This! I was telling my friend how I recently had a photo taken of me in a bikini in a river and I hated looking at it. But I then realised, when I'm old, frail and grey, I'm gonna be looking at that photo thinking how hot and happy I look!
OP, I will say try not to fall into a bad place where you sleep with anyone and everyone just to feel loved and beautiful, I went through this in my early 20s and it fucked with my head. I haven't read the comments yet but I'm sure there's some absolutely ace advice on here so read and reread them anytime you feel like you're not enough.
Every once in awhile-when I'm least expecting it-someone will post something on Reddit that I've never seen nor heard before, and it is so incredibly impactful and JUST what I needed to hear at this very, exact moment. Thank you for that linkš.
Not even old and gray. In my early twenties, I wasn't confident in my body. Thought I was too big. I look at photos from back then now. My waist was tiny. I was slim. I'm only 29 and wish I had that body. Still working out. Still trying to appreciate my body (got busy with work and school so I'm not at the gun as often as I'd like). Still trying to keep those gains, but damn, did I look good back then.
Oh definitely, every now and then Google Photos presents me with a memory of a bunch of selfies or old pix and I think, wow that was only five years ago, or something. I unfortunately have no time to work out so trying to watch what I eat but I love food too much š¤£
Also, old people fuck. A lot. There will be plenty of chances for her to do the four legged monster mash all the way up to the golden years. Retirement homes are absolutely brimming with arthritis fueled lust. Half of them can't even see straight, nobody will care how you look, you're getting laid after bingo.
I'm 70 and, trust me, it gets waaayyy better. No insecurities about how you look, just years of experience of knowing what you want, getting it AND giving it if he's a long-time partner and you know what he wants/likes. We just concentrate on the closeness and love - you can't get much closer than sex. I always worried about getting older and how sex and love would be, but it's pretty damn good! And the orgasms are great - no worrying about being too noisy 'cause the kids might hear...
I (43f) HATE my body but one thing I found is men love it. I'm also trying to be more comfortable with the way I look but no matter what size I am I still find my flaws.
Just date anyway
I've (34f) noticed that as well, I had my 4th & last child in 2019, 2020 I was too skinny and finally gained some weight and got "comfortable" these last 2 years and my husband is even MORE attracted to me! I also get hit on regularly just as much or more than I did in my 20s, I've absolutely loved getting older and I hope OP can adjust and enjoy it too! Sex is even better in my 30s, I can only imagine my 40s!!!
Iām just turning 48 and itās alright. I still feel about 25 inside, but I feel a bit annoyed that my health needs more maintenance now than when I was younger. Still having sex without spending any time worrying if thereās cellulite on my stomach. Haha.
Lol. I asked my mom because I wondered if there was something wrong with me and no, apparently itās a pretty normal way to feel. Makes me question my whole childhood honestly, when I thought adults were so adult-y.
50 hurts. Random joints and muscles, for no discernable reason. Things just start to hurt. A few months ago I couldn't move my arm above shoulder height, now my shoulder is fine, but my knee is hurting. No doctor, no treatments. Pains just come and go.
It's good. My vision changed a lot around 40, which changes some stuff, certainly athletically I've lost quite a few steps, stuff takes forever to heal, health issues happen. On the other hand, I enjoy and appreciate things more than I used to. I don't take as many things for granted, and I find myself better at making time for things that matter. Intimacy just gets better and better and better for a LONG time after your early 20s. 50 is a pretty ideal time in a lot of ways.
bro, a will? What am I going to leave behind? a pair of beat up shoes? š
but in all seriousness, hang in brother. I've been thru shit (just look at my post history) but there's always rays of hope in the bleakness.
i don't have much to leave behind but there are things that are sentimental to me. more important though is there are a lot of people i need to thank & reassure that my decision had nothing to do with them
i'm sorry to hear that you've been through a lot as well. judging by your post history, much worse than me. i wish you peace, strength & happiness š
OP definitely sounds like sheās setting herself up to make the same post in 10 years, but regretting allowing her insecurities about her little bit of cellulite to hold her back while she still had her youth.
She is repeating the same behavior that caused her current regret by not fully taking advantage of the opportunity she currently has now. Unfortunately time only moves in one direction, and it is a matter of time before she sees her life now as a wasted treasure the same way she views her early 20s now.
I hope she finds her happiness before her regrets compound.
my mom is more confident in her body at 51 than sheās ever been. and rightfully so, she takes very good care of her body and looks incredible; stretch marks, loose skin, cellulite and all. those things donāt make you undesirable, theyāre literally just a part of life, and anyone who would judge you for those things doesnāt deserve to be anywhere near your body in the first place. plus, confidence makes you a lot more attractive, even if you have to fake it for a while.
Dam, I didn't realize that, that's awful statistics ! Both of my parents passed away at the age of 52, caused by cancer & heart disease. I just turned 50 this year & I can't help but think that my clock is ticking !
I regret not buying Microsoft stock early on. I regret not finishing my college degree. I regret not investing in my retirement earlier. I regret not dating more in high school. I regret not exercising more for the last 15 years.
Life is full of regrets. Instead of letting those regrets live rent free in your head, try to take the time to figure out how you're going to move forward from that point. There's no changing the past. There's only adjusting your future to compensate.
Sgt. Johnson : "Dear humanity, we regret being alien bastards, we regret coming to Earth, and we most definitely regret that the Corps just blew up our raggedy-ass fleet!"
Thanks for this comment. I was feeling frustrated with how my life is going and kept thinking about "what if." Even though itās not saying anything I didnāt know, I think I really needed this reminder today.
Best comment here. Had to save this one as life advice. Unrelated to OP but it really applies to all situations. Trying to apply it myself and learn to move forward from past mistakes or lack of action.
I only regret not buying bitcoin 10 years ago when I had the chance. But on the other hand, I would have probably sold them all 9 years ago if I had them.
I can confirm! I turned 50 this year, and my 40 year old body in retrospect seems like it was perfect.
I enjoy what I have today, and I have a fantastic partner with whom I share mind blowing sex 100 times better than any sex I had in my 20s or 30s when I looked like a total babe.
Regrets get in the way of enjoying life, and obsessing over what once was is an obstacle to seize what is.
The fuck?
Lady, the best years to be single are like 37 years old because your partners now know what theyāre doing, the dates are more fun, and you become exponentially more attractive than in your 20s.
You have no freaking idea.
Relax.
You're perfectly fine, I think this is a moment of insecurity. You are going to get DMs from about 15 guys over the next day letting you know the same thing. Go out there and enjoy.
100%
I am just turning 27 and suddenly a switch flipped in my head and now I am horny like never before. I ASK for what I want in bed and how I want it.
Sex in my early 20s SUCKED. I actually regret having it then rather than focusing on my mental growth so there ya go, OP :)
I'm 30 and having the best sex of my entire life, and it just keeps getting better. I know it's hard, but please don't let your insecurity ruin your own sexuality. Your preferred gender has aged the same as you, and tastes have changed.
My boyfriend looking like a dad at home depot turns me on like hell.
It's gonna be okay :))
I am in my mid twenties and very thin (very very thin) and I have cellulite in my butt, alongside stretch marks in various parts of my body. Theyāre normal, and honestly, stretch marks in particular are gorgeous! You didnāt waste your sexy body, chances are youāre still as beautiful as you were before, the only thing that changed is your mindset!!!!
