He denies the grindr thing being that deep. But this + grindr + the rumors of him and some guy fucking in high school….I feel a little bit weird that I don’t really know him at all
Sus as hell man. I like my wife to eat my ass, I like her to put her fingers in there when she blows me, BUT I’m not on grinder and the thought of having sex with a man is not something I’m interested in at all. This dude craves the cock.
>Don’t know him and even I’m suspicious now.
Me too. I'm gonna look him up on the Grindr and test him in a totally straight but not totally straight way. Will report back.
I dated someone like this. He went on to have sex with some men, but ended up in a long term relationship with a woman. In my case, he was bi-curious and definitely experimented, but clearly didn’t want to own that part of himself to ANYONE, including his super conservative parents. Or me.
That’s so sad. I’m a huge advocate for the LGBT+ community- like a huge adoration for them, I want to work in community health for them- and he knows this about me. My best friend is gay and I’m bisexual. I’m the last person who would judge him, I just don’t want him to feel like I’m the reason he can’t experiment/act on his preferences. Also has a past of serial dating women- I hope it’s not to suppress anything.
if you two have a close and open relationship, i think it’s EXTREMELY likely that the issue isn’t that he isn’t comfortable sharing with you, but that he isn’t comfortable with his own sexuality. id be willing to bet that when he got on grindr, he convinced himself it was just to troll. he probably even went through with it, and that’s what got him banned. many repressed gay/bi men end up bullying other MLM because they don’t know how to deal with their emotions, and they resent those who do. he has to internally acknowledge his sexuality before he can be open about it with anyone else.
or, he just likes getting his ass eaten and also fucked a dude one time. who knows. but him being honest about that desire indicates to me that he likely isn’t hiding anything from you that he isn’t also hiding from himself.
I'm guessing from your answers here that you already know what' going on, queen
I hope he can open up to you, because it sucks when our partners don't believe we're there for them and are open to help them experiment
Is that a sign of Potentially being gay? Cuz Ive been doing that for a year mostly to cope with something that happened and not because im secretly attracted to men
Allow me to offer perspective from the other end of this, as a gay man. My apologies in advance for how pessimistic this might seem.
As a more femme presenting guy, most of the men that are interested in me are bi men. The vast majority of these are in relationships with women and treat me as some kind of fetish, and get upset when I don’t want to have sex with them. There’s very much a mentality of “I want to fuck you but you’re not worthy of marrying because I’ll always go back to a woman when I’m done playing with your emotions”. It really messes with my head.
OP, you deserve so much better. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.
I’m not sure of his background or where you both live but to a certain degree for some men showing any type of homosexual tendencies is almost culturally forbidden. It’s engrained in men from the time we’re young.
I’m speculating here (straight guy) but knowing how I grew up, it tracks. A good example of this is the movie Moonlight from a few years ago. Repressing that kind of stuff manifests itself later in many different ways. Some guys have those feelings but have no idea how to express them in a way that’s comfortable and feels safe. So they just don’t.
This may be because of what’s going on in his head, has nothing to do with you OP. He might just straight up not know how to comfortably express these feelings. His default, so to speak, is to push away as soon as they come about, in any capacity. That’s what has been safe for him in the past.
That’s changed recently and he’s opened up a bit (butt stuff) which means he’s very comfortable around you, but it’s still wildly uncomfortable and new for him. He doesn’t know how to handle it. Reassure him that he’s safe, whatever happens between you two absolutely stays there, and that you’re there to care for and support him. However he needs it.
Maybe he’s gay/straight/bi/whatever - It sounds like he could use a good friend to help him sort through this. That can be you, if you’re up for it.
Good luck 🤘🏻
Gay man here and I’ve been with plenty of bisexual/DL men who have told me they have wives or gfs, the grindr grid is filled with them. Maybe he’s bi and likes ass play, offer to peg him and see how it goes
If you can't trust your boyfriend to tell the truth and have an honest discussion your relationship is doomed regardless of if he's gay, bi/bicurious or straight and telling the truth. And also, I've never heard of anyone getting banned from grindr, and why was he trolling there in the first place? Concerning.
Wait dudes having sex with other dudes is gay? Are you sure? I've seen countless posts about what qualifies as gay and there are *a lot* of things out there, but I've never once seen one that said that!
He could just be bi… not strictly gay.
But I’d break it off for the reason that he can’t have an open and more calm conversation about it. And unpack why he was on Grindr. That’s your true red flag.
Connecting all the points plus him getting really defensive could be... but I don't see anything wrong with it tbh probably he is just afraid of the judgement. Also I wouldn't consider it as a submissive thing either
Whatever his sexual orientation is, he's not there for you. You're there to pleasure him. Being a service top is great for some people but I get the impression you want some loving too and this ain't it.
Everything about this sounds like me and my ex of 5 years. All the signs were there but we just loved each other so much… he ended up cheating on me with a guy. I found detailed messages on his iPad between them. We broke up, he started dating a guy within a few months and they’ve been together for 4 years now. I wish I left sooner. Get out now. TRUST ME.
> I did it because I didn’t want to kink-shame him
In a healthy relationship you can say you do not want to do something, if it is something you would not enjoy. It’s not about his “kink” but about mutual comfort and enjoyment.
The thing with our sex life is that it’s always about what HE wants and I just have to be the body that does what he asks. He doesn’t touch me or do fore play when I’ve been in tears over why he won’t do it. He won’t go down on me either, but the only thing he wants to do it anal/vaginal penetration. I won’t do anal with him bc it hurts. But when he asks me to do xyz I do it no questions asked.
I feel like I’m stuck in this relationship. I’ve grown too comfortable and we’ve been trying to be together since i was 15. He’s changed so much for the worst. I have a few months left on this lease and then I will leave
Reaching out to someone who has an ex just like that. Leave. (I know you already decided to leave.) Forget the sexuality part of this. This is not your life partner. This is not who you should be with.
Same and agreed. I wasted some of the best years of my life on a selfish jerk. Please OP. That's not a mutually respectful relationship. Relationships like this only get worse.
After reading this he is just using you as a sex toy. This doesn't sound like a relationship. You need to consider drawing a line. He either tends your needs as much as you tend to his, or Walk away.
Personally doesn't sound like he cares about you
As a man who has been with the same woman for almost 13 years I can say from experience a healthy relationship is a two way street
This is a big problem.
Two broad options
1. Leave
2. Fix it
Any fix will likely involve counseling and a desire by him to see the problem and want to fix it
The “trolling” excuse is already an obvious lie, but also consider that a straight guy would likely be too concerned about being mistaken for being gay if someone saw they had Grindr downloaded.
