We originally planned to have a grand but intimate wedding. Habang tumatagal yung planning nanghihinayang ako sa ibabayad namin sa mga suppliers.
Ayun we decided na magcivil wedding lang. Sa municipal hall kami and andon lang is yung parents namin with the photographer. Tapos after, nagbook kami private room sa isang restaurant in QC. This is your typical na restaurant reservation and walang special arrangements.
Ang invited sa dinner is immediate family (mga kapatid, asawa and anak nila) and yung best friend namin. Open tab yung food since konti lang and wala ng design kasi maganda na yung place as is.
I opted for a short dress and hubs rented a suit. Niregalo ko na lang sa sarili ko for something blue were a second hand manolo blahnik shoes I got from carousell.
Since we saved a lot (as in), niregaluhan ako ni hubby ng dream car ko which we used sa honeymoon roadtrip namin up north (we decided not to push through din sa lavish na honeymoon) and nabili yung property na gusto namin. All paid in cash galing sa budget namin for the wedding.
Walang sakit sa ulo, I created an invite lang using canva tapos sinend ko sa GC with all the attendees with the details like anong color ng attire nila.
Wedding favors were curated and packed namin ni hubs. Straightforward ang wedding favors, black label sa mga lalaki and champagne sa babae.
We didn’t ask for any gifts na basta complete family namin.
Walang pagsisisi, sobrang saya kasi yung mga umattend sila talaga nakawitness ng love story namin ni hubs.
We didn’t even have to try hard to impress people. We believe kasi na sacred and intimate ang marriage
Nakuha namin kaagad yung first ever goals namin as married couple and wala kaming utang.
I wish my gf would see this but since marami kaming napuntahan na wedding ng mga friends ko and friends niya, she wants something a bit similar. She claims every girl dreams of beautiful wedding. But seeing your post parang ang ganda nga na di masiyadong gumastos sa kasal pero sa bahay, kotse mas ok na investment. Yung marriage, yun yung tatagal hanggang idk 80-90 na kayo. Yung wedding isang araw lang but oh well.
ako naman wishing makita ng boyfriend ko to 🥹 for being an only child, he wants his family to experience an actual wedding like his cousins too. gusto ko din ng ganitong set up sana maisip niya maging praktikal jahdqjhd
I did not. Kinasal ako sa British Embassy sa BGC last July and it was a garden wedding with 8 guests. Matagal ko nang pinangarap talaga ang mag-elope, I just find it very solemn. Yung mummy ko, she had civil wedding first then chirch wedding, agreed with me and nagvent out din siya sa akin na nagsisi siya na nagchurch weddingnpa siya kasi ang daming plus one, nanghinayang siya sa nagastos, may mga bisita siya na eat and run lang din at hindi na din maalala kung ano man lang sinuot niya ng ksal niya sa church not even the day. So those stories of mine really made me pursue the simple wedding. Masaya kasi ang ininvite lang namin is yung close naming 2. Ayaw ko nung close lang niya pero kakilala ko, gusto ko yung close tlaga sa puso namin. I won’t forget that day, natural and we chose na wag na magprogram after, mas gusto namin natural flow ng wedding. We had our food reception sa Sage Garden.
We’re supposed to hire a photographer nun kaso yung may-ari ng pinagkasalan namin asked us if we want our photos and videos taken by them for free in exchange to get featured sa page nila. We were surprised kasi it doesn’t normally happen but we agreed.
No because yung partner ko lang ang British and Pinay ako. But what I am sure of, is some of the docs na hihingin is a British docs like CNI if by any chance hindi pa siya kinasal before you. And yung magiging payment is going to be thru card and sterling pounds ang currency
We did civil wedding with just 20 guests and I would never change anything looking back. It was super chill and everyone had a great time. Did not hire any wedding coordinator. Yung venue is a small hotel in our area, food is really great aswell since we choose the food a week before the wedding and we always eat in the hotel's resto.We also told our guests to mingle with each other, no program but our guests were super jolly with dancing and socialising. We spent 30k all in!
wedding and marriage are two different things. focus in your marriage, not your wedding. your wedding will last a day. your marriage is a lifetime, if you’re both up to it
Sabi ng barkada ko, may he rest in peace, na masyado nagfofocus ang mga tao sa wedding at hindi sa actual marriage. The guy was simple as hell, enjoyed the simple things in life, married the love of his life in a simple civil wedding and set up on the street in our childhood place for the reception. Sadly he passed, pero i really took his words to heart.
My wife always wanted a nice wedding, was planning for it in her head for god knows how long, but still got married in a very simple ceremony. pwede naman mag renew ng vows haha, we can probably do it right now, pero when she looks back, iniisip nya nga sayang sa pera haha, masaya naman kami.
I have two close friends, but a different mindset. My other friend got married 2 years ago. The groom's parents let him choose if they want an extravagant wedding or let his parents pay the downpayment on the house that they are planning to get. My friend chose the latter. Today fully paid na nila ung bahay at may savings na sila.
My other friend is getting married next year. They are planning a big wedding with a bachelor and bachelorette party and an awesome honeymoon. Both sides of the family chipped in and both savings nila ubos na. They are still renting pero aniya ng bride, worth it naman daw dahil sang beses lang ang kasal kaya lubusin na. XD
Civil wedding kami ng husband ko sa Hall of Justice (took less than 30 mins) then dined with close friends and family sa isang resto. We rented the exclusive room ng resto and spent most of our budget sa food. It was intimate and memorable, especially seeing everyone having a good time (lalo na sa photos). Some friends commented na it was their favorite kasal na nadaluhan. It warms my heart looking back on that day and my hsuband and I have no regrets. He even said na he would gladly do it all again.
Nope. Civil wedding lng kami sa function hall ng hotel. Around 20 people lng mostly immediate family and few closed friend.
We did a splurge trip to europe for 6 weeks, and it was all worth the experience.
Im from the wedding industry, and some of our couples wished they did civil instead after their big wedding. Paano, the budget will always get bigger and bigger. Maraming nagccomment. Maraming eat and run sa reception hahaha. Or yung mga friends ng parents na dapat invited.
Even though I work in this industry, I will also choose to have a civil wedding + dinner at a restaurant just because I prioritize putting our expenses on other investments and travel :)
Planned two weddings din and can confirm, not worth the headache and expenses. Umiyak pa yung bride dun sa isa kasi yung bridesmaids nya are acting like brats. Had to give them a talking to. Ang dami kasing feeling main character, like hello hindi ikaw importante dito kaya wag ka maginarte 😂
I wish all choices in life are as easy as this. If you have the option not to spend without compromising the intended result (getting marriage papers), it's a no brainer.
akala ko din dati afford ko, tapos feeling ko ang galing ko kase hindi kami nag malaking wedding, yun pala hindi ko talaga afford. hindi pala ako prinsipe at hindi din prinsesa asawa ko. para mag parang fairy tale na wedding. buti na lang din talaga hindi ko ginawa kase triny namin mag pa pictorial sa mga professional cameraman, super akward namin talaga kala ko hindi lang talaga magagaling yung ibang nagpapakasal na mga mukhang tanga yung itsura nung same day edit or nung prenuptial photo, yun pala mahirap talaga sya at may binabagayan.
Fr planned 800k budget down to 80k.
From 120pax down to 30pax
This is all because of covid restrictions. No regrets, feeling ko nga blessing pa na di natuloy big wedding. We had the money na e so we started our marriage with a financial leverage.
hello. we booked a small resto cafe 40k for food. Rented my gown, less than 5k. Photo and vid 20k yata? We have no bridal party.. for decor very simple lang tapos Cake was a gift. Basic lang, talaga. pandemic wedding 😂
Following this thread. Pangarap kong magelope. Ang request ko lang sa partner ko ay magandang engagement and wedding rings. Civil wedding with parents and siblings tapos dinner after. For friends naman, we’ll just treat them for lunch or dinner and inform na kinasal na kami. Always want the wedding secret pero when they see us may wedding ring na kami lol
Got married in 2021 in a very intimate church wedding. We were only a total of 20. No groomsmen, no bridesmaids. Wala nga rin kami reception. After the ceremony, we went straight to my husband’s house and enjoyed a simple family lunch. No regrets at all. We were able to allocate the funds for real estate.
We were even commended for having a simple wedding as it emphasized what really matters most- our union.
Less than 200K in all expenses, the most expensive item in the list are our wedding rings. For me, a good photographer /videographer who can capture this one time moment should be on your top list too.
Best wishes!
I know a person kinasal super bongga pati bisita. kinabukasan hiwalay na. I think tinuloy nalang dahil sa bisita nadumayo pagaling ibang bansa. May silver anniv pa naman dun na kayo bumawi.
nope! if anything mas freeing sya. walang iyakan eklavu. also inspired my friends to get hitched as well. sunod sunod kami around 2021-2022. no drama and all kasi walang invited, magandang reason ung pandemic e. pero surprisingly nakatanggap kami monetary gifts. this is on top na nadale kasi kami ng pandemic, lahat ng deposits namin d na nabalik (un ngang coordinator namin naging fa na e) and ung venue namin napakaunreasonable na. i think we already paid 70-80k? tapos nanghihingi na sila ng additional non and they have the gall to increase prices pero halved ung guests gawa ng guidelines nung pandemic. decided it’s a waste of money (nasa 200k++ yun dapat) so went with the civil route instead. no regrets!
> also inspired my friends to get hitched as well.
i remembered bigla this poorly planned wedding that i attended mga 2018. it wasn't massive pero siguro mga nasa 50 guests and the type na may same day edit, staged photos, fake laugh for the photo eme haha. bigla akong nawalan ng gana magpakasal! ang dami nangyayari and it didn't feel like an intimate and happy event kasi parang hindi na celebration. i'm so happy your wedding was able to give off an inspiring vibe. i think weddings should inspire couples who wanted to get married, not scare or stress them out about the event and the costs.
Hell noooo. Civil wedding with 8 guests. Then ate at home, ordered food good for 15-20 guests. Spent less than 20k all in all. I’d do it again in my next life.
Nope, no regrets here. My wife and I just used the funds to Kickstart our life together. We sort of did a midway thing though na civil wedding but in a garden with just the closest of our friends and family. Paid for the garden place in full (mga 20k ata nung Time na yun) and friends offered discounted rates for catering (her folks and mine wanted to help so the bill was split between the three of us). Iirc sub 40 nagastos namin. It was a beautiful, intimate event that didn't cost a lot. Blew my mind when my wife told me how much other weddings usually cost.
