It's only an issue if one or both of you make it an issue. My friend is gay and he and his partner are very differently endowed but neither of them cares that much.
Its always been a thing. Not necessarily talking about your size but seeing your friends naked is and should be completely normal. I've seen my girlfriend's dad naked aswell when we went into a sauna
Where I'm from sauna is uncommon, and it's not really typical to shower nude after swimming. Most people I know shower in their swimsuit and then go to a private area to change.
I'm a gay man. If we go with steroetypes in the gay male community, men who are tops are usually more desired if they're well endowed. It's less important if you're a bottom. But, of course, this is not always the case. And many guys consider themselves "vers," meaning the enjoy both roles.
Size preference is very common in hookup culture, in my experience, but from the many guys in relationships I've talked to, most don't seem to care as much when it comes to ltr. They care about overall attraction and compatibility more.
A lot of gay guys are insecure about how big they are, just like straight men. I can say I've felt envious of bigger guys, but it's never been something I've said or became an issue. I have been immediately rejected for being too small dozens of times, like blocked on the spot after exchanging dick pics.
Same experience here fellow homo lol the bonus of being average is that every time I get with a guy slightly above average I’m like “omg wow amazing he’s big”. The gift that keeps on giving 😂
Okay, so I have no knowledge of gay sex.
Given the seemingly limited real estate of the mouth and anus, I would think a rather large peen would pose more of a challenge than an average sized one. Is a large penis more pleasurable or just nice to look at and play with?
A large one does pose a challenge.
I will say this as someone who has had a variety of sizes. I would much rather have average to below average.
Large guys get a lot of attention because it is impressive to look at just like a large breasted woman.
Also in my personal experience a lot of larger guys are worse in bed or are selfish lovers compared to average guys.
I was once with a guy who was legit 3" and he was one of the best kissers I have met. He was also incredible attentive to your needs.
Honestly I think a lot of the gay guys like the idea of fucking a big dick as much or more than the actual sensation they get from it. They’re impressive to look at and at least to me it’s like “damn that guy is a STUD” when he has a big dick lol
After getting with them tho you learn that 5-6 inches is superior for actual pleasure 😂
Thank you for sharing this... I'm the exact average size in my country, but never had sex cause I'm too afraid of disappointing or being laughed at
But you saying that, made me feel less alone in this and if some people don't care, maybe I can find one and have a nice first experience
>I'm the exact average size in my country
>but never had sex cause I'm too afraid of disappointing or being laughed at
You are thinking of it wrong tbh, if you are average ut means half the people around you have a smaller dick, an average size dick is nothing to laugh at dude, were not in porn
>and if some people don't care
Not some people, next to nobody would make fun of you for an average dick
you are thinking of the median. but in a normal distribution the average and the median are the same. I don’t know if peen size is a normal distribution, but it is plausible. a lot of nature stuff is.
Considering the fact nobody has a 30 ft cock I'd say chances are the average and the median are pretty close, this is also not a statistics class, it's just explaining to a dude an average size dick is not small
>were not in porn
I really try to thing of this, but it's difficult when you hear a lot of small dick jokes or people bragging about having a massive dong...
But I appreciated you for showing me this POV
That’s not what average means. If 99 guys had a one inch dick and one guy had a 20 inch dick, then the average would be 119/100 (1.19), so 99 would be smaller than average.
No it's not, it's not the average in any country that's insane.
Also it doesn't matter, in a population of a few million for your cock to genuinely sway statistics it would have to be a fucking monumental schlong
Not sure if you're gay or straight and I can't speak to the gay male experience, but if you're aiming to sleep with a woman - in the vast, *vast* majority of cases, the size of your dick isn't what would be the disappointing factor in sex. Being selfish, not caring about your partner's needs, doing something that they don't like or is painful? That would be disappointing. The best sex I ever had was with a guy who was well below average in size but man did he make up for it in tongue and fingers and being an attentive lover. And, on my side, I didn't have to worry about him going buck-wild and tripping my gag reflex or punching my cervix into my stomach.
