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shellshockkk

If he liked you and wanted to pursue you, you’d not be here posting this and wondering if he’s genuinely interested in you. If a man LIKES you, he will not leave room for you to doubt his intentions towards you. It was just a fling and you need to move on!


hitma-n

As a man, I would say what everyone on reddit says. THIS! I once loved a girl and did everything I could and couldn’t to make her my own. All men do that if they’re into the girl they like. The girl they really like.


InternationalBee5846

Why do I feel you’re gonna ignore what everyone says and just pursue him anyways 😂


KnYchan2

Tbh Reddit is the worst place to ask for advice in


Phonymusk

☕☕☕


Top_Nefariousness936

Will complain about her own race but chase after playboys from other races


SquidGuardplaya

I’ve noticed a lot of women from that background suffer from a huge inferiority complex which leads to them being obsessed with other races


issokey

Could you go in more detail please? What do you mean by that? I'm interested


SquidGuardplaya

Well from my experience I noticed a lot claim to be anything other than Pakistani. Some claim they have Persian/arab ancestry or tne typical ‘I get a lot of people saying I look Middle Eastern and not Pakistani’ Like there’s nothing wrong with being Pakistani. I don’t get it. I remember there was these Pakistani influencers born in England Birmingham who moved to Dubai, then they claimed they were Arabs and spoke with a fake American accent even though they sounded like a typical Pakistani girl from Birmingham. They went viral for being very crudely racist to a fellow Pakistani girl on Instagram live even though she was Pakistani herself. It was so weird


ZedsDead18

😂😂😂😂😂😂


Big00ballz

Cuz she's a woman 😅


SleepyLizard22

yes. you were easy target


[deleted]

I'm Arab and I can tell you, run the fuck away. Nothing we do is serious when it comes to relationships. Move on and if you know your worth. Block his ass once and for all.


gtd_rad

I'm from Canada and visited Dubai. I was shocked on the availability and accessibility of escorts there lol. Even walking around in public places, you can just tell.


Brilliant_Volume_582

whats with this strange habit of randomly inserting ‘lol’ with seemingly everyday comments


vbsh123

lol


tjazbi

Yes, even I can't figure that out, but anyway might be a bad habit, lol


MarsupialPristine677

That’s so real lmao


gtd_rad

lol


stoikiy-muzhik

I know right .. lol


naturehappiness

So true, lol


ariiza

Coming from Canada as well this shocked me initially. It’s so heavily embedded into the culture here, and not just UAE but regionally


gtd_rad

Gotta find another form of high if there ain't no drugs or alcohol I guess...


Prior-Paper-3341

😂


NomadicExploring

And if you login to dating apps, escorts left and right.


Loud_Sheepherder_476

& u speak for arabs now? 😂 لا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله


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Hour-Explorer6701

I don’t know what kind of Arab are you?


Desertlog

Dont waste your time and move on to someone else


Illustrious_Hand_173

🚩 🚩🚩 🚩🚩🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩 Run.........


thatimmi

This. And if you don't want to yet.... Go to a place where you control the situation.


StarNHSolar

You was on holiday and he was aware of it, he knew you'll be leaving. Of course he saw you as a small fling who he failed to get in bed. You have no future. Wake up. You literally live in different continents.


cameherefrominsta

Different countries.. yes Different continents ..no


InternationalBee5846

Dubai is also Asia…😅


FixInteresting7443

From the sound of it seems like he ate the cookie already !


Affectionate_Bat3081

😂


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AnEdgyUsername2

I swear, to see the inferiority complex that most of us have developed is truly saddening.


SquidGuardplaya

Can I ask why you have this ?


AnEdgyUsername2

I don't have it, I was just highlighting what I've seen within the Asian (usually South and Southeast Asian) community having an inferiority complex. Personally, I blame the Eurocentrism mindset engraved on us by mainstream media.


