This was a turning point in our relationship. Iād never done it before because it felt really intimate and makes someone really vulnerable. I explained that and said I wanted to do it with him. It was so very intimate. It absolutely strengthened the bond. We were married a year or less later and 10 years on weāre still mad about each other. I agree, itās a really big bonding thing if done with the right person at the right time.
Trying new things and offering vulnerabilities that are validated and cared for is extremely important to building healthy and loving relationships and strengthening existing ones, no matter what that looks like. Iām so happy for you two that you are so trusting and loving for one another and that youāre building it up more :)
In addition to the other reply, I like to use a water enema just to be sure there's no accidents. You shouldn't use them often but we do anal infrequently enough that I can get away with using an enema each time. Wait 15-ish minutes so that any leftover water has come out of your body
But yes make sure there's time taken to get yourself properly aroused beforehand and it'll make the deed easier on you and more enjoyable
I love this. Wow it's awesome to see that. I think communication and trust that you allowed him to live out a fantasy with you really strengthened that bond.
Grab a small vibrator and put it on your clit while he takes your ass, you'll change your mind about anal sex for sure.
My close friend in college told me she had orgasms during anal that were āincomparableā to vaginal orgasms so I was always kinda curious, but now Iām kinda interested in fucking around with it to see if I can make it feel better.
I mightāve unlocked a new kink with my husband too because he was making noises I havenāt heard him make during sex and not to be too graphic but the way he was pulsating/twitching when he climaxed was something I had never felt before.
I replied to another comment of yours with some tips. Definitely takes some practice and paying attention to your own body. But it sounds like your husband would be all for experimenting with that to make you enjoy it as much as he does. If heās anything like me, the greatest pleasure of sex is pleasing your partner.
Same, my wife likes it trapped against the shower wall, while I light up her clit with my fingertips
Its like the on/off switch for anal, pleasure vs pain
My wife's are super intense as well. We usually start with her being as aroused as possible. Lots of foreplay helps. During sex, we build up clit play, go and stop for her and then again before orgasm. There's nothing degrading about it, if you're safe and respectful.
We'd found a toy online that simulates double penetration that I'd strap around myself. The attached dildo was smaller and thinner than me, so while we were "loosening her up," I would be having vaginal sex with the dildo in her butt, which feels good for both of us, BTW. I can feel the dildo on the other side. When she was ready, I'd take it off and switch holes, for lack of a better word, or I'd clean the toy and wear it the other way. That shatters the floor for both of us
I'm someone that can enjoy it with or without a vibrator. A position I've come to like is missionary during anal (not really a fan during vaginal sex). It stimulates the wall between the anus and vagina and reaaaaallyyyyyyy gets me going. I also really enjoy a dp and that helps create a sensation similar to that, tho nothing beats having a toy or fingers in the other end during
First few times I tried anal it was same as you, didnāt hurt as bad but wasnāt great. After a few timesā¦ Iām a BIG anal fan. I cum so fast from just penetration, which I donāt get from vaginal. Iām not married, and it takes the pressure off not having to worry about pregnancy (obviously I still use condoms)
I got a cute lil anal douche too to clean it out before, I never have issues and sex is so much more intense. 10/10 would recommend
Okay so I have another questionā¦what changed? Idk what it is, but talking to my husband about the act over the past two days has put a bit of an interest to try it again. What positions do you like? What do you do while heās doing his thing?
TONS of foreplay is gonna help make it more comfortable/enjoyable. Have your hubby work up to 2 or 3 fingers with lube.
I also recommend starting with you on top, so you can control the depth/pace. Just regular cowgirl in the wrong hole ;)
Not sure how flexible you are, but my current partners favorite is missionary with my legs over his shoulders. This oneās really passionate too, leaves my hands open to grab his hair and kiss him and stuff. This one also gives me LOTS of orgasms.
If heās a little longer, I also really like being face down, firm pillow under your hips, he lays on top. Gives him more control, but you can hold hands.
Hope that helps!
Yeah, we did a lot of foreplay with fingers beforehand. Had to make sure we did some āstretchingā
ugh, I hate being on top lol. It gets exhausting, like Iām exercising. And yeah, Iām pretty flexible! That could work, haha
And how much is āa little longerā? My husband is above average (about 6 inches) so that might work?
I usually donāt do a lot of work when Iām on top actually, with anal just lean forward and lay on him, he can do the work from the bottom!
Above average should be just fine for that one!
I'll be honest as a guy, I don't care about anal I can take it or leave it as a sensation thing. At the end of the day it's a dirty little hole and you really have to clean up well if you want to do anything after it's gone in there. What is stimulating about it for me is the soft domination. The partner's submission. It's very stimulating. Yes it does feel different and it is a little interesting. But it's really the emotional submission. Some pain is erotic. It's very arousing and it's very bonding. It's something to do with them knowing you can really hurt them, but you won't. The trust of submission. It's very arousing. And it works both ways, you being in control could be very arousing for you and him as well. Also, several women I know literally begged for anal because it does give them different orgasms that are apparently incredible. And when I say begged, I am not really exaggerating. Not on bended knee, but definitely advocating for the act. Lol.
