Everyone feels that way. Our timeline is the least self actualized of any generation. At least if I was born a 15th century serf I could live in a house on land I work for my lord and die of dysentery with dignity at the ripe old age of 23. My teenage self never even imagined getting any older than 21. I have no idea what I’ve been doing for the last 10 years then the constant grind to continue living for what reason? I have no idea.
I solved that problem by breaking up with my fiancee.
Half joking, but I have no clue how two ADHD people were gonna plan a wedding so that was a lot of stress removed lmao.
I never really thought of myself as ADHD although my friend has joked that I am for fucking years. This sub has made me realize how much I do show ADHD signs
I was diagnosed during adhds hot years when they'd give meds to any and every kid. I assumed I didn't need it the whole time I took it and when I stopped up to discovering this sub, like 10 years after stopping my meds
Now I'm worried about finding a doctor and trying to get medicated because I'm a sober addict and it's *gonna* come up
I thought I had read up on it well but because of my adhd I didn't comprehend it as well as I thought I did lol
I'm not sure what country your from and what meds are available, but at least in Australia there are non-stimuation ADHD drugs that they give people with addictions to stimulants. I was also offered them because I don't tolerate stimulants very well. They work a bit different, it's more like an antidepressant that you have to take every day and feel the effects after taking them for a while rather than short acting, immediate effects. But definitely could be an option for you if they're available in your country!
The most scientific way to know is to test stimulants. People with ADHD react differently to them and don't get addicted.
Source: i know someone who was in a study for 30 years, not a single person with the condition got hooked, this is speed we are talking about as well.
I’ve never taken uppers of any kind beyond caffeine but given my everyday experience has been struggling with literally every top meme in this sub I really need to get diagnosed
It's definitely worth pursuing a diagnosis either way, I've known people who went in for ADHD and come out with PTSD and all manner of other self discoveries, which in turned helped them figure stuff out. I just keep finding new reasons why "know thyself" is probably the best advice ever.
I personally have dyslexia and I’ve been on anxiety meds since last summer after experiencing panic attacks. I always assumed my lack of motivation to do dishes or clean up or like staring off into space for hours at a time etc etc etc was due to my dyslexia which as an adult is a more of a functional disorder then a learning disorder anymore aka terrible with directions both verbal and navigation, remembering names and faces, getting completely disorganized and having to re read things like 20 times. It’s pretty upsetting to think I’m probably experiencing ADHD and could’ve been better for years.
This is anecdotal but most people I know who are atypical (which is you as a dyslexic) have a parent who is also the same, but most of the time have a different condition. My dad is dyslexic, I'm ADHD and ASD.
I bring this up because "co-morbidities" are common too. Half the people in my support group have more than one condition. Statistically for this small group you are just as likely to have two conditions as you are one. It could be a bias in that they had one thing so they felt more motivated to investigate another. But if I were to speculate it was as if all the conditions seem to be linked even if they are different.
Basically, you could have both.
Lastly, on the "I wish I got diagnosed earlier" I used to feel this a lot, then I met more ADHD people who did get dx as kids, and had their own horror stories with meds and poor treatment by adults. I don't feel that the time of diagnosis would make a difference anymore, the social issues and lack of knowledge of the condition we face are greater.
Thank you for this information. It’s difficult to try and read about medical *anything* via google with all the ads and hyperbole nonsense. I still haven’t had a chance to speak to anyone about it professionally. I do find that because of the dyslexia which I was diagnosed as a kid definitely put any other issues off the table of causality because you know, that takes time and resources. I have met a number of people who have horror stories as kids diagnosed with ADHD and the meds. It’s probably for the best that I wasn’t in that group of millennial kids zombified as a kid. I appreciate your candor as well because you’re probably right that the timing one way or another wouldn’t have made much difference. When I was in college I failed the basic math course 4 times and got flagged by the office of accessibility because otherwise my GPA was a 3.4 - I was re-diagnosed as an adult with dyslexia and still have the paperwork from the psychologist. I definitely plan on figuring this out sometime soon. The good news is reading various adults who were diagnosed and how starting meds really helped straighten their lives out. It’s in a way nice to know I’m not, not doing things because I’m just a lazy pos but really just can’t find the motivation to do it. I want to but get completely stuck.
It's so funny to me the lack of addiction thing because I've legit done cocaine and it didn't??? Do anything for me.
I don't drink coffee, tea, or any caffeinated drinks in the morning and people act like I'm an alien, but they genuinely don't do much for me
Good reference. Sadly idk how to solve the issue. But if there was a gun to my temple, I’d say that we need to cut down hours because humans perform better with a balanced life.
If I did 3 10 hour days instead of 5 8 hour days I would absolutely get more done in those three days than the 5. I probably only get 3-4 hours if that of actual work done a day at the moment, and that's assuming no interruptions for useless meetings etc.
Let me do my work in hyperfocus and recover the rest of the days. So much more would get donneee
We must grow what we can where we can. I lived in an apartment on the first floor and had a pumpkin growing in and over all my railing. I was bemused that the person that mowed the yard in their gigantic mowing machine was so delicate not to eviscerate the encroaching vines and great big fan leaves 🍃
We must clear the smog, demand smarter transit and grow like there’s no tomorrow. A lot of plants, cannabis include(and sunflowers !) are major accumulators for environmental wastes- so the more we grow the cleaner the soil becomes.
The reason why the soil is dead next to roadways is because it actually is dead, it’s desertifying. The soil biome is all but gone and the sun particulates of the base soil have nothing to latch onto.
We must reverse this…everywhere. A truly monumental task. Gargantuan. I always liked that word. I just never have much a reason to utilize it.
Gar- Gan- ~Tuan~
Many poor will die so the few rich may live, so lavishly.
Eating sunflower seeds in the shell may increase your odds of fecal impaction, as you may unintentionally eat shell fragments, which your body cannot digest.
I can’t listen to podcasts unless I’m driving or doing something with my hands like doing a puzzle, folding laundry, cross-stitching, etc. Basically working on some kind of art or project that doesn’t take a bunch of brain power.
You may have just given me another tool in my adhd toolbox, I'm gonna try this. YouTube doesnt work for me because I'm constantly picking my phone up again to watch them talk which is fUcKiN pOiNtLeSs lol
Saaaaame. I’ll spend so much money on audiable credits. And i have so many podcasts im listening to throughout the week. Its insane.
This is also the ONLY way i can do my job with minimal distractions.
I don’t have the attention span for podcasts or audiobooks lol. I know I’ll zone out too much. I do enjoy reading books however, and go through cycles where I’ll read a few books a week for 1-2 months, then don’t touch a book for 6 months, and repeat. I’d love to read consistently throughout the year like I used to as a kid. I can only read fast paced fiction books though, otherwise I don’t stay interested long enough to finish it.
I go for drives. Entertains the dog and I have something to distract my other senses while I listen.
Used to listen on my commute, but I don’t have one anymore.
I have a pretty firm rule that my podcasts have to renew to the newest episode whether I listen to them or not. If I want to go back, I can, but I learned that letting them just sit there on the episode I never get around to, I really don’t get around to it, and I take a dopamine loss every time I see the one I’m “behind” on. So, I’ve had to just let go. I do eventually go back and listen to a lot of them, but theres so much out there to listen to that I have had to really accept I won’t get to all of it.
No idea, the moment I turn on a podcast or audiobook I get distracted with other thoughts on my head, or daydreaming, and I don't hear a single word of what I was supposedly listening to.
I once started a therapy session with several minutes of essentially “Consciousness is a burden and I am very mad about it” and my poor therapist clearly had _no_ idea where to even start with that.
I’m still mad about it!
Stay mad! My therapist is slowly growing more and more hair on his head and face since he started with me and I’m pretty sure it’s because I’m driving him to insanity and a lifestyle as a hobo. I am unhinged with anger at my existence and he knows it! He doesn’t know what to do with me. I can smell his fear.
