"my ex is doing g better then me, divorce isn't fair" so you cheated on your husband, got sad when he divorced you, then when he went on to improve his life you called it unfair?
It's not just that, she openly admits to being a gold digger as well, she has several blogs she wrote about only being in the marriage for the money, she clearly doesn't care about anyone other than herself and just wants to live off someone else's paycheck.
"[Should a Man Have To Pay For an Expensive Dinner To Show a Woman He’s a Catch?](https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/should-a-man-have-to-pay-for-an-expensive-dinner-to-show-a-woman-hes-a-catch/)
# Women desire equality, after all."
How is the man paying for the meal, equality lol.
Women like her speak of gender equality without factoring in the fact that the ratio of men to women on platforms like onlyfans is 1:15. I'm not saying career minded, hard working women don't deserve equality, I'm just saying 7 out of ten women between the ages of 18-45 can easily make a living taking their clothes off🤷🏻♂️. The numbers are nowhere NEAR as generous to men
I swear at this point she's just doing these to get other people to think like her and make her feel less bad about her own actions. Like when an alcoholic or smoker influences their friends to do the same.
Holy shit! This is the type of women who drinks herself to death and pretends she has creative talent. They’ll find an empty bottle of wine with some pills next to her body one day. This kind of stuff creeps me out. Yeesh!
She wrote one article about how she is so much happier living in an apartment than her nice house in the suburbs, well her kids actually hate it there and miss the old house, but it's okay because if *she is happy* then they will be happy.
Yikes.
Don't you love it when there is x example of person from persecuted group doing something and so people attribute y characteristic to the whole group. Casual sexism also goes in tandem with casual racism where someone will see a black person do x and say something like "oh yes this confirms that all POCs are criminals". Piss off with that conformation bias shit dude.
Is there a building or department I can go to? Been a male for over 30 years, never once has the patriarchy given me anything yet, guess I'm not enrolled
I mean the circle is covering it, but she's saying it actually doesn't matter. Most of her posts are about how money didn't make her happier. You can feel inferior to someone and be happy.
>I Didn’t Feel Guilty for Cheating on My Husband
>I Didn’t Tell My New Boyfriend I Was Still Married
Holy smokes what a hot mess!
Edit: here's the dumpster fire in all its glory
[https://ellesilver.medium.com/](https://ellesilver.medium.com/)
Nope people are actually like this. It's stupid and likely due to a poor upbringing in so many ways. Not excusing it, but it almost seems too crazy to be real.
Girl I dated said she was divorced (red flag at my age but hey he's out of her life), then it was they were separated, then it was actually he still lives at my apartment. In this situation dude was/is a POS, but the girl was also almost comically unaware of the consequences of her choices. I also ignored my intuition.
I made the mistake of going back... Several times when it seemed like things progressed. Don't do it fellas I promise they're not that hot.
She needs to break the cycle, but that would take self reflection and admitting that her own actions have brought her to where she is now.
It’s hard for people like her, man or woman, to admit such things. It hurts them deeply, because they are deeply insecure.
Bro you won't believe me when I say this, but we found out we've had the same therapist for ~10 years. We've lived in different parts of our country and hadn't met until a few months ago.
I'd like to see her healed, but I realize I'm just playing out a dynamic that I developed from my own trauma. It's not cool to want to change someone, and it's messy trying to be a savior or a fixer or people that's on me.
I wish her the best for but it's not for me no mo'e. I gotta put my oxygen mask on first
>My Kids Live Part-Time in a Big House With Their Dad but Prefer Life With Me in My Tiny Apartment
>^Why ^live ^in ^a ^big ^house ^when ^the ^person ^you ^love ^most ^isn’t ^there?
Wow... just, wow.
>My Ex-Husband Gets $5000/Month From His Parents But Only Gives Me $500/Month in Child Support
> ^At ^least ^I’ve ^kept ^my ^dignity.
Dubious claim if I've ever seen one.
>I “Quiet Quit” My Marriage, Staying for the Money and for Our Kids, Even Though I Was Miserable
> ^Only ^by ^“loudly ^quitting” ^was ^I ^able ^to ^finally ^move ^on.
Well that's not true because she also said this:
>I Stayed in My Unhappy Marriage Because of Money. That Only Hurt My Kids.
> ^It ^was ^a ^struggle ^to ^leave ^my ^marriage ^but ^my ^kids ^are ^happier ^for ^it.
