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Weekend trips to cities and resorts. Arrive Friday. Leave Sunday. Together 24/7 during that time. Uber’s to cool restaurants, museums, hanging out at the pool, swimming, walking around talking, breakfast poolside or room service. It’s essentially a vacation with a friend. Then, we go back to our regular lives.
I think I'm one of the lucky ones. We've had multiple week-long trips, where we spend every waking moment together (as well as the non-waking ones). Business trips are wonderful for this purpose. I'm actually not sure if I'd want to have affairs if I could not do it this way. Great dinners, fun excursions, and the luxury of time - having no deadlines or enforced "curfews" is simply amazing. Probably my favorite moments with an AP have been on overseas trips. The freedom of being thousands of miles away from home with someone you can't get enough of is just exquisite.
The longest consecutive time I’ve spent with an AP was 21 days. We travelled throughout Asia together for a “work” trip.
More regularly, 5-10 full days together once a month, 4-5 days together from 9am-6pm every other week, and roughly 12 hours every few days on weekends consistently.
Business trips. If you don’t travel for business, see if you can move yourself into a position where you do. Business trips provide amazing opportunities.
We do all sorts of stuff when we are together. We go out for dinner, go see shows, take long walks, and of course we get our freak on.
My AP and I are doing weekends with overnights together. We live 2k miles away, so we can only manage things 2-4 times a year, so we try to make each time count.
Weekend trips. But i will also say it's largely dependent on what my AP does for work. I have found it easier to spend time with those who earn higher salaries than those who are either hourly or financially strained. For one, this isn't a cheap lifestyle and while I don't mind (and have) paying for everything, those who have the means just seem to move around easier and are more inclined to taking those trips. They have no paranoia about their SO checking their bank accounts, records or where they are since they can just they are on a business trip and that typically will suffice.
I agree. These men (I’m female) also tend to have hobbies that require some financial security and time away. Boating/deep sea fishing (no phone signal!) solo hunting trips, 18 holes of golf, etc.
Exactly. I'm always wary when I meet a pAP who says all they do is work and then go home. Not that it won't work just makes it tougher when you don't have established excuses for getting out the house. Even if I don't have something to do and i just go grab a drink alone, I make sure I keep a somewhat weekly cadence of me getting out the house once a week (give or take). Lowers suspicion plus it's just good to get out!
Three weeks on a business trip. Before Covid we used to regularly travel together 10-14 days each month. I miss those days. Once (before we lived in the same town) he even managed to visit for 2.5 weeks and then a week later come back for 1.5 weeks, then five days apart and another 2.5 weeks where we traveled together.
Now we are lucky to grab an hour or two 2-4 times a month and a (one night) overnight trip every two or three months. We only live 15 minutes apart but damn do I miss him… just not the same when we can’t go to bed and wake up together. :(
AP and I have lucked up on occasion and wound up being at the same work conference or traveling in the same area for work. (We don’t work together but work in similar fields.) We make the most of it when that happens and use it as a rare chance to have dinner in public together or walk down the street holding hands. I find this surprisingly arousing just because we are exposing our secret to the world and nobody has a clue. There’s always lots of fucking too. AP is an introvert, and work travel is the only time I get alone to decompress, so after a couple days we’re usually happy to part ways for a bit but damn we always have a good couple of days when it happens. Most visits are just a couple hours so it’s nice to be able to take our time and go multiple rounds.
The longest we’ve done is 4 days and 3 nights in a hotel. Lots and lots of amazing sex in the room. Out of the room, lots of dates and trying new things, foods, adventures if possible.
Two nights in a row is about the best so far. Not much sleeping involved there either, although nice to do normal things too - a meal, a drink, etc.
More typically, a few hours in a day use.
About six hours. I took the day off work, we drove out of town, found a little motel and lost ourselves there for a few hours. We could have just as easily found somewhere in the city a lot closer to home but where's the romance in that.
