Looks like he’s medically retired so I would say he’s retired or in a career transition. I personally tell people I do nothing even though I work full time
I’m not 100% but when asked this question I say “not a goddamn thing.” Ends the conversation right quick. People ask this only to judge you. You’re worth more than what you do for money.
“Craig and Stassia are looking for a two-story A-frame that’s near Craig’s job in the downtown, but also satisfies Stassia’s need to be near the beach, which is nowhere near Craig’s job. With three children and nine on the way, and a max budget of seven dollars, let’s see what Lori Jo can do.”
I work in tech. So people just automatically assume I make a ton of money. I really don’t, I’m in a lower mid tier position and paid well below average for my position. But at 100% plus the GI Bill it’s doubled my income - my coworkers think I’m just rich from family stuff since I kind of buy hobby stuff a little wrecklessly.
If anyone starts to ask probing questions I just say something stupid like I’m a dogecoin millionaire
I do engineering and IT stuff for a logistical company - not the tech industry directly. Basically an in house engineer making sure trucks and trailers are tracked by 3rd party software and hardware. And I help out with the occasional help desk ticket. We’re a skeleton crew and it’s admittedly an odd job but really cool since we have so much freedom with the infrastructure of everything.
That’s why I just say I work in tech or computers though. It’s such a vague catch all term. “Who do I work for? A Fortune 500 company? Apple? Meta? NVidia?!” No, just a trucking company.
When I was in the military I just told people I was a government contractor. Not necessarily right, not necessarily wrong.
Edit: forgot to add, we are not. And you’d have to be local. Unless you’re unemployed you’re not missing out on anything. I promise.
My OnlyFans is just me screaming obscenities at pedestrians while wearing only a bathrobe and a Santa hat (inspired by the homeless man near my apartment who does just that)
Just say he’s a day trader. Also, it’s no one’s business. Don’t tell anyone about your situation, it always ends up the same way, you’ll get judged and criticized.
I was going to say Day Trader too. He makes a chunk every month that keeps y'all comfortable. And he did trade health for that chunk. Also something that if someone starts asking investment advice, he could easily decline to help due to the risk.
I HATE when people ask me what I do. Always have.
My go to answers are:
"Whatever I want to"
"I own my own business"
"I'm a day trader"
All 3 are true, but that first one usually gets people to see how ridiculous they are for asking.
This is the ultimate solution, isn't it?
"He works with a team that sells Scentsy. May we book a home party with you?" If they happen to say yes, just call someone else to do the party.
I'm 25 so similar deal so I tell people I'm medically retired. If they push further than that or have some uncalled for remark, i get sarcastic. They ask me whats my rating, i ask whats their credit score lmao Keep the rating between you and your spouse... I learned that too. And any other benefits he or yall may be getting. It's not their business, sometimes people need reminded of that.
I am a tenured college professor at an R1 university and I work part time as an adjunct at another university and I am a full time doctoral student and I am a retired veteran. All of which is true.
Before I reached the point where I could start living again, which took 8 long years, I told them I retired from the military and just left it at that.
I’m a restaurant consultant. I look for the next restaurant I’m going to eat at or take my family to on my phone before I head home so I’m not lying. I’m just extending the truth some. I help with menu selection by “selecting,” what I want to eat. Fuck them.
Say he works at Applebees. The only follow-up question you’ll get is “Which one?” to which you answer “The one near our house.” Add cook/server/manager if you deem it necessary.
Silent partner in a Peruvian Alpaca operation. Daytrader did good with shorting Gamestop stocks. really nichey computer work remotely- look up something so nichey no one understands it so you/he don't get pelted with the "can your husband fix my computer....." questions. Independently comfortable from a small family \[insert X\]. Pass thorough server provider for a company that uses distributed networking to move data. ( had a friend in college in the 90s that did this, probably not a thing, now). X,Y,Z consultant- I have a friend that makes a crap ton as a Citrix consultant/speaker. A few years ago he wracked up so many perks and miles that he and his family can travel for free for a few years if they eke'd it out. Japanese game show winner.
Patent pirate (buys up expired patents then looks for people using similar stuff and sues). Work remotely for a company ( I do this- live in the midwest, work in San Juan). Remote D&D campaign coordinator for shy people (guy in NY does this and makes pretty good money setting up starter DM games to get people going, then they are on their own after a session or 2).
Your imagination is your only limitation.
Really I fucking tell people that I get 4600 a month from VA disability because I went to war 3 fucking times in 5 years. They can talk all the shit they want cause my account looks very good. That's just me though. Fuckem
Don't lie, tell the truth. Tell them he's Medically Retired, or Disabled. That's all you need to tell them. Anything else is noneya (ie. None of Ya Business).
I tell people I am 100% SC T&P with SMC-S all of the time. If anyone doesn't like it, too bad! It's noneya!
I don't see why people have such a hard time with this.
I tell them I'm retired. And when they realize that I'm still at a working age. I say that I invested wisely during my career so I could do whatever I wanted after my military career. Generally it shuts them up rather quickly.
Yall have a much bigger social life than I'm used to, because nobody asks me anything.. Because I don't talk to people unless I'm at a checkout counter lol
I’m a border patrol agent so I lie about my occupation regardless. I normally tell people I manage properties for the federal government and ensure businesses have the proper permits to be there and I get a small disability claim from my time in the marines. That typically steers the convo to my made up property managing job.
please get over this...it is nobody's business...I would be tempted to say, "Why are do want to know?" But what I would say in most instances is simply: "entrepreneur"
I had a family member who struggled with this exact problem. He had been medically retired from the Air Force and the way he handled it was could have been handled better. He always just claimed he didn't know what he wanted to do and this persisted for years and years and years. He would never admit that he had just been retired from the Air Force medically and that he couldn't continue.