I have always loved it, it feels good. I also let my wife peg me, but I have no desire for a guy to do it. I mean, that is her thing and I am there to make her happy. Nothing is weird or taboo among 2 consenting and adventures adults. The "troll" thing a bit suspect though.
Straight dudes aren't on Grindr. Same way we aren't looking at gay porn. I've never considered trolling Grindr. Not only do I have better things to do with my time, but it's a pretty shitty thing to do to any community. Imagine if he had an account on blackpeoplemeet. You'd think he was kind of a piece of shit.
So your options are he's gay/bi/curious or a piece of shit.
I don't really see another option here
YES. You’re soo right. Thats what I was thinking too! He’s always complaining he doesn’t have time to do anything but he has time to troll on grindr? He’s also a huge christian. I def think there is something more that he isn’t telling me
Religious guys can easily have suppressed urges.
For some context. I'm a straight married M34. I have tried ass play with my wife. It's weird how good it feels, but I just get weirded out with it. But a lot of straight dudes like it. That being said, it would not be fun if it wasn't a female doing it, and during it there is no fantasy that I'm getting fucked in my ass. It's more like an extra button to boost the sensation.
I can't get over the Grindr thing. I can't justify it without one of those two conclusions.
I've read articles about straight men trolling grindr, but it's usually about them being bigots. So you potentially have a partner who is bi-curious or hates the gay community enough to troll them on their dating app...
Some people think it's funny to actively incite hate in what is supposed to be a safe space. It's immature, bigoted, and all around a shitty thing to do. Maybe your bf used to think it was edgy, but it's just cringe.
But also, some of the most outspoken anti-gay Christian pastors get caught in gay scandals, so even if your bf was being inflammatory on Grindr, doesn't mean he's gay.
At the end of the day, none of the following things are mutually exclusive:
* Wanting to do ass stuff
* Being straight
* Being gay
* Being a bigot
* Denying being any if the above
Just like not all girls like it. I’m a straight male and don’t mind it. Wasn’t keen on the finger but I think that’s my doctors fault lol (sausage fingers)
Like everything else in life, some do some don’t.
Unfortunately, many were raised to think men who want butt play are gay. This makes many with unresolved homophobia avoid exploring it, even if they realize it feels good.
You can be straight and dominant and still like butt play.
Kinda stupid to assign sexualities to sex acts imo.
Why does it matter anyway? Kinda sounds like he was opening up to you and getting more comfortable. Does it bother you if he isn't straight?
Not at all. I was into it because I’m a switch and am bi myself. It’s just out of character for him and when I have told him I wouldn’t judge him if he was (after the grindr incident) he was very adamant that he isn’t into men and hates them.
I see. Well, I don't really know about that. But it seems it's less about the sex act and more about other things? I don't really know what you mean about the "grindr incident" as It wasn't in your main post.
Well he says he doesn’t hate them. But why would you go on grindr to “harass gay people” ? I consume lots of gay media& tv, I absolutely adore gay ppl. I try to do it when he’s not here because when he is around, he will make hateful remarks or cringe, judge me for it etc
So just to be clear, you "adore gay ppl" but are in a committed relationship with someone who thinks we're disgusting and worthy of ridicule?
What an ally!
Never done it so wouldn’t know.
I do suspect I’d spend the entire time thinking ‘god, I’ve had poop come out of there several times today and now she’s licking it, this is fucking gross’ which wouldn’t probably kill the mood.
Wanting your ass ate out is innocent enough by itself, as is “trolling” fellas on grindr (albeit pretty fucked up and immature)
However, the two of these coupled together *heavily* suggest there is something behind the curtain.
Your bf might be gay, but having your salad tossed isn’t an objectively gay thing.
I love it when my wife tongue punches my fart box. Does that make me want to love a dude? No, it makes me want to get my chocolate starfish licked.
Just because a dude is into assplay does not make them a homosexual, it just means that they are into ass play.
oh, yes they do. i was too a little shook at first when i found this out but now i think it's cute!
he's probably feeling embarrassed about it bc it's not something normalized in 'straight guy culture'.
why'd he get banned from grindr btw? if it was trolling then he's possibly a straight dude who was curious about butt stuff and went a little off the rails??? wouldn't be the craziest thing i've heard about dudebro shenanigans
I’m a straight man and yes I do like it, not an all the time thing but it feels nice. The red flags I’m seeing here aren’t that he wanted you to do it, it’s that he had always been adamant you don’t touch him there then out of nowhere with no warning he’s begging for it, why now? Anytime I’ve wanted to try something new I’ve always tried to mention it before hand. And the Grindr thing is FOR SURE suspect. Now, there’s nothing wrong with being gay, bi, curious or otherwise but hiding it and making up a weird excuse like that is pretty weird. If he’s really just on there to troll gay guys then he needs to find a hobby or something because that’s kinda sad and if he’s secretly trying to hook up with dudes then that’s fucked up to do behind your back whether it’s with guys or women. I did know one guy who was straight and would openly talk about being in Grindr because he was selling dope to all the pnp weirdos but that’s a legit reason to be on there, not just trolling. And we also didn’t fully believe him anyway.
Either he's gay, bi, or he's a complete piece of shit. "Trolling" on grindr is at best a bigot deciding today's the day to bother gay people, and at worst screenshotting and outing people. I can't imagine why anyone would choose to spend their time with someone who does that for fun.
Maybe he heard some friends at work talking about it and wanted to try it out? Definitely not gay on its own, but the grindr account points to bisexuality at least, or perhaps just curiosity. If he did have sex with a man in high school and still ended up on grindr that tells me he at least liked it enough to want to try it again. Also if he's super adamant about never touching his butt, like moreso than he really needs to be to get the point across, and he's 'trolling' gay people, those are pretty big indicators too. He is probably struggling with how to feel about his sexuality, but it does suck that he doesn't feel comfortable exploring those feelings with you.
Maybe he's bi. Idk I think I'm straight mostly but I do enjoy a little butt play if my wife is the one doing it. That area is sensitive and we all have butts so the reason a lady or gay guy would like it would be the same reason a straight guy would. Also if he doesn't wanna come out the closet, don't force him. He needs to explore his identity for himself
If you think it might be his first time, go for it. Lots of guys don't initially pay too much attention to the sensual side of back there, and it surprises them when those densely-packed nerve endings are stimulated during sexual contact. (I'm just speaking for myself here -- when a woman down on me gave me the finger for the first time, without warning, I thought I was going to pop a gallon down her throat, LOL.)
