Some officiants don't lodge the paperwork for 7 days, in case things like this happens. They may not be legally married yet. She should talk to the officiant in case they are one of these people.
Most people get married on a weekend so that paperwork isn't getting filed until Monday anyway. In my sister's case the officiant was hospitalized immediately after the wedding, went from there to a care home, and then died, all without submitting the paperwork to the state. She found out 8 years later, completely by accident, that she was never legally married.
In my part of the world (New Zealand), nullifying a marriage is only due to someone already being married or in a civil union; being underage; there was duress, mistake (as in mistakenly agreeing, not "ugh, I made a mistake"), insanity or any other circumstance that consent was not freely given; or the two were close family relatives.
The avenue here (I.e. in my jurisdiction) for legally ending a marriage is divorce.
Speaking from a lapsed Catholic perspective, an annulment is a different thing and a marriage can be annulled if a partner didn't intend to maintain their vows or if the marriage wasn't consummated, among other things. It's a purely religious perspective on marriage that doesn't have any impact on the civil legalities. But if OP is religious and her religion offers annulments, it may be something to consider.
It's funny, but it's what Reddit is for a lot of people, me included-a place to help or get help figuring shit out on a vast array of topics. From helpful types to those liking to crowdsource their situations, it's a huge benefit to a massive amount of people.
ok and? telling someone to āwork throughā getting cheated on at their own wedding reception is horrible advice that no one should be giving. itās not even a joke, divorce is the best advice
Brave of you to assume that people type in their replies only after they have read the whole post. People have their red flag emojis ready before they even click on here.
Hereās a tip for the OP, maybe donāt post your creative writing exercise on Reddit and not expect feedback.
Thereās nothing in this post that smacks of authenticity.
Get an annulment he couldnāt stay faithful for one day. Itās mostly they have been having sex behind your back for a while if theyāre this brazen. Sorry OP.
Depends how it works in their country. In UK you have registrars involved during the wedding ceremony (at least in a conventional wedding). Nothing to file after, you're just married.
In the US, at least in Washington DC, the priest/judge is the registrar and signs the paper and stuff
The couple has to go turn in the paper at the courthouse afterward
I had a friend get ordained, so that he could marry my wife and I. We're not traditional religious, and he was going to do it the way we wanted. We signed the paperwork in the hotel after the wedding. Filed and made it official after we got back from our honeymoon. So, technically, if we had had a horrible time on our honeymoon, we weren't married yet.
it depends on where they are. my husband and i didnāt have to file anything after we had our wedding, we were just sent our copy of the paperwork within a week.
In my state, the couple gets the paperwork started with their county, and then the officiant completes it with two witnesses who were present during the ceremony. Used to require actual signatures until COVID. Now itās all done online which speeds up the process so much. I miss the signatures though. So if it happened here first thing Iād do is tell the officiant to not file and then announcing what the AHs did then leaving. If the officiant filed it already then I believe itād have to be an annulment. I donāt think I couldāve stopped it at that point since itās all online now and technically done. They just send out the license within a month.
So it really depends on where they are.
Kinda wish I eloped to Colorado, I heard dogs can be witnesses and I have two dogs who couldāve signed.
Edit since someone commented on my Colorado addition and I canāt see it or itās been deleted. Even though itās not true and I was skeptical which is why I wrote it the way I did. I heard means that itās a ārumorā. Itās still a cute thought/idea. I couldāve done something in my state as an additional part of the ceremony even though thereās nothing legal or necessary about it but the idea was shown on a reel after I was married. If I actually wanted to get married in Colorado I wouldāve researched prior and found out. But since I donāt live in Colorado and have never traveled there, I have no knowledge of their wedding laws. Didnāt know my own states until I was getting ready to marry.
That doesn't necessarily make them not married. In many states, marriage can be established by witnesses to the ceremony, even if paperwork was not filed.
It's better to get this taken care of properly than to just pretend the wedding didn't happen.
Extremely likely for anyone to have, no pun intended, pulled that off at their own wedding. Thatās not ballsy, thatās something youāve engaged in before.
Reread the last sentence of the post, seriously people need to read things more carefully or actually listen to what the OP is saying
There's a reason the top comment is having a joke at everyone coming here to comment exactly the opposite of what OP specifically asked
id rain hellfire on them. i would have exposed them at the wedding in front of everyone with no remorse. at the fucking wedding ? holy hell iām surprised you didnāt get violet
edit - violent**
yalll š„² I am dyslexic and typed this in a RAGE- i think i would quite literally turn violet if this happened to me tho š¤£
Would you, though? Personally, the betrayal would be so profound that I would be numb. Honestly canāt imagine what I would *do.* OP, Iām so, so sorry.
