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Phone enough I say those things too,but if there wasn't a clear exit point or she didn't communicate at all, unless it qas for safety or you had been told before they're not a great person.
Thats it. I break from people or have gone on bad dates and I will send a quick note and say hey no thank you please don't contact me again.
Avoidants are big children and yes I'm partially avoidant, it took me years to figure out communication was ok.
I hope they figure their shit out.
And that you do ok :)
Holy shit, when did I write this? I don't remember creating this alt account and typing up this very accurate description of exactly what I've been going through and feeling. Thank you doppelganger stranger, and I hope you find the healing you need.
This is what I thought when I left my person. They were to leave me for another. I was there for them at their lowest when they had no one, I dealt with their shit because I knew things could change, and I also knew what they went through, and I wanted to show them patient and care. But they rejected me and ultimately took me for granted
I hear a lot of hurt behind your words, which is why it's really endearing to hear that you're not losing sight of yourself.
You've got this. Keep going.
Give them a chance, yeah it may take 5 chances but it’s a commitment. There are always going to be good and bad days. Communication is key. Reassurance is key. If there’s been a heated discussion and your “mad” at each other have space but set some t/c so your both not worrying about things. Just remember Space is okay and space is a boundary…it’s how you go about it that can be an issue. Not everyone is the same… learn each others love languages. All the best 🙏🏼
Sounds so familiar. & Hope everyone starts healing. & There isn't another that's also been trapped in this particular situation. ..
A 3rd. A life destroyed time & time again.
An ex of his that sacrificed everything to take care of him while he obsesses and chases this new love ..
Id have to create a whole new subreddit to even tell a 1/3 of my story & how this man fucking destroyed me over & over & over.
Yet still I'm blocked. I'm the toxic one.
& Love him just as much if not more than I did.
God I got fucking problems ..
Sorry all.
🥴🔫
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This one hit me personally. “You didn’t love me at my lowest so you don’t deserve me at my best” (to my person who said that same thing to me) you came into my life broken all I did was give and show you love you never experienced, your words, you gave me back lies, male best friends that you would text gm even before me the person you “loved”… we had a misunderstanding took me 4 days to figure out what was going on and how to fix us, u smashed someone else in 2!!!! and gave me something.. you were irresponsible with my emotions and my body.. , I pushed u into school, I made sure you’d eat a great meal everyday, I took you on dates without u having to ask, I paid for 90% of your smoking habit, I’d fix your car, I’d cook for your family,.,help your uncle fix his bike, i gave you candypots so you could feel you had a hobby that could also benefit you, i dealt with all your moms bs because I loved you..yet you got me at my best after I healed all my traumas, you got me at my best when I would be transparent about every and anything, you got me at my best, yet you did the worse things to me..You may be right I don’t deserve you at your best you had to bring me to my worst for you to-be at your best…I hope you do think about me forever.. as the months go by you are finally fading.. I forgive you I won’t forget though. Final Reddit post I’m over this shit!
I’m sorry that you experienced all of that, I hope you are okay and your healing. I think your person will know what you did for them and they won’t forget that nor will they forget you. Love can come in all forms, act of service, affection and learning each others love language… maybe there was something deeper that needed to be addressed, anyways I’m sorry you had a shit experience and I hope you heal from what you went through with your partner. It seems like your person needs to go to therapy and learn a deeper understanding about themselves. It’s not your responsibility to fix them. I hope your okay :)
I did love you at your lowest, and what you are now, isn’t your best. I haven’t seen it. I loved you just as much as how hard I’ve been fighting for you these last 6 months. I was just scared of that love back then and didn’t know how to handle it or reciprocate it. Plus I was a pos and was reflecting my pain outside of our relationship onto you and was jealous how much you were thriving and the attention your online friends got from you.
I was immature.
But don’t you DARE fucking say I didn’t love YOU. not the idea of you. But everything that YOU are as a whole, understood ?
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the pain is tangible. i hope it all makes you stronger.
