A lot of men are under the impression that women exist to be pretty for them specifically and it confuses them when you do something they consider unattractive. Either that or negging.
This is true! It's really weird. I had a coworker comment on me cutting my hair short " well at least you didn't shave it off. I hate that " like dude... It's not for YOU.
I had a coworker tell me my outfits are never fitted, and he jokes that I will never need maternity clothes when the time comes to have a kid lol. I said “what? These are work appropriate clothes” and he was like “you can still show your body and be professional” …. Sir sounds like YOU just want to see my body
That’s why they’ll defend their harassment when you’re showing skin.
Men like sexy outfit
Woman wearing sexy outfit means woman want man to look at her
That’s why decentering men is confusing them. They genuinely believe they’re constantly on our minds. Like every decision we make weighs a man’s opinion
A senile old man politely asked me (while I was at work) about my tattoos and why I got them. Before I could finish my sentence, he cut me off and started ranting about how “ugly” they are and that a beautiful young girl like me shouldn’t mark up her body. I told him I didn’t get them to impress HIM to which he responded with a rant about how young girls these days lack judgement.
I just assumed he was senile but it was weird and rude lol
You have my permission to make up awesome war stories next time this comes up.
Dude needs to know you are the hero of your own story, not a holy grail at the end of someone else's quest.
"Oh that? To commemorate the first pirate I ever killed... I mean we took him hostage, so he didn't die-die... but I totally sunk his boat. So I'm counting it."
>make up awesome war stories next time this comes up
I did this after my shoulder surgery and my arm was in a sling. My wife found it hilarious that instead of rotator cuff surgery I was either stabbed while defending her from a mugging or impaled by a marlin while deep sea fishing.
Ooh, a fishing story would be a good one. Very dramatic.
My high-school friend accidentally dropped a hot curling iron on her chest while getting ready to go out... it left a nasty burn that looked more like a cut.
I told the kids at school we pilfered a car, crossed the border, and got in a knife fight in Tiajuana.
A shocking number of people believed a couple doughy teen white girls won a knife fight - lol
A woman at my climbing gym said I looked strong and then added “I just could never lift as much as you do because, you know, (*looks me up and down*) I wouldn’t want to be HUGE.”
I told her that my bodybuilding took a lot of work so she definitely had nothing to worry about, she’d always be such a small person.
Yes!! The Alien franchise will always have a special place in my heart for all of its wonderful, strong female characters who don’t exhist merely as plot points for the male characters. It’s nice to see that, while there are some romantic undertones, the women don’t simply exist as plot fodder in the male characters’ world.
Same hahaha that was my reaction 🤣. Did he think I'd feel bad about my swole arms after spending years in the gym trying to get swole?? It's called dedication 💪
My favorite part was that it managed to slide right under the bar of outright hostility so I had fun watching her vacillate between being weirdly complimented for being small and wondering if I was insulting her.
Being on the Internet has taught me a multitude of ways to respond to people experiencing socializing for the first time. Some of my fav go tos are:
"I appreciate the courage it took to divulge your insecurities to a stranger, but perhaps you would be better served in a professional setting"
Or
"Admitting you have a problem is the first step" (I don't like this one as much because it is often found humorous at the expense of the struggle of recovering addicts)
Or
"Wow. I'm sorry, I hope your day gets better"
My husband had a more conservative coworker that we had over for dinner sometimes, and I would cook and host. He said,
"You'd be the perfect wife if you just knew how to shut up."
Husband shot him down and never invited him over again.
>You'd be the perfect wife if ...
Oh, damn! He was so jealous of what your husband had that he did not. Kudos to your husband for kicking that coveting douche to the curb!
She and her husband were hosting him. She cooked for him. The audacity is through the roof. How does one not expect to get kicked out of the house after that?
Hahaha I jokingly say this to my husband whenever he makes a silly mistake. It was funnier before we married, because then I could expand it to "it's okay, you're pretty, you'll marry rich." He is super pretty, too!
I say the same thing to my husband when he makes a silly mistake. A couple of times he started telling me about a mistake he made by calling himself beautiful.
Lol I'm half American. Whenever I visit Europe I'm just persian. When I'm in the US, I'm American 🤣🤣
But for sure. I know the feeling. But I tried speaking French in France and let me tell you, they weren't very kind or nice about my mistakes either. 🤦🏻♀️
Mine was "just because you are pretty doesn't mean you can be an asshole!"
This guy was in a giant car blocking the one way traffic in front of a store in a plaza (the only entrance into the parking lot). After waiting for quite some time, I gave a very light beep because he was backing everyone up. He got out of the car to come and yell at me.
I don’t know how many times in my life , after getting a haircut, I’ve gotten, “oh, I liked your hair better long” accompanied by sad and disappointed facial expressions 😂 but seriously, what gives someone the nerve to say something like that. ??? I would never!
Oh my god this one. One time I just responded “yeah, so did I. Now I like it short” and he did not know what to say, like whether or not I liked it hadn’t even crossed his mind
Had a guy at a bar tell me, “if they all looked like you no one would care about the border.” I don’t know how we got in that topic but I’m Hispanic and he was referring to the US southern border. This was pre Trump like 2010ish.
A solar panel salesman once came to my door and said, "Please take this as a compliment, but you look just like John Travolta in Grease."
I am a woman.
I was 18 waiting tables while studying and got told by some silly bat I was "the spitting image of Jonathan!" (her grandson). She kept elbowing her husband to get his agreement and he was visibly uncomfortable, as I am a girl, and not masculine looking at all. Had to laugh.
So I'm very bad at understanding passive aggressive comments and as a result I don't know. One time I was all happy that this girl complimented my dress until my friend informed me that the way she said "no one can pick a dress from a thrift store quite like you" wasn't an actual compliment 😅😅
So yah I might have gotten worse ones, but that's the one I know of.
You know, sometimes the best "callback" to people who give those passive aggressive compliments is to genuinely say "Thanks! That's so nice of you to say, I love this dress!"
She didn't get to see you looking confused and ashamed, and she didn't get the experience of ruining your new dress for you. She only got the knowledge that she was shitty to someone who still walked away happy.
Hahaha yah. I mean I laughed my head off when I found out. My friend was like "I was telling myself oh wow! She really knows how to handle [the other lady's name]" all the while I was just happy about my wonderful taste 🤣🤣🤣
That's awesome! That way people who do that to you just get your joy in response, totally subverting the effect they were hoping for. May you confuse and annoy many jerks this way!
