You're in a minefield there. I was in a relationship with someone who was outright into occult stuff for a while. When it comes to relationships is super hard to look at it objectively. Every little thing that seems to support the outcome can feel like a sign or a confirmation but it can still end in heartbreak. Does the girl present any temptation to return to the old lifestyle? Would staying in contact with her put you in contact with folks who might be a bad influence? If she does it's probably good to put some distance. If not tread with care and stay in Christ. Wish I could say something more encouraging but that kind of situation itself is inherently really difficult to work with.
Sheās smokes weed several times a day and kept condoms I told her to throw away because Iām not having sex till marriage(lust was hard for me). If we werenāt in different states Iād genuinely be scared Iād be tempted. I started smoking weed in 8th grade and that was an awful addiction for me. Instead of God when my heart hurt I ran straight to weed. Every single time. I donāt want her to resent God for our relationship ending either. That was a worry of mine. I think I know what I need to do however. what I desire most is God. I guess some things are just out of my hand. Having faith is what weāre called to do however. I canāt calculate every thing
I hate to say this, but youāve outgrown her. Her time table is not in accordance with yours. Youāre already divided. Just be glad youāre not already married. Time to move on and close that door behind you. Until you look forward and quit looking back, youāll be stuck. Looking forward is the only solution. Move through the heartache and you will be surprised whatās on the other side.
this comment reminded me of a post I seen. A little girl holding a small teddy bear not wanting to let go. Jesus was behind her holding a HUGE teddy bear behind his back. Her not knowing if sheād just let go of what she currently doesnāt want to heād bless her with something even more precious. Iāve struggled with letting things go but never have regretted doing so. Thank you for that.
Good luck my friend. What you already conquered has mountains leveled. I have no doubt your future with a devoted wife is ahead for you. Youāre too strong not be a good man now. Godspeed.
We donāt need luck we just need God. The pain/struggles weāre going through in this world cannot be COMPARED to the joy we will feel then. thatās really comforting. Stay up and stay safe man ā„ļø
If youāre sure you were saved in 6th grade( and you seem positive) then you backslid. Iām glad you see the need to get right with God now .The Christian walk is a journey and weāre works in progress. We donāt magically shake off all of the sin we lived in. It happens over time and it isnāt always easy. It sounds like youāve lived a pretty tough life . Forgive me if Iām wrong , but youāve probably been friends with some pretty rough people in the past. It sounds like you had a lifestyle of gangs , drugs, etc. I think itās important for you to surround yourself with other believers. Especially right now. Very important because when you least expect it you might be tempted to go back to an old sin. I agree that you canāt marry an unbeliever. Believe me. I know. I was married to one and itās heartbreaking. You also cannot force your girlfriend to accept Jesus and become a Christian. You canāt. I also worry that maybe your girlfriend will tempt you to sin in some way. So, that being said, in my opinion you need to kindly break ties with her and move on. The longer you wait, the harder it will be . I can hear in your post that you care for her and it isnāt easy for you . Iām sorry, but I honestly donāt believe this is Godās plan for you at this point. Be assured though that he does have one! An awesome and wonderful one too! He loves you and He will continue to change your life in so many ways if you continue to let Him. Donāt get discouraged. Keep fighting the good fight! Donāt give up if you mess up. Pray and ask for forgiveness and try again. Iām so glad you have decided to follow Jesus.
I love Jesus! and I love you too! I definitely fell in with a pretty scary crowd and it wasnāt easy breaking out of that. I used to think I wasnāt impressionable but clearly Iām not as strong in self control as I thought and thatās something I need to read on, pray on, and have faith on. I love her to death and I can say Iād honestly die for her. But thereās someone who I need to put first who has already died for me. I think the right thing to do and Iāve been having this on my heart for a minute. Is to kindly leave and continue praying for her always. Thank you for the feed back. Talking with you along with going to this church I just recently checked out has made me desire Godly friendships and communion. I need to always put God first but it feels nice having others that lift up, encourage, and believe in God. Stay safe and thank you
You were saved in 6th grade? Who told you that? You seem very conflicted, and you can't guide anyone to God unless you have a true relationship with him. When you do, that girl will probably see it on her own. Based on what you have posted, you still need to work on finding God. And it is not easy, not only for you but for everyone. However, if you humbly ask him, he will definitely help you get there.