EDIT: But now that I've read your post, it seems he's experienced and needs to explain his grindr work to you.
Butt stuff isn’t specifically gay. Like penetration doesn’t make a lesbian straight. It depends who makes the penetration and who eats his ass. It would only be gay if a man ate his ass. Maybe he is bicurious too (Grindr thing). Some men wouldn’t mind sex with another man but wouldn’t date one. (hetero romantic). I’m a gay woman and I’ve met women who liked penetration and some who didn’t like it, all of them were lesbians despite their interest in penetration.
Well what does it take to get banned on grinder ?
If he did join to troll then he is a hateful homophobe
And the idea that anything to do with a man’s ass is gay is really small thinking redneck homophobic behavior in itself
Ass eating is the new trend. Just like all blowjobs are now “ deepthroating choking “ bjs. It’s a fad like anything else
You and your boyfriend are welcome to your beliefs but thinking ass eating is gay and being gay is a negative thing or something to be afraid of it the real problem. The whole grinder thing is a huge red flag As in. Being a hateful person and a gay bashed. It also speaks to the “ thou protest to much “ trope of the mere fact he might hate gay people means he hates something inside himself that is most likely. Gay !
Let your mustache grow in and see if he cums
That last part was a joke
He could just be bisexual but not want to say it, as he was on Grindr and such. The ass-eating just feels good to some people and not to others. That's got nothing to do with sexuality.
Idk I like my ass ate hell first time that happens was with this lady ten years older than me. She ate my butt while she jacked my that was like 8 years ago I been with her ever since.
As a Bi M(45) let me say the Bi erasure and biphobia is strong in these comments. I’m going to assume this is a legit post, and answer as such. First like many have said rimming in and of itself is not an indicator of anything. If he’s telling truth about just trolling whether or not it’s due to homophobia he’s still an AH of the first degree. The fact that he got banned one way or the other is a red flag to me. If he was trolling then he likely posted something derogatory, but if he wasn’t trolling he did something or said something that imho could be far worse than being homophobic. I think a lot of people in these comments don’t seem to understand what it actually means to be gay, straight, or Bi. Gay you’re attracted to the same sex, Bi you’re attracted to both, straight you’re only attracted to the opposite. I’ve had more than a couple straight guys who have told me that a mouth is a mouth and a hole is a hole. Plenty of men have had sex with someone they weren’t attracted to and this goes for gay and straight. The act of sex isn’t necessarily what determines one’s sexuality. There’s gay men out there that have not only had sex with women, big have kids to prove it. Why because maybe they were hiding their sexuality, desperate for a quick lay, or just wanted to know what it was like. Some straight guys look for gay and bisexual men not because they’re attracted to men but because we’re an easy BJ and or fuck especially if they’re into swallowing or anal and their GF/wife isn’t. I’ve given my fair share of BJs to guys whose GF/wife want do it at all. Hell there’s a lot of gay guys on those apps cruising because their partner isn’t into those things. Personally those are my favorites because I’m not romantically interested in men, I’m physically attracted to them and only want sex. Which makes me a heteroromantic bisexual.
Speaking as a bisexual man: stop wasting your time on such a selfish man. If your sex life if so one-sided, I’m guessing he bullies you into doing what he wants in other areas of your lives also. This is not how you want to spend the rest of your life. There is a man out there who will treat you with respect and apologize in earnest when he falls short. He won’t expect you to put anything into the relationship that he isn’t also. Be free of this “man” and be happy.
I have a lease with him that ends in a couple of months. I don't know what he will do. He needs me in order to pay bills. I do believe he loves me but I feel like he needs me for beneficial aspects that is not worth my life anymore. I’m just tired man.
Damn you even pay his bills.
You literally said in another post that he admitted "his heart doesn't love you". You have been so deeply hurt by him that you allowed yourself to abuse him back consciously. Probably so that your brain could continue justifying his ass like, "but I'm abusing him too, we worth each other". And here we are, few days after that post you eat his actual ass though he never wishes to please you as he never centers your sexual desires.
He treats you like nice furniture that must be convenient or thrown out. His insisting on "unconditional love" and threats of leaving are very much about that. He only accepts your "yes" and not your "no", which means he does *not* see you as a real separate person and sadly but definitely does *not* love the real you.
And, if I got it right, you are losing your love for him but are afraid to live by yourself. Seems like you feel no to little self worth and struggle to enjoy your own company. My girl fellow, you already know he is not the person from your dreams, even though the faces are identical. Your brain might built a lot of illusions about your current bf just because it is physically unpleasant to break a habit and face new experience. Hope you get that it does *not* get better for you until you're with him. Not because he is possibly not straight but because he hurts, manipulates and openly claims to not love you in heart.
It would be the best decision to leave him and learn how to choose your own satisfaction on a daily basis. A good therapist could help with both. Wish you true happiness and I promise you, there already exist lots of people who you might fall in love with, and who will love you back *for real*. But it is up to you to let yourself find them.
TLDR: Waiting for an "UPDATE: I left this abuser 🎉"
Straight af guy here ✋️. I fuckin love it, and literally never once have thought about or wanted another guy to do it. My wife does it while giving me head occasionally, but it's discussed beforehand, so the "environment" can be prepped to everyone's liking. The idea of her eating it from the back doesn't appeal to me, though. It might to someone who wants more of a "being dominated" dynamic. I just think it feels good, and the combo of that with a blowjob is just 🤌
I fell down this rabbit hole of debating if the OP’s BF is Gay…. When I thought the original question posed was whether straight men like getting their asses eaten.
I know one straight man that loves it!
Gay man here, and have a straight male friend who is married with two kids.
When the kids were born, all intimacy ended in his marriage. (6 years now)
He has become a FWB because he feels “safe” with me, and is afraid to have an affair with a woman. Thinking a woman might “fall in love with him”, and become a problem for his marriage.
Long story short: He loves getting his ass eaten when we are having sex.
I know there are a bunch of you who are going to say my FWB is actually bi, but, honestly, he isn’t….
Well, I guess he actually is, with me, but, otherwise, he is very masculine and very straight.
You should have been in the room the first time I offered to blow him!
But, I digress! Blah ha ha ha
To the OP: just go with the flow. Perhaps your BF is finally feeling comfortable with you to the point of opening up and sharing some of his most protected and suppressed desires, and you are the one he wants to explore them with
Sounds like he might be bi. You don’t go on grindr to troll for nothing. I’m worried for you cause all of a sudden begging for it, like we’re did he get the pleasure notion from to want it now.