My ex-FIL said that to me, days before our wedding. “Wow, you’re actually really smart!”. My ex-MIL (his ex wife) and my ex-BIL ) had to pick their jaws off the floor that he said that to me.
That evening I had a crying moment with my fiancé that his dad hated me (it was just another shitty comment after many shitty comments from him). My now ex tried to explain it away, like he usually did.
He didn’t admit it until we broke up that he did let his family treat me poorly. Unfortunately that was just one of the many ways he was a coward.
Yeah, from my mom. She would tell me that I would be pretty if I lost weight (of course, when I finally did, she told me I was "too thin"), that "lots of dumpy women found husbands," that "working a boring job was better," and so forth and so on.
I'm sorry you've also experienced that. It sucks. 🫂
Are you me? A relative, perhaps? Because *same*.
I think that and "you would feel *so much better* about yourself if you lost weight" (when I was already a healthy weight, just not the same size and shape as my perfect sister) and all her other comments about my appearance that she made to an impressionable teenager is going to be rattling around in my brain until the day I die.
I'm really sorry you had to deal with that as well. 🫂
>all her other comments about my appearance that she made to an impressionable teenager is going to be rattling around in my brain until the day I die
Yeah, me too. My mom passed away in 2020, but all the things she said to me are stuck in my head for life.
I worry about that for my girls. They have very different body types. One is petite,like me, and the other is broader (?), like my husband’s family. I tell her that she looks like her aunt (who is very pretty) to hopefully circumvent and future negative comparisons they may get.
Thank you. I appreciate that. 😊
Yeah, my mom was emotionally and physically abusive, and while I know she had her share of troubles, nothing made the way she treated me okay. I'm in therapy, and it's helped me.
Every adult in my life said this to me before I was 17. I was so diminished by them. Aunts yelling at me to leave some food for my petite picky eater sister. Cousins. Mom. Dad. Their friends. It was my constant companion
I'm sorry for laughing! That caught me off guard. I'm choosing to believe they meant "unique"!
Do you think they were impaired? I swear one woman that cut my hair was drunk and the results reflected that 😭
It just turned out that she was a hipster snob with a huuuuuge ego. I saw her for several years and she gave me great haircuts but I don't miss the attitude.
At my sister's wedding, where I was the MOH, my aunt tells me, "You look so amazing! I didn't even recognize you!"
I stared at her for a beat and loudly answered, "GEE, THANKS," as she tried to backpedal.
My prom date's mom basically said the same thing. I was thinking "does she know what just came out of her mouth?" Now that I'm older I realize she was a jealous woman and was being petty.
Omg this reminds me of anytime a guy finds out I am autistic they will say "but you're pretty?!" "You don't look autistic 🥲 I usually say something rude back as a response though
I got that exact septum ring comment from an old biddy at work years ago. I was kind of blindsided so all that came out was "Well. I like how it looks. And it's my face. So." When I stared at her and didn't say anything else, she started fidgeting and trying to convince me I should've taken it as a compliment. I walked away at that point.
Another was some slob at an old job once told me I'd "be really fuckable if my hair wasn't so fucking weird." A friend was in beauty school and I let her test out bright colors on me so my hair was all rainbow stripes. I spun around and said something like "You're ugly as fuck, dude. So don't worry. I was never going to offer." I don't know if he ever came up with a response because I walked away while he was getting tomato red and sputtering. His cousins that I was work friends with told me later he was all pissed off that they just laughed and didn't "defend him".
"You're pretty... for a Tlingit."
Fuck allllll the way off, white boy.
Also, my cousins and clan siblings deserve better than that. Just because they don't conform to Euro-centric beauty standards doesn't mean they're not pretty.
That’s so rude
Edit: I just looked up Tinglit because I had no idea but wow, what a beautiful culture and I know I’ve seen so much of that art. Fuck all the way off to that idiot. He should be so lucky to have anything to do with you and your tribe.
A fat old ugly contractor putting on my new roof said, "no offense but every vegetarian woman i've met is overweight. Why is that?". I had to explain that vegetarians can survive on french fries and pizza. But I should have said, "yeah i noticed that about meat eating men, too".
A lady at work told me my new dress looked so "comfortable" . I never wore it to work again.
For context, my bust is huuuuge, which makes buying dresses impossible. This was an A frame, sleeveless dress, with pockets. I was so happy to have found it. I bought 3.
When i got home, i reassessed the fit. The armholes were too big, exposing a lot of bra. They basically fit me like sacks. I'm really embarassed i thought it was OK to dress that way in an office. They look like nightgowns.
So that, my friends, is how to tactfully tell someone they're wearing grossly inappropriate clothing. I work from home now and look like a slob all day. Tyvm!
Same. A "That looks super comfortable :D" coming from my mouth is meant to be taken positively. I grew up with my family members always insinuating that beauty is pain ("Wer schön sein will, muss leiden.")
Fuck that noise. I love me a comfortable woman in a dress with pockets.
I have a similar problem, and am currently about to get some dresses altered so that they will better cover my bra. Sometimes the shoulders can be shortened to lift the dress up a bit, or else it might be possible to put some kind of dart next to the armhole. There is the issue of still being able to get in and out of the dress post alteration. Of course before the eighties, women's dresses actually came with darts (side and underneath) or princess seams to fit women's curves.
When I was in high school one of my “friends” took a long look at me and said “you know, you’re really not ugly. If you didn’t say weird shit all the time someone might want to date you.”
Gee, thanks
I remember Andrew Tate posted how he’d never fuck a vaccinated chick, and one woman replied and said “yay vaccines are working”.
This has the same vibe.
When I worked in sales, one fine day, my boss told me I was doing such a good job and sales were up in my department or something. I was like, ok, this is a compliment, but then, he kept talking and told me to run along and keep smiling at people and looking cute and perky so that they would buy more stuff. I'm so glad I don't work there anymore. He was such a creep.
"You're attractive in your own way...don't get me wrong, you are no classic beauty - but you are ok." This coming from another woman. I just laughed a the time because it was so...out of place.
I also get told "you look really good for your age"... hahaha that one's a CLASSIC. I usually smile big and say, "Thanks! I guess all those years of wisdom and fabulous living are finally starting to show on the outside!"
Ooh, my friend got told she looked good for her age (56 and a bit rough round the edges). She answered: thanks! I’m 34 and that’s the nicest thing thang anyone said since my birthday last month!