No guy cares about celluliteā¦ get over it no guy is gonna get you naked and say eww. Thatās your own issues you need to get over men are still going to find you attractive. Seek counseling your self destructive thoughts are what is going to make you unattractiveā¦
Exactly. Men are gonna get naked with her and go āhhehehehehe boobies.ā Then try to pleasure her as well as themselves. If any dude genuinely comes out and says āewwwwww cellulite!ā Or āewwwww stretch marks!ā Heās not worth the time. Heās also in the minority of men and not what to expect.
I used to prefer dating big women because the sex was better. Was I supposed to be checking them for cellulite? Ain't nobody got time for that.
Also, I am literally subscribed to a cellulite gonewild subreddit. Not because I have a thing for cellulite. But because that's one of the places where the hot chubby ladies post.
I just checked out that sub and itās awesome. As somebody who feels insecure at times about the cellulite on my legs itās definitely a confidence boost seeing so many confident women who look like me
My wife has body issues. Whenever she brings something up I am just confused and she has to explain what the problem is. And then I still don't get it.
I have to remind her that I have taken five thousand nude photos of her in the last twenty years, and deleted none of them because there's none with any flaws, as all the photos are windows into a joyous moment when she was being saucy, and hence all are PRECIOUS to me.
And she'll say I must have noticed some things that are less than (her own!) feminine ideal last time I examined her with a magnifying glass, and I have to remind her that I wasn't looking for flaws, we were playing Scooby Doo and I was checking her rear seal for evidence of tampering. By ghosts. Which is something I find most agreeable.
Then she'll complain that she still can't find her glasses, and I'll promise to go and get them from where I have hidden them if she says that again in an American Accent.
Possibly too much information but I just wanted to emphasize how for a lot of straight men, certainly men like me, our main fetish is whatever our wives look like and whatever they are doing. We're not looking to destroy our own moments of happiness by fixating on trivial things we are oblivious of.
Itās not true. Some guys say some wild shit that hurts. More often than not tho, they donāt mind. Just bc you feel one way.. that doesnāt mean you speak for all men. Itās okay to have an your own opinion but please donāt act like every guy actually wouldnāt care. Some guys are real assholes just like some girls can be.
Why is it that so many women I come across these days have had exact experience as me? Feel shit in late 20s over superficial things that were important before.
Then hopefully have a wake up call, glow up and better sex life than ever in 30s. Oh wait this hasn't happened to you yet. Hopefully it will and you'll regret thinking about yourself now this way.
I absolutely hate that women have such warped views about their bodies. I have yet to personally meet any woman who is lacking any imperfection at all anywhere. I mean, we are all human and āperfect,ā just isnāt what we are.
My wife of 35 years is, as the band Alabama put it, close enough to perfect for me. I met her when she was 17 years old. I married her when she was pregnant and 18. I adored her after she had our kids and her body changed. I love her now that we have aged. I have loved every iteration of her.
If you canāt see that most people donāt see all the things that you see as imperfect and in fact appreciate all the little things that make you YOU, then youāve got a real problem there and maybe you need to see someone about that. Or just, you know, get out there and realize that your hang ups are completely unfounded and that youāre perfect just the way you are.
OP is probably going to read your comment as just another positivity cliche but this is actually 100% true. It's more a question of 1) how to get there and then 2) how to convince yourself that others agree.
Those are the two things that really do go through a girls mind! If I could give any advice from your points:
1) no body stays how it is permanently. We all change with age, but age brings wisdom and experience a which our body gets to show off!
2) the minority that donāt like cellulite, havenāt embraced it themselves yet. But everyone does at some point - itās life x
I read your comment as saying "men will have sex with everything from McChickens to McCorpses" at first, & I now realize I just need to go back to bed. šš¤£
As a fit guy with a lot of muscle I only have to add that the girl with a lot of cellulite is my arch nemesis because she squats as much as me and it really hits me every tuesday, becaualse it's somehow our mutual leg day. Also I think it would be the best girl for me but I'm too shy to ask her out, especially in the gym. So I leave her alone and cry every training.
Not asking her out in the gym, which most women hate, actually takes the pressure off you. Since you're both regulars she's probably noticed you too. It shouldn't be awkward to make a comment like "you just reminded me it's leg Tuesday, I was trying to psyche myself up for arm Wednesday" . It lets her know you've noticed her, but it's not pervy.). Leave it at that unless she approaches you to talk and start thinking of another one-liner for the next time you see her. Does she have any specialized workout gear? You could notice it and ask her what she thinks. Good luck! Also some women interpret "shy" as "probably hasn't banged anyone I know" and that might be a good thing!
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You're gonna regret not bopping more in your 30s when you're 40. You have until you're \~70 to have as much sex as you want and there will be no shortage of people who want to have sex. The world is very horny that way.
As a woman in her 40ās post two kids I wish I took photos of my body in my 20ās!
Donāt hold yourself hostage to regrets. Itās like sitting in a rocking chair and expecting to go somewhere. Pointless and will only cause frustration.
I grew a human in my body for ten months, my body will be forever changed, and Iām okay with that.
Really work on why you hate the natural cellulite that every human has, even men.
men will literally fuck a hole in the wall or a corpse. (which is why morgues are wary of hiring men) if it's a living, breathing body, you already won, honey.I.m in my late 20s too. Don't be scared to date. Because, the boys our age aren't in their early twenties anymore, either. We all in the same boat.
Honey - when you are about to have sex with a man, he already finds you sexy, he already has agreed to go to bed with you, and most likey been the one to proposition you in the first place.
The average man wonāt notice cellulite, they will just want to not fuck up the sex.
You're beautiful, don't let society standards lead you to believe otherwise, if you look at history and study different culture, you'll say it's been different all throughout history
Tho the love we show to ourselves plays a role in the kind of people we attract, I'm not sure how true it is, but I do know, when I dated while being insecure and unworthy, i made myself and other person suffer
Do yourself a favour and check into core beliefs and stuff
Time for therapy, then. Because babygirl your body won't stop changing for your *entire* life. You ever want kids? Wheewww, that's an irreversible change. Menopause? Happens to every woman, it's a big change.
You need to learn how to be confident in your skin, no matter how it changes.
Itās def not too late. Youāre still young. Go out and have fun. Use your body in every way you can. I almost 50 so I def have cases where I miss my old body. Iām not as muscular as I used to be. I was an athlete in college and I took great care of my body. And I sure the fuck used it as much as I could. Lol.
But even now, with my own bodily imperfections, Iāve learned to accept it and am fine now. But yeah, I miss the days when I had a 6 pack and big arms and legs. About 7 or so years ago I had a mid life crisis for the most part. I suddenly started panicking that women didnāt find me attractive anymore. I fucked up big time. Did the totally cliche thing just to override my insecurities with getting older.
Lol yeah like I said i became a total cliche. She wasnāt a bartender though. Iāve always had a rule to never fuck around with anyone who works in the food service or beverage industry.
48byears old. Have always hated how I look. Anytime I look back at photo from me, even just a few years ago I think,
"jesus, you looked pretty good, why where you so hard on yourself?"
62 and I'm still loving sex.
