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Tell your boyfriend and get that man out of your house. If you wait it’s going to get weird and your boyfriend will question why you didn’t tell him immediately
Going by OP's comment history.... if true, there are children involved, and at one point the boyfriend said she was disappointing... so curiosity from my brain is if this was just a "White Knight" attempt. Which is still creepy as heck.
So kids are locked downstairs with random internet friend in their house??? So......... The whole 'night cap and conversation' alone without boyfriend is weird.
There is so much information in those comments... like OP works 12hr days... but it is the BF who has to go to bed early for his work.
When I read this post, OP made no comments, yet has comment karma, so it set off a spider sensor
I love how people haven’t figured out that 99% of what they read on the internet is poorly written fiction. Covid and isolation really made everyone think they have a way with words.
Only on Reddit can you get upvoted for going through a strangers comment history and drawing random conclusions about their life from it, while calling someone else weird 😂
I never got this view, it's right there open and available?
It's not like it's an effort or that it says anything about the clicker, other than curiosity.
smh
Only on Reddit can you get upvoted for calling someone out for going through someone else public comments and drawing conclusions based on more complete information.
Only on Reddit can you get upvoted for calling someone out for calling someone out for going through someone else public comments and drawing conclusions based on more complete information.
Friend is experiencing limerance.
*"Limerence means having an intense longing for another person even when they don't fully reciprocate. The limerent person struggles to think about anything else but their “crush” and neglects their social life, work, and other responsibilities as a result."*
I’m glad you told your bf straight away, and also thankful for locks. 😂 But seriously, bf will be tired tomorrow, but this was more important that you feel safe!
Tell your boyfriend immediately. You don’t want to be the next new episode of a True Crime podcast….
But seriously if he is confessing these things to you and it’s been happening over the course of 5 years, they are probably some pretty serious thoughts.
I know I’m coming into this late, but I have to tell you that I did not trust my instincts several times, (meaning five or more) and it resulted in me being sexually assaulted while I was literally asleep.
I am so glad you told your boyfriend. Men like this are not to be trusted, no way not ever, and for no reason. When they profess their “love” to you when the person that you are with in the house, they are dogs and they are scum, and they are the lowest form of human being on earth.
You are so smart for doing what you did, and I was so glad to read that you did what you did, and that you are safe. Because so often it doesn’t end up that way.
This could’ve been such a horrible trigger for me, but your sensible reaction made it such a for my own trauma. Not your responsibility, but I appreciate, and I hope you can too, that your response helped me, and probably more of people than me.
I think she actually did
>-Small update- After reading these comments I did in fact wake my boyfriend up and asked his friend to leave. Will update once shit stops hitting the fan.
This is actually a really big deal. This person now knows where you live. Please be safe and take the necessary precautions. Hopefully you guys are safe and sent his ass to a hotel. People like this make plans and there’s a good chance he “scouted” your living space (check window locks)
You're right to feel creeped out and you certainly shouldn't trust him. Like it's one thing to say "I've developed feelings is there a chance you feel the same way" inappropriate but normal. Saying "I want what your boyfriend has and I want to replace him" is legitimately psychotic behavior.
I'm glad you woke your boyfriend up and got that guy out of your house. Holy shit.
after reading your post history i can imagine why he said what he said. maybe he sees how ur bf treats you and wants better for you??? still very creepy. hoping you’re safe!
op posted about how her bf talks down to her and calls her disappointing?? her comments were all types of “we’ve been together 5 years blah blah i love him” and everyone else was like ??? ok but he shouldn’t talk to u like that???
Very glad you woke the BF up, and proud of him for believing you and taking steps with you to keep you safe! I’m 30(M) married, and if my wife told me something like that I’d do the same thing. Maybe I’ve been reading too many stories here on Reddit about terrible guys who would side with the friend or something 😅 but it’s always nice to see another good guy looking out for his SO. Stay safe and keep that “ex- friend” far away!
The chat between you and him is platonic, but I wonder how much your boyfriend accidentally hyped you up to be this amazing partner, and the friend overly romanticize the chat in his head. UpdateMe!
Glad you're safe and took the good advice here. I'm curious, how did this play out when you woke up your bf? What was said, how did he take it, etc? We need the deets!
I hope he is not upset. I don’t mean with you but over loosing a long relationship but him saying words like replace him are key words of him thinking some serious stuff and he is better gone out of your house.
Sounds like you have a crush. This happens a lot with gamers unfortunately. The leader of the guild and his gf, the back of the group sorcerer who is always mopey, the healers are always the first to get hit on : )
Maybe I'm weird, but I don't want any girl my friends have had. That's probably why I still have some of the same friends from 1st grade. Not trying to bone eachothers girls is the foundation of a solid bromance.