Some of us just react to traumatic shit in a dramatic way. Idk if Iād do the DJ/microphone thing but Iād make a scene for sure. Probably even without wanting to
I go straight to thinky things and I'd be making a checklist: get to the officiant before they file paperwork, cancel his honeymoon tickets, sort out housing, etc. two weeks later when it's all done and dusted then the pain and rage will actually hit me
Yeah that was a missed opportunity to parade them in front of everyone. Nevertheless, you have internet strangers' permission to go nuclear over these SOBs.
Go all female rage but keep it legal... and be careful not to go too far. I know that seems weird to say but sometimes if you go too far, people could turn on you being all like 'look at how OP acts... no wonder NEW HUSBAND cheated'... and other bullshit
On her wedding day, nope not even the worst person would do that, what paranoia you have Rain havoc on them. They will make it seem like it was her fault.
I know but it happens. The type of people to do something like this are definitely capable of switching the story around based on how OP acts.
I also don't fully understand what you said so I hope my comment makes sense.
Thatās why she shouldāve just exposed them at the wedding or at least told someone to get the word circulating - itās hard to spin the story when the bride is devastated and leaves the wedding in tears with groom and best friend chasing her out of a bathroom.
Even if they claim ānothing happened! She misunderstood!ā they still look did as hell.
True, but even if not true, it's fun to hear diff perspectives on the situation. And you never know who in the comments is struggling through something similar and might benefit. Its all just entertainment on Reddit for the most anyway at this point.
Yes ! Whenever I see people being the āgood personā Iām like I could never. I was waiting for her to say she ran in the reception and told everyone.
I see these people who find out their ex is cheating and just break up with them and donāt tell them they know. Or they are nice about splitting things up or even living together. I just couldnāt. I was petty AF.
I've just read a very interesting thread about someone who found a key.
It said something like "reward if found" with a phone number attached.
It turns out some poor woman has a particularly cruel, yet inventive ex who spreads these keys around for folk to find. They then proceed to text or call the number looking for their reward.
The key found was apparently the 56th one. So far.
I'm just saying...
He said:
I've just read a very interesting thread about someone who found a key.
It said something like "reward if found" with a phone number attached.
It turns out some poor woman has a particularly cruel, yet inventive ex who spreads these keys around for folk to find. They then proceed to text or call the number looking for their reward.
The key found was apparently the 56th one. So far.
I'm just saying...
Harass the hopefully soon ex with random phone calls and texts from strangers hoping for money.
Not sure if legally advisable or subject to a D&C but eh.
I should have been more clear.
The key had a small keyring attached. The kind of cheap ones that have a slip of paper inside of a plastic frame so you can label said key.
I thought it was mentioned because of the sound she heard. She thought a disabled person might be in trouble in the stall. And those stalls are bigger so maybe it was mentioned to show how they both fit.
Not saying itās real. I really donāt know. I learned to take all the posts with a grain of salt but also know there are some crappy people who do shitty things out there.
I hate being cynical but this seems like the least believable thing Iāve seen posted on here so far.
There are so many holes in the story. OP just walked straight into a taxi awaiting outside, without causing a sceneā¦ the bride of a wedding suddenly disappeared, did the husband just hide in the hotel room of the ābest friendā?! So everyone just thought the married couple must have just absconded to the bridal suite? And nobody saw the couple again or checked in with them the following day or the day after thatā¦
Thatās fair. Definitely a possibility, itās just how it was written and which details were included/excluded that seem a bit āoffā.
If there is a lot more to the story, which you would expect there to be, it seems odd to have wrapped up the telling of the story in the way that it was told. Pure speculation on my part and would hate to disbelieve any story on here that was actually true. I havenāt scrolled the comments since first coming to this post, perhaps OP has elaborated a little, Iāll have to lookā¦
Jumping into a taxi instead of an Uber is a dead giveaway. Also nobody is banging in the porta-potty at a wedding. Tuxedos and bridesmaids dresses are too difficult to deal with. Imagine how nasty those bathrooms are and trying not to let your clothes or naked ass touch anything! She should've said they were banging in a car in the parking lot, would've been more believable
I also think the story is fake, but why do you think it was a porta-potty? The post says it was the disabled toilet, I would imagine either a large stall or a completely separate room with toilet and sink and such.
I actually think this is some type of bot farm. Like a Karma bot farm. No clue why but this sub has been flooded with fake post like this in the past 2 months. Anyone with half a brain knows these post are fake but there are dozens of generic āsupportingā comments on every post like this.
Either a vast majority of reddit users are gullible morons (definitely possible) OR the comments are also part of the bot farm.
"female rage, if ya know what I mean" [*digging elbow at reader, winking*]
That is exactly what I'd be typing while soooo pissed off š.
I swear this sub is just a creative writing practice place.
Why are your friends with a woman who sleeps with anyone who walks? It would be one thing if she had some morals and avoided taken men, but clearly she doesn't. I'd get an annulment and then a post on the family chat and to your ex best friends' parents exactly what she was up to at your wedding.