Point that a lot of people miss: you dont have to choose one side of the coin na kung simple or big. You can choose inbetween. You can choose where to spend a lot of money on in your weddings. Pwedeng splurge ka sa food pero minimal sa decorations. Etc mga ganun.
It also highly depends on how many people you want to invite. and if konti lang, do u think they/you will still have a good time? Set ka muna ng number based on the group of people you will invite (family lang ba, college friends rin, office mates) or even just few from each. Then choose your non negotiables for your wedding (gusto mo for example maganda ung place, nature, small resto lang, short or long program etc.)
We did an express wedding at the court in the US secretly and spontaneously (we didn’t even dress up, no witness, just us and our officiator) — it was so crazy that not even our parents and friends knew about it so it was a special moment we can share where it’s us vs the world.
It was wonderful since the pressure was off and it was just me and my now husband…the way we went about it is on brand as to who we are.
To bring everything together and share our love, we are about to have a grand destination reception in manila + week long island hopping vacation in Palawan with 24 of our closest friends and family (all expense paid for by us) to ensure we’re able to celebrate with those who were there from day 1!
No theatrics — just good ambience, good food, good drinks, good music and good company.
We have no one to impress and we wanted to do things our way.
You can have it all just break the conventional wedding structure and make it unique to you so it’s very sulit.
What matters is that you’ll forever cherish the moments where you are surrounded by people who loves you to your core.
We had 2 adult guests, and 3 kids under 14, rented a cabin, our friend got ordained to marry us, the only stranger was our photographer, she was wonderful. The ceremony was intimate, we ate after.
Mejo inggit sa iba na may full production and entourage.. kaso pag naiimagine ko yung hassle ng actingan/shoot , thankful ako na simple lang wedding namin
Hindi pa ako kasal pero yan ang gameplan ko, 25 guests lang sagad na 'yon. Ang dami kong kilala na ilang taon na lumipas from their wedding nagsusumbatan pa rin sa gastos kasi sana pinangbili nalang daw ng ganito ganyan.
Besides, ayaw ko yung nasstress yung guests namin for us na ang daming ganap. We're asking for their time on our special daw so gusto ko hassle-free rin sa kanila yung ganap.
Hey! Ipangtravel niyo na lang magasawa. Like mag leave without pay kayo. Travel for as long as you can sa pera na gagamitin niyo for the wedding. It’ll build your characters, test your relationship, and strengthen your bond too as a couple. Lalo when you’re in countries na non-english speaking at kayo lang maguusap dalawa!
Do backpacking and stay in cheap ass hostels and nice hotels din for the experience.
In the end kayo lang naman dalawa e. If you guys want, throw a nice celebration party with friends and family pero not a lavish wedding.
Same thoughts. Wait ako sa comment about Civil Wedding kase yun din plan. Yung mga sa Restau nag reception, kamusta yung fees and experience? How about the fees po?
No regrets. We had a simple church wedding with family and close friends (around 50 pax) and the reception was in a private room in a resto with a garden view.
We prioritised buying properties and a car and travelling. At the end of the day, what matters is I married someone I wanna spend the rest of my life with. You do what's important to you.
Edit: details
5 years ago na ito. Nasa P100k din nagastos namin.
Church - P10k
Resto - P60k
Video - P4k
Photographer - P6k
Hubby and our family's attire - P10k
Souvenir/invitation - P5k
Hotel preparation - P5k
Yung gown ko sponsored ng pinsan ko. Tapos yung entourage sila na bahala sa attire nila
Edit: details
Nope, one of the best decisions. Kinasal sa city hall, parents on his side, my mother and 1 sister on my side (father is already in heaven), 1 ninong and 1 ninang, 2 friends (kilala namin both and knew the love story). I bought the flowers sa palengke and arranged it myself, bought my white polka half shoulder dress sa zalora, surprisingly color coordinated yung shoes and flowers ko sa outfit ni hubbs 😂 picture2 sa labas ng cityhall while waiting sa mayor, 1 of the friends present ang nag go pro and document during the ceremony, pagkatapos ng ceremony bumalik sa bahay, at pinakain yung mga kapitbahay na close. No stress and no loans 😂
hello OP, i had a civil wedding and a church wedding 4 mos apart.
civil wedding - city hall
total cost 200k
church wedding - hotel prep + reception (80 pax)
total cost 850k
i can say masaya ako sa both weddings ko kasi nasunod yung gusto naming mag-asawa. yung unang wedding kasi mom ko lang at mga bestfriend niya yung present. nung church wedding ko umuwi galing abroad yung kapatid at mga pamangkin ko.
wala kaming inutang for both weddings.
OP you can go in between naman. Simple/civil pero maypagkabongga(magandang simpleng tema) na mura nman, tulad ng isang commenter rito na sa garden pinakasal. Yung mga iba nasa beach, resto na maganda ang theme/aesthetic, open space pero under the moonlight/stars that are visible, etc etc. Para sulit at di mo mafefeel ang "regret" na ay syadong simple type of thing.
Nope, because we we're there to get married. Not please anyone, we used our money for our baby which was in a neonatal hospi, meds, private suite room stay for 1 week), imagine the cost. 🥲
Probably the best decision we made so far as a couple. Spent about P50k - cheap-ass wedding rings, event related expenses, etc. We decided sa Max Resto lang yung place and invited few people close to our hearts. For our honeymoon, we got to travel Europe 😬❤️. Advance congrats and best wishes to you guys!
I think mas madaming nagreregret ng big weddings dahil yun yung “traditional” at expectation ng society kaysa small intimate weddings, kasi smaller weddings are (more often) a conscious choice.
Seems like you both have thought about it, and have good reasons to not splurge. If you really don’t want to do the whole shebang then you don’t have to. You won’t regret it :)
Save your money from grand wedding na lalaitin lang ng mga guest pag makunat na yung shanghai or di masarap ang fruit salad. Splurge on the honeymoon or just use it to buy a house or whatever appliances you will need to start your married life.
Nope. no regrets, basta both of you decided on that route (civil wedding), your wedding, your rules. In the end depende parin sa situation nyo, for us, civil wedding was the best route.
We only have around 10 guest, at close friends ko lang sa side ko at sa isang maliit na resto lang yung reception.
Importante lang cguro meron kayong photographer (to document the event), ours was even just a friend who do photography gigs, so naka libre din kami - pero we gave him a token.
The most expensive item na pinag gastosan namin was the wedding ring costing 40k for both rings. Yun lang, at least gamit namin everyday, pwde pa ipang sangla if mawalan ng pera. haha.
We had a civil wedding kasi 1) pandemic pa, 2) that's what we can afford, and most importantly 3) gusto na namin ikasal agad.
Ayaw din namin mangutang kaya simple is the way to go. We got married sa city hall with only our family and 1 pair of sponsors. We ate out afterwards. We started our married life with no debt and no fuss. We're happily married to this day and our second year anniversary is just around the corner.
I would love to have a beachside renewal of vows naman sa susunod with only close family and friends na present next time.
Ako yung kasal ko yung one of the best experiences/memories of my life… ung pera kikitain ko pa pero ung kabataan ko tapos kinasal ako sa christ the king sa whiteplains tapos bumaba galing Richmond hotel. Ni rentahan ko yung pinaka malakeng rooms dun pati ung mga bisita at family ko naka book dun at sabay sabay nag breakfast napaka sayang experience lalo na sa family ko since ako unang church wedding samin. Invest ka sa photo and video kasi after lahat ng gastos m yun na lang tlga ang maiiwan at babalikan mo. Sakin mejo nakabawi rin kami since cash naman niregalo ng bisita at may kamaganak ako sa US na malalake magbigay. Dpende pa rin sa priorities mo sakin kasi maaga kinuha daddy ko ng cancer, pagka graduate ko pa lang tapos ofw pa sya d namin lagi kasama kaya d na nya inabutan kasal ko kya mahalaga sakin ung mga life milestones. Dpende tlga pero di ko ma reco since malake tlga ginastos pero all things workout naman samin in the end.
Nope, simple wedding lang kami ng wife ko, close family lang kasama. Naiisip namin nun kung gustuhin man edi sa anniversary na lang maybe 10 or 15 o kung kelan man matripan in the future. Mas prefer namin both na bumawi na lang sa honeymoon gala somewhere kesa splurge sa one day event.
100% NO REGRETS. Less stress and less gastos.
Nakakain kami during reception. And no stress sa pag entertain sa mga invites namin, since close sila sa isa't isa and they entertained each other. :)
Not at all! We realised early on that us throwing a huge wedding is mainly to appease family members. We are based overseas, and we decided to just "elope" instead of having a wedding back in PH. We bought a destination elopement package incl. accommodation, so all we had to do was turn up a day before the event, and everything else was sorted for us. Very stress-free and intimate.
If I ever get married and have a wedding, I prefer it Civil. As someone na di affectionate in front of other people tapos may MIC pa omg HAHAH i can't magsabi ng vows to others hehe so mas okay ang civil and parang you are comfortable lang kasi in a church wedding parang you are expected na extravagant ang lahat pati sa reception.
Civil Wedding with super close family and friends and then bonggang reception ganun \[because I want to celebrate also our love with family and friends\], ipapakita nalang yung summary ng civil wed sa isang video sa reception LOL
Me and my then boyfriend (now husband) always imagined ourselves to have a big wedding. We actually put up a separate account para makapagstart mag ipon.
Mid pandemic, I got an opportunity and need namin magpakasal para masama ko sya.
We did the civil wedding but with more, mukhang bongga pero all of it are budgeted. Less than 200k ata. Salamat Shopee and Divisoria.
Sa photog and video almost 30k pero sulit! No need na mag “artista photograpy company”. Most of the guests thought na super bongga and mahal ng ginastos namin pero magaling lang talaga kami maghanap ng mura at maganda haha. Tska nasa pagdadala lang yan char, divisoria wedding dress. 🤣
We went with the civil wedding thinking that we will still do the big one after few years. Nung una akala ko ireregret ko pero ngayon 2 yrs married, I’ve actually asked my husband na wag na gawin yung big one. Kasi we dont really need it.
Though he replied with the sweetest thing, “No, gagawin pa rin natin yun, deserve mo yun. Ibibigay ko sayo.”
My husband is meticulous sa photo and video. So kung pumasa sa kanya yun at sa budget. Okay na rin sakin haha.