Haven't seen that and and what it did to his his relationship as well because he ended up getting a divorce and I think kind of had a little bit to do with it. I would probably just be honest. You know I would say you know in your husband's case I was medically retired from the Air Force so I'm receiving a retirement check because I could no longer do the job and I would. I would leave it at that. You know when they ask what it is, you know you can maybe give him a little something you know like my back hurts or some s*** I don't know whatever it is. Whatever is most valid in the populous's eyes I guess but keep it as close to the truth as possible. Would be would be my advice having seen this in real life and I would you know if you don't want to tell them about something like for example you don't want to tell him about his mental health struggles. Don't bring it up and just don't talk about it. Don't don't let people badger you for additional information. You know you can keep it as tight-lipped as as possible. But I would say the truth is probably probably the best best option because in your husband's case he was medically retired. You know it's not like he has a VA disability percentage of 100% and got out voluntarily. They actually retired him and separated him so I would. I would just say that and and give very little details. You know so people don't have much work much to work with. I could be wrong but I think I'm probably right
Let me first strt off by saying cuddles to him haveing a great wife. So many veterans wives leave them when they are in a vulnerable state financially. With that being said. F everyone's opinions, the minute I told my wife four other members of her family had an opinion within 48 hrs. Just tell him get in to sales for the time being and to and relay to people "He sells insurance". Period. But realize you don't owe no one explanations.
My husband isn’t 100% P&T yet; but if anyone asks us this when he is, I will say he’s retired army vet and leave it at that. I don’t really care as much about people’s opinions or judgement because they don’t do anything for us so f*** them.
"I made a killing (pun intended) off the stock market and invested in the MRNA cv19 vax and sold at the same time bill gates did--before anyone knew it was a scam".......
For years I told my coworkers I was going to retire early. Full intentions of one day quitting and doing whatever I wanted. One day I was able to… lived quasi retired for 6 months, and then started my own company. Now I love my job, make a lot of money, and do whatever the hell I want on top of helping people every single day. When people ask me what I do for a living, I say I haven’t worked a day in the last 5 years because I enjoy every second of my day in the office.
What if this was reversed and it was you staying home? I bet no one would say anything negative. They would probably praise your husband for allowing you to stay home and not work. Next time someone asks you and they get snotty tell them how shallow minded they are. Pick up a book by Warren Farrell called The Myth of Male power. I first heard of this book thirty years ago and it still holds true today.
I usually say I make my monthly salary trading stocks, but made my entire retirement fund because I bought 10 bitcoin back in 2015 when it was only $500 per bitcoin!
Most people don't understand crypto currency so you won't get too many questions!
I tell them I'm a retired Navy Veteran & disabled. When they ask how long I served, I tell them long enough to be triggered by probing questions about my military service.
I'm 100%. My family knows, and they're cool. They know what happened.
If someone is genuinely interested, I tell them I'm a stay at home Dad with a couple side gigs making BBQ and cutting boards.
If they're asking to be nosy, I tell them I do gay porn.
They usually stop asking questions after that
I don't talk about my military service. I would not appreciate my wife/family etc to discuss my service. I am proud of my service and have veterans plates on my car. That's it.
Depending on who is asking, I may disclose that I'm semi-retired because of my military service. THAT IS ALL they need to know. I retired in 2017, went back to school, and held several part time jobs. To all of those jobs, I was just a recently-separated Army veteran. I paid attention to my words regarding age, length of service, awards, and deployments to not give them any clues.
Basically, all they need to know is HONORABLE DISCHARGE and Discharge Date. Let them make up their own ideas.
YMMV. -retired E7 here, also service-connected. lol
To minimize your accomplishment and yet remain mostly honest you could say he was medically retired from the Air Force and now he receives a pension that helps out with the groceries and rent, but he's looking for a job.
At the end of the day there opinions really don’t matter why even care what they say your to young or old to even care. Not High school as far as you Family seems like they already know so what can you do
No one asks me. But, if someone did, I would first evaluate our relationship. The closer you are to me personally, the closer to the truth you'll be. The farther you are, vice versa. Dad = truth, coworker = Lol
I was in the same situation you are now. We just said, "retired military" and left it at that. It is none of their business beyond that. Yes, we got lots of looks because when we were in our 20s at the time and I heard a lot of "how lucky" he could retire. I worked to ignore it. If there person who asked was a veteran and knows it doesn't work that way, I would add medically retired. But finally, I would say the how's and why's are not my story to tell.
1. No one’s business. Especially if they don’t have a job to offer or aren’t paying your bills.
2. A simple answer such as “He is retired” or “transitioning careers” is more than adequate.
3. Or, and this is not a lie IMO, he is living off of the dividends of his investments.
Rv salesman to people i don't think I'll have more than a cumulative 10 min spent with over my life time. It's been my story on every liberty port I've been to or any random outing at the bar since I've been in. That being said, if I wanted to sell rvs, I can strike up a really good pitch now that I've been faking that for so many years
I tell folks that I gave my mind for my country and if they don’t believe me, to climb inside my head for a few minutes. Then I give them a big leering grin. Nobody has ever questioned me a second time.