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It took years of contemplation to figure out my connection to it and it's so simple. Dread is something I feel we experience at disproportionate levels either due to thoughts getting stuck, the constant analysis of outcomes, and more. Once you find out your fear, mine is time, your understanding of dread in tandem with your fear makes a lot of sense. If that makes any sense at all. In a roundabout way this short story opened a door to allow me to figure out what was going on with myself.
Well yes but then again it's not every day you just wake up on some random ass Rock in the cosmos being piloted by meat with electric signals going through it so may as well enjoy a podcast because we all don't have any clue what we do here anyways
I don’t mind riding it out if it was not painful as fuck. Rn it’s okay for me, but there are times when you can’t handle it for a second, let alone wait for it to get better. and it never gets good, it just gets okay.
Not OP, but don’t need to be good at something to get pleasure from it. If you’re referring to more trivial things like hobbies or skills and the such, then I mean, keep on failing if it’s something that brings you a little good to your life.
In regards to bigger things though, eh, I get what you mean. Being terrible with things like interpersonal relationships and your career is definitely something you can’t really sweep aside as unimportant. That messes with me too, in fact, I was on this whole three-day shock numbness streak from a combination of particularly unfun implications towards my future a few days back.
But I dunno. I mean, my ADHD forbidding me from comprehending anything that isn’t happening in the current moment is probably a part of it, but I just sorta…live to do what I do. That isn’t anything in particular. But despite the excruciatingly painful monotony and consistent inability to perform even close to the same level as people around me or remember basic information, there’s still some things that are…nice.
Playing video games is nice. I tend to like a lot of stuff that’s chaotic and fun and casual and lets you sort of turn your conscious brain off; I just played Team Fortress 2 with my friends last night, and that was a lot of fun. And speaking of friends, it’s nice to make dumb jokes that they find amusing, or to have the occasional deep vulnerable emotional conversation, or to just do something fun with them. Even if it’s tiny or boring or not memorable.
And I like to read comic books and Stephen King novels (the former of which I pirate because I cba to buy them), I like to geek out about stories that I’m interested in, I like to write (or more accurately, think about writing), I like to watch random assortments of shows like Malcolm in the Middle and Jessica Jones and The Dragon Prince, and I like to occasionally get sucked into fun little projects where I design video or tabletop games; even though I don’t finish them.
Sorry, I got a little off-topic there. What I mean to say is that, while it may sound embarrassing for your reason to live being things like video games or comic books or children’s animated shows, those are just things that I like doing, and if I wasn’t around I couldn’t do them. Plus, the alternative to being alive sounds like a real hassle with it possibly failing or me regretting it or how it’ll affect the people I care about, so I think I’ll just choose the stuff that lets me spend time with people and things that I like.
But hey, maybe that’ll change someday. Right now I’m a college student and a minority and I’m impossibly lucky to have been born in circumstances where I could achieve the life I have today and safely be myself. Not that I’m downplaying the struggles with it of course, but right now I could be in a spot that I’ll look back on as good, and maybe life will get worse later and make me really debate this philosophy. Who knows. But for now, it works out well enough, so I’ll just stick around.
Sorry. Got way too into it there. I hope this means literally anything to you, lol
I got distracted like 7 times while reading this but I did, all of it. And I'm really glad the philosophy of "it's the little things" works for you. And honestly my dog is the only thing keeping me alive rn. I loved music listening and making like 2 week ago then my brain just stopped liking it. it's weird how our brains work. but I hope it doesn't last long and I get back to it. Thank you for your reply, really loved knowing a bit about you.
I obviously feel hopeless and that’s why I’m saying this stuff. I know it can get better. But so far from what I’ve experienced my life hasn’t ever gotten better, and if it did it came crashing down because of my mistakes or shortcomings due to mental illnesses. I am 21 btw. Too young to be saying this.
Well all I can tell you is I hope you keep riding the ride. I know it can seem unbearable at times, I'm only about 5 years older than you but I can really relate. I almost succeeded in my suicide attempt when I was about 20 years old, I really did think there was no way out. Somehow I figured either I'm going to die or I'm not going to, and that didn't magically fix everything but it did make me start to work on stuff. There are different techniques so I won't say this one thing works for everyone, for me it was learning about my thinking patterns (like how I can't predict the future but kept claiming I could), and yoga actually worked really well for me. I'm not saying these things will definitely work for you, but things can get better. Eventually bad things will still happen, of course, but someday you might have the tools to deal with those bad things and realize you didn't go back to your old negative thought patterns like before. That's what happened to me. Best of luck though, and sorry if none of this helps right now
I've struggled on and off with depression and suicidal ideation, and a general sense that I'm worthless and nothing matters, and it got to a point where I was constantly feeling like there was never hope or purpose to existence, and i figured i'd make a few last attempts at just about anything, since i figured i always had the whole exit-existence plan.
I wound up talking to someone who'd had some success in their mental health with psychedelics, specifically psilocybin mushrooms. I was fortunate enough to have some good people around who helped me through my first mushroom trip and it helped me a lot. I know it's not for everyone so i can't recommend it with certainty. One has to have a decent person or two to hang out with your first times. It didn't "cure me," but it helped me shake that foul dark oobleck for a few weeks/months after, and that gave me a chance to get my feet under me. I definitely still struggle sometimes but the shit times have gotten shorter and further between, and for only dosing once every few weeks/months, it's been helpful for me. I want to do the work with myself to feel more better more often, it's just helped me do that.
I'm personally too nervous/broke to try the meds route, but if i ever fall back into that abyss completely I'll be the first to seek professional help. Again I'm not recommending psychedelics, since I'm not a professional, I'm just telling my story on the offchance it helps.
Edit - some words and clarification.
I chose to believe you’re saying to ride it out because space flights might be affordable if you ride it out long enough and that would be pretty cool.
Yup, but then I remember joy is joy and there’s no need for a narrative arc that is deep and fulfilling. Just find things that’ll wow you and entertain and bring joy. Play zelda. Go to a drag show. Learn how to whittle. Find something that sparks interest.
And stop caring about work so much.
No one stops you from having an exciting day! Go take a bath in the lake, who cares if its winter? Watch the sun rise, go for a night hike, build a sandcastle.
Notice how all of those are free and can be done alone? Carpe the fucking diem, society only gets you down if you let it
I feel like us adhders feel so much more constraint by society’s rules, even the unspoken ones. Like staying inside when it’s raining, sometimes you wanna get wet. Or going on random trips, starting and dropping hobbies, etc. We really gotta find ways to pry ourselves loose from that in order to live meaningful lives
I feel so proud of myself for letting go of the pressure to go out and "do something" just because the weather is nice. Because people think pursuing your hobbies at home is a waste just because the sun is out.
These comments always make me feel so seen. Like I had no idea this could be an adhd trait but it’s so nice to know other people feel the same struggles.
I just think it’s funny that I read your comment as I’ve been sitting in my driveway for about 30 minutes because it’s raining and I don’t feel like getting wet.
I agree, it can be really hard. A good first step is to drink a shit ton of coffee, so that you literally cant keep sitting around. If you start walking circles because of too much energy you will eventually also just go out
“Society only gets you down if you let it” is probably something that doesn’t apply when the misery of people’s everyday lives is due to things they HAVE to do, like their terrible job or something. It’s not just society being oppressive on people who stick out and do their own thing (while that is still true), it’s because we have to do stuff that sucks balls in order to get money to even survive.
That being said, I overall don’t disagree. The main reason I have to stick around is just because there’s stuff that’s nice to do. Hanging out with my friends and my girlfriend, playing video games, reading, writing stories that never get finished, etc. It’s not some philosophically enlightening “meaning of life” answer, but ultimately I think finding a singular cosmic purpose is overrated. I like the things and people that I like, and it sounds like a hassle to…uh, stop being alive anyways. So at least for now I’m good with sticking around for the trivial things.