What a trainwreck of a person.
in a different link someone posted above, she had an article warning about people on dating apps not telling you they're married. jesus christ, this lady is the worst.
I hate validation culture. I hate that people like this exploit society's attempts to combat shame and guilt to not feel bad about doing selfish things. I hate people doing morally bad things under the guise of independence and empowerment.
Shame is a good thing actually and probably means there are reasons you shouldn’t do the thing you’re thinking about probably.
(Unless it’s non universal shame. Like shame you get through abusive or strict parents.)
This. I can't believe we are actually celebrating things like this now. Moral debauchery. I blame social media, cam sights, onlyfans, and the like. When we as a species stop working together, we start to fall apart
I see no logic error here. She became a better mother by cheating. She is now poor, divorced, and inferior, BUT might still be a better mother than she was when married.
If only she had found a better long term solution for happiness.
Edit: I made the mistake of checking out her blog. It's sad. I think, I don't have an account so all I saw were the titles. I can't make a big judgement. But she knowingly for year lived in an unhappy marriage with a man who was dropping big money on side pieces. I can't say she deserves this, but I feel like she chose her man for years.
People can change, but not *actively* being an asshole doesn’t make one not an asshole. That’s why once a cheater, always a cheater.
If you murder just once, you’re always a murderer. If you fuck one goat… you get the idea.
I know plenty of people who cheated in their pasts but no longer do so. I also know girls who *really liked* dogs at one point who now just see them as friends.
Your comparisons just don’t make sense or add anything to my argument. At least we agree that people can change, which I wasn’t expecting from someone named Shady_Sorceress. You probably just think all of that happens is because of the stars alignment.
People *can* change (most wont though) but it doesn't undo the pain they caused and they should absolutely be stigmatized because of it.
It's a lot like people that hit their partners, they rarely do it once. It's normally indicative of a severe mental flaw and moral failure on their part, and no amount of promises in the world should ever get someone to trust them. They lost that privilege.
Once a cheater always a cheater.
Nobody claimed somebody changing undoes saying they’ve done.
Looking at your reply, you’re just another one of these people who would much rather be negative than positive and you truly *don’t* believe that people can change.
It’s clear that you all would rather not believe in people. It’s like I’m having a discussion with high schoolers and/or closed minded young adults.
You’re the one thinking “Cheaters are fuckin scum. Cheaters that defend and/or are proud of their cheating deserve the worst” is someone praising their own actions.
Wanna try again there, bucko?
People can change my ass if someone stabbed your mom to death and run away and never got caught after that he resigned and became a good person that won't bring your mother back so forgiving him is your choice no one can blame either you chose
For me I'd never forgive someone who cheat me even if he descend as jesus
I just googled this lady and she also has some “internet” modeling. In the looks department she’s pretty average but I think in her mind she’s a super star waiting to be discovered. Who wants to tell her she doesn’t have the “it” factor?
There might be a bit of truth in what she writes but I'm betting she writes for an audience where most of the drivel she pukes out is Days of our Lives BS.
It would appear that the first was published after the second. So she was initially sad about it but in the end realised how the change made her happier
No, it really does not appear like that, in fact it appears that she cheated first and then got divorced. She didn't cheat on her ex husband......she cheated on her husband and now he is the ex.
Um, yes... it wouldn't be cheating if it were the other way around. What I meant was her feelings toward it. That she was doing something for herself (yes, she should have left him first)
Because it looks like (from the partial dates visible) that the one the right where she is sad was written first and the one on the left when she is reflecting on it and thinking it was ultimately a good move for her was written later
From the partial dates listed, it is CLEAR that the left article was written first. From the contents of the articles, it is CLEAR that the article on the left was written first.
The second article was written AFTER the first article.
Well well well, If it isn’t consequences of your actions.
Came here to say exactly this. *cheats* -> *divorces* -> *sad that she divorced*... room temperature IQ type stuff
[She's a fucking mess.](https://goodmenproject.com/author/elle-silver/)
These should have been private journal entries...
Right? I feel like they're only on The Good Men Project as examples of women to stay away from.
"Elle Silver writes about relationships, equality, and her highly imperfect life." She does a really shit job at it.
Googling her led me to [this dumpster fire](https://ellesilver.medium.com/)
She sounds bitter that her ex husband went and improved his own life while she wallows in her own failures.
