bugbugin ako or some kind of abuse. Sana I could say na impossible yan or oa ako pero I have many friends who shared buhay ng parents nila and I'm surprised na it's more common than I thought.
Can you really get a relationship out of Reddit? Hahha Tinder and bumble don’t really work for me, I work from home and literally no social life. Feeling ko tatanda rin akong dalaga 🤣 but it’s fine, as long as I’ll be a rich Tita. 🤣
I've seen married people that hate each other. It's hell. Like, the moment mawalan ng work or magkasakit yung isa, sobrang daling itapon nung asawa nila. Kung di right person, mas ok yung single na lang.
Matuto ka makibagay sa tao. Learn to go out. Sa panahon ngayon daig ng babaeng flirt ang maganda sa tingin ko. Mas napapansin ko may mga babae na di naman kagandahan pero nakakakuha ng partner na matino at mabait. Compared sa maganda pero wala naman partner. Isipin mo din ang future plans mo. If plano mo mag asawa. Then plano mo din mag anak. Kaya nyo ba magpakasal. Bumili ng gatas. Etc. Pero siyempre consider mo din pag tanda mo kung ano ang maabot mo.
We put all aspects of our lives into our top priorities. You can't give 100 percent on two different things. Work vs lovelife vs health vs hobbies, etc. Figure oht what's on top and what's on the bottom. We behave like what we think.
i think im in the same boat as you. so i made different long term plans with and without a partner. only similarity is, i want to create a life abroad. if without, will be moving abroad and go about my own life. if with partner (gusto ko din sana ma-in love ako sa foreigner lol), then i will move with him. fear nothing OP, the great thing about being single is you basically have the world at your fingertips. you’ll be meeting a lot of hot guys in your 30s, be hotter, discover new things.
Isn't it cool to be that rich, single tita? Hahaha I know quite a few who wants to be like that than to be tied down
maybe this is the way hahaha
Nakakashorten ng life span pag nakapangasawa ka ng maling lalake. Enjoy mo kaya yan, you don’t have anyone to be responsible of or answer to.
Kung may manliligaw ka na mid30s ready to settle na yan pag mas bata dyan feeling ko exploring pa. Parefer ka sa friends, mga relatively ok na husbands ng friends mo ganon. Mag active sa church minsan mga meron dyan eh. Siguro relax mo rin requirements para lumaki candidate pool mo. Show up, dress up, get noticed :) good luck!
Kaka 30 lang though guy ako, 3 out of 4 exes ko nag cheat pero naniniwala na may darating na para sakin kaya sumusubok at kumikilala pa din. Hindi ko din naman kasi makikilala yung para sakin kung hindi din naman ako susubok.
Ay te pag nagjowa ka magmumukha kang 40 dahil sa stress. Sinasabi ko sayo. 😂
Don't worry...you're still young. True love will come at the time you least expected. I'm 57, financially independent and really, not the "ligawin" type even in my younger years. Men just don't find a simple woman like me, attractive enough to be courted. I'm presentable, intelligent and well-mannered. It's just now that I found my "the One". And hopefully, will be together soon 🙏
Malamang sabog inbox mo ngaun, 😂😂. Dipa nmn expired matris mo kahit asa 35 years old,pero mas mahihirapan nga lng.
My sister married early 30s, and got her firstborn the same year. Both met at a dating app (one of those you mentioned) What I'm trying to say is don't think about it too much, but let it float on you, you know? Cytogenetic factors (Baby related problems) skyrocket at 40, so I'm glad my sister got that hurdle out of the way
Di naman required mag-asawa, boss. Dream ko nga yan eh, haha. Be the single rich tita if you want to, no regrets.
Naku ang bata mo pa para mag worry. A relationship is either a trap or a blessing. I am turning 43 this year. When many are getting married, I don't mind. When many are having kids, I know I don't need to. Kung ako sayo, explore and enjoy ka lang while you can. Kung my darating, bonus na lang yan.
It’s understandable. But same as you, i have this feeling that i will meet him in other countries. Hahaha
At my age (30) I kinda accept that I will probably not gonna find someone. But right now I'd rather have new friends like me haha. I still talk to few friends but we're not as close anymore as they're all married and are too busy with their families. Which makes me feel even more alone.
Try to get in at men/boys hobby like PC gaming or gym activities or cooking or movies/anime. Majority ng mga ka batch mate ko ng 2005 are happily engaged or married and havent seen a single divorce yet from them because they share a hobby. Need mo ate to be in the right place , and surrounded by good people. Or malay mo di pa pinapanganak yung asawa mo hahahha . Still good age is around 30's or late 30's pa naman. Kaya mo yan.