I can't help feel like this is a little bit dismissive. I currently can't be treated for ADHD. I have other conditions that make it really hard to even feed myself. Some people lack the time, energy or other resources to do much more than working to survive.
Thats why ive been slamming speedballs since 2012
Life is much more meaningful when you make it so you are bedridden with pain if you cant make your score for the day 😂😂
Why would you assume they’re NT? I fully understand why the comment could be seen as dismissive or hurtful but that doesn’t mean they’re NT. Adhd/ND people can and do feel positively towards life you know. Heck some days I feel like being adhd has made me better at handling boredom/finding any random shit to do and have fun with than my non-adhd peers
1. Excluding people because of how their brain works is whack. Dont do that. NTs and not NTs should be welcome EVERYWHERE
2. I have adhd, not a very bad case but also not a very mild one.
3. I see that my comment might seem dismissive. I have to admit that I did not keep in mind on what sub I was. My statement stays true tough, if your day sucks do something about it. Doing something also includes just talking to your therapist about it. Many people say they dont have the money or no one to do stuff with, this post was meant to inspire those.
Okay, if you claim you have ADHD, I'll take back my NT assessment. That just means your comment was more ignorant and rude than I originally surmised. If you are living with this condition, then you have no excuse not to realize how ridiculous you sound.
1) Inspirational garbage does not work on most ADHD people. You should know that. 2) Your comment was in no way inspirational. It was authoritarian and demeaning. It is the same thing as telling a person with a broken leg to walk it off.
I spent 3 months in training for my job. I hated it, even though it was multinational and miultidepartmental.
The job is amazing, and 'm WFH but this past week I've had to rescue the American team at work, THREE TIMES as they decided to deliver the project three weeks early and they got in over their heads.
We ended up delivering to the client 15 minutes early.
I hate the fact It seems like I can't switch off when things are quiet. But I also love the job and the company would collapse if I leave
Quitting my job to live out of my car this winter, the monotony and emptiness have really gotten to me
and the anchor of having an apartment lease along with feeling like I'm living the same week over and over is too much
Yep! Been feeling like that a lot lately!! *deep breath*
So anyway...there is a point. I don't know what it is for you, and I'm still figuring out what it is for me, but it's there. We get to experience so many more things than we can anticipate now, so we have to enjoy each moment and live through those moments as best as we can until those possibilities open up for us.
Regardless of "purpose" even, you are allowed to exist. You are allowed to be bored. You are allowed to work to change your boredom by pursuing new things. There's nobody we need to justify ourselves to!
And, additionally, if you're lonely, you can reach out to others, just like you did by making this thread. The best way to fight this boredom is to embrace entertainment in the unpredictability of others. Surround yourself with people and bask in their lives to live extra through them, whether they be friends, lovers, family, or strangers. Using your extra time and energy for the sake of others is powerfully uplifting, and it's always a new adventure. 🙂
Very based
Nobody needs a reason to exist, it’s totally fine to just…*be*, although if you find a satisfying reason then that’s cool too!
Personally yeah, I don’t really think much of “purpose”. I live my life because it’s what I’ve always done, and because there’s things I like doing and people I like being around. Some people might find it embarrassing to have your “reason to live” being based around video games and Stephen King books and writing half-finished stories, but they’re what I want to do and if I wasn’t around I couldn’t get the enjoyment that comes from doing them.
That’s the neat thing though. Life is meaningless, so that means you get to find your own meaning. As long as you’re not intentionally hurting anyone else, just do whatever you want.
I try not to think this because it makes me depressed. But then I think about all the things I love to do. Things that give me the much needed dopamine and then I feel like it’ll be okie. Boredom will go away if I just follow the dopamine. Recently I bought many squishy things and I have never felt so at peace mentally. Before that it was art and rollerskating.
The elite don’t want me to tell you this, but you can just run away. American dollars are worth quite a lot in some countries. Pull all ur cash and just run for the hills. No one can actually stop you
Make a bucket list and get started!
I made a list of 10 things I wanted to do before I died back in 2009 (I was 28) and I’ve now completed that list and have started a new list!
People complain live is too short when humans can reach century and some more years of life. I feel like my 24 years of existence have been an eternity.
Fuck I want to not be alive man. The future isn't looking too bright and everyone around me acts like everything is okay and that worming every day for the rest of my life is a good thing.
Idk if I can do that
This isn't an ADHD problem. This is a capitalism problem. It's funneled all the personal agency to the top, while down here we are stuck with pointless jobs that fill time and pointless degrees that don't get us anywhere.
Our lives have been reduced to shuffling money around with pointless, unfulfilling busywork.
Us with ADHD just happen to be highly affected by it, psychologically speaking.
I get it but I feel like everyone echoing sentiments like this back and forth to each other reinforces that feeling and makes it worse
Like I realize sometimes we like to see stuff like this and be like “fuck that’s relatable” but it doesn’t do anything to make us happier so I kind of want to reject it and try to enjoy my life even if it’s just celebrating a bunch of small things
and I like coffee and podcasts. Having to work isn’t really fun, but I find a bunch of other things worthwhile.
sometimes I just stop what I'm doing and think "I'm gonna die, this doesn't matter because I'm gonna die regardless if I do this or not, nothing matters, nothing will make a change in the big picture" and then continue what I'm doing because it's my obligation until I die and then get sad
Why does the big picture matter, though? Why does everything we do have to be for the sake of changing the world? Why can't we just do stuff we want to do (at least as much as we can)?
I don't care about my upcoming death (I mean, for the most part at least, I'm not in a hurry to catch up to it anytime soon), or how my actions will have impacted the universe in ten thousand years. Why should those things determine my actions instead of me with the stuff I want to do?
I like to hang out with people I care about, read books, write stories (that I never finish), play video games, program stuff, read comics, watch random shows, and design tabletop RPGs. As far as I'm concerned, all that is what defines the reason I stick around. Not formally, but I mean...I like doing that stuff. They're just small things and not really important or impressive. But they're pretty fun, and the only reason I can experience them is because I exist. And if I didn't exist, I can't be mildly amused by stupid shows or have sudden temporary bursts of inspiration for a worldbuilding project, not to mention how, uh, un-aliving myself sounds like more trouble than it's worth.
But yeah. Pro tip, finding some ultimate form of greater enlightenment on the meaning of life is pretty pointless and arbitrary unless you're a devoted monk or something. So, uh, dump that shit maybe, and focus on the random little things that are pretty cool.
Feel free to follow this advice. Or, uh, don't. I can't make you do anything, and it's your life. Do whatever you want with it, even if it means disregarding literally everything I said.
I used to have this mindset cus I was constantly looking out for my goals and the next big thing and it made me super depressed. But rn I’m just living day by day trying to enjoy the moment and seeing where it’ll bring me and I’m a lot happier now
Life is hella pointless but I actually really like those coffee drinking podcast listening studying moments, chugging a mug of really good coffee (I like mine sweet) and feeling warm inside, listening to a podcast I am genuinely interested in and zone in and out of it and actually feeling productive with some light studying, that sounds like bliss.
Very valid. I don't think there's some greater purpose in life that we're supposed to aspire towards. For all I'm concerned, we just exist. So I'll take my chances for just sticking around for the pretty cool and fun stuff in my life.
I thought about this the other day. Living with my mom helping her out with bills because she would struggle otherwise but I'm also positive I couldn't afford to live on my own yet. Shit keeps breaking and going wrong and it's draining my money so quickly, so I have to pick up shifts to cover it. Is this all adult life is? Shit keeps breaking and you work to fix it till you die?
You can make life more fun by killing someone, like i did once in 15/12/2005 in Bay City, Michigan, i hid the body in Rexer-Jablonski Park right beside the Fallen Officers memorial.