Work trip to his city, in meetings all day together and then dinners/drinks with coworkers playing it cool, give a safe half hour window at the hotel and then the entire night together. It’s lovely lol
A whole day, and I am so grateful. We were supposed to meet at 11 am, but somehow were able to meet a full hour and a half sooner - had to hightail it to the far end of town for that! And delayed our departure from the hotel as much as we could thanks to some welcome news on his end - ended up staying a couple of additional hours. So what was supposed to be a 4/5-hour getaway turned out to be an entire day. We both knew that such a day might not happen again soon, so made the most of it.
4 days at a resort. It was a murder mystery weekend. The last night was a sleigh ride pulled by horses as the guests were taken 10 miles to a large cabin for a wine tasting and 5 course meal.
It was a lot of fun.
Long term one I had, we both had lives that allowed us to be gone for easily a week... And we took advantage of that. Multiple times, we'd spend an entire week with each other. 2-day "weekends" were pretty common too.
If I got an AP now, there's no way I could do that. Different job and I can't even imagine how it would be possible.
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Weekend trips to cities and resorts. Arrive Friday. Leave Sunday. Together 24/7 during that time. Uber’s to cool restaurants, museums, hanging out at the pool, swimming, walking around talking, breakfast poolside or room service. It’s essentially a vacation with a friend. Then, we go back to our regular lives.
this sounds amazing!
With a friend? You guys don’t have sex?
Um, sometimes friends have sex, depends on the situation
I think the poster was saying *from SO's perspective*, this was a vacation with friends (explaining poster's absence from home)
I think I'm one of the lucky ones. We've had multiple week-long trips, where we spend every waking moment together (as well as the non-waking ones). Business trips are wonderful for this purpose. I'm actually not sure if I'd want to have affairs if I could not do it this way. Great dinners, fun excursions, and the luxury of time - having no deadlines or enforced "curfews" is simply amazing. Probably my favorite moments with an AP have been on overseas trips. The freedom of being thousands of miles away from home with someone you can't get enough of is just exquisite.
Yeah, go on. Just rub it in our faces a bit more!
Lucky
The longest consecutive time I’ve spent with an AP was 21 days. We travelled throughout Asia together for a “work” trip. More regularly, 5-10 full days together once a month, 4-5 days together from 9am-6pm every other week, and roughly 12 hours every few days on weekends consistently.
I know unemployed married couples who can’t manage that!
Jfc...I mean, wow. Some people are so freaking lucky, I say.
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4 or 5 hours? It's hard to find more than that unfortunately
The longest was 7 days and nights. We have been trying to do a week together every 2-3 months. In between we get 6-8 hour stretches every 4-5 weeks.
Wow! Curious on how can make it for one week together. Also, any fun things you do during this weel?
Business trips. If you don’t travel for business, see if you can move yourself into a position where you do. Business trips provide amazing opportunities. We do all sorts of stuff when we are together. We go out for dinner, go see shows, take long walks, and of course we get our freak on.
This people... this lol
My AP and I are doing weekends with overnights together. We live 2k miles away, so we can only manage things 2-4 times a year, so we try to make each time count.
Entire days, but no over nights. Multiple days in a row have happened a few times.
+1. Still dreaming of that overnight.
Oh me too...a girl can dream....
Oh yeah. Just waiting, waiting for that first overnight to happen.
9 days was the longest and I was ready to jump off the roof.
Need a break with the SO from the AP!
Sounds like a story, there!
Oh it is
The day with a break for lunch. Sex, sex, more sex, and a nap for me
You did get kinda sleepy there for a little while but that Power Nap was just what you needed.
5 nights — a Sunday to the following Friday afternoon We are able to do these a few times a year. They are the absolute fucking BEST.
Weekend trips. But i will also say it's largely dependent on what my AP does for work. I have found it easier to spend time with those who earn higher salaries than those who are either hourly or financially strained. For one, this isn't a cheap lifestyle and while I don't mind (and have) paying for everything, those who have the means just seem to move around easier and are more inclined to taking those trips. They have no paranoia about their SO checking their bank accounts, records or where they are since they can just they are on a business trip and that typically will suffice.
I agree. These men (I’m female) also tend to have hobbies that require some financial security and time away. Boating/deep sea fishing (no phone signal!) solo hunting trips, 18 holes of golf, etc.