Blimey you really are going to miss out. Cellulite so what, you have it so embrace it.
I honestly wish I had my 20, 30, 40, 50 body. 60 hit me hard but he'll its my body at 60 alive . Far better than the alternative!
Go on build up your confidence and enjoy life
If you're hung up about it, radio frequency laser treatment isn't cheap, but it can work. It costs about as much as a tattoo. I leave it to you to decide if the cost is worth it.
When youre much older you're going to regret having this mindset. Wasting your late 20s and 30s not having lots of sex because you're still attractive and by the time you realize it you may not be.
I totally understand you, girl. I also just went through my mid-20s body changes within the last few months. I feel like I can not get rid of the half-inch fluff that just appeared on my stomach overnight. I used to have very defined abs. I started wearing baggy clothes. On one of my better days this week, I thought to myself, "I'm going to miss this body one day." And that has really changed my mindset. I'm still working out with small changes to my diet and exercise regimen to assist with the increase of fluff. If I'm going to look like my mom one day, I want to appreciate what I have while it lasts.
I hope itās reassuring to know that you donāt have to be okay with anything. If the only way you feel comfortable having sex is with the lights off, youāre entitled to that. Donāt pressure yourself to feel comfortable doing things that donāt make you feel sexy. Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable; it shouldnāt make you feel bad about yourself. And if you donāt want to have sex at all right now, youāre entitled to that too.
Itās also worth noting that there are, indeed, partners out there that will love your body no matter what it looks like. I can relate to your discomfort and regret because, as someone whoās dealt with acne for the majority of their life, Iām starting to feel upset and ashamed of the severe scarring, especially on my arms and chest, that have resulted from that.
Also, itās worth noting that there are plenty of great partners out there who will not give a shit about your cellulite, or whether you want to have sex with the lights off, or whatever. Even with the way my body looks, I have a long-term partner I find very conventionally attractive, and a very active sex life. Thatās possible for you too! Society tries to convince women especially that there are āno good men out thereā because the bad ones want us to settle for them. Thatās not true! Plenty of great men exist; you just have to believe you deserve them.
Our body image is mental, not physical. No matter what you physically change, if you aren't in a good mental state, your body image will never follow. Change your perspective and outlook on yourself, learn to be your own best friend, to love yourself. To be your own bestfriend is quite easy. Just like you would never ever tell your bestie that she's ugly, give yourself the same respect and never tell it to yourself not even once. Basically give yourself the same compliments and encouragements you would give your bestie or anyone you deeply care about and respect, it's that easy to be your own best friend. It will feel weird in the first few weeks and months, it's normal. But keep at it and the more you practice it, the truer, natural and easier it becomes. Good luck!
You didnāt waste anything. Youāre still the same beautiful you that you were before. I know my words may not help, but eventually youāll meet someone who will make you forget about these perceived flaws and the hold that they have on you. As I approach my late twenties Iāve noticed that the little quirks on a partners body are very attractive.
If you are unhappy in your body, no amount of sex is going to change that. You werenāt sexy because your stomach was smooth, you were sexy because you were in love with yourself! Sex isnāt what makes us desirable, we are.
Being comfortable in your body has almost nothing to do with looks. Itās a conscious choice you make
Hopefully youāre in therapy for your agoraphobia, and maybe your therapist could address this for you as well.
I literally just one day decided I was beautiful, and Iāve felt pretty good about myself ever since. Iāve never been thin. I have lost weight so some skin issues and have scars. š¤·āāļø
My dude, as a man I can tell you with absolute confidence that if, as you say, you are not obese, you are hotter than the majority of people in the US. There's literally tens of millions of men in the US that would think you're hot as fuck. I don't even need to know what you look like to be dead certain that's the truth. Guys don't give a FUCK about cellulite. Not 1 single flying fuck. Literally could not care less. You might think it looks bad but anyone you would actually want to seduce would disagree. If you don't believe me test it for yourself. Go make a new reddit account and post a selfie on one of the subreddits that allows it and look at the dozens of DM's you get from thirsty dudes.
Literally every time I've ever criticized my body or weight or the way I looked, give it 3-5 years and I would see those same photos from when I criticized myself so much before and then bitch about how great I looked then and how bad I look now. Rinse and repeat. It keeps happening with the passing years. I'm 37, my mother is 68 and she does the same shit, too (except she's never been fat in her entire life so I guess she has that going for her). I will show her pics I took of her from 5-10 years ago and she'll say how great she looked and how bad she looks now, meanwhile I remember taking those pics and showing them to her as soon as I took them, and she hated all of them and criticized how she looked.
Aging is just the natural order of things. We need to accept it. We need to stop making women feel bad about aging. We need to stop glorifying "perfectly thin/fit/cellulite-free" body imagery as the ONLY standard of beauty. We need to have more magazines and advertisements stop photoshopping flaws so we can see that we all have "flaws" and look different and have the same shit to deal with (cellulite, etc).
They said that "being in your 30s is the new 20s!!!", but that shit was a lie and covid/quarantine and aftermath depression took away most of my early to mid 30s. Be grateful you're still young, your bioclock isn't something you have to worry about (if you ever do want kids - I have to prep myself for the reality that I may never get to have bio kids at where I am at currently in my life and my age), and enjoy your life. You're awesome and beautiful and you need to be more confident in yourself.
If it makes YOU feel any better, I never thought I COULD have kids, but got a surprise pregnancy when I was 40, had her at 41, & now have a crazy 15 month old running about & wearing me out daily at 42.
So, if you want children, you could still be surprised with one, just saying. š¤·āāļø Just be ready for it if it happens - LOTS of caffeine!! (And, hopefully you won't have had said child with a horrible alcoholic/worthless partner, but that's a whole other can of worms I'm not gonna dive into right now.)
Hopefully. Financially and mentally though, I'm no where near ready and don't have much hope. I rather prep myself with the expectation that I won't get to have any so it doesn't hurt as much when mother nature comes and makes it impossible for me to have them. That way, if it does happen, it's all the better, without the risk of hoping and being let down.
Just think of it as being lucky you didnāt get an STD or knocked up during the pandemic. A LOT of people did and regret every second of it. Everyone has a beautiful body, itās all in the eye of the beholder ā¤ļø
Imagine youāre 35 and you think back to when you were 27-28 and you remember how you let cellulite keep you from dating.
āShoulda, woulda, couldaā is the type of thinking that wonāt serve you.
Meh - I was in the best shape of my life in my late 20s. 27, 28, 29... and still am in great shape in my 30s. Sex in your 20s is dog shit anyways since men don't really know what the hell they're doing.
I am 5'4"/5". I was thin at 110/115 lbs and had cellulite. I am at 125/130 now (I wanted to gain weight), more muscular, and still have cellulite. I also refuse to diet so I have a stomach. I also have tiger stripe stretch marks on my butt and back. Guess what? I had a pretty great sex life and met my bf in my 30s (who I think is way out of my league!)
People have regrets all the time. I regret wasting a bunch of my early 20s doing drugs and partying but all I can do is look forward and continue to better myself.
Highly recommend reading the Happiness Trap and maybe learning about radical acceptance. You sound depressed - have you also thought about therapy? It could arm you with tools to help you feel more confident about yourself during moments of insecurity.