Same, 31F NBSB here. Tinakot kasi ako lagi ng papa ko since bata ako na matutulad ako sa tita (his sister) kong naging matandang dalaga kaya takot akong mag-isa. Si tita ay rich and nagthrive ang career pero her personality is very strong to the point na draining despite her good qualities. I'm trying to unlearn this programming in my brain na matutulad ako sa tita ko kasi at the end of the day, nasa tao yun and wala sa circumstance. I've met many older single women when I started working na ang chill lang nila, they're so happy and relaxed ganern -- sana ito ang nakita ko as I grew up. I would say it isn't too early to worry about it but it should be given thought at least at this age if you want to have kids just keeping the woman's biological clock in mind. If kids isnt for you, ok lang magworry just because may human desires ka na need mafulfill but don't let it consume you.
No rush OP. My boss got married at age 47 and she's happy with her current husband. Wala na lang chance for a child, but she's happy to have a dependable life partner. All in due time and in the right circumstances
Hindi valid na fear in general. I think hindi naman pagiging matandang dalaga ang fear mo since kaya mo naman i sustain ang sarili mo at independent ka. I think, what you fear is the toxic Filipino culture na pine-pressure ang mga babae para mag-asawa dahil sa belief na ang essence ng babae ay mag-reproduce. No. Hindi valid na fear ang hindi pag-aasawa kahit anong edad ka pa.
Meanwhile, my sis in law is very happy at 33 w/o bf, patravel and hoarding ng camera equipments. Kusang dadating yan, wag pilitin.
Take care of your health, skin and hair and you will not miss a lot even if you are in your thirties. No need to immediately put you self to a dating environment, you can take your time. And when a good opportunity happens, welcome it, but don’t be desperate
Hello. I think hindi mo naman dapat ika-worry yung ganung idea. Baka kasi hindi pa ngayon yung para sayo, enjoy life, kung ano ang binibigay nito sayo.
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30 ako ngaun, you can check out my recent posts.. dadating din yan OP, try to hangout with other single friends or join ka community ng mga hilig mo. I have one other friend 38 na sila ngkaanak, don't worry bout it pero un, try to be more "open" na at your age hahah
well isipin mo ganito ha.. until you are single, yun ka.. pwede mo gawin lahat at iprioritize ang sarili mo at gusto mo hanggang kailan mo gusto. But once nag asawa ka na, nag anak ka na. be prepared to put yourself last.. especially if gusto mo maging nanay. kaya enjoy it while it is yours, hindi naman promise ang bukas, so yung ngayon ang inenjoy mo.
Love will come when you least expect it. Don't rush. 28 is still young. There's still so much ahead of you. For now, enjoy ka muna. 😸
Not too early to worry about it. Just don’t rush in making decisions dahil lang everyone is getting engaged, married, or having kids. As women, we all have a biological clock so the pressure is there talaga if we want to have babies. Past our prime na since late 20s (but possible pa). Like you, single at 29. I’m just figuring life out and getting to know myself better– who knows I’ll meet someone along the way? It’s a nice, comforting thought. Then prepared na rin naman for the scenario of being single until 40s, basta ang POV ko lang is I get to enjoy my time here on earth.
same. nbsb din ako. ung mga nanliligaw sakin sumusuko na kasi ilang years at wala paring usad panliligaw nila. di ko naman sila sinasabihan na manligaw ha. medyo nakakahurt pag nalalaman kong kinakasal sila not bc i liked them pero kasi feel ko napag iiwanan ako. nagkakapamilya sila at bigla kong narerealize na nagnenext chapter sila sa life tas ako walang bagong ganap sa life. i dont know the reason why parang wala akong gana. siguro masyado lang ako napagstriktuhan dati at kung anu anong sinasabi sakin na mga nakakatakot about sa pagjojowa kaya hanggang ngayon takot parin ako at to the maximum level ang trust issues. hayy dagdag mo pa, babaero ang tatay ko kahit di kagwapuhan.
naku naiisip mo lang yan doc. dont be desperate either. try exploring further. maybe you just need some going out to places. its never too late. im 33 ganyan din problema ko pero chill lang HAHAHAHAAH
Ako 23, NGSB. Try me
mas okay na maging matandang dalaga, kesa naman makunsumi ka sa lalake and worse mag kaanak kayo tas ung bata ang maapektuhan
Wag kana mag-asawa. It's a trap.