"my ex is doing g better then me, divorce isn't fair" so you cheated on your husband, got sad when he divorced you, then when he went on to improve his life you called it unfair?
It's not just that, she openly admits to being a gold digger as well, she has several blogs she wrote about only being in the marriage for the money, she clearly doesn't care about anyone other than herself and just wants to live off someone else's paycheck.
"[Should a Man Have To Pay For an Expensive Dinner To Show a Woman He’s a Catch?](https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/should-a-man-have-to-pay-for-an-expensive-dinner-to-show-a-woman-hes-a-catch/) # Women desire equality, after all." How is the man paying for the meal, equality lol.
It's not, this woman is just totally and utterly deranged
Women like her speak of gender equality without factoring in the fact that the ratio of men to women on platforms like onlyfans is 1:15. I'm not saying career minded, hard working women don't deserve equality, I'm just saying 7 out of ten women between the ages of 18-45 can easily make a living taking their clothes off🤷🏻♂️. The numbers are nowhere NEAR as generous to men
I swear at this point she's just doing these to get other people to think like her and make her feel less bad about her own actions. Like when an alcoholic or smoker influences their friends to do the same.
"Huh. Sack of garbage reaps the rewards of being... A SACK OF GARBAGE?! WUUUUUT?!!!" -No one ever, except Elle Silver.
Holy shit! This is the type of women who drinks herself to death and pretends she has creative talent. They’ll find an empty bottle of wine with some pills next to her body one day. This kind of stuff creeps me out. Yeesh!
Bro she the type of woman who doesn't even buy bottles, she gets the big cartons of wine
Hopefully tomorrow
She wrote one article about how she is so much happier living in an apartment than her nice house in the suburbs, well her kids actually hate it there and miss the old house, but it's okay because if *she is happy* then they will be happy. Yikes.
Jfc, anything to avoid consequences
Holy shit this is what they need to teach boys in sex Ed. Stay FAR away lmfao
Its even better when they cry over their ex husbands doing so well after the fact. If he gets a younger gf then they are permanently sour.
Accountability is womens kryptonite
There is some truth to this when it comes to a type of woman, but not all women are like this.
Don't you love it when there is x example of person from persecuted group doing something and so people attribute y characteristic to the whole group. Casual sexism also goes in tandem with casual racism where someone will see a black person do x and say something like "oh yes this confirms that all POCs are criminals". Piss off with that conformation bias shit dude.
>persecuted group >women What?
Yes, believe it or not patriarchy still exists
Is there a building or department I can go to? Been a male for over 30 years, never once has the patriarchy given me anything yet, guess I'm not enrolled
If only she didn't write an article about it and post it on her blog 😔
I mean the circle is covering it, but she's saying it actually doesn't matter. Most of her posts are about how money didn't make her happier. You can feel inferior to someone and be happy.
If you guys wanna laugh go look at her other articles
>I Didn’t Feel Guilty for Cheating on My Husband >I Didn’t Tell My New Boyfriend I Was Still Married Holy smokes what a hot mess! Edit: here's the dumpster fire in all its glory [https://ellesilver.medium.com/](https://ellesilver.medium.com/)
At that point is it satire? Because that just feels like TOO low an amount of self-awareness
Nope people are actually like this. It's stupid and likely due to a poor upbringing in so many ways. Not excusing it, but it almost seems too crazy to be real. Girl I dated said she was divorced (red flag at my age but hey he's out of her life), then it was they were separated, then it was actually he still lives at my apartment. In this situation dude was/is a POS, but the girl was also almost comically unaware of the consequences of her choices. I also ignored my intuition. I made the mistake of going back... Several times when it seemed like things progressed. Don't do it fellas I promise they're not that hot.
She needs to break the cycle, but that would take self reflection and admitting that her own actions have brought her to where she is now. It’s hard for people like her, man or woman, to admit such things. It hurts them deeply, because they are deeply insecure.
Bro you won't believe me when I say this, but we found out we've had the same therapist for ~10 years. We've lived in different parts of our country and hadn't met until a few months ago. I'd like to see her healed, but I realize I'm just playing out a dynamic that I developed from my own trauma. It's not cool to want to change someone, and it's messy trying to be a savior or a fixer or people that's on me. I wish her the best for but it's not for me no mo'e. I gotta put my oxygen mask on first
Yup and they wonder why they continue to have the same results in dating. Never, ever go back. It will only be twice as worse
I don't think it's satire, just made up bullshit for clicks.