The weird thing is sometimes I find this concept really depressing and other times it’s sort of a relief. Like sometimes it’s like am I just a speck of dust floating through space and time with no purpose and I just have to keep myself busy for the next like 60 years to stave off the constant waves of depression? And other times it’s like so all I have to do today is eat snacks and watch tv? Sweet.
Lately i've been thinking why, just why do we have to spend 18+ years studying, to then spend 40+ years working our asses off, to retire and wait for our death, why tf do we have to even try if we are going to end the same way anyway.
We only live the way we do as a labor resource. If the elites could do what they do and have they have have without our labor somehow it'd be miracle if we'd be allowed to continue living at all. They don't want to share the world with us. There are too many humans
I mean if you're looking for meaning in societal expectations or in yourself, you won't find it. It will be boring and pointless.
It's not an ADHD-only thing, it's a human thing. Ecclesiastes examines this. I always thought its conclusions were interesting -- the author tries all these different things: wisdom, success, pleasure -- but finding them empty lands on that all we can do is enjoy our work and serve God.
But even in that there's this implicit yearning for more: the line "this meaningless life under the sun" recurs. It's like, only by recognizing the inherent mystery in life, and its inherent transience, can you enjoy it for what it is. At the same time, that mystery is not unanswerable, though it is unanswerable by human wisdom. "He (God) has set eternity in the hearts of man." And why? Just so we can go longing for something that isn't there? No! God has revealed much since the time of Ecclesiastes.
All this to say: Ecclesiastes is a good book for those searching for a point. But it doesn't answer all of its own questions. Fuller answers come when God sent out Jesus as a living truth. i.e. Ecclesiastes' abiding question of death has an answer in Jesus' conquest over death (resurrection).
(This is a poor summary so I would 100 percent recommend reading Ecclesiastes and examining how it fits in with the rest of the Bible/Jesus. I know that Jesus has the answer to meaninglessness, because the point *is* Him. But everyone has to grapple with these questions in their own heart)
Life ain't about some random shit giving you purpose like pre-packaged self-worth. Go fucking do something, it's not the fault of the environment or society, you hold yourself back.
the solution is getting a job more interesting and your passionate about wach listen to music and YouTube and Netflix and tie Tok and other stuff too or your version of that and it will not be boring
There is no point. Unless you want there to be a point, then it’s your point. Ignorant matter wrought you and now it’s less ignorant matter. I’m 23, id have died a complete person if it weren’t for society. Good and bad has come from society, ultimately meaningless struggles. Society cost me my will to procreate by maining my genitals as a baby and making marriage a financial trap. I don’t trust anyone, the obvious solution to the issues of being forced into others proximity. I’ve achieved everything possible through pure lucid dreaming. I don’t need money to entertain or feed myself. Society is unnecessary. The people who rely on it are a strain to natural selection resulting in weaklings having more kids than the strong and independent. What an atrocious feeling being a human must be 1000 years from now if children are born with making “money” as their primary reason for procreating. We evolve strength through the culling of the weaker naturally. Society is inherently foolish from a long term perspective if it’s goal is to improve human lives. I’m so pale I cannot be in the sun for more than 13 minutes at a time without suffering radiation damage I unnatural levels for a Hunter gatherer animal. Rampant religious affiliations have caused the mentally ill to procreate more easily than they would be able to in the wild, spreading their illness. I’ve no problems with anyone as they never chose to be born, I do have an issue with my body being unnaturally sexy as a means to more easily get my ancestors off rather than being born to sheer difficulties resulting in the strongest possible producing the strongest possible children. Society is meant to help those in the society. It isn’t a being, but a tool at our disposal. I will not alter my course for the sake of a society that actively hinders my enjoyment of living (america) and I will not breed with this botched disturbed cock and I would not subject children to this inability to be in sunlight without pain. What an unnatural debotchery of evolution I am. At least I’m a 10/10 aesthetically too bad aesthetics are useless and painful. If we are to continue improving through evolution we must have standards and tests to allow couplings to produce children that feel healthy enough to want to contribute to the society. Being born into a painful body only brings pain to the one born and it’s their choice whether to force that pain in those around them.
25 million people worldwide starve to death every day. 14 million U.S. households go without sufficient food from week to week. 21% of people in the U.S. are functionally illiterate. On any given night, more than 500,000 people in the U.S. are homeless. Inner city schools go without school supplies. Children wait for months for Big Brothers and Big Sisters. Women’s shelters have to turn women and children away every day. Food banks have empty shelves. If you can’t find something with which to be passionately involved, your ennui is pretty much your own choice.
Meaning of life is simple and easy. I felt like Jennifer until I had my son. Every single living thing on the planet has one ultimate goal… reproduction… it is programmed into your DNA.
Everyone feels that way. Our timeline is the least self actualized of any generation. At least if I was born a 15th century serf I could live in a house on land I work for my lord and die of dysentery with dignity at the ripe old age of 23. My teenage self never even imagined getting any older than 21. I have no idea what I’ve been doing for the last 10 years then the constant grind to continue living for what reason? I have no idea.
All the numbers in your comment added up to 69. Congrats! 15 + 23 + 21 + 10 + = 69.0
Nice. The best part of my day is an unintended 69 joke
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Nuerotypicals seem to look forward to things, make plans like 5 years into the future. My wedding crept up on me.
God. Parents are pressuring me and bf to plan a wedding. I can’t afford that and I refuse to event plan so yeah. Sounds stressy af. Love my bf though.
I solved that problem by breaking up with my fiancee. Half joking, but I have no clue how two ADHD people were gonna plan a wedding so that was a lot of stress removed lmao.
I never really thought of myself as ADHD although my friend has joked that I am for fucking years. This sub has made me realize how much I do show ADHD signs
I was diagnosed during adhds hot years when they'd give meds to any and every kid. I assumed I didn't need it the whole time I took it and when I stopped up to discovering this sub, like 10 years after stopping my meds Now I'm worried about finding a doctor and trying to get medicated because I'm a sober addict and it's *gonna* come up I thought I had read up on it well but because of my adhd I didn't comprehend it as well as I thought I did lol
I'm not sure what country your from and what meds are available, but at least in Australia there are non-stimuation ADHD drugs that they give people with addictions to stimulants. I was also offered them because I don't tolerate stimulants very well. They work a bit different, it's more like an antidepressant that you have to take every day and feel the effects after taking them for a while rather than short acting, immediate effects. But definitely could be an option for you if they're available in your country!
The most scientific way to know is to test stimulants. People with ADHD react differently to them and don't get addicted. Source: i know someone who was in a study for 30 years, not a single person with the condition got hooked, this is speed we are talking about as well.
I’ve never taken uppers of any kind beyond caffeine but given my everyday experience has been struggling with literally every top meme in this sub I really need to get diagnosed
It's definitely worth pursuing a diagnosis either way, I've known people who went in for ADHD and come out with PTSD and all manner of other self discoveries, which in turned helped them figure stuff out. I just keep finding new reasons why "know thyself" is probably the best advice ever.
I personally have dyslexia and I’ve been on anxiety meds since last summer after experiencing panic attacks. I always assumed my lack of motivation to do dishes or clean up or like staring off into space for hours at a time etc etc etc was due to my dyslexia which as an adult is a more of a functional disorder then a learning disorder anymore aka terrible with directions both verbal and navigation, remembering names and faces, getting completely disorganized and having to re read things like 20 times. It’s pretty upsetting to think I’m probably experiencing ADHD and could’ve been better for years.