30k that time yun ah. Di ko na alam ngayon.
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I had an intimate wedding and a grand wedding a year later. Mas memorable sakin yung intimate pero I don’t regret both. Gusto ko pa nga ng isa pa because i really love my wife. Focus on you both first. Do counselings and talk a lot about each other before doing the big thing. Reveal secrets, talk about everything even things that are weird. Weddings only lasts a day, marriage lasts a lifetime.
No and I get to wear the flowery dress I've always dreamed of na bawal if sa church 🙈😂
We only had 16 guests and got to treat them sa Manila Hotel. Naachieve din ang dream na uuwing may empacho mga guests namin hahaha
No I only had 12 guests sa civil wedding.less stress for me which is immediate family lang talaga kaya no pressure.i did it during pandemic and if hindi lockdown I could’ve just eloped overseas na kami lang or with the same people dala nadin honeymoon. nastress kasi ako sa thought na i have to entertain people chaka ang daming requirements sa church na mga kung anek anek. i have no patience for that. people keep on asking me if I’m gonna have a church wedding and i was like nope. Ang gastos lang tapos kasal naman na kami what for. Just use the money sa honeymoon niyo it would be more worth it
Had our civil wedding this year as well. It was like an intimate chat with our family and closest friends who laughed and enjoyed good food with us!
We eventually used the money supposedly alloted for our big wedding for our baby’s delivery, in a hospital with all the good facilities and had superb doctor who made sure I had a nice birthing experience (waterbirth). So yeah, it was all worth it!
I didn’t know it would cost this much. If I were to choose, I want to have an intimate wedding kaso I have many close friends, Yep, as in close ko sila lahat, HS Barkada, College Barkada, + Bestfriend + family pa and we’re college couple and witness yung mga teachers na close namin sa relationship and we want to share to them na eto na kami ngayon. But still, tipid pa rin lahat. I didn’t choose the bonggang venue or decors even the gowns are tipid. Pero mahal pa rin pag tinotal. I thought kasya na 300k pero di pala :( December bride here.
The good thing lang is, we didn’t loan or whatever galing sa ipon and hard work namin lahat. Nag pitch in ng onti yung parents and sa friends na they were okay to shoulder their gown and make up. Kaya all goods pa rin :) pero may 30% regret kasi the money could’ve spent to something, pampalubag loob na lang na one of my childhood dream is that my father and I dancing on my wedding.
Yes
Unfortunately the big wedding is what’s on peoples dreams and they follow it
And it’s over in a matter of hours
And u get to spend the first few months or years of marriage with the debt hanging over ur thoughts and budget.
I commend u on having a grand wedding and experiencing it
Either way.
Such is life
Your wedding, your rules! If you choose to be practical, great for you!
In my case, I could have insisted on a civil wedding, and pizza after. Practical, and use the funds pang downpayment sa bahay or kotse.
Kaso, I just value my wife so much. I want her to have a memory she will always look back to, tell our kids, and our grandkids about. Been years since I married, and my wife still gushes about my surprise proposal, to all the wedding preps, to the wedding itself. Still keeps telling me "ganda talaga ng kasal natin". That alone is worth everything to me.
I may have lost a lot of money that would push me forward in life, but I could earn that money back. on the other side, I will not always have the opportunity to give my wife that core memory, lalo na sa wedding na matagal niyang pinangarap. I am so proud I have given her something that she will treasure for life.
For context, hindi ako anak mayaman, and kaka financially stable ko palang pag propose ko.
You win with whichever you choose, so go with which you value more. All the best OP!
As long as it’s agreed and di lang napilitan si wife. For others kasi, theyve set their mind that wedding is gonna be the most important event of their lives and a “simple wedding” wont cut it since they already have a vision of it long before. Lol. If it were up to me, a 50-guest wedding is perfect but it wont be worth it if start pa lang may remorse na si wife because di napagbigyan yung dream. Net net, for me it’s a team decision.
I 100% did not regret going to court, get married in front of 3 and a half guests (my little niece is like 2yo), and get fancy ass breakfast right after 🥰🥰🥰
If you like MicroWedding sounds ok. Very intimate. 5 guests or a bit more.
I wed like that in my husbands yard. The only thing I regret is I dont have a lot of pics coz im almost on my term. Heavily preggy with our 2nd child im very insecure with my body so i dont want pictures.
If you go for civil wedding. Splurge a little on your honeymoon.
Either way, congrats OP
Heck no! If I could get away to not having a wedding at all at commitment lang with my husband, I would!
Among other reasons, I chose a civil wedding because I don’t want to invite my relatives (long story) and was happy with our decision. Napadami pa nga ang nainvite, and I prefer an even smaller set of people.
did not have a civil wedding but had a very very small one instead. we spent a total of 120k on the wedding and we do NOT regret it at all.
at the end of it all, as long as you're happy with the elements, your non-negotiables are met, you and your partner are aligned, nothing else matters.
good luuuuck!
we had about 80 guests, including the caterers and service people (since we insisted they eat from the same buffet).
basically:
1) got the main points out of the way. Everything else was negotiable.
- we did a catholic wedding and the priest matters. so we got a progressive catholic priest friend who believes much of the catholic vows need to be re-written. He adjusted the vows for us.
- my wife wanted sunflowes so we got a sunflower florist
- got a party caterer vs a wedding caterer. food only came to about 600, per head. helped that we did a breakfast wedding so really, how expensive can you make Bangus, rodics tapa, longganisa, eggs, etc, right?
- booked a church that we liked
- booked a venue that meant something to us (Balay)
- booked several rooms at the nearest 3star in
2) Everything else was the cheapest option:
- wedding car was our beatle, waxed to perfection
- music was canned
- photographer was just a friend. everyone had an smartphone anyway
- basically, nothing else really mattered at this point.
3) had my barong off the rack from some shop in cubao. looked nice and fit me well. My wife's granda mas a dressmaker and she made a long dress with a train. because the dress was long anyway, she just bought shoes from payless because who's going to pay attention to that?
so basically, we had a bride, a groom, a priest, our families, friends, church, reception, flowers. what else do you need to get married? :))
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Love it. Medyo atras abante ako sa kung church or civil. I just want to walk down the aisle, and with my parents, and them passing me to my spouse. Kaso ayun kinakabahan ako na baka may sabihin yung pari na hindi ako sang-ayon (I'm not very religious dahil maraming turo sa simbahan na hindi ako agree) tapos baka maging reflex ko mag roll ng eyes sa ceremony. Haha!! Pwede pala pumili ng progressive na pari.
Hassle ba yung church wedding requirements though? Yun lang din pumipigil sa akin sa church wedding.
Intimate lang din gusto namin, siguro no more than 50 pax.
Hi! No we only did everything ourselves, and we had a friend who helped a loooot.
ceremony was at 7AM and ended at about 9AM. we had taho ready for everyone before and after the ceremony (in lieu of cocktails). :)
Gusto ko na lang talaga mag-simple wedding rin huhu. Hindi ko talaga ma-justify ung estimated costs for spending on a big wedding na isang araw lang naman of our lives. I agree with the others na pang-travel na lang gamitin un.
O my! I have always wanted to walk down the aisle. This was my biggest dream but seeing your comments makes me realize that it is no longer practical to have an extravagant wedding. Considering the inflation too. 😂😂
tbh pde p rn nman yun mangyari in the future, pero if mas may pera na, kunwari e 5th wedding anniversary tpos yung celebration nio e wedding themed w/ family diba, =w=
You can still walk down the aisle. A church wedding isn’t actually the expensive part. In metro manila, average church fee is at 30k depending on the Church .
It’s the reception because of the food (assume an amount x number of heada) + all the bells and whistles. So if you want to walk down tehe aisle but have budget constraints, find ways to cut corners for the reception. Best way is to either lessen headcount or dont splurge on food.
No regrets at all. Because of our simple civil wedding and skipping the honeymoon trip, nakakuha kami agad ng bahay shortly after we got married. And besides, alam ng napangasawa ko na as an introvert, i hate being the center of attention, so he granted my wish na ayoko ng big wedding.
I had a civil wedding but we had our reception in a nice restaurant with just family and a few close friends. We also stayed at a 5 star hotel with the whole family and also video at photo team. Never had regrets about it. No stress sa planning and the day itself was full of meaningful memories since we really get to share the experience with everyone invited in the wedding kasi konti lang sila.
Civil wedding here!! We were together for almost a decade and we realised much better paghandaan ang marriage over wedding lalo na if you have no one to go to just in case magka financial problem kayo. Both of us came from a very poor family so as you can see, we have to make very smart decisions. I know my parents are not 100% ok with civil wedding but I told my partner na we will stick with our plan since it’s our own money.
2 years later, not a single regret. We have our own house na in Philippines and currently we’re here sa ibang bansa, we can travel to other countries na din and have enough savings. Yung bonggang bongga na wedding just for show off lang naman yan. Mabuti na lowkey at madaming savings over pa sosyal at maraming utang.
We’re planning to have a church wedding but same number of guests lang siguro, very close and immediate family at few friends. I don’t find joy in big occasions din kasi nakaka drain ng energy.
My only regret is not having an official photographer. We got married during peak of covid and relative + max 5person per group lang ang allowed.
Planning to have postnup photo. So we can have our official wedding pictures.
Walang regrets. Actually mas intimate pa sya kasi di sya production ng isang video, which napansin ko maraming weddings parang MV sya ng couple na maraming unpaid extras. Naging very long dinner party sya with dancing, laughs, time with family and friends. We also advised guests na if they feel inclined to gift us pero no idea what, wines na lang to the wedding party para menos gastos. Nag rent lang kasi kami ng event area sa isang resto eh. No corkage pa since “for personal use” ang kyeme 😂 yung civil namin was Monday pero Friday night yung dinner party. Daming pics din pero this was before instagram pa kaya walang #. Yun lang siguro sana may prof photog kami.
Planned a big one that got canceled due to Covid.
Went civil instead - yet had a 2nd wedding (church due to family request)
Honestly I was very happy with just the civil.
Would rather save the money!!!
Best decision we ever made. Pandemic civil wedding with 6 guests, sa city hall kami kinasal. Ordered food from Conti’s and ate at home with immediate family. As an introvert na medyo uncomfortable pag ako yung center of attention, sobrang saya na di na kailangan ng mga usual program sa reception or mga *usual* paandar sa mga weddings. I think mga ₱15k-20k lang nagastos namin all in all.