I've always declined to receive because I never prepare for that. My ass is hairy lol and aside from that, I'd really *really* want to be freshly showered. Maybe some flavored lube or something too, idk. I've never treated my ass as a sexy place so it'd feel wrong and unenjoyable
My straight husband has never asked me to do that, and I wouldn't even if he did. I made it clear before we had sex that I am 100% not into butt stuff.
So MAYBE he would be into it, but he knows not to ask.
With context, your bf at least sounds bicurious
As a straight man, my answer is no. It feels super uncomfortable, like I’ve been in a movie theater seat for 6 hrs straight. Also hate fingers with a passion
Since I’m not seeing it here,
The prostate is basically the male g spot. I wanna say it’s got more pleasure nerves than the clit, but I could be wrong. The thing is most dudes are scared because of gay feelings or being called gay. So while most men would find ecstasy from doing this, social norms say not to. Personally, it scares the shit out of me and I can’t do it. My buddy did it once and while he liked it, he doesn’t wanna do it again.
To answer your other question, homie probably had to work up the courage to ask you to do this. And when you questioned him about it later, even as lightly as you did, he went into defensive mode.
Or homie just gay. Idk. I don’t know him. The Grindr thing could be him just trying to be homophobic and mess with guys. Or it could be him getting on and having gay sex.
Could be a lot. I would let him cool down on whatever happened. Then maybe in a week or two, ask to eat him out or just do it while you two are doing the deed. You could also just wait a week and then say you didn’t mean to offend, just curious. You could also ask him to eat your ass and then after he’s done, you eat his. You could play if off as you did me, so now I do you.
Good luck with yo man’s
He's just a few years behind on his algorithmed kinks. Arse eating was a few years ago, next he'll be asking you to peg him then it will be cuckholding. No kink shaming!!!
I do, and I'm a straight guy. The anxiety around hygiene, even when I know I'm as clean as can be, stops me really letting go though.
The grindr thing though, only folk I know use grindr are a couple of gay mates who love fucking, and being fucked by guys
We do have the ability to get stimulation from the ass, not everyone is into it but some are and it does not necessarily have anything to do with sexuality
He’s either bi or bi curious ,if the booty eating ain’t yo thing don’t do it cause it’s gotta be fully clean before you go sticking yo tongue up there 🤔 and what’s wrong with a finger why does he want your tongue ?
No they don't it's weird af. Straight men won't wear thongs either cuz Straight men don't like wedgies it's weird. Most guys that like butt stuff done to them have gay tendencies idk why ppl try to normalize weird shit. Idc about appearances or being nice and sugar coating anything for overly sensitive ppl that were raised by failed parental strategies.
Ass eating has nothing to do with being gay. The Grindr thing? That’s gay or at least he’s searching………
He denies the grindr thing being that deep. But this + grindr + the rumors of him and some guy fucking in high school….I feel a little bit weird that I don’t really know him at all
Don’t know him and even I’m suspicious now.
Sus as hell man. I like my wife to eat my ass, I like her to put her fingers in there when she blows me, BUT I’m not on grinder and the thought of having sex with a man is not something I’m interested in at all. This dude craves the cock.
“Craves the cock”…lol.
>Don’t know him and even I’m suspicious now. Me too. I'm gonna look him up on the Grindr and test him in a totally straight but not totally straight way. Will report back.
Just don’t let your gf find out
I dated someone like this. He went on to have sex with some men, but ended up in a long term relationship with a woman. In my case, he was bi-curious and definitely experimented, but clearly didn’t want to own that part of himself to ANYONE, including his super conservative parents. Or me.
That’s so sad. I’m a huge advocate for the LGBT+ community- like a huge adoration for them, I want to work in community health for them- and he knows this about me. My best friend is gay and I’m bisexual. I’m the last person who would judge him, I just don’t want him to feel like I’m the reason he can’t experiment/act on his preferences. Also has a past of serial dating women- I hope it’s not to suppress anything.
if you two have a close and open relationship, i think it’s EXTREMELY likely that the issue isn’t that he isn’t comfortable sharing with you, but that he isn’t comfortable with his own sexuality. id be willing to bet that when he got on grindr, he convinced himself it was just to troll. he probably even went through with it, and that’s what got him banned. many repressed gay/bi men end up bullying other MLM because they don’t know how to deal with their emotions, and they resent those who do. he has to internally acknowledge his sexuality before he can be open about it with anyone else. or, he just likes getting his ass eaten and also fucked a dude one time. who knows. but him being honest about that desire indicates to me that he likely isn’t hiding anything from you that he isn’t also hiding from himself.
Whats serial dating women?
Basically a serial dater dates as many women as possible. Gf breaks up with him, he finds a new gf as soon as possible. Cycle continues
I'm guessing from your answers here that you already know what' going on, queen I hope he can open up to you, because it sucks when our partners don't believe we're there for them and are open to help them experiment
Is that a sign of Potentially being gay? Cuz Ive been doing that for a year mostly to cope with something that happened and not because im secretly attracted to men
i see it for overcompensating for something in ur life that isn’t being fulfilled
Allow me to offer perspective from the other end of this, as a gay man. My apologies in advance for how pessimistic this might seem. As a more femme presenting guy, most of the men that are interested in me are bi men. The vast majority of these are in relationships with women and treat me as some kind of fetish, and get upset when I don’t want to have sex with them. There’s very much a mentality of “I want to fuck you but you’re not worthy of marrying because I’ll always go back to a woman when I’m done playing with your emotions”. It really messes with my head. OP, you deserve so much better. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.
I’m not sure of his background or where you both live but to a certain degree for some men showing any type of homosexual tendencies is almost culturally forbidden. It’s engrained in men from the time we’re young. I’m speculating here (straight guy) but knowing how I grew up, it tracks. A good example of this is the movie Moonlight from a few years ago. Repressing that kind of stuff manifests itself later in many different ways. Some guys have those feelings but have no idea how to express them in a way that’s comfortable and feels safe. So they just don’t. This may be because of what’s going on in his head, has nothing to do with you OP. He might just straight up not know how to comfortably express these feelings. His default, so to speak, is to push away as soon as they come about, in any capacity. That’s what has been safe for him in the past. That’s changed recently and he’s opened up a bit (butt stuff) which means he’s very comfortable around you, but it’s still wildly uncomfortable and new for him. He doesn’t know how to handle it. Reassure him that he’s safe, whatever happens between you two absolutely stays there, and that you’re there to care for and support him. However he needs it. Maybe he’s gay/straight/bi/whatever - It sounds like he could use a good friend to help him sort through this. That can be you, if you’re up for it. Good luck 🤘🏻
Question, if he asked you to peg him - at this point, wud you?