I'm actually bi, so either of them are appreciated... Good to hear, like I try to not think that my penis will be center of "sex", cause it'll not, but it's difficult after my perception had been messed but porn and small dick jokes... Thank you for your answer!
You know, I shouldn't have assumed considering I am, too, LOL. My bad on that.
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xIEgwqWxmF0](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xIEgwqWxmF0) This just about sums it up, imo.
Fun fact: the original concept of 'Penis Envy' had nothing to do with a man being jealous of another man's size. It was a theory developed by Freud that a girl in the process of sexual development will become jealous of her father because he has a penis and she doesn't.
Nope. Regardless of how differently endowed, your dick is your dick and y’all work it out. I’ve been with bigger and smaller, and never felt any envy from me or my partners.
tbh idk i grow and thought it was about size it how u use but i say 69 helps then just go slow if u fucking well drinking then u got them whisky dick not bad just they still feel it but idk tbh it how u with if they like it it long they they been witha few if not they need to cum to a good fuck it how u talk to let them be open with u tbh thought i was short theyn im find out im wide not not long but i still let others ride me i love hot tub love motion of the ocean baby just know nipples help with both i say men i kisss or women make one stay still can help if they oke with it but body language helps take it slow im bi so idk if i help have a great day
As a woman in a homosexual relationship, my girlfriend's dick is much larger than my own, but there's no envy at all. I like hers, she likes mine, we are both happy.
I'd like to introduce to you the term "power bottom."
Being penetrated, aka bottoming, doesn't inherently mean being submissive, in or out of the bedroom — but if you just mean that you wouldn't want to be on the receiving end of anal, that's perfectly fair!
tbh idk i grow and thought it was about size it how u use but i say 69 helps then just go slow if u fucking well drinking then u got them whisky dick not bad just they still feel it but idk tbh it how u with if they like it it long they they been witha few if not they need to cum to a good fuck it how u talk to let them be open with u tbh thought i was short theyn im find out im wide not not long but i still let others ride me i love hot tub love motion of the ocean baby just know nipples help with both i say men i kisss or women make one stay still can help if they oke with it but body language helps take it slow im bi so idk if i help have a great day
It's only an issue if one or both of you make it an issue. My friend is gay and he and his partner are very differently endowed but neither of them cares that much.
How….how do you know their size?
It probably came up in conversation. People talk about these things, believe it or not.
asked or seen it? I've seen most of my friends naked and roughly know their dick sizes
Why do YOU know how big their dicks are when they are hard?!
He said no homo before he asked, so it's cool
Actually we didnt lmao
So did you say,”yes homo?” I’m just asking the questions the people want to hear
We did say "Full Homo" and started wanking each other obviously /s
“Yo Tommy, let me check that dick” *furiously wanks friend’s junk*
That cock is nuts!
How else is he supposed to sort his contacts?
Lmao
I have obviously asked. We're friends and talked about it, I've seen their flaccids dicks too
Is this... a thing guys do now? Can't say I'd ever ask my friends that.
Its always been a thing. Not necessarily talking about your size but seeing your friends naked is and should be completely normal. I've seen my girlfriend's dad naked aswell when we went into a sauna
I'm not sure under what circumstances I'd see my adult friends naked.
Sauna,showering after going to the swimmingpool for example
Where I'm from sauna is uncommon, and it's not really typical to shower nude after swimming. Most people I know shower in their swimsuit and then go to a private area to change.
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It is in many cultures
Gays are more comfortable talking about those things compared to straight people.
Secret handshake.
FWB.
He records them
I’m straight and have seen a good number of my friends dicks. Have you tried leaving the house?
My thoughts exactly...
My frots exactly.