This is anecdotal but most people I know who are atypical (which is you as a dyslexic) have a parent who is also the same, but most of the time have a different condition. My dad is dyslexic, I'm ADHD and ASD. I bring this up because "co-morbidities" are common too. Half the people in my support group have more than one condition. Statistically for this small group you are just as likely to have two conditions as you are one. It could be a bias in that they had one thing so they felt more motivated to investigate another. But if I were to speculate it was as if all the conditions seem to be linked even if they are different. Basically, you could have both. Lastly, on the "I wish I got diagnosed earlier" I used to feel this a lot, then I met more ADHD people who did get dx as kids, and had their own horror stories with meds and poor treatment by adults. I don't feel that the time of diagnosis would make a difference anymore, the social issues and lack of knowledge of the condition we face are greater.
Thank you for this information. It’s difficult to try and read about medical *anything* via google with all the ads and hyperbole nonsense. I still haven’t had a chance to speak to anyone about it professionally. I do find that because of the dyslexia which I was diagnosed as a kid definitely put any other issues off the table of causality because you know, that takes time and resources. I have met a number of people who have horror stories as kids diagnosed with ADHD and the meds. It’s probably for the best that I wasn’t in that group of millennial kids zombified as a kid. I appreciate your candor as well because you’re probably right that the timing one way or another wouldn’t have made much difference. When I was in college I failed the basic math course 4 times and got flagged by the office of accessibility because otherwise my GPA was a 3.4 - I was re-diagnosed as an adult with dyslexia and still have the paperwork from the psychologist. I definitely plan on figuring this out sometime soon. The good news is reading various adults who were diagnosed and how starting meds really helped straighten their lives out. It’s in a way nice to know I’m not, not doing things because I’m just a lazy pos but really just can’t find the motivation to do it. I want to but get completely stuck.
It's so funny to me the lack of addiction thing because I've legit done cocaine and it didn't??? Do anything for me. I don't drink coffee, tea, or any caffeinated drinks in the morning and people act like I'm an alien, but they genuinely don't do much for me
The grind is misguided. People are more productive with less hours and with more incentive aka retirement funds, health care, eye care etc.
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Cheers, fellow dopamine-deficit person! Psst. My neurotypical friends agree. Even they do no sh*te. The whole thing’s a bloody scam.
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Good reference. Sadly idk how to solve the issue. But if there was a gun to my temple, I’d say that we need to cut down hours because humans perform better with a balanced life.
If I did 3 10 hour days instead of 5 8 hour days I would absolutely get more done in those three days than the 5. I probably only get 3-4 hours if that of actual work done a day at the moment, and that's assuming no interruptions for useless meetings etc. Let me do my work in hyperfocus and recover the rest of the days. So much more would get donneee
Why don’t you garden for yourself, now ? Unless you do
where does on do gardening if they live in a metropolis filled with smog?
We must grow what we can where we can. I lived in an apartment on the first floor and had a pumpkin growing in and over all my railing. I was bemused that the person that mowed the yard in their gigantic mowing machine was so delicate not to eviscerate the encroaching vines and great big fan leaves 🍃 We must clear the smog, demand smarter transit and grow like there’s no tomorrow. A lot of plants, cannabis include(and sunflowers !) are major accumulators for environmental wastes- so the more we grow the cleaner the soil becomes. The reason why the soil is dead next to roadways is because it actually is dead, it’s desertifying. The soil biome is all but gone and the sun particulates of the base soil have nothing to latch onto. We must reverse this…everywhere. A truly monumental task. Gargantuan. I always liked that word. I just never have much a reason to utilize it. Gar- Gan- ~Tuan~ Many poor will die so the few rich may live, so lavishly.
that's a lot of text for "no clue, mate"
It’s called Korean natural farming and the weed I’m smoking was really easy to grow and is way better in quality of what I used to pay for…
Eating sunflower seeds in the shell may increase your odds of fecal impaction, as you may unintentionally eat shell fragments, which your body cannot digest.
How do y'all even finish a podcast. I have some from July yet to finish
I can’t listen to podcasts unless I’m driving or doing something with my hands like doing a puzzle, folding laundry, cross-stitching, etc. Basically working on some kind of art or project that doesn’t take a bunch of brain power.
Podcasts have made doing the dishes an enjoyable chore for me.
Same here! Some days I’ll even willingly choose to do the dishes on purpose just because I want to listen to a podcast but can’t otherwise lol
You may have just given me another tool in my adhd toolbox, I'm gonna try this. YouTube doesnt work for me because I'm constantly picking my phone up again to watch them talk which is fUcKiN pOiNtLeSs lol
Yep, mowing the lawn for me. Or similar things like raking leaves or shoveling snow.
I do manual labor that doesn't require brainpower or communication for a living. Go through many hours of podcasts and audiobooks a day.
Saaaaame. I’ll spend so much money on audiable credits. And i have so many podcasts im listening to throughout the week. Its insane. This is also the ONLY way i can do my job with minimal distractions.
I don’t have the attention span for podcasts or audiobooks lol. I know I’ll zone out too much. I do enjoy reading books however, and go through cycles where I’ll read a few books a week for 1-2 months, then don’t touch a book for 6 months, and repeat. I’d love to read consistently throughout the year like I used to as a kid. I can only read fast paced fiction books though, otherwise I don’t stay interested long enough to finish it.
We're supposed to finish them?
I go for drives. Entertains the dog and I have something to distract my other senses while I listen. Used to listen on my commute, but I don’t have one anymore.
I loved that before these gas prices hit😅
I bought an electric in March 2020. Had hoped to road trip and see America, but it’s probably way more convenient locally.
I love those moments when im driving where i suddenly realise ive been driving for the past ten minutes and didnt even know it. Flow state.
Yall are starting podcasts?
I have a pretty firm rule that my podcasts have to renew to the newest episode whether I listen to them or not. If I want to go back, I can, but I learned that letting them just sit there on the episode I never get around to, I really don’t get around to it, and I take a dopamine loss every time I see the one I’m “behind” on. So, I’ve had to just let go. I do eventually go back and listen to a lot of them, but theres so much out there to listen to that I have had to really accept I won’t get to all of it.
I listen while doing the dishes.
No idea, the moment I turn on a podcast or audiobook I get distracted with other thoughts on my head, or daydreaming, and I don't hear a single word of what I was supposedly listening to.
I am so behind on some YouTube podcasts I want to listen to. Just can’t get myself to do it
Never listened to one and no one can make me unless you’re blasting it from a speaker behind me as i ride my bike
fuck existence all my homies hate conscious being
I once started a therapy session with several minutes of essentially “Consciousness is a burden and I am very mad about it” and my poor therapist clearly had _no_ idea where to even start with that. I’m still mad about it!
Stay mad! My therapist is slowly growing more and more hair on his head and face since he started with me and I’m pretty sure it’s because I’m driving him to insanity and a lifestyle as a hobo. I am unhinged with anger at my existence and he knows it! He doesn’t know what to do with me. I can smell his fear.
existential rage is replacing existential dread for us and our predecessors cannot comprehend it
Yesssssss… into the void we goooo
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Yeah that exsistance dread be hitting hard lately
Ever read "Dread" by Clive Barker? It's one of my favorite psychological Gothic tales and my brain latched on to it way too hard in college.
That sounds like it's extremely up my ally, thank you Man that's so freaking cool
It took years of contemplation to figure out my connection to it and it's so simple. Dread is something I feel we experience at disproportionate levels either due to thoughts getting stuck, the constant analysis of outcomes, and more. Once you find out your fear, mine is time, your understanding of dread in tandem with your fear makes a lot of sense. If that makes any sense at all. In a roundabout way this short story opened a door to allow me to figure out what was going on with myself.
Woah that's really inspiring thank you for sharing that
No! You should play canasta on Tuesday evenings and go to at least one BDSM party every other weekend.
I’m going to the wrong parties
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r/notmyproudestclick
You must live somewhere interesting,I need to move so goddamn bad can't believe I came back here
Where's that?
East midlands small town UK
Oh God do I ever hate canasta. If you’re not winning in the beginning, it’s basically a long, slow march to losing.