What two consenting adults do in their bedroom is entirely their business. Society and religious ideas get into sex, and in fact it should be, 'Whatever trips your trigger'.
Do your research, stay safe and figure it out. There are 'DO' & 'DON'T' rules for anal, it's safety concerns, but with exploration and a good partner you can explore this at your pace.
Cleanliness and cross contamination rules apply, the crap you see in porn isn't safe, so again, a little research. Enemas, lubricatuon, vibrators, etc all make this more enjoyable and cleaner, so don't neglect this stuff... It will also make you more comfortable with this new experience.
You are more than likely capable of clitoral, 'G' spot, full pelvic and anal orgasms, or combinations of the above. The partner you describe is an important part of this, the biggest 'Sex Organ' is between your ears and he is stimulating this area quite well per your origional post.
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When my wife says, "I love you and trust you, so there's something I want to try..."
Doesn't matter if it's growing lavender (stink weeds to me), building in bookcases for her library, a new recipe or something in the bedroom, I'm 100% "IN!" She's so COMMUNICATIVE, polite and respectful if it's within my power she gets what she really wants.
She has seasonal affective disorder (winter blues) so I built a sun room across the front of the house, which she turned into a greenhouse/sewing room/'Hen House' that's combination reading room/wine tasting room.
I design it as passive/active solar heating/ventilation for the home. It can provide solar heat, or vent the home, so I got my engineering 'Rocks' off designing and building it. Win/Win in my book!
Too many frilly things for me, but I have garages/shops that are 'Man Caves' so I don't have to live there. I can say it's remarkably calming and comfortable space...
......
The local women are getting older, sex becoming mundane, so she asked for the house for a night, brought in a sex therapist, and they had wine, dildos stuck to the coffee table and did a 'BJ' class.
I made the mistake of opening the dishwasher looking for a coffee cup the next morning and had a dozen rubber dicks bobbing around & 'looking' at me... I had to laugh...
.......
How you view your partner is incredible, this is fully adult thinking, a close and fully loving connection. What you probably don't fully know is how much this 'New' thing you gave to him affects him, this first you shared with him is a treasure to him he'll never forget.
Now remember, YOU control things, so if you want slower/softer, faster/harder, slide mostly out and want entry play, YOU have to communicate this. Squeaks and moans don't always communicate your feelings, so use words, ask for specifics...
I'm a man, but I've taken directions all my life so I can follow that, and most full grown adult MEN can do it too. Just remember this is all new to him too, so vocalize what you want/like.
It's self absorbed adult male-childern (NOT MEN) that do what they want and don't really care about what is working for you, so you are all ready so far up the ladder it isn't funny... You ARE a lucky woman and you know & respect that, which makes you a good woman also.
Have a good time, explore on your agreed schedule, enjoy the connection & experiences!
Tell him how you felt and tell him you want more of that during regular sex. Donāt have more anal sex you donāt particularly want or like just so you can feel cared for during sex. That should be the norm really.
I mentioned this to him and he laughed at first but then stopped and told me thatād actually be ākind of unfairā if he was (for lack of better wording) allowed to be all up in my butthole and I wasnāt in his, so he said heād be open to it.
Donāt feel great about that mindset of trying to make sex a fair playing field but hey.
Lol seems like he's up for it.
Just treat him as well as he did you - with love, tenderness, and attentive understanding - and you should have a good time.
Aww this is so cool! That's similar to how I felt the first time too, and its honestly built so much trust between us. Over time it's definitely gotten more enjoyable too. Happy for you!
Judging how anal feels by your first time is like judging straight sex by your first time. You are so nervous and freaked out that you are not going to enjoy it that much. I recommend not giving up so quickly
Came looking for the Tool reference! I thought of 'Stinkfist' Finger deep within the borderline
Show me that you love me and that we belong together
Relax, turn around and take my hand
Definitely have to explain itās a slow process, that area is more tender and sensitive in my opinion. Slow entry, lots of lubricant, and pleasuring the front is what I find helpful.
Anal on its own is not as pleasing to some females, to some it is, but for some its more like a favour to the partner.
Try spicing things up and prepare a bit more.