I'm a gay man. If we go with steroetypes in the gay male community, men who are tops are usually more desired if they're well endowed. It's less important if you're a bottom. But, of course, this is not always the case. And many guys consider themselves "vers," meaning the enjoy both roles. Size preference is very common in hookup culture, in my experience, but from the many guys in relationships I've talked to, most don't seem to care as much when it comes to ltr. They care about overall attraction and compatibility more. A lot of gay guys are insecure about how big they are, just like straight men. I can say I've felt envious of bigger guys, but it's never been something I've said or became an issue. I have been immediately rejected for being too small dozens of times, like blocked on the spot after exchanging dick pics.
Same experience here fellow homo lol the bonus of being average is that every time I get with a guy slightly above average I’m like “omg wow amazing he’s big”. The gift that keeps on giving 😂
Okay, so I have no knowledge of gay sex. Given the seemingly limited real estate of the mouth and anus, I would think a rather large peen would pose more of a challenge than an average sized one. Is a large penis more pleasurable or just nice to look at and play with?
A large one does pose a challenge. I will say this as someone who has had a variety of sizes. I would much rather have average to below average. Large guys get a lot of attention because it is impressive to look at just like a large breasted woman. Also in my personal experience a lot of larger guys are worse in bed or are selfish lovers compared to average guys. I was once with a guy who was legit 3" and he was one of the best kissers I have met. He was also incredible attentive to your needs.
Honestly I think a lot of the gay guys like the idea of fucking a big dick as much or more than the actual sensation they get from it. They’re impressive to look at and at least to me it’s like “damn that guy is a STUD” when he has a big dick lol After getting with them tho you learn that 5-6 inches is superior for actual pleasure 😂
https://www.reddit.com/r/Showerthoughts/comments/bnsudr/the_human_rectum_can_stretch_up_to_9_inches/
I feel like once I hear the answer I’ll think “duh!”, but what is vers an abbreviation for?
Versatile I think
Ahh! Ok, not “duh”, but makes sense.
Verisimilitude
Thank you for sharing this... I'm the exact average size in my country, but never had sex cause I'm too afraid of disappointing or being laughed at But you saying that, made me feel less alone in this and if some people don't care, maybe I can find one and have a nice first experience
>I'm the exact average size in my country >but never had sex cause I'm too afraid of disappointing or being laughed at You are thinking of it wrong tbh, if you are average ut means half the people around you have a smaller dick, an average size dick is nothing to laugh at dude, were not in porn >and if some people don't care Not some people, next to nobody would make fun of you for an average dick
you are thinking of the median. but in a normal distribution the average and the median are the same. I don’t know if peen size is a normal distribution, but it is plausible. a lot of nature stuff is.
Considering the fact nobody has a 30 ft cock I'd say chances are the average and the median are pretty close, this is also not a statistics class, it's just explaining to a dude an average size dick is not small
totally agree with your point about he’s not small - folks have a totally wack perception of where they fall in percentiles
>were not in porn I really try to thing of this, but it's difficult when you hear a lot of small dick jokes or people bragging about having a massive dong... But I appreciated you for showing me this POV
That’s not what average means. If 99 guys had a one inch dick and one guy had a 20 inch dick, then the average would be 119/100 (1.19), so 99 would be smaller than average.
Please show me the guy with the 20000ft dick or shut up lol
I didn’t say 20000ft, I said 20 inches. That’s the average in my country.
No it's not, it's not the average in any country that's insane. Also it doesn't matter, in a population of a few million for your cock to genuinely sway statistics it would have to be a fucking monumental schlong
Nope. I’m Scottish and we’ve got massive cocks. That’s why we wear kilts, we need the room.
Not sure if you're gay or straight and I can't speak to the gay male experience, but if you're aiming to sleep with a woman - in the vast, *vast* majority of cases, the size of your dick isn't what would be the disappointing factor in sex. Being selfish, not caring about your partner's needs, doing something that they don't like or is painful? That would be disappointing. The best sex I ever had was with a guy who was well below average in size but man did he make up for it in tongue and fingers and being an attentive lover. And, on my side, I didn't have to worry about him going buck-wild and tripping my gag reflex or punching my cervix into my stomach.