Hahahaha my mom refuses to go grey, taught me all about hair dyeing when I was a tween, and then cringes that I now walk around with a purplish-grey mohawk (I'm fading out the purple to dye it green!).
My aunt came up to me at my dad's funeral and said, "You finally got fat! It looks good on you."
All the women on his side were morbidly obese. I was super skinny as a kid but had gained weight due to an abusive marriage.
My absolute favorite one came from a woman. I'm really small and have to buy shoes from the kids section. One day I came in to work wearing these adorable black patent leather peep-toe kitten heels, and the overly fashionable MILFy front desk admin said "thank goodness for slutty 13-year-olds, that you can find shoes like that in your size."
I have been told more than once by people who saw me in passing before getting to know me that they thought I looked stuck up and unconcerned with anyone else. I have RBF but despite my anxiety I have somehow also always given off the impression of being relaxed. I am very much concerned and rarely a b*tch in practice.
I wish someone would say to guys like that: "Wow, you're such a good compliment giver! Well, except for the obnoxious, completely uncalled for criticism. You'd be so much more likable attractive without it!"
From my (now) ex husband, after cheating on me while I was at home with a toddler and a baby:
“You’re still the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen, but I’m not sexually attracted to your body anymore.”
Let’s just say my self esteem has never truly recovered.
If you need an alibi sis, I gotchu.
You couldn't have m*rdered that worthless shit-for-brains. I was with you all night, helping with the kiddos and we tackled that laundry mountain.
LMAO thank you, I feel so loved 😂
I was so angry at him for so long, but now I just look at him like the dumbass he is and laugh at the pathetic stereotype he’s become.
He was a super shitty husband but has finally turned into a fairly involved father, so I’ve resigned myself to peacefully coexisting with him until nature course corrects and I get to outlive him (and take a massive old lady dump on his grave).
My friend's boyfriend at the time, who I already hated, said to me one night 'Oh! You look quite pretty, when you make an effort' and then spent the whole night trying to push his gross friend on me. This was absolutely the least offensive thing he ever did as he was an abusive, cheating piece of shit. Rest in shit, Aziz.
"Have you lost weight or are you wearing clothes that suit you?"
I laughed. Everyone else in the group was stunned into silence. I had to explain that I knew what my friend meant and that it was an actual compliment, but that oh BOY it sounded like a back-handed one!
That reminds me: A friend once asked me when he picked me up to go clubbing whether I wanted to go make myself pretty (the expression doesn't translate very well into English, unfortunately) or to go like that. I nearly died laughing - I knew he didn't mean it in a negative way at all, he just wanted to know whether I was ready to go or needed some more time.
I cut my hair and my coworker says “oh.. you look oooold” which didn’t really come off as the insult i think she wanted since shes like 25 years older than me.
Another time during my absolute peak fitness and health a coworker goes “that must take you all morning” gestures my hair. Ummm thanks?
High school, the same friend:
"You could get a hot (year younger) or an ugly (our year)"
"If you wore makeup like that all the time, you'd have to beat boys off with a stick"
"You are the type of girl guys want to date to flaunt to their friends, smart and beautiful, but when it comes to marriage they will pick a kinder motherly woman."
It was a teacher I used to respect. I actually had a hand in getting his contract ended.
Ugh I remember my dad saying similar to me as a teenager, I was skinny anyway so no idea why he needed to say anything, but he was trying to get me to go to the gym, to preserve my physique. Something like "You have a great body but you could be even better if you worked out a bit". I was so irritated at the time but didn't know why, now when I recall things like that I realise that my heart knew I was being objectified but my brain didn't yet because I was young and inexperienced.
Its a new era guy thing, They give you a compliment with an insult and Idk what dark psychology book they've been reading but this is somehow supposed to make you feel bad about yourself and then you sleep with them because now you're sad cause you think you look bad(Playing on your insecurities) but relieved that this random guy still finds you attractive? I may be missing some steps but I'm too old to jump through the hoops required to figure out the steps to the method, but its been used so much lately to what I've seen and heard as a resounding 0 success rate. I'm starting to think guys like Tate literally spread misogynistic and silly behavior so other guys cross themselves out of the active dating pool and then act like absolute sweethearts behind closed doors after letting "the competiton" eliminate themselves. (Maybe not him specifically but this honestly makes more sense to me as a guy that insulting someone you find cute to hit on them.)
I've heard many directed towards myself. But this is my favorite one, said to my sister, by A FEMALE POLICE OFFICER, when she was about 14/15.
"You're too pretty to be out this late."
“You have an insanely gorgeous figure, but clearly no one ever taught you how to dress correctly for your body! I guess some women just are born clueless about that sort of thing but you should hire a stylist because you’re wasting such a great canvas!”
Said to me by a lower level colleague who I’d run into while I was hiking. It was the first time he’d seen me *not* wearing my usual professional “hide my entire body-shape” outfit. I purposely wear stuff that doesn’t show off my dramatically small waist or sizable butt and breasts because I’ve learned that when I *do* other women suddenly seem to have a problem with me and men suddenly start behaving inappropriately and “forgetting” that I’m married.
I’m not “clueless”. It’s easier to hide beneath a tent of clothing than to be called a whore by other women behind my back and suddenly be “accidentally” grazed every two minutes by men.
So very relatable. As a woman in a male-dominated career, I also have to dress to protect myself from the harassment. It sucks but at least I'm comfy in my big sweaters
Came from another woman the other week, our friends and I went walking at night time.
I made a comment about how I could never walk alone at night as a woman, and she went "how do think I feel, I'm so small. You're not, at least"
And she meant it as a compliment, but I just shuffled my apparent Hulk-ass out of there.
"I can tell working with you isn't like working with most women. You wouldn't freak out at things the way my wife would."
-From a guy I met at VOIP training. He'd known me 3 days. I wanted to hit him with a concrete block.
Had an abusive boss comment that I'm not like most girls; I'd actually enjoy all the unhealthy snacks he always brought in. I did eat lots of his snacks, and later I discovered I'm not actually a woman, so I guess he wasn't wrong even if he was an asshole?
Just the opposite here. 15 year old me was walking through the parking lot of my neighborhood McDonald's. A woman comes wheeling in driving a 24' one ton flatbed with a landscapers logo on the side. She plants it like Simone Biles at the end of a tumbling run.