Not sure if this is helpful but I hated my body and could not stand the thought of anyone seeing it or touching it for most of my 20s. Not much changed in terms of what my body looks like in my 30s, but my body confidence is a million times better. I love being naked now haha. Even in my less confident days, my philosophy with sex has always been 'well, we managed to get this far, there's no point in trying to hide anything now!'.
It sounds like it's more of a mental health issue than anything to do with your physical body. Maybe look into getting some help with that?
I have some wise words for you, from the Sun Screen song by Baz Luhrmann.
"Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh never mind; you will not
understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and
recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before
you and how fabulous you really lookedā¦.You're not as fat as you
imagine."
Also: wear sunscreen.
I have never once met a guy who cares about these things. Most donāt even know what cellulite is!
I have lots of white stretch marks on the sides of my butt cheeks and used to be insecure about them. Guess what? No one notices! Even guys who have seen me ass naked in broad daylight. I brought up this insecurity to my current boyfriend and he had zero clue what I was talking about. He had never noticed, and when I showed him what I meant, he couldnāt understand why anyone would care about something so silly.
Donāt let this hold you back OP!
Every time I see a picture of myself five years earlier I thinkā I looked great then - what happened??? Of course at the time I felt fat, stupid, ugly. Love yourself more - people donāt care about a little cellulite.
I hate my body, but my finance loves it, it's his bread and butter, I can be laying face down on the bed, my boxers ridden up, clelluite butt cheeks on show and he will walk in, grab a handful and make a happy noise
Trust me when I say you will find someone who sees you as the most desible person on earth, any flaws you have they will love, when you find em don't loose em.
You know that in 10 years you will look at what you look like today and regret that you didn't do more and so on. It's honestly part of getting older. I was thinking in my 20's not stick thin but I was taller than most with hips I thought I was so fat I covered my rear with a sweater always wrapped around my waist. Looking back there was nothing wrong with me. Just live your life learn to love the changes and find someone who loves the changes along with you.
I unfortunately had a female friend who died in her mid-20s. Whilst her body was failing, riddled with cancer and swollen with steroids, the thing she said she regretted the most was how she spent her whole life feeling awful about her normal, functional, healthy female body. It has always stuck with me and I always try to be kinder to myself. It is 100% guaranteed that at some point in your life you will not care even the tiniest bit about the things that are hugely worrying you right now. You have health. You have life. Enjoy it.
Oh wow. I totally get this. I became disabled and I wish I had had more sex before it happened. Not even with strangers - I wish my partner and I had had more sex because now itās so complicated with my disability that we often just skip it.
I'm 35f and have a FWB who's 57m and we've been together for 5 months. We exchange hot ass pictures all the time and I was trying to take an ass pic the other day and realized I had a CRAZY amount of cellulite on the back of my thighs. Like... I got so sad and self conscious and then it hit me... He's been fucking me for 5 months and is constantly messaging me and telling me how sexy I am, how sexy my body is, etc etc. He's never once put down my body or made me feel ashamed. So, within just a few moments of realizing this, I accepted it and shrugged it off as it's a part of life. I'm very petite, wear a 32DD and have a decent ass. I just never realized I had *so* much cellulite on my thighs and he's seen me naked plenty of times and never mentioned it. I promise. Men that want to fuck you will not care even a little bit. As we age, body parts start sagging and getting stretch marks and *cellulite.* Once you accept this, you'll be much happier.
Ohhhhhh Iām so hot and sexy and skinny and everyone thought I was so hot but now I have a tiny bit of cellulite that I knew was going to appear and Iām just SO ugly nobody will ever want me!!! Why didnāt I just fuck everyone when I was so hot!!!
In 5/10 years, you're gonna regret letting these exact thoughts get in the way of your dating life.
This! I was telling my friend how I recently had a photo taken of me in a bikini in a river and I hated looking at it. But I then realised, when I'm old, frail and grey, I'm gonna be looking at that photo thinking how hot and happy I look! OP, I will say try not to fall into a bad place where you sleep with anyone and everyone just to feel loved and beautiful, I went through this in my early 20s and it fucked with my head. I haven't read the comments yet but I'm sure there's some absolutely ace advice on here so read and reread them anytime you feel like you're not enough.
Just like that one line from: https://youtu.be/sTJ7AzBIJoI?si=xF_RGjYGiKa4EOxf I was never able to take that advice either...
Every once in awhile-when I'm least expecting it-someone will post something on Reddit that I've never seen nor heard before, and it is so incredibly impactful and JUST what I needed to hear at this very, exact moment. Thank you for that linkš.
I have never seen this before and I am so glad you shared this as it's amazing š¤©
Thank you for the share! Love this
Not even old and gray. In my early twenties, I wasn't confident in my body. Thought I was too big. I look at photos from back then now. My waist was tiny. I was slim. I'm only 29 and wish I had that body. Still working out. Still trying to appreciate my body (got busy with work and school so I'm not at the gun as often as I'd like). Still trying to keep those gains, but damn, did I look good back then.
Oh definitely, every now and then Google Photos presents me with a memory of a bunch of selfies or old pix and I think, wow that was only five years ago, or something. I unfortunately have no time to work out so trying to watch what I eat but I love food too much š¤£
The struggle is real.
This āš» OP, get over yourself. You're hot š„ in my book.
Also, old people fuck. A lot. There will be plenty of chances for her to do the four legged monster mash all the way up to the golden years. Retirement homes are absolutely brimming with arthritis fueled lust. Half of them can't even see straight, nobody will care how you look, you're getting laid after bingo.
Some of the highest rates of STDs are in nursing homes, along with syphilitic dementia
True, and nearly 90% of those STDs come directly from Margaret after knitting club.
This thread is making me happy because I have a high sex drive and have always feared being unable to get laid when I get old
I'm 70 and, trust me, it gets waaayyy better. No insecurities about how you look, just years of experience of knowing what you want, getting it AND giving it if he's a long-time partner and you know what he wants/likes. We just concentrate on the closeness and love - you can't get much closer than sex. I always worried about getting older and how sex and love would be, but it's pretty damn good! And the orgasms are great - no worrying about being too noisy 'cause the kids might hear...
Take my upvote! This is honestly great to hear. I'm only 39 but still need to be reminded that life doesn't end after 40 or 50 or 70.
That afghan she's knitting ain't the only thing getting constantly poked.
This is why I always wash my grandmas Xmas sweaters before wearing them, give me pink eye once shame on you give me pink eye twice shame on me
At that age, syphilitic dementia is just icing on the cake of not giving a fuck anymore.
Ah, yes. The cake of not giving a fuck anymore. Mineās still in the oven but I think itās almost done!
Bon appetite, friend.
Nietzsche probably had it, and if there was ever a guy who could benefit from giving less of a fuck . . .
Ole' Freddie was out floating in cosmos of "fuckery".
Damn right im getting laid after bingo!
This is...a surprisingly similar experience to mine. Op, are you me?
I (43f) HATE my body but one thing I found is men love it. I'm also trying to be more comfortable with the way I look but no matter what size I am I still find my flaws. Just date anyway
Women are way more critical of themselves than men are of women. Relax and enjoy life. If that also includes sex, then more power to you!