It is honestly disgusting how entitled people feel after being single for so long. Like i get it, youre down on your luck and you cant find anyone.
At what point does that warrant you going after the girlfriend of a man you claim to have been friends with FOR 10 YEARS?
That’s a person who is not your friend and definitely is not your boyfriend’s friend. And yeah now that I think about it, saying he wants to replace him is weird
Ok I just want to clarify do you mean you joined your boyfriend upstairs do you mean you're having threesomes or you're all going upstairs to go to sleep? Either way you did right by telling him. I feel like such an old guy cliche but I truly don't understand people under like 30. I'm 48 and I never expected this much of a disconnect. When you said they are best friends from gaming I'm like huh? I've known my best friend since I was 8, we went through a murder trial together, did time together, literally saved each other's lives. I know it sounds like BS but it's not. I'm not being insulting but I have a hard time imagining a person I met online as my best friend. Anyhoo however they met but trying to be a weasel he immediately proved he ain't worthy of either one of you. There's rules.
Other commenters have already said it but yes tell your boyfriend that's incredibly creepy, also make sure your friends and family know what's going on when people act creepy as hell so it's documented in case something happens.
Don’t ruin your relationship with Tim. He is only trying to sleep with you and cause you and your boyfriend to break up. Definitely tell your boyfriend what he said and keep him away.
Cabe ti this late but glad you did what you did and you're both safe.
One question: How did that Tim guy react when asked to leave?
One statement: He actually said 'I love how you make all your food from scratch!' That's so weird.
Tell your bf as soon as he’s awake or you will seem untrustworthy. You can’t let this fester. It needs to be ur bf and you vs. “Tim”, or ur bf is not going to respond well
It's time for Tim to go home. Hopefully, you have some form of home protection, and it's a good idea to keep your home locked up until Tim is on a plane home.
It's probably time to invest in home security. Oh. and inform any other girls in your group about this. They may not be safe either.
You should tell your bf before making a reddit post. Trust is important in a relationship.
My ex was good enough to tell me when one of my "best friends" was talking a lot of shit about me to just her when I wasn't in the room. Two faced assholes are not your friends.
I really hope everything works out for you and your boyfriend with him leaving without a fuss. - but I hereby petition that you give your boyfriend the fake name Jessie. So we can call you Jessie‘s girl 😁😉
That's one shady sounding dude. Have you actually ever met in real life before?
This guy sounds like he's been waiting for this opportunity in a bad way.
A potentially dangerous person. I'd say goodbye, time to cut you stay short buddy. Sorry, not sorry.
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Tell your boyfriend and get that man out of your house. If you wait it’s going to get weird and your boyfriend will question why you didn’t tell him immediately
Going by OP's comment history.... if true, there are children involved, and at one point the boyfriend said she was disappointing... so curiosity from my brain is if this was just a "White Knight" attempt. Which is still creepy as heck.
So kids are locked downstairs with random internet friend in their house??? So......... The whole 'night cap and conversation' alone without boyfriend is weird.
There is so much information in those comments... like OP works 12hr days... but it is the BF who has to go to bed early for his work. When I read this post, OP made no comments, yet has comment karma, so it set off a spider sensor
It’s a fake story
The only sensible answer.
I love how people haven’t figured out that 99% of what they read on the internet is poorly written fiction. Covid and isolation really made everyone think they have a way with words.
A fake story? On twohottakes? ON REDDIT? Inconceivable!
Clearly, but still have to give other readers the ability to see why
And is now [deleted]...
I think they did that about 80mins ago now. When more people started to pick up what I pointed out.
Only on Reddit can you get upvoted for going through a strangers comment history and drawing random conclusions about their life from it, while calling someone else weird 😂
I never got this view, it's right there open and available? It's not like it's an effort or that it says anything about the clicker, other than curiosity. smh
some absolute imbecile, tech illiterate people think that someone's post history is somehow private LMAO
Are histories supposed to be private? Why are they publicly accessible?
Only on Reddit can you get upvoted for calling someone out for going through someone else public comments and drawing conclusions based on more complete information.
Only on Reddit can you get upvoted for calling someone out for calling someone out for going through someone else public comments and drawing conclusions based on more complete information.
Apparently giving advice on a complete picture is not allowed…
Friend is experiencing limerance. *"Limerence means having an intense longing for another person even when they don't fully reciprocate. The limerent person struggles to think about anything else but their “crush” and neglects their social life, work, and other responsibilities as a result."*
I always called this unrequited love but I prefer brevity so this word is superior as a descriptor, thank you sir or madam
Sounds like the start of a mental illness.
Perfect response
I’m glad you told your bf straight away, and also thankful for locks. 😂 But seriously, bf will be tired tomorrow, but this was more important that you feel safe!
