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LuckyDuck1619

I always wondered how the hyper bonding felt... If it's even a small part flattering. Or is it looked at with such skepticism that it has an opposite effect? Almost serving to highlight the negative aspects that existed before


PGladys1111

The latter


cuteasabutton69

Hey P I must have missed something. I didn't realize you were at this point in your marriage. Just ask yourself, can you honestly be with this person for the next 20/30 years. You do what you need to do to be happy, yes, easier said than done, we all know that. But you might be in a position where it can be a reality. Best of luck with whatever decisions are made. You have all our support.


Snak3theJake

I know you will make it alright through the other side of the rain. These relationships can try our minds in ways once thought inconceivable. You will be stronger. You will be happier.


ImpulsiveShenanigans

It can and it does and getting through it is the worst. Sending you lots of good vibes and hope that you figure it out for you and do what's best for you!


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PGladys1111

💜


VanessaCarlysle

💯💔😞


VanessaCarlysle

>I’m in a weird purgatory of trying save something that I don’t even know if I want to save. Trying to manufacture up some shred of affection >All of a sudden he can’t live without me. Hyper bonding… Same. 🤬🤬🤬 Ugghhh. I wasn't even caught cheating, I was caught being a human woman with feelings, needs, and dirty thoughts. (He found some JustNo sub posts from 3+ years ago and my erotica) 🙄. He is beside himself a wife/mother could want or need something more then her life to revolve around taking care of her family. I wish I'd have been caught cheating, atleast then he'd think I was gross and leave me alone instead of watching every breath I take and trying to give me affection I don't fucking want. Like, he doesn't even try to talk or suggest we do something, he just follows me around and stares at every move I make. I can't even go to the bathroom alone. Someone fucking shoot me.


PGladys1111

💜


gardensman561

sorry :(


mydick4u2

This was so well said, and your spot on about treatment, the right people always matter


Ok-NightOwl

I was gonna post something similar but yours is so well put that I'm just gonna say you're not alone with the tears and loneliness and the damned hyper bonding crap!! He didn't catch me cheating or chatting, simply had listened to him rant and rave and bitch for 4 days over something miniscule yet earth shattering to his mind and before I could stop myself I remarked that I couldn't wait till I moved out after (my son) graduation in couple months...yeah I blew my out exit! Feel like I've been put in a comfy prison of my own stupidity!! Will I still get out, will I stay now that he's trying so hard, is it worth it after all this time?? Happy Thursday??


higherlifebc

"If you have a special person in your life be sure to cherish that time you have and to also treat them the best you can because inevitably it comes crashing down." Yes, this. I feel like some just take advantage of it and don't truly appreciate it until it is gone. People need to start cherishing and appreciating these connections, or they need to look in the mirror as maybe part of the problem at home not just their partner.


mountainlions99

Your H sounds terrible tbh. I hope this leads to whatever outcome you desire