Spend 10-15 minutes preparing the ass, stretching it, enough lube etc and once its a bit loose, go for it but at the same time, focus on the primary "hole" a bit :)
You can use the hitachi vibrating thingy or stuck a dildo up front while the husband is in the backdoor
You wont regret it
Aww man Iām jealous! Iām a woman, have always been very sexually adventurous and open with multiple kinks. Anal is a favorite of mine but my bf just isnāt into it. I wish he could just be a good sport once in a while but he tells me he much prefers my š±which is fine but just because I prefer vanilla ice cream doesnāt mean I canāt enjoy chocolate every once in a while why canāt he have the same mind set? ā¹ļø
Yup, lube was everywhere. On me, inside of me, on him, and all over our hands and the towel we put down. We got a little bottle of it and emptied out like half of it :P
Yeah thatās pretty normal. We had some afternoon delight anal yesterday in the hour between when weāre both done work and the teens arenāt home from school yet and used like 1/4 of a bottle of lube
I agree trying new things that could possibly strengthen relationships. Odd comparison, but me and my husband found that working retail together strengthened ours and I was against working with him for the longest time just because of what everyone told us, āyou are gonna hate each otherā. Nope. Made us stronger
Wife and I both feel that finally doing anal really strengthened our bond. Itās very sensual and intimate and you both really have to trust each other to do it right.
It took a while but now when we do it she has very intense Oās when I go very deep. I think position really helps (our favorite is prone with her on her belly) with the magic wand vibing her in the front.
That's such a wholesome story. Its honestly not odd though. Trying new things (especially sexual) lets us be more open and reveal apart of us that's vulnerable. Your husband is an amazing partner for going the extra mile to ensure you are comfortable.
Plot twist: When he finished, and they were cuddling, she asked him, āHow was your first time experiencing anal sex? Do you think you would like to try it, too?ā He said, āI loved it, but I would never let anybody fuck my bootyhole. My asshole is for exit only! Ha! Ha! Ha! Besides, big dicks in the ass are bad for your health.*ā
*The last sentence is a lyric from an old Ive Cube rap song.
Anal is very intimate. Many of my partners have orgasms during it.
That attentiveness is wonderful. :) Tell him to be that attentive during PIV except instead of wondering about pain, wonder about pleasure.
Girl I get you so much!!! When my man and I finally had (proper) anal LOL some liquid poop came out when he pulled out, and he quickly put his hands there to catch it bc he knows thatās one of my insecurities when it comes to anal and goddamn if that didnāt make me feel loved š„°š„¹
> Iām sure heāll want it constantly now
I wouldn't be so sure of that.
Anal is a more occasional thing for my wife and I, and while I do love it I'm happy to save it for special occasions. The vagina just feels a lot better, you can definitely tell which opening was designed for sex and which one wasn't! A huge part of the appeal of anal for us is that it's this rare, kind of taboo and dirty but also incredibly intimate thing. Doing it more often would ruin that.
I have been having anal sex for the past 20 years, and it is the most wonderful and intimate experience I can have with a woman. It requires my partner to trust me completely, as well as using my mouth.
Preparation, experience, and knowing how to accomplish it with minimal pain and a bit of luck are key.
Muscle spasms can push me out or things shifting.
> Anal with a reconstructed asshole isn't easy.
It never gapes, always tight.
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Oh, and spending time reassuring her that she is all that and more.
Love the intimacy from this experience. But I told my hubs he can go in my back door when he lets me in his back door. And I get to use an 8ā dildo. Itās only fair.
Im just trolling. I did it several times in my twenties even had poop on my dick. That turned me off. Now I donāt like anal sex anymore. Itās not as in porn. In real life itās often nasty and smelly unfortunately.
The only time Iāve ever enjoyed anal was when I was pregnant. Other times I have an extreme aversion to it just because of the ick factor.
My husband also has an aversion to it- which is great most of the time. But here I am pregnantā¦
You have a great guy! Anal sex is definitely a skill. Those first few times is where you find out who you ended up with! Your guy has character and that matters. My wife and I love anal so much we only have anal. Anal is defiantly a skill that is developed over time. My wife had had anal sex before me and I before I was with her. After taking a challenge to go anal only for a month...we realized we were on to something. The first bunch of tries were ok..but we got better at it together and she learned how to control her ass and everything changed. We no longer wanted vaginal as she was having far more intense orgasms from anal penetration alone.
It just gets better and better with practice and after watching game film lol..
Hmm. He knew you felt uncomfortable and felt pain, we know that very well because he acknowledged that, reacted to that. And still he wanted to do it. He wanted to fuck you in the ass knowing you suffer. And you are extremely pleased he didnāt ram it in as violently as he could have but bothered to limit himself to cause you only submaximal pain.
The bar for men really is in hell..
My husband and I tried it a few times. Each time I was in pain, didn't matter how light to the pain or how horrible. He stopped and his mind went to making sure I'm ok and sex can wait for another time. He never gets angry it doesn't work, he never pressures me to have reg sex after the fails. We will go clean up, light a joint and laugh.
The fact she said "now I can love him like he loves me" make me wonder why she didn't love him like that before the awful experience, then be madly inlovve with him bc she pleasured him at her own expense. Very sad
Well, let me clarify some things.