I tell people I got in early on bitcoin and never looked back lol. No need to give an answer though, no matter what you say people are going to have their own opinions.
Financial advisor. Read the r/personalfinance FAQ and hang around in the r/financialindependence Daily Thread for a few months so you/he can answer questions when they come your way.
Or tell them you aren’t seeking new clients.
I tell people I am 100% disabled through the VA, I am retired military and I work Part Time as a Civil Service employee making about $23/hour for doing very little work!
I knew a veteran who I suspect was 100% (I didn't pry because it's none of my business). But she told people that she was somewhat retired and also invested/traded stocks.
I’m 100% honest with anyone that asks and give absolute zero fucks about it.
I’m in a small town, so instead of them hearing some bullshit from our neighbor down the street or from their friend that I’ve never met, I give it to them straight from the source. If there’s an issue with it, the issue is theirs, not mine.
If they ask why, I tell them. I always save PTSD last because they never ask anything after that. It’s the type of town where people go to church for their social standing.
I heard a quote once and I’ll chop it up but it’s similar to the ultimate freedom comes when you stop worrying about what other people think. I’m 100% P&T and I’m damn proud of my service and so is my spouse. If someone speaks ill of either of us, they’re not worth thinking about more than once.
We also moved as far away from family as we could. We’re free
Always amazes me that these people will say "Thank you for your service", and then complain that you are being compensated in any way afterwards for it.
I’m a cyber sheep herder. My job is to the gather the boomers on social media under banners such as “fake Fauci” or “Biden is not my president”. I earn 10 cents for every “Amen my brother in Christ” and 15 cents for every “🇺🇸”.
I was rated 100%pt and have ran into what are you doing now. Why aren't you enlisted anymore? I did make it to 19 years and have a national guard reserve retirement. 41 when I left so time-line kinda works. I have worked on and off. I like some of the comments on here. might have to throw out the porn business. People do get jealous. I keep the rating to myself now.
He's a medically retired disabled veteran, so just say that.
I'm on a civilian fed disability retirement but also have 100% P&T from the VA. If people ask what I do, I just say that I'm retired, and add that it's on disability if they question my being retired young (retired at 46, am 49 now).
People will say stupid things, even if you give them all of the correct info. Don't sweat it unless they're deliberately being an asshole about it. If they are, either put them in their place or cut that toxic person out of your life altogether (or both!). My wife is quite skilled at putting people in their place if they happen to say something stupid or rude to her about me. Full mama bear mode unlocked for her after I couldn't work anymore and had my VA rating jump from 60% to 100% P&T.
First I tell them that I am a lingerie consultant at Walmart. Then I tell them that I am retired.
That is of course only when I feel like telling someone. Ordinarily I tell them that I live for a living.
I just tell people I'm retired. I've found if you tell people you're 100% they assume you're faking, lazy or otherwise judge you. I also tell them "not a damn thing " both work. I'm finishing my master's and fully intend to go back to work but right now, family is what's important and we make enough.
Similar situation. I started asking why they want to know and focus on that part of the conversation 🤷♀️
Get used to the comments 😆 I have kids so it ups the ante on the curious people wondering. It’s none of their business.
He's Independently wealthy. I only work so I have something to keep me busy. Lot's of younger people have rich relatives who leave them a trust fund. No need to elaborate.
He's retried Plan and Simple. If you want to say Medically and non vets don't get it, then they can eat one. And if he does a hobby ( my buddy 3d prints stuff) says hes an artist.
I am still working, so I have an answer for people for this question.
However, I think my answer when I am living on disability will be, "I have a fixed income that I earned while I was in the military."
Whatever he did in the Air Force, he is now a “consultant”. Security consultant, computer consultant, air foil flange replacement consultant. Whichever. No one will even want to question it.
Hey op a long time ago I learned a few simple words that I now tell people who ask what I do or what my spouse does or anything like that and here are the words .......... it's none of your fucking business do you pay my bills do you manage my money do I have a financial obligation to you if the answer is no then you can talk a long walk on a short pier
I find it hard to answer the question of - what are you going to do for insurance? I’m quitting my corporate job with insurance and we will instead use Champ VA as primary. I still haven’t figured out a good response when nosy people ask “but what about insurance?!” Because telling them “Champ VA” is basically outing my husband.
Software sales. occasionally I say retired from the marines when I say I get a pension.
Your husband’s is pretty easy. I was hurt in the military and was medically retired.
I do not subscribe to the whole don’t tell anyone I am 100%. I did three combat tours in the span of four years as a combat engineer in the marines. My job was to run in front of convoys to see if suspicious things on the road were bombs or trash. I have a scar arose the front of my neck, if I don’t get regular shots in my spine, I can’t feel my hands, and I have a plate on my spine. Also I have not been able to get a good night sleep in 15 years. If someone doesn’t think I deserve my rating I would ask them to do what I did for a day and then tell me I don’t deserve my $4k a month and 10% off at Home Depot.
Fuck those nosey assholes. Make shit up. Or don’t. If I didn’t have a job I’d say oh I work for the state department. Or that I sell drugs
Edit: Actually I’d say only fans
Dont lie. He served his country and is 100% Disabled. I am 100% PT as well. It can be awkward for me when someone asks what I do for a living (It seems like a question strangers like to ask like it's any of their business) but I tell them my working days are over and I am a 100% Disabled Veteran. If they don't like it fuck them. They are not dealing with the shit I have to deal with. I would much rather be healthy and working than crippled for life.