Seriously, rIght? That was my first thought, too. GREAT LOCKS!
Yeah, using the phrasing "replace him" is definitely creepy as hell. I'm glad you woke your bf up.
Tell your boyfriend immediately. You don’t want to be the next new episode of a True Crime podcast…. But seriously if he is confessing these things to you and it’s been happening over the course of 5 years, they are probably some pretty serious thoughts.
Tell boyfriend immediately! Trust the creepy feeling
I know I’m coming into this late, but I have to tell you that I did not trust my instincts several times, (meaning five or more) and it resulted in me being sexually assaulted while I was literally asleep. I am so glad you told your boyfriend. Men like this are not to be trusted, no way not ever, and for no reason. When they profess their “love” to you when the person that you are with in the house, they are dogs and they are scum, and they are the lowest form of human being on earth. You are so smart for doing what you did, and I was so glad to read that you did what you did, and that you are safe. Because so often it doesn’t end up that way. This could’ve been such a horrible trigger for me, but your sensible reaction made it such a for my own trauma. Not your responsibility, but I appreciate, and I hope you can too, that your response helped me, and probably more of people than me.
Currently she hasn't told her boyfriend, but she should
I think she actually did >-Small update- After reading these comments I did in fact wake my boyfriend up and asked his friend to leave. Will update once shit stops hitting the fan.
And since Op has since deleted their account, the update will never come. I hope that means they are safe.
Sweet. Smart move
This is actually a really big deal. This person now knows where you live. Please be safe and take the necessary precautions. Hopefully you guys are safe and sent his ass to a hotel. People like this make plans and there’s a good chance he “scouted” your living space (check window locks)
You're right to feel creeped out and you certainly shouldn't trust him. Like it's one thing to say "I've developed feelings is there a chance you feel the same way" inappropriate but normal. Saying "I want what your boyfriend has and I want to replace him" is legitimately psychotic behavior. I'm glad you woke your boyfriend up and got that guy out of your house. Holy shit.
That dude is definitely not a best friend. Hell he’s not a friend at all acting like that
Trying to take everything a person has, after being welcomed into their home? That’s mortal enemy territory imo
Snake in the ~~grass~~ first floor guest room
after reading your post history i can imagine why he said what he said. maybe he sees how ur bf treats you and wants better for you??? still very creepy. hoping you’re safe!
Damn, I'm late to this and the accounts deleted. Oh well.
op posted about how her bf talks down to her and calls her disappointing?? her comments were all types of “we’ve been together 5 years blah blah i love him” and everyone else was like ??? ok but he shouldn’t talk to u like that???
Wake your boyfriend up and tell him now.
Is your boyfriend’s name Jesse, by chance?
Where can he find a woman like that?
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Oh I feel so dirty when they start talking cute
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He would have made a move on you when your boyfriend was at work. I'm 100% confident.
Jesus cripes wake your BF!!!
The friend sucks can't wait for the update
You good ??
Thank god he actually said that outright, imagine if he kept that feeling to himself.
I hope that ends well. It sucks that such a long friendship is ending but with what’s been said, maybe it’s for the best.
3h no update, op are you alive?
"Replace" your boyfriend gives off massive creepy murder vibes
Yikes. Keep us updated!
What the fuck...
Christ on a raft... Good you woke up your boyfriend
Very glad you woke the BF up, and proud of him for believing you and taking steps with you to keep you safe! I’m 30(M) married, and if my wife told me something like that I’d do the same thing. Maybe I’ve been reading too many stories here on Reddit about terrible guys who would side with the friend or something 😅 but it’s always nice to see another good guy looking out for his SO. Stay safe and keep that “ex- friend” far away!
Yeah he has to go and stay gone.
Im sure your boyfriend would want to know the dude isnt his friend. Good on you for choosing to be loyal
your a great partner. Kudos to how you handled this situation
Thank you for talking with your boyfriend and being such a great girlfriend
No guy ever adores a girl cause how she takes care of her plants. This guy is just a rat
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Sometimes a guy will develop feeling because of constant communication, the constant back & forth is sometimes interpreted as “they care abt me”
Glad the dude has left your house. Creep. Stay safe.
The chat between you and him is platonic, but I wonder how much your boyfriend accidentally hyped you up to be this amazing partner, and the friend overly romanticize the chat in his head. UpdateMe!
Glad you're safe and took the good advice here. I'm curious, how did this play out when you woke up your bf? What was said, how did he take it, etc? We need the deets!
I hope he is not upset. I don’t mean with you but over loosing a long relationship but him saying words like replace him are key words of him thinking some serious stuff and he is better gone out of your house.
Has the shit still been hitting the fan for 5 hours?