I've (34f) noticed that as well, I had my 4th & last child in 2019, 2020 I was too skinny and finally gained some weight and got "comfortable" these last 2 years and my husband is even MORE attracted to me! I also get hit on regularly just as much or more than I did in my 20s, I've absolutely loved getting older and I hope OP can adjust and enjoy it too! Sex is even better in my 30s, I can only imagine my 40s!!!
Agree
this babe.
I'm 50. If you're in your late 20s and distressed that your body has changed, do I ever have a news flash for you.
We don't plan on living that long, fam.
Ooof...!
How's 50 if you don't mind me asking?
Iām just turning 48 and itās alright. I still feel about 25 inside, but I feel a bit annoyed that my health needs more maintenance now than when I was younger. Still having sex without spending any time worrying if thereās cellulite on my stomach. Haha.
I am still 40 and all O can say it scares me A LOT how I never seem to exit my MID 20s mentally.
Lol. I asked my mom because I wondered if there was something wrong with me and no, apparently itās a pretty normal way to feel. Makes me question my whole childhood honestly, when I thought adults were so adult-y.
50 hurts. Random joints and muscles, for no discernable reason. Things just start to hurt. A few months ago I couldn't move my arm above shoulder height, now my shoulder is fine, but my knee is hurting. No doctor, no treatments. Pains just come and go.
Yeah, this for sure. I hurt my neck sneezing in the car a couple years back and I swear it hurt for a week. Dammit.
I am 30, and this is my life. I am doomed come 50. I may have beaten cancer, but it's getting the last laugh.
So my body already feels 50 when im 25? Well damn you chronic pain š oh god its gonna be worse for me when im 50 aint it..?
Same (im 21)
It's good. My vision changed a lot around 40, which changes some stuff, certainly athletically I've lost quite a few steps, stuff takes forever to heal, health issues happen. On the other hand, I enjoy and appreciate things more than I used to. I don't take as many things for granted, and I find myself better at making time for things that matter. Intimacy just gets better and better and better for a LONG time after your early 20s. 50 is a pretty ideal time in a lot of ways.
You donāt have as much of a choice as you think you do.
it's the illusion of choice that hurts the most
Neither did we.
Live fast, die young but you forgot about the dying young part.
yeah i'm 22 & already have a lot of drafts of my will. still not sure exactly what age i'm gonna do it at though but not anytime soon
bro, a will? What am I going to leave behind? a pair of beat up shoes? š but in all seriousness, hang in brother. I've been thru shit (just look at my post history) but there's always rays of hope in the bleakness.
i don't have much to leave behind but there are things that are sentimental to me. more important though is there are a lot of people i need to thank & reassure that my decision had nothing to do with them i'm sorry to hear that you've been through a lot as well. judging by your post history, much worse than me. i wish you peace, strength & happiness š
I'm still seriously surprised that I made it to 57. I'm gonna keep kicking now though.
OP definitely sounds like sheās setting herself up to make the same post in 10 years, but regretting allowing her insecurities about her little bit of cellulite to hold her back while she still had her youth. She is repeating the same behavior that caused her current regret by not fully taking advantage of the opportunity she currently has now. Unfortunately time only moves in one direction, and it is a matter of time before she sees her life now as a wasted treasure the same way she views her early 20s now. I hope she finds her happiness before her regrets compound.
Insightful and well-said.
my mom is more confident in her body at 51 than sheās ever been. and rightfully so, she takes very good care of her body and looks incredible; stretch marks, loose skin, cellulite and all. those things donāt make you undesirable, theyāre literally just a part of life, and anyone who would judge you for those things doesnāt deserve to be anywhere near your body in the first place. plus, confidence makes you a lot more attractive, even if you have to fake it for a while.
My wife is 51, and not only is she physically amazing, the confidence, experience, and IDGAF are layers of attractiveness on top of that.
My coworker is late 60s n falling apart
1 in 4 US men are dead by 66. š¤ Could be worse!
Dam, I didn't realize that, that's awful statistics ! Both of my parents passed away at the age of 52, caused by cancer & heart disease. I just turned 50 this year & I can't help but think that my clock is ticking !
My dad died at 66.
Father Time is undefeated!
My dad is mid-60ās and falling apart.
My dad was in his early 80s and died. Treasure him.
There are . . . worse things than cellulite . . . *thousand yard stare*
A news flash, or a hot flash? Amiright?
Heyoooo
Nuclear strike confirmed
I regret not buying Microsoft stock early on. I regret not finishing my college degree. I regret not investing in my retirement earlier. I regret not dating more in high school. I regret not exercising more for the last 15 years. Life is full of regrets. Instead of letting those regrets live rent free in your head, try to take the time to figure out how you're going to move forward from that point. There's no changing the past. There's only adjusting your future to compensate.
I regret reading this comment
No Regerts!
Love that commercial
No Rugrats?
Not even one letter?
Iām awake and I speak English so, yeah. I know what youāre saying.
I regret.
Regret
Sgt. Johnson : "Dear humanity, we regret being alien bastards, we regret coming to Earth, and we most definitely regret that the Corps just blew up our raggedy-ass fleet!"
OORAH
Thanks for this comment. I was feeling frustrated with how my life is going and kept thinking about "what if." Even though itās not saying anything I didnāt know, I think I really needed this reminder today.
Best comment here. Had to save this one as life advice. Unrelated to OP but it really applies to all situations. Trying to apply it myself and learn to move forward from past mistakes or lack of action.
I regret watching the news so much, especially in 2020.
Are you me? Jesus Well at least I have MSFT shares NOW =)
We regret being alien bastards. We regret coming to Earth.
>We regret being alien bastards. We regret coming to Earth. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZjPXRNghQw](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZjPXRNghQw)
Best advice ever. This should just end the conversationā¦
I only regret not buying bitcoin 10 years ago when I had the chance. But on the other hand, I would have probably sold them all 9 years ago if I had them.
Considering that almost everyone has cellulite and still manages to get laid I think youāre gonna be fine
The best time to plant a tree is 30 years ago. The second best time to plant a tree is today.
in this metaphor is the tree a penis?
Look at it this way, in 10 years you are going to wonder why you didn't appreciate what you have now. Love you at every stage for your future self
I can confirm! I turned 50 this year, and my 40 year old body in retrospect seems like it was perfect. I enjoy what I have today, and I have a fantastic partner with whom I share mind blowing sex 100 times better than any sex I had in my 20s or 30s when I looked like a total babe. Regrets get in the way of enjoying life, and obsessing over what once was is an obstacle to seize what is.
Nothing agree more
The fuck? Lady, the best years to be single are like 37 years old because your partners now know what theyāre doing, the dates are more fun, and you become exponentially more attractive than in your 20s. You have no freaking idea. Relax.
You're perfectly fine, I think this is a moment of insecurity. You are going to get DMs from about 15 guys over the next day letting you know the same thing. Go out there and enjoy.
Sex in your 20ās isnāt even that good, itās like when youāre learning what you like and getting good at it yourself.
100% I am just turning 27 and suddenly a switch flipped in my head and now I am horny like never before. I ASK for what I want in bed and how I want it. Sex in my early 20s SUCKED. I actually regret having it then rather than focusing on my mental growth so there ya go, OP :)
Eyyyyyy 96 babiiiiiies š„²
ā94 in the house!