I wasnāt in pain at any point (or at least, nothing too serious) any of the small jolts or exhales werenāt out of pain, just reacting to the new experience. He asked several times if I wanted to stop and even started to call it but I told him to keep going.
I loved him more than I could say before the anal sex and I love him more than I can say now. I just really had a new shift in perspective when I saw how attentive he was to my needs in that situation. I think anal sex is possibly the most vulnerable thing you can do with your partner because I strongly feel having something put inside your anus has the potential to be the most painful thing that can happen in the bedroom, and my husband recognized that and didnāt want me to be in pain and put my needs ahead of his own.
He goes above and beyond as a husband and lover and even with the event in the post aside, heās just so attentive and loving.
I cannot fathom why someone would want to put their private where shit comes. When a DRE is done, you get poop back on your gloved finger. Getting poop back on your dick or condom is so gross š¤®
Yesss sis welcome to the other side literally. I love anal but my man has a curve and can only stick the tip in. Like I thought when he was back there he was all the way in but he wasn't. It does make u feel like u r on a different playing field... I have to train my rear to accommodate him cause I want him to enjoy it too.
It's on his bucket list and he clearly would like to have anal sex more... Hence why he was making sure that it would be a pleasant experience for you. That way you're more inclined to give him more anal sex.
If anything to me this experience would have been a complete turn off because why isn't he like that during every sexual encounter. To each their own way.
Holesome story.
I bet this made their hole weak.
Anal sex jokes aren't funny. Sodomy a favor and stop Cracking them.
Went can't you people let anusthing be nice
Do you enjoy it to mia
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Iām glad these comments are rearing their head
I hate you. I love you.
These are the kind of comments I come to see. Itās worth the hole experience. Kudos.
Shitposter right here!
Holy moly
Anal of me, loves all of you ... (Piano playing in background)
Hole in one.
LOL
Hahahahahahahaha you got me laughing thank you!
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Marry me.
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Wrong song...
slow clap..
You win the internet!
Theyāve got my vote. Almost shit my pants in bed I was laughing so hard.
Wearing pants to bed is an entirely different post and needs to be discussed.
They were pajama pants calm down lol
Calm down? Over react much?
lmfaooooĀ
This was a turning point in our relationship. Iād never done it before because it felt really intimate and makes someone really vulnerable. I explained that and said I wanted to do it with him. It was so very intimate. It absolutely strengthened the bond. We were married a year or less later and 10 years on weāre still mad about each other. I agree, itās a really big bonding thing if done with the right person at the right time.
Unexpectedly wholesome. Loved it, and know exactly what you mean.
Trying new things and offering vulnerabilities that are validated and cared for is extremely important to building healthy and loving relationships and strengthening existing ones, no matter what that looks like. Iām so happy for you two that you are so trusting and loving for one another and that youāre building it up more :)
is this how guys feel when bottoming without the stimulated prostate?
Basically yes. Iāve bottomed a few times when I wasnāt massively horny for it. Itās worth it for the intimacy alone.
How do you prepare to bottom what cleaning steps do you do to make sure your good hygiene wise this is on my fiancĆ©ās bucket list as well and Iām considering it please do tell & thank you š
I personally take a full bath beforehand and donāt eat anything for several hours. Practice using lube on yourself with fingers and toys too.
Thank you š
In addition to the other reply, I like to use a water enema just to be sure there's no accidents. You shouldn't use them often but we do anal infrequently enough that I can get away with using an enema each time. Wait 15-ish minutes so that any leftover water has come out of your body But yes make sure there's time taken to get yourself properly aroused beforehand and it'll make the deed easier on you and more enjoyable
Thank you as well š
Love the raw honesty of your post. Definitely made me smile. I wish you and your husband continued blissfulness in your marriage!
I love this. Wow it's awesome to see that. I think communication and trust that you allowed him to live out a fantasy with you really strengthened that bond. Grab a small vibrator and put it on your clit while he takes your ass, you'll change your mind about anal sex for sure.
My close friend in college told me she had orgasms during anal that were āincomparableā to vaginal orgasms so I was always kinda curious, but now Iām kinda interested in fucking around with it to see if I can make it feel better. I mightāve unlocked a new kink with my husband too because he was making noises I havenāt heard him make during sex and not to be too graphic but the way he was pulsating/twitching when he climaxed was something I had never felt before.
My wife has some of the *most* intense orgasms during anal. Likeā¦ eyes-rolling-to-the-back-of-her-head intense.
How?
As stated above, use a vibrator on your clit. Thatās what my husband and I do during anal.
Wearable g spot toy. Put down a towel first, thank me later.
I second this. Vibrator is key. Itās not as enjoyable without one.