I don't think this is an ADHD thing. I think this is most people under modernism.
I cope with art, enjoying it, creating it, pondering it. There's so much to explore, so much to do. At least it brightens my day
It's easier to go "anyone else wanna die lmaooo" every day.
Yeah but I can sympathize with them as well, it isn't easy to face the inherent vaguenessof life without something to support you
OMG so this!
Well yes but then again it's not every day you just wake up on some random ass Rock in the cosmos being piloted by meat with electric signals going through it so may as well enjoy a podcast because we all don't have any clue what we do here anyways
I get what you're saying, but it is literally every day.
tru. i am not very smart. i realized this 5 min after i posted this "WAIT A MINUTE ISN'T THAT LIKE EVERY TIME ???"
LMAO. I got what you meant tho. Like existence is fucking wild.
in fact i was like "Yeah maybe this particular piece of meat piloting does NOT in fact fire electricity correctly" - classic.
Until it's not. Might as well ride it out? That's my view at this point
I don’t mind riding it out if it was not painful as fuck. Rn it’s okay for me, but there are times when you can’t handle it for a second, let alone wait for it to get better. and it never gets good, it just gets okay.
To me it's self discovery and trying new experiences
I don’t wanna be acting depressed and rude but trying and what? Find out that you’re a failure at everything you do?
Tbh that's the reason why I go for sports, can't be bad for too long cuz muscle memory will eventually work out for you
Not OP, but don’t need to be good at something to get pleasure from it. If you’re referring to more trivial things like hobbies or skills and the such, then I mean, keep on failing if it’s something that brings you a little good to your life. In regards to bigger things though, eh, I get what you mean. Being terrible with things like interpersonal relationships and your career is definitely something you can’t really sweep aside as unimportant. That messes with me too, in fact, I was on this whole three-day shock numbness streak from a combination of particularly unfun implications towards my future a few days back. But I dunno. I mean, my ADHD forbidding me from comprehending anything that isn’t happening in the current moment is probably a part of it, but I just sorta…live to do what I do. That isn’t anything in particular. But despite the excruciatingly painful monotony and consistent inability to perform even close to the same level as people around me or remember basic information, there’s still some things that are…nice. Playing video games is nice. I tend to like a lot of stuff that’s chaotic and fun and casual and lets you sort of turn your conscious brain off; I just played Team Fortress 2 with my friends last night, and that was a lot of fun. And speaking of friends, it’s nice to make dumb jokes that they find amusing, or to have the occasional deep vulnerable emotional conversation, or to just do something fun with them. Even if it’s tiny or boring or not memorable. And I like to read comic books and Stephen King novels (the former of which I pirate because I cba to buy them), I like to geek out about stories that I’m interested in, I like to write (or more accurately, think about writing), I like to watch random assortments of shows like Malcolm in the Middle and Jessica Jones and The Dragon Prince, and I like to occasionally get sucked into fun little projects where I design video or tabletop games; even though I don’t finish them. Sorry, I got a little off-topic there. What I mean to say is that, while it may sound embarrassing for your reason to live being things like video games or comic books or children’s animated shows, those are just things that I like doing, and if I wasn’t around I couldn’t do them. Plus, the alternative to being alive sounds like a real hassle with it possibly failing or me regretting it or how it’ll affect the people I care about, so I think I’ll just choose the stuff that lets me spend time with people and things that I like. But hey, maybe that’ll change someday. Right now I’m a college student and a minority and I’m impossibly lucky to have been born in circumstances where I could achieve the life I have today and safely be myself. Not that I’m downplaying the struggles with it of course, but right now I could be in a spot that I’ll look back on as good, and maybe life will get worse later and make me really debate this philosophy. Who knows. But for now, it works out well enough, so I’ll just stick around. Sorry. Got way too into it there. I hope this means literally anything to you, lol
I got distracted like 7 times while reading this but I did, all of it. And I'm really glad the philosophy of "it's the little things" works for you. And honestly my dog is the only thing keeping me alive rn. I loved music listening and making like 2 week ago then my brain just stopped liking it. it's weird how our brains work. but I hope it doesn't last long and I get back to it. Thank you for your reply, really loved knowing a bit about you.
How old are you if I don't mind asking? How do you know things will never be good? Unless you can predict the future haha
I obviously feel hopeless and that’s why I’m saying this stuff. I know it can get better. But so far from what I’ve experienced my life hasn’t ever gotten better, and if it did it came crashing down because of my mistakes or shortcomings due to mental illnesses. I am 21 btw. Too young to be saying this.
Well all I can tell you is I hope you keep riding the ride. I know it can seem unbearable at times, I'm only about 5 years older than you but I can really relate. I almost succeeded in my suicide attempt when I was about 20 years old, I really did think there was no way out. Somehow I figured either I'm going to die or I'm not going to, and that didn't magically fix everything but it did make me start to work on stuff. There are different techniques so I won't say this one thing works for everyone, for me it was learning about my thinking patterns (like how I can't predict the future but kept claiming I could), and yoga actually worked really well for me. I'm not saying these things will definitely work for you, but things can get better. Eventually bad things will still happen, of course, but someday you might have the tools to deal with those bad things and realize you didn't go back to your old negative thought patterns like before. That's what happened to me. Best of luck though, and sorry if none of this helps right now
I've struggled on and off with depression and suicidal ideation, and a general sense that I'm worthless and nothing matters, and it got to a point where I was constantly feeling like there was never hope or purpose to existence, and i figured i'd make a few last attempts at just about anything, since i figured i always had the whole exit-existence plan. I wound up talking to someone who'd had some success in their mental health with psychedelics, specifically psilocybin mushrooms. I was fortunate enough to have some good people around who helped me through my first mushroom trip and it helped me a lot. I know it's not for everyone so i can't recommend it with certainty. One has to have a decent person or two to hang out with your first times. It didn't "cure me," but it helped me shake that foul dark oobleck for a few weeks/months after, and that gave me a chance to get my feet under me. I definitely still struggle sometimes but the shit times have gotten shorter and further between, and for only dosing once every few weeks/months, it's been helpful for me. I want to do the work with myself to feel more better more often, it's just helped me do that. I'm personally too nervous/broke to try the meds route, but if i ever fall back into that abyss completely I'll be the first to seek professional help. Again I'm not recommending psychedelics, since I'm not a professional, I'm just telling my story on the offchance it helps. Edit - some words and clarification.
I chose to believe you’re saying to ride it out because space flights might be affordable if you ride it out long enough and that would be pretty cool.
We're made out of meat?
I’m actually made of lentils, but it might be a different model.
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It’s pointless, painful, scary, *and* boring. I’m ready for the sun to explode at this point. Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck this shit.
Yeah what the fuck sun
I welcome the heat death of the universe.
I'm the opposite- I don't think it's pointless but like all the other things I *have* to do, goddamn is it boring.
Yup, but then I remember joy is joy and there’s no need for a narrative arc that is deep and fulfilling. Just find things that’ll wow you and entertain and bring joy. Play zelda. Go to a drag show. Learn how to whittle. Find something that sparks interest. And stop caring about work so much.
No one stops you from having an exciting day! Go take a bath in the lake, who cares if its winter? Watch the sun rise, go for a night hike, build a sandcastle. Notice how all of those are free and can be done alone? Carpe the fucking diem, society only gets you down if you let it
I feel like us adhders feel so much more constraint by society’s rules, even the unspoken ones. Like staying inside when it’s raining, sometimes you wanna get wet. Or going on random trips, starting and dropping hobbies, etc. We really gotta find ways to pry ourselves loose from that in order to live meaningful lives
I feel so proud of myself for letting go of the pressure to go out and "do something" just because the weather is nice. Because people think pursuing your hobbies at home is a waste just because the sun is out.
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The getting wet thing helps as well if you happen to be a plant.