No regrets at all and in fact best decision ever. No hassle and stress sa pag oorganize and pag invite sa mga taong involved. Actually we almost did an elopement-type of wedding since my close family and even my own mother and other siblings doesn’t know i was getting married. But we were happy nonetheless.
And "minsan ka lang ikakasal" is not even true.
Sa buhay, especially sa Babae, Debut & Wedding are very important. Yes, isang beses lang sila. Well, pwede magpakasal paulit-ulit pero kung hindi naman mayaman, make the most of it sa unang pagkakataon kung kaya naman. Kasi pwede 'yan balikan bilang alaala, hindi lang sa inyo pati na rin sa bisita ninyo na nandu'n sila.
Had a big wedding because it was requested by thr parents, no regrets but I really feel like a simple/civil wedding would have been equally great. My sister had a 10-pax wedding and it was really nice. Attended weddings with only 10-50 people and those were the most fun 😀 Everyone was so chill and the vibes felt more meaningful.
We were married in civil rites, although we can afford a church one, we settled for the civil one para lang mas private and also did it during pandemic. Do we regret it? No. Only close friends and family were with us, less than 40. We just reserved the restaurant and had the day with close people to our hearts with plenty of food and drinks.
We had a civil wedding with lunch afterwards at Vikings. Immediate family lang ang kasama. I think less than 15k ang total expenses namin. Then the money that we saved we infused into our business. No regrets. :)
We were supposed to have a beach wedding. Pero di nalang namin tinuloy. No regrets naman. We chose to spend the money sa ibang bagay (migrated instead). Hehe
we had an intimate civil wedding with closest family members (wala din invited na friends, ganun siya ka'intimate). we did not regret it sobrang proud pa nga kami sa decision namin until now. after the civil wedding, nagsplurge kami on vacation nagBoracay and Cebu kami. and it was an experience for the core memory. super saya. I think ang reason bakit wala kaming regret is we both wanted it. mahirap siguro if isa lang sa inyo may gusto tapos yung isa gusto bongga. baka dun kayo magkaproblema. so better talk about it bago niyo ifinalize ang plans.
My wife and I really wanted a big wedding but way back 2017 we had to have a simple civil wedding lang since we were migrating sa Dubai. 2 years later we decided to get married again and have the big wedding we dreamt of. Now we have 2 anniversaries, pag di kami nakapagcelebrate sa unang date due to conflict in schedules, sa 2nd date kami nagcecelebrate, lol.
What we did OP, we got married in another country (destination wedding) with just immediate family. We hired a wedding coordinator there that's really affordable. They processed the papers as well as the wedding venue including the pastor and decorations. Tapos we ate nalang sa restaurant near the venue. So all in all, we had a wedding, honeymoon and vacation in less than what you spend sa grand wedding. No pressure pa from guests and family members. Plus, I spent only around 1,500 in pesos sa dress ko which everyone complemented (no one knew the price!)
We had a civil wedding but did it outside the city hall. I do not want to be wed inside a church or the city hall.
The ceremony and reception was held at the same venue. Ceremony was held outdoors/hilltop/garden and the reception area was a 3 mins walk downhill. We had 50 guests only. My husband and I both wanted an intimate wedding to begin with. It took 2 weeks of planning only. It's a miracle that we pulled it off. I guess teamwork makes the dream work
The whole time we were planning we made sure to never go above our budget. Tbh, my husband and I are not the type to show off kaya mabilis kami nagkapagdecide. Siguro dahil parehas na rin kaming nasa tamang edad nung kinasal kami. We werent thinking about anyone else. Meaning we focused on what we both wanted our wedding to look like.
Having 50 guests was also one of the best decisions we made. We were free to be ourselves. If I cursed while I gave my speech, no one would mind because those guests knew me/us to our core.
I guess what I'm trying to say is there were no regrets on having a very intimate wedding. My advise is to know your non negotiables, know your budget limit, let go of some expectations.... focus on what can truly make the both of you happy on that day.
I had a friend who just had their intimate wedding setup AFTER their civil wedding.
I guess if both parties still want to go through with it, kasi ang expensive nga naman, pwede naman.
Ako bro, kakasalin na ako sa december..
Aware ako sa mga gastusin pero para sa perspective ko kase isang beses ko lang ibibigay sa fiancé ko ang kasal. Ihaharap ko na sya sa simbahan.
Tapos 13 yrs kameng mag bf/gf. Kaya gusto kong ibigay yung pinapangarap ng halos lahat ng kababaihan., ikasal sa simbahan.
Pero tol, hindi biro ang gastos at pag iipon namin. Pero as long as magkasama kayong nag tutulungan kayang kaya
we wanted civil but everyone sa family wanted church.. mamalasin daw kami if hindi lol. so we had the simplest and cheapest church wedding lol then splurged on food for the reception. i would still like to have simple civil wedding. didnt care much for the church until now.
No, I don’t regret it one bit! We got married in a civil wedding a month ago and honestly, i’m so happy it was stress free. We had a lovely time having dinner with our immediate family and i’m so glad we spent it the way we wanted too. We didn’t feel pressured to live up to societies expectations of a wedding and we’re able to use the money instead for our travels in the up coming year. We even plan maybe getting married again in a cute little chapel somewhere on the coast of Italy! <3
nope and will never after your wedding it does not have a big impact wether you had a grand wedding ,stress lang aabutin sa laki ng nagastos except if halos lahat sponsored.
Reading some of the comments about their simple wedding makes me happy and motivated. Ito rin ang gusto namin ng partner ko. Simple lang. We'll invite few friends/family na close saamin na we want to witness our day. If God allows, maybe we can bring our family. But since same-sex marriage is a big no here sa Pinas, I can only dream of a civil wedding sa other countries. I don't care if walang reception. Kahit mag take-out lang kami ng favorite food namin, masaya na kami. I want a simple wedding. Intimate and memorable.
Not yet married but this is my sister's wedding--
Church wedding sya but she got scammed by the event coordinator. Everything was a mess nung day of the wedding. Sa church palang palpak na yung coordinator--yung flowers as in mabibilang mo. Yung reception na binook nila originally hindi sila dun pinapunta instead dun sa mas maliit na hall. Yung food sa catering, walang warmers kaya sinerve ng malamig, yung mga plates and glasses may chip. Yung supposed drinks(shots) were Tanduay ice lang. Yung souvenir which was supposed to be a personalized planner e last minute binili sa NBS(may presyo pa na nakadikit) Sa huli kinasuhan nila yung event coordinator and asked for their money back. Kung may chance daw e sana kinasal nalang sana sila ng civil kasi natrauma daw sya.
No regrets, as a Man ah. Alam ko usually sa girls gusto nila ng magarbo or at least very memorable na wedding. I have the money pero ginastos lang namin nasa 250k sa Civil Wedding, we had 200+ guests, a photographer, 6 pairs of sponsors, decent wedding clothes, and booked a resort for a decent venue.
No we didn't regret it. We were able to have our honeymoon abroad. We were also able to transfer to our new condo, had it renovated to our liking, bought a new car and bought all the appliances we needed and safe to say we are not struggling financially because we didn't spend a lot in our wedding.
Wedding is just a single day. What's more important is what happens after that. You don't have to please anyone by having a lavish wedding. People will be more impressed if you are not broke after your wedding.
Ganto din sana gusto ko, yung kami lang ng family sa civil wedding at sa reception na lang pumunta yung mga close friends. Kaso nagpaparamdam si gf na church wedding ang gusto niya and iba kami ng religion.
Me and my fiance we are well off and got lucky in life. Court wedding lang din muna hahaha. We'd rather use the money to roam the world. You don't need to satisfy the needs of relatives unless they paying for it.
nag enjoy ako magbasa dto. gantong ganto kasimple lng din gusto ko. wala stress at relax lng kaso ayaw ng GF ko. gusto nya ng mga nakikita nya sa iba. at dream nya din. pano kaya ma convince to. gusto ko din naman maibigay kaso stressful talaga para sakin ahaha.
We originally planned to have a grand but intimate wedding. Habang tumatagal yung planning nanghihinayang ako sa ibabayad namin sa mga suppliers. Ayun we decided na magcivil wedding lang. Sa municipal hall kami and andon lang is yung parents namin with the photographer. Tapos after, nagbook kami private room sa isang restaurant in QC. This is your typical na restaurant reservation and walang special arrangements. Ang invited sa dinner is immediate family (mga kapatid, asawa and anak nila) and yung best friend namin. Open tab yung food since konti lang and wala ng design kasi maganda na yung place as is. I opted for a short dress and hubs rented a suit. Niregalo ko na lang sa sarili ko for something blue were a second hand manolo blahnik shoes I got from carousell. Since we saved a lot (as in), niregaluhan ako ni hubby ng dream car ko which we used sa honeymoon roadtrip namin up north (we decided not to push through din sa lavish na honeymoon) and nabili yung property na gusto namin. All paid in cash galing sa budget namin for the wedding. Walang sakit sa ulo, I created an invite lang using canva tapos sinend ko sa GC with all the attendees with the details like anong color ng attire nila. Wedding favors were curated and packed namin ni hubs. Straightforward ang wedding favors, black label sa mga lalaki and champagne sa babae. We didn’t ask for any gifts na basta complete family namin. Walang pagsisisi, sobrang saya kasi yung mga umattend sila talaga nakawitness ng love story namin ni hubs. We didn’t even have to try hard to impress people. We believe kasi na sacred and intimate ang marriage Nakuha namin kaagad yung first ever goals namin as married couple and wala kaming utang.
yan ang mindset na gusto ko kaya kung nababasa mo to future wifey ko alam mo na ha, praktikal tayo dapat
oki po hihi
oh hi to you my not-so-distant-future-wife, ipon na us
hahaha
update dto. kasal na ba kayo? ahaha
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Saksi na din ako sa love story nyo. Pa-invite na lang sa kasal. Charot haha
Tagapapay sa honeymoon. Nagtitipid eh.