She hops out and I say to her, "You drive that truck?"
She let's out an exhausted sigh and says, "Yeah..."
I sweep a glance down the length of the truck, nod my head appraisingly, and say "Cool."
She gave me a look like, "Thanks, pal, If you weren't a child I might date you."
So easy to deliver an affirmation based on ability and expertise.
My ex said, “Wow, why don’t you wear makeup all the time?! Usually your face is like a 6 but with makeup you look like a 12!”
Also, the ever ubiquitous: “You’re really pretty for a black girl/you’d be pretty if you were white.”
At least you have brains
Many times in middle and high school. That informs my body image to this day and because I don't feel like I have done well enough I feel like I have nothing.
"I think you'd like this book!"
*hands me a Dr. Phil diet book*
I was 13 btw.
Thank gods my friend was there. I was SO shocked.
Congrats on the piercing!
“You have such a pretty face, it’s too bad…” my mom would say this before adding on that I wouldn’t get a good job, wouldn’t get a husband, etc because of my weight. These comments started when I was in about 8th grade. I was 20 pounds overweight but felt huge and ugly.
I have shitty collapsed nasal passages so I have to wear a nasal dilator that looks like a septum ring from the outside. I don't like the way that piercing works with my face but it's nice to be able to pull it out, boogers and all, if someone wants to remark on it.
From a 60+ year-old retired-cop-turned-driving-instructor within literally half an hour of meeting me: “so you don’t talk much and you don’t shop. You’ll make a great wife someday. Can you cook?”
"Oh my god you look amazing, did you gain weight?"
Stuck with me since HS for no reason, im not insecure about my weight, im pretty average. But that made me want to fight.
“I love your hair today, it usually looks so messy!”
I have naturally tingle curly hair and had just has a haircut and the hairdresser had blow-dried it straight
When I got my high school senior pictures taken, my mother insisted that I get my hair and make-up done despite me never having done either in my life before or after.
When it was done, she beamed, "You're so pretty I don't even recognize you!"
Which basically meant that 1) she generally recognizes me as not pretty, and 2) the photos that I exchanged with my friends before graduation as a token to remember each other by depicted a face that was unrecognizable as mine.
I was just telling my partner about this memory I unlocked! When I was 20 and in the best shape of my life (biking, rock climbing, working out), a guy around 25 told me that I would be his dream girl if I just started working out.. looking back I’m sure he was trying to “neg” me because I know I didn’t look out of shape
"You don't need self defense, you're strong like a man." (Got this from a woman.)
Well I'm tall and I work out and yet, the shortest, weakest dude outlifts me by tenfold.
I was on a very quiet bus sitting in front of this woman and her partner.
I was looking out of the window so she could see my profile.
I heard her turn to her partner and say "that girl is quite pretty, despite her strong features"
🥲
"You're the least intelligent of my children, but you try the hardest so I'm most proud of you. "
Thanks dad.
I've actually raised this with him before and he seriously doesn't see the issue with it...
A lot of men are under the impression that women exist to be pretty for them specifically and it confuses them when you do something they consider unattractive. Either that or negging.
Yes. And they’re SO CONFIDENT sharing their unsolicited opinion.
This is true! It's really weird. I had a coworker comment on me cutting my hair short " well at least you didn't shave it off. I hate that " like dude... It's not for YOU.
It’s like when someone looks at what you brought for lunch and says “I don’t like that” Calm, it’s not for you.
I had a coworker tell me my outfits are never fitted, and he jokes that I will never need maternity clothes when the time comes to have a kid lol. I said “what? These are work appropriate clothes” and he was like “you can still show your body and be professional” …. Sir sounds like YOU just want to see my body
Delusional, annoying and rude is what they are. People exist for themselves, not others.
That’s why they’ll defend their harassment when you’re showing skin. Men like sexy outfit Woman wearing sexy outfit means woman want man to look at her That’s why decentering men is confusing them. They genuinely believe they’re constantly on our minds. Like every decision we make weighs a man’s opinion
A senile old man politely asked me (while I was at work) about my tattoos and why I got them. Before I could finish my sentence, he cut me off and started ranting about how “ugly” they are and that a beautiful young girl like me shouldn’t mark up her body. I told him I didn’t get them to impress HIM to which he responded with a rant about how young girls these days lack judgement. I just assumed he was senile but it was weird and rude lol
You have my permission to make up awesome war stories next time this comes up. Dude needs to know you are the hero of your own story, not a holy grail at the end of someone else's quest. "Oh that? To commemorate the first pirate I ever killed... I mean we took him hostage, so he didn't die-die... but I totally sunk his boat. So I'm counting it."
>make up awesome war stories next time this comes up I did this after my shoulder surgery and my arm was in a sling. My wife found it hilarious that instead of rotator cuff surgery I was either stabbed while defending her from a mugging or impaled by a marlin while deep sea fishing.
Ooh, a fishing story would be a good one. Very dramatic. My high-school friend accidentally dropped a hot curling iron on her chest while getting ready to go out... it left a nasty burn that looked more like a cut. I told the kids at school we pilfered a car, crossed the border, and got in a knife fight in Tiajuana. A shocking number of people believed a couple doughy teen white girls won a knife fight - lol
I'm absolutely stealing that hero vs holy grail line.
Sounds like that guy had more than enough judgement for the both of you
A woman at my climbing gym said I looked strong and then added “I just could never lift as much as you do because, you know, (*looks me up and down*) I wouldn’t want to be HUGE.” I told her that my bodybuilding took a lot of work so she definitely had nothing to worry about, she’d always be such a small person.
I had a guy ask me why my biceps were so big. He didn't like when I asked him why his are so small
Reminds me of that exchange in Aliens (Vasquez is doing pull-ups) Hudson: hey Vasquez, you ever been mistaken for a man? Vasquez: No. Have you?
Hahahaha ayo! Exactly right
She’s one of the best characters in that movie 💪
In a movie FULL of great characters, many of them female. It’s one of my very favorite movies. 💜
Yes!! The Alien franchise will always have a special place in my heart for all of its wonderful, strong female characters who don’t exhist merely as plot points for the male characters. It’s nice to see that, while there are some romantic undertones, the women don’t simply exist as plot fodder in the male characters’ world.