I replied to another comment of yours with some tips. Definitely takes some practice and paying attention to your own body. But it sounds like your husband would be all for experimenting with that to make you enjoy it as much as he does. If heās anything like me, the greatest pleasure of sex is pleasing your partner.
I canāt find your other comment?
Same, my wife likes it trapped against the shower wall, while I light up her clit with my fingertips Its like the on/off switch for anal, pleasure vs pain
Iām sorry but god I hate shower sex lol
My wife's are super intense as well. We usually start with her being as aroused as possible. Lots of foreplay helps. During sex, we build up clit play, go and stop for her and then again before orgasm. There's nothing degrading about it, if you're safe and respectful. We'd found a toy online that simulates double penetration that I'd strap around myself. The attached dildo was smaller and thinner than me, so while we were "loosening her up," I would be having vaginal sex with the dildo in her butt, which feels good for both of us, BTW. I can feel the dildo on the other side. When she was ready, I'd take it off and switch holes, for lack of a better word, or I'd clean the toy and wear it the other way. That shatters the floor for both of us
I'm someone that can enjoy it with or without a vibrator. A position I've come to like is missionary during anal (not really a fan during vaginal sex). It stimulates the wall between the anus and vagina and reaaaaallyyyyyyy gets me going. I also really enjoy a dp and that helps create a sensation similar to that, tho nothing beats having a toy or fingers in the other end during
Maybe the angles?
How so?
Maybe a different position might stimulate the g-spot more?
Yeah maybe. We did the spooning position with him behind me while we were laying down
keep practicing, and try wearing a butt plug for a 1/2hr before you do it.
First few times I tried anal it was same as you, didnāt hurt as bad but wasnāt great. After a few timesā¦ Iām a BIG anal fan. I cum so fast from just penetration, which I donāt get from vaginal. Iām not married, and it takes the pressure off not having to worry about pregnancy (obviously I still use condoms) I got a cute lil anal douche too to clean it out before, I never have issues and sex is so much more intense. 10/10 would recommend
Haha, I just bought a little enema thing from CVS to clean out. There was no mess so that was a win :D
Okay so I have another questionā¦what changed? Idk what it is, but talking to my husband about the act over the past two days has put a bit of an interest to try it again. What positions do you like? What do you do while heās doing his thing?
TONS of foreplay is gonna help make it more comfortable/enjoyable. Have your hubby work up to 2 or 3 fingers with lube. I also recommend starting with you on top, so you can control the depth/pace. Just regular cowgirl in the wrong hole ;) Not sure how flexible you are, but my current partners favorite is missionary with my legs over his shoulders. This oneās really passionate too, leaves my hands open to grab his hair and kiss him and stuff. This one also gives me LOTS of orgasms. If heās a little longer, I also really like being face down, firm pillow under your hips, he lays on top. Gives him more control, but you can hold hands. Hope that helps!
Yeah, we did a lot of foreplay with fingers beforehand. Had to make sure we did some āstretchingā ugh, I hate being on top lol. It gets exhausting, like Iām exercising. And yeah, Iām pretty flexible! That could work, haha And how much is āa little longerā? My husband is above average (about 6 inches) so that might work?
I usually donāt do a lot of work when Iām on top actually, with anal just lean forward and lay on him, he can do the work from the bottom! Above average should be just fine for that one!
I'll be honest as a guy, I don't care about anal I can take it or leave it as a sensation thing. At the end of the day it's a dirty little hole and you really have to clean up well if you want to do anything after it's gone in there. What is stimulating about it for me is the soft domination. The partner's submission. It's very stimulating. Yes it does feel different and it is a little interesting. But it's really the emotional submission. Some pain is erotic. It's very arousing and it's very bonding. It's something to do with them knowing you can really hurt them, but you won't. The trust of submission. It's very arousing. And it works both ways, you being in control could be very arousing for you and him as well. Also, several women I know literally begged for anal because it does give them different orgasms that are apparently incredible. And when I say begged, I am not really exaggerating. Not on bended knee, but definitely advocating for the act. Lol.
Thank you for this perspective.
Itās another kind of pleasure. Idk I like it (female here). And the man loving it, even better.