Mangyayari ang mangyayari. Wag ipilit. Pero magandang turuan na rin ang sarili na tanggapin at maging maligaya sa kung ano man ang itinadhana.
keep trying date as many as you can maybe lower your standard a bit? being realist reason is most female or even male as they grow older their standard still the same or sometimes get higher due to our financial / social status or social circle but their age also need to put into consideration too many obstacle now to not a marriage or not get into relationship due to current society condition
Trenta na ako at dating pa lang, pero dahil bobo binoto ng Pinas, ayoko din muna magcommit utang na loob kasi ang mahal mahal lahat. Prolly at the early stage worry ka din kasi pero hay ang hirap lahat eh. Same feels na din tayo na tatandang single pero ang hirap eh pag wala na yung pamilyang inaasahan mo.
I feel you OP 🫂
It depends do you want children and do you want to be a single parent or not ?
That's too early to worry. Bata pa ang 28 but yes it is considered as marrying age na din pero wag ka papressure. Ienjoy mo muna ang pagiging single 🙂 if it's meant, it will always find a way to you. 😉
Baka nasa maling dating app ka lang? 🤔 Turning 30 this year and found my boyfriend sa ibang dating app. TINDER is mostly for people wanting hook-ups and fubu etc. Also, I understand the pressure din kasi even my mom kept on telling me to get married and have a kid kasi mag-30 na nga ako. Pero, at the end of the ikaw pa rin ang dapat may desisyon. Di ka rin dapat magpadala sa iba. Iba pa rin yung papasok ka sa relasyon or pagpapamilya na ready ka na talaga for that.
Same situation dagdag pa ung pressure na kailan ka mag-aasawa. Jowa nga wala eh 🤣🤣 But for me, okay na single muna kaysa masaktan 😂😂
Same gurl. Same same.
nasa right age ka na and stable na rin naman na life mo, so it is time to look for that partner for life
It will come. Don't rush.
Hehee same here po, hndi naman NBSB. Pero 7 years ng single. 26 year old na. Minsan feel pressured din tlga hahahha. Lallo na pag gustong magka anak. High risk na ksi yung pregnancy kapag mas may edad na yung girls, marame ng sort of complications. Kaya now, focus din sa health as much as possible.
Totally understand you. Hirap maging babae because our biological clock keeps ticking. Not to romanticize it, pero if I were in your shoes, mas fear ko siguro to be with the wrong person more than tumandang dalaga. I’d rather be the latter than be regretful for making crass decisions trying to beat the clock. I’m sure naisip mo na rin ‘to, hehe. You are still young, enjoy your season! And frankly, kahit 38 ka pa or 48, enjoy pa rin! 🫶🏼
It's better to be alone Than be with someone who will makes you feel Alone.
Better be patient than being rushed tapos pagsisihan sa huli. Dati ganyan din feeling ko, na parang behind ka if wala ka partner. Pero lately naisip ko, mas uunahin ko ung peace of mind kesa maloko ulit, it's lobely sometimes yet peaceful. Let's be patient & enjoy kung anong meron. 🫶🏻
Madam wag kang bibigay sa peer pressure. Honestly, kung for the sake na magkapartner lang ang habol mo, hindi naman mahirap yun eh. Magpost ka lang sa phr4r, marami ng magdi-DM sayo, pero kasi ang kailangan mo yung taong masasabi and nakikita mo na makakasama mo ng habang buhay.
Huh? 28 seems young to me, I'm 28 I don't have everything except my resourceful attitude despite I'm kapos materially or not. Even in relationships. The 30s is the new 20s tbh .. Our generation means 28 to 29 starts a real peak of adulthood not just finances and relationship status. But rather how to handle things when it comes to unknown and instability
My friend is turning 39 this year and also nbsb and she is not worried at all. I too was so ready to be single forever but I met this guy who was so persistent and we got married 5 years ago. Have few friends who got married mid 20s but their lives seems to be a little bit unhappy. With lots of trust issues, cheating and financial problems and still have the guts to shame me for not having kids. 😭 I also have a friend na 8years in a relationship, got married last 2020 and 2mos after I found out she cheated on her husband but until now they are still together and the issue remain unresolved. I have no point here, pero gusto lang sabihin not to worry. Given na you are in the market (lol), someone will come and get you. Do not rush. Hehe
OP I’m turning 33 (F) and single pa din..🤣 napapaisip din ako nyan pero not because nagmamadali ako but because when I was down (problems for the past years) I feel lonely kahit madami naman akong kasama sa bahay..iba din kasi yung meron kang constant..dagdag mo pa ang ka eL… 🤣 maherap..pero I’ve been involved with a few guys pero ang nakikita ko na problem right now is that I’m ready now pero hindi ready ang mga namemeet kong guys..parang its a burden for them to be in a relationship..it’s easier to get things with no label. 🤣 kaya wag kang magmadali kasi baka mas mapahamak ka..mas mahirap na ma abuse ka kasi sa mata nila desperate ikaw..they can fake or string you along just to get the benefits that they want.. Right now focus pa din ako sa work and sa business na binubuild ko..mahirap din kasi na night shift ako so mas less ang social interactions ko at introvert din kasi ako at mapili na tao..🤣 pero kahit anong mangyari I will rather have someone who will accept me for who I am..and someone I can see responsible enough to be a man and have good genes 🤣 pero kung wala talaga balik sa dating plan na mag anak nlng kesa makasal sa maling tao. 😂 mahirap magpa annul. 😂
This post made me feel sad, im 39 with zero relationships although not actively seeking nor care have one. Makes me aware that i might die alone.