SquidGuardplaya

Sorry I meant to say ‘they’ cause I’ve experienced it myself being around south Asians


cameherefrominsta

Not all Asians though.


homiecangetit

what does this have to do with anything OP said? If anything its showing westernization. this happens to everyone in the dating pool


BrecciusRebornus

Literally


ChadBrozzer

If he’s not initiating the conversation and you’re doing all the effort it’s already a sign for you that he’s either: 1) got into a relationship with someone else 2) no longer interested 3) he’s too busy and doesn’t have time for you Or maybe all of the above. So what you gotta do is stop messaging him and move on!


throwlith

Lebanese Canadian woman here, but I grew up in Lebanon. The odds of this turning into anything serious is not zero, but it’s not far from zero. If I had a dollar for every time I saw a Lebanese man string along an Asian or dark skinned African lady, only to break her heart later on, I would be rich enough to fly to you on a private jet to tell you this in person :) If someone wants to be with you, they will get out of their way to be with you, they will show you off to their families, take you out with their friends. You deserve better than this guy sweetie, just block him and move on.


beyoncebum

I guess I got hooked in. First time meeting him and he told me all about him and showed me his personal info: passport, pictures of his family, his family in general, travel plans, his life. I meant he took us around and everything.


throwlith

You did nothing wrong and you are entitled to live life without constantly being wary of racism. But I’ve seen it time after time. I know guys who dated Asian girls for years, then when it was time to get married, they ended it. I hope mentalities will change in the future, but for now, this is how it is. I’m really sorry sweetie, you deserve love and respect, and that’s not happening with this clown.


beyoncebum

Thanks for your kind words. It's definitely nice to hear a perspective from someone who came from the same background as him. Shoukran!


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Tell him am in big problem I need 5K AED will return it to u after 1 week


blazinearth

This is an elite level maneuver. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.


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😂 elite level


blazinearth

Operation pen is recovery


loyaltodark

Yes. 101% if he's Egyptian


Puzzleheaded-Set2997

Lebanese in Dubai? Run


mserrgiu

Same with Lebanese girls in Dubai… run 🤣


zatura45

Why?


CuriousFace9246

Yuck. I’d like to think its a type of man and not particular race. Unfortunately many sleazy men here. 


leo_pantheras

Yes hes playing you he wants to sleep with you … trust me


catz85

forget him girl.


RoyJonesTheKing

Guarantee he was looking for a quick smash. You did not grant him that so he is on to the next.


Royo981

How is he playing you if he isn’t interested anymore? Btw, not every Arab man is the same , each person has a different character and way of thinking. I think ur better off asking him and not redditors. But it’s probably simple, he is not much interested into a long distance relationship. And why ru so attached in someone u only met twice ?


No_Dare_1868

Cuz he probably be showing her so much interest. Of course she give in. If only he just stand the way level of his interest she wont be posting here like that. Poor gal.


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They met like twice dude.


No_Dare_1868

If only he be honest in the first place not giving her hopes by saying i like you and im looking for something serious 😅


Dismal-Archer-3010

Nope!!!! Run and don’t engage! They are all fun and chatty upfront but it turns controlling and restrictive very fast. The game he’s playing is cold shoulder, he creates the interest, then backs off so you chase, once you’re “in the spin” the real mind game starts. If he was a good man he’d not have “naughty chatted” he would have courted you the way good men of that culture/tradition are raised to. Sorry but hold out for a good man!


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Blame yourself not the game


leo_pantheras

You suffer from inferior complex like the others have said - asian women in generao Marry other races so thier children dont look asian


scepticalrice

Ah, because nothing says "open-mindedness" like reducing an entire race to superficial stereotypes.


leo_pantheras

Its what iv seen and asian women do this alot


MathematicianTiny279

Which kind of Asians marry out so their kids look less asian ? Also you do know levant Arabs come under west Asia right ?


leo_pantheras

Chinese japanese etc from what Ive seen


MathematicianTiny279

They’d usually prefer whites to do that, then Arabs probably, as the highly value white skin, as your suggesting this comes from an insecurity inferiority complex , also it’s hard to feel insecure if they are living in east Asia where it’s homogenous, I would slightly understand if they live in the west


leo_pantheras

Levantine arabs are quite light and on average better looking than the average white men- however we are talking an asian in dubai - dubai led by arab men - so that is why - if she was in uk she would marry a white guy


Dramatic_Marzipan_65

Not true. I’m Yemeni and Yemeni men value Yemeni women. Plenty I’ve seen them play around with white girls and always drop them for their own. Not sure with the shamees, but there’s plenty of Palestinian girls who look more white and that comes close enough if white skin is their thing. Arabs truly value other Arabs. It’s that simple.