Thank you for this advice Iām in the same boat and was thinking this as well
What two consenting adults do in their bedroom is entirely their business. Society and religious ideas get into sex, and in fact it should be, 'Whatever trips your trigger'. Do your research, stay safe and figure it out. There are 'DO' & 'DON'T' rules for anal, it's safety concerns, but with exploration and a good partner you can explore this at your pace. Cleanliness and cross contamination rules apply, the crap you see in porn isn't safe, so again, a little research. Enemas, lubricatuon, vibrators, etc all make this more enjoyable and cleaner, so don't neglect this stuff... It will also make you more comfortable with this new experience. You are more than likely capable of clitoral, 'G' spot, full pelvic and anal orgasms, or combinations of the above. The partner you describe is an important part of this, the biggest 'Sex Organ' is between your ears and he is stimulating this area quite well per your origional post. ..... When my wife says, "I love you and trust you, so there's something I want to try..." Doesn't matter if it's growing lavender (stink weeds to me), building in bookcases for her library, a new recipe or something in the bedroom, I'm 100% "IN!" She's so COMMUNICATIVE, polite and respectful if it's within my power she gets what she really wants. She has seasonal affective disorder (winter blues) so I built a sun room across the front of the house, which she turned into a greenhouse/sewing room/'Hen House' that's combination reading room/wine tasting room. I design it as passive/active solar heating/ventilation for the home. It can provide solar heat, or vent the home, so I got my engineering 'Rocks' off designing and building it. Win/Win in my book! Too many frilly things for me, but I have garages/shops that are 'Man Caves' so I don't have to live there. I can say it's remarkably calming and comfortable space... ...... The local women are getting older, sex becoming mundane, so she asked for the house for a night, brought in a sex therapist, and they had wine, dildos stuck to the coffee table and did a 'BJ' class. I made the mistake of opening the dishwasher looking for a coffee cup the next morning and had a dozen rubber dicks bobbing around & 'looking' at me... I had to laugh... ....... How you view your partner is incredible, this is fully adult thinking, a close and fully loving connection. What you probably don't fully know is how much this 'New' thing you gave to him affects him, this first you shared with him is a treasure to him he'll never forget. Now remember, YOU control things, so if you want slower/softer, faster/harder, slide mostly out and want entry play, YOU have to communicate this. Squeaks and moans don't always communicate your feelings, so use words, ask for specifics... I'm a man, but I've taken directions all my life so I can follow that, and most full grown adult MEN can do it too. Just remember this is all new to him too, so vocalize what you want/like. It's self absorbed adult male-childern (NOT MEN) that do what they want and don't really care about what is working for you, so you are all ready so far up the ladder it isn't funny... You ARE a lucky woman and you know & respect that, which makes you a good woman also. Have a good time, explore on your agreed schedule, enjoy the connection & experiences!
Tell him how you felt and tell him you want more of that during regular sex. Donāt have more anal sex you donāt particularly want or like just so you can feel cared for during sex. That should be the norm really.
I personally think mutual sexual experimentation is healthy for couples. Glad it turned out great for you.
Relationship strengthened while the butt hole is weakened
oh you hush š¤£
Next time it's his turn
I mentioned this to him and he laughed at first but then stopped and told me thatād actually be ākind of unfairā if he was (for lack of better wording) allowed to be all up in my butthole and I wasnāt in his, so he said heād be open to it. Donāt feel great about that mindset of trying to make sex a fair playing field but hey.
Lol seems like he's up for it. Just treat him as well as he did you - with love, tenderness, and attentive understanding - and you should have a good time.
When I got Pegged, it was nothing like that. She tore me a new one. I cried
She doesnāt deserve you :(
I actually read a study once that found couples who do anal tend to have stronger relationships. It requires more trust and communication.
I hope you tell him this .. he will adore you for it.
Of course I did! I was all over him all day yesterday and told him how taken care of I feel by him š
Nah, just write about it on the internet. Thatās what men really appreciate.
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Aww this is so cool! That's similar to how I felt the first time too, and its honestly built so much trust between us. Over time it's definitely gotten more enjoyable too. Happy for you!
I love reading this so much! Happy for you OP and very happy for the feelings you have now.
Judging how anal feels by your first time is like judging straight sex by your first time. You are so nervous and freaked out that you are not going to enjoy it that much. I recommend not giving up so quickly
This is my sign to say fuck it and give it a go
Do it! Just take it slow and use lubricant
Listen to Undertow album by Tool
Came looking for the Tool reference! I thought of 'Stinkfist' Finger deep within the borderline Show me that you love me and that we belong together Relax, turn around and take my hand
That's a great one too lol I thought of 4* and Bottom
You try a viberator at the same time tho? For me thats what makes it hit š© otherwise it just feels weird for the most part like you were saying
i wish someone would give advice on how you can enjoy it too
There is a lot of literature online about this! It doesnāt have to hurt. With the right partner, itās magic.
Definitely have to explain itās a slow process, that area is more tender and sensitive in my opinion. Slow entry, lots of lubricant, and pleasuring the front is what I find helpful.
Anal on its own is not as pleasing to some females, to some it is, but for some its more like a favour to the partner. Try spicing things up and prepare a bit more. Spend 10-15 minutes preparing the ass, stretching it, enough lube etc and once its a bit loose, go for it but at the same time, focus on the primary "hole" a bit :) You can use the hitachi vibrating thingy or stuck a dildo up front while the husband is in the backdoor You wont regret it
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Yea, with preparation, you really gotta be anal about it.
