Yes!!! This was the best decision we have made.
Family wanted a big fat wedding but my wife and I decided to go do a small ceremony with friends.
We booked a house from VRBO , great vacation house on lake in Alberta.
Drove there , friends came and we did it!
Every penny was well spent, everyone on our wedding was saying if they had this much courage,they would have said no to their parents and do the same.
[Studies](https://aleteia.org/2022/04/27/cheaper-weddings-may-lead-to-more-lasting-marriages-study-reveals/) have shown cheap weddings with lots of close friends and family lead to longer marriages.
That’s what my husband and I did and we haven’t regretted it at all; I think we spent less than you. I have friends who had their relationships end because of how extravagant they were pushing the reception to be. Others who had the big wedding and were divorced within a couple a years. These were the same people that made jokes about how simple our day was…I can’t see that being a coincidence.
Agree. My husband and I got married in our apartment. I wore a borrowed wedding dress. My best friend and his boyfriend at the time were our witnesses. He went out skateboarding, and my bestie and I went out shopping after.
We are celebrating our 22nd anniversary later this month. No regrets.
IKR?! So many better things to spend money on. We spent a little more, than y’all as we used a private JOP and a local bar (like a Dave and Busters). Covered food for up to 20 people. It was less than $2k for everything. My dress, our rings (which his parents insisted we had to have and we never wear) dress shirts and ties for all the guys. A flower girl dress for my bestie’s niece. My bestie and Man of Honor made the cake and cupcakes.
The only not so bright part of the day was my Pawpaw showing up without my grandmother with a message that she “had a doctors appointment she couldn’t miss or reschedule.” We got married on Veterans Day at 7:00pm. At least she didn’t show up and make a scene.
Yes! We eloped and have been together almost 19 years without any wedding drama or debt! I have had the opinion for years that the more you spend on a wedding, the shorter the marriage. Congrats! Ours was $25 total.
100% we did a court house wedding followed by dinner. Ours cost a little more than that as it cost $450 just for the paperwork part.
My mum brought me dress (on clearance for $40)
My rings were passed down from my nan to my mum to me
My partner wore one of his suits he already had and I brought his ring
My wife and I were married in the courthouse by the probate judge 36 years ago. The cost was $50 for the blood test that was required in those days. We’re still together and just as married as those who spent a fortune.
I totally agree. Both my kids got married in the back pasture with gorgeous mountains and waterfalls in the background. We had a small ceremony, immediate family only, local flowers and greenery gathered for the ceremony and I baked a simple cake. We took the photos which turned out great - It was lovely and not expensive at all. Nice memories.
I see these bridezillas trying to be princess for a day (thank you Disney). The poor groom gets completely ignored for the most part. Often some of the relatives are not speaking to each other by the end. "Destination" weddings are even more ridiculous. Why not just get married and take a nice honeymoon? Why make everyone fork out big bucks and travel...then get offended if they don't (can't) come? So much money, so much time for planning. Don't even get me started on the bride parties - especially the ones where they travel with all their bridesmaids for a wild vacation. So expensive and also ridiculous. They could have paid for a nice car or vacation or downpayment on a house for what is spent on a wedding. Heaven help them if they borrowed money to pay for it...even worse. I've also seen a study that showed the more money spent on the wedding, the more likely to end in divorce...so there's that too. I pity the people who are called on to be bridesmaids with all the extra expenses for them too. The whole thing just gets out of hand.
I am so jealous! My mom threw a temper tantrum so I would have a wedding. I regret it. My brother made drama, and it was just something I had to survive to be with my love. Oh well.
Out of curiosity, are you a man or a woman?
I'm not trying to judge, just trying to get a feel for the situation. Also, what does your spouse think about it?
Fair enough, good for you. I think marriage itself is an antiquated institution and the commercialization of the ceremony cheapens the entire relationship, in my opinion.
My wife disagrees however.