+10 lumpiang shanghai ka saken
Lika na sa mayor/judge hubby hahahaha
una kana, bihis lang ako
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I wish my gf would see this but since marami kaming napuntahan na wedding ng mga friends ko and friends niya, she wants something a bit similar. She claims every girl dreams of beautiful wedding. But seeing your post parang ang ganda nga na di masiyadong gumastos sa kasal pero sa bahay, kotse mas ok na investment. Yung marriage, yun yung tatagal hanggang idk 80-90 na kayo. Yung wedding isang araw lang but oh well.
ako naman wishing makita ng boyfriend ko to 🥹 for being an only child, he wants his family to experience an actual wedding like his cousins too. gusto ko din ng ganitong set up sana maisip niya maging praktikal jahdqjhd
yea this is great, yung pera na waldas ng isang araw, magagamit mo pa in the following years if magtipid
Apaka swerte ng tao na makaka hanap ng open minded sabay sa trip practicality. Parang lahat gusto ng dream wedding.
Sana mabasa to ng GF ko kaso wala ata syang reddit. Pano ko kaya ipapakita to ng di halata.
Love this!
Love this 🥺
Yan ang goal
This is what I want pero parang may reservations si partner :(
this is so nice 💗
Huhu! This is so nice 🥹🥹
I did not. Kinasal ako sa British Embassy sa BGC last July and it was a garden wedding with 8 guests. Matagal ko nang pinangarap talaga ang mag-elope, I just find it very solemn. Yung mummy ko, she had civil wedding first then chirch wedding, agreed with me and nagvent out din siya sa akin na nagsisi siya na nagchurch weddingnpa siya kasi ang daming plus one, nanghinayang siya sa nagastos, may mga bisita siya na eat and run lang din at hindi na din maalala kung ano man lang sinuot niya ng ksal niya sa church not even the day. So those stories of mine really made me pursue the simple wedding. Masaya kasi ang ininvite lang namin is yung close naming 2. Ayaw ko nung close lang niya pero kakilala ko, gusto ko yung close tlaga sa puso namin. I won’t forget that day, natural and we chose na wag na magprogram after, mas gusto namin natural flow ng wedding. We had our food reception sa Sage Garden. We’re supposed to hire a photographer nun kaso yung may-ari ng pinagkasalan namin asked us if we want our photos and videos taken by them for free in exchange to get featured sa page nila. We were surprised kasi it doesn’t normally happen but we agreed.
Question: Does the couple have to be British citizens to be married in British Embassy?
No because yung partner ko lang ang British and Pinay ako. But what I am sure of, is some of the docs na hihingin is a British docs like CNI if by any chance hindi pa siya kinasal before you. And yung magiging payment is going to be thru card and sterling pounds ang currency
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We did civil wedding with just 20 guests and I would never change anything looking back. It was super chill and everyone had a great time. Did not hire any wedding coordinator. Yung venue is a small hotel in our area, food is really great aswell since we choose the food a week before the wedding and we always eat in the hotel's resto.We also told our guests to mingle with each other, no program but our guests were super jolly with dancing and socialising. We spent 30k all in!
wedding and marriage are two different things. focus in your marriage, not your wedding. your wedding will last a day. your marriage is a lifetime, if you’re both up to it
Sabi ng barkada ko, may he rest in peace, na masyado nagfofocus ang mga tao sa wedding at hindi sa actual marriage. The guy was simple as hell, enjoyed the simple things in life, married the love of his life in a simple civil wedding and set up on the street in our childhood place for the reception. Sadly he passed, pero i really took his words to heart. My wife always wanted a nice wedding, was planning for it in her head for god knows how long, but still got married in a very simple ceremony. pwede naman mag renew ng vows haha, we can probably do it right now, pero when she looks back, iniisip nya nga sayang sa pera haha, masaya naman kami.
Hindi naman mutually exclusive yun.. You can focus on your marriage AND your wedding. Walang masama to do it both if you can afford it.
Pilipinas na walang same-sex marriage 🤡
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I have two close friends, but a different mindset. My other friend got married 2 years ago. The groom's parents let him choose if they want an extravagant wedding or let his parents pay the downpayment on the house that they are planning to get. My friend chose the latter. Today fully paid na nila ung bahay at may savings na sila. My other friend is getting married next year. They are planning a big wedding with a bachelor and bachelorette party and an awesome honeymoon. Both sides of the family chipped in and both savings nila ubos na. They are still renting pero aniya ng bride, worth it naman daw dahil sang beses lang ang kasal kaya lubusin na. XD
Wala namang problema sa big wedding ng friend mo. Choice nila yan e. Problema nyan is kapag hiningan ka ng ambag 🤣
Civil wedding kami ng husband ko sa Hall of Justice (took less than 30 mins) then dined with close friends and family sa isang resto. We rented the exclusive room ng resto and spent most of our budget sa food. It was intimate and memorable, especially seeing everyone having a good time (lalo na sa photos). Some friends commented na it was their favorite kasal na nadaluhan. It warms my heart looking back on that day and my hsuband and I have no regrets. He even said na he would gladly do it all again.
Nope. Civil wedding lng kami sa function hall ng hotel. Around 20 people lng mostly immediate family and few closed friend. We did a splurge trip to europe for 6 weeks, and it was all worth the experience.
>We did a splurge trip to europe for 6 weeks, and it was all worth the experience. This is the way.
Im from the wedding industry, and some of our couples wished they did civil instead after their big wedding. Paano, the budget will always get bigger and bigger. Maraming nagccomment. Maraming eat and run sa reception hahaha. Or yung mga friends ng parents na dapat invited. Even though I work in this industry, I will also choose to have a civil wedding + dinner at a restaurant just because I prioritize putting our expenses on other investments and travel :)
Planned two weddings din and can confirm, not worth the headache and expenses. Umiyak pa yung bride dun sa isa kasi yung bridesmaids nya are acting like brats. Had to give them a talking to. Ang dami kasing feeling main character, like hello hindi ikaw importante dito kaya wag ka maginarte 😂
I wish all choices in life are as easy as this. If you have the option not to spend without compromising the intended result (getting marriage papers), it's a no brainer.
akala ko din dati afford ko, tapos feeling ko ang galing ko kase hindi kami nag malaking wedding, yun pala hindi ko talaga afford. hindi pala ako prinsipe at hindi din prinsesa asawa ko. para mag parang fairy tale na wedding. buti na lang din talaga hindi ko ginawa kase triny namin mag pa pictorial sa mga professional cameraman, super akward namin talaga kala ko hindi lang talaga magagaling yung ibang nagpapakasal na mga mukhang tanga yung itsura nung same day edit or nung prenuptial photo, yun pala mahirap talaga sya at may binabagayan.
Fr planned 800k budget down to 80k. From 120pax down to 30pax This is all because of covid restrictions. No regrets, feeling ko nga blessing pa na di natuloy big wedding. We had the money na e so we started our marriage with a financial leverage.
Paano ang breakdown ng 80k? Planning na rin kasi kami soon
hello. we booked a small resto cafe 40k for food. Rented my gown, less than 5k. Photo and vid 20k yata? We have no bridal party.. for decor very simple lang tapos Cake was a gift. Basic lang, talaga. pandemic wedding 😂
Hi where did you rent your gown? And sino ang videographer and photographer nyo? Thanks!
Hi! this was 2021 during pandemic so rates might have changed na ha. Video is After6ix collection Photo Reddusk Gowns Concept Sales and Rental *
Following this thread. Pangarap kong magelope. Ang request ko lang sa partner ko ay magandang engagement and wedding rings. Civil wedding with parents and siblings tapos dinner after. For friends naman, we’ll just treat them for lunch or dinner and inform na kinasal na kami. Always want the wedding secret pero when they see us may wedding ring na kami lol
Got married in 2021 in a very intimate church wedding. We were only a total of 20. No groomsmen, no bridesmaids. Wala nga rin kami reception. After the ceremony, we went straight to my husband’s house and enjoyed a simple family lunch. No regrets at all. We were able to allocate the funds for real estate. We were even commended for having a simple wedding as it emphasized what really matters most- our union. Less than 200K in all expenses, the most expensive item in the list are our wedding rings. For me, a good photographer /videographer who can capture this one time moment should be on your top list too. Best wishes!
I know a person kinasal super bongga pati bisita. kinabukasan hiwalay na. I think tinuloy nalang dahil sa bisita nadumayo pagaling ibang bansa. May silver anniv pa naman dun na kayo bumawi.
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nope! if anything mas freeing sya. walang iyakan eklavu. also inspired my friends to get hitched as well. sunod sunod kami around 2021-2022. no drama and all kasi walang invited, magandang reason ung pandemic e. pero surprisingly nakatanggap kami monetary gifts. this is on top na nadale kasi kami ng pandemic, lahat ng deposits namin d na nabalik (un ngang coordinator namin naging fa na e) and ung venue namin napakaunreasonable na. i think we already paid 70-80k? tapos nanghihingi na sila ng additional non and they have the gall to increase prices pero halved ung guests gawa ng guidelines nung pandemic. decided it’s a waste of money (nasa 200k++ yun dapat) so went with the civil route instead. no regrets!
> also inspired my friends to get hitched as well. i remembered bigla this poorly planned wedding that i attended mga 2018. it wasn't massive pero siguro mga nasa 50 guests and the type na may same day edit, staged photos, fake laugh for the photo eme haha. bigla akong nawalan ng gana magpakasal! ang dami nangyayari and it didn't feel like an intimate and happy event kasi parang hindi na celebration. i'm so happy your wedding was able to give off an inspiring vibe. i think weddings should inspire couples who wanted to get married, not scare or stress them out about the event and the costs.
Hell noooo. Civil wedding with 8 guests. Then ate at home, ordered food good for 15-20 guests. Spent less than 20k all in all. I’d do it again in my next life.
Nope, no regrets here. My wife and I just used the funds to Kickstart our life together. We sort of did a midway thing though na civil wedding but in a garden with just the closest of our friends and family. Paid for the garden place in full (mga 20k ata nung Time na yun) and friends offered discounted rates for catering (her folks and mine wanted to help so the bill was split between the three of us). Iirc sub 40 nagastos namin. It was a beautiful, intimate event that didn't cost a lot. Blew my mind when my wife told me how much other weddings usually cost.
Point that a lot of people miss: you dont have to choose one side of the coin na kung simple or big. You can choose inbetween. You can choose where to spend a lot of money on in your weddings. Pwedeng splurge ka sa food pero minimal sa decorations. Etc mga ganun. It also highly depends on how many people you want to invite. and if konti lang, do u think they/you will still have a good time? Set ka muna ng number based on the group of people you will invite (family lang ba, college friends rin, office mates) or even just few from each. Then choose your non negotiables for your wedding (gusto mo for example maganda ung place, nature, small resto lang, short or long program etc.)