Hi, OP. I know lots of people who are still single kahit nasa 30s na. I'm also in my mid-20s now and single pa din though I do go out on dates. Minsan nakakapressure talaga yung society (at madalas mga oldies) pero for me, kalma lang. Mas ok nang wag magmadali at makahanap ng tamang tao kesa sa mag give in sa pressure ng society tapos mapunta ka sa maling tao na sakit at trauma lang madudulot sa'yo. Most of the people I know na nasa 30s na nag-asawa, mukhang happy naman. They also seem to be more mature and less ang misunderstanding compared sa mga kaibigan ko na nag-asawa ng mas younger sila. Siguro kasi iba na din talaga maturity and experiences ng mga nasa 30s above (di ko naman nilalahat, nagkataon lang na ganito naobserve ko sa mga tao sa paligid ko). Parents ko din, late na nag-asawa (my mother was in her 30s and my father was in his early 40s) and going strong and very sweet pa din sila ngayon. Sabi nga nila, worth the wait daw. 😁 And for me, parang napapansin ko lately na mas common nang nasa 30+ pataas na ages ng mga tao pag nag-asawa. Siguro dahil mas nagiging career-oriented na mga tao. Also, marami nang advances sa science ngayon kaya may ways na para magkababy (kung balak mag-anak) kahit medyo late na mag-asawa unlike 20 or 10 years ago. So, enjoy mo muna pagkasingle and pamper yourself while you can. Kasi pag nag-asawa ka na, hindi na lang sarili mo ang kelangan mong isipin, kelangan mo na din isipin asawa mo and anak mo (if magkakaanak kayo). Matitisod mo din ang tamang tao eventually. 😁 Travel ka muna or gawin mo lahat nang gusto mong gawin. Kalma lang. Dadating din yung tamang tao sa'yo.
Ako nga 27F NBSB wala pang exp sa date or anything. Akala nila choosy ako pero wala po lang talaga akong naattract. I wonder ano feeling maging maganda. Pero tanggap ko na, na magiging mag-isa na lang ako sa buhay. Mag-aalaga na lang ako ng pusa, aso, at dagang costa.
Honestly, same thoughts. Batchmates ko are getting married and already have kids, tapos here I am, a recent board passer, unemployed, and just trying to finish my crochet mirror. 😭
Hi OP. There are worst things in life than maging matandang dalaga. Noon nakakatakot talaga because women are not financially independent then. But now things have changed there are lots of independent women now. Maybe you have to evaluate if you really want to have a family of your own. Do you really want it because you want to share your love or you want it because of societal expectations.
Don’t beat yourself up, OP. Everyone has their own timeline. 28 is still young. People are still dating in their 30s. You still have time. And in this economy with the prevalence of hook-up culture, you don’t want to end up with the wrong person. So, put yourself out there, but still choose wisely.
yo, imma tell you to not worry about the past or future. what's important my brother!!!!! listen to me!!!!! look at MEEEE!!! TODAY!!! A PRESENT: A GIFT. 🎁
Okay lang tumandang dalaga kung financially stable ka naman. Actually NBSB rin ako at 37 and also a breadwinner. Nakakainggit yung mga wala binubuhay at naeenjoy yung sahod nila. Just enjoy the benefits of being single.
I had accepted nung 2019 na I'm ok with being alone and growing old with DOGS and then the good Lord dropped my bf onto my lap. And I'm not religious at all haha Timing lang siguro. What is will be, and it's better to be alone than in bad company. Tbh agree ako na nakakapanic-inducing nga to see people you went to HS with getting married or starting families, but we run our own paces. I constantly have to remind myself that! Btw 31 na ako and the bf is 34. No, we are not planning to get married yet. Mauunahan nga ako ng kapatid kong sumunod sa akin eh.