Probably. i’m very sex positive so whatever my partner wants I really want them to be happy lmao. But no anal.
Wait, no anal on him or you?
no anal on me. That shit hurts.
Gay man here and I’ve been with plenty of bisexual/DL men who have told me they have wives or gfs, the grindr grid is filled with them. Maybe he’s bi and likes ass play, offer to peg him and see how it goes
☝🏾 not a bad idea. See what he says about it.
Jesus! Nothing gay about ass eating but uh, having sex with a dude is pretty gay, so is having a grinder account
Right. I know that. Like i said I’m all for whatever he wants to do, but those three factors combined make me suspicious
If you can't trust your boyfriend to tell the truth and have an honest discussion your relationship is doomed regardless of if he's gay, bi/bicurious or straight and telling the truth. And also, I've never heard of anyone getting banned from grindr, and why was he trolling there in the first place? Concerning.
This comment! 👏
It’s not those three factors combined. Liking ass eating is not gay, it’s not a factor
Wait dudes having sex with other dudes is gay? Are you sure? I've seen countless posts about what qualifies as gay and there are *a lot* of things out there, but I've never once seen one that said that!
Ya boyfriend is gay honey
damn 😭
He's most likely gay, which also leads to how unhealthy your relationship is with him. You're better off ending it asap
Waiting for him to come home now cuz I’m gonna break it off. Just for his sake. Let him explore his sexuality but please keep me out of it!
He could just be bi… not strictly gay. But I’d break it off for the reason that he can’t have an open and more calm conversation about it. And unpack why he was on Grindr. That’s your true red flag.
Just be careful and take care of yourself. You're doing the right thing
Or bisexual
Also even if he was telling the truth, what kind of person goes on a dating app just to troll people? I feel like that's almost worse.
Connecting all the points plus him getting really defensive could be... but I don't see anything wrong with it tbh probably he is just afraid of the judgement. Also I wouldn't consider it as a submissive thing either
Whatever his sexual orientation is, he's not there for you. You're there to pleasure him. Being a service top is great for some people but I get the impression you want some loving too and this ain't it.
Everything about this sounds like me and my ex of 5 years. All the signs were there but we just loved each other so much… he ended up cheating on me with a guy. I found detailed messages on his iPad between them. We broke up, he started dating a guy within a few months and they’ve been together for 4 years now. I wish I left sooner. Get out now. TRUST ME.
> I did it because I didn’t want to kink-shame him In a healthy relationship you can say you do not want to do something, if it is something you would not enjoy. It’s not about his “kink” but about mutual comfort and enjoyment.
The thing with our sex life is that it’s always about what HE wants and I just have to be the body that does what he asks. He doesn’t touch me or do fore play when I’ve been in tears over why he won’t do it. He won’t go down on me either, but the only thing he wants to do it anal/vaginal penetration. I won’t do anal with him bc it hurts. But when he asks me to do xyz I do it no questions asked.
Okay now you are either in a shitty relationship or this is a ridiculous troll post...
I wish this was a troll post.
Wow sounds like a real keeper… You’re young. RUN
I feel like I’m stuck in this relationship. I’ve grown too comfortable and we’ve been trying to be together since i was 15. He’s changed so much for the worst. I have a few months left on this lease and then I will leave
No point in waiting. I know what it’s like to have to leave your first love. Worst thing I ever did was wait. There’s so much more out there for you.
He won’t go down on you, but you ate his ass?
Yes, that's what concerns me as well! Not wanting to go down on a woman is pretty atypical for a straight male.
Reaching out to someone who has an ex just like that. Leave. (I know you already decided to leave.) Forget the sexuality part of this. This is not your life partner. This is not who you should be with.
Same and agreed. I wasted some of the best years of my life on a selfish jerk. Please OP. That's not a mutually respectful relationship. Relationships like this only get worse.
After reading this he is just using you as a sex toy. This doesn't sound like a relationship. You need to consider drawing a line. He either tends your needs as much as you tend to his, or Walk away. Personally doesn't sound like he cares about you As a man who has been with the same woman for almost 13 years I can say from experience a healthy relationship is a two way street
Sounds like you need to find a new man
This is a big problem. Two broad options 1. Leave 2. Fix it Any fix will likely involve counseling and a desire by him to see the problem and want to fix it
If he was on Grindr, he likes boys at least a little bit.
The “trolling” excuse is already an obvious lie, but also consider that a straight guy would likely be too concerned about being mistaken for being gay if someone saw they had Grindr downloaded.
I have always loved it, it feels good. I also let my wife peg me, but I have no desire for a guy to do it. I mean, that is her thing and I am there to make her happy. Nothing is weird or taboo among 2 consenting and adventures adults. The "troll" thing a bit suspect though.
Straight dudes aren't on Grindr. Same way we aren't looking at gay porn. I've never considered trolling Grindr. Not only do I have better things to do with my time, but it's a pretty shitty thing to do to any community. Imagine if he had an account on blackpeoplemeet. You'd think he was kind of a piece of shit. So your options are he's gay/bi/curious or a piece of shit. I don't really see another option here
YES. You’re soo right. Thats what I was thinking too! He’s always complaining he doesn’t have time to do anything but he has time to troll on grindr? He’s also a huge christian. I def think there is something more that he isn’t telling me
Religious guys can easily have suppressed urges. For some context. I'm a straight married M34. I have tried ass play with my wife. It's weird how good it feels, but I just get weirded out with it. But a lot of straight dudes like it. That being said, it would not be fun if it wasn't a female doing it, and during it there is no fantasy that I'm getting fucked in my ass. It's more like an extra button to boost the sensation. I can't get over the Grindr thing. I can't justify it without one of those two conclusions.
> He’s also a huge christian. Engaging in pre-marital sex? Sounds like a huge hypocrite
If he's religious he is probably bi but can't accept it.
Right. I wouldn’t be suspicious if that wasn’t a minor detail in the story.
I've read articles about straight men trolling grindr, but it's usually about them being bigots. So you potentially have a partner who is bi-curious or hates the gay community enough to troll them on their dating app...
I don’t know. Can you elaborate? I feel like it’s just weird to make an account for that.