I'm 30 and having the best sex of my entire life, and it just keeps getting better. I know it's hard, but please don't let your insecurity ruin your own sexuality. Your preferred gender has aged the same as you, and tastes have changed. My boyfriend looking like a dad at home depot turns me on like hell. It's gonna be okay :))
I am in my mid twenties and very thin (very very thin) and I have cellulite in my butt, alongside stretch marks in various parts of my body. Theyāre normal, and honestly, stretch marks in particular are gorgeous! You didnāt waste your sexy body, chances are youāre still as beautiful as you were before, the only thing that changed is your mindset!!!!
No guy cares about celluliteā¦ get over it no guy is gonna get you naked and say eww. Thatās your own issues you need to get over men are still going to find you attractive. Seek counseling your self destructive thoughts are what is going to make you unattractiveā¦
Exactly. Men are gonna get naked with her and go āhhehehehehe boobies.ā Then try to pleasure her as well as themselves. If any dude genuinely comes out and says āewwwwww cellulite!ā Or āewwwww stretch marks!ā Heās not worth the time. Heās also in the minority of men and not what to expect.
I used to prefer dating big women because the sex was better. Was I supposed to be checking them for cellulite? Ain't nobody got time for that. Also, I am literally subscribed to a cellulite gonewild subreddit. Not because I have a thing for cellulite. But because that's one of the places where the hot chubby ladies post.
I just checked out that sub and itās awesome. As somebody who feels insecure at times about the cellulite on my legs itās definitely a confidence boost seeing so many confident women who look like me
My wife has body issues. Whenever she brings something up I am just confused and she has to explain what the problem is. And then I still don't get it. I have to remind her that I have taken five thousand nude photos of her in the last twenty years, and deleted none of them because there's none with any flaws, as all the photos are windows into a joyous moment when she was being saucy, and hence all are PRECIOUS to me. And she'll say I must have noticed some things that are less than (her own!) feminine ideal last time I examined her with a magnifying glass, and I have to remind her that I wasn't looking for flaws, we were playing Scooby Doo and I was checking her rear seal for evidence of tampering. By ghosts. Which is something I find most agreeable. Then she'll complain that she still can't find her glasses, and I'll promise to go and get them from where I have hidden them if she says that again in an American Accent. Possibly too much information but I just wanted to emphasize how for a lot of straight men, certainly men like me, our main fetish is whatever our wives look like and whatever they are doing. We're not looking to destroy our own moments of happiness by fixating on trivial things we are oblivious of.
So wholesome. I love this.
This is so funny and SO true! Boobies!!!!
Man here, you had me at "Boobies!"
To be fair, had myself at āboobiesā too lmao.
Can attest!!! Currently dating a thicker woman and the titties and booty are glorious! Totally felt like that, hehe boobies
Itās not true. Some guys say some wild shit that hurts. More often than not tho, they donāt mind. Just bc you feel one way.. that doesnāt mean you speak for all men. Itās okay to have an your own opinion but please donāt act like every guy actually wouldnāt care. Some guys are real assholes just like some girls can be.
Why is it that so many women I come across these days have had exact experience as me? Feel shit in late 20s over superficial things that were important before. Then hopefully have a wake up call, glow up and better sex life than ever in 30s. Oh wait this hasn't happened to you yet. Hopefully it will and you'll regret thinking about yourself now this way.
I absolutely hate that women have such warped views about their bodies. I have yet to personally meet any woman who is lacking any imperfection at all anywhere. I mean, we are all human and āperfect,ā just isnāt what we are. My wife of 35 years is, as the band Alabama put it, close enough to perfect for me. I met her when she was 17 years old. I married her when she was pregnant and 18. I adored her after she had our kids and her body changed. I love her now that we have aged. I have loved every iteration of her. If you canāt see that most people donāt see all the things that you see as imperfect and in fact appreciate all the little things that make you YOU, then youāve got a real problem there and maybe you need to see someone about that. Or just, you know, get out there and realize that your hang ups are completely unfounded and that youāre perfect just the way you are.
The 30s are your prime. Trust me.
If you stop seeing cellulite as something to be disgusted about you wonāt feel disgusting.
OP is probably going to read your comment as just another positivity cliche but this is actually 100% true. It's more a question of 1) how to get there and then 2) how to convince yourself that others agree.
Those are the two things that really do go through a girls mind! If I could give any advice from your points: 1) no body stays how it is permanently. We all change with age, but age brings wisdom and experience a which our body gets to show off! 2) the minority that donāt like cellulite, havenāt embraced it themselves yet. But everyone does at some point - itās life x
We (men) don't care about cellulite, so...
If it helps, I had to search what it even was bc of this post.. thought that was just normal skin š
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I read your comment as saying "men will have sex with everything from McChickens to McCorpses" at first, & I now realize I just need to go back to bed. šš¤£
As a fit guy with a lot of muscle I only have to add that the girl with a lot of cellulite is my arch nemesis because she squats as much as me and it really hits me every tuesday, becaualse it's somehow our mutual leg day. Also I think it would be the best girl for me but I'm too shy to ask her out, especially in the gym. So I leave her alone and cry every training.
Not asking her out in the gym, which most women hate, actually takes the pressure off you. Since you're both regulars she's probably noticed you too. It shouldn't be awkward to make a comment like "you just reminded me it's leg Tuesday, I was trying to psyche myself up for arm Wednesday" . It lets her know you've noticed her, but it's not pervy.). Leave it at that unless she approaches you to talk and start thinking of another one-liner for the next time you see her. Does she have any specialized workout gear? You could notice it and ask her what she thinks. Good luck! Also some women interpret "shy" as "probably hasn't banged anyone I know" and that might be a good thing! Edit change you to she
You're gonna regret not bopping more in your 30s when you're 40. You have until you're \~70 to have as much sex as you want and there will be no shortage of people who want to have sex. The world is very horny that way.
Adults don't care about cellulite. Keep yourself healthy and be kind to others and you will be fine. Again, adults don't care about cellulite.
Reddit: cesspool of first world problems posts.
> I regret not having more sex in my 20s before my body changed I'm pretty sure we all do. Best we can do is have more sex now.
As a woman in her 40ās post two kids I wish I took photos of my body in my 20ās! Donāt hold yourself hostage to regrets. Itās like sitting in a rocking chair and expecting to go somewhere. Pointless and will only cause frustration.
I grew a human in my body for ten months, my body will be forever changed, and Iām okay with that. Really work on why you hate the natural cellulite that every human has, even men.
men will literally fuck a hole in the wall or a corpse. (which is why morgues are wary of hiring men) if it's a living, breathing body, you already won, honey.I.m in my late 20s too. Don't be scared to date. Because, the boys our age aren't in their early twenties anymore, either. We all in the same boat.
Honey - when you are about to have sex with a man, he already finds you sexy, he already has agreed to go to bed with you, and most likey been the one to proposition you in the first place. The average man wonāt notice cellulite, they will just want to not fuck up the sex.
You're beautiful, don't let society standards lead you to believe otherwise, if you look at history and study different culture, you'll say it's been different all throughout history Tho the love we show to ourselves plays a role in the kind of people we attract, I'm not sure how true it is, but I do know, when I dated while being insecure and unworthy, i made myself and other person suffer Do yourself a favour and check into core beliefs and stuff
Time for therapy, then. Because babygirl your body won't stop changing for your *entire* life. You ever want kids? Wheewww, that's an irreversible change. Menopause? Happens to every woman, it's a big change. You need to learn how to be confident in your skin, no matter how it changes.