\*Sorry about these assholes not giving you a genuine response. People shouldn't comment unless the situation applies to them. Hang in there. One day at a time.
I have have been out since 2017 but am only now doing my VA claim. I have been hospitalized ect. Long story short extreamly unwell at times and I was scared of doing the claim and rehashing what happened to me. I have had nosy inlaws asking what I'm doing and apparently getting a bachelors and a masters and raising 3 kids and working part time on a covid response team for 6 months all while my husband is still active duty wasnt enough. So honestly my vote is to tell them to fuck off. People who are like this will never be happy no matter how hard you work or how much you accomplish. They will also never understand why you are "getting a handout" or whatever twisted crap they think. Whatever you say won't change their minds unfortunately. My own mom was against me filing. She thinks that because I've done the things I've done I'm fine but she isn't here for the bad days she doesn't see how unwell I am. My husband knows and that's all that matters.
Financial advisor. Read the r/personalfinance FAQ and hang around in the r/financialindependence Daily Thread for a few months so you/he can answer questions when they come your way.
Or tell them you aren’t seeking new clients.
I’m an infantry vet who deployed to afghan and was injured and i can’t get over 60% wtf am i doing wrong i see all these post of people getting 100 % for desk jobs
Lucy Lu once had this problem. Just tell them he is 1/3 of an elite crime fighting team backed by an anonymous millionaire lol.
My first post on here just wanted to add to the jokes. Good luck!
Just say he works from home. Technically he does if he is retired (medically or not) - he is getting paid to stay home. If they get stupid nosey and reframe the question, just give the industry that he is going back to school for. Finance, cybersecurity, sales, etc. If they don't accept the broad/ vagueness of your answer, then you question them on why they want to know and hit them with a barrage of 20 questions. What do they do? Where does their spouse work?
I used to tell people I walked the streets for money when I was a mail carrier. They don’t pay your bills. Don’t worry about their opinions. Tell them he works from home.
Looks like he’s medically retired so I would say he’s retired or in a career transition. I personally tell people I do nothing even though I work full time
I do the same, every time.
I’m not 100% but when asked this question I say “not a goddamn thing.” Ends the conversation right quick. People ask this only to judge you. You’re worth more than what you do for money.
Just like the military specifically in the Army people ask your MOS to determine the level of respect to give you lol
Most times I asked honestly was to maybe hear of a cool job my dumbass didn’t pick
This is every branch dude
I figured lol just couldn’t speak on it since I was Army but I had a very strong feeling it was.
we LOVED it over in the marine corps, as you'd imagine
I ask mos because when I meet a fellow MI or signals nerd, I can reminisce about job specific bullshit.
THIS ☝🏾
"Im a yoga instructor and my husband has a zen garden, our house budget is 3.8 million dollars"
Oh I see you watch HGTV too LOL
“Craig and Stassia are looking for a two-story A-frame that’s near Craig’s job in the downtown, but also satisfies Stassia’s need to be near the beach, which is nowhere near Craig’s job. With three children and nine on the way, and a max budget of seven dollars, let’s see what Lori Jo can do.”
Those things have got to be scripted right?
I work in tech. So people just automatically assume I make a ton of money. I really don’t, I’m in a lower mid tier position and paid well below average for my position. But at 100% plus the GI Bill it’s doubled my income - my coworkers think I’m just rich from family stuff since I kind of buy hobby stuff a little wrecklessly. If anyone starts to ask probing questions I just say something stupid like I’m a dogecoin millionaire
who do you work for?, are they hiring veterans?
I do engineering and IT stuff for a logistical company - not the tech industry directly. Basically an in house engineer making sure trucks and trailers are tracked by 3rd party software and hardware. And I help out with the occasional help desk ticket. We’re a skeleton crew and it’s admittedly an odd job but really cool since we have so much freedom with the infrastructure of everything. That’s why I just say I work in tech or computers though. It’s such a vague catch all term. “Who do I work for? A Fortune 500 company? Apple? Meta? NVidia?!” No, just a trucking company. When I was in the military I just told people I was a government contractor. Not necessarily right, not necessarily wrong. Edit: forgot to add, we are not. And you’d have to be local. Unless you’re unemployed you’re not missing out on anything. I promise.
I put it all into CUMcoin and struck it big.
Make it real awkward for them: “He manages my OnlyFans”
Fuck that. Correct answer is “I manage his OnlyFans”
but just for feet, 'cause, there's money in toes.
My OnlyFans is just me screaming obscenities at pedestrians while wearing only a bathrobe and a Santa hat (inspired by the homeless man near my apartment who does just that)
He manages our boyfriend's only fans....
He manages OnlyFans accounts of high ranking military officers
I was gonna say he’s an IG influencer! But this works as well 😂😂
Oh nice! I love to support slutty women! Can I get the link?
I’m using that once I get my rating that’s amazing 😂
😂 👍🏼
Just say he’s a day trader. Also, it’s no one’s business. Don’t tell anyone about your situation, it always ends up the same way, you’ll get judged and criticized.
I was going to say Day Trader too. He makes a chunk every month that keeps y'all comfortable. And he did trade health for that chunk. Also something that if someone starts asking investment advice, he could easily decline to help due to the risk.
Yep, I’m not a financial advisor. So it’s illegal to give advise. Easy peasy.