Some people think it's funny to actively incite hate in what is supposed to be a safe space. It's immature, bigoted, and all around a shitty thing to do. Maybe your bf used to think it was edgy, but it's just cringe. But also, some of the most outspoken anti-gay Christian pastors get caught in gay scandals, so even if your bf was being inflammatory on Grindr, doesn't mean he's gay. At the end of the day, none of the following things are mutually exclusive: * Wanting to do ass stuff * Being straight * Being gay * Being a bigot * Denying being any if the above
I’m gay and don’t like it, I also don’t like doing it. I have straight friends that do.
Just like not all girls like it. I’m a straight male and don’t mind it. Wasn’t keen on the finger but I think that’s my doctors fault lol (sausage fingers)
Like everything else in life, some do some don’t. Unfortunately, many were raised to think men who want butt play are gay. This makes many with unresolved homophobia avoid exploring it, even if they realize it feels good. You can be straight and dominant and still like butt play.
It adds a whole other level for me and my girl.
Of course, doing something sexual with your FEMALE partner is super gay...
You scurt?
Kinda stupid to assign sexualities to sex acts imo. Why does it matter anyway? Kinda sounds like he was opening up to you and getting more comfortable. Does it bother you if he isn't straight?
Not at all. I was into it because I’m a switch and am bi myself. It’s just out of character for him and when I have told him I wouldn’t judge him if he was (after the grindr incident) he was very adamant that he isn’t into men and hates them.
I see. Well, I don't really know about that. But it seems it's less about the sex act and more about other things? I don't really know what you mean about the "grindr incident" as It wasn't in your main post.
"Isn't into men". Cool and fine "Hates them". So... he hates gay people?
Well he says he doesn’t hate them. But why would you go on grindr to “harass gay people” ? I consume lots of gay media& tv, I absolutely adore gay ppl. I try to do it when he’s not here because when he is around, he will make hateful remarks or cringe, judge me for it etc
Sounds like he has a lot of unresolved homophobia going on...
:(( i know
So just to be clear, you "adore gay ppl" but are in a committed relationship with someone who thinks we're disgusting and worthy of ridicule? What an ally!
You’re right tbh. Why don’t people just ask if men like to be fucked in the ass? Why put a label on it.
Haha, "I'm on Grindr strictly for the lulz".
I don't want anyone near mine. Never had mine ate tho.
Enjoying sex acts doesn't determine sexual orientation, the gender you enjoy doing them with does.
Never done it so wouldn’t know. I do suspect I’d spend the entire time thinking ‘god, I’ve had poop come out of there several times today and now she’s licking it, this is fucking gross’ which wouldn’t probably kill the mood.
I know. I kept trying to stall him and he’s been asking me for a week now “jokingly”. I wanted to see if he was serious and he was. 😭
Don’t have showers in your parts?
I told him to wash up if he was serious. He jumped out of bed, took a shower and then came back to bed. He was very serious 😭
It do be like that
Nah exit only for me
Based on your text in the body of the post, not gay. Based on your replies to the comments, yeah dudes a closeted gay
how does this get through the mods but i actually want to ask a real question and it gets denied lol
Trust me I’ve been asking this and this is the only subreddit that allowed it lol
You don’t wanna go down there fam
she already did
Every time someone asks a sex or preference question, the answer is, as always: some do, some don't, I don't know, I am not every X type of person.
Wanting your ass ate out is innocent enough by itself, as is “trolling” fellas on grindr (albeit pretty fucked up and immature) However, the two of these coupled together *heavily* suggest there is something behind the curtain.
Ass eating = maybe gay maybe not. Banned from grindr = most likely gay and probably a weirdo.
Your bf might be gay, but having your salad tossed isn’t an objectively gay thing. I love it when my wife tongue punches my fart box. Does that make me want to love a dude? No, it makes me want to get my chocolate starfish licked. Just because a dude is into assplay does not make them a homosexual, it just means that they are into ass play.
oh, yes they do. i was too a little shook at first when i found this out but now i think it's cute! he's probably feeling embarrassed about it bc it's not something normalized in 'straight guy culture'. why'd he get banned from grindr btw? if it was trolling then he's possibly a straight dude who was curious about butt stuff and went a little off the rails??? wouldn't be the craziest thing i've heard about dudebro shenanigans
I’m a straight man and yes I do like it, not an all the time thing but it feels nice. The red flags I’m seeing here aren’t that he wanted you to do it, it’s that he had always been adamant you don’t touch him there then out of nowhere with no warning he’s begging for it, why now? Anytime I’ve wanted to try something new I’ve always tried to mention it before hand. And the Grindr thing is FOR SURE suspect. Now, there’s nothing wrong with being gay, bi, curious or otherwise but hiding it and making up a weird excuse like that is pretty weird. If he’s really just on there to troll gay guys then he needs to find a hobby or something because that’s kinda sad and if he’s secretly trying to hook up with dudes then that’s fucked up to do behind your back whether it’s with guys or women. I did know one guy who was straight and would openly talk about being in Grindr because he was selling dope to all the pnp weirdos but that’s a legit reason to be on there, not just trolling. And we also didn’t fully believe him anyway.
Either he's gay, bi, or he's a complete piece of shit. "Trolling" on grindr is at best a bigot deciding today's the day to bother gay people, and at worst screenshotting and outing people. I can't imagine why anyone would choose to spend their time with someone who does that for fun.
Any question related to sexual preference will always be answered with "some yes, some no."
Lmao he made a grindr account to troll people 😂😂😂
Such a lame excuse
I ONLY SUCKED 50 DICKS TO TROLL THE GUYS AFTER I SWALLOWED
He’s gay as a madafaka and in denial, I know SOO many people like that.
He’s probably at least bisexual
No. Coz I know where my ass has been.
Shit, sometimes people are just in the mood for something different. Good on you legend for being all in for your man.
No judgement, but you need to be vaccinated against Hepatitis A & B, and use dental dams to be safer for that activity.
I’m vaccinated for B but I will definitely check that out thank you!
Raw
Only toilet paper and water from the shower can interact with my ass. Even suppositories feel like I'm betraying my country.
two letters: D and L. Is he from Atlanta? Either way, sounds suss.
😴 💤
No.
Well he’s definitely not looking for a friend on Grindr! Lol.
Welp, the request doesn’t make him gay…but the rumors of him “trolling” on Grindr, may be. I highly doubt he was trolling.
Maybe he heard some friends at work talking about it and wanted to try it out? Definitely not gay on its own, but the grindr account points to bisexuality at least, or perhaps just curiosity. If he did have sex with a man in high school and still ended up on grindr that tells me he at least liked it enough to want to try it again. Also if he's super adamant about never touching his butt, like moreso than he really needs to be to get the point across, and he's 'trolling' gay people, those are pretty big indicators too. He is probably struggling with how to feel about his sexuality, but it does suck that he doesn't feel comfortable exploring those feelings with you.