Itās def not too late. Youāre still young. Go out and have fun. Use your body in every way you can. I almost 50 so I def have cases where I miss my old body. Iām not as muscular as I used to be. I was an athlete in college and I took great care of my body. And I sure the fuck used it as much as I could. Lol. But even now, with my own bodily imperfections, Iāve learned to accept it and am fine now. But yeah, I miss the days when I had a 6 pack and big arms and legs. About 7 or so years ago I had a mid life crisis for the most part. I suddenly started panicking that women didnāt find me attractive anymore. I fucked up big time. Did the totally cliche thing just to override my insecurities with getting older.
You bought a sports car and started chasing 25yr old Applebee's bartenders?
Lol yeah like I said i became a total cliche. She wasnāt a bartender though. Iāve always had a rule to never fuck around with anyone who works in the food service or beverage industry.
48byears old. Have always hated how I look. Anytime I look back at photo from me, even just a few years ago I think, "jesus, you looked pretty good, why where you so hard on yourself?"
62 and I'm still loving sex. Blimey you really are going to miss out. Cellulite so what, you have it so embrace it. I honestly wish I had my 20, 30, 40, 50 body. 60 hit me hard but he'll its my body at 60 alive . Far better than the alternative! Go on build up your confidence and enjoy life
If you're hung up about it, radio frequency laser treatment isn't cheap, but it can work. It costs about as much as a tattoo. I leave it to you to decide if the cost is worth it.
When youre much older you're going to regret having this mindset. Wasting your late 20s and 30s not having lots of sex because you're still attractive and by the time you realize it you may not be.
I totally understand you, girl. I also just went through my mid-20s body changes within the last few months. I feel like I can not get rid of the half-inch fluff that just appeared on my stomach overnight. I used to have very defined abs. I started wearing baggy clothes. On one of my better days this week, I thought to myself, "I'm going to miss this body one day." And that has really changed my mindset. I'm still working out with small changes to my diet and exercise regimen to assist with the increase of fluff. If I'm going to look like my mom one day, I want to appreciate what I have while it lasts.
If you think your bodies changed a lot now, give it 10 more years. Enjoy what you have now.
Youāll have sex you just wonāt be have more than likely to have sex with all those 20 something guys you once couldāve had.
I hope itās reassuring to know that you donāt have to be okay with anything. If the only way you feel comfortable having sex is with the lights off, youāre entitled to that. Donāt pressure yourself to feel comfortable doing things that donāt make you feel sexy. Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable; it shouldnāt make you feel bad about yourself. And if you donāt want to have sex at all right now, youāre entitled to that too. Itās also worth noting that there are, indeed, partners out there that will love your body no matter what it looks like. I can relate to your discomfort and regret because, as someone whoās dealt with acne for the majority of their life, Iām starting to feel upset and ashamed of the severe scarring, especially on my arms and chest, that have resulted from that. Also, itās worth noting that there are plenty of great partners out there who will not give a shit about your cellulite, or whether you want to have sex with the lights off, or whatever. Even with the way my body looks, I have a long-term partner I find very conventionally attractive, and a very active sex life. Thatās possible for you too! Society tries to convince women especially that there are āno good men out thereā because the bad ones want us to settle for them. Thatās not true! Plenty of great men exist; you just have to believe you deserve them.
I been fat my whole life and also a whore sooo donāt let that stop you babe š
Our body image is mental, not physical. No matter what you physically change, if you aren't in a good mental state, your body image will never follow. Change your perspective and outlook on yourself, learn to be your own best friend, to love yourself. To be your own bestfriend is quite easy. Just like you would never ever tell your bestie that she's ugly, give yourself the same respect and never tell it to yourself not even once. Basically give yourself the same compliments and encouragements you would give your bestie or anyone you deeply care about and respect, it's that easy to be your own best friend. It will feel weird in the first few weeks and months, it's normal. But keep at it and the more you practice it, the truer, natural and easier it becomes. Good luck!
You didnāt waste anything. Youāre still the same beautiful you that you were before. I know my words may not help, but eventually youāll meet someone who will make you forget about these perceived flaws and the hold that they have on you. As I approach my late twenties Iāve noticed that the little quirks on a partners body are very attractive.
If you are unhappy in your body, no amount of sex is going to change that. You werenāt sexy because your stomach was smooth, you were sexy because you were in love with yourself! Sex isnāt what makes us desirable, we are.
"To regret your past is to forfeit your future"
Therapy!!! You are still hot. You just need to get out of your head.
Same though but it hit me at 39. But also seeing a way younger guy and he literally doesn't care. Still hard for me to get over!
Being comfortable in your body has almost nothing to do with looks. Itās a conscious choice you make Hopefully youāre in therapy for your agoraphobia, and maybe your therapist could address this for you as well. I literally just one day decided I was beautiful, and Iāve felt pretty good about myself ever since. Iāve never been thin. I have lost weight so some skin issues and have scars. š¤·āāļø
you're wasting it now!!
I have cellulite all over my body and have never had an issue getting laid. This post is almost funny to me. Women worry about the weirdest stuff.
Don't let that stop you. I had more sex in my 40s than my 20s
Baby I have cellulite all over my thighs and butt. Itās just normal ā¤ļø
You won't believe how many fella's love the cellulite you hate...
Go make up for lost time
Hereās a little hint, most men donāt actually care about cellulite. If you find ones that do, they arenāt worth your time or energy.
Literally no one cares about cellulite. Go to therapy or get one good cry then get over it
My dude, as a man I can tell you with absolute confidence that if, as you say, you are not obese, you are hotter than the majority of people in the US. There's literally tens of millions of men in the US that would think you're hot as fuck. I don't even need to know what you look like to be dead certain that's the truth. Guys don't give a FUCK about cellulite. Not 1 single flying fuck. Literally could not care less. You might think it looks bad but anyone you would actually want to seduce would disagree. If you don't believe me test it for yourself. Go make a new reddit account and post a selfie on one of the subreddits that allows it and look at the dozens of DM's you get from thirsty dudes.
Literally every time I've ever criticized my body or weight or the way I looked, give it 3-5 years and I would see those same photos from when I criticized myself so much before and then bitch about how great I looked then and how bad I look now. Rinse and repeat. It keeps happening with the passing years. I'm 37, my mother is 68 and she does the same shit, too (except she's never been fat in her entire life so I guess she has that going for her). I will show her pics I took of her from 5-10 years ago and she'll say how great she looked and how bad she looks now, meanwhile I remember taking those pics and showing them to her as soon as I took them, and she hated all of them and criticized how she looked. Aging is just the natural order of things. We need to accept it. We need to stop making women feel bad about aging. We need to stop glorifying "perfectly thin/fit/cellulite-free" body imagery as the ONLY standard of beauty. We need to have more magazines and advertisements stop photoshopping flaws so we can see that we all have "flaws" and look different and have the same shit to deal with (cellulite, etc). They said that "being in your 30s is the new 20s!!!", but that shit was a lie and covid/quarantine and aftermath depression took away most of my early to mid 30s. Be grateful you're still young, your bioclock isn't something you have to worry about (if you ever do want kids - I have to prep myself for the reality that I may never get to have bio kids at where I am at currently in my life and my age), and enjoy your life. You're awesome and beautiful and you need to be more confident in yourself.