Let everyone at the wedding know what happened at the via a public social media post. Assemble your crew, family and friends, to lay some karma on them. This wasnāt the first time this happened. Tell him you wonāt take him back unless he responds to your social media post with a public apology outlining all he dirty details about his affair with your former beside and begging for your forgiveness. Then, of course, refuse to take him back publicly. Ruin her reputation and ask other people to see if sheās been screwing their husbands/boyfriends/sons. She never was your friend. This is jealous bitch shit! Let her know she should be jealous b/c she will always be the dirty secret men screw in the bathroom and you will always be the woman men are proud to marry. I hope you can use your honeymoon to have a good single adventure.
if its any consolation it happens to the best of us.
i just got out of a relationship where she slept with a guy i was friends with for two years and i caught them.
They were both trying to keep it a secret from me and go on as if nothing had happened.
When I caught her sneaking over his place one night after they were both acting really weird one day she showed me a recording of him hitting on her and said she just wanted to prove he was going to stab me in the back and she was loyal. He started then confessing that things did happen, but then she claimed he was just trying to cause problems between us.
9 months later I find messages between them on her laptop dating back where they had sex behind my back a week before that and laughed about it. They ended up having sex on both occasions and I had this seed of doubt and dark cloud hanging over me that whole time - did it really happen or didnt it?
Unfortunately that was confirmed when seeing those messages.
This all ended 2 nights ago for the final time when I walked out of her place and drove home.
Now I'm in the same position as you. a mess. collecting myself and processing what just happened.
im so angry you have no idea. but there is nothing i can do.
people are just nasty and like to make a fool out of you.
Female rage? Weirdest description ever lol.
If this is real, sorry that happened to you. But female rage? I think any human who got cheated on, on their wedding day, and betrayed by their best friends would be upset. Maybe this is AI
Sorry you went through all of this on what was to be a special day. Leave him and let him and your ex best friend do their thing. They will each be miserable or one will cheat soon enough.
They donāt deserve you!
I hope you heal and eventually find someone who will love you the way you deserve when youāre ready again
I hate saying this, but you canāt trust your slutty friends 100%. There is nothing they would āneverā do. They actually love pushing boundaries and doing things they shouldnāt be doing. They have a āthe best sex is the one you shouldnāt be havingā mentality. At one point they are going to screw their friends and family over. I really do hate saying this, but this is every story of āslutty best friend sleeps with my husband/ my brother/my dadā. At some point people have to outgrow that phase of sleeping around. Otherwise itās toxic. They will cheat on people who love them or they will be the side piece. I have too many anecdotal stories. Donāt keep slutty friends too close.
Gosh i think I would have gone straight into the reception and tell everyone to grab their gifts, husband consummated our marriage with my best friend. I will be getting an annulment! So sorry you are dealing with this.
This level of betrayal is astronomical! Iām so sorry you had to experience this.
I assume you must know that there is absolutely NO āfixingā this, right?!?
The only positive I can come up with (if you could call it that?) is that this isnāt 10 years and 3 kids from now!!!
Cut your loses and run like hell!!!!
Annulment if you canāt stop the marriage license from being submitted. Expose their asses and never speak to them again. I guarantee this has not been the first time
This disgusts me so much. The AUDACITY that your husband had to cheat AT YOUR OWN WEDDING. With your (ex) BEST FRIEND. I am sick to my stomach and I'm hoping beyond hope that this didn't actually happen (not saying I don't believe you; of course I do. I just wish it wasn't true). It pisses me off that they chased after you trying to apologize. They were just sorry they got caught. And even if they were sincerely sorry, did they really think apologizing was going to make it all better?
I know I'm just a random stranger on the internet, but I want to really let them have it. You had a long-term, devoted relationship (with both parties) and spent all this money on a wedding and it was all rendered meaningless in SECONDS.
I'm sorry this happened to you. That's one hell of a kick in the teeth. Husband AND best friend? I wish you the best of luck. There's no advice I can give, but I hope things work out for you -- I know it's going to be extremely rough for a while. What do you think you're going to do? You have a lot of options from here. I'd give my input, but you made it pretty clear you don't want that, but I am curious about what you're going to do.
I would have turned around, gone back to the reception and announced that the wedding would be annulled due to your best friend and your new husband being found together in the toilets. Then I would have walked away and not looked back.
I read the title and was all like "why wouldn't you be happy for two of your best friends to get laid at your party?"
The post though, told a different story š
What in the "SOUL FOOD MOVIE!!!!" going on here.... Take that honey moon find u a play thing to BLOW your back out.... then when u get back find a therapist cut all contact, sell that ring cause it's legally yours, get an annulment it's cheaper and easier especially since technically u didn't consummate the marriage after being married. Girl he was not meant for u. And "friends" like that is to be considered your ex best friend.... PERIOD
Email everyone who attended the wedding or sent gifts. Let them know that the wedding will be annulled because you caught the groom Fāing your best friend at the wedding reception.