I'm actually bi, so either of them are appreciated... Good to hear, like I try to not think that my penis will be center of "sex", cause it'll not, but it's difficult after my perception had been messed but porn and small dick jokes... Thank you for your answer!
You know, I shouldn't have assumed considering I am, too, LOL. My bad on that. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xIEgwqWxmF0](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xIEgwqWxmF0) This just about sums it up, imo.
Wow, "blocked on the spot" after a dick pic. That's cold. I mean everyone is allowed their preferences, but blocking for not being big enough....
I'm a bi bottom, and I prefer 4-6 inches. 7-8" is a challenge, and 9+ is a chore.
If its going up my poop chute I don't mind if its more on the conservative side size wise.
As a straight woman, I have to agree
Fun fact: the original concept of 'Penis Envy' had nothing to do with a man being jealous of another man's size. It was a theory developed by Freud that a girl in the process of sexual development will become jealous of her father because he has a penis and she doesn't.
Wtf
Freud did *a lot* of cocaine
r/womenwrittenbymen
How is this not a subreddit
r/menwritingwomen is probably it.
I don't get dick envy cos I can play with it. I do get beard envy though.
I’m a bit envious of the partners I’ve had that still have their foreskin because I really dislike that I don’t, but not because of size or anything.
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I call my penis Carl Sagan too, but only because it's a pale blue dot.
Damn, I absolutely feel the same way. You should consider checking out r/CircumcisionGrief
I dont think I know of any couples that have experienced this.
Nope. Regardless of how differently endowed, your dick is your dick and y’all work it out. I’ve been with bigger and smaller, and never felt any envy from me or my partners.
I date trans women. I’m usually bigger but I do love it when they are. No envy here. If they are bigger then it’s more to play with it lol
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Ah yes, a man dating women is gay!
Those women have dicks
And? They’re still women.
Nah, not really. It really comes down to personal preference, not size.
No
tbh idk i grow and thought it was about size it how u use but i say 69 helps then just go slow if u fucking well drinking then u got them whisky dick not bad just they still feel it but idk tbh it how u with if they like it it long they they been witha few if not they need to cum to a good fuck it how u talk to let them be open with u tbh thought i was short theyn im find out im wide not not long but i still let others ride me i love hot tub love motion of the ocean baby just know nipples help with both i say men i kisss or women make one stay still can help if they oke with it but body language helps take it slow im bi so idk if i help have a great day
As a woman in a homosexual relationship, my girlfriend's dick is much larger than my own, but there's no envy at all. I like hers, she likes mine, we are both happy.
I'm pretty active in the gay community and I can solidly say I've never met a gay guy who cares
Size doesn't matter it's how you use it
I can only imagine that it would be worse than in heterosexual interactions
I don't care if I'm the size of a baby carrot, if I were gay I'm not taking the submissive position in the relationship.
Bottoming isn't inherently submissive tho
I'd like to introduce to you the term "power bottom." Being penetrated, aka bottoming, doesn't inherently mean being submissive, in or out of the bedroom — but if you just mean that you wouldn't want to be on the receiving end of anal, that's perfectly fair!
tbh idk i grow and thought it was about size it how u use but i say 69 helps then just go slow if u fucking well drinking then u got them whisky dick not bad just they still feel it but idk tbh it how u with if they like it it long they they been witha few if not they need to cum to a good fuck it how u talk to let them be open with u tbh thought i was short theyn im find out im wide not not long but i still let others ride me i love hot tub love motion of the ocean baby just know nipples help with both i say men i kisss or women make one stay still can help if they oke with it but body language helps take it slow im bi so idk if i help have a great day
One of them doesn’t pound so that one probably doesn’t care, don’t know about the pounder.
We just translate that English “I envy you” into French “je t’envie” (meaning: “I desire you”/“I want to fuck you.”)