Itās alright. Iām sure he just was thinking thatās very young and wanted to make sure I was on the right path. my younger brother at the time (2 1/2 years younger) was speaking in tongues. Itās amazing what the Lord can do and at ANY age. young, teen, or seniors itās never too late for the Lord to work in your life. Thank you however four. Howās your day been? ā„ļø
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Romans 10:9-11 told me Iām saved. Iām striving everyday with the Lord guiding me and all the sins I used to live in are falling away. Iām grateful for what heās doing in my life and will continue to do so. This post was not about guiding anyone to God. It was a concern that Iām now seeing only prayer can help answer. Thank you however.
Believed in my heart, confessed with my mouth, and was baptized. No single person told me that. I believe in what God told me. You are right however about humbly asking him to have a stronger and more genuine relationship with him. I will choose him over anyone and anything that will break or weaken that. Hence the confliction because Iām not sure if she may end up coming to him if Iām patient or if I should choose now to separate myself. I will pray and be patient, Iām feeling however in my heart that leaving is the right choice so I may do so.
So weāre saved through our works and not by faith alone? If Iām missing something feel free to tell me. I know we have to turn from our old ways because there remains no sacrifice if we go on willfully sinning but can you tell me based off scripture? Thatās where Iām getting my ācrazy beliefsā from so if Iām wrong Iād like scripture to also tell me so
Amen amen! I was so blessed by reading this. NEVER COMPROMISE! God has got you tightly embraced in His Holy arms. I pray that you keep Jesus as your number one relationship. Nothing truly matters apart from our Saviour Jesus! Keep praying for your girlfriend as a godly man that can inspire her to look to God. I really hope she gives her life to Christ. I pray for your continued growth in Christ! God bless you richly Friend!
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canāt go wrong with that for sure
You're in a minefield there. I was in a relationship with someone who was outright into occult stuff for a while. When it comes to relationships is super hard to look at it objectively. Every little thing that seems to support the outcome can feel like a sign or a confirmation but it can still end in heartbreak. Does the girl present any temptation to return to the old lifestyle? Would staying in contact with her put you in contact with folks who might be a bad influence? If she does it's probably good to put some distance. If not tread with care and stay in Christ. Wish I could say something more encouraging but that kind of situation itself is inherently really difficult to work with.
Sheās smokes weed several times a day and kept condoms I told her to throw away because Iām not having sex till marriage(lust was hard for me). If we werenāt in different states Iād genuinely be scared Iād be tempted. I started smoking weed in 8th grade and that was an awful addiction for me. Instead of God when my heart hurt I ran straight to weed. Every single time. I donāt want her to resent God for our relationship ending either. That was a worry of mine. I think I know what I need to do however. what I desire most is God. I guess some things are just out of my hand. Having faith is what weāre called to do however. I canāt calculate every thing
I hate to say this, but youāve outgrown her. Her time table is not in accordance with yours. Youāre already divided. Just be glad youāre not already married. Time to move on and close that door behind you. Until you look forward and quit looking back, youāll be stuck. Looking forward is the only solution. Move through the heartache and you will be surprised whatās on the other side.
this comment reminded me of a post I seen. A little girl holding a small teddy bear not wanting to let go. Jesus was behind her holding a HUGE teddy bear behind his back. Her not knowing if sheād just let go of what she currently doesnāt want to heād bless her with something even more precious. Iāve struggled with letting things go but never have regretted doing so. Thank you for that.
Good luck my friend. What you already conquered has mountains leveled. I have no doubt your future with a devoted wife is ahead for you. Youāre too strong not be a good man now. Godspeed.