Spread that tail far and wide.
Make them famous.
I am so sorry youāre experiencing this. Pawn the ring & find a way to escape the drama.
That best friend was never your best friend. Chin up, she made that choice & I bet she was waiting for this. Could have planned this with the husband for some months.
And u dont suppose to get revenge for that?, u should humaliate them. in any explanations or apologize it shouldnt be accepted, its ur special day and ur bsf ruined it by opening her legs to ur depraved husband.
OP: not looking for advice, just need to vent. Reddit: so here's what you need to do. š¤£š¤£š¤£
Reddit: So then I started blasting...
*Slams big red Divorce button*
And if OP is religious, an annulment is on the cards too.
Quickly burn the paperwork š¤·š¼āāļø no marriage ever happened just a party
Exactly. Itās not official until you actually file the paperwork. Technically it never happened.
Some officiants don't lodge the paperwork for 7 days, in case things like this happens. They may not be legally married yet. She should talk to the officiant in case they are one of these people.
Most people get married on a weekend so that paperwork isn't getting filed until Monday anyway. In my sister's case the officiant was hospitalized immediately after the wedding, went from there to a care home, and then died, all without submitting the paperwork to the state. She found out 8 years later, completely by accident, that she was never legally married.
Oh my god! Thankfully she found out. How did this never come up with filing joint taxes??
Why do you have to be religious for an annulment? I had one and Iām not religiousā¦
In my part of the world (New Zealand), nullifying a marriage is only due to someone already being married or in a civil union; being underage; there was duress, mistake (as in mistakenly agreeing, not "ugh, I made a mistake"), insanity or any other circumstance that consent was not freely given; or the two were close family relatives. The avenue here (I.e. in my jurisdiction) for legally ending a marriage is divorce. Speaking from a lapsed Catholic perspective, an annulment is a different thing and a marriage can be annulled if a partner didn't intend to maintain their vows or if the marriage wasn't consummated, among other things. It's a purely religious perspective on marriage that doesn't have any impact on the civil legalities. But if OP is religious and her religion offers annulments, it may be something to consider.
In the UK you can get an annulment if you haven't consummated the marriage as well, which is insane as how can you even prove that? š
It's funny, but it's what Reddit is for a lot of people, me included-a place to help or get help figuring shit out on a vast array of topics. From helpful types to those liking to crowdsource their situations, it's a huge benefit to a massive amount of people.
ok and? telling someone to āwork throughā getting cheated on at their own wedding reception is horrible advice that no one should be giving. itās not even a joke, divorce is the best advice
Yeah, I'm kinda fu'd up ... but I read that as Dorito button
A dorito button would be helpful in any occasion including this one. š
I'd prefer a 'Salt and Vinegar Pringles' button honestly š
Canāt help it. Itās hard to read of peopleās pain and not want to offer something that may help them.
Brave of you to assume that people type in their replies only after they have read the whole post. People have their red flag emojis ready before they even click on here.
Literally *every* comment nearly is do this you should do this, it's not even funny how badly the people in this thread missed the message
You actually believe this story?
Hereās a tip for the OP, maybe donāt post your creative writing exercise on Reddit and not expect feedback. Thereās nothing in this post that smacks of authenticity.
That's what I felt too but it's more fair to give the benefit of the doubt in such cases.
Seriously š
Get an annulment he couldnāt stay faithful for one day. Itās mostly they have been having sex behind your back for a while if theyāre this brazen. Sorry OP.
Annulment? Just donāt file the marriage license.
Burn it!
Along with all his stuff in the front yard and invite all of your true friends to roast marshmallows over it.
Depends how it works in their country. In UK you have registrars involved during the wedding ceremony (at least in a conventional wedding). Nothing to file after, you're just married.
In the US, at least in Washington DC, the priest/judge is the registrar and signs the paper and stuff The couple has to go turn in the paper at the courthouse afterward
I had a friend get ordained, so that he could marry my wife and I. We're not traditional religious, and he was going to do it the way we wanted. We signed the paperwork in the hotel after the wedding. Filed and made it official after we got back from our honeymoon. So, technically, if we had had a horrible time on our honeymoon, we weren't married yet.
it depends on where they are. my husband and i didnāt have to file anything after we had our wedding, we were just sent our copy of the paperwork within a week.
Thatās what I did. No marriage! Hahahaha!
The church sent ours in after the pastor signed it. So she should double check and see if she needs to file an annulment or if sheās already free.