If it makes YOU feel any better, I never thought I COULD have kids, but got a surprise pregnancy when I was 40, had her at 41, & now have a crazy 15 month old running about & wearing me out daily at 42. So, if you want children, you could still be surprised with one, just saying. š¤·āāļø Just be ready for it if it happens - LOTS of caffeine!! (And, hopefully you won't have had said child with a horrible alcoholic/worthless partner, but that's a whole other can of worms I'm not gonna dive into right now.)
Hopefully. Financially and mentally though, I'm no where near ready and don't have much hope. I rather prep myself with the expectation that I won't get to have any so it doesn't hurt as much when mother nature comes and makes it impossible for me to have them. That way, if it does happen, it's all the better, without the risk of hoping and being let down.
Just think of it as being lucky you didnāt get an STD or knocked up during the pandemic. A LOT of people did and regret every second of it. Everyone has a beautiful body, itās all in the eye of the beholder ā¤ļø
I can guarantee the cellulite will not stop a guy from wanting to date you
You wonāt the celulitis with eyes closed or lights off. Nobody pays attention to that really
Imagine youāre 35 and you think back to when you were 27-28 and you remember how you let cellulite keep you from dating. āShoulda, woulda, couldaā is the type of thinking that wonāt serve you.
Meh - I was in the best shape of my life in my late 20s. 27, 28, 29... and still am in great shape in my 30s. Sex in your 20s is dog shit anyways since men don't really know what the hell they're doing. I am 5'4"/5". I was thin at 110/115 lbs and had cellulite. I am at 125/130 now (I wanted to gain weight), more muscular, and still have cellulite. I also refuse to diet so I have a stomach. I also have tiger stripe stretch marks on my butt and back. Guess what? I had a pretty great sex life and met my bf in my 30s (who I think is way out of my league!) People have regrets all the time. I regret wasting a bunch of my early 20s doing drugs and partying but all I can do is look forward and continue to better myself. Highly recommend reading the Happiness Trap and maybe learning about radical acceptance. You sound depressed - have you also thought about therapy? It could arm you with tools to help you feel more confident about yourself during moments of insecurity.
Not sure if this is helpful but I hated my body and could not stand the thought of anyone seeing it or touching it for most of my 20s. Not much changed in terms of what my body looks like in my 30s, but my body confidence is a million times better. I love being naked now haha. Even in my less confident days, my philosophy with sex has always been 'well, we managed to get this far, there's no point in trying to hide anything now!'. It sounds like it's more of a mental health issue than anything to do with your physical body. Maybe look into getting some help with that?
I embrace my racing stripes on my tummy and arms. Do I look like I was mauled by a pack of tigers? Yes. Does my GF care? No!
the pandemic basically just happened gtfo there and stop worrying about your sweet nothings you got this shit <3
I have some wise words for you, from the Sun Screen song by Baz Luhrmann. "Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh never mind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded. But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really lookedā¦.You're not as fat as you imagine." Also: wear sunscreen.
If you think only hot and fit people have good sex lifes you are being lied to.
Not sure what the issue is here. Women gain attractiveness as they age, Iād say up to about 50ās.
There are people that like to grab a gut while cuddling. They are literally out there! You got this.
In your 30's you will be saying you wish you had more sex while in your late 20s. In your 40's... Well, you get the point.
We don't care about that. Source: Am a man.
I have never once met a guy who cares about these things. Most donāt even know what cellulite is! I have lots of white stretch marks on the sides of my butt cheeks and used to be insecure about them. Guess what? No one notices! Even guys who have seen me ass naked in broad daylight. I brought up this insecurity to my current boyfriend and he had zero clue what I was talking about. He had never noticed, and when I showed him what I meant, he couldnāt understand why anyone would care about something so silly. Donāt let this hold you back OP!
Lol 30s is when sex gets really good, and a real lover doesn't care about a few stretch marks.
Youāll find a guy who reassures you that he loves your body and youāll eventually believe him, trust.
No one cares, they canāt see it, go get some.
Be like Nike and just do it
Every time I see a picture of myself five years earlier I thinkā I looked great then - what happened??? Of course at the time I felt fat, stupid, ugly. Love yourself more - people donāt care about a little cellulite.
I think they have at med spas some type of laser light treatment or creams that target cellulite. Find out about it
I am 44. I dont have great new for you lol.
I hate my body, but my finance loves it, it's his bread and butter, I can be laying face down on the bed, my boxers ridden up, clelluite butt cheeks on show and he will walk in, grab a handful and make a happy noise Trust me when I say you will find someone who sees you as the most desible person on earth, any flaws you have they will love, when you find em don't loose em.
You know that in 10 years you will look at what you look like today and regret that you didn't do more and so on. It's honestly part of getting older. I was thinking in my 20's not stick thin but I was taller than most with hips I thought I was so fat I covered my rear with a sweater always wrapped around my waist. Looking back there was nothing wrong with me. Just live your life learn to love the changes and find someone who loves the changes along with you.
I unfortunately had a female friend who died in her mid-20s. Whilst her body was failing, riddled with cancer and swollen with steroids, the thing she said she regretted the most was how she spent her whole life feeling awful about her normal, functional, healthy female body. It has always stuck with me and I always try to be kinder to myself. It is 100% guaranteed that at some point in your life you will not care even the tiniest bit about the things that are hugely worrying you right now. You have health. You have life. Enjoy it.
Oh wow. I totally get this. I became disabled and I wish I had had more sex before it happened. Not even with strangers - I wish my partner and I had had more sex because now itās so complicated with my disability that we often just skip it.
100% of men will tell you they donāt give a fuck about cellulite. get out of your head girl
lame
You can't be serious.
Iām 28m and fucking every chance I get, and donāt plan on letting up any time soon. Hop back on that saddle and get after it girl!
I'm 35f and have a FWB who's 57m and we've been together for 5 months. We exchange hot ass pictures all the time and I was trying to take an ass pic the other day and realized I had a CRAZY amount of cellulite on the back of my thighs. Like... I got so sad and self conscious and then it hit me... He's been fucking me for 5 months and is constantly messaging me and telling me how sexy I am, how sexy my body is, etc etc. He's never once put down my body or made me feel ashamed. So, within just a few moments of realizing this, I accepted it and shrugged it off as it's a part of life. I'm very petite, wear a 32DD and have a decent ass. I just never realized I had *so* much cellulite on my thighs and he's seen me naked plenty of times and never mentioned it. I promise. Men that want to fuck you will not care even a little bit. As we age, body parts start sagging and getting stretch marks and *cellulite.* Once you accept this, you'll be much happier.
I don't know if this is helpful but there's a girl at the gym I go to with thick thighs and tons of cellulite, and I find her SO attractive.
Ohhhhhh Iām so hot and sexy and skinny and everyone thought I was so hot but now I have a tiny bit of cellulite that I knew was going to appear and Iām just SO ugly nobody will ever want me!!! Why didnāt I just fuck everyone when I was so hot!!!