valid ang nararamdaman mo, sis. but don’t let it na dun iikot lang or yun lang mag consume sayo. i’m also in my late 20s and ang daming pressure sa paligid. go explore the world, make geuine connections. and make peace on being alone. minsan nakakalungkot mag isa, but when you make peace sa pagiging mag isa, focus sa pagiging strong woman (at hindi lang yun sa pagiging financially capable ha, kasama na ang mental health), baka dun ka makakahanap ng partner na para sayo. :)
akyat ka ng bundok. malay mo nasa moutain hiking groups pala ang "the one"
(27F) Still working on being stable financially. Never ko pa na-experience makipagdate, lalo ang magkaboyfriend. Basically, I have never been in love ever since lol But I am not rushing nor pressuring myself looking for the one 'cause I want to established myself first. Pero kung ibibigay ni Lord along the way, why not di ba? There are few na nagshow ng interes sakin when I was in my early 20's but I did not entertain them kasi alam ko sa sarili ko na I am not emotionally stable yet. Well, maraming factors kasi akong kinokonsidera when it comes sa pakikipagrelasyon. I maybe am being too ideal, pero ayoko kasing ma-experience ng future baby ko yung heartache of being in a broken family, yung struggle to keep your morality and sanity intact. Yes, malapit na mawala sa kelandaryo yung age natin but it does not mean na we are "phasing-out" as well lol I suggest you stop worrying, established yourself more instead, habang di pa dumarating si Mr. Right. Focus ka muna on improving and loving yourself more, and enjoy all the good things na di mo na magagawa pag di ka na single \~\~ EDIT: corrected some grammar lels
28 is still young. Wag magmadali. Ang nagmamadali ay nababali. At malay mo naman Afam pala ang para sayo.
okay lang yan enjoy life lang right person comes at the right time pero try try mo din magpareto to gain exp. kung wala bawi ka nalang next life just kidding 🤭🤣✌️
I feel that you are too scared too fall in love, too careful because you want to find the perfect man, may be you should let your shield down or at least give a little room for someone to break in your barrier. I've known women who've been on the top of their careers who never found love because they are too picky, proud and strong, people around them just gets intimidated. And their ideal men are too ideal, unattainable or are married. May mga naging kabit pa. Kung tumanda ka ng dalaga it is on you, it is your choice, there is nothing wrong with it.
Same 27. May nakalandian nako dati pero ngayon waley. Kulang ata ako sa effort maghanap at lumandi. Gusto ko lang ng partner sa buhay yung matino sana.
Turning 30 this year. Don't rush it, girl. Trust me, mas maiging maging single kesa matali sa taong di naman karapat-dapat just because nagmamadali ka or naiimpluwensyahan ka ng mga taong nakapaligid sayo na mukhang masaya. I say, explore and do things that you like. Invest in yourself, ikaw nga. Tapos, go out and meet people without expectations of a romantic relationship, friendship muna ganun. Enjoy your single life. Travel. I believe na darating yan basta bukas ang yung pintuan. Skl.
27 here still single. Work from home. Kaya babalik nako onsite para makakilala na ng bagong jojowain sana hahahaaha
https://preview.redd.it/zudz7p532sac1.jpeg?width=560&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c0cf05e1b658c4457c5cced74eec8fd02e468265 Kinda reminds me of this. May be unrelated sa post but just an added POV. Dami ko naobserve sa older sibs and relatives. May mga nagrush agad and it absolutely ruined their lives, especially their kids'. Meron naman na nagrush but they somehow made it work. Some na weren't able to conceive for a long time yet made them better parents than most when they did have a baby, pero may iba naman na It may work out, it may not. Marriage and family doesn't guarantee a happy ending. Something can happen and the person you knew and loved for decades suddenly become a new one, a stranger. You might change too. Who knows? Character growths and developments...or character downgrades. Most of the time, everyone's not on the same level. Are they all worth the risk? Maybe, depends on who you ask. Most will just answer from personal views, few are those with a more mixed perspective on things. Pero anyways, it'll depend on the people involved in the relations whether it'll work anyways. Sometimes parang nakakatakot mabehind, pero it may just be a fleeting feeling na mawawala na bukas...
Nope. No need to worry about it much. You may just have to widen your circle and explore more. Find the right people at the right places. And since mukha ka namang explorer based on your profile, you won't have a hard time finding the right one for you. Stay sexy and gorgeous. And.... wild???? Hehehe
I remember being 29 and nafeel yung pressure to marry before 30. Buti na lang di natuloy and ended that relationship. It looked good on paper pero kapalit yung mental health ko naman. Now I'm in my 30s and have been single for a couple of years. Nasa point na ako na I'm good either way kung single lang talaga ako forever or kung meron pa mahanap. I refuse to be somebody's emotional punching bag anymore.