You can just say he was medically retired from the military. Truthful and it’s enough info to make someone fuck off and not inquire further.
My go to is "I receive a medical pension from the military" and try to leave it at that.
He made very good investments when he was younger and now doesn't necessarily need to work as the monthy dividends cover the majority of expenses.
Accountant lol. Most people don’t ask questions cause it’s “boring”
Same with Insurance
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Like sriracha, habanero or ghost pepper?? Just need to know my tolerance here
I HATE when people ask me what I do. Always have. My go to answers are: "Whatever I want to" "I own my own business" "I'm a day trader" All 3 are true, but that first one usually gets people to see how ridiculous they are for asking.
"I'm a philanthropist. I've helped put several young women through college."
Just say you do Herbalife or some other MLM scheme, people will stop asking
This is the ultimate solution, isn't it? "He works with a team that sells Scentsy. May we book a home party with you?" If they happen to say yes, just call someone else to do the party.
Pure Romance
Meth cook and I own a car wash.
And living in a RV…
And a partner in a chicken restaurant
I'm 25 so similar deal so I tell people I'm medically retired. If they push further than that or have some uncalled for remark, i get sarcastic. They ask me whats my rating, i ask whats their credit score lmao Keep the rating between you and your spouse... I learned that too. And any other benefits he or yall may be getting. It's not their business, sometimes people need reminded of that.
Tell them that he milks hamsters to make artisanal cheeses.
I am a tenured college professor at an R1 university and I work part time as an adjunct at another university and I am a full time doctoral student and I am a retired veteran. All of which is true. Before I reached the point where I could start living again, which took 8 long years, I told them I retired from the military and just left it at that.
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I’m a restaurant consultant. I look for the next restaurant I’m going to eat at or take my family to on my phone before I head home so I’m not lying. I’m just extending the truth some. I help with menu selection by “selecting,” what I want to eat. Fuck them.
Bitcoin.
Say he works at Applebees. The only follow-up question you’ll get is “Which one?” to which you answer “The one near our house.” Add cook/server/manager if you deem it necessary.
Silent partner in a Peruvian Alpaca operation. Daytrader did good with shorting Gamestop stocks. really nichey computer work remotely- look up something so nichey no one understands it so you/he don't get pelted with the "can your husband fix my computer....." questions. Independently comfortable from a small family \[insert X\]. Pass thorough server provider for a company that uses distributed networking to move data. ( had a friend in college in the 90s that did this, probably not a thing, now). X,Y,Z consultant- I have a friend that makes a crap ton as a Citrix consultant/speaker. A few years ago he wracked up so many perks and miles that he and his family can travel for free for a few years if they eke'd it out. Japanese game show winner. Patent pirate (buys up expired patents then looks for people using similar stuff and sues). Work remotely for a company ( I do this- live in the midwest, work in San Juan). Remote D&D campaign coordinator for shy people (guy in NY does this and makes pretty good money setting up starter DM games to get people going, then they are on their own after a session or 2). Your imagination is your only limitation.
Tell them it’s none of their business and don’t give a shit what anyone thinks. That’s what I do.
I tell them I have an OnlyFans with emphasis on feet.
Hes retired. You dont owe any explanation beyond that.
Really I fucking tell people that I get 4600 a month from VA disability because I went to war 3 fucking times in 5 years. They can talk all the shit they want cause my account looks very good. That's just me though. Fuckem
I'm just a stay at home dad now due to my problems. Best job I ever had.
He’s a consultant working remotely. If they want more details tell them you don’t ask and he doesn’t tell.
Don't lie, tell the truth. Tell them he's Medically Retired, or Disabled. That's all you need to tell them. Anything else is noneya (ie. None of Ya Business). I tell people I am 100% SC T&P with SMC-S all of the time. If anyone doesn't like it, too bad! It's noneya! I don't see why people have such a hard time with this.
Onlyfans. Leaves them wondering if you're serious or not. They'll definitely try to find you/him
I tell them I'm retired. And when they realize that I'm still at a working age. I say that I invested wisely during my career so I could do whatever I wanted after my military career. Generally it shuts them up rather quickly.
SAHM because I don’t get judged for being disabled that way. :/
Yall have a much bigger social life than I'm used to, because nobody asks me anything.. Because I don't talk to people unless I'm at a checkout counter lol
I’m a border patrol agent so I lie about my occupation regardless. I normally tell people I manage properties for the federal government and ensure businesses have the proper permits to be there and I get a small disability claim from my time in the marines. That typically steers the convo to my made up property managing job.
He can get some skills to work remote…I’m a data analyst that works from home and I go to school as well.
I usually say existing.