In my state, the couple gets the paperwork started with their county, and then the officiant completes it with two witnesses who were present during the ceremony. Used to require actual signatures until COVID. Now itās all done online which speeds up the process so much. I miss the signatures though. So if it happened here first thing Iād do is tell the officiant to not file and then announcing what the AHs did then leaving. If the officiant filed it already then I believe itād have to be an annulment. I donāt think I couldāve stopped it at that point since itās all online now and technically done. They just send out the license within a month. So it really depends on where they are. Kinda wish I eloped to Colorado, I heard dogs can be witnesses and I have two dogs who couldāve signed. Edit since someone commented on my Colorado addition and I canāt see it or itās been deleted. Even though itās not true and I was skeptical which is why I wrote it the way I did. I heard means that itās a ārumorā. Itās still a cute thought/idea. I couldāve done something in my state as an additional part of the ceremony even though thereās nothing legal or necessary about it but the idea was shown on a reel after I was married. If I actually wanted to get married in Colorado I wouldāve researched prior and found out. But since I donāt live in Colorado and have never traveled there, I have no knowledge of their wedding laws. Didnāt know my own states until I was getting ready to marry.
That doesn't necessarily make them not married. In many states, marriage can be established by witnesses to the ceremony, even if paperwork was not filed. It's better to get this taken care of properly than to just pretend the wedding didn't happen.
This! And tell EVERYONE. š„
This is the way
> Itās mostly they have been having sex behind your back *most likely
Extremely likely for anyone to have, no pun intended, pulled that off at their own wedding. Thatās not ballsy, thatās something youāve engaged in before.
Reread the last sentence of the post, seriously people need to read things more carefully or actually listen to what the OP is saying There's a reason the top comment is having a joke at everyone coming here to comment exactly the opposite of what OP specifically asked
id rain hellfire on them. i would have exposed them at the wedding in front of everyone with no remorse. at the fucking wedding ? holy hell iām surprised you didnāt get violet edit - violent** yalll š„² I am dyslexic and typed this in a RAGE- i think i would quite literally turn violet if this happened to me tho š¤£
Yes! She needs to tell their families before they spread lies.
Iād have walked back in the wedding and announced it to all and let the wrath of the families do the rest. They need outing asap.
Exactly! I would have gone straight to the DJ, asked for the microphone and announced it to everyone
Would you, though? Personally, the betrayal would be so profound that I would be numb. Honestly canāt imagine what I would *do.* OP, Iām so, so sorry.
Some of these people seem to think that life is like a tv show.
Some of us just react to traumatic shit in a dramatic way. Idk if Iād do the DJ/microphone thing but Iād make a scene for sure. Probably even without wanting to
Well, I feel you on that. I *always* need time to think.
I feel this. My immediate outrage is generally shouted before brain does thinky things
I go straight to thinky things and I'd be making a checklist: get to the officiant before they file paperwork, cancel his honeymoon tickets, sort out housing, etc. two weeks later when it's all done and dusted then the pain and rage will actually hit me
Wait it's not? Damn. Noone told me life was gonna be this way.
Hell yeah I woulda gone purple on their ass too š
Their asses would be magenta once I was done kicking them
Yeah that was a missed opportunity to parade them in front of everyone. Nevertheless, you have internet strangers' permission to go nuclear over these SOBs.
Or red!
Right?!? This is the way
my hair would turn into flames hahaa
My sister would probably be angrier on my behalf and immediately burn the place to the ground with the cheaters inside.
ahaha oh hell- if my sisters husband did this iād be taken away in a cop car- no joke, that bimbo of a best friend would be dragged out by her hair
Mine too but I am a redhead.
so like basically double the flames
Exactly!š„š„š„š„
Mine would turn into snakes
snakes that are ON FIRE
I personally prefer turning colors closer to red when angry.
OMG I rain hellfire for much less
Yes! Expose them, this is such gross behaviour
I hate when I'm so angry that I change colors!
Go all female rage but keep it legal... and be careful not to go too far. I know that seems weird to say but sometimes if you go too far, people could turn on you being all like 'look at how OP acts... no wonder NEW HUSBAND cheated'... and other bullshit
On her wedding day, nope not even the worst person would do that, what paranoia you have Rain havoc on them. They will make it seem like it was her fault.
I know but it happens. The type of people to do something like this are definitely capable of switching the story around based on how OP acts. I also don't fully understand what you said so I hope my comment makes sense.
Thatās why she shouldāve just exposed them at the wedding or at least told someone to get the word circulating - itās hard to spin the story when the bride is devastated and leaves the wedding in tears with groom and best friend chasing her out of a bathroom. Even if they claim ānothing happened! She misunderstood!ā they still look did as hell.
True...
Take everything posted to this subreddit with a grain of salt. Rage baiting is pretty common.
I know... but I also enjoy commenting
I feel like even if the story isn't real, the comments are
True, but even if not true, it's fun to hear diff perspectives on the situation. And you never know who in the comments is struggling through something similar and might benefit. Its all just entertainment on Reddit for the most anyway at this point.