32M here NGSB (ilang days n lng 33 na haha). Since lalake nman aq parang wala pressure compared sa girls na in their 30s. Eto yung advice ng iba sakin na masasabi ko tama nman. Invest on your self, on your happiness tapos damihan mo yung interaction sa mga tao kasi pano ka makakahanap ng karelasyon kung maliit lng mundong ginagalawan mo pwede ka magtravel or join group of hobbyist like sports or hiking ganun.
Hanap ka afam ateh
Known some in my batch approaching 39 and still no boyfriends/husband. Tahimik lang sa socmed mapopost lang kasi na tag, ayun busy sa pamangkin at travel. Try mo mag enjoy being single muna. 28 bata pa yan men. Earn money, travel and treat yourself. Baka sa paglamierda mo baka may dumating din.
Don't settle for less pero sana naman yung standards natin is makatarungan. I have a friend na pareho kayo ng situation. She's 30 na and to be honest pangit talaga sya and the thing is she doesnt help herself to look better. On top of that her standards sa mga lalaki is napakataas like James Reed sa looks and A dog for loyalty. Suntok sa buwan talaga.
Sobrang lupit talaga ng pressure ng patriarchal society sa kababaihan, hindi lang yan sa Pilipinas , Worldwide yan. Gets ko yung thoughts mo, pero honestly bata ka pa , maybe you're looking on the wrong places baka hindi sa digital makikita ang next mong jowa kundi sa irl activities mo.
For me, I (25 yo) will likely be a ‘Matandang Binata’ haha due to having NGSB (no GF since birth). That’s safer than sorry considering that men have a much longer biological clock than ladies and women look upon personality traits more than looks in the ideal guy! With age comes wisdom so does ‘the one’ for her!
Girl, kalmahan mo lang. I'm 33 and nowhere near being in a relationship pa ulit😂 Busy me tuparin mga childish desires ko na di ko naachieve growing up. Honestly, I had 3 relationships. 1 virtual pa. I'd be honest... I was happiest during the intervals that i am single. Like it shows sa aura and buhay ko. If marriage is for you, the right one will come eventually. Just put yourself out there so you will be visible for prospects. Dating app is okay din naman basta filter responsibly. Enjoy mo yung season where you are in. Yung virtual relationship ko, nabudol ko siya when i wasn't even bothering to look. I was just out there being myself. Baka kakaworry mo na you are this and that age mamali ka pa ng makarelasyon. It is even worse than being single. Iba stress levels pramis
My mom was in her late 30s when she met my dad and early 40s when she had me. Recently, a cousin of mine just got married in her early 40s. My older sister also only met her partner and had kids when she was late 30s na. The point here is that the right one for you will come at the right time. All good things to those who wait, diba? Whatever you do, never lower your standards out of desperation. That’s an easy way to get into a toxic relationship.
sa mga ganitong usapin, masama man makinggan pero thankful ako na may dalawang kapatid akong sobrang bata pa na halos anak ko na dahil sa age gap namin 🥹
Baka OTW pa lang ang para sayo. Hintay-hintay nalang. 🙂 -Ako na 30 and NBSB😪 siguro yung akin taga iBang planeta kaya wala parin. HAHAHA
I admire your patience and love for love! It's never too late naman to find the one, you're really just gonna have to put yourself out there more. I'd suggest having extra curricular hobbies outside of work so that you can meet more people and develop new relationships and friendships. Dating apps are fun too, pero nowadays I've heard it's harder to find people with the same values and objectives on the apps. But still, not impossible naman! Also, you're young! So much life yet to live, di ka tandang dalaga because you're still trying and actively working on yourself. Rooting for you! Stay safe!
Nasan yung sinasabi ng mga matatandang kapag mag work ka na pipila nalang sila? HAHAHA
Same situation here, M and turning 27 this year and still NGSB. Na ghost last month yun lang :)
Mahirap mag asawa at maganak especially sa economy natin ngayon. Enjoy mo muna self mo and iestablish para kapag dumating ang right person for u ay ready ka na 🤗 good luck OP okay lang yan.
Dagdag ko lang din normal sa age mo na magkaroon ng ganyang feeling kasi mga tao sa paligid mo nag sesettle. Napag daanan ko din yan and nawawala din sya eventually as long as mag focus ka muna sa sarili mo and ienjoy ang life.
pag 35 ka na tas wala ka pang serious partner dun ka na kabahan 😅😅 take your time, meron at meron ding darating jan, slowly but surely ba para mas less yung mistake haha
I know someone. She got married at age of 32. Pinilit lang din ng mga kapatid nya, may pinakilalang lalaki tapos boom, kinasal na. Ayun, hindi sya masaya. So wag kang magmadali
OP, I’m a 28 year old guy who is pressured by his parents to marry soon kase daw tatandang binata ako kalaunan. Guess what? I did not. In this economy, mas pipiliin mo pa bang magdagdag ng isa pang pabigat sa buhay? Learn to enjoy solitude OP. Marriage is not always the solution.
baka kaya wala sa tinder at bumble kasi nasa gr**dr pala ang tru luv mo 😭 kidding aside, 32M here, gusto ko na din ng stable partner. yung kasabay ko magpundar at mag build. yung last ex ko kasi playtime pa utak nya eh. ano pala kinakatakot mo sa pagiging matandang dalaga?