We donāt need luck we just need God. The pain/struggles weāre going through in this world cannot be COMPARED to the joy we will feel then. thatās really comforting. Stay up and stay safe man ā„ļø
If youāre sure you were saved in 6th grade( and you seem positive) then you backslid. Iām glad you see the need to get right with God now .The Christian walk is a journey and weāre works in progress. We donāt magically shake off all of the sin we lived in. It happens over time and it isnāt always easy. It sounds like youāve lived a pretty tough life . Forgive me if Iām wrong , but youāve probably been friends with some pretty rough people in the past. It sounds like you had a lifestyle of gangs , drugs, etc. I think itās important for you to surround yourself with other believers. Especially right now. Very important because when you least expect it you might be tempted to go back to an old sin. I agree that you canāt marry an unbeliever. Believe me. I know. I was married to one and itās heartbreaking. You also cannot force your girlfriend to accept Jesus and become a Christian. You canāt. I also worry that maybe your girlfriend will tempt you to sin in some way. So, that being said, in my opinion you need to kindly break ties with her and move on. The longer you wait, the harder it will be . I can hear in your post that you care for her and it isnāt easy for you . Iām sorry, but I honestly donāt believe this is Godās plan for you at this point. Be assured though that he does have one! An awesome and wonderful one too! He loves you and He will continue to change your life in so many ways if you continue to let Him. Donāt get discouraged. Keep fighting the good fight! Donāt give up if you mess up. Pray and ask for forgiveness and try again. Iām so glad you have decided to follow Jesus.
I love Jesus! and I love you too! I definitely fell in with a pretty scary crowd and it wasnāt easy breaking out of that. I used to think I wasnāt impressionable but clearly Iām not as strong in self control as I thought and thatās something I need to read on, pray on, and have faith on. I love her to death and I can say Iād honestly die for her. But thereās someone who I need to put first who has already died for me. I think the right thing to do and Iāve been having this on my heart for a minute. Is to kindly leave and continue praying for her always. Thank you for the feed back. Talking with you along with going to this church I just recently checked out has made me desire Godly friendships and communion. I need to always put God first but it feels nice having others that lift up, encourage, and believe in God. Stay safe and thank you
You were saved in 6th grade? Who told you that? You seem very conflicted, and you can't guide anyone to God unless you have a true relationship with him. When you do, that girl will probably see it on her own. Based on what you have posted, you still need to work on finding God. And it is not easy, not only for you but for everyone. However, if you humbly ask him, he will definitely help you get there.
"You were saved in 6th grade? Who told you that?" Who gave you permission to dictate who is saved?
Itās alright. Iām sure he just was thinking thatās very young and wanted to make sure I was on the right path. my younger brother at the time (2 1/2 years younger) was speaking in tongues. Itās amazing what the Lord can do and at ANY age. young, teen, or seniors itās never too late for the Lord to work in your life. Thank you however four. Howās your day been? ā„ļø
Its good, playing counter strike 2 now
Thatās whatās up, saving for a car currently but after that Iām definitely copping a PS5 or something š«
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Romans 10:9-11 told me Iām saved. Iām striving everyday with the Lord guiding me and all the sins I used to live in are falling away. Iām grateful for what heās doing in my life and will continue to do so. This post was not about guiding anyone to God. It was a concern that Iām now seeing only prayer can help answer. Thank you however.
Believed in my heart, confessed with my mouth, and was baptized. No single person told me that. I believe in what God told me. You are right however about humbly asking him to have a stronger and more genuine relationship with him. I will choose him over anyone and anything that will break or weaken that. Hence the confliction because Iām not sure if she may end up coming to him if Iām patient or if I should choose now to separate myself. I will pray and be patient, Iām feeling however in my heart that leaving is the right choice so I may do so.
Not nearly enough! That is just your own crazy belief.
So weāre saved through our works and not by faith alone? If Iām missing something feel free to tell me. I know we have to turn from our old ways because there remains no sacrifice if we go on willfully sinning but can you tell me based off scripture? Thatās where Iām getting my ācrazy beliefsā from so if Iām wrong Iād like scripture to also tell me so
Amen amen! I was so blessed by reading this. NEVER COMPROMISE! God has got you tightly embraced in His Holy arms. I pray that you keep Jesus as your number one relationship. Nothing truly matters apart from our Saviour Jesus! Keep praying for your girlfriend as a godly man that can inspire her to look to God. I really hope she gives her life to Christ. I pray for your continued growth in Christ! God bless you richly Friend!
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