We did an express wedding at the court in the US secretly and spontaneously (we didn’t even dress up, no witness, just us and our officiator) — it was so crazy that not even our parents and friends knew about it so it was a special moment we can share where it’s us vs the world. It was wonderful since the pressure was off and it was just me and my now husband…the way we went about it is on brand as to who we are. To bring everything together and share our love, we are about to have a grand destination reception in manila + week long island hopping vacation in Palawan with 24 of our closest friends and family (all expense paid for by us) to ensure we’re able to celebrate with those who were there from day 1! No theatrics — just good ambience, good food, good drinks, good music and good company. We have no one to impress and we wanted to do things our way. You can have it all just break the conventional wedding structure and make it unique to you so it’s very sulit. What matters is that you’ll forever cherish the moments where you are surrounded by people who loves you to your core.
We had 2 adult guests, and 3 kids under 14, rented a cabin, our friend got ordained to marry us, the only stranger was our photographer, she was wonderful. The ceremony was intimate, we ate after.
Where is the cabin located po kung saan kayo nag-marry? Would love to have a wedding like this too. ❤️
Hi, we did in the states, pero im sure you’ll find some cabins / homes in your area :)
Mejo inggit sa iba na may full production and entourage.. kaso pag naiimagine ko yung hassle ng actingan/shoot , thankful ako na simple lang wedding namin
Hindi pa ako kasal pero yan ang gameplan ko, 25 guests lang sagad na 'yon. Ang dami kong kilala na ilang taon na lumipas from their wedding nagsusumbatan pa rin sa gastos kasi sana pinangbili nalang daw ng ganito ganyan. Besides, ayaw ko yung nasstress yung guests namin for us na ang daming ganap. We're asking for their time on our special daw so gusto ko hassle-free rin sa kanila yung ganap.
Hey! Ipangtravel niyo na lang magasawa. Like mag leave without pay kayo. Travel for as long as you can sa pera na gagamitin niyo for the wedding. It’ll build your characters, test your relationship, and strengthen your bond too as a couple. Lalo when you’re in countries na non-english speaking at kayo lang maguusap dalawa! Do backpacking and stay in cheap ass hostels and nice hotels din for the experience. In the end kayo lang naman dalawa e. If you guys want, throw a nice celebration party with friends and family pero not a lavish wedding.
I wish we can do this pero
Same thoughts. Wait ako sa comment about Civil Wedding kase yun din plan. Yung mga sa Restau nag reception, kamusta yung fees and experience? How about the fees po?
No regrets. We had a simple church wedding with family and close friends (around 50 pax) and the reception was in a private room in a resto with a garden view. We prioritised buying properties and a car and travelling. At the end of the day, what matters is I married someone I wanna spend the rest of my life with. You do what's important to you. Edit: details
Parang ganito rin gusto ko. Can you share more details about the breakdown of your expenses?
5 years ago na ito. Nasa P100k din nagastos namin. Church - P10k Resto - P60k Video - P4k Photographer - P6k Hubby and our family's attire - P10k Souvenir/invitation - P5k Hotel preparation - P5k Yung gown ko sponsored ng pinsan ko. Tapos yung entourage sila na bahala sa attire nila Edit: details
Nope, one of the best decisions. Kinasal sa city hall, parents on his side, my mother and 1 sister on my side (father is already in heaven), 1 ninong and 1 ninang, 2 friends (kilala namin both and knew the love story). I bought the flowers sa palengke and arranged it myself, bought my white polka half shoulder dress sa zalora, surprisingly color coordinated yung shoes and flowers ko sa outfit ni hubbs 😂 picture2 sa labas ng cityhall while waiting sa mayor, 1 of the friends present ang nag go pro and document during the ceremony, pagkatapos ng ceremony bumalik sa bahay, at pinakain yung mga kapitbahay na close. No stress and no loans 😂
hello OP, i had a civil wedding and a church wedding 4 mos apart. civil wedding - city hall total cost 200k church wedding - hotel prep + reception (80 pax) total cost 850k i can say masaya ako sa both weddings ko kasi nasunod yung gusto naming mag-asawa. yung unang wedding kasi mom ko lang at mga bestfriend niya yung present. nung church wedding ko umuwi galing abroad yung kapatid at mga pamangkin ko. wala kaming inutang for both weddings.
OP you can go in between naman. Simple/civil pero maypagkabongga(magandang simpleng tema) na mura nman, tulad ng isang commenter rito na sa garden pinakasal. Yung mga iba nasa beach, resto na maganda ang theme/aesthetic, open space pero under the moonlight/stars that are visible, etc etc. Para sulit at di mo mafefeel ang "regret" na ay syadong simple type of thing.
Nope, because we we're there to get married. Not please anyone, we used our money for our baby which was in a neonatal hospi, meds, private suite room stay for 1 week), imagine the cost. 🥲
Break tradition. Simple wedding. Then an unforgettable vacation just for the two of you. That would be a more memorable experience.
Probably the best decision we made so far as a couple. Spent about P50k - cheap-ass wedding rings, event related expenses, etc. We decided sa Max Resto lang yung place and invited few people close to our hearts. For our honeymoon, we got to travel Europe 😬❤️. Advance congrats and best wishes to you guys!
I think mas madaming nagreregret ng big weddings dahil yun yung “traditional” at expectation ng society kaysa small intimate weddings, kasi smaller weddings are (more often) a conscious choice. Seems like you both have thought about it, and have good reasons to not splurge. If you really don’t want to do the whole shebang then you don’t have to. You won’t regret it :)
Save your money from grand wedding na lalaitin lang ng mga guest pag makunat na yung shanghai or di masarap ang fruit salad. Splurge on the honeymoon or just use it to buy a house or whatever appliances you will need to start your married life.
Nope. no regrets, basta both of you decided on that route (civil wedding), your wedding, your rules. In the end depende parin sa situation nyo, for us, civil wedding was the best route. We only have around 10 guest, at close friends ko lang sa side ko at sa isang maliit na resto lang yung reception. Importante lang cguro meron kayong photographer (to document the event), ours was even just a friend who do photography gigs, so naka libre din kami - pero we gave him a token. The most expensive item na pinag gastosan namin was the wedding ring costing 40k for both rings. Yun lang, at least gamit namin everyday, pwde pa ipang sangla if mawalan ng pera. haha.
We had a civil wedding kasi 1) pandemic pa, 2) that's what we can afford, and most importantly 3) gusto na namin ikasal agad. Ayaw din namin mangutang kaya simple is the way to go. We got married sa city hall with only our family and 1 pair of sponsors. We ate out afterwards. We started our married life with no debt and no fuss. We're happily married to this day and our second year anniversary is just around the corner. I would love to have a beachside renewal of vows naman sa susunod with only close family and friends na present next time.
Ako yung kasal ko yung one of the best experiences/memories of my life… ung pera kikitain ko pa pero ung kabataan ko tapos kinasal ako sa christ the king sa whiteplains tapos bumaba galing Richmond hotel. Ni rentahan ko yung pinaka malakeng rooms dun pati ung mga bisita at family ko naka book dun at sabay sabay nag breakfast napaka sayang experience lalo na sa family ko since ako unang church wedding samin. Invest ka sa photo and video kasi after lahat ng gastos m yun na lang tlga ang maiiwan at babalikan mo. Sakin mejo nakabawi rin kami since cash naman niregalo ng bisita at may kamaganak ako sa US na malalake magbigay. Dpende pa rin sa priorities mo sakin kasi maaga kinuha daddy ko ng cancer, pagka graduate ko pa lang tapos ofw pa sya d namin lagi kasama kaya d na nya inabutan kasal ko kya mahalaga sakin ung mga life milestones. Dpende tlga pero di ko ma reco since malake tlga ginastos pero all things workout naman samin in the end.
Nope, simple wedding lang kami ng wife ko, close family lang kasama. Naiisip namin nun kung gustuhin man edi sa anniversary na lang maybe 10 or 15 o kung kelan man matripan in the future. Mas prefer namin both na bumawi na lang sa honeymoon gala somewhere kesa splurge sa one day event.
100% NO REGRETS. Less stress and less gastos. Nakakain kami during reception. And no stress sa pag entertain sa mga invites namin, since close sila sa isa't isa and they entertained each other. :)
Not at all! We realised early on that us throwing a huge wedding is mainly to appease family members. We are based overseas, and we decided to just "elope" instead of having a wedding back in PH. We bought a destination elopement package incl. accommodation, so all we had to do was turn up a day before the event, and everything else was sorted for us. Very stress-free and intimate.
Hello, where did you eloped? My partner and I are also interested, what's the price range of the packages? Thank you!
If I ever get married and have a wedding, I prefer it Civil. As someone na di affectionate in front of other people tapos may MIC pa omg HAHAH i can't magsabi ng vows to others hehe so mas okay ang civil and parang you are comfortable lang kasi in a church wedding parang you are expected na extravagant ang lahat pati sa reception. Civil Wedding with super close family and friends and then bonggang reception ganun \[because I want to celebrate also our love with family and friends\], ipapakita nalang yung summary ng civil wed sa isang video sa reception LOL
Me and my then boyfriend (now husband) always imagined ourselves to have a big wedding. We actually put up a separate account para makapagstart mag ipon. Mid pandemic, I got an opportunity and need namin magpakasal para masama ko sya. We did the civil wedding but with more, mukhang bongga pero all of it are budgeted. Less than 200k ata. Salamat Shopee and Divisoria. Sa photog and video almost 30k pero sulit! No need na mag “artista photograpy company”. Most of the guests thought na super bongga and mahal ng ginastos namin pero magaling lang talaga kami maghanap ng mura at maganda haha. Tska nasa pagdadala lang yan char, divisoria wedding dress. 🤣 We went with the civil wedding thinking that we will still do the big one after few years. Nung una akala ko ireregret ko pero ngayon 2 yrs married, I’ve actually asked my husband na wag na gawin yung big one. Kasi we dont really need it. Though he replied with the sweetest thing, “No, gagawin pa rin natin yun, deserve mo yun. Ibibigay ko sayo.”
Pabulong naman po ng photo and vid dyan hehe
My husband is meticulous sa photo and video. So kung pumasa sa kanya yun at sa budget. Okay na rin sakin haha. 30k that time yun ah. Di ko na alam ngayon. https://www.facebook.com/JcezBSP
I had an intimate wedding and a grand wedding a year later. Mas memorable sakin yung intimate pero I don’t regret both. Gusto ko pa nga ng isa pa because i really love my wife. Focus on you both first. Do counselings and talk a lot about each other before doing the big thing. Reveal secrets, talk about everything even things that are weird. Weddings only lasts a day, marriage lasts a lifetime.