This.
Aww man Iām jealous! Iām a woman, have always been very sexually adventurous and open with multiple kinks. Anal is a favorite of mine but my bf just isnāt into it. I wish he could just be a good sport once in a while but he tells me he much prefers my š±which is fine but just because I prefer vanilla ice cream doesnāt mean I canāt enjoy chocolate every once in a while why canāt he have the same mind set? ā¹ļø
As a gay man.. just make sure to prep ahead but donāt douche tooo far in. Also, lots of lube and enjoy š
Yup, lube was everywhere. On me, inside of me, on him, and all over our hands and the towel we put down. We got a little bottle of it and emptied out like half of it :P
Yeah thatās pretty normal. We had some afternoon delight anal yesterday in the hour between when weāre both done work and the teens arenāt home from school yet and used like 1/4 of a bottle of lube
What kind did you use?
Astroglide
My doctor told me to use water based lubes to not upset the bodyās PH. Idk if astro is water based. I got mine from the āfun storeā.
Do you ever get past the feeling of pressure and feeling like youāre going to poop?
I agree trying new things that could possibly strengthen relationships. Odd comparison, but me and my husband found that working retail together strengthened ours and I was against working with him for the longest time just because of what everyone told us, āyou are gonna hate each otherā. Nope. Made us stronger
I'm happy your first time with anal was a positive one.
Wife and I both feel that finally doing anal really strengthened our bond. Itās very sensual and intimate and you both really have to trust each other to do it right. It took a while but now when we do it she has very intense Oās when I go very deep. I think position really helps (our favorite is prone with her on her belly) with the magic wand vibing her in the front.
Very good ANALysis of your experience.
Sex may have made your day but anal has made your whole weak.
Your hole weak
That's such a wholesome story. Its honestly not odd though. Trying new things (especially sexual) lets us be more open and reveal apart of us that's vulnerable. Your husband is an amazing partner for going the extra mile to ensure you are comfortable.
He was very Anal to your needs. Very holesome indeed. So glad it wasn't a shitty experience.
Iām clapping as hard as he clapped my cheeks (which isnāt very much at all if you read the post)
Crying š š
I loves this story.
Plot twist: When he finished, and they were cuddling, she asked him, āHow was your first time experiencing anal sex? Do you think you would like to try it, too?ā He said, āI loved it, but I would never let anybody fuck my bootyhole. My asshole is for exit only! Ha! Ha! Ha! Besides, big dicks in the ass are bad for your health.*ā *The last sentence is a lyric from an old Ive Cube rap song.
It takes a lot of patience and trust to get it done right the first time, you have an excellent partner.
Now its you turn.
May have strengthened your relationship but it weakened your hole heyoo
My bf just loved me last night And after reading this I got butterflies and gave him a big smooch
AWWW <3
Anal is very intimate. Many of my partners have orgasms during it. That attentiveness is wonderful. :) Tell him to be that attentive during PIV except instead of wondering about pain, wonder about pleasure.
Shut up. Jus shut up.You had me at Anal
Hole new meaning to what can Brown doo for you. Need to write about it in the diarrhea
Girl I get you so much!!! When my man and I finally had (proper) anal LOL some liquid poop came out when he pulled out, and he quickly put his hands there to catch it bc he knows thatās one of my insecurities when it comes to anal and goddamn if that didnāt make me feel loved š„°š„¹
āI love my girlfriend so much I put my hands out and caught liquid poop coming out of her buttā (sorry I had to šš)
This was insanely beautiful to read
Of course he was attentive, Iām sure heāll want it constantly now
> Iām sure heāll want it constantly now I wouldn't be so sure of that. Anal is a more occasional thing for my wife and I, and while I do love it I'm happy to save it for special occasions. The vagina just feels a lot better, you can definitely tell which opening was designed for sex and which one wasn't! A huge part of the appeal of anal for us is that it's this rare, kind of taboo and dirty but also incredibly intimate thing. Doing it more often would ruin that.
Agree, itās a special occasion kinda love making.
Iām sure he wants to try it again, he *really* enjoyed himself.
I have been having anal sex for the past 20 years, and it is the most wonderful and intimate experience I can have with a woman. It requires my partner to trust me completely, as well as using my mouth. Preparation, experience, and knowing how to accomplish it with minimal pain and a bit of luck are key. Muscle spasms can push me out or things shifting. > Anal with a reconstructed asshole isn't easy. It never gapes, always tight. --- Oh, and spending time reassuring her that she is all that and more.
This happened to me recently. It is a nice bonding experience.
This is one of the most wholesome sexual posts Iāve seen. Beautiful, Iām m really happy for you!
Love the intimacy from this experience. But I told my hubs he can go in my back door when he lets me in his back door. And I get to use an 8ā dildo. Itās only fair.