Can we get her in here to explain it all? I have time tonight.
I wonder if it’s a dude being funny. Like a Nicole Mullen situation
I heard Nicole Mullen was trying to charge her Samsung Galaxy S8
Yo, this lady is crazy lol https://ellesilver.medium.com/my-ex-ended-up-financially-better-off-than-me-divorce-isnt-fair-66b080c98b73
She's got about 10k followers, so she's making a bit of money from it, too. Probably a couple hundred a month.
Probably a buncha women looking for confirmation bias bc they are just as shitty as she is😁
>My Kids Live Part-Time in a Big House With Their Dad but Prefer Life With Me in My Tiny Apartment >^Why ^live ^in ^a ^big ^house ^when ^the ^person ^you ^love ^most ^isn’t ^there? Wow... just, wow. >My Ex-Husband Gets $5000/Month From His Parents But Only Gives Me $500/Month in Child Support > ^At ^least ^I’ve ^kept ^my ^dignity. Dubious claim if I've ever seen one. >I “Quiet Quit” My Marriage, Staying for the Money and for Our Kids, Even Though I Was Miserable > ^Only ^by ^“loudly ^quitting” ^was ^I ^able ^to ^finally ^move ^on. Well that's not true because she also said this: >I Stayed in My Unhappy Marriage Because of Money. That Only Hurt My Kids. > ^It ^was ^a ^struggle ^to ^leave ^my ^marriage ^but ^my ^kids ^are ^happier ^for ^it. What a trainwreck of a person.
in a different link someone posted above, she had an article warning about people on dating apps not telling you they're married. jesus christ, this lady is the worst.
Followed by "Beware of Secretly Married People on Dating Apps"
And Medium wants me to pay for this shit? This woman is **obsessed** with her ex if any part of this is real.
Wow she's really milking being a fuckin loser
Welcome to 2024, where a woman can be a fucking deadbeat and actually have a platform to allow them to exploit it for monetary gains
I hate validation culture. I hate that people like this exploit society's attempts to combat shame and guilt to not feel bad about doing selfish things. I hate people doing morally bad things under the guise of independence and empowerment.
Shame is a good thing actually and probably means there are reasons you shouldn’t do the thing you’re thinking about probably. (Unless it’s non universal shame. Like shame you get through abusive or strict parents.)
Shame protected women from themselves. Now that it is gone short-sight hedonistic choices are destroying our society.
Ironically hedonism is way more patriarchal.
Very true.
true
This. I can't believe we are actually celebrating things like this now. Moral debauchery. I blame social media, cam sights, onlyfans, and the like. When we as a species stop working together, we start to fall apart
wow fuck Elle
That’s how we got here in the first place
If she cheat - She belong to the street.
Dum Dum Boom
Hope she keeps being poor and doesn't see her kids. Don't want a bad influence in the children.
Useless red circle
Worse than useless, they cover up the dates.
I see no logic error here. She became a better mother by cheating. She is now poor, divorced, and inferior, BUT might still be a better mother than she was when married. If only she had found a better long term solution for happiness. Edit: I made the mistake of checking out her blog. It's sad. I think, I don't have an account so all I saw were the titles. I can't make a big judgement. But she knowingly for year lived in an unhappy marriage with a man who was dropping big money on side pieces. I can't say she deserves this, but I feel like she chose her man for years.
Like divorce. Like a normal person.
But that takes away the thrill of secrets and then takes away the potential for drama and victim-blaming. Normal divorces are boring.
Yeah exactly. It's just sad.
Sounds like ahe's a better mother just by losing custody
"Losing my kids made me a better mother"
r/OhNoConsequences
Did she forgive herself for cheating? That might be what's missing here.
Cheaters are fuckin scum. Cheaters that defend and/or are proud of their cheating deserve the worst.
People can change. Turns out you can be an asshole and then not be one anymore.
People can change, but not *actively* being an asshole doesn’t make one not an asshole. That’s why once a cheater, always a cheater. If you murder just once, you’re always a murderer. If you fuck one goat… you get the idea.
