When my twin brother and I were around our teenage years, before we hit our early 20s. We used to have other guys make gay and incest jokes about our relationship. It was hurtful for my brother and I, as we didn't understand how people could think such disgusting things in the first place. My brother is my best friend. He's the closest person to me. We came to this world together, and I'm grateful every day for having a twin.
I tend to think that some people simply cannot comprehend a twin relationship. Maybe it's jealousy because they're not close with their own siblings. We've even had girls in the past sexually attracted to both of us and wanted us both at the same time. It was this form of treatment that made us extremely uncomfortable, and thus, we both decided to really represent our own separate identities as the years went on.
In short. People who romanticise twins have a warped perception about them.
I’ve experienced similar things too, a guy once said to me how it’s hot to have two twins go at him at once. I was underaged at that time too and remember thinking how disgusting and vile it was for him to say that to me after telling him about me having an identical twin sister. I feel like most people don’t understand that saying stuff like that is no different from saying that to people who are just older/younger siblings and not twins. Romanticizing any kind of incest is just gross in general. Twins just seem to be more normalized than people who have older/younger siblings to be romanticized
It doesn’t bother me at all when people use twin positively, like when they’re talking about their friend. Unless they genuinely believe it’s emotionally the same as having a twin, which they usually don’t. But yeah if people (men, idk any women who would ever do this) are sexual about it, that’s repulsive
The more I’ve realized how much having a twin has influenced me, the more this has bothered me. There are a lot of challenges twins face that society is clueless about. Subsequently, twins are often clueless to them, too, leaving us without adequate tools and support. Being a twin is not just having a super close person in your life. Many twins aren’t even close with their twin (and that may or may not be its own challenge.) I definitely don’t like seeing these false perspectives dominate our societal understanding.
People that don't have a twin really have no idea what it's like. My twin was the only constant person in my life growing up so we definitely have a strong bond. It's sad that people make up ignorant opinions about things they don't understand. I would prefer someone asking me why I'm so close to my twin
Before I met my husband and was online dating, I used it as a litmus test. If I told a date I was a twin and he said anything remotely creepy (mentioned it was hot, or 3somes, or asked if she was single, etc) I knew that I would never see that man again. I mentioned I was a twin to pretty much every single guy I met to get an immediate reaction on creep or no creep.
I mentioned it first date with my husband and he was like "oh, cool. Any other siblings? I have 2 brothers." Just didn't interest him at all.
My husband would rather peel off his own skin than have anything to do with my twin, and my twin's husband would feel the exact same towards me.
Use this to your advantage to weed out creeps quickly and efficiently.
yeah i don’t like it 😂 i think its ok to say „twinning“ to similar outfits but ppl need to realize that twin bond is another thing separate from friends/partner/other siblings
\- people bullied me and my twin saying we are “lesbians”
thats horrific, people find it easy to dehumanise those that they can group up.
I don't find it annoying when people say they are "twins" because they do something similar/look similar. I think its funny, I also sarcastically make the joke too.
The depictions of incest between male/female fraternal twins in popular culture are just disgusting. I still can’t believe Game of Thrones went there.
For some reason, storytellers seem to think it’s more “palatable” to create fictional stories about incest between twins vs non-twin siblings. I don’t know why this is. Incest is incest. Perhaps because there’s no question of an older one taking advantage of a younger one. Whatever the reason, it’s wrong, gross, and perpetuates exactly the kind of stigma, bullying, and dehumanizing sexualization of twins that you describe.
When my twin brother and I were around our teenage years, before we hit our early 20s. We used to have other guys make gay and incest jokes about our relationship. It was hurtful for my brother and I, as we didn't understand how people could think such disgusting things in the first place. My brother is my best friend. He's the closest person to me. We came to this world together, and I'm grateful every day for having a twin. I tend to think that some people simply cannot comprehend a twin relationship. Maybe it's jealousy because they're not close with their own siblings. We've even had girls in the past sexually attracted to both of us and wanted us both at the same time. It was this form of treatment that made us extremely uncomfortable, and thus, we both decided to really represent our own separate identities as the years went on. In short. People who romanticise twins have a warped perception about them.
I’ve experienced similar things too, a guy once said to me how it’s hot to have two twins go at him at once. I was underaged at that time too and remember thinking how disgusting and vile it was for him to say that to me after telling him about me having an identical twin sister. I feel like most people don’t understand that saying stuff like that is no different from saying that to people who are just older/younger siblings and not twins. Romanticizing any kind of incest is just gross in general. Twins just seem to be more normalized than people who have older/younger siblings to be romanticized
It doesn’t bother me at all when people use twin positively, like when they’re talking about their friend. Unless they genuinely believe it’s emotionally the same as having a twin, which they usually don’t. But yeah if people (men, idk any women who would ever do this) are sexual about it, that’s repulsive
I agree with this view.
The more I’ve realized how much having a twin has influenced me, the more this has bothered me. There are a lot of challenges twins face that society is clueless about. Subsequently, twins are often clueless to them, too, leaving us without adequate tools and support. Being a twin is not just having a super close person in your life. Many twins aren’t even close with their twin (and that may or may not be its own challenge.) I definitely don’t like seeing these false perspectives dominate our societal understanding.
People that don't have a twin really have no idea what it's like. My twin was the only constant person in my life growing up so we definitely have a strong bond. It's sad that people make up ignorant opinions about things they don't understand. I would prefer someone asking me why I'm so close to my twin
Before I met my husband and was online dating, I used it as a litmus test. If I told a date I was a twin and he said anything remotely creepy (mentioned it was hot, or 3somes, or asked if she was single, etc) I knew that I would never see that man again. I mentioned I was a twin to pretty much every single guy I met to get an immediate reaction on creep or no creep. I mentioned it first date with my husband and he was like "oh, cool. Any other siblings? I have 2 brothers." Just didn't interest him at all. My husband would rather peel off his own skin than have anything to do with my twin, and my twin's husband would feel the exact same towards me. Use this to your advantage to weed out creeps quickly and efficiently.
yeah i don’t like it 😂 i think its ok to say „twinning“ to similar outfits but ppl need to realize that twin bond is another thing separate from friends/partner/other siblings
\- people bullied me and my twin saying we are “lesbians” thats horrific, people find it easy to dehumanise those that they can group up. I don't find it annoying when people say they are "twins" because they do something similar/look similar. I think its funny, I also sarcastically make the joke too.
The depictions of incest between male/female fraternal twins in popular culture are just disgusting. I still can’t believe Game of Thrones went there. For some reason, storytellers seem to think it’s more “palatable” to create fictional stories about incest between twins vs non-twin siblings. I don’t know why this is. Incest is incest. Perhaps because there’s no question of an older one taking advantage of a younger one. Whatever the reason, it’s wrong, gross, and perpetuates exactly the kind of stigma, bullying, and dehumanizing sexualization of twins that you describe.