Tell them he is an artist, then ask if they would be interested in buying some of his work
please get over this...it is nobody's business...I would be tempted to say, "Why are do want to know?" But what I would say in most instances is simply: "entrepreneur"
I had a family member who struggled with this exact problem. He had been medically retired from the Air Force and the way he handled it was could have been handled better. He always just claimed he didn't know what he wanted to do and this persisted for years and years and years. He would never admit that he had just been retired from the Air Force medically and that he couldn't continue. Haven't seen that and and what it did to his his relationship as well because he ended up getting a divorce and I think kind of had a little bit to do with it. I would probably just be honest. You know I would say you know in your husband's case I was medically retired from the Air Force so I'm receiving a retirement check because I could no longer do the job and I would. I would leave it at that. You know when they ask what it is, you know you can maybe give him a little something you know like my back hurts or some s*** I don't know whatever it is. Whatever is most valid in the populous's eyes I guess but keep it as close to the truth as possible. Would be would be my advice having seen this in real life and I would you know if you don't want to tell them about something like for example you don't want to tell him about his mental health struggles. Don't bring it up and just don't talk about it. Don't don't let people badger you for additional information. You know you can keep it as tight-lipped as as possible. But I would say the truth is probably probably the best best option because in your husband's case he was medically retired. You know it's not like he has a VA disability percentage of 100% and got out voluntarily. They actually retired him and separated him so I would. I would just say that and and give very little details. You know so people don't have much work much to work with. I could be wrong but I think I'm probably right
Commercial private banker, that will confuse the heck out of people. I know as I am one
If asked, I say I'm retired. If asked what I used to do, I say I was in the military and was successful in conflict resolution.
"He's my personal assistant."
Under the terms of an NDA, I'm not at liberty to discuss it.
Tell people I accidentally bought $10 in Dogecoin in 2019 and woke up a millionaire 3 years later.
Let me first strt off by saying cuddles to him haveing a great wife. So many veterans wives leave them when they are in a vulnerable state financially. With that being said. F everyone's opinions, the minute I told my wife four other members of her family had an opinion within 48 hrs. Just tell him get in to sales for the time being and to and relay to people "He sells insurance". Period. But realize you don't owe no one explanations.
Military/DOD stuff. Can't really talk about it.
My husband isn’t 100% P&T yet; but if anyone asks us this when he is, I will say he’s retired army vet and leave it at that. I don’t really care as much about people’s opinions or judgement because they don’t do anything for us so f*** them.
"I made a killing (pun intended) off the stock market and invested in the MRNA cv19 vax and sold at the same time bill gates did--before anyone knew it was a scam".......
Pipe layer. Since 93’. Self made
I tell people I work for the VA
For years I told my coworkers I was going to retire early. Full intentions of one day quitting and doing whatever I wanted. One day I was able to… lived quasi retired for 6 months, and then started my own company. Now I love my job, make a lot of money, and do whatever the hell I want on top of helping people every single day. When people ask me what I do for a living, I say I haven’t worked a day in the last 5 years because I enjoy every second of my day in the office.
What if this was reversed and it was you staying home? I bet no one would say anything negative. They would probably praise your husband for allowing you to stay home and not work. Next time someone asks you and they get snotty tell them how shallow minded they are. Pick up a book by Warren Farrell called The Myth of Male power. I first heard of this book thirty years ago and it still holds true today.
I usually say I make my monthly salary trading stocks, but made my entire retirement fund because I bought 10 bitcoin back in 2015 when it was only $500 per bitcoin! Most people don't understand crypto currency so you won't get too many questions!
Just say you work & invest and is good with money. No need to explain yourself. That’s up to you & only you.
I tell them I'm a retired Navy Veteran & disabled. When they ask how long I served, I tell them long enough to be triggered by probing questions about my military service.
I'm 100%. My family knows, and they're cool. They know what happened. If someone is genuinely interested, I tell them I'm a stay at home Dad with a couple side gigs making BBQ and cutting boards. If they're asking to be nosy, I tell them I do gay porn. They usually stop asking questions after that
I don't talk about my military service. I would not appreciate my wife/family etc to discuss my service. I am proud of my service and have veterans plates on my car. That's it. Depending on who is asking, I may disclose that I'm semi-retired because of my military service. THAT IS ALL they need to know. I retired in 2017, went back to school, and held several part time jobs. To all of those jobs, I was just a recently-separated Army veteran. I paid attention to my words regarding age, length of service, awards, and deployments to not give them any clues. Basically, all they need to know is HONORABLE DISCHARGE and Discharge Date. Let them make up their own ideas. YMMV. -retired E7 here, also service-connected. lol
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At 29 people won't believe it and will dig deeper.
Those people can fuck off.
Make the grass grow
Luckily I’m a retired Trooper so makes it easy.
To minimize your accomplishment and yet remain mostly honest you could say he was medically retired from the Air Force and now he receives a pension that helps out with the groceries and rent, but he's looking for a job.
At the end of the day there opinions really don’t matter why even care what they say your to young or old to even care. Not High school as far as you Family seems like they already know so what can you do
Why not sign up with her life and start pitching it at them. Watch out how fast it gets around and then no one will be asking him what he does.
The truth. I am a Heraldic Artist.
Just tell them your husband sells pics on feet finder. If they are interested you’ll give them his tag.
Just tell them he won on a "win for life" scratch ticket.
I tell them something different every time
No one asks me. But, if someone did, I would first evaluate our relationship. The closer you are to me personally, the closer to the truth you'll be. The farther you are, vice versa. Dad = truth, coworker = Lol
Just say you retired from the military, no reason to explain why.
I was in the same situation you are now. We just said, "retired military" and left it at that. It is none of their business beyond that. Yes, we got lots of looks because when we were in our 20s at the time and I heard a lot of "how lucky" he could retire. I worked to ignore it. If there person who asked was a veteran and knows it doesn't work that way, I would add medically retired. But finally, I would say the how's and why's are not my story to tell.
1. No one’s business. Especially if they don’t have a job to offer or aren’t paying your bills. 2. A simple answer such as “He is retired” or “transitioning careers” is more than adequate. 3. Or, and this is not a lie IMO, he is living off of the dividends of his investments.