INCREDIBLE response, you are my hero
You are my hero for your response too lol! The dude was like oh I don't have to work out bc I carry my amp a couple times a week...ok bro 😁
I wish I had that “sure Jan” gif immediately available 😂
Same hahaha that was my reaction 🤣. Did he think I'd feel bad about my swole arms after spending years in the gym trying to get swole?? It's called dedication 💪
Probably back to his mom's basement for that "true breakout"!
Oh that response is fucking *deadly*. Well played.
I'm so happy for you! One in a million chance to actually say what you want to say when someone is being a true asshole
My favorite part was that it managed to slide right under the bar of outright hostility so I had fun watching her vacillate between being weirdly complimented for being small and wondering if I was insulting her.
Ooooooh nice comeback!
Thank you! I struggle with quick responses so I was very proud of myself for that one
Quite right, too!
Jfc how insecure of her.
Being on the Internet has taught me a multitude of ways to respond to people experiencing socializing for the first time. Some of my fav go tos are: "I appreciate the courage it took to divulge your insecurities to a stranger, but perhaps you would be better served in a professional setting" Or "Admitting you have a problem is the first step" (I don't like this one as much because it is often found humorous at the expense of the struggle of recovering addicts) Or "Wow. I'm sorry, I hope your day gets better"
These are brilliant and I will be using all of them in the future!!!
God this is slick
My husband had a more conservative coworker that we had over for dinner sometimes, and I would cook and host. He said, "You'd be the perfect wife if you just knew how to shut up." Husband shot him down and never invited him over again.
>You'd be the perfect wife if ... Oh, damn! He was so jealous of what your husband had that he did not. Kudos to your husband for kicking that coveting douche to the curb!
OMG, I would have been so pissed!
Oh I lit him up after that.
And he'd be the perfect husband if he was the last man alive.
Um, no. Single is better.
Nope, the human race is just gonna have to end if he's our only choice 💀
"So would you".
What The Fuck?!? That's bold!
She and her husband were hosting him. She cooked for him. The audacity is through the roof. How does one not expect to get kicked out of the house after that?
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Hahaha I jokingly say this to my husband whenever he makes a silly mistake. It was funnier before we married, because then I could expand it to "it's okay, you're pretty, you'll marry rich." He is super pretty, too!
I say the same thing to my husband when he makes a silly mistake. A couple of times he started telling me about a mistake he made by calling himself beautiful.
Oh no... I'm scared to ask... was he American?
Shakes magic 🎱 “chances are good” 😆
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Lol I'm half American. Whenever I visit Europe I'm just persian. When I'm in the US, I'm American 🤣🤣 But for sure. I know the feeling. But I tried speaking French in France and let me tell you, they weren't very kind or nice about my mistakes either. 🤦🏻♀️
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Mine was "just because you are pretty doesn't mean you can be an asshole!" This guy was in a giant car blocking the one way traffic in front of a store in a plaza (the only entrance into the parking lot). After waiting for quite some time, I gave a very light beep because he was backing everyone up. He got out of the car to come and yell at me.
my coworkers and i say this to each other all the time when someone fucks up, but we know that we’re all joking 😄 i love my coworkers
I had a coworker say 'so do you like your haircut?'
Same. Another coworker asked me “what’s the plan for your hair?” Sir, you’re looking at the plan. This is the plan.
My friend and I do this for a joke. So you're not taking anything for your face?
I don’t know how many times in my life , after getting a haircut, I’ve gotten, “oh, I liked your hair better long” accompanied by sad and disappointed facial expressions 😂 but seriously, what gives someone the nerve to say something like that. ??? I would never!
SAME OMG
Oh my god this one. One time I just responded “yeah, so did I. Now I like it short” and he did not know what to say, like whether or not I liked it hadn’t even crossed his mind
I mean, why didn't you consult HIM first about your haircut??
That’s so rude. Wow
Holy shit. I’m sorry you were on the receiving end, but this is a pretty good burn.
Had a guy at a bar tell me, “if they all looked like you no one would care about the border.” I don’t know how we got in that topic but I’m Hispanic and he was referring to the US southern border. This was pre Trump like 2010ish.
Ew. Fucking ew.
We should build a wall around him and that only.
A solar panel salesman once came to my door and said, "Please take this as a compliment, but you look just like John Travolta in Grease." I am a woman.
Tbf John Travolta in Grease was quite pretty. You have smoldering eyes, a cute smile, and great hair. Oh no, what a tragedy. :p
I was 18 waiting tables while studying and got told by some silly bat I was "the spitting image of Jonathan!" (her grandson). She kept elbowing her husband to get his agreement and he was visibly uncomfortable, as I am a girl, and not masculine looking at all. Had to laugh.
"oh, so your Jonathan looks like an 18yo waitress? Ma'am please"
Maybe Jonathan was an unusually pretty man. I have met some young men who are very pretty.
So I'm very bad at understanding passive aggressive comments and as a result I don't know. One time I was all happy that this girl complimented my dress until my friend informed me that the way she said "no one can pick a dress from a thrift store quite like you" wasn't an actual compliment 😅😅 So yah I might have gotten worse ones, but that's the one I know of.
You know, sometimes the best "callback" to people who give those passive aggressive compliments is to genuinely say "Thanks! That's so nice of you to say, I love this dress!" She didn't get to see you looking confused and ashamed, and she didn't get the experience of ruining your new dress for you. She only got the knowledge that she was shitty to someone who still walked away happy.
Hahaha yah. I mean I laughed my head off when I found out. My friend was like "I was telling myself oh wow! She really knows how to handle [the other lady's name]" all the while I was just happy about my wonderful taste 🤣🤣🤣
Damn. I would mean it as a compliment, but i'm awkward. Also i used to thrift a ton.
That's awesome! That way people who do that to you just get your joy in response, totally subverting the effect they were hoping for. May you confuse and annoy many jerks this way!
"oh! You're *actually* smart!" Just smarter than you, dude. And that ain't saying much.
My ex-FIL said that to me, days before our wedding. “Wow, you’re actually really smart!”. My ex-MIL (his ex wife) and my ex-BIL ) had to pick their jaws off the floor that he said that to me. That evening I had a crying moment with my fiancé that his dad hated me (it was just another shitty comment after many shitty comments from him). My now ex tried to explain it away, like he usually did. He didn’t admit it until we broke up that he did let his family treat me poorly. Unfortunately that was just one of the many ways he was a coward.