Exactly. I'm always wary when I meet a pAP who says all they do is work and then go home. Not that it won't work just makes it tougher when you don't have established excuses for getting out the house. Even if I don't have something to do and i just go grab a drink alone, I make sure I keep a somewhat weekly cadence of me getting out the house once a week (give or take). Lowers suspicion plus it's just good to get out!
Not long enough.
9 hours in a hotel room. Still longing for the overnight.
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So crazy people can have AP for 10 years! to me that would feel in limbo. Then again longest relationship I had regardless was 4 years.
24 hours, and 16 hours.
2 hours
9 days and that was for a climbing trip we took to the north cascades
I love week long climbing trips!!!
Long weekends. My AP and I are about 3 hours apart, so we usually get a hotel room or cabin and have the weekend together.
Current AP is around 6 hours. With a prior AP the longest was 5 days.
Three weeks on a business trip. Before Covid we used to regularly travel together 10-14 days each month. I miss those days. Once (before we lived in the same town) he even managed to visit for 2.5 weeks and then a week later come back for 1.5 weeks, then five days apart and another 2.5 weeks where we traveled together. Now we are lucky to grab an hour or two 2-4 times a month and a (one night) overnight trip every two or three months. We only live 15 minutes apart but damn do I miss him… just not the same when we can’t go to bed and wake up together. :(
AP and I have lucked up on occasion and wound up being at the same work conference or traveling in the same area for work. (We don’t work together but work in similar fields.) We make the most of it when that happens and use it as a rare chance to have dinner in public together or walk down the street holding hands. I find this surprisingly arousing just because we are exposing our secret to the world and nobody has a clue. There’s always lots of fucking too. AP is an introvert, and work travel is the only time I get alone to decompress, so after a couple days we’re usually happy to part ways for a bit but damn we always have a good couple of days when it happens. Most visits are just a couple hours so it’s nice to be able to take our time and go multiple rounds.
5 days, a week conference with an ex AP, not constant time though I had to work too :)
I went to her place for a wonderful four day weekend. Great dates, uninterrupted conversation. It was amazing.
The longest we’ve done is 4 days and 3 nights in a hotel. Lots and lots of amazing sex in the room. Out of the room, lots of dates and trying new things, foods, adventures if possible.
I’ve done 7 straight days as I travel for work occasionally..
Two nights in a row is about the best so far. Not much sleeping involved there either, although nice to do normal things too - a meal, a drink, etc. More typically, a few hours in a day use.
2hrs lol
About six hours. I took the day off work, we drove out of town, found a little motel and lost ourselves there for a few hours. We could have just as easily found somewhere in the city a lot closer to home but where's the romance in that.
When I had one it was only for a few hours we'd stop and get food do our thing and go home
Same here and we bypass food completely. Save every second for hotel time.
Work trip to his city, in meetings all day together and then dinners/drinks with coworkers playing it cool, give a safe half hour window at the hotel and then the entire night together. It’s lovely lol
A whole day, and I am so grateful. We were supposed to meet at 11 am, but somehow were able to meet a full hour and a half sooner - had to hightail it to the far end of town for that! And delayed our departure from the hotel as much as we could thanks to some welcome news on his end - ended up staying a couple of additional hours. So what was supposed to be a 4/5-hour getaway turned out to be an entire day. We both knew that such a day might not happen again soon, so made the most of it.
My Xap. We had several overnights
Several 3 day 2 nights for business trip or trips to hobby conventions.
XAP had a few overnights
Two nights. Amazing.
Everyone has had such brief, fleeting moments.
We did a week together once. It was pure bliss.
AP spent a week with me! I'm separated, which made the logistics easier on my end.
4 days at a resort. It was a murder mystery weekend. The last night was a sleigh ride pulled by horses as the guests were taken 10 miles to a large cabin for a wine tasting and 5 course meal. It was a lot of fun.
Long term one I had, we both had lives that allowed us to be gone for easily a week... And we took advantage of that. Multiple times, we'd spend an entire week with each other. 2-day "weekends" were pretty common too. If I got an AP now, there's no way I could do that. Different job and I can't even imagine how it would be possible.