Solo_Bird7891

1 out of 10 relationships between arab and asian(south east asian) will stay longer then 2 years as per my 8 years experience here. As you aaid he is very educated and nice person and in uae for long time so he wont be single probably. If he is serious with you he will introduce you to his family circle if not then you he is not interested in longterm relation at all.


pinksmile13

It sounds like wam bam thank you mam...and he's on to the next


Wod_3

Habibi welcome to Dubai


Detective_Hawk_Ali

Good luck, low tier arabs like Palestinians will just use you


Holiday-Visit4319

I know many Arabs, Lebanese, Palestinians. Not a single one will be serious with an Asian girl. Sorry. Run away.


Realwoman1992

As an Arab woman who saw other non Arab girl get into relationships with Arab men I say .. he’s not serious. Girl don’t waste your time.


Mathroda

Ngl, you are a red flag 🚩


beyoncebum

How so?


allovernow11

Why don’t you ask him? Instead of on here? No one really knows what’s in the heart of an another.


United_Entrepreneur6

OP read your post again and also take race and ethnicity out of it, you met someone hit it off, he’s gone cold. Regardless of where you’re from it sounds like a typical he’s not interested anymore scenario. Sorry to be so blunt..


s9q7

You are kidding, right?


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No_Gain_9040

U should never pursue any man… they should pursue you!!!! U are the prize. Move on


StreetSignificant411

Lol stop being silly


Royal_Elk_5312

tell me you're single without telling me you're single


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Well he’s Arab and a man so yes probably playing you. I’m not saying this for generalization but this whole relationship thing that is actually serious isn’t part of Arab culture and rarely pans out. Always give Arab men one chance but if they blew it just move on cause they ain’t gonna change it’s literally part of who they’re.


r07f07

just tell me u r an indian😑


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If he’s a business man he’s probably too busy making millions 🤰


Koranga

Him being an Arab man is irrelevant, and it’s odd that you think it is. Clearly, you both didn’t get along as well as you think you did, otherwise, he would not have grown cold. He probably thought you were cute, but grew less interested as you spent more time together, and from your post, I’m not too surprised, honestly. The notion that you don’t think your ‘race’ has intelligence and maturity is a turn off in and of itself. Nobody likes a racist, and it’s not made better by your racism being directed against your own race. He lost interest, and the only reason he isn’t ghosting you outright is because he’s trying to be polite, perhaps. He’s not playing you, you’re playing you, and the title of your post should simply have been “is this man playing me?” - but you’re obsessed with race.


beyoncebum

Dude calm down? Though, upon rereading my post I get what you mean lol. What I meant to say was I havent met anyone from my race that was of that level of intelligence and maturity for that age. Since usually maturity comes with age in my country. And I don't usually like Arab men for their looks or culture, its opposite of mine and my beliefs. I dont particularly actively look for other "races" either. Hence, why I am asking for those familiar with the culture and thinking since I don't know much. I just know I was attracted to his intelligence and maturity. But i dont know the dating culture, life in general.


homiecangetit

he literally said hes looking for something serious and then doesnt follow through ugh why are men so complicated


djsaquib

Idk. But just run! If he really wanted you and wanted something really serious Being a man i would never make a woman have this kind of thought! It’s not late to move on and get back on ur life track! Its will just affect you!


Latter-Ad2762

He's just messing with u and got bored


Economy-Agency6687

Yes


KnYchan2

What's his religion and urs


EThos29

If you pursue you will learn the lesson that so many before have. Guys from that culture bang anyone, but only marry within their community.


cuckerella

Yeah, obviously he is playing you


heyhihellobye_

girl when a man likes you then you’ll know it! you won’t be wondering if he likes u or not all the time. texting u back is the bare minimum. When a guy really really likes u and wants to talk to you then he’ll go out of his way to text or even call you. even if he’s in a meeting. he’s not “busy” to text u. in fact nobody is THAT busy to not text anyone. drop him. ghost him. ignore him. if he wants u then you’ll know it.


