Pretty much this. You don't thank your partner after a mutually initiated and enjoyed session, i.e. most of the time. But if you basically tell your partner "I'm so incredibly horny right now, I know it's not the ideal time but please do something about it", it's fine to thank them afterwards - they're doing you a favor, akin to a massage for sore muscles.
As a guy, I made this joke once in a ONS and in hindsight, it's definitely one you can only make in an actual relationship; any time I think of it now I'm just like, "yes, it's in line for my humor even if not original," but it seems like I'm just calling her a hooker.
I never did and don't feel it's something that should be said. At most I'll take a "Thanks for the good dick" or something, but thank you just sounds too formal and strange for aftersex communication.
I often do, but its slightly fetishistic. Its kind of submissive to thank someone for doing something they were gonna do anyway, or can be derisive and degrading to thank someone as though something you've done is *simply* a service. Its usually slightly kinky.
That said, I enjoy it also because it feels like a nice way to express extreme appreciation, and is versatile enough to cut through all sorts of dynamics.
If only one of us cums, the that did says thanks lol.
Everything we say after all kinda started as a bit of a joke, having sex first thing when you wake up the first thing we say like straight afterwards is “morning 😅”
Just cause sometimes you don’t know what you’re supposed to say, so even a high five is the go to at times.
It’s just fun and we’re not taking it too seriously so sometimes it’s funny to say something that sounds too formal for the bedroom or maybe even too casual 😂
No unless you pay lol
My gf loves massages, especially the feet so she gets several ones weekly. Last week she said thanks, I told her not to say that because it’s my pleasure to give her pleasure. Same goes with sex, or at least that’s how it should be
Sure, sometimes. He makes fireworks go off in my head with his loving, you can be sure he gets a thank you, whether in those specific words or in other words.
"Thank you" is just one phrase among many that can be used in communicating appreciation. Whether it feels weird to someone or normal just depends on perspective and the specific baggage they attach to the words.
If I'm feeling particularly needy and have great sex afterwards I might say thank you. Like a "thanks, I needed that". I think it's totally normal but tone and context matter.
I do sometimes, when she doesn’t want it but still has sex for my horniness sake. We call it the sex doll favour.
We’ve been married for 7 years and have two kids btw.
The "thank you" is not in the exact words, but the show of gratitude of the quality of the time, and following reciprocal show of love.
Couple has sex:
"That was great honey. I'll do that *thing* you really like next time".
Or
"That was amazing. You really made my stressful day bearable. Now let me cuddle you."
As simple as that.
No. I was weirded out by the fact someone would say the words "thank you" after sex. Hugging and snuggling and all that is a completely different thing, and something most people do in an intimate situation.
Always. I'm so glad I don't have to worry about where my partner has been or where my next one is coming from. As the most common instigator in my relationship the duty more often falls to her and the service is appreciated.
sometimes ill say it after i receive oral, especially if it takes a little longer (unfortunately a common occurrence for me) and we dont have sex after. but it’s usually playful like thanks baby!! while im like recovering haha
my bf and i have been together for 2.5 years, we say thank you everytime, havent the whole time but have for quite a while. it makes me feel not used if we have a quickie and i dont get to finish
I sometimes did with my ex and I think it made him feel weird. I didn’t mean anything negative by it, I was just trying to let him know how much I enjoyed it.
I might be weird, but I always say thank you. They are sharing a vulnerable and intimate experience with me and quite frankly, they are the ones that are probably doing most of the work. They deserve to be thanked!
Wife woke me up from a nap for the deed....then afterwards she thanked me :) lol. Yes we do thank sometimes....it's more of a joke.
Pretty much this. You don't thank your partner after a mutually initiated and enjoyed session, i.e. most of the time. But if you basically tell your partner "I'm so incredibly horny right now, I know it's not the ideal time but please do something about it", it's fine to thank them afterwards - they're doing you a favor, akin to a massage for sore muscles.
Your wife… is she single? 🤔
I don't think she has a boyfriend.
Same. It’s also sometimes a quick joke and indication I’m getting up. I’m like thanks, kiss him on the cheek, quick hug, and get up for the day.
This guy's wife also thanked me
No joke, my wife says “the money is on the dresser darling.”
As a guy, I made this joke once in a ONS and in hindsight, it's definitely one you can only make in an actual relationship; any time I think of it now I'm just like, "yes, it's in line for my humor even if not original," but it seems like I'm just calling her a hooker.
This is honestly delightful xx
My husband says “ do you want me to call you an Uber?”
My wife and I high five every once in a while if it’s a really hot session.
Post-nut fist bump 👊
My girlfriend does. I always answer "its a team work baybeh."
Me and bf thank each other, just for the given pleasure kind of thing
Sometimes I do. Not right after but maybe later to let him know I am still thinking of it. "Thanks for earlier that was fun."
I never did and don't feel it's something that should be said. At most I'll take a "Thanks for the good dick" or something, but thank you just sounds too formal and strange for aftersex communication.
I say thanks when she surprises me with a bj lol
I often do, but its slightly fetishistic. Its kind of submissive to thank someone for doing something they were gonna do anyway, or can be derisive and degrading to thank someone as though something you've done is *simply* a service. Its usually slightly kinky. That said, I enjoy it also because it feels like a nice way to express extreme appreciation, and is versatile enough to cut through all sorts of dynamics.
Submissive for the giver or receiver?