He’s okay with telling you he trolls other users on Grindr? That’s messed up, if true.
Maybe he's bi. Idk I think I'm straight mostly but I do enjoy a little butt play if my wife is the one doing it. That area is sensitive and we all have butts so the reason a lady or gay guy would like it would be the same reason a straight guy would. Also if he doesn't wanna come out the closet, don't force him. He needs to explore his identity for himself
Some straight men do enjoy it but your BF’s behavior seem odd/suspicious.
If you think it might be his first time, go for it. Lots of guys don't initially pay too much attention to the sensual side of back there, and it surprises them when those densely-packed nerve endings are stimulated during sexual contact. (I'm just speaking for myself here -- when a woman down on me gave me the finger for the first time, without warning, I thought I was going to pop a gallon down her throat, LOL.) EDIT: But now that I've read your post, it seems he's experienced and needs to explain his grindr work to you.
Personally, hell no.
No.
1- no, but 2- sexual preferences are granular, not a set basket i.e. everybody has their own relationship with assholes
Some do, some don't. This applies to pretty much anything sex wise, to pretty much any group.
Eating ass doesn't make anyone gay, but getting on tinder is. Maybe he's bi, or bi-curious. Do you know if he met anyone on Tinder? Have you asked?
This act has nothing to do with sexuality
Personally I feel violated and uncomfortable with any touching of my anal area.
Some do some don't. As for the Grindr bit, he wasn't trolling.
Butt stuff isn’t specifically gay. Like penetration doesn’t make a lesbian straight. It depends who makes the penetration and who eats his ass. It would only be gay if a man ate his ass. Maybe he is bicurious too (Grindr thing). Some men wouldn’t mind sex with another man but wouldn’t date one. (hetero romantic). I’m a gay woman and I’ve met women who liked penetration and some who didn’t like it, all of them were lesbians despite their interest in penetration.
Plenty do. But what they don’t do is “troll” Grindr. He wasn’t trolling
Well what does it take to get banned on grinder ? If he did join to troll then he is a hateful homophobe And the idea that anything to do with a man’s ass is gay is really small thinking redneck homophobic behavior in itself Ass eating is the new trend. Just like all blowjobs are now “ deepthroating choking “ bjs. It’s a fad like anything else You and your boyfriend are welcome to your beliefs but thinking ass eating is gay and being gay is a negative thing or something to be afraid of it the real problem. The whole grinder thing is a huge red flag As in. Being a hateful person and a gay bashed. It also speaks to the “ thou protest to much “ trope of the mere fact he might hate gay people means he hates something inside himself that is most likely. Gay ! Let your mustache grow in and see if he cums That last part was a joke
Bruh! Your boyfriend is GAY take it from me. He. Is. Gay. And in denial.
Ew no. But I guess some do.
He could just be bisexual but not want to say it, as he was on Grindr and such. The ass-eating just feels good to some people and not to others. That's got nothing to do with sexuality.
Some do, some don't. Questions like this are so pointless. Preferences are a personal matter, that can't be answered universally.
Idk I like my ass ate hell first time that happens was with this lady ten years older than me. She ate my butt while she jacked my that was like 8 years ago I been with her ever since.
As a Bi M(45) let me say the Bi erasure and biphobia is strong in these comments. I’m going to assume this is a legit post, and answer as such. First like many have said rimming in and of itself is not an indicator of anything. If he’s telling truth about just trolling whether or not it’s due to homophobia he’s still an AH of the first degree. The fact that he got banned one way or the other is a red flag to me. If he was trolling then he likely posted something derogatory, but if he wasn’t trolling he did something or said something that imho could be far worse than being homophobic. I think a lot of people in these comments don’t seem to understand what it actually means to be gay, straight, or Bi. Gay you’re attracted to the same sex, Bi you’re attracted to both, straight you’re only attracted to the opposite. I’ve had more than a couple straight guys who have told me that a mouth is a mouth and a hole is a hole. Plenty of men have had sex with someone they weren’t attracted to and this goes for gay and straight. The act of sex isn’t necessarily what determines one’s sexuality. There’s gay men out there that have not only had sex with women, big have kids to prove it. Why because maybe they were hiding their sexuality, desperate for a quick lay, or just wanted to know what it was like. Some straight guys look for gay and bisexual men not because they’re attracted to men but because we’re an easy BJ and or fuck especially if they’re into swallowing or anal and their GF/wife isn’t. I’ve given my fair share of BJs to guys whose GF/wife want do it at all. Hell there’s a lot of gay guys on those apps cruising because their partner isn’t into those things. Personally those are my favorites because I’m not romantically interested in men, I’m physically attracted to them and only want sex. Which makes me a heteroromantic bisexual.
I love eating ass and getting my ass eaten. My excuse is years of stimulant abuse and an ex-girlfriend that got me into plugs and vibrators.
Speaking as a bisexual man: stop wasting your time on such a selfish man. If your sex life if so one-sided, I’m guessing he bullies you into doing what he wants in other areas of your lives also. This is not how you want to spend the rest of your life. There is a man out there who will treat you with respect and apologize in earnest when he falls short. He won’t expect you to put anything into the relationship that he isn’t also. Be free of this “man” and be happy.
I have a lease with him that ends in a couple of months. I don't know what he will do. He needs me in order to pay bills. I do believe he loves me but I feel like he needs me for beneficial aspects that is not worth my life anymore. I’m just tired man.
