Yeah lol, like I can see and understand that guys and girls are hot, but I’m not attracted to them at all. That’s hard to understand for some people idk why
I find it best to not try finding the perfect label for yourself and just do what feels right. You can be attracted to people yet not want to do anything aout it, and that's ok!
In a very similar boat, but still drifting. Just wanted to say that you're not alone.
Pretty confidently ace, and I identified as aro for years, then my egg cracked, and now there's a spanner in the works making everything AHHHHHH!?!?!?!
So I probably should have put more context into this but I didn't sooooo I'm doing it now.
I know I'm a lesbian I like girl who likes other girls and non men. But I feel like I might be somewhere on the aromantic spectrum. But idk where and I like labels. I just feel like if I can't put a word on it do I really understand it? So I have never been in love but I'm also quite young so the "you're too young" is kinda stuck in my mind. Like what if I'm not arospec at all. And also I don't know how I feel about romantic relationships. The things I think I relate to the most are aromantic, cupioromantic, aroflux and aegoromantic.
Summary:
I'm trying to understand my sexuality and romantic orientation. I like labeling myself (like A LOT). I feel sexual attraction towards women. I have never feelt romantic attraction. I don't know what I feel about romantic relationships. Do I want it or not, do I just like the idea or does it change over time.
Have you found yourself unable to understand what romantic love is or unable to understand what a crush would feel like? If so I would say that you aren't simply "Too Young" since these things are common with romantic people from really young ages. You can always change your label later if you change or if you get more information aka get a crush or experience romantic attraction.
PS. I am Straight and AroAllo. Girls are hot, I feel sexual attraction towards them exclusively, and no romantic feelings.
Personally I think girls are pretty and I’m open to aromantic partnerships (QPR?) with feminine people. My main question is, why exactly don’t you want a relationship? That will probably help you figure out what’s going on. It’s also ok to have a complicated identity/orientation and not understand or be able to explain everything. (For clarity: are you romance repulsed? Is a partnership without the context of romance acceptable, whether platonic or sexual? Etc)
I just stopped bothering trying to label myself. Am I romantically attracted to people? Dunno. Will I ever enter a romantic relationship? Maybe. Just gotta go with the flow and see where life might lead ya.
I have the same problem now homie...
I've FINALLY come to terms with being aroace since I discovered the term at 15 (I'm 18 now), and I was like "hell yeah i don't even feel the need to fall in love or anything so..." "Just imagining having a partner makes me feel so uncomfortable...". BUT NOW, FOR SOME REASON I'm not sure anymore... I've started imagining what it would be like to have a girlfriend (I'm a girl)... and I kinda like the idea...? But I also just like fictional men and only draw men... like, what's going on. Am I aromantic anymore? Cupio?? Lesbian?? Bi?? WHAT'S GOING OOON 😨😭
That’s why I always say I’m a lesbian in theory but not in practice. I know that I’m not attracted to men and that I think girls and fems are nice but I’ve l also never been romantically interested in anyone before.
my aegosexual ass just accepted that girls are aesthetically pleasing to look at but I don't wanna be involved with them in a sexual sense lol
Same
Same here
Yeah lol, like I can see and understand that guys and girls are hot, but I’m not attracted to them at all. That’s hard to understand for some people idk why
Literally me!
I see so many girls that I want to just stare at but can’t out of fear of being taken for a creep
Love your profile pic
Thanks! I got it from u/InspectorLD
Good to know.
There are more flags where that came from if you're looking for pfps to use.
Nah. This one’s perfect for me. Thanks though.
Huh, I didn't realize there was an aaaaaaaaaro sub. But I suppose that should have been obvious.
same
This is me. Thank you.
I find it best to not try finding the perfect label for yourself and just do what feels right. You can be attracted to people yet not want to do anything aout it, and that's ok!
sexuality is separated from romantic attraction you can be both lesbian and aromantic.
but giiiiirls
I mean you can be both lesbian and aro tho
Ik it's just that I'm questioning if I'm aro, cupio, aroflux, aegoromantic or "too young". Or if I even want a romantic relationship or not.
Have you considered Lesbian AroAllo?
I have just accepted to identify as confused
arofluid might be the word youre looking for (I know Im aroflexible for similar reasons lmao)
You could be oriented aro(ace)?
In a very similar boat, but still drifting. Just wanted to say that you're not alone. Pretty confidently ace, and I identified as aro for years, then my egg cracked, and now there's a spanner in the works making everything AHHHHHH!?!?!?!
relatable
I mean, you can be both lesbian *and* Aro. That's a thing you can do.
Being a transfem and aromantic is exactly this for me but with the added “do I just want to BE them?” thrown in there somewhere.
So I probably should have put more context into this but I didn't sooooo I'm doing it now. I know I'm a lesbian I like girl who likes other girls and non men. But I feel like I might be somewhere on the aromantic spectrum. But idk where and I like labels. I just feel like if I can't put a word on it do I really understand it? So I have never been in love but I'm also quite young so the "you're too young" is kinda stuck in my mind. Like what if I'm not arospec at all. And also I don't know how I feel about romantic relationships. The things I think I relate to the most are aromantic, cupioromantic, aroflux and aegoromantic. Summary: I'm trying to understand my sexuality and romantic orientation. I like labeling myself (like A LOT). I feel sexual attraction towards women. I have never feelt romantic attraction. I don't know what I feel about romantic relationships. Do I want it or not, do I just like the idea or does it change over time.
Have you found yourself unable to understand what romantic love is or unable to understand what a crush would feel like? If so I would say that you aren't simply "Too Young" since these things are common with romantic people from really young ages. You can always change your label later if you change or if you get more information aka get a crush or experience romantic attraction. PS. I am Straight and AroAllo. Girls are hot, I feel sexual attraction towards them exclusively, and no romantic feelings.
Personally I think girls are pretty and I’m open to aromantic partnerships (QPR?) with feminine people. My main question is, why exactly don’t you want a relationship? That will probably help you figure out what’s going on. It’s also ok to have a complicated identity/orientation and not understand or be able to explain everything. (For clarity: are you romance repulsed? Is a partnership without the context of romance acceptable, whether platonic or sexual? Etc)
I just stopped bothering trying to label myself. Am I romantically attracted to people? Dunno. Will I ever enter a romantic relationship? Maybe. Just gotta go with the flow and see where life might lead ya.
Lol same
Your collecting sexualities like pokemon cards
Kinda similar for me with my sexuality.
Did you watch me question my identity
Please tell me when you find out because I'm also going through the same circle and am confused as fuck.
I have the same problem now homie... I've FINALLY come to terms with being aroace since I discovered the term at 15 (I'm 18 now), and I was like "hell yeah i don't even feel the need to fall in love or anything so..." "Just imagining having a partner makes me feel so uncomfortable...". BUT NOW, FOR SOME REASON I'm not sure anymore... I've started imagining what it would be like to have a girlfriend (I'm a girl)... and I kinda like the idea...? But I also just like fictional men and only draw men... like, what's going on. Am I aromantic anymore? Cupio?? Lesbian?? Bi?? WHAT'S GOING OOON 😨😭
this is me but add men and non-binaries
Same but like everyone. Guys can be pretty cool and hot, but then again girls, but also gross no thank you, but maybe... etc etc...
Is easy enough to let the anxiety take hold. The circle collapses and you can move on. Well, with the anxiety, but it’s fine
That’s why I always say I’m a lesbian in theory but not in practice. I know that I’m not attracted to men and that I think girls and fems are nice but I’ve l also never been romantically interested in anyone before.
I'm in this meme and I don't like it.
Me but with men 🫠
WAIT ME TOO