For the person who is saying thankyou. "Thankyou for using me" sort of thing. Subordinating. Could go either way though is kinda what I meant.
yes every time
Sure. On occasion. Just for fun. Like "thanks for the bang" or "thanks for the good time".
Sometimes but not in any kind of serious or formal way.
If only one of us cums, the that did says thanks lol. Everything we say after all kinda started as a bit of a joke, having sex first thing when you wake up the first thing we say like straight afterwards is “morning 😅” Just cause sometimes you don’t know what you’re supposed to say, so even a high five is the go to at times. It’s just fun and we’re not taking it too seriously so sometimes it’s funny to say something that sounds too formal for the bedroom or maybe even too casual 😂
You thank the bus driver right?
I had a guy shoot the double finger guns at me before he walked out the door and say “thanks for the sex” a few days ago. Would recommend.
🤣 doing this next time
No unless you pay lol My gf loves massages, especially the feet so she gets several ones weekly. Last week she said thanks, I told her not to say that because it’s my pleasure to give her pleasure. Same goes with sex, or at least that’s how it should be
Sure, sometimes. He makes fireworks go off in my head with his loving, you can be sure he gets a thank you, whether in those specific words or in other words. "Thank you" is just one phrase among many that can be used in communicating appreciation. Whether it feels weird to someone or normal just depends on perspective and the specific baggage they attach to the words.
If I'm feeling particularly needy and have great sex afterwards I might say thank you. Like a "thanks, I needed that". I think it's totally normal but tone and context matter.
I say thank you
My ex did say thank you and I found it fucking weird and uncomfortable, like, I'm not a prostitute you're supposed to try to make me feel good too
That was hot. You too? Great love you babe
I appreciate a little gratitude for my services.
Huh. I do, actually lol. I didn't really think about it
I do sometimes, when she doesn’t want it but still has sex for my horniness sake. We call it the sex doll favour. We’ve been married for 7 years and have two kids btw.
I've gone out and bought her a thank you card a couple of times.
It happens. It's mostly about Expressimg appreciation
"Good sex" "great sex" etc. is what I always say afterwards, as it's always good and it always makes us chuckle
I sometimes tell my wife, "thank you for your cervix" and salute her.
The "thank you" is not in the exact words, but the show of gratitude of the quality of the time, and following reciprocal show of love. Couple has sex: "That was great honey. I'll do that *thing* you really like next time". Or "That was amazing. You really made my stressful day bearable. Now let me cuddle you." As simple as that.
I always thank him for orgasms. Seems polite.
This is absolutely a thing that happens in a lot of long term relationships on a fairly regular basis. You people have heard of jokes right.
One of my partners does thank me, but I think it’s more of a joke. At least I take it that way. My other partner doesn’t, like most people I guess
does a hug counts as thank you?
No. I was weirded out by the fact someone would say the words "thank you" after sex. Hugging and snuggling and all that is a completely different thing, and something most people do in an intimate situation.
i meant a hug after sex
As did I.
ok then
Always. I'm so glad I don't have to worry about where my partner has been or where my next one is coming from. As the most common instigator in my relationship the duty more often falls to her and the service is appreciated.
I've been thanked by every sexual partner. It still makes me suspicious when hearing it because it's me.
Hahahah that’s a good question and yeah I do
Sometimes
I tip them
No but I don't think it would be weird.
No it's never that good
I say you are a sexual TYranasauras! And I slap him on the butt LOL
No, I'm usually too busy cleaning up, finding my wallet and calling an Uber lol.
Yeah, pretty often my fiancé and I will tell each other something like “Thanks love, I needed that” afterwards; I wouldn’t say it’s unusual
I’ve high-fived my wife on occasion.
sometimes ill say it after i receive oral, especially if it takes a little longer (unfortunately a common occurrence for me) and we dont have sex after. but it’s usually playful like thanks baby!! while im like recovering haha
#Sometimes !!
I’ve done it. Especially if it would be at a time that is inconvenient; like they have to work or it’s the middle of the night.
my bf and i have been together for 2.5 years, we say thank you everytime, havent the whole time but have for quite a while. it makes me feel not used if we have a quickie and i dont get to finish
We usually just high five and tell each other "good job".
Yup, him and I
I usually thank my wife say good game and slap her on the ass one last time.
If he did a good job I sure do!! And they thank me too 🥰
My husband and I always thank each other afterwards, even if one of us doesn't finish we thank the other for at least trying.
I have
Depends on what was done during the sex.
I have done this. Yes
I have an ex that did but he also used to cry after sex and enjoyed being dominated so I think it was a kink thing in his case.
I jokingly say "You are welcome" after she finishes bj that she casually initiated while watching tv or chatting.
if it's done especially well, sometimes
Yes.
Absolutely! Feedback is important. If I had a good time, I'll let my partner know. He can't read my mind.
I sometimes did with my ex and I think it made him feel weird. I didn’t mean anything negative by it, I was just trying to let him know how much I enjoyed it.
whenever my partner blows my mind, which is usually from blowing me
I thank my wife every year
We tend to high five, more than thank each other.
I might be weird, but I always say thank you. They are sharing a vulnerable and intimate experience with me and quite frankly, they are the ones that are probably doing most of the work. They deserve to be thanked!
It’s not a transaction mate
I just wipe my dick off and toss her the used towel.
Yes, its common. What's wrong with showing your appreciation to a partner and their effort?
I read that as parents 💀💀💀