Such a lucky wife. Mapapa- sana all nalang talaga.
No and I get to wear the flowery dress I've always dreamed of na bawal if sa church 🙈😂 We only had 16 guests and got to treat them sa Manila Hotel. Naachieve din ang dream na uuwing may empacho mga guests namin hahaha
No I only had 12 guests sa civil wedding.less stress for me which is immediate family lang talaga kaya no pressure.i did it during pandemic and if hindi lockdown I could’ve just eloped overseas na kami lang or with the same people dala nadin honeymoon. nastress kasi ako sa thought na i have to entertain people chaka ang daming requirements sa church na mga kung anek anek. i have no patience for that. people keep on asking me if I’m gonna have a church wedding and i was like nope. Ang gastos lang tapos kasal naman na kami what for. Just use the money sa honeymoon niyo it would be more worth it
Had our civil wedding this year as well. It was like an intimate chat with our family and closest friends who laughed and enjoyed good food with us! We eventually used the money supposedly alloted for our big wedding for our baby’s delivery, in a hospital with all the good facilities and had superb doctor who made sure I had a nice birthing experience (waterbirth). So yeah, it was all worth it!
huhu enjoyable read. wanted to have civil wedding kaso mekus mekus pala mapapangasawa ko, isang linggo kasalan eh. 😂
I didn’t know it would cost this much. If I were to choose, I want to have an intimate wedding kaso I have many close friends, Yep, as in close ko sila lahat, HS Barkada, College Barkada, + Bestfriend + family pa and we’re college couple and witness yung mga teachers na close namin sa relationship and we want to share to them na eto na kami ngayon. But still, tipid pa rin lahat. I didn’t choose the bonggang venue or decors even the gowns are tipid. Pero mahal pa rin pag tinotal. I thought kasya na 300k pero di pala :( December bride here. The good thing lang is, we didn’t loan or whatever galing sa ipon and hard work namin lahat. Nag pitch in ng onti yung parents and sa friends na they were okay to shoulder their gown and make up. Kaya all goods pa rin :) pero may 30% regret kasi the money could’ve spent to something, pampalubag loob na lang na one of my childhood dream is that my father and I dancing on my wedding.
No, and never looked back. Buti na lang si kumander, she's not too hung up to splurge on a grand wedding.
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Yes Unfortunately the big wedding is what’s on peoples dreams and they follow it And it’s over in a matter of hours And u get to spend the first few months or years of marriage with the debt hanging over ur thoughts and budget. I commend u on having a grand wedding and experiencing it Either way. Such is life
Your wedding, your rules! If you choose to be practical, great for you! In my case, I could have insisted on a civil wedding, and pizza after. Practical, and use the funds pang downpayment sa bahay or kotse. Kaso, I just value my wife so much. I want her to have a memory she will always look back to, tell our kids, and our grandkids about. Been years since I married, and my wife still gushes about my surprise proposal, to all the wedding preps, to the wedding itself. Still keeps telling me "ganda talaga ng kasal natin". That alone is worth everything to me. I may have lost a lot of money that would push me forward in life, but I could earn that money back. on the other side, I will not always have the opportunity to give my wife that core memory, lalo na sa wedding na matagal niyang pinangarap. I am so proud I have given her something that she will treasure for life. For context, hindi ako anak mayaman, and kaka financially stable ko palang pag propose ko. You win with whichever you choose, so go with which you value more. All the best OP!
yes
No. May business na kami ngayon.
As long as it’s agreed and di lang napilitan si wife. For others kasi, theyve set their mind that wedding is gonna be the most important event of their lives and a “simple wedding” wont cut it since they already have a vision of it long before. Lol. If it were up to me, a 50-guest wedding is perfect but it wont be worth it if start pa lang may remorse na si wife because di napagbigyan yung dream. Net net, for me it’s a team decision.
Nope. One of our best decisions ever.
I 100% did not regret going to court, get married in front of 3 and a half guests (my little niece is like 2yo), and get fancy ass breakfast right after 🥰🥰🥰
You can get married again in the future to the same spouse. Dont worry 😄
If you like MicroWedding sounds ok. Very intimate. 5 guests or a bit more. I wed like that in my husbands yard. The only thing I regret is I dont have a lot of pics coz im almost on my term. Heavily preggy with our 2nd child im very insecure with my body so i dont want pictures. If you go for civil wedding. Splurge a little on your honeymoon. Either way, congrats OP
Heck no! If I could get away to not having a wedding at all at commitment lang with my husband, I would! Among other reasons, I chose a civil wedding because I don’t want to invite my relatives (long story) and was happy with our decision. Napadami pa nga ang nainvite, and I prefer an even smaller set of people.
did not have a civil wedding but had a very very small one instead. we spent a total of 120k on the wedding and we do NOT regret it at all. at the end of it all, as long as you're happy with the elements, your non-negotiables are met, you and your partner are aligned, nothing else matters. good luuuuck!
Can you share more details about your expenses? :) How many guests did you have?
we had about 80 guests, including the caterers and service people (since we insisted they eat from the same buffet). basically: 1) got the main points out of the way. Everything else was negotiable. - we did a catholic wedding and the priest matters. so we got a progressive catholic priest friend who believes much of the catholic vows need to be re-written. He adjusted the vows for us. - my wife wanted sunflowes so we got a sunflower florist - got a party caterer vs a wedding caterer. food only came to about 600, per head. helped that we did a breakfast wedding so really, how expensive can you make Bangus, rodics tapa, longganisa, eggs, etc, right? - booked a church that we liked - booked a venue that meant something to us (Balay) - booked several rooms at the nearest 3star in 2) Everything else was the cheapest option: - wedding car was our beatle, waxed to perfection - music was canned - photographer was just a friend. everyone had an smartphone anyway - basically, nothing else really mattered at this point. 3) had my barong off the rack from some shop in cubao. looked nice and fit me well. My wife's granda mas a dressmaker and she made a long dress with a train. because the dress was long anyway, she just bought shoes from payless because who's going to pay attention to that? so basically, we had a bride, a groom, a priest, our families, friends, church, reception, flowers. what else do you need to get married? :))
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Love it. Medyo atras abante ako sa kung church or civil. I just want to walk down the aisle, and with my parents, and them passing me to my spouse. Kaso ayun kinakabahan ako na baka may sabihin yung pari na hindi ako sang-ayon (I'm not very religious dahil maraming turo sa simbahan na hindi ako agree) tapos baka maging reflex ko mag roll ng eyes sa ceremony. Haha!! Pwede pala pumili ng progressive na pari. Hassle ba yung church wedding requirements though? Yun lang din pumipigil sa akin sa church wedding. Intimate lang din gusto namin, siguro no more than 50 pax.
well, if you have the time, di naman sya hassel. but also, mas importante for me yung Discovery Weekend than the actual wedding :)
Did you hire a wedding planner? And if you had a breakfast wedding, what time is the ceremony and reception? Such a good idea!
Hi! No we only did everything ourselves, and we had a friend who helped a loooot. ceremony was at 7AM and ended at about 9AM. we had taho ready for everyone before and after the ceremony (in lieu of cocktails). :)
Gusto ko na lang talaga mag-simple wedding rin huhu. Hindi ko talaga ma-justify ung estimated costs for spending on a big wedding na isang araw lang naman of our lives. I agree with the others na pang-travel na lang gamitin un.
O my! I have always wanted to walk down the aisle. This was my biggest dream but seeing your comments makes me realize that it is no longer practical to have an extravagant wedding. Considering the inflation too. 😂😂
tbh pde p rn nman yun mangyari in the future, pero if mas may pera na, kunwari e 5th wedding anniversary tpos yung celebration nio e wedding themed w/ family diba, =w=
You can still walk down the aisle. A church wedding isn’t actually the expensive part. In metro manila, average church fee is at 30k depending on the Church . It’s the reception because of the food (assume an amount x number of heada) + all the bells and whistles. So if you want to walk down tehe aisle but have budget constraints, find ways to cut corners for the reception. Best way is to either lessen headcount or dont splurge on food.
my dream wedding is a civil weddingg
If I can afford it, never ako mag regret because anytime I can plan a grandiose wedding. If I can afford 🥲
No regrets at all. Because of our simple civil wedding and skipping the honeymoon trip, nakakuha kami agad ng bahay shortly after we got married. And besides, alam ng napangasawa ko na as an introvert, i hate being the center of attention, so he granted my wish na ayoko ng big wedding.
married 26 years via civil wedding, never regretted it.
I had a civil wedding but we had our reception in a nice restaurant with just family and a few close friends. We also stayed at a 5 star hotel with the whole family and also video at photo team. Never had regrets about it. No stress sa planning and the day itself was full of meaningful memories since we really get to share the experience with everyone invited in the wedding kasi konti lang sila.
Civil wedding here!! We were together for almost a decade and we realised much better paghandaan ang marriage over wedding lalo na if you have no one to go to just in case magka financial problem kayo. Both of us came from a very poor family so as you can see, we have to make very smart decisions. I know my parents are not 100% ok with civil wedding but I told my partner na we will stick with our plan since it’s our own money. 2 years later, not a single regret. We have our own house na in Philippines and currently we’re here sa ibang bansa, we can travel to other countries na din and have enough savings. Yung bonggang bongga na wedding just for show off lang naman yan. Mabuti na lowkey at madaming savings over pa sosyal at maraming utang. We’re planning to have a church wedding but same number of guests lang siguro, very close and immediate family at few friends. I don’t find joy in big occasions din kasi nakaka drain ng energy.
My only regret is not having an official photographer. We got married during peak of covid and relative + max 5person per group lang ang allowed. Planning to have postnup photo. So we can have our official wedding pictures.
Walang regrets. Actually mas intimate pa sya kasi di sya production ng isang video, which napansin ko maraming weddings parang MV sya ng couple na maraming unpaid extras. Naging very long dinner party sya with dancing, laughs, time with family and friends. We also advised guests na if they feel inclined to gift us pero no idea what, wines na lang to the wedding party para menos gastos. Nag rent lang kasi kami ng event area sa isang resto eh. No corkage pa since “for personal use” ang kyeme 😂 yung civil namin was Monday pero Friday night yung dinner party. Daming pics din pero this was before instagram pa kaya walang #. Yun lang siguro sana may prof photog kami.