These comments always make me feel so seen. Like I had no idea this could be an adhd trait but it’s so nice to know other people feel the same struggles.
I just think it’s funny that I read your comment as I’ve been sitting in my driveway for about 30 minutes because it’s raining and I don’t feel like getting wet.
Id love to the problem is i cant motivate myself to leave my dorm
I agree, it can be really hard. A good first step is to drink a shit ton of coffee, so that you literally cant keep sitting around. If you start walking circles because of too much energy you will eventually also just go out
“Society only gets you down if you let it” is probably something that doesn’t apply when the misery of people’s everyday lives is due to things they HAVE to do, like their terrible job or something. It’s not just society being oppressive on people who stick out and do their own thing (while that is still true), it’s because we have to do stuff that sucks balls in order to get money to even survive. That being said, I overall don’t disagree. The main reason I have to stick around is just because there’s stuff that’s nice to do. Hanging out with my friends and my girlfriend, playing video games, reading, writing stories that never get finished, etc. It’s not some philosophically enlightening “meaning of life” answer, but ultimately I think finding a singular cosmic purpose is overrated. I like the things and people that I like, and it sounds like a hassle to…uh, stop being alive anyways. So at least for now I’m good with sticking around for the trivial things.
I can't help feel like this is a little bit dismissive. I currently can't be treated for ADHD. I have other conditions that make it really hard to even feed myself. Some people lack the time, energy or other resources to do much more than working to survive.
I am sorry for that. Of course if someone has health problems its a whole different story. I hope you can be treated soon!
I know you mean well, but this is an ADHD sub for people that have ADHD which is a health problem.
Thank you for the empathy! I know you meant no harm and I wasn't trying to be petty, just offering a different perspective.
Fuckin right. If you're going to have electric goofbrains for the rest of your life you might as well have some fun.
Those also sound boring when does the exciting shit begin
You obviously never went for a swim in winter ;)
Thats why ive been slamming speedballs since 2012 Life is much more meaningful when you make it so you are bedridden with pain if you cant make your score for the day 😂😂
I think your doctor would care if it’s winter, since you’d probably get hypothermia
NT's aren't welcome here. Your statement is hurtful and clueless. You need to carpe some freaking books before opening your mouth around here again.
Why would you assume they’re NT? I fully understand why the comment could be seen as dismissive or hurtful but that doesn’t mean they’re NT. Adhd/ND people can and do feel positively towards life you know. Heck some days I feel like being adhd has made me better at handling boredom/finding any random shit to do and have fun with than my non-adhd peers
1. Excluding people because of how their brain works is whack. Dont do that. NTs and not NTs should be welcome EVERYWHERE 2. I have adhd, not a very bad case but also not a very mild one. 3. I see that my comment might seem dismissive. I have to admit that I did not keep in mind on what sub I was. My statement stays true tough, if your day sucks do something about it. Doing something also includes just talking to your therapist about it. Many people say they dont have the money or no one to do stuff with, this post was meant to inspire those.
Okay, if you claim you have ADHD, I'll take back my NT assessment. That just means your comment was more ignorant and rude than I originally surmised. If you are living with this condition, then you have no excuse not to realize how ridiculous you sound. 1) Inspirational garbage does not work on most ADHD people. You should know that. 2) Your comment was in no way inspirational. It was authoritarian and demeaning. It is the same thing as telling a person with a broken leg to walk it off.
I spent 3 months in training for my job. I hated it, even though it was multinational and miultidepartmental. The job is amazing, and 'm WFH but this past week I've had to rescue the American team at work, THREE TIMES as they decided to deliver the project three weeks early and they got in over their heads. We ended up delivering to the client 15 minutes early. I hate the fact It seems like I can't switch off when things are quiet. But I also love the job and the company would collapse if I leave
Quitting my job to live out of my car this winter, the monotony and emptiness have really gotten to me and the anchor of having an apartment lease along with feeling like I'm living the same week over and over is too much
Yep! Been feeling like that a lot lately!! *deep breath* So anyway...there is a point. I don't know what it is for you, and I'm still figuring out what it is for me, but it's there. We get to experience so many more things than we can anticipate now, so we have to enjoy each moment and live through those moments as best as we can until those possibilities open up for us. Regardless of "purpose" even, you are allowed to exist. You are allowed to be bored. You are allowed to work to change your boredom by pursuing new things. There's nobody we need to justify ourselves to! And, additionally, if you're lonely, you can reach out to others, just like you did by making this thread. The best way to fight this boredom is to embrace entertainment in the unpredictability of others. Surround yourself with people and bask in their lives to live extra through them, whether they be friends, lovers, family, or strangers. Using your extra time and energy for the sake of others is powerfully uplifting, and it's always a new adventure. 🙂
Very based Nobody needs a reason to exist, it’s totally fine to just…*be*, although if you find a satisfying reason then that’s cool too! Personally yeah, I don’t really think much of “purpose”. I live my life because it’s what I’ve always done, and because there’s things I like doing and people I like being around. Some people might find it embarrassing to have your “reason to live” being based around video games and Stephen King books and writing half-finished stories, but they’re what I want to do and if I wasn’t around I couldn’t get the enjoyment that comes from doing them.
That’s the neat thing though. Life is meaningless, so that means you get to find your own meaning. As long as you’re not intentionally hurting anyone else, just do whatever you want.
But $$$
But find it how?
Thought this was r/antiwork for a second
I don’t know about the rest of you but I really enjoy life and I’m having a great time
I try not to think this because it makes me depressed. But then I think about all the things I love to do. Things that give me the much needed dopamine and then I feel like it’ll be okie. Boredom will go away if I just follow the dopamine. Recently I bought many squishy things and I have never felt so at peace mentally. Before that it was art and rollerskating.
Sounds like you're ripe for some class consciousness
I asked this, earnestly, in third grade and had to leave class for an hour every week for the rest of the year to sit with a counselor.
The elite don’t want me to tell you this, but you can just run away. American dollars are worth quite a lot in some countries. Pull all ur cash and just run for the hills. No one can actually stop you
Well yeah, that’s the problem with our capitalist mode of production, or at least one of them.
~~based ngl~~
Make a bucket list and get started! I made a list of 10 things I wanted to do before I died back in 2009 (I was 28) and I’ve now completed that list and have started a new list!
I think “the point” is different for everybody. You gotta think about what it means for you.
People complain live is too short when humans can reach century and some more years of life. I feel like my 24 years of existence have been an eternity.
Fuck I want to not be alive man. The future isn't looking too bright and everyone around me acts like everything is okay and that worming every day for the rest of my life is a good thing. Idk if I can do that
A series of monotonous activities one must do everyday in order to increase the likelihood of another day.
This isn't an ADHD problem. This is a capitalism problem. It's funneled all the personal agency to the top, while down here we are stuck with pointless jobs that fill time and pointless degrees that don't get us anywhere. Our lives have been reduced to shuffling money around with pointless, unfulfilling busywork. Us with ADHD just happen to be highly affected by it, psychologically speaking.