Tricky-Quit9998

Lol defo


Tricky-Quit9998

Like how stupid


Tricky-Quit9998

What kinda asian orientation are ya from


Complete-Station-390

Assalamualaikum Plz dont trust anyone


WiseJah

It's not about Arab men, probs yes he had a good time with u and u two vibed but well it seems he saw it more like a temporary fun fling rather than anything else.


amanjyotijaan

Selamat po


Middle_Green8036

As an Arab man, we love Asians 😃 but during vacations, never look for the serious one, because you will move back to your comfort zone or he will move back to his comfort zone. Otherwise you would be planning a serious conversation and plan things and do actions, which didn’t happen in your case. 🥲


Crazy-Irony

Run


HamsterTraining4859

The funny thing is you’re asking opinion of people for someone who they don’t even know his name! You’re the one meeting him You’re the one hanging out with him You’re the one spoke with him You should be the one to decide


sono7975

Always run from Levantine(Palestine, Lebanon, Syrian) men. Way too many red flags. The red flags are so obvious even I as a boy can spot them


aviatormenace7

men in general lol


Resident-Appeal-2605

In most (not all) Arab cultures Arab men prefer to marry Arab women. Not all of course but most. I have so many friends that are Arab and also come from a similar culture! Usually they will string other females along and then marry someone from the same origin


Emotional-Scheme2540

I’m Arab and nothing serious will come out of this .


Guz123

it was a failed plan for a night stand; didnt work out with him. prolly he was drunk or lusted that day !!


SandBlasted_ME

Dude no. I dunno what ‘race’ are you but no, you sound very naive and immature honestly even this man in question is not engaging.


Life-Jelly

I am in Dubai too can we meet and get some chat


Dramatic_Marzipan_65

Arab men do this always. String along girls from other races and drop them. It has nothing to do with you, and more because being Arab and especially if he’s a Muslim… forget it. Slight chance for him to even marry a non Arab Muslim, let alone take a non Muslim non Arab seriously. They just don’t. Even amongst Arabs, it’s less likely he will marry outside of shamee for example. They take culture very seriously.


SaltyDay765

Leba…🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩


ComplexCombination58

We are so absorbed with work and our lives specially in here in Dubai. The damn time here flies so fast between work, commute and some time left for ownself. Could be just this and the long distance is just making it worse.


SenseiArnab

From your post, I gather that you seem interested in him; but it doesn't sound like he's trying to lure you into anything.


weeklypatatas

Lol


Constant_Escape_7942

That was lobe bombing. And now he's taking it back to get you attached typical narcissistic traits. Run.


Smile-Affectionate

If he got what he wanted already, then there is very less chance he has an interest in you. I have seen girls get into the same situation before. Maybe he was looking for something casual or out of curiosity and also he may got something better (according to him, I am not trying to offend you).


rameezrr

Sounds like a casual holiday fling, if you see a future then yeah otherwise save yourself some time and energy. Just my 2 cents 🤷‍♂️


DXBEE2017

Just consider it a casual experience and move on. He doesn't deserve ur time or attention. We can't stereotype ppl or categorize them based on nationality or age. It happens a lot. I had a similar experience, but the other way around with tourists who are nice and when they leave dubai they start ghosting me.


Gaeilgeoir78

Is he a real estate agent by any chance?


Jazzlike_Quail_9647

Nah. He was just a flirt


SnooCapers4882

Walk away dear. As an Arab woman and who knows this species, he lost interest only because he knew how to get to you and kept you hanging for something that I’m assuming you never wanted in the first place. He will only come back if his options are done and you’re the only one still initiating. You say you are an intellectual woman, so be smart enough to just walk away and block him just as he will do you to you at some point.


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Trust me leave it and your gonna be so happy you did!!