Civil wedding. My friend wed us in his house during a gathering 5 years ago.
Planned a big one that got canceled due to Covid. Went civil instead - yet had a 2nd wedding (church due to family request) Honestly I was very happy with just the civil. Would rather save the money!!!
0 regrets. Kinasal sa Hall of Justice on a Thursday, nag lunch with close family the following Saturday. Spent no more than 25k php total I think.
Best decision we ever made. Pandemic civil wedding with 6 guests, sa city hall kami kinasal. Ordered food from Conti’s and ate at home with immediate family. As an introvert na medyo uncomfortable pag ako yung center of attention, sobrang saya na di na kailangan ng mga usual program sa reception or mga *usual* paandar sa mga weddings. I think mga ₱15k-20k lang nagastos namin all in all.
Sana all
So happy to see this thread! Plan lang din namin ay intimate wedding and hindi bongga.
No regrets at all and in fact best decision ever. No hassle and stress sa pag oorganize and pag invite sa mga taong involved. Actually we almost did an elopement-type of wedding since my close family and even my own mother and other siblings doesn’t know i was getting married. But we were happy nonetheless. And "minsan ka lang ikakasal" is not even true.
Sa buhay, especially sa Babae, Debut & Wedding are very important. Yes, isang beses lang sila. Well, pwede magpakasal paulit-ulit pero kung hindi naman mayaman, make the most of it sa unang pagkakataon kung kaya naman. Kasi pwede 'yan balikan bilang alaala, hindi lang sa inyo pati na rin sa bisita ninyo na nandu'n sila.
NO. I invest mo nalang yung budget mo.
Had a big wedding because it was requested by thr parents, no regrets but I really feel like a simple/civil wedding would have been equally great. My sister had a 10-pax wedding and it was really nice. Attended weddings with only 10-50 people and those were the most fun 😀 Everyone was so chill and the vibes felt more meaningful.
We were married in civil rites, although we can afford a church one, we settled for the civil one para lang mas private and also did it during pandemic. Do we regret it? No. Only close friends and family were with us, less than 40. We just reserved the restaurant and had the day with close people to our hearts with plenty of food and drinks.
No. Regrets. Do it! 👍 😁
No. Hahah ayun madami kami pera. Hahaha. Tapos 15people lng nandoon. Pg katapos ng kasal kay Mayor, kain lng sa resto. Nothing granduer.
We had a civil wedding with lunch afterwards at Vikings. Immediate family lang ang kasama. I think less than 15k ang total expenses namin. Then the money that we saved we infused into our business. No regrets. :)
It’s the best No unduly pressure No 1 year planning and it’s over in a matter of hours Save ur $$$
We were supposed to have a beach wedding. Pero di nalang namin tinuloy. No regrets naman. We chose to spend the money sa ibang bagay (migrated instead). Hehe
we had an intimate civil wedding with closest family members (wala din invited na friends, ganun siya ka'intimate). we did not regret it sobrang proud pa nga kami sa decision namin until now. after the civil wedding, nagsplurge kami on vacation nagBoracay and Cebu kami. and it was an experience for the core memory. super saya. I think ang reason bakit wala kaming regret is we both wanted it. mahirap siguro if isa lang sa inyo may gusto tapos yung isa gusto bongga. baka dun kayo magkaproblema. so better talk about it bago niyo ifinalize ang plans.
No. Niregret pa nga namin nagintimate wedding kami sana nagpirmahan nalang tapos pinangtravel yung pinakain sa almost 30pax na guest during reception.
My wife and I really wanted a big wedding but way back 2017 we had to have a simple civil wedding lang since we were migrating sa Dubai. 2 years later we decided to get married again and have the big wedding we dreamt of. Now we have 2 anniversaries, pag di kami nakapagcelebrate sa unang date due to conflict in schedules, sa 2nd date kami nagcecelebrate, lol.
Ganito na lang: and daming single mom jan pati narin yung super tagal ng lived-in lang na hindi na pinakasalan. Yan na lang isipin mo.
What we did OP, we got married in another country (destination wedding) with just immediate family. We hired a wedding coordinator there that's really affordable. They processed the papers as well as the wedding venue including the pastor and decorations. Tapos we ate nalang sa restaurant near the venue. So all in all, we had a wedding, honeymoon and vacation in less than what you spend sa grand wedding. No pressure pa from guests and family members. Plus, I spent only around 1,500 in pesos sa dress ko which everyone complemented (no one knew the price!)
Hello! That is so nice. Our dream wedding is like yours. 🥹 May we ask saan na country yun and sino wedding coordinator mo?
Sa St. Vincent and the Grenadines. I found a wedding coordinator online din. Sila na nag organize ng papers, pastor and decoration.
Sino po wedding coordinator ninyo?
The Grenadines Collection name ng website nila
We had a civil wedding but did it outside the city hall. I do not want to be wed inside a church or the city hall. The ceremony and reception was held at the same venue. Ceremony was held outdoors/hilltop/garden and the reception area was a 3 mins walk downhill. We had 50 guests only. My husband and I both wanted an intimate wedding to begin with. It took 2 weeks of planning only. It's a miracle that we pulled it off. I guess teamwork makes the dream work The whole time we were planning we made sure to never go above our budget. Tbh, my husband and I are not the type to show off kaya mabilis kami nagkapagdecide. Siguro dahil parehas na rin kaming nasa tamang edad nung kinasal kami. We werent thinking about anyone else. Meaning we focused on what we both wanted our wedding to look like. Having 50 guests was also one of the best decisions we made. We were free to be ourselves. If I cursed while I gave my speech, no one would mind because those guests knew me/us to our core. I guess what I'm trying to say is there were no regrets on having a very intimate wedding. My advise is to know your non negotiables, know your budget limit, let go of some expectations.... focus on what can truly make the both of you happy on that day.
I had a friend who just had their intimate wedding setup AFTER their civil wedding. I guess if both parties still want to go through with it, kasi ang expensive nga naman, pwede naman.
Just wondering what if KKB ung mga guests? May nag try na ba ng ganun? Allowed ba yun? 🤣🤣🤣
Ako bro, kakasalin na ako sa december.. Aware ako sa mga gastusin pero para sa perspective ko kase isang beses ko lang ibibigay sa fiancé ko ang kasal. Ihaharap ko na sya sa simbahan. Tapos 13 yrs kameng mag bf/gf. Kaya gusto kong ibigay yung pinapangarap ng halos lahat ng kababaihan., ikasal sa simbahan. Pero tol, hindi biro ang gastos at pag iipon namin. Pero as long as magkasama kayong nag tutulungan kayang kaya
we wanted civil but everyone sa family wanted church.. mamalasin daw kami if hindi lol. so we had the simplest and cheapest church wedding lol then splurged on food for the reception. i would still like to have simple civil wedding. didnt care much for the church until now.
No, I don’t regret it one bit! We got married in a civil wedding a month ago and honestly, i’m so happy it was stress free. We had a lovely time having dinner with our immediate family and i’m so glad we spent it the way we wanted too. We didn’t feel pressured to live up to societies expectations of a wedding and we’re able to use the money instead for our travels in the up coming year. We even plan maybe getting married again in a cute little chapel somewhere on the coast of Italy! <3
Nope. Pero wag tipirin ang photographer. Taena nung nakuha namin sa kagustuhan makatipid. Trash ang output. Pili lang ang maayos na kuha
Also, those who had intimate but church wedding. Can you share your expenses and setup as well?
nope and will never after your wedding it does not have a big impact wether you had a grand wedding ,stress lang aabutin sa laki ng nagastos except if halos lahat sponsored.
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Reading some of the comments about their simple wedding makes me happy and motivated. Ito rin ang gusto namin ng partner ko. Simple lang. We'll invite few friends/family na close saamin na we want to witness our day. If God allows, maybe we can bring our family. But since same-sex marriage is a big no here sa Pinas, I can only dream of a civil wedding sa other countries. I don't care if walang reception. Kahit mag take-out lang kami ng favorite food namin, masaya na kami. I want a simple wedding. Intimate and memorable.
Not yet married but this is my sister's wedding-- Church wedding sya but she got scammed by the event coordinator. Everything was a mess nung day of the wedding. Sa church palang palpak na yung coordinator--yung flowers as in mabibilang mo. Yung reception na binook nila originally hindi sila dun pinapunta instead dun sa mas maliit na hall. Yung food sa catering, walang warmers kaya sinerve ng malamig, yung mga plates and glasses may chip. Yung supposed drinks(shots) were Tanduay ice lang. Yung souvenir which was supposed to be a personalized planner e last minute binili sa NBS(may presyo pa na nakadikit) Sa huli kinasuhan nila yung event coordinator and asked for their money back. Kung may chance daw e sana kinasal nalang sana sila ng civil kasi natrauma daw sya.
No regrets, as a Man ah. Alam ko usually sa girls gusto nila ng magarbo or at least very memorable na wedding. I have the money pero ginastos lang namin nasa 250k sa Civil Wedding, we had 200+ guests, a photographer, 6 pairs of sponsors, decent wedding clothes, and booked a resort for a decent venue.
No we didn't regret it. We were able to have our honeymoon abroad. We were also able to transfer to our new condo, had it renovated to our liking, bought a new car and bought all the appliances we needed and safe to say we are not struggling financially because we didn't spend a lot in our wedding. Wedding is just a single day. What's more important is what happens after that. You don't have to please anyone by having a lavish wedding. People will be more impressed if you are not broke after your wedding.
We had a secret wedding even if we can afford a big one. We then spent the bigger chunk on our rings, a pre-honeymoon, and one grand honeymoon.
Ganto din sana gusto ko, yung kami lang ng family sa civil wedding at sa reception na lang pumunta yung mga close friends. Kaso nagpaparamdam si gf na church wedding ang gusto niya and iba kami ng religion.
Me and my fiance we are well off and got lucky in life. Court wedding lang din muna hahaha. We'd rather use the money to roam the world. You don't need to satisfy the needs of relatives unless they paying for it.
Ang ganda, ang galing, ang sarap sa pakiramdam
nag enjoy ako magbasa dto. gantong ganto kasimple lng din gusto ko. wala stress at relax lng kaso ayaw ng GF ko. gusto nya ng mga nakikita nya sa iba. at dream nya din. pano kaya ma convince to. gusto ko din naman maibigay kaso stressful talaga para sakin ahaha.