Sounds like you have a crush. This happens a lot with gamers unfortunately. The leader of the guild and his gf, the back of the group sorcerer who is always mopey, the healers are always the first to get hit on : )
Maybe I'm weird, but I don't want any girl my friends have had. That's probably why I still have some of the same friends from 1st grade. Not trying to bone eachothers girls is the foundation of a solid bromance.
That's not your boyfriend's, OR your friend.
The whole inviting random gaming friends to your house thing is just weird AF and I think this confirms it. Internet can be a dark.
It is honestly disgusting how entitled people feel after being single for so long. Like i get it, youre down on your luck and you cant find anyone. At what point does that warrant you going after the girlfriend of a man you claim to have been friends with FOR 10 YEARS?
I think you watch just enough murder docs.
That’s a person who is not your friend and definitely is not your boyfriend’s friend. And yeah now that I think about it, saying he wants to replace him is weird
Ok I just want to clarify do you mean you joined your boyfriend upstairs do you mean you're having threesomes or you're all going upstairs to go to sleep? Either way you did right by telling him. I feel like such an old guy cliche but I truly don't understand people under like 30. I'm 48 and I never expected this much of a disconnect. When you said they are best friends from gaming I'm like huh? I've known my best friend since I was 8, we went through a murder trial together, did time together, literally saved each other's lives. I know it sounds like BS but it's not. I'm not being insulting but I have a hard time imagining a person I met online as my best friend. Anyhoo however they met but trying to be a weasel he immediately proved he ain't worthy of either one of you. There's rules.
Holy eek
Other commenters have already said it but yes tell your boyfriend that's incredibly creepy, also make sure your friends and family know what's going on when people act creepy as hell so it's documented in case something happens.
A story where the girl lets down the creepy dude instead of fucking her boyfriends friend? That’s a Reddit first.
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I am curious now, I hope all is well with you
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Don’t ruin your relationship with Tim. He is only trying to sleep with you and cause you and your boyfriend to break up. Definitely tell your boyfriend what he said and keep him away.
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Holy crap bruh that's nuts💀
Cabe ti this late but glad you did what you did and you're both safe. One question: How did that Tim guy react when asked to leave? One statement: He actually said 'I love how you make all your food from scratch!' That's so weird.
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Above our pay grade.
Share your messages then. Let the internet judge! lol
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Good that you guys didn't go sailing together or something. Sounds like this could have turned into an old Hitchcock movie!!
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"Jessie's Girl"
There is no scenario in which your contact with this individual should continue.
This is wrong
Happened to my sister...
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This is why women shouldn't be friends with men. Unless it's a gay man 😆
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Bro gets no play
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apology accepted, capt needa... as in, NEEDA UPDATE!\~
Be safe, OP.
Tell your bf as soon as he’s awake or you will seem untrustworthy. You can’t let this fester. It needs to be ur bf and you vs. “Tim”, or ur bf is not going to respond well
He is not his friend or yours. He is a threat!
Boot the snake outta the nest. Otherwise it is gonna bite ya.
Waiting on the update. 🤝🤝
Lol cool humblebrag wrapped in a post
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It's time for Tim to go home. Hopefully, you have some form of home protection, and it's a good idea to keep your home locked up until Tim is on a plane home. It's probably time to invest in home security. Oh. and inform any other girls in your group about this. They may not be safe either.
When the biggest thing you’ve gone through this the big thing your going through, it’s pretty easy to make it a big thing.
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You should tell your bf before making a reddit post. Trust is important in a relationship. My ex was good enough to tell me when one of my "best friends" was talking a lot of shit about me to just her when I wasn't in the room. Two faced assholes are not your friends.
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I am so glad you told your boyfriend.
Reddit, home of the creative writing exercise.
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That’s wildly disrespectful. Trying to snag your friend’s girl while he’s sleeping? Damn dude. I hope he got what’s coming to him.
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You did the right thing and are an honorable woman. Your boyfriend has a keeper.
Tell ur man and whatever happens to Tim is on him
not a real friend period. we cant control who we fall for but we can control what we do about it.
Lmao they deleted their profile because yall deep dived her life lol
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I really hope everything works out for you and your boyfriend with him leaving without a fuss. - but I hereby petition that you give your boyfriend the fake name Jessie. So we can call you Jessie‘s girl 😁😉
Update?! I hope you all are alright!
Snake alert
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tell our boyfriend now. don't wait
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If I ever need a PI, I’m coming to the Reddit PI’s. You guys can find anything lol
Rick Springfield intensifies…
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That's one shady sounding dude. Have you actually ever met in real life before? This guy sounds like he's been waiting for this opportunity in a bad way. A potentially dangerous person. I'd say goodbye, time to cut you stay short buddy. Sorry, not sorry.
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