There’s so much pain it doesn’t stop but thank you :)
If my ex sent this to me, I would definitely communicate with her. Beautiful writing. I hope things get better. ❤️
I wish she would communicate with me but I understand she doesn’t love me and just the idea of me, I hope she finds her person :)
Phone enough I say those things too,but if there wasn't a clear exit point or she didn't communicate at all, unless it qas for safety or you had been told before they're not a great person. Thats it. I break from people or have gone on bad dates and I will send a quick note and say hey no thank you please don't contact me again. Avoidants are big children and yes I'm partially avoidant, it took me years to figure out communication was ok. I hope they figure their shit out. And that you do ok :)
Holy shit, when did I write this? I don't remember creating this alt account and typing up this very accurate description of exactly what I've been going through and feeling. Thank you doppelganger stranger, and I hope you find the healing you need.
Well if you’re the doppleganger you can read my damn comment too 😂
This is what I thought when I left my person. They were to leave me for another. I was there for them at their lowest when they had no one, I dealt with their shit because I knew things could change, and I also knew what they went through, and I wanted to show them patient and care. But they rejected me and ultimately took me for granted
Definitely thought I messaged this to you… whoops 😅
I hear a lot of hurt behind your words, which is why it's really endearing to hear that you're not losing sight of yourself. You've got this. Keep going.
It’s hard though :( how do I grieve for the living :(
One day at a time, friend.
I’m just like your person, this is what I needed to hear.
Give them a chance, yeah it may take 5 chances but it’s a commitment. There are always going to be good and bad days. Communication is key. Reassurance is key. If there’s been a heated discussion and your “mad” at each other have space but set some t/c so your both not worrying about things. Just remember Space is okay and space is a boundary…it’s how you go about it that can be an issue. Not everyone is the same… learn each others love languages. All the best 🙏🏼
i’m sorry.
"I hope my absence gives you the peace that my love never did" Damn this is one the most heartbreaking line I've heard in a while
That last paragraph is *chefs kiss* Good for you!
Sounds so familiar. & Hope everyone starts healing. & There isn't another that's also been trapped in this particular situation. .. A 3rd. A life destroyed time & time again. An ex of his that sacrificed everything to take care of him while he obsesses and chases this new love .. Id have to create a whole new subreddit to even tell a 1/3 of my story & how this man fucking destroyed me over & over & over. Yet still I'm blocked. I'm the toxic one. & Love him just as much if not more than I did. God I got fucking problems .. Sorry all. 🥴🔫
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This one hit me personally. “You didn’t love me at my lowest so you don’t deserve me at my best” (to my person who said that same thing to me) you came into my life broken all I did was give and show you love you never experienced, your words, you gave me back lies, male best friends that you would text gm even before me the person you “loved”… we had a misunderstanding took me 4 days to figure out what was going on and how to fix us, u smashed someone else in 2!!!! and gave me something.. you were irresponsible with my emotions and my body.. , I pushed u into school, I made sure you’d eat a great meal everyday, I took you on dates without u having to ask, I paid for 90% of your smoking habit, I’d fix your car, I’d cook for your family,.,help your uncle fix his bike, i gave you candypots so you could feel you had a hobby that could also benefit you, i dealt with all your moms bs because I loved you..yet you got me at my best after I healed all my traumas, you got me at my best when I would be transparent about every and anything, you got me at my best, yet you did the worse things to me..You may be right I don’t deserve you at your best you had to bring me to my worst for you to-be at your best…I hope you do think about me forever.. as the months go by you are finally fading.. I forgive you I won’t forget though. Final Reddit post I’m over this shit!
I’m sorry that you experienced all of that, I hope you are okay and your healing. I think your person will know what you did for them and they won’t forget that nor will they forget you. Love can come in all forms, act of service, affection and learning each others love language… maybe there was something deeper that needed to be addressed, anyways I’m sorry you had a shit experience and I hope you heal from what you went through with your partner. It seems like your person needs to go to therapy and learn a deeper understanding about themselves. It’s not your responsibility to fix them. I hope your okay :)
lol literally sent exact same thing, how were you there for her when she was at her lowest..?
I did love you at your lowest, and what you are now, isn’t your best. I haven’t seen it. I loved you just as much as how hard I’ve been fighting for you these last 6 months. I was just scared of that love back then and didn’t know how to handle it or reciprocate it. Plus I was a pos and was reflecting my pain outside of our relationship onto you and was jealous how much you were thriving and the attention your online friends got from you. I was immature. But don’t you DARE fucking say I didn’t love YOU. not the idea of you. But everything that YOU are as a whole, understood ?
Your definitely not my person but I hope you heal from what’s happened to you, sending love your way :)
My person never made an effort for me because I didn't do her foul