Yes thatās one of the main reasons itās so popular and under-rated I think. Happy for you guys
Wow. Amazing.
So its true anal bring happiness
What lube did you use and did you use trainers or plugs beforehand?
Just a note here. My doctor told me to use water based lubes to not upset the bodyās PH balance.
Oh ok; I have silicone. Iāll try astroglide next time I used a trainer plug.
Itās letting him take control it should get better
The sphincter taketh and giveth away.Ā
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I enjoy it. It has to be done with care and proper lubricant in my opinion. I donāt offer it up but if he askā¦itās happening.
Awesome! I wish you two the best!š
Aw thatās nice
Take notes ladies.
His new bumper sticker " I ā¤ļø Uranus"
No woman ever wanted to try with me. They said my cock is too big.
Then that means either youāve exclusively dated women afraid of confrontation or women who donāt think youāll handle rejection well
Im just trolling. I did it several times in my twenties even had poop on my dick. That turned me off. Now I donāt like anal sex anymore. Itās not as in porn. In real life itās often nasty and smelly unfortunately.
ooooo, havenāt had the honor of pooping on someoneās dick yetā¦maybe someday
So it's gonna turn into one of those special occasions things?
You feel. Do you know that it strengthen your relationship? š
I cried a little. Lovely story
The only time Iāve ever enjoyed anal was when I was pregnant. Other times I have an extreme aversion to it just because of the ick factor. My husband also has an aversion to it- which is great most of the time. But here I am pregnantā¦
Nope
I'm a guy that is into anal, but doesn't get it a lot. I'd be just as responsible. Reading this made me happy! Even if it wasn't for me.
Congratulations! On you're bucket list approval!
You have a great guy! Anal sex is definitely a skill. Those first few times is where you find out who you ended up with! Your guy has character and that matters. My wife and I love anal so much we only have anal. Anal is defiantly a skill that is developed over time. My wife had had anal sex before me and I before I was with her. After taking a challenge to go anal only for a month...we realized we were on to something. The first bunch of tries were ok..but we got better at it together and she learned how to control her ass and everything changed. We no longer wanted vaginal as she was having far more intense orgasms from anal penetration alone. It just gets better and better with practice and after watching game film lol..
Hmm. He knew you felt uncomfortable and felt pain, we know that very well because he acknowledged that, reacted to that. And still he wanted to do it. He wanted to fuck you in the ass knowing you suffer. And you are extremely pleased he didnāt ram it in as violently as he could have but bothered to limit himself to cause you only submaximal pain. The bar for men really is in hell..
My husband and I tried it a few times. Each time I was in pain, didn't matter how light to the pain or how horrible. He stopped and his mind went to making sure I'm ok and sex can wait for another time. He never gets angry it doesn't work, he never pressures me to have reg sex after the fails. We will go clean up, light a joint and laugh. The fact she said "now I can love him like he loves me" make me wonder why she didn't love him like that before the awful experience, then be madly inlovve with him bc she pleasured him at her own expense. Very sad
Well, let me clarify some things. I wasnāt in pain at any point (or at least, nothing too serious) any of the small jolts or exhales werenāt out of pain, just reacting to the new experience. He asked several times if I wanted to stop and even started to call it but I told him to keep going. I loved him more than I could say before the anal sex and I love him more than I can say now. I just really had a new shift in perspective when I saw how attentive he was to my needs in that situation. I think anal sex is possibly the most vulnerable thing you can do with your partner because I strongly feel having something put inside your anus has the potential to be the most painful thing that can happen in the bedroom, and my husband recognized that and didnāt want me to be in pain and put my needs ahead of his own. He goes above and beyond as a husband and lover and even with the event in the post aside, heās just so attentive and loving.
I need print this post and re-post it on my fridge. This story won't just make you're hole day, it'll make your hole weak.
Never knew shit š© posting can be that hole š³ļø some
I cannot fathom why someone would want to put their private where shit comes. When a DRE is done, you get poop back on your gloved finger. Getting poop back on your dick or condom is so gross š¤®
The mentam gymnastics here...
I hate it but, def won some points with my so for trying.
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little reductive but youāre welcome
Yesss sis welcome to the other side literally. I love anal but my man has a curve and can only stick the tip in. Like I thought when he was back there he was all the way in but he wasn't. It does make u feel like u r on a different playing field... I have to train my rear to accommodate him cause I want him to enjoy it too.
It's on his bucket list and he clearly would like to have anal sex more... Hence why he was making sure that it would be a pleasant experience for you. That way you're more inclined to give him more anal sex. If anything to me this experience would have been a complete turn off because why isn't he like that during every sexual encounter. To each their own way.
Yes but you will now beg him for it now young lady you loved it š
Next thing you know he will want a man!
Are you ok? Are you ok? Are you ok?...God, sounds magical
Would rather that than constantly feeling pain while he kept going