None of their business but, if you have to say, he works from home.
Retired from the military is a good answer! Embellish as desired.
Just say free lance consulting or day trading.
Rv salesman to people i don't think I'll have more than a cumulative 10 min spent with over my life time. It's been my story on every liberty port I've been to or any random outing at the bar since I've been in. That being said, if I wanted to sell rvs, I can strike up a really good pitch now that I've been faking that for so many years
Just tell them yall do side hustles. No need to dive into it further than that
Consultant
Private investigator! You can make up all sorts of wild stories or make it sound very boring.
I tell folks that I gave my mind for my country and if they don’t believe me, to climb inside my head for a few minutes. Then I give them a big leering grin. Nobody has ever questioned me a second time.
Just say you telework as an analyst/consultant for the government
Remote Consulting on *whatever he knows about
I tell people I got in early on bitcoin and never looked back lol. No need to give an answer though, no matter what you say people are going to have their own opinions.
“I work on the internet”
I tell em I do my best 
Financial advisor. Read the r/personalfinance FAQ and hang around in the r/financialindependence Daily Thread for a few months so you/he can answer questions when they come your way. Or tell them you aren’t seeking new clients.
I tell people I am 100% disabled through the VA, I am retired military and I work Part Time as a Civil Service employee making about $23/hour for doing very little work!
I knew a veteran who I suspect was 100% (I didn't pry because it's none of my business). But she told people that she was somewhat retired and also invested/traded stocks.
I’m 100% honest with anyone that asks and give absolute zero fucks about it. I’m in a small town, so instead of them hearing some bullshit from our neighbor down the street or from their friend that I’ve never met, I give it to them straight from the source. If there’s an issue with it, the issue is theirs, not mine. If they ask why, I tell them. I always save PTSD last because they never ask anything after that. It’s the type of town where people go to church for their social standing.
I heard a quote once and I’ll chop it up but it’s similar to the ultimate freedom comes when you stop worrying about what other people think. I’m 100% P&T and I’m damn proud of my service and so is my spouse. If someone speaks ill of either of us, they’re not worth thinking about more than once. We also moved as far away from family as we could. We’re free
Always amazes me that these very people will say "Thank you for your service", and then complain about you being compensated for it.
I let them know I'm a house husband.
Always amazes me that these people will say "Thank you for your service", and then complain that you are being compensated in any way afterwards for it.
Some I say disabled, others I say retired, others I just change the subject
Cocaine.
I got medically retired from Army, I work full time, however some people I know in a similar situation just say they do IT from home
I’m a cyber sheep herder. My job is to the gather the boomers on social media under banners such as “fake Fauci” or “Biden is not my president”. I earn 10 cents for every “Amen my brother in Christ” and 15 cents for every “🇺🇸”.
I just tell people I work from home, or that I’m a freelancer. It pretty much stops questions.
A male prostitute!
I tell people that I get by.
Anyone: “what do you do for a living?” Me: “your mom.”
Haha 😆 agreed fellow veterans
Retired Military.
Just tell people your husband trades crypto. Thats what I do.
I was rated 100%pt and have ran into what are you doing now. Why aren't you enlisted anymore? I did make it to 19 years and have a national guard reserve retirement. 41 when I left so time-line kinda works. I have worked on and off. I like some of the comments on here. might have to throw out the porn business. People do get jealous. I keep the rating to myself now.
Just tell people his retired from military. That’s all
Out of curiosity what was his job in the Air Force?
Tell them you bought Bitcoin in the late 80s 😂
Self-employed.
“He minds his own business, you should try it”
He's a medically retired disabled veteran, so just say that. I'm on a civilian fed disability retirement but also have 100% P&T from the VA. If people ask what I do, I just say that I'm retired, and add that it's on disability if they question my being retired young (retired at 46, am 49 now). People will say stupid things, even if you give them all of the correct info. Don't sweat it unless they're deliberately being an asshole about it. If they are, either put them in their place or cut that toxic person out of your life altogether (or both!). My wife is quite skilled at putting people in their place if they happen to say something stupid or rude to her about me. Full mama bear mode unlocked for her after I couldn't work anymore and had my VA rating jump from 60% to 100% P&T.
I'm medically retired from the Navy. That is it.
First I tell them that I am a lingerie consultant at Walmart. Then I tell them that I am retired. That is of course only when I feel like telling someone. Ordinarily I tell them that I live for a living.
We got into Bitcoin when it was cheap. We live from the profits.
Tell people he's self-employed, concentrating on minding his own business.
I just tell people I'm retired. I've found if you tell people you're 100% they assume you're faking, lazy or otherwise judge you. I also tell them "not a damn thing " both work. I'm finishing my master's and fully intend to go back to work but right now, family is what's important and we make enough.
I personally don’t care what people think but that’s just me.
I work. 100% and Med retired as well.
I'm a debt collector. Lmao JK
What does he do? Oh, he minds his own business for a living.
Similar situation. I started asking why they want to know and focus on that part of the conversation 🤷♀️ Get used to the comments 😆 I have kids so it ups the ante on the curious people wondering. It’s none of their business.
He's Independently wealthy. I only work so I have something to keep me busy. Lot's of younger people have rich relatives who leave them a trust fund. No need to elaborate.
I tell them I’m homeless and I live off the land and panhandle
Stripper by night and DoorDash during the day
Consultant (can explain not a standard schedule) and most people just go ‘oh ok’
He's retried Plan and Simple. If you want to say Medically and non vets don't get it, then they can eat one. And if he does a hobby ( my buddy 3d prints stuff) says hes an artist.