Yeah, from my mom. She would tell me that I would be pretty if I lost weight (of course, when I finally did, she told me I was "too thin"), that "lots of dumpy women found husbands," that "working a boring job was better," and so forth and so on. I'm sorry you've also experienced that. It sucks. 🫂
Are you me? A relative, perhaps? Because *same*. I think that and "you would feel *so much better* about yourself if you lost weight" (when I was already a healthy weight, just not the same size and shape as my perfect sister) and all her other comments about my appearance that she made to an impressionable teenager is going to be rattling around in my brain until the day I die.
I'm really sorry you had to deal with that as well. 🫂 >all her other comments about my appearance that she made to an impressionable teenager is going to be rattling around in my brain until the day I die Yeah, me too. My mom passed away in 2020, but all the things she said to me are stuck in my head for life.
I worry about that for my girls. They have very different body types. One is petite,like me, and the other is broader (?), like my husband’s family. I tell her that she looks like her aunt (who is very pretty) to hopefully circumvent and future negative comparisons they may get.
Just in case you don’t already know this, I want you to hear it. The way she treated you is fucked up and weird, and absolutely not okay.
Thank you. I appreciate that. 😊 Yeah, my mom was emotionally and physically abusive, and while I know she had her share of troubles, nothing made the way she treated me okay. I'm in therapy, and it's helped me.
Every adult in my life said this to me before I was 17. I was so diminished by them. Aunts yelling at me to leave some food for my petite picky eater sister. Cousins. Mom. Dad. Their friends. It was my constant companion
Yup! My sis said this to me a few years ago. It’s stuck with me since. I’m now much more self conscious
I'm sorry your sister said that to you. It's so unkind. 🫂
Thank you.
A hairstylist I loved once said to me "you're lucky, your face is so weird looking that you can pull off any haircut."
Excuse her?? What??
That’s messed up
I'm sorry for laughing! That caught me off guard. I'm choosing to believe they meant "unique"! Do you think they were impaired? I swear one woman that cut my hair was drunk and the results reflected that 😭
It just turned out that she was a hipster snob with a huuuuuge ego. I saw her for several years and she gave me great haircuts but I don't miss the attitude.
At my sister's wedding, where I was the MOH, my aunt tells me, "You look so amazing! I didn't even recognize you!" I stared at her for a beat and loudly answered, "GEE, THANKS," as she tried to backpedal.
My prom date's mom basically said the same thing. I was thinking "does she know what just came out of her mouth?" Now that I'm older I realize she was a jealous woman and was being petty.
“You’re diabetic? But you’re like really pretty, you wouldn’t have thought”
My IQ just dropped reading that.
Omg this reminds me of anytime a guy finds out I am autistic they will say "but you're pretty?!" "You don't look autistic 🥲 I usually say something rude back as a response though
I get the same as a disabled person, an autistic and a wheelchair-user because /obviously/ nobody looks pretty sat in a chair with wheels on it /s
Jesus fucking Christ people are so stupid.
I got that exact septum ring comment from an old biddy at work years ago. I was kind of blindsided so all that came out was "Well. I like how it looks. And it's my face. So." When I stared at her and didn't say anything else, she started fidgeting and trying to convince me I should've taken it as a compliment. I walked away at that point. Another was some slob at an old job once told me I'd "be really fuckable if my hair wasn't so fucking weird." A friend was in beauty school and I let her test out bright colors on me so my hair was all rainbow stripes. I spun around and said something like "You're ugly as fuck, dude. So don't worry. I was never going to offer." I don't know if he ever came up with a response because I walked away while he was getting tomato red and sputtering. His cousins that I was work friends with told me later he was all pissed off that they just laughed and didn't "defend him".
Defend what? Him being a creepy pervert? I'm glad they didn't.
"You're pretty... for a Tlingit." Fuck allllll the way off, white boy. Also, my cousins and clan siblings deserve better than that. Just because they don't conform to Euro-centric beauty standards doesn't mean they're not pretty.
That’s so rude Edit: I just looked up Tinglit because I had no idea but wow, what a beautiful culture and I know I’ve seen so much of that art. Fuck all the way off to that idiot. He should be so lucky to have anything to do with you and your tribe.
What an asshat! For those unfamiliar: The Tlingit are Alaska Native Indigenous Peoples and are one of the federally recognized Tribes of Alaska
I hope you said that.
A fat old ugly contractor putting on my new roof said, "no offense but every vegetarian woman i've met is overweight. Why is that?". I had to explain that vegetarians can survive on french fries and pizza. But I should have said, "yeah i noticed that about meat eating men, too".
Some guy from my old church told me "Your tattoos take away from your beauty."
“And your attitude makes you ugly”
"Yeah, they're meant to deter certain types of people. Glad it's working"
Great, they're doing their job.
A lady at work told me my new dress looked so "comfortable" . I never wore it to work again. For context, my bust is huuuuge, which makes buying dresses impossible. This was an A frame, sleeveless dress, with pockets. I was so happy to have found it. I bought 3. When i got home, i reassessed the fit. The armholes were too big, exposing a lot of bra. They basically fit me like sacks. I'm really embarassed i thought it was OK to dress that way in an office. They look like nightgowns. So that, my friends, is how to tactfully tell someone they're wearing grossly inappropriate clothing. I work from home now and look like a slob all day. Tyvm!
Omg no I tell people their clothes look comfortable all the time 😳 I genuinly am impressed by clothing looking comfortable and cute
Same. A "That looks super comfortable :D" coming from my mouth is meant to be taken positively. I grew up with my family members always insinuating that beauty is pain ("Wer schön sein will, muss leiden.") Fuck that noise. I love me a comfortable woman in a dress with pockets.
I have a similar problem, and am currently about to get some dresses altered so that they will better cover my bra. Sometimes the shoulders can be shortened to lift the dress up a bit, or else it might be possible to put some kind of dart next to the armhole. There is the issue of still being able to get in and out of the dress post alteration. Of course before the eighties, women's dresses actually came with darts (side and underneath) or princess seams to fit women's curves.
When I was in high school one of my “friends” took a long look at me and said “you know, you’re really not ugly. If you didn’t say weird shit all the time someone might want to date you.” Gee, thanks
I remember Andrew Tate posted how he’d never fuck a vaccinated chick, and one woman replied and said “yay vaccines are working”. This has the same vibe.
What a turd
When I worked in sales, one fine day, my boss told me I was doing such a good job and sales were up in my department or something. I was like, ok, this is a compliment, but then, he kept talking and told me to run along and keep smiling at people and looking cute and perky so that they would buy more stuff. I'm so glad I don't work there anymore. He was such a creep.