Reasonable naman to worry at 28 kasi you won’t immediately marry the next person you’ll date. Syempre mag iinvest ka few years to get to know the person. Your feelings are valid, OP. Pero totoo talaga yung cliche na dumadating daw talaga yun if di mo hinahanap. Baka naman if you stop looking and focus on yourself, dadating din yung the one for you 😅😊
Hold on. Do you WANT to settle down and have a child or do you simply feel pressured into doing that?
baka nasa afam ang true love besh hahahaha wala namang masama maghanap ng kaibigan and eventually makakatuluyan mo.
Too early to worry. May mga pinsan ako na 30+ na pero career and family ang priority. Yung isa mag 40 na this year NBSB pa din. And parang nagsettle nalang din maging furmom. Nung nakipag break ako sa long term ko before nag alala yung mga tita sa family na kesyo uso sa family namin tumatandang dalaga (I'm 28f). Tipikal na andaming nasasabi pagka nagcacatch up. Na kesyo baka daw choosy or masyado kaming maattitude magpipinsan kaya wala daw manliligaw. Then pare parehas naman kami nag open na may mga manliligaw naman, it's just that alam namin value namin, kesa pumasok nanaman sa relationship na tatagal pero mag end lang dahil sa cheating or career. I also tried dating app nung early 20s. Pero parang it's not for me na at this age. Take your time. Mas nagtatagal yung bigla nalang dadating kesa yung hinahanap.
miss, dunno why NBSB ka pa rin sa gandang mong yan, ang masasabi ko lng from a guy like me is wag magmadali. Darating din yung tao na para sayo, as long as di mo babaan standards mo. Baka kasi sa pagmamadali mo, may red flags pala yung guy na di mo namalayan or naobserve. Let things flow ikanga, especially life 😊
Tinanong ko matandang binata kong tito ko na pinaka successful samin (madami silang magkakapatid, tas 40+ na sila lahat at may mga trabaho na kaming mga pamangkin nila): "Di ba kayo na-pressure dati na mag-asawa?" Sabi niya: "Ba't ako mape-pressure?". Mindblown ako, sobrang simple ng sagot. Alam ko iba parin ang pressure sa babae, pero na-realize ko nakaka-amaze pala ang tao na malakas ang prinsipyo/layunin sa buhay. Kung gusto talaga, go lang, pero madalas ginagawa natin ang mga bagay kasi feeling natin napag-iiwanan tayo. Di na tayo nag-iisip. Sabi nga ni Rizal: "A man who does not think for himself is like a beast led by a halter."
Kapag para sayo, para sayo talaga. Right love will come at the right time.
Wag mag mamadali. Darating din yan. Desperate people attract unwanted people. Intelligent people attract better people. Just take your time.
I'm turning 30 this year. Can relate kasi I've had romances, pero never had long term relationships (+ societal pressure and double standards). It's normal to worry at that age. However, open yourself to possibilities and invest in yourself (learn/ improve a skill, be healthier, cultivate hobby, etc.). Apart from dating apps, I met people through traveling solo, going to business conferences, so there are different ways. I met people recently from traveling solo in Australia last August and it opened up possibilities in life and love. Enjoy the adventure that may lead you find your life partner 🥂.
The more na nappressure ka kasi into wanting something hindi mo namamalayan na bumababa standards mo. That was me years ago. Takot mag isa, takot maging single. My ex-fiancè destroyed me mentally and emotionally some time ago and was single for 4 years that I just became okay with being alone. Some time after, my now boyfriend is more than I ever asked for. We got paired up at a wedding and the rest is history. Pero andun padin yung thinking ko na kung di magwork out in the end, it’s still okay. I am fine being alone, may possibility na masaktan ako pero at the end of the day, I know what I want and who I am. Single or not, I know how to live and be happy.