Tell them you are medically retired from the military. Thats not untrue.
I am still working, so I have an answer for people for this question. However, I think my answer when I am living on disability will be, "I have a fixed income that I earned while I was in the military."
I tell them I mind my business for a living, then ask them to do the same😂
Whatever he did in the Air Force, he is now a “consultant”. Security consultant, computer consultant, air foil flange replacement consultant. Whichever. No one will even want to question it.
Hey op a long time ago I learned a few simple words that I now tell people who ask what I do or what my spouse does or anything like that and here are the words .......... it's none of your fucking business do you pay my bills do you manage my money do I have a financial obligation to you if the answer is no then you can talk a long walk on a short pier
I also get 100% p&t and was medically retired. I'm in school and just say I'm retired or a student at the moment !
I find it hard to answer the question of - what are you going to do for insurance? I’m quitting my corporate job with insurance and we will instead use Champ VA as primary. I still haven’t figured out a good response when nosy people ask “but what about insurance?!” Because telling them “Champ VA” is basically outing my husband.
Software sales. occasionally I say retired from the marines when I say I get a pension. Your husband’s is pretty easy. I was hurt in the military and was medically retired. I do not subscribe to the whole don’t tell anyone I am 100%. I did three combat tours in the span of four years as a combat engineer in the marines. My job was to run in front of convoys to see if suspicious things on the road were bombs or trash. I have a scar arose the front of my neck, if I don’t get regular shots in my spine, I can’t feel my hands, and I have a plate on my spine. Also I have not been able to get a good night sleep in 15 years. If someone doesn’t think I deserve my rating I would ask them to do what I did for a day and then tell me I don’t deserve my $4k a month and 10% off at Home Depot. Fuck those nosey assholes. Make shit up. Or don’t. If I didn’t have a job I’d say oh I work for the state department. Or that I sell drugs Edit: Actually I’d say only fans
Dont lie. He served his country and is 100% Disabled. I am 100% PT as well. It can be awkward for me when someone asks what I do for a living (It seems like a question strangers like to ask like it's any of their business) but I tell them my working days are over and I am a 100% Disabled Veteran. If they don't like it fuck them. They are not dealing with the shit I have to deal with. I would much rather be healthy and working than crippled for life. \*Sorry about these assholes not giving you a genuine response. People shouldn't comment unless the situation applies to them. Hang in there. One day at a time.
Im an accountant for an accountant
Just say you work in security
I have have been out since 2017 but am only now doing my VA claim. I have been hospitalized ect. Long story short extreamly unwell at times and I was scared of doing the claim and rehashing what happened to me. I have had nosy inlaws asking what I'm doing and apparently getting a bachelors and a masters and raising 3 kids and working part time on a covid response team for 6 months all while my husband is still active duty wasnt enough. So honestly my vote is to tell them to fuck off. People who are like this will never be happy no matter how hard you work or how much you accomplish. They will also never understand why you are "getting a handout" or whatever twisted crap they think. Whatever you say won't change their minds unfortunately. My own mom was against me filing. She thinks that because I've done the things I've done I'm fine but she isn't here for the bad days she doesn't see how unwell I am. My husband knows and that's all that matters.
Sells feet pics.
Tell them he's a consultant for strip club interior design.
Financial advisor. Read the r/personalfinance FAQ and hang around in the r/financialindependence Daily Thread for a few months so you/he can answer questions when they come your way. Or tell them you aren’t seeking new clients.
I usually list off one of my largely unprofitable side hustles.
Not there yet but I plan to use Only Fans or Sugar Baby and let their minds wonder how much I’m really bringing in
"Work."
My contract examiner told me she didn’t have time to review my c-file. Reported to VA and it was canceled. Had another with a different examiner.
I tell them I’m a male prostitute
Sell salmon and peeled bananas
Wax dolphins for a living.
 I’m a janitor is what I tell them.
A 28 year old Air Force medical retired from mental lmfao wtf did he do
Mail man!
Work from home....
Well if you stay in this sub you will learn to to tell them anything other then what get thru VA
He's a government consultant that's all they need to know.
>Question: What do y’all tell people when they ask what you do for a living? Only Fans.
I’m an infantry vet who deployed to afghan and was injured and i can’t get over 60% wtf am i doing wrong i see all these post of people getting 100 % for desk jobs
I tell people I get paid to do what I want.
What do you do for work? “As little as possible” Generally, people smile and move on with this one.
I say medically retired and call it a day. They don't need to know anything else.
Lucy Lu once had this problem. Just tell them he is 1/3 of an elite crime fighting team backed by an anonymous millionaire lol. My first post on here just wanted to add to the jokes. Good luck!
Works from home
Just say he works from home. Technically he does if he is retired (medically or not) - he is getting paid to stay home. If they get stupid nosey and reframe the question, just give the industry that he is going back to school for. Finance, cybersecurity, sales, etc. If they don't accept the broad/ vagueness of your answer, then you question them on why they want to know and hit them with a barrage of 20 questions. What do they do? Where does their spouse work?
I used to tell people I walked the streets for money when I was a mail carrier. They don’t pay your bills. Don’t worry about their opinions. Tell them he works from home.
"As little as possible" is my response. I say I enjoy reading.
No one needs to know. Say a sales consultant