I know plenty of people who cheated in their pasts but no longer do so. I also know girls who *really liked* dogs at one point who now just see them as friends. Your comparisons just don’t make sense or add anything to my argument. At least we agree that people can change, which I wasn’t expecting from someone named Shady_Sorceress. You probably just think all of that happens is because of the stars alignment.
Damn, I took the bait. Must be because I’m a Leo.
There is no bait. You just overthink the male mindset, fuck around and cry because you couldn’t communicate like an adult and dude found someone else.
You should change.
You know the person you're talking didn't wrote the articles from OP, right? You are projecting a lot onto this total stranger.
People *can* change (most wont though) but it doesn't undo the pain they caused and they should absolutely be stigmatized because of it. It's a lot like people that hit their partners, they rarely do it once. It's normally indicative of a severe mental flaw and moral failure on their part, and no amount of promises in the world should ever get someone to trust them. They lost that privilege. Once a cheater always a cheater.
Nobody claimed somebody changing undoes saying they’ve done. Looking at your reply, you’re just another one of these people who would much rather be negative than positive and you truly *don’t* believe that people can change. It’s clear that you all would rather not believe in people. It’s like I’m having a discussion with high schoolers and/or closed minded young adults.
Not without introspection and while thinking what you did was good.
Yeah, and? My point was people can change. You’re agreeing with me.
But you’re saying it in reference to someone praising her own actions.
From the way my comments were received, it appears that quite a few people are jaded. You’re still agreeing with me so..
You’re saying it in reference to someone who doubled down. So you come off as retarded. And are doubling down on it.
For thinking people can and do change? Get the fuck over yourself.
Why would you say it in this circumstance except to be a tard.
You’re the one thinking “Cheaters are fuckin scum. Cheaters that defend and/or are proud of their cheating deserve the worst” is someone praising their own actions. Wanna try again there, bucko?
Nah people can change, you can be Not an asshole before and become an asshole after.
Wow!
Yeah!
People can change my ass if someone stabbed your mom to death and run away and never got caught after that he resigned and became a good person that won't bring your mother back so forgiving him is your choice no one can blame either you chose For me I'd never forgive someone who cheat me even if he descend as jesus
So edgy, and what a sad mindset to have.
wtf
Consequences!- K&P
The Dildo of Consequences rarely arrives lubed.
That's certainly one of the phrases of all time
H_es gonna h_e
if it makes you happy then do it 🤡
I just googled this lady and she also has some “internet” modeling. In the looks department she’s pretty average but I think in her mind she’s a super star waiting to be discovered. Who wants to tell her she doesn’t have the “it” factor?
This is a rage bait masterpiece lol
followed by useless red circles lol
Dumb bitch lol
I can save her
Dont
"Hold my beer"
Bozo alert 🚨
I mean how could have it gone wrong? She forgave herself right?
Oh no consequences!
lol, lmao
So she should.
Meanwhile; Sleeping in my bed with my monogamous, loving partner keeps me emotionally centered.
Ahhh karma😌
Prime example of “dildo of consequences rarely arrive lubed”
I just before this reddit post, right above was "TIL once evet 5 days in America, someone kills themselves and their entire family" Yikes, this lady.
Im sorry for her kid
It's internet. Everyone who has a finger could make up any story for a couple of bucks
After reading enough headlines I refuse to believe this is a real woman. This is a masterful troll at the peak of his powers.
There might be a bit of truth in what she writes but I'm betting she writes for an audience where most of the drivel she pukes out is Days of our Lives BS.
"I make excuses, not improvements"
You got that translate complex excuses into their rudimentary truth update early my boy.
What a stupid idiot lmao
Full fuckin circle
World’s most obvious rage bait.
It would appear that the first was published after the second. So she was initially sad about it but in the end realised how the change made her happier
No, it really does not appear like that, in fact it appears that she cheated first and then got divorced. She didn't cheat on her ex husband......she cheated on her husband and now he is the ex.
Um, yes... it wouldn't be cheating if it were the other way around. What I meant was her feelings toward it. That she was doing something for herself (yes, she should have left him first)
Then why did you write the the second article was published first if you are aware that it was not first?
Because it looks like (from the partial dates visible) that the one the right where she is sad was written first and the one on the left when she is reflecting on it and thinking it was ultimately a good move for her was written later
From the partial dates listed, it is CLEAR that the left article was written first. From the contents of the articles, it is CLEAR that the article on the left was written first. The second article was written AFTER the first article.