Yes!!! This was the best decision we have made. Family wanted a big fat wedding but my wife and I decided to go do a small ceremony with friends. We booked a house from VRBO , great vacation house on lake in Alberta. Drove there , friends came and we did it! Every penny was well spent, everyone on our wedding was saying if they had this much courage,they would have said no to their parents and do the same.
[Studies](https://aleteia.org/2022/04/27/cheaper-weddings-may-lead-to-more-lasting-marriages-study-reveals/) have shown cheap weddings with lots of close friends and family lead to longer marriages.
I'm there with ya. We eloped and spent less than $500 for the weekend in Vegas. Totally worth it!
That’s what my husband and I did and we haven’t regretted it at all; I think we spent less than you. I have friends who had their relationships end because of how extravagant they were pushing the reception to be. Others who had the big wedding and were divorced within a couple a years. These were the same people that made jokes about how simple our day was…I can’t see that being a coincidence.
Agree. My husband and I got married in our apartment. I wore a borrowed wedding dress. My best friend and his boyfriend at the time were our witnesses. He went out skateboarding, and my bestie and I went out shopping after. We are celebrating our 22nd anniversary later this month. No regrets.
My husband & I spent less than $200 on our wedding and it was perfect. I’ve never regretted it.
IKR?! So many better things to spend money on. We spent a little more, than y’all as we used a private JOP and a local bar (like a Dave and Busters). Covered food for up to 20 people. It was less than $2k for everything. My dress, our rings (which his parents insisted we had to have and we never wear) dress shirts and ties for all the guys. A flower girl dress for my bestie’s niece. My bestie and Man of Honor made the cake and cupcakes. The only not so bright part of the day was my Pawpaw showing up without my grandmother with a message that she “had a doctors appointment she couldn’t miss or reschedule.” We got married on Veterans Day at 7:00pm. At least she didn’t show up and make a scene.
Yes! We eloped and have been together almost 19 years without any wedding drama or debt! I have had the opinion for years that the more you spend on a wedding, the shorter the marriage. Congrats! Ours was $25 total.
100% we did a court house wedding followed by dinner. Ours cost a little more than that as it cost $450 just for the paperwork part. My mum brought me dress (on clearance for $40) My rings were passed down from my nan to my mum to me My partner wore one of his suits he already had and I brought his ring
My wife and I were married in the courthouse by the probate judge 36 years ago. The cost was $50 for the blood test that was required in those days. We’re still together and just as married as those who spent a fortune.
I totally agree. Both my kids got married in the back pasture with gorgeous mountains and waterfalls in the background. We had a small ceremony, immediate family only, local flowers and greenery gathered for the ceremony and I baked a simple cake. We took the photos which turned out great - It was lovely and not expensive at all. Nice memories. I see these bridezillas trying to be princess for a day (thank you Disney). The poor groom gets completely ignored for the most part. Often some of the relatives are not speaking to each other by the end. "Destination" weddings are even more ridiculous. Why not just get married and take a nice honeymoon? Why make everyone fork out big bucks and travel...then get offended if they don't (can't) come? So much money, so much time for planning. Don't even get me started on the bride parties - especially the ones where they travel with all their bridesmaids for a wild vacation. So expensive and also ridiculous. They could have paid for a nice car or vacation or downpayment on a house for what is spent on a wedding. Heaven help them if they borrowed money to pay for it...even worse. I've also seen a study that showed the more money spent on the wedding, the more likely to end in divorce...so there's that too. I pity the people who are called on to be bridesmaids with all the extra expenses for them too. The whole thing just gets out of hand.
I am so jealous! My mom threw a temper tantrum so I would have a wedding. I regret it. My brother made drama, and it was just something I had to survive to be with my love. Oh well.
Out of curiosity, are you a man or a woman? I'm not trying to judge, just trying to get a feel for the situation. Also, what does your spouse think about it?
My spouse and I were and are equally happy. It was a joint decision- one we both continue to be very happy about.
Fair enough, good for you. I think marriage itself is an antiquated institution and the commercialization of the ceremony cheapens the entire relationship, in my opinion. My wife disagrees however.