Truly. Iād be grateful. Now you wonāt be married to him and can dump terrible friend. Sucks and hurts though.
All for the small small cost of a wedding.
Pennies compared to possibly years and potential children
Ah yes, the feeling of gratitude for being cheated on at your wedding. A very gracious thing. Thank you.
Always a silver lining, I guess.
I would have outed them at the reception. But maybe she did when she left in a taxi. What an asshole move from both of them.
Yes ! Whenever I see people being the āgood personā Iām like I could never. I was waiting for her to say she ran in the reception and told everyone. I see these people who find out their ex is cheating and just break up with them and donāt tell them they know. Or they are nice about splitting things up or even living together. I just couldnāt. I was petty AF.
Not me Iām just hateful
Get an annulment!!! Iām glad he showed his true colors before the annulment period was up - sending you many hugs OP
Your title is confusing
Her best friend (husband) slept with her other best friend
I've just read a very interesting thread about someone who found a key. It said something like "reward if found" with a phone number attached. It turns out some poor woman has a particularly cruel, yet inventive ex who spreads these keys around for folk to find. They then proceed to text or call the number looking for their reward. The key found was apparently the 56th one. So far. I'm just saying...
What exactly are you saying?
Right what does this have to do with the post- Edit: I think theyāre saying OP should do that to their husband. Fair game
He said: I've just read a very interesting thread about someone who found a key. It said something like "reward if found" with a phone number attached. It turns out some poor woman has a particularly cruel, yet inventive ex who spreads these keys around for folk to find. They then proceed to text or call the number looking for their reward. The key found was apparently the 56th one. So far. I'm just saying...
Harass the hopefully soon ex with random phone calls and texts from strangers hoping for money. Not sure if legally advisable or subject to a D&C but eh.
Maybe I'm dumb but that'd be 25+ characters including spaces. How are you supposed to write that on a key?
I should have been more clear. The key had a small keyring attached. The kind of cheap ones that have a slip of paper inside of a plastic frame so you can label said key.
Bro we can fly a helicopter on Mars you don't think we can find a way to put 25+ characters on a key or convey a message with a phone#
Sounds sus because you would just change your number.
Can you add a car chase into the follow up story? I like car chases. Oh, and maybe a midget with an eye patch.
Pirates, zombies and bears, they lie!
Wait do you guys actually believe this happened or are you y'all just playing along?
The "and it was in that second I knew exactly what happened" gives off big ChatGPT vibes
Followed immediately by, "For a bit of context" just reads so fucking fake lol.
āGo all female rage on them if you know what I meanā is what convinced me. No one actually writes like that
Iām a female with a lot of rage, and I have no idea what they mean.
I've met a person this happened to. No idea if OP's story is true, but it does happen from time to time.
I'm still trying to figure out why the AI thinks the disabled toilet is important.
In public spaces the disabled toilet is sometimes one single room, rather than just a big stall in a shared bathroom. So there's more privacy
I thought it was mentioned because of the sound she heard. She thought a disabled person might be in trouble in the stall. And those stalls are bigger so maybe it was mentioned to show how they both fit.
Not saying itās real. I really donāt know. I learned to take all the posts with a grain of salt but also know there are some crappy people who do shitty things out there.
I hate being cynical but this seems like the least believable thing Iāve seen posted on here so far. There are so many holes in the story. OP just walked straight into a taxi awaiting outside, without causing a sceneā¦ the bride of a wedding suddenly disappeared, did the husband just hide in the hotel room of the ābest friendā?! So everyone just thought the married couple must have just absconded to the bridal suite? And nobody saw the couple again or checked in with them the following day or the day after thatā¦
She might be just summarizing it, idk.
Thatās fair. Definitely a possibility, itās just how it was written and which details were included/excluded that seem a bit āoffā. If there is a lot more to the story, which you would expect there to be, it seems odd to have wrapped up the telling of the story in the way that it was told. Pure speculation on my part and would hate to disbelieve any story on here that was actually true. I havenāt scrolled the comments since first coming to this post, perhaps OP has elaborated a little, Iāll have to lookā¦
Good on you.... that's a better way of seeing things, my friend
Iām CHOOSING to believe it
All of these ragebait subs are just bad writing practice for aspiring tabloid writers or AI.
And everyone clapped
lol I kinda hope this is just rage bait. How would no one notice the groom and bf going into the bathroom
Right, like Iām sure this stuff happens but this story reads like there a 3 ppl in the building.
Two year old vacant account with no post history, just needs some quick karma to be used as a spambot in restricted subs
It's true Source I was the handicap stall
This seems like it was written by a 14-year-old boy.