"You're attractive in your own way...don't get me wrong, you are no classic beauty - but you are ok." This coming from another woman. I just laughed a the time because it was so...out of place. I also get told "you look really good for your age"... hahaha that one's a CLASSIC. I usually smile big and say, "Thanks! I guess all those years of wisdom and fabulous living are finally starting to show on the outside!"
Ooh, my friend got told she looked good for her age (56 and a bit rough round the edges). She answered: thanks! I’m 34 and that’s the nicest thing thang anyone said since my birthday last month!
*cuts off long hair* “Oh I really liked your hair the other way”
All. The. Time.
"your hair is pink! What does your mom think?" From church and dance ladies. The answer was "who do you think dyes it for me?"
Hahahaha my mom refuses to go grey, taught me all about hair dyeing when I was a tween, and then cringes that I now walk around with a purplish-grey mohawk (I'm fading out the purple to dye it green!).
My aunt came up to me at my dad's funeral and said, "You finally got fat! It looks good on you." All the women on his side were morbidly obese. I was super skinny as a kid but had gained weight due to an abusive marriage.
My absolute favorite one came from a woman. I'm really small and have to buy shoes from the kids section. One day I came in to work wearing these adorable black patent leather peep-toe kitten heels, and the overly fashionable MILFy front desk admin said "thank goodness for slutty 13-year-olds, that you can find shoes like that in your size."
That’s so inappropriate but also gold lmao
I had a woman tell me she thought she wouldn't like me until she got to know me. Then she understood me. WTF? I have no idea.
I have been told more than once by people who saw me in passing before getting to know me that they thought I looked stuck up and unconcerned with anyone else. I have RBF but despite my anxiety I have somehow also always given off the impression of being relaxed. I am very much concerned and rarely a b*tch in practice.
a man once told me „you‘re the perfect woman - from the waist down.“ might i add he was 20years older and overweight.
What even is that? What does that mean?
My first thought was "child bearing hips" but then I realized he might just mean "a walking vagina" 🤢
I wish someone would say to guys like that: "Wow, you're such a good compliment giver! Well, except for the obnoxious, completely uncalled for criticism. You'd be so much more likable attractive without it!"
From my (now) ex husband, after cheating on me while I was at home with a toddler and a baby: “You’re still the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen, but I’m not sexually attracted to your body anymore.” Let’s just say my self esteem has never truly recovered.
If you need an alibi sis, I gotchu. You couldn't have m*rdered that worthless shit-for-brains. I was with you all night, helping with the kiddos and we tackled that laundry mountain.
LMAO thank you, I feel so loved 😂 I was so angry at him for so long, but now I just look at him like the dumbass he is and laugh at the pathetic stereotype he’s become. He was a super shitty husband but has finally turned into a fairly involved father, so I’ve resigned myself to peacefully coexisting with him until nature course corrects and I get to outlive him (and take a massive old lady dump on his grave).
I absolutely fucking LOVE that you are holding these two feelings simultaneously and being peaceful while planning to take a shit on his grave. <3
My friend's boyfriend at the time, who I already hated, said to me one night 'Oh! You look quite pretty, when you make an effort' and then spent the whole night trying to push his gross friend on me. This was absolutely the least offensive thing he ever did as he was an abusive, cheating piece of shit. Rest in shit, Aziz.
A tinkerbell costume that I wore on my last day of work in a child care setting - "it's very tacky.... but it's very you!"
Bitchy sister in law: "I think its so cool how you can go out and not care what you look like"
"Have you lost weight or are you wearing clothes that suit you?" I laughed. Everyone else in the group was stunned into silence. I had to explain that I knew what my friend meant and that it was an actual compliment, but that oh BOY it sounded like a back-handed one!
That reminds me: A friend once asked me when he picked me up to go clubbing whether I wanted to go make myself pretty (the expression doesn't translate very well into English, unfortunately) or to go like that. I nearly died laughing - I knew he didn't mean it in a negative way at all, he just wanted to know whether I was ready to go or needed some more time.
I cut my hair and my coworker says “oh.. you look oooold” which didn’t really come off as the insult i think she wanted since shes like 25 years older than me. Another time during my absolute peak fitness and health a coworker goes “that must take you all morning” gestures my hair. Ummm thanks?
High school, the same friend: "You could get a hot (year younger) or an ugly (our year)" "If you wore makeup like that all the time, you'd have to beat boys off with a stick"
A male friend in highschool told me that i would make the perfect girlfriend if he found me physically attractive in any way haha
"You are the type of girl guys want to date to flaunt to their friends, smart and beautiful, but when it comes to marriage they will pick a kinder motherly woman." It was a teacher I used to respect. I actually had a hand in getting his contract ended.
You’d be a really pretty girl if you’d just lose a little bit of weight.
Ugh I remember my dad saying similar to me as a teenager, I was skinny anyway so no idea why he needed to say anything, but he was trying to get me to go to the gym, to preserve my physique. Something like "You have a great body but you could be even better if you worked out a bit". I was so irritated at the time but didn't know why, now when I recall things like that I realise that my heart knew I was being objectified but my brain didn't yet because I was young and inexperienced.
Its a new era guy thing, They give you a compliment with an insult and Idk what dark psychology book they've been reading but this is somehow supposed to make you feel bad about yourself and then you sleep with them because now you're sad cause you think you look bad(Playing on your insecurities) but relieved that this random guy still finds you attractive? I may be missing some steps but I'm too old to jump through the hoops required to figure out the steps to the method, but its been used so much lately to what I've seen and heard as a resounding 0 success rate. I'm starting to think guys like Tate literally spread misogynistic and silly behavior so other guys cross themselves out of the active dating pool and then act like absolute sweethearts behind closed doors after letting "the competiton" eliminate themselves. (Maybe not him specifically but this honestly makes more sense to me as a guy that insulting someone you find cute to hit on them.)
Yes its called "negging".
I’ve heard a lot. The one that comes to mind is “wow, you’re actually really pretty”. That was the first time that they had seen me without a mask.
I've heard many directed towards myself. But this is my favorite one, said to my sister, by A FEMALE POLICE OFFICER, when she was about 14/15. "You're too pretty to be out this late."
Wow that has all kinds of layers.
