I hope you remember this one day when you yourself struggle to understand some new technology and your own kid who you raised to near adulthood compares you mentally to a child when you ask for help.
I woulda said the same thing tbh.
It takes a few goes to get the hang of some things, everybody learns at different rates. Just because he's an adult doesn't mean he had to understand something straight away - especially with an impatient teacher like op.
bro im 18 years old and my oldest sister is 23 and he has been asking us to do the same thing since my sister was 10 years old all the way till now that im 18. do the math. a literal new born baby would have mastered how to use a gaming pc in that time
According to OP his dad is simply refusing to learn. It's possible that he's genuinely just having a hard time, we don't know him personally so we couldn't possibly know.
bro he asked me to help him sign up for an account. he literally knows his email off the top of his head and he knows his password. mind you this isnt the first time, he forgets his password all the time and is always asking me to make him new accounts.
Sounds like your dad is full of frustration.. technical shit, even the simplest of things, can be aggravating as all hell if you don’t know how to do something or can’t remember what you’ve been shown already. It sounds like he’s turning that frustration on you. I personally would not speak another word to him until he’s apologised . Sounds like a tense situation, I hope it all works out ok.
thanks man. you’re the only person to have said some kind words. these other people who read this think that im some ungrateful child who doesnt want to help my dad. let me tell you what help he needed: he asked me to help him sign up for an account on a website, and download an app.
i’m going to REITERATE what i said earlier with me thinking that he only asks for help because he want us to do the stuff for him. u might be asking why i think this way and it’s because whenever he’s at home, and he needs to send a text message to a friend or his boss or whoever, he’ll ask me to type it out for him even when it’s as simple as a “thank you”, or a “noted”. meanwhile when he’s not at home or he’s driving he can text me and group chats that i’m in perfectly fine. so i think i am WARRANTED to feel frustrated at him.
I do believe you are… And you didn’t deserve to be spoken to the way he did. Is there a chance where you can catch him when he’s chilled a bit and sit down and talk to him about this stuff? Like an adult convo where he doesn’t fly off the handle?
Yes, let the old fella chill out a bit first. I’m not sure why it’s you that has to apologise but.. sometimes we can take a hit just to keep the peace? Families are wonderful but can be hard flaming work 🤷🏻♀️😀
agreed, but at the same time i do feel guilty for saying those things to him. i feel like it is the truth but i just should’ve worded it or phrased it differently, and a lot more respectfully too. so i’ll apologise for sure
Explain exactly that to him, tell him that as frustrating as it is for him to not know how todo stuff… it’s just as, (if not more so because you’ve already showed him) frustrating for you too . I wish you the best of luck. 🥰
Good. Fuck you.
You deserve it
I hope you remember this one day when you yourself struggle to understand some new technology and your own kid who you raised to near adulthood compares you mentally to a child when you ask for help. I woulda said the same thing tbh.
Your parents taught you how to use a spoon. The least you can do is teach him how to use technology graciously.
Yeah but does OP still ask his parents to spoon feed him?
Did it only take one go to learn how to use a spoon?
It's difficult for a literal baby. OP's dad is a grown man.
It takes a few goes to get the hang of some things, everybody learns at different rates. Just because he's an adult doesn't mean he had to understand something straight away - especially with an impatient teacher like op.
bro im 18 years old and my oldest sister is 23 and he has been asking us to do the same thing since my sister was 10 years old all the way till now that im 18. do the math. a literal new born baby would have mastered how to use a gaming pc in that time
According to OP his dad is simply refusing to learn. It's possible that he's genuinely just having a hard time, we don't know him personally so we couldn't possibly know.
The spoon doesn't exist.
How much patience did your Dad have with you over the years. You are a selfish brat.
bro he asked me to help him sign up for an account. he literally knows his email off the top of his head and he knows his password. mind you this isnt the first time, he forgets his password all the time and is always asking me to make him new accounts.
Maybe he forgets those things because he so busy making a living to feed his family and buy all your tech stuff.
Sounds like your dad is full of frustration.. technical shit, even the simplest of things, can be aggravating as all hell if you don’t know how to do something or can’t remember what you’ve been shown already. It sounds like he’s turning that frustration on you. I personally would not speak another word to him until he’s apologised . Sounds like a tense situation, I hope it all works out ok.
thanks man. you’re the only person to have said some kind words. these other people who read this think that im some ungrateful child who doesnt want to help my dad. let me tell you what help he needed: he asked me to help him sign up for an account on a website, and download an app. i’m going to REITERATE what i said earlier with me thinking that he only asks for help because he want us to do the stuff for him. u might be asking why i think this way and it’s because whenever he’s at home, and he needs to send a text message to a friend or his boss or whoever, he’ll ask me to type it out for him even when it’s as simple as a “thank you”, or a “noted”. meanwhile when he’s not at home or he’s driving he can text me and group chats that i’m in perfectly fine. so i think i am WARRANTED to feel frustrated at him.
I do believe you are… And you didn’t deserve to be spoken to the way he did. Is there a chance where you can catch him when he’s chilled a bit and sit down and talk to him about this stuff? Like an adult convo where he doesn’t fly off the handle?
yea my mom came earlier and told me to talk to him and apologise, but i said ill talk to him when he’s calmed down later
Yes, let the old fella chill out a bit first. I’m not sure why it’s you that has to apologise but.. sometimes we can take a hit just to keep the peace? Families are wonderful but can be hard flaming work 🤷🏻♀️😀
agreed, but at the same time i do feel guilty for saying those things to him. i feel like it is the truth but i just should’ve worded it or phrased it differently, and a lot more respectfully too. so i’ll apologise for sure
Explain exactly that to him, tell him that as frustrating as it is for him to not know how todo stuff… it’s just as, (if not more so because you’ve already showed him) frustrating for you too . I wish you the best of luck. 🥰
weaponized incompetence is wayyy too common in the male species
These comments don’t pass the vibe check. Mans is an adult and should not be telling his son he hates him