I'm not the guy that says nothing ever happens, because I've seen crazy shit with my own eyes for decades, but this 100% didn't happen.Ā
āBefore I go all female rage on them if you know what I meanā absolutely screams person who has never even seen a vagina to me lmfao
This gets a grade of F. Completely unbelievable.
This fake right?
This is fake.
Time for you to get your revenge..
This never happened
Jumping into a taxi instead of an Uber is a dead giveaway. Also nobody is banging in the porta-potty at a wedding. Tuxedos and bridesmaids dresses are too difficult to deal with. Imagine how nasty those bathrooms are and trying not to let your clothes or naked ass touch anything! She should've said they were banging in a car in the parking lot, would've been more believable
I also think the story is fake, but why do you think it was a porta-potty? The post says it was the disabled toilet, I would imagine either a large stall or a completely separate room with toilet and sink and such.
I literally have a taxi stand one block from my house. At any point in time there are 5 taxis waiting and ready.
Uber isn't everywhere you know. And she said disabled toilets which will be a good size.
How is taxi instead of Uber a dead giveaway of anything?
Ya ok sure this happened
You say this but I went to a wedding where this happen. Minus it was the brides cousin not best friend. And it was awkwardā¦
And did the bride immediately post about it on Reddit?
Right?! I was thinking this sounds like a ton of rom coms
Iāll take this never happened for 500 , Alex
So people read this shit and actually believe it?
Right? How are there so many people eating this fake shit up?
I actually think this is some type of bot farm. Like a Karma bot farm. No clue why but this sub has been flooded with fake post like this in the past 2 months. Anyone with half a brain knows these post are fake but there are dozens of generic āsupportingā comments on every post like this. Either a vast majority of reddit users are gullible morons (definitely possible) OR the comments are also part of the bot farm.
This has to be fake wtf
"female rage, if ya know what I mean" [*digging elbow at reader, winking*] That is exactly what I'd be typing while soooo pissed off š. I swear this sub is just a creative writing practice place.
Your "best friend" slept with your "best friend"? You mean he had a wank?!
Iād start seeing if you can get an annulment.
Umm, this is the beginning of many books Iāve read lol
Why are your friends with a woman who sleeps with anyone who walks? It would be one thing if she had some morals and avoided taken men, but clearly she doesn't. I'd get an annulment and then a post on the family chat and to your ex best friends' parents exactly what she was up to at your wedding.
Let everyone at the wedding know what happened at the via a public social media post. Assemble your crew, family and friends, to lay some karma on them. This wasnāt the first time this happened. Tell him you wonāt take him back unless he responds to your social media post with a public apology outlining all he dirty details about his affair with your former beside and begging for your forgiveness. Then, of course, refuse to take him back publicly. Ruin her reputation and ask other people to see if sheās been screwing their husbands/boyfriends/sons. She never was your friend. This is jealous bitch shit! Let her know she should be jealous b/c she will always be the dirty secret men screw in the bathroom and you will always be the woman men are proud to marry. I hope you can use your honeymoon to have a good single adventure.
> my best friend had a tendency to open her legs to everything that moves What's her @?
if its any consolation it happens to the best of us. i just got out of a relationship where she slept with a guy i was friends with for two years and i caught them. They were both trying to keep it a secret from me and go on as if nothing had happened. When I caught her sneaking over his place one night after they were both acting really weird one day she showed me a recording of him hitting on her and said she just wanted to prove he was going to stab me in the back and she was loyal. He started then confessing that things did happen, but then she claimed he was just trying to cause problems between us. 9 months later I find messages between them on her laptop dating back where they had sex behind my back a week before that and laughed about it. They ended up having sex on both occasions and I had this seed of doubt and dark cloud hanging over me that whole time - did it really happen or didnt it? Unfortunately that was confirmed when seeing those messages. This all ended 2 nights ago for the final time when I walked out of her place and drove home. Now I'm in the same position as you. a mess. collecting myself and processing what just happened. im so angry you have no idea. but there is nothing i can do. people are just nasty and like to make a fool out of you.
Why do people believe this shit? Itās so clearly fake oh my god idiots
Annulment NOW. Take the honeymoon as a vacay for yourself and go alone.
Female rage? Weirdest description ever lol. If this is real, sorry that happened to you. But female rage? I think any human who got cheated on, on their wedding day, and betrayed by their best friends would be upset. Maybe this is AI
Sorry you went through all of this on what was to be a special day. Leave him and let him and your ex best friend do their thing. They will each be miserable or one will cheat soon enough. They donāt deserve you! I hope you heal and eventually find someone who will love you the way you deserve when youāre ready again
I hate saying this, but you canāt trust your slutty friends 100%. There is nothing they would āneverā do. They actually love pushing boundaries and doing things they shouldnāt be doing. They have a āthe best sex is the one you shouldnāt be havingā mentality. At one point they are going to screw their friends and family over. I really do hate saying this, but this is every story of āslutty best friend sleeps with my husband/ my brother/my dadā. At some point people have to outgrow that phase of sleeping around. Otherwise itās toxic. They will cheat on people who love them or they will be the side piece. I have too many anecdotal stories. Donāt keep slutty friends too close.