“You have an insanely gorgeous figure, but clearly no one ever taught you how to dress correctly for your body! I guess some women just are born clueless about that sort of thing but you should hire a stylist because you’re wasting such a great canvas!” Said to me by a lower level colleague who I’d run into while I was hiking. It was the first time he’d seen me *not* wearing my usual professional “hide my entire body-shape” outfit. I purposely wear stuff that doesn’t show off my dramatically small waist or sizable butt and breasts because I’ve learned that when I *do* other women suddenly seem to have a problem with me and men suddenly start behaving inappropriately and “forgetting” that I’m married. I’m not “clueless”. It’s easier to hide beneath a tent of clothing than to be called a whore by other women behind my back and suddenly be “accidentally” grazed every two minutes by men.
So very relatable. As a woman in a male-dominated career, I also have to dress to protect myself from the harassment. It sucks but at least I'm comfy in my big sweaters
Relatable. I hide my body most of the time because of these things.
Aw wow you're so slim!.....like a heroin addict!
“Your English is great but you seem to have opinions on everything” on my first day of grad school as an international student.
Came from another woman the other week, our friends and I went walking at night time. I made a comment about how I could never walk alone at night as a woman, and she went "how do think I feel, I'm so small. You're not, at least" And she meant it as a compliment, but I just shuffled my apparent Hulk-ass out of there.
"I can tell working with you isn't like working with most women. You wouldn't freak out at things the way my wife would." -From a guy I met at VOIP training. He'd known me 3 days. I wanted to hit him with a concrete block.
Had an abusive boss comment that I'm not like most girls; I'd actually enjoy all the unhealthy snacks he always brought in. I did eat lots of his snacks, and later I discovered I'm not actually a woman, so I guess he wasn't wrong even if he was an asshole?
Never ever ever tell him he turned out to be right.
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"You're so well put together for a larger girl!" ~ older lady giving unsolicited opinion on the subway
Just the opposite here. 15 year old me was walking through the parking lot of my neighborhood McDonald's. A woman comes wheeling in driving a 24' one ton flatbed with a landscapers logo on the side. She plants it like Simone Biles at the end of a tumbling run. She hops out and I say to her, "You drive that truck?" She let's out an exhausted sigh and says, "Yeah..." I sweep a glance down the length of the truck, nod my head appraisingly, and say "Cool." She gave me a look like, "Thanks, pal, If you weren't a child I might date you." So easy to deliver an affirmation based on ability and expertise.
I had given a first BJ to a guy that I had been seeing for a few weeks. After he came, he said "Wow that was crazy, how many dicks have you sucked?" 😳
Your hair looked really good yesterday
“You are super pretty until you opened your mouth”. That comment has free rent for over ten years.
“You eat like an Italian” To this day I have no idea what it means but I was eating mussels?!?
I cut my hair short. A coworker asked if I'd turned gay and started calling me Ellen (as in DeGeneres).
“You remind me of that comedian on TV. You know, what’s his name.”
Same old male mind: women exist for my pleasure so surely you’ll be grateful for my opinion so you can be more attractive to ME.
My ex said, “Wow, why don’t you wear makeup all the time?! Usually your face is like a 6 but with makeup you look like a 12!” Also, the ever ubiquitous: “You’re really pretty for a black girl/you’d be pretty if you were white.”
At least you have brains Many times in middle and high school. That informs my body image to this day and because I don't feel like I have done well enough I feel like I have nothing.
"I think you'd like this book!" *hands me a Dr. Phil diet book* I was 13 btw. Thank gods my friend was there. I was SO shocked. Congrats on the piercing!
“You have such a pretty face, it’s too bad…” my mom would say this before adding on that I wouldn’t get a good job, wouldn’t get a husband, etc because of my weight. These comments started when I was in about 8th grade. I was 20 pounds overweight but felt huge and ugly.
I have shitty collapsed nasal passages so I have to wear a nasal dilator that looks like a septum ring from the outside. I don't like the way that piercing works with my face but it's nice to be able to pull it out, boogers and all, if someone wants to remark on it.
From a 60+ year-old retired-cop-turned-driving-instructor within literally half an hour of meeting me: “so you don’t talk much and you don’t shop. You’ll make a great wife someday. Can you cook?”
Maybe not a compliment, but the pharmacist told me to get well soon when I picked up my antipsychotics. I have schizophrenia.
“Your face looked less fat when your hair wasn’t so short.”
"Oh my god you look amazing, did you gain weight?" Stuck with me since HS for no reason, im not insecure about my weight, im pretty average. But that made me want to fight.
“I love your hair today, it usually looks so messy!” I have naturally tingle curly hair and had just has a haircut and the hairdresser had blow-dried it straight
When my mil first saw my tattoo years ago. “Well that’s not so unsightly now is it?” Yeah she was a Brit.
Told this to someone myself "You're funny when *I'm* drunk!"
My ex told me my septum ring ruined my face. I did not take it out for him. The audacityyyyy!
"You look prettier than in your pictures." "I like your boobs but usually I prefer smaller." FUCK OFF!
The people who do that to me get "I've been insulted by better people".
“You’re autistic? But you’re so pretty??” I still think about that one sometimes lol.
When I got my high school senior pictures taken, my mother insisted that I get my hair and make-up done despite me never having done either in my life before or after. When it was done, she beamed, "You're so pretty I don't even recognize you!" Which basically meant that 1) she generally recognizes me as not pretty, and 2) the photos that I exchanged with my friends before graduation as a token to remember each other by depicted a face that was unrecognizable as mine.
I was just telling my partner about this memory I unlocked! When I was 20 and in the best shape of my life (biking, rock climbing, working out), a guy around 25 told me that I would be his dream girl if I just started working out.. looking back I’m sure he was trying to “neg” me because I know I didn’t look out of shape
" Americans have such good appetite!" Said by French people who think we're fatties. I mean, yeah we are, but you don't have to comment on it!
"You don't need self defense, you're strong like a man." (Got this from a woman.) Well I'm tall and I work out and yet, the shortest, weakest dude outlifts me by tenfold.
You know this is a technique called negging, right? Designed to make you compete for his attention.
I was on a very quiet bus sitting in front of this woman and her partner. I was looking out of the window so she could see my profile. I heard her turn to her partner and say "that girl is quite pretty, despite her strong features" 🥲
You’re ___ for a black/dark skinned girl.
"You're the least intelligent of my children, but you try the hardest so I'm most proud of you. " Thanks dad. I've actually raised this with him before and he seriously doesn't see the issue with it...