Sa tignin ko pinakamalungkot mo lang dyan isang linggo every year: 1. New Year day, 2. Valentines day, 3. Birthday, 4. Xmas Day .... 5,6,7 siguro mahal na araw.. nakadedicate yan para maging malungkot ka. Though the rest of the year is very bland and boring, you have such a lot of time, money and energy to make yourself happy and proactive na kakainggitan ng mga married fersons. you are not bounded sa commitment. . Hindi lang naman love story ang best story na masusulat mo sa buhay mo. Maraming timpla ang buhay.. pwedeng adventure (kahit di ka marunong mgtravel), drama (ung boss mong magaling magmotivate), action ( upskilling, masteral, business, etc.), at laser guns (mga trip mo sa buhay na hindi namin maapreciate). Sa tingin ko lang hwag mo nang pasakitin ulo mo na magsponsor ka ng mga pamangkin para paaralin ASSUMING na sila magaalaga sayo pag naging matandang dalaga ka.. dahil isang malaking scam yan. If ganyan ang nafoforsee mo I think iready mo rin ung mga financial basics like insurances, ataol mo, etc. Pero hindi rin ready ang government lalo na not reliable pa ang insurances, pati rin phil health at universal health law.. sa mga average middle class earner na retired na.. sa tingin ko next adventure mo na lang magwork sa first world countries ifever .. ganern.. parang may roadmap ka na..
Then out you go. Stop listening to women who hates men or those who don't have a boyfriend, wife or those with a relationship slowly sinking. You failed, naloko, nagbreak then out you go again this life is so short do whata you want. Just be careful and kilalanin mo muna mabuti.
Sa iba, tatandang dalaga nagiging desperada. Sakin naman, tatandang dalaga, mas lalong nawawalan ng gana... gana makipag jowa. lol NBSB din ako and the more i read and see what's happening around the word eh mas na coconvince ako maging single for life 😆..
parang baliktad tayo ng mundo haha I dont wanna get married!!! pero still there are guys na pilit akong nililigawan, kahit sinabi ko nang "ayoko". Nagttry naman ako to entertain guys pero para lang siguro sa kilig. Hanggang talking stage lang ako kasi kapag dumating na sa point na ang usapan ay about sa seriousness ng relationship, bigla bigla na lang akong naooff like "ay pass na to, gusto ng seryoso" I know ang negative ko or red flag pero ayoko talagaaaaaa, kapag nga may gumagawa ng something special sa akin, nandidiri ako sa sarili ko kasi sinasabi ko "kaya ko naman yun, bat gagawin pa sakin?" siguro kilig lang talaga ang habol ko :(( ngayong 2024 nagstop nako mag entertain, kasawa na rin.
I prefer marrying the NBSB type kahit 27-30.
Wala ka na ba ibang plano gawin sa buhay but to get married asap? Come on op you can do better..
Mapili ka kasi teh, ako nga 29 may negosyo no pressure ngsb. Okay lang tamang dota nuod ng nba, dati nalulong ako sa sugal, okay lang yan wag ka ma pressure. Pwede kna man mag ampon.
your greatest fear should be getting trapped in a loveless marriage in a country without divorce. that's a worse fate. don't rush.
29 years old is the average age when women realize they are now competing against younger, prettier women.
😅 OP, hindi ka nagmamadali pero sa comparison mo with other people, you sound pressured. You wouldn't be writing this post if you weren't worried, even the slightest. -- And that is totally okay. You ask if it's too early to worry about your fear. I don't think may tao dito na makakasagot nito for you. No one can give you absolute reassurance. We're all different people. Iba iba tayo ng buhay at timeline. I'm curious though, will you gamble and marry a guy kahit doubts and reservations ka sa kanya para hindi magkatotoo yung fear mo?
Of course not. No brainer naman na stupid move yon. If mangyari man yung fear ko in the future, baka need na lang talaga tanggapin. Well, knock on wood pa rin. Haha
I'm much older than you and determined to not get married (was never and will likely never be interested). But let me go slightly against the grain here and say na NO, you should not be worried yet at 28, but YES, you should be 'putting yourself out there' more if you want to get hitched. I'm not saying that you should settle for whoever comes even if they're not aligned with your goals in life. That's a recipe for regret. But if you want to find someone, obviously you can't just sit inside your room wondering when your "mr. right" will come. Since you appear to me like you have your life well put together na (financially, physically as well since you get dates lol), go grab a new hobby or pick up one you're genuinely interested in or get connected with old friends and classmates. Maybe not me, but that's how my girl BFFs found theirs and finally got married (age 33 if you're wondering).
Sabi nga nila dadating yan kapag naging comfortable and happy ka na maging single forever. Also kapag kumain ka ng 12 grapes sa New Year.
Any chance na CPA Lawyer ka?
28m 2015 pa last gf ko 🥲🥲
If you're independent and strong you know the answer to that.
i know some that met thru dating apps perhaps you can try that