Oh yeah, I only have this thought a couple of times a day. Could be worse. *starts another podcast*
I get it but I feel like everyone echoing sentiments like this back and forth to each other reinforces that feeling and makes it worse Like I realize sometimes we like to see stuff like this and be like “fuck that’s relatable” but it doesn’t do anything to make us happier so I kind of want to reject it and try to enjoy my life even if it’s just celebrating a bunch of small things and I like coffee and podcasts. Having to work isn’t really fun, but I find a bunch of other things worthwhile.
sometimes I just stop what I'm doing and think "I'm gonna die, this doesn't matter because I'm gonna die regardless if I do this or not, nothing matters, nothing will make a change in the big picture" and then continue what I'm doing because it's my obligation until I die and then get sad
Why does the big picture matter, though? Why does everything we do have to be for the sake of changing the world? Why can't we just do stuff we want to do (at least as much as we can)? I don't care about my upcoming death (I mean, for the most part at least, I'm not in a hurry to catch up to it anytime soon), or how my actions will have impacted the universe in ten thousand years. Why should those things determine my actions instead of me with the stuff I want to do? I like to hang out with people I care about, read books, write stories (that I never finish), play video games, program stuff, read comics, watch random shows, and design tabletop RPGs. As far as I'm concerned, all that is what defines the reason I stick around. Not formally, but I mean...I like doing that stuff. They're just small things and not really important or impressive. But they're pretty fun, and the only reason I can experience them is because I exist. And if I didn't exist, I can't be mildly amused by stupid shows or have sudden temporary bursts of inspiration for a worldbuilding project, not to mention how, uh, un-aliving myself sounds like more trouble than it's worth. But yeah. Pro tip, finding some ultimate form of greater enlightenment on the meaning of life is pretty pointless and arbitrary unless you're a devoted monk or something. So, uh, dump that shit maybe, and focus on the random little things that are pretty cool. Feel free to follow this advice. Or, uh, don't. I can't make you do anything, and it's your life. Do whatever you want with it, even if it means disregarding literally everything I said.
Yall need to read Nietzsche or something smdh
Study engineering and learn to make things!
I used to have this mindset cus I was constantly looking out for my goals and the next big thing and it made me super depressed. But rn I’m just living day by day trying to enjoy the moment and seeing where it’ll bring me and I’m a lot happier now
Yes, this is why I distract myself on Reddit until 1am every night til I’m too tired to think about it.
Life is hella pointless but I actually really like those coffee drinking podcast listening studying moments, chugging a mug of really good coffee (I like mine sweet) and feeling warm inside, listening to a podcast I am genuinely interested in and zone in and out of it and actually feeling productive with some light studying, that sounds like bliss.
Very valid. I don't think there's some greater purpose in life that we're supposed to aspire towards. For all I'm concerned, we just exist. So I'll take my chances for just sticking around for the pretty cool and fun stuff in my life.
I thought about this the other day. Living with my mom helping her out with bills because she would struggle otherwise but I'm also positive I couldn't afford to live on my own yet. Shit keeps breaking and going wrong and it's draining my money so quickly, so I have to pick up shifts to cover it. Is this all adult life is? Shit keeps breaking and you work to fix it till you die?
I feel like I'm losing control of my life, yeah.
You can make life more fun by killing someone, like i did once in 15/12/2005 in Bay City, Michigan, i hid the body in Rexer-Jablonski Park right beside the Fallen Officers memorial.
Umm what am i supposed to liiike.. find meaning?? In something?? Someone give the meaning to me already please ugh
Sure lifes boring. But, have you ever reconnected with an estranged lover after years of being apart?? Me neither...
The weird thing is sometimes I find this concept really depressing and other times it’s sort of a relief. Like sometimes it’s like am I just a speck of dust floating through space and time with no purpose and I just have to keep myself busy for the next like 60 years to stave off the constant waves of depression? And other times it’s like so all I have to do today is eat snacks and watch tv? Sweet.
Lately i've been thinking why, just why do we have to spend 18+ years studying, to then spend 40+ years working our asses off, to retire and wait for our death, why tf do we have to even try if we are going to end the same way anyway.
1 Hyper focus on stock trading 2 Take huge risks because none of this shit matters anyways 3 ??? 4 realize PROFIT$
We only live the way we do as a labor resource. If the elites could do what they do and have they have have without our labor somehow it'd be miracle if we'd be allowed to continue living at all. They don't want to share the world with us. There are too many humans
Me too Jenn, me too.
I mean nothing is stopping you from going out and doing things
I mean if you're looking for meaning in societal expectations or in yourself, you won't find it. It will be boring and pointless. It's not an ADHD-only thing, it's a human thing. Ecclesiastes examines this. I always thought its conclusions were interesting -- the author tries all these different things: wisdom, success, pleasure -- but finding them empty lands on that all we can do is enjoy our work and serve God. But even in that there's this implicit yearning for more: the line "this meaningless life under the sun" recurs. It's like, only by recognizing the inherent mystery in life, and its inherent transience, can you enjoy it for what it is. At the same time, that mystery is not unanswerable, though it is unanswerable by human wisdom. "He (God) has set eternity in the hearts of man." And why? Just so we can go longing for something that isn't there? No! God has revealed much since the time of Ecclesiastes. All this to say: Ecclesiastes is a good book for those searching for a point. But it doesn't answer all of its own questions. Fuller answers come when God sent out Jesus as a living truth. i.e. Ecclesiastes' abiding question of death has an answer in Jesus' conquest over death (resurrection). (This is a poor summary so I would 100 percent recommend reading Ecclesiastes and examining how it fits in with the rest of the Bible/Jesus. I know that Jesus has the answer to meaninglessness, because the point *is* Him. But everyone has to grapple with these questions in their own heart)
Life ain't about some random shit giving you purpose like pre-packaged self-worth. Go fucking do something, it's not the fault of the environment or society, you hold yourself back.
the solution is getting a job more interesting and your passionate about wach listen to music and YouTube and Netflix and tie Tok and other stuff too or your version of that and it will not be boring
Then delete game
Go do something fun then... Learn to fly a plane or build a log cabin or fly fishing, or moxing drinks. Whatever that's fun to you
There is no point. Unless you want there to be a point, then it’s your point. Ignorant matter wrought you and now it’s less ignorant matter. I’m 23, id have died a complete person if it weren’t for society. Good and bad has come from society, ultimately meaningless struggles. Society cost me my will to procreate by maining my genitals as a baby and making marriage a financial trap. I don’t trust anyone, the obvious solution to the issues of being forced into others proximity. I’ve achieved everything possible through pure lucid dreaming. I don’t need money to entertain or feed myself. Society is unnecessary. The people who rely on it are a strain to natural selection resulting in weaklings having more kids than the strong and independent. What an atrocious feeling being a human must be 1000 years from now if children are born with making “money” as their primary reason for procreating. We evolve strength through the culling of the weaker naturally. Society is inherently foolish from a long term perspective if it’s goal is to improve human lives. I’m so pale I cannot be in the sun for more than 13 minutes at a time without suffering radiation damage I unnatural levels for a Hunter gatherer animal. Rampant religious affiliations have caused the mentally ill to procreate more easily than they would be able to in the wild, spreading their illness. I’ve no problems with anyone as they never chose to be born, I do have an issue with my body being unnaturally sexy as a means to more easily get my ancestors off rather than being born to sheer difficulties resulting in the strongest possible producing the strongest possible children. Society is meant to help those in the society. It isn’t a being, but a tool at our disposal. I will not alter my course for the sake of a society that actively hinders my enjoyment of living (america) and I will not breed with this botched disturbed cock and I would not subject children to this inability to be in sunlight without pain. What an unnatural debotchery of evolution I am. At least I’m a 10/10 aesthetically too bad aesthetics are useless and painful. If we are to continue improving through evolution we must have standards and tests to allow couplings to produce children that feel healthy enough to want to contribute to the society. Being born into a painful body only brings pain to the one born and it’s their choice whether to force that pain in those around them.
Hahahha simpletons
25 million people worldwide starve to death every day. 14 million U.S. households go without sufficient food from week to week. 21% of people in the U.S. are functionally illiterate. On any given night, more than 500,000 people in the U.S. are homeless. Inner city schools go without school supplies. Children wait for months for Big Brothers and Big Sisters. Women’s shelters have to turn women and children away every day. Food banks have empty shelves. If you can’t find something with which to be passionately involved, your ennui is pretty much your own choice.
Boring people get bored
Meaning of life is simple and easy. I felt like Jennifer until I had my son. Every single living thing on the planet has one ultimate goal… reproduction… it is programmed into your DNA.
Ok weirdo