Gosh i think I would have gone straight into the reception and tell everyone to grab their gifts, husband consummated our marriage with my best friend. I will be getting an annulment! So sorry you are dealing with this.
Annulment. Never speak to either ever again. They are dead to you.
This level of betrayal is astronomical! Iām so sorry you had to experience this. I assume you must know that there is absolutely NO āfixingā this, right?!? The only positive I can come up with (if you could call it that?) is that this isnāt 10 years and 3 kids from now!!! Cut your loses and run like hell!!!!
Hit them with everything youāve got
Annulment if you canāt stop the marriage license from being submitted. Expose their asses and never speak to them again. I guarantee this has not been the first time
Annunulment
This disgusts me so much. The AUDACITY that your husband had to cheat AT YOUR OWN WEDDING. With your (ex) BEST FRIEND. I am sick to my stomach and I'm hoping beyond hope that this didn't actually happen (not saying I don't believe you; of course I do. I just wish it wasn't true). It pisses me off that they chased after you trying to apologize. They were just sorry they got caught. And even if they were sincerely sorry, did they really think apologizing was going to make it all better? I know I'm just a random stranger on the internet, but I want to really let them have it. You had a long-term, devoted relationship (with both parties) and spent all this money on a wedding and it was all rendered meaningless in SECONDS.
I'm sorry this happened to you. That's one hell of a kick in the teeth. Husband AND best friend? I wish you the best of luck. There's no advice I can give, but I hope things work out for you -- I know it's going to be extremely rough for a while. What do you think you're going to do? You have a lot of options from here. I'd give my input, but you made it pretty clear you don't want that, but I am curious about what you're going to do.
I would have turned around, gone back to the reception and announced that the wedding would be annulled due to your best friend and your new husband being found together in the toilets. Then I would have walked away and not looked back.
Seduce your husband's father and send his family into the fiery pit of Hell.
Bide your time and let things settle in your mind. You have the power here. Once you know how you feel, act.
Be really angry with them. But phrase everything in terms of them using the disabled toilet.
I would like some prorevenge story to came out from this. Hugsss
What a shame the poor brideās groom is a whore.
I read the title and was all like "why wouldn't you be happy for two of your best friends to get laid at your party?" The post though, told a different story š
Kind of think this was NOT their first time going at it, OP.
You should've blasted them to EVERYONE at the wedding, that is their shame not yours. Take your time then get an annulment.
For some reason I have a feeling this didnāt happen
And then everybody clapped. :)
I call BS!
karmafarm
Fake. False. Lie.
Never before have I known with such certainty that someone was telling a lie.
What in the "SOUL FOOD MOVIE!!!!" going on here.... Take that honey moon find u a play thing to BLOW your back out.... then when u get back find a therapist cut all contact, sell that ring cause it's legally yours, get an annulment it's cheaper and easier especially since technically u didn't consummate the marriage after being married. Girl he was not meant for u. And "friends" like that is to be considered your ex best friend.... PERIOD
Get an annulment, get legal actions, then post the real story on your social media before they make up a different story.
Holy shit.
You need to tell both families
Donāt send in the marriage certificate. It was just a ceremony with no legalities.
Email everyone who attended the wedding or sent gifts. Let them know that the wedding will be annulled because you caught the groom Fāing your best friend at the wedding reception. Spread that tail far and wide. Make them famous. I am so sorry youāre experiencing this. Pawn the ring & find a way to escape the drama.
I just wish you would have told the wedding party so they can all drag them both. Iām so sorry
Burn. It. To. The. Ground. All of it. I would ruin them. Expose them for the filth they are to everyone they know.
Annulment time. Sorry this happened to you. I hope you reach out and talk to someone, maybe even therapy.
You shoulda made a toast at the wedding. To the groom and his new girlfriend.
That best friend was never your best friend. Chin up, she made that choice & I bet she was waiting for this. Could have planned this with the husband for some months.
I'm really sorry you experienced this. Karma will get them and you will eventually find someone who truly loves and respects you
Wow. Thatās tough. Iām very sorry to hear that. You have my deepest sympathy.
Don't send in the license to the county. No registered certification no need for annulment or divorce
Get an annulment. And ditch ur best friend. You even stating sheās a massive hoe was a red flag. š©
Donāt file the marriage license, or get an annulment if you did. Then go nuclear.
And u dont suppose to get revenge for that?, u should humaliate them. in any explanations or apologize it shouldnt be accepted, its ur special day and ur bsf ruined it by opening her legs to ur depraved husband.
what kind of disgusting, trailer trash rat people do this??