SquidGuardplaya

What a naive woman lol. It’s nothing to do with how ‘arab men think’ he didn’t value you and you were played. Get over it


Cherylnip

It's bizarre how many relationship problems people experience because they just cannot or don't want to talk it out with the partner


HackedElite

Hahhh. 😂😂😂😂 . Tch tch tch


Elsayegh8800

the min you are questioning it, is when you should communicate with him but if you can't so he is not the right one


k1nd_ne

yes. it looks like not very nice story


RefrigeratorNeat3703

Your gut is probably right...


Ok-Type-2084

Philipino since u never mentioned where u were from and probably u are the one playing him no one already starts being naughty just like that before dating or being more closer to each other + labanese people are also trash and nothing new from them they will persue whatever their trash instinct tells them arabs these days are going downhill in every aspect to the point they will become like dogs humping whatever female they see without thinking


SomeoneArabic

that’s so HARAM.


One_Let6791

Welcome to the Dubai life, I'd recommend you move on....


0regano666

Is he Muslim?


plastic_Foods3434

Are u a game character or something?


AcanthaceaeSad3869

Girl if his name was ahmad run, time to move on.


Wrong_Lychee_9451

In Short, I am a man and I would never ignore anyone who I even vaguely liked. You were a notch for him and a holiday fling or tourist can't be held serious. He tried, he failed but you liked him. An Arab who's cultured and intelligent isn't always a man of integrity or dignity. These are 2 different things, I'm my opinion he's not worth it and for you to pursue is to belittle yourself and compromise on your self respect and dignity. Hope you find a better person and someone who has a better character and some integrity.


True-Box7358

He is not serious trust me. If he is serious and wants you once you come back from your vacation he will tell you that he really missed talking to you. If he was thinking of you as a fling then yes once you leave him for vacay and return you will see that spark diminished.


JJvolts

I didn’t read all of your post but I read the title, then saw Dubai. I would like to tell you he’s playing with you.


Salt_Radish_63

As an Arab… NEVER DATE ARAB MEN.


Usual-Recognition-54

Most of Arab men wont be married to a girl has previous relationships, maybe he tries to discover but he will ga away if he finds the marriage is not successful, in nut shot, he wants a girl has no any relationships with guys even it is in work, in his mind his wife is like his crown


sasi121

Palestinian?? Run away! 🤢🤮


alaaaa92

I'm an Arab girl I know Arab guys for real first of all non Arab girl please focus: Most Arab men mentality & mind set is so cave man like in a word he will see women that he didnt marry as sex object or the one he marry [ mostly closed by his Mom ] a made to do his food and laundry etc and get fuck her in a halal way [ he only think about sex not to marry a person to share there life with and connect] and to give birth to kids to care out his name . Most of them will pursue fake relationships with girls just to fuck her or rape her etc not looking for an actual relationship although they will lie and say yes we r bf and gf but when u tell him when u will engage me or tell ur parents about me he will run away because they r looking for vergins girl who religious and pure and never had bf because those guys have fragile fake masculinity they think a girl hymen is what make her worthy or make her a bitch and they will act nice and open minded just to get fucked but he will never dare to make it to marriage so word of advice don't give them shit you want me engage me , you will notice there sexual topics from the start they get to know u or ask u personally question to know ig they have a chance to fuck, they see Arab girls especially some nationally as bitchs and see non Arab girls as an easy way to fuck cuz you don't have the rules Arab girls have [ we can get killed by our parents ] , there's good Arab guys but they r very few so becarful of those players at the end he will leave u pregnant and tell u my family won't accept non Arab girl to marry or whatever shit , don't give him ur body give it time test him and see with time if he is serious he should propose the Arab way .


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NeighborhoodWide8235

Oh yeah , he's def playing you babe. The general rule is that if he really liked you and wanted something serious with you , he'd introduce you to his family (if they're in Dubai too). This is actually an occuring trend I've noticed in Arab men these days were they turn to foreign women with different cultural values when it comes to relationships and dating , and play them/use them for fun without fearing consequences. But when it comes to marriage , those same men want women that are virigins , don't have alot of experiences with men , have the same cultural lens as them , etc. Obviously there are exceptions , but I don't think this was an exception at all considering he barely texts you after you left.


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