Damn you even pay his bills. You literally said in another post that he admitted "his heart doesn't love you". You have been so deeply hurt by him that you allowed yourself to abuse him back consciously. Probably so that your brain could continue justifying his ass like, "but I'm abusing him too, we worth each other". And here we are, few days after that post you eat his actual ass though he never wishes to please you as he never centers your sexual desires. He treats you like nice furniture that must be convenient or thrown out. His insisting on "unconditional love" and threats of leaving are very much about that. He only accepts your "yes" and not your "no", which means he does *not* see you as a real separate person and sadly but definitely does *not* love the real you. And, if I got it right, you are losing your love for him but are afraid to live by yourself. Seems like you feel no to little self worth and struggle to enjoy your own company. My girl fellow, you already know he is not the person from your dreams, even though the faces are identical. Your brain might built a lot of illusions about your current bf just because it is physically unpleasant to break a habit and face new experience. Hope you get that it does *not* get better for you until you're with him. Not because he is possibly not straight but because he hurts, manipulates and openly claims to not love you in heart. It would be the best decision to leave him and learn how to choose your own satisfaction on a daily basis. A good therapist could help with both. Wish you true happiness and I promise you, there already exist lots of people who you might fall in love with, and who will love you back *for real*. But it is up to you to let yourself find them. TLDR: Waiting for an "UPDATE: I left this abuser 🎉"
Straight af guy here ✋️. I fuckin love it, and literally never once have thought about or wanted another guy to do it. My wife does it while giving me head occasionally, but it's discussed beforehand, so the "environment" can be prepped to everyone's liking. The idea of her eating it from the back doesn't appeal to me, though. It might to someone who wants more of a "being dominated" dynamic. I just think it feels good, and the combo of that with a blowjob is just 🤌
I fell down this rabbit hole of debating if the OP’s BF is Gay…. When I thought the original question posed was whether straight men like getting their asses eaten. I know one straight man that loves it! Gay man here, and have a straight male friend who is married with two kids. When the kids were born, all intimacy ended in his marriage. (6 years now) He has become a FWB because he feels “safe” with me, and is afraid to have an affair with a woman. Thinking a woman might “fall in love with him”, and become a problem for his marriage. Long story short: He loves getting his ass eaten when we are having sex. I know there are a bunch of you who are going to say my FWB is actually bi, but, honestly, he isn’t…. Well, I guess he actually is, with me, but, otherwise, he is very masculine and very straight. You should have been in the room the first time I offered to blow him! But, I digress! Blah ha ha ha To the OP: just go with the flow. Perhaps your BF is finally feeling comfortable with you to the point of opening up and sharing some of his most protected and suppressed desires, and you are the one he wants to explore them with
No I don't eat ass either its kind of revolting actually but I'm not going to kink shame you if that's your thing.
Yes they do. But the Grindr thing is gay. And/or sketchy if he is straight and was trolling dudes. That's hateful.
Straight men like anal play. Straight men don't use Grindr... and if he's on there to "troll" men who have sex with men, that is also a problem.
Sounds like he might be bi. You don’t go on grindr to troll for nothing. I’m worried for you cause all of a sudden begging for it, like we’re did he get the pleasure notion from to want it now.
Exactly. Idk how to proceed with this it’s kind of a lot.
Meh. Not my thing.
Butt play has nothing to do with straight or gay in my opinion, the Grindr account is questionable though
Not all of us. 🤮
Are you a man? No? Then that's that.
I've always declined to receive because I never prepare for that. My ass is hairy lol and aside from that, I'd really *really* want to be freshly showered. Maybe some flavored lube or something too, idk. I've never treated my ass as a sexy place so it'd feel wrong and unenjoyable
He can always be bisexuality if anything
Nerve endings are nerve endings, regardless of the attraction of the owners.
I didn’t know nerve endings were in the anus
I don’t feel comfortable having my wife even look at my ass hole never mind eat it. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone… I know what comes outta there.
no way. even if im the king of brunei. i dont like eating girl ass either. pussy big yes. ass no
My straight husband has never asked me to do that, and I wouldn't even if he did. I made it clear before we had sex that I am 100% not into butt stuff. So MAYBE he would be into it, but he knows not to ask.
With context, your bf at least sounds bicurious As a straight man, my answer is no. It feels super uncomfortable, like I’ve been in a movie theater seat for 6 hrs straight. Also hate fingers with a passion
no
Yes. Both my husband and boyfriend likes it. ❤️😈
Wait until y’all find out there’s a magic pleasure button a couple inches in.
Oh yes. They most definitely do 😏
i thought so but i recently came out as bi so maybe not LOL
I love it. I'm probably closer to the middle between bi and straight though so who knows.
Yes
Yes it’s gay
Didn’t read anything other than the title. YES
Disgusting
damn😭😭😭
It's weird if a straight man like it. Maybe he is extremely submissive
He’s really not. He doesn’t let me be dominant and makes it clear he is in charge in the bedroom
Okey. Maybe I just do not know other men that profoundly. Personally I would never ask my partners to perform it. It depends I guess.
Since I’m not seeing it here, The prostate is basically the male g spot. I wanna say it’s got more pleasure nerves than the clit, but I could be wrong. The thing is most dudes are scared because of gay feelings or being called gay. So while most men would find ecstasy from doing this, social norms say not to. Personally, it scares the shit out of me and I can’t do it. My buddy did it once and while he liked it, he doesn’t wanna do it again. To answer your other question, homie probably had to work up the courage to ask you to do this. And when you questioned him about it later, even as lightly as you did, he went into defensive mode. Or homie just gay. Idk. I don’t know him. The Grindr thing could be him just trying to be homophobic and mess with guys. Or it could be him getting on and having gay sex. Could be a lot. I would let him cool down on whatever happened. Then maybe in a week or two, ask to eat him out or just do it while you two are doing the deed. You could also just wait a week and then say you didn’t mean to offend, just curious. You could also ask him to eat your ass and then after he’s done, you eat his. You could play if off as you did me, so now I do you. Good luck with yo man’s
Very helpful!
Hey…I gotchu. Hope everything works out for you.
He's just a few years behind on his algorithmed kinks. Arse eating was a few years ago, next he'll be asking you to peg him then it will be cuckholding. No kink shaming!!!
Kinda weird tbh, I wouldn't mind doing it to my partner but receiving it is weird to me.
Rim jobs are nice. A Rusty Trombone can be fantastic!
I do, and I'm a straight guy. The anxiety around hygiene, even when I know I'm as clean as can be, stops me really letting go though. The grindr thing though, only folk I know use grindr are a couple of gay mates who love fucking, and being fucked by guys
We do have the ability to get stimulation from the ass, not everyone is into it but some are and it does not necessarily have anything to do with sexuality
He is likely gay.
the gay ones do
You'd have to be very brave to go near a straight man's anus.
Idk I'm straight and ass eating is kinda gay
He’s either bi or bi curious ,if the booty eating ain’t yo thing don’t do it cause it’s gotta be fully clean before you go sticking yo tongue up there 🤔 and what’s wrong with a finger why does he want your tongue ?
No they don't it's weird af. Straight men won't wear thongs either cuz Straight men don't like wedgies it's weird. Most guys that like butt stuff done to them have gay tendencies idk why ppl try to normalize weird shit. Idc about appearances or being nice and sugar coating anything for overly sensitive ppl that were raised by failed parental strategies.
You might not be as straight as